Take Control of Your Happiness Today

By Claude Fontaine

Go Ahead Make Your Day
By Claude Fontaine

First Published by Jump Start International 1995 Re-Published by WEBaddicts 2001

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Contents
INTRODUCTION GO AHEAD MAKE YOUR DAY
Not a How-To Book Go Ahead Make Your Day!

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CHAPTER ONE BECOMING YOUR BEST FRIEND
CHALLENGES SELF SERVING ? EXERCISE IMPORTANT POINTS

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CHAPTER TWO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR REACTIONS
JACK AND JOHN ACTION AND REACTION VISUALIZATION YOUR HAPPINESS IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY Important Points

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CHAPTER THREE COMPETING ONLY WITH YOURSELF
COMPETING AGAINST OTHERS WHAT'S WRONG WITH BEING COMPETITIVE? BEING TOO COMPETITIVE THE STRUCTURE OF COMPETITION IMPORTANT POINT

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CHAPTER FOUR DON'T TAKE YOURSELF TOO SERIOUSLY.
PRIDE vs. LAUGHING AT YOURSELF SHARE YOUR STUPIDITY DISARM JOKES ABOUT YOU IMPORTANT POINTS

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CHAPTER FIVE WELCOME CRITICISM
TRY TO BENEFIT FROM CRITICISM

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Contents ONLY A MOTHER WILL SAY "GO WASH YOUR FACE" Points to Remember 18 18 CHAPTER SIX WRITE YOUR OWN EULOGY HOW WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE REMEMBERED? LIVE TODAY THE WAY YOU WISH TO BE REMEMBERED TOMORROW FOLLOW YOUR MAP POINTS TO REMEMBER 19 19 19 22 22 22 CHAPTER SEVEN FOCUS ON NOW SOMEDAY FOCUS ON ONE THING AT A TIME EXERCISE POINTS TO REMEMBER 23 23 23 24 25 25 CHAPTER EIGHT AIM FOR BALANCE TO MUCH OF A GOOD THING WHERE IS YOUR TIME SPENT? HOW MUCH TIME ARE YOU SPENDING FOR: HOW MUCH TIME SHOULD YOU SPEND WITH: POINTS TO REMEMBER 26 26 26 27 27 28 28 CHAPTER NINE DON'T EXPECT TOO MUCH FROM OTHERS NOTHING NEW DON'T LET INGRATITUDE RUIN YOUR HAPPINESS. GIVE WITHOUT NEEDING TO BE GIVEN TO POINTS TO REMEMBER 29 29 30 30 31 31 CHAPTER TEN COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS POINTS TO REMEMBER 32 32 32 CHAPTER ELEVEN STOP WORRYING WHY STOP WORRYING? I LEARNED AND SO CAN YOU! 33 33 33 34 .

POINTS TO REMEMBER. 34 35 35 35 35 36 CHAPTER TWELVE TAKE TIME TO REFLECT KEEP WORKING MY MEDITATION POINTS TO REMEMBER 37 37 37 38 39 GO AHEAD NOW What are Habits? Want to The How To Do It 40 40 40 41 41 APPENDIX A IMPORTANT POINTS 1 2 CHAPTER TWO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR REACTIONS Important Points 3 3 CHAPTER THREE COMPETING ONLY WITH YOURSELF IMPORTANT POINT 4 4 4 CHAPTER FOUR IMPORTANT POINTS 5 5 CHAPTER FIVE WELCOME CRITICISM Points to Remember 6 6 6 CHAPTER SIX WRITE YOUR OWN EULOGY POINTS TO REMEMBER 7 7 9 CHAPTER SEVEN FOCUS ON NOW 10 . METHOD # 4: HONESTY IS STILL THE BEST POLICY.Contents METHOD #1: FOCUS ON PREVENTION. METHOD # 5: PLAY THE ODDS. METHOD #2: ACCEPT THE WORST. METHOD # 3: KEEP BUSY.

15 15 15 CHAPTER TWELVE TAKE TIME TO REFLECT POINTS TO REMEMBER 16 16 16 .Contents EXERCISE Write your focus goals: POINTS TO REMEMBER 10 10 10 CHAPTER EIGHT AIM FOR BALANCE HOW MUCH TIME ARE YOU SPENDING FOR: HOW MUCH TIME SHOULD POINTS TO REMEMBER 11 11 11 12 12 CHAPTER NINE DON'T EXPECT TOO MUCH FROM OTHERS POINTS TO REMEMBER 13 13 13 CHAPTER TEN COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS POINTS TO REMEMBER 14 14 14 CHAPTER ELEVEN STOP WORRYING POINTS TO REMEMBER.

You can be happy right now! Happiness is not some mysterious thing for which we need to search.Go Ahead Make Your Day INTRODUCTION GO AHEAD MAKE YOUR DAY Start With Happiness. an inside job. "I am convinced that happiness is within the reach of everyone. Happiness is a result of buying a car or becoming financially successful. and has always been. I have read books by Dale Carnegie. Barry Kaufman. Happiness is. In his book. we are going in the wrong direction. The problem is that if we reach out. It is more a book of reflections that is intended to assist you in forming the happiness habit. you probably view happiness as an end result." Not a How-To Book What you have in front of you is by no means an attempt to tell you how to be happy. You need not wait to be happy. Happiness is a result of moving away from home. and Jose Silva. "Happiness is an Inside Job". Dennis Waitley. to name only a few. John Powell writes. If you are like most people. Napoleon Hill. or getting a job. These reflections have come from years of reading books and listening to cassettes. My collection of self-help books and biographies extends 1 . If this is the view of happiness that you share I have great news for you. Since the age of sixteen I have made it a hobby to read self-help books. Anthony Robbins.

Go Ahead Make Your Day into the hundreds. Go Ahead Make Your Day! Abraham Lincoln once said. Being happy is far too important to leave it up to someone or something else. the following pages are my notes. your book on being happy. You must take the responsibility of going ahead and making it your day. In effect. You must free yourself from being a victim of the way your boss treats you. At the end of several chapters I have included some exercises. My challenge to you is. my guide. the way your parents treat you. Appendix A is a section to which you may transpose the exercises from the individual chapters along with any additional key points you may wish to remember. or the way others treat you. I would highlight the important thoughts that I wanted to retain. At first. Happiness is truly as simple as making up your mind to be happy. "Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be". This is why you must constantly remind yourself to be happy. when reading these books. As my collection grew I decided that it would be easier to write down key thoughts in a separate book for quick reference. GO AHEAD AND MAKE YOUR DAY! 2 . Stop giving the responsibility for your happiness to everyone around you. The end result is a few pages that you can pull out which will become your notes. You must make happiness a habit. The following pages are an attempt to organize all of the thoughts that help me be happy. your guide. These exercises are designed to help you reflect on the contents of the chapter. my book on being happy.

drugs. ugly. We tell ourselves that we are stupid. CHALLENGES Life presents us daily many challenges and obstacles to overcome. The sad part is that many of us don't realize just how bad a friend we are to ourselves. body and spirit. What is even sadder is that most of us are our own worst enemy as well. this responsibility is much too important to leave to others. We abuse our minds with negative personal perceptions. This inner peace allows us to become loving and happy towards ourselves. etc. The last thing we need to do is to fight ourselves along the way. 3 . We must make peace with ourselves and nurture our mind.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER ONE BECOMING YOUR BEST FRIEND By now we all have heard that we are our own worst critic. After all. fat. It is no wonder we battle with the idea of becoming our own best friend. Being our own worst enemy is the most likely factor in preventing many of us from being happy. Daily we abuse our bodies with alcohol. etc. In these increasingly complicated and difficult times we truly need to become the best friend we can to ourselves. Once we become our own best friend we develop an inner peace. junk food. We must take the responsibility of looking after ourselves.

touches another with a more loving and peaceful hand. our evolution will cause countless ripples". have spent most of our lives doing the opposite such a habit. become a more peaceful place. Being your best friend must become a habit to you. and I included. The second part of developing this habit is to have a very clear image of what you personally need in a best friend. then. If each of us acknowledges him or herself as one entity in an interlocking network of interactions. Later when it is developed a couple times a month will suffice. Someone that will make sure you lose weight properly with exercise and diet and not crazy fad diets. you are overweight the characteristics you will be looking for in a best friend might be: Someone who will love you for who you are. Someone that will be there to encourage you to lose weight because of concern for your health. 4 . like the stone dropped in a pond. "If just one person changes.Go Ahead Make Your Day SELF SERVING ? If you think the idea of becoming our own best friend. Becoming Your Best Friend. Once we develop this level of self content we automatically radiate love. Someone that will always be there to remind you of your goals. indeed. Since most of us. kindness and happiness to everyone we come in contact with. At first you may even need to remind yourself several times a day. like most good habits. To form such a habit we must be constantly reminding ourselves of what we need in a best friend. the world has. If. becomes happier. for example. Someone who will not try to deny the fact that you may be overweight. loving ourselves more and becoming happy is selfish and self serving think again. can be difficult to form. Barry Kaufman the author of "Happiness is a Choice" sums it up best when he writes.

Go Ahead Make Your Day Someone that won't give up on you when your progress is not quite what they expected or when you cheat a bit. If your needs change in the following months then write these needs down and repeat the process. Review it every day for the first few weeks until being the friend you need becomes a habit. 5 . After being your own best friend is a habit then review it at least once a month. Someone that will put you back on track if they see you slipping and encourage you to do better next time. loving and content with yourself and you will automatically radiate love and happiness. EXERCISE Take the time now to write down what you need in a friend. WHAT I NEED IN A BEST FRIEND IS: IMPORTANT POINTS Be happy.

Jack's parent were not very understanding. kind and always ready to help. His father had a very strong character and his mother had a heart of gold. John's parents were the best. John went to a school where the teachers were good. 6 .Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER TWO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR REACTIONS JACK AND JOHN Jack and John grew up in two very different environments: Jack went to a school where all the teachers were idiots. His father was pig headed and his mother was weak.

you run. You may try to blame your reactions on alcohol. on the other hand. Life gave these brothers many similar opportunities. it is time that you take full responsibility for your reactions. 7 . The funny part is that Jack and John were brothers. To control your reactions you must. The important point is that you. These people take responsibility for their reactions and act in a positive way. You must take responsibility for your mind. John had a part time job at the age of 16 that was great. For every action there are several different reactions possible. You may honk the horn and your blood pressure may rise. If you turn the other cheek it is a reaction. the way other people treated you or a combination of the above. You may be thinking that reactions are controlled by your nervous system and are totally uncontrollable. If John and Jack both won a million dollars John would probably be happy and grateful. Your job now is to convince your mind that this is not the way that you react. you jump. If someone says boo. If you happen to be in a traffic jam you may normally act in a negative way. probably would be upset that the government would be taking a third of the money in taxes. Jack. She gave him more and more responsibility along with more privileges. can be held responsible for your reactions. When looking back on the situation you may realize that your reaction was very negative. The difference was how John and Jack reacted to everything. ACTION AND REACTION Life is a series of reactions to the circumstances which we encounter. If someone walks up to you tomorrow and slaps your face it is an action. His boss always praised his work. She even ended up firing him. and even had the same part time job working for the same person. For every excuse you can come up with I'm sure we could easily find hundreds of people that could have used the same excuse but did not. take control of your mind. You may curse and get yourself all worked up. drugs. and only you. If someone says fire. They had the same parents. If you want to react in a positive way to an action you must first tell your mind to react positive in this situation. the pressure at work. the way you were raised. She showed no respect for him and never praised any of his work. went to the same school. therefore. The truth is your mind controls all your reactions.Go Ahead Make Your Day Jack had a part time job at the age of 16 working for a boss who was a real pain. If you get angry and resort to violence it is also a reaction. The truth is.

You can train your mind by repeated visualizations of any situation. You would be much better off if you had the ability to stay calm. YOUR HAPPINESS IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY Once you have assumed responsibility for your reactions your happiness is no longer dependent on anyone or anything. You see it as a break in the action. co-worker or customer is screaming and criticizing your work. If you wish to act more positive in a traffic jam visualize yourself in a traffic jam. At first it may sound next to impossible to react this way to yelling and criticism. You then make the best of the situation. You visualize yourself turning on the radio to a relaxing station or you see yourself having the time to listen to your favorite cassette.Go Ahead Make Your Day VISUALIZATION Convincing your mind to react in a positive way is simply a matter of visualizing the way you wish to react in any given situation. coworker or customer is in a bad mood you decide how to react. moving and blocking until moving and blocking a punch becomes a reaction. If he or she has chosen to be miserable that is their problem and not yours. How good your day goes is no longer your boss's. You can let his or her mood drag you down or you can take control of your reaction. If your boss. At first it may be difficult but the more you practice the easier it will get. Then return to your work with that episode behind you and focusing on the task at hand. Try to learn something from what was said remembering that it was said by someone who was not in control. Much like the martial artist practices over and over. This will demonstrate a far better mental attitude. It is still possible to react in a positive way even when everyone else is not. I guarantee you that only a 8 . If your boss. You take a deep breath and realize that the situation is beyond your control but your reaction is totally in your control. If the traffic jam is longer then anticipated and you are most definitely going to be late you quickly realize that the situation is beyond your control. co-worker's or customer's responsibility. Take the time to reflect on what was said to you. it is far better if you can stay in control and stay positive. In fact. You visualize that you had anticipated such a delay so you left your home or office early. Take the time to gather your thoughts and come up with a good excuse for why you are late. it would be difficult to return to your work and to perform to your maximum. Don't give up. You visualize yourself actually getting calmer as the hectic highway pace gets slower. You realize that getting worked up about the situation can only make it worse.

Once you have selected the right positive reaction. In fact. Secondly. You can react in a positive way. If someone gets upset with you. Important Points Life is a series of actions acting on you. You then must visualize yourself in the situation and reacting the way you would like. you decide how you would like to react. You must first decide that this is the way you wish to react. you must remind yourself of all the disadvantages to reacting negatively and all the advantages to reacting positively. weeks or days on this earth being unhappy you must decide the time to be happy is now. and realize just how precious and short life really is. Also it can make you realize that you never know when your time will come. it then becomes possible. on the other hand. You can also decide not to feel sorry for yourself. visualize yourself reacting in that manner until it is an automatic reaction. You have the option to react in a positive or negative way. You can stop dwelling on the past and start focusing on your potential.Go Ahead Make Your Day short while after you have decided that you must take control of your reactions it will be possible. Once you decide that you would like to react in this way and you know you are responsible for your reactions. 9 . for being responsible for your reactions far out weigh the effort. You can go on a drinking binge feeling sorry for yourself and end up miserable. If a close friend dies you decide how you want to react. Take full responsibility for your reactions. You can get angry in return and engage in a battle that may even turn violent. keep your cool and stay in control enabling you to take control of the situation. it is easier to find someone or something else to blame for your faults. The advantages. Once you have decided to take responsibility for your reactions your happiness and success is no longer dependent on anything or anyone. Taking responsibility for your reactions is not always easy. To every action there are several positive reactions. You realize it doesn't matter what happened to mess up your day or to mess up your life. Since you don't want to spend your last years.

We strive to be "Employee of the Month". Nothing! My wife would tell you that the most competitive person she knows is Claude Fontaine. the most improved. This gave me a small advantage when it came to sports. I remember being devastated when I placed second in the annual track and field day. etc. It is no wonder so many of us are hung up on competing against others. The problem is not being competitive but against whom you are competing. In school I could never get the grades to place me at the top of my class. When we get out of school and into the work force it doesn't stop. the top scorer. Before going to high school I was considered big for my age. etc. I played every sport I could. From a very young age we are forced into competing against each other. the office's top producer or the top salesperson.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER THREE COMPETING ONLY WITH YOURSELF COMPETING AGAINST OTHERS When I was growing up and going through school the teacher would hand out awards to the students with the best grades in English. "What's wrong with being competitive?". It was easier to accept my standing due to the fact that I was not trying than to accept that some students were better than I was. WHAT'S WRONG WITH BEING COMPETITIVE? Some of you might be asking. History. I came to a point were I stopped trying. I remember one Saturday going to a hockey 10 . When playing hockey the coach gave an award to the best defensive player. In kindergarten. Math.

During this try-out I intercepted a pass going over my head and dove for a lay-up in front of the coach. they are always being disappointed. THE STRUCTURE OF COMPETITION Whenever there is competition between people the following things happen. that I didn't want to play if I couldn't be the best. During my high school years I attended only one sports team try-out. This group is driven by the hope that someday they will reach the top position.m. The fact was. Even those who are a close second are not safe from feeling unhappy.Go Ahead Make Your Day practice from 8:00 a. I found it easier to believe that I was not the best athlete because I didn't try. At the bottom of the triangle there is a group that just can't put it together. I was so competitive that when I got to high school and there were many students who were equal or greater in size. My friend was then added to the team in my place. strength and ability. then one day they just can't keep up with the younger athlete who is entering his prime.m. Years of being "the bridesmaid" can take its toll. BEING TOO COMPETITIVE It was not until recently that I realized the opposite was true. At 11:00 I had a basketball practice. or join a weaker group so they have an opportunity to be the best of that group. to 10:00 a. I said back then and truly believed that I was not playing any sports because I hated competing. When I got to high school I stopped playing all sports. My friend was cut in the third practice which I didn't attend. for years they compete at the highest level of their sport. Athletes often experience this. For the person on top it is a constant struggle to keep the top position for one day someone will come along and knock that person down from the pedestal. from which I left early so I could try-out for the school volleyball team between 12:00 and 2:00 p. I made the team. I loved playing and watching all sports. There is only room at top for one person. The following week I approached the coach and informed him that I didn't really have time to play. After being crushed over and over again they simply give up. I believed that I was just not a competitive person. This blow may be even harder to take than the disappointment of never being on top in the first place. It was a basketball try-out and a friend wanted to go but didn't want to go alone. Like my school work.m. 11 . Closely following the top position there is a small group of people.

In the presence of someone who is succeeding financially and has a bigger car. I try to never be down on myself because of my faults. at least. Enjoy every one of your successes no matter how small. Everyday I try to improve Claude Fontaine mentally. you may become envious. This is a sure way of missing out on a relationship that might have. I am willing to bet that you can find. IMPORTANT POINT Compete only with yourself. physically and spiritually.Go Ahead Make Your Day HOW CAN YOU BE COMPETITIVE AND HAPPY? I am still very competitive except now I am competing against myself and not against the world. You will no longer have to wait until you are named "Employee of the Month". jealous or even depressed because that person has more "toys" than you. enriched your life. Enjoy other people's successes no matter how small. This mind set is imperative for becoming truly happy. you may have a tendency to look down at them. "Top Producer" or "Most Valuable Player" to be happy. you will then be free to be sincerely happy for others who succeed. When you live your life in competition with others you can never be fully happy. On the days that you feel you have not improved at all. In the presence of someone who has less than you. Since your goal is to improve yourself you can be happy everyday with your successes no matter how small. one thing that you have learned or changed. otherwise. 12 . You can then also enjoy your own successes more. Once you learn to compete only with yourself. or bigger house. You can start being happy right now. Instead. I acknowledge them and strive to improve on those areas I feel are deficient. stop and think.

Looking back I realize that it was my way of feeling important. For some this part of the job was just to much to handle while I.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER FOUR DON'T TAKE YOURSELF TOO SERIOUSLY. whenever I looked at the squirrel I would be reminded not to take life so seriously. I enjoyed the fact that people thought I was doing a high pressure job. loved the action. especially when they would tell me that they didn't think they could handle such a high pressured job. While working for Bell Canada I was given the job of Tester. The telephone set I used had the capability to connect approximately twenty callers at one time. Shortly after making this realization I recovered a wooden carving of a squirrel that a colleague of mine had tossed in the garbage. I began taking the calls and my job lighter. my stress level was drastically reduced and my efficiency was proportionately increased. It was not uncommon to have eight calls on the go at once. I placed the squirrel beside my computer so that. As a tester one of my responsibilities was to take calls from Installation and Repair Technicians and I would assist the technicians in any way I could. on the other hand. I loved telling people about my job. I realized that I was taking myself and my job far too seriously. 13 . but I was manufacturing my own stress.

Go Ahead Make Your Day PRIDE vs. In fact. The worst that could happen is that people will realize you are human. 14 . or a joke that may offend someone. in order to be like him I chose to adopt his sense of pride. LAUGHING AT YOURSELF Not taking myself so seriously is one of the hardest things for me to do. It is not always easy for proud people to laugh at themselves. hurt or offended. don't stop there. As the old Chinese saying goes: "Blessed are they who can laugh at themselves. NOTE: Use some discretion when selecting who you tell what to. You also will notice that people who laugh the most are the ones who are able to relate to your circumstance because they see themselves as capable of doing the same thing or they already have done so. I greatly admire my father. Why not share your amusement with others. let alone laugh with others about ones own shortcomings." SHARE YOUR STUPIDITY Once you start taking yourself less seriously and learn to laugh. I get the biggest laugh when the person we are laughing at is me. or a racial joke. They shall never cease to be entertained. So. while writing this booklet I have come to realize that my mother and siblings are also very proud. Although this pride has served us well in many aspects of our lives it has also been burdensome in others. My father is a man with much pride. When the joke you are telling is about yourself people feel free to laugh knowing that no one is being scandalized. Some of the biggest laughs I have with my friends are not when I tell a dirty joke that may scandalize someone. I must constantly remind myself that doing stupid things is part of being human.

Take words said to you lightly and with humor. It is not the actual words that hurt your feelings or offend you. There is nothing that will disarm words faster then taking them lightly and trying to find the humor behind them.Go Ahead Make Your Day DISARM JOKES ABOUT YOU Along with being able to laugh at yourself you also must be able to take a joke. Don't take the words personally but try to find some humor in them even when you know they were deliberately said with the intent to tease or hurt you. No matter what the occasion. The ability to take a joke is not always easy for someone with a lot of pride. On some occasions you could interpret the words as someone trying to be funny. In some instances you could interpret the words as someone making a comment without stopping to think. Learn to laugh at your bloopers. Share your bloopers with others. 15 . but the way you interpret the words. it is important to take the words with a grain of salt. IMPORTANT POINTS Don't take yourself so seriously.

and Chapter Four. This is another reason why I am giving this topic its own chapter. In Chapter Four. It combines Chapter Two. it can be such a hard thing to handle that I thought it deserved its own specific chapter. 16 . you should take control of how you wish to react. You can react positively or negatively to any criticism. As stated in chapter two "Take Responsibility for your Reactions". "Don't Take Yourself so Seriously". you must sometimes take criticism lightly with a sense of humor. it is all up to you. my problem with having too much pride makes it hard for me to accept criticism at times. Although the other chapters cover the basic principles of handling criticism. As stated in the previous chapter.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER FIVE WELCOME CRITICISM This chapter is an carry-over of the two previous chapters.

cried himself to sleep. The lady turned around and shouted out to him. If you truly cannot find one valid point in the criticism you must then look at the source or motive of the criticism. you may just find something that will enrich your life. The store was sparkling clean with not a magazine or a can of tobacco out of place and was filled with smiling customers purchasing his merchandise.Go Ahead Make Your Day TRY TO BENEFIT FROM CRITICISM An interesting story was told to me several years ago but I no longer remember who the story teller was or their sources. If the source is that of a jealous or spiteful person then use the techniques learned in Chapter One and don't allow your critic the satisfaction of getting to you." The little boy turned around and ran home in tears giving up his newspapers for the day. That day the little boy sold more newspapers and received more tips than he ever did. He jumped out of bed took a bath. He found that people were more receptive to him and they smiled more. The next day the boy reflected on the lady's comments and on his dream. criticism may hurt but you must step back and try to find a valid point in the criticism. "You dirty little street peddler why don't you go home and take bath instead of pestering everyone on the street and disgracing our fine city. but for our purpose I will say he went on to own one of the largest cigar stores chains in Canada. Cleanliness then became a way of life for him. I am not sure of the exact details to the end of the story. He decided that it was more than a coincidence. The dream was an inner voice talking to him. That night the boy. It is the story of a poor newspaper boy who was selling papers on the streets of Toronto. During the night he had a dream. who was deeply hurt. Everyday he sold more and more newspapers and after a couple of months he had saved enough for his very own news stand and a new suit. put on his Sunday suit and left the house before his mother could find out. One day the young boy approached a nicely dressed lady to sell her a paper. In his dream he was nicely dressed and working in a cigar store. The point of the story is obvious. 17 . After all.

It takes a friend to tell you to remove the sign that says "kick me" off your back. 18 . will just kick you. go wash or your wife to tell you not to attempt to fix the dishwasher. Anyone else. It takes a mother to tell you that your face is dirty. but a friend.Go Ahead Make Your Day ONLY A MOTHER WILL SAY "GO WASH YOUR FACE" It is also important to remember that most criticism comes from the people who care enough about us to try and help. Points to Remember Criticism can be helpful. Realize the source of the criticism.

To help you do this. you cannot change it. imagine yourself at your own funeral. Picture the people approaching the podium and giving their eulogy to you. HOW WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE REMEMBERED? When your time has come to leave this earth how do you want to be remembered? Would you like to be remembered as a happy person or a miserable one? Would you like to be remembered as kind or angry.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER SIX WRITE YOUR OWN EULOGY Today is the first day of the rest of your life! You should not worry about the past. I also sincerely believe that today may be your last day on earth. it is important to approach life with your final day in mind. Today marks a new beginning to the rest of your life. as honest or dishonest? If you have never reflected on the way you would like to be remembered then do this now. What would you like your: Spouse to say? 19 . Therefore.

Go Ahead Make Your Day Children to say? Friends to say? Co-workers to say? 20 .

Go Ahead Make Your Day Community to say? Church to say? Neighbors to say? 21 .

Go Ahead Make Your Day LIVE TODAY THE WAY YOU WISH TO BE REMEMBERED TOMORROW Once you have taken the time to write out your eulogy. Live your life every day with your eulogy in mind. If you have never been somewhere before. but it still applies. There are many roads that will get you there. If you want to get to your destination in the shortest amount of time possible. Read it as often as you can to make sure you stay on track. Your final destination represents your goal. If you don't check your map daily you might find yourself going to bed further from your destination then when you started your day. Write your own eulogy. FOLLOW YOUR MAP The analogy of setting out on a road trip without a map may be over used by now. POINTS TO REMEMBER Keep in mind it may be your last day here. The roads you must travel to arrive at your destination represent the steps needed to reach your goal. here is the analogy and how it applies to the above example: Picture yourself going on a road trip. If you have never heard it. If you don't remind yourself of your final destination frequently you may be going further away. Some roads may be rougher or longer than others. commit yourself to your goal one day at a time. it's important you have a road map (a plan for your goals). The only thing you need to do is. use it as a guide. The catch is you need to do this everyday. This may sound oversimplified but it really doesn't need to be complicated. Neither should you stumble through your life hoping to reach your goals. If you would like your wife to remember you as a loving and sensitive man then be loving and sensitive towards her today and everyday. 22 . you would not dream of getting into your car and driving aimlessly hoping you might stumble upon your destination. You don't need to make a big resolution or big promises to change yourself. If you want your friends to remember you as a faithful and honest person be faithful and honest. It is important that you look at your road map frequently to make sure you are still on the right track.

they get a job. When I say focus on now I mean it in two ways.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER SEVEN FOCUS ON NOW This chapter is dedicated to focusing on "the now". use this time to enjoy the radio or a cassette. You are happier on your way to a vacation then you are on your vacation. One is to eliminate the "someday attitude". instead of the things that don't. SOMEDAY The "someday attitude" is a trap that many people fall into. (Warning: from personal experience this is not the best time to catch up on your sleep). The "someday people" will be happy when: they graduate from high school. Take the time to enjoy the simple everyday things. they die. they get a new job. When you get home at night enjoy your supper. look for the things that make you happy. they get a promotion. The time to enjoy is now and the time to be happy is now. they retire. they get more money. So stop waiting for "some day" to 23 . Plan out your day. Really enjoy that first cup of coffee. but why not? Enjoy the journey. It is said that you are happier on your way to the restaurant then you are on the way home. You should also be happier on your way to your life destination. When you are at work. Enjoy the drive to work. and the other is the ability to focus on one thing at time. Why not be happy now? This may sound like a crazy and perhaps novel idea.

The more you practice. It is. the sooner it will become a habit. "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you". The quality of your relationships will increase dramatically. Since we never know when our last day will be. Focus on your children when you are with them. Once your specific areas are written out try to review them before starting your day. This is perfectly normal and should be expected especially at first. If you have the ability to focus on now when you are driving in your car you may be saving your life or someone else's. The more you remind yourself of the importance of "Focusing on Now". The first step is to realize the importance of being so focused. Focusing on now is the ability to go to work after a crisis has occurred at home and still be effective. don't waste today being unhappy! The time to be happy is now! FOCUS ON ONE THING AT A TIME The second meaning of "Focusing on Now" is the ability to focus on one thing at a time. nothing else mattered. This ability takes discipline to acquire. This ability or art to be able to focus on one thing at a time or "focus on now" can be learned. They didn't let themselves be distracted with other conversations or by the television in the background. Now imagine the feeling you would get if you were talking to someone who was giving you all of their attention. important to follow the oldest rule in human relations. Whoever masters this art is sure to reduce worry and increase effectiveness in all areas of their life. 24 . If you have the ability to focus on work when you are at work you will be more effective. therefore. focus on your spouse when you are with him or her and focus on your friends when you are with them. We have all had the experience of talking to someone and leaving with the feeling that the person's mind was somewhere else. the more you will practice. Use the work area given to clearly write out the areas you would like most to be focused. During your day you will start to catch yourself being distracted. Being unhappy would be the worst way to spend your last day on this earth. Focusing on now is the ability to come home from work after a hard day and be able to focus on your relationship with your family or friends.Go Ahead Make Your Day happen because it may not. The ability to "Focus on Now" is sure to increase the quality of your life and give you greater happiness in whatever you do. Remember catching yourself being distracted is half the battle.

Don't wait for "some day" to be happy. Learn to focus all your mental abilities on the task at hand.Go Ahead Make Your Day EXERCISE Please write your focus goals: POINTS TO REMEMBER Focus on now. 25 .

house. You may enjoy the taste of cheesecake but if cheesecake is the only food your diet consists of you will not meet your nutritional needs. Life is very delicate and it can be snatched away without warning. may neglect their health. 26 . A person who works hard in order to save enough money for retirement. and will not live long enough to enjoy that retirement. may be neglecting the people they love to attain these goals. We must aim for a balanced life that does not over-dose in any one area. we should aim for a balanced life. To enjoy each aspect we must aim for balance. At the end of it all. etc. If partying and having a good time is your only source of happiness you also will not meet your emotional needs. TO MUCH OF A GOOD THING The person who is so caught up in working so they can make money to purchase a nice car.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER EIGHT AIM FOR BALANCE To enjoy a happy life we must enjoy every aspect of our life. Since life is so precious and delicate it is important that we take time every day to examine what we are doing with our life. Much like a balanced diet. this person can never be happy without sharing their wealth with those they love.

an optimistic view on what is to come. This exercise. The exercise in the previous chapter. It should not be a depressing exercise. like all the other exercises in this book should not be an exercise in examining your shortcoming but rather your potential. will have given you an opportunity to reflect on the different aspects of your life. I also would like you to estimate the approximate amount of time you currently spend on each aspect. In this exercise I would like you to reflect on these different aspects and what they mean to you.Go Ahead Make Your Day WHERE IS YOUR TIME SPENT? The following exercise is designed to help you reflect on where you spend most of your time. in percentage. rather. HOW MUCH TIME ARE YOU SPENDING FOR: WORK ___________________ HOBBIES __________________ FRIENDS __________________ FAMILY __________________ HEALTH __________________ EDUCATION _______________ RELIGION _________________ YOURSELF ________________ 27 . then try to put down. Writing Your Own Eulogy. the amount of hours you think would be necessary to live a more happy and balanced life.

Go Ahead Make Your Day HOW MUCH TIME SHOULD YOU SPEND WITH: WORK ___________________ HOBBIES __________________ FRIENDS __________________ FAMILY __________________ HEALTH __________________ EDUCATION _______________ RELIGION _________________ YOURSELF ________________ POINTS TO REMEMBER Aim for a balanced life. 28 .

I was writing this book and nowhere in my book could I find a way to be happy in the presence of this person. His attitude and ethics drove me crazy. than I should not be writing a book on being happy. In several cases his laziness cost the company money. I 29 . I felt that if I couldn't be happy at work. When I worked with him I didn't expect any help from him. because of the nature of the job his laziness had a direct influence on the amount of work I was required to do. This chapter has been added to this book thanks to a lazy co-worker of mine. His response was "I knew what he was like before he moved into the department. I accepted Jim for who he was. I tried to refuse to take him but I had no choice. At one point a couple co-workers and I approached our supervisor to complain. I tried to get rid of him but was not successful at getting him transferred. mostly his own. At that point. and they continued making comments about him.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER NINE DON'T EXPECT TOO MUCH FROM OTHERS Don't expect too much from others and you will never be disappointed. despite Jim. At the time. Unfortunately. I even started to understand him and his priorities." This response made me even more furious. Jim made me so miserable that several times I had second thoughts about writing this book. My other colleagues continued to let Jim upset them. This person whom I will call Jim was very concerned with energy conservation. I expected that I would need to work a little harder. After a few weeks his laziness no longer bothered me because I no longer expected anything from him. I was so fed up that I stopped expecting anything from Jim.

He accepted the coffee that I had craved so much for. who is one of my favorite author. I never expected to be thanked. I don't expect people to work as t hard as me. nor do I expect a favor to be returned every time I do one. He responded by saying "yah". About five minutes out of town I was flagged down by a man at the side of the road. His face was covered with blood due to a head injury. The whole experience would have been a negative one. I stopped to buy a coffee to drink on my way to work. I pulled over and got out of my truck. made the comparison in his book. I even felt good about sacrificing my coffee. but on this unexpectedly cold morning I yielded to the temptation. 30 . Once at the hospital I waited until the emergency staff arrived to take over. "How To Stop Worrying and Start Living" when Jesus healed ten lepers.. In the past I would have been so upset that he didn't try to thank me. I noticed his pick-up truck in the ditch. One cold November morning at 5:00 a. Once the staff arrived I said good bye and wished him well.m. Should we expect any more then what Jesus received? DON'T LET INGRATITUDE RUIN YOUR HAPPINESS. I was trying to quit drinking coffee. I helped him into my truck and I drove him to the nearest hospital. In fact it was not until later when I was telling my friends what great excitement I had on my way to work that my friends asked me if the man had even thanked me. Only one came back and thanked Jesus for what he had done. At the time. It didn't matter to me.Go Ahead Make Your Day realized that many of Jim's acts of laziness were manufactured by us and then exaggerated. I honestly felt good about being able to help. I immediately gave him a cloth so he could cover his wound and told him to apply pressure. Dale Carnegie. or expect people to get as excited about the pictures of my babies as I do. I don't expect people to be in a good mood all the time. On the way to the hospital I kept talking with the man to make sure he was not going into shock. he didn't even ask me my name so he could thank me later. I don't expect people to be grateful when I help them. With my new mind set the whole experience was now positive. He told me he had just come from the coffee shop so I offered him my coffee. NOTHING NEW If you can adopt this way of thinking you will not be disappointed by others when they don’ live up to your expectations.

The great thing with this giving outlook is that you never need to concern yourself with your own needs. You don’ give or help to be thanked.Go Ahead Make Your Day GIVE WITHOUT NEEDING TO BE GIVEN TO I believe that it is only through giving that we can really be happy. POINTS TO REMEMBER Don’ expect to much from others. our work. our society… we get a true feeling of belonging. Think of how much better the whole world would be if people would be more concerned with giving than receiving. When we have a sense of contributing in out daily lives to our friends. If you adopt a giving attitude I guarantee your needs will be taken care of. 31 . so why let t feelings of ingratitude rob you of feeling happy about doing good Give. t If only one out of ten lepers return to thank Jesus should we expect anything more. Happiness comes from having a sense of contributing.

so simple that it stayed with me all these years. We all know we should count our blessings. more conservative parishioners were appalled. beads of sweat rolled off our faces. thought it was perfect.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER TEN COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS One hot Sunday afternoon as my family and I sat in the pew at church waiting for the young priest to start his sermon. 32 . Count them frequently. He stepped up to the pulpit and gave a sermon on counting your blessing. And that is that! POINTS TO REMEMBER Count your blessings. on the other hand. I. Half the church consisting of older. the other half were just glad they didn't have to sit through a long sermon. His sermon was so perfect. His sermon was so perfect I feel that I should share it with you word for word: "Count your blessings" The priest then turned around and walked back to his seat.

such as cancer. alcoholism. depression. Excessive worrying may also cause some cases of insomnia. obesity. I am strongly convinced that worrying is probably responsible for more deaths then we may think. respiratory problems and diabetes to name a few. pressure... This means that you should not waste your time worrying about what has happened or worrying about what might happen. some of the techniques that have served me best. WHY STOP WORRYING? Before I start writing about techniques that might help you stop worrying I think it is important to first remind you of the importance of controlling your worries. There are other areas of health problems that stem from excessive worrying. Worrying is only a reaction to stress. To thoroughly cover this topic it would take an entire book. A book I would highly recommend to anyone. Remember not to take yourself so seriously. You should also know that you should focus on now. You know by now that you are responsible for your reactions. When you think of health problems due to worrying the obvious heart attack and ulcers come to mind. etc. I am hoping by this point that making a statement like "stop worrying" will not sound so inconceivable. Study's now show that falling asleep when driving causes more 33 . is Dale Carnegie's "How Stop Worrying and Start Living." With the exception of my own book and the Bible no book has changed my life more. Researchers are discovering that many other health problems can also be related to excessive worrying.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER ELEVEN STOP WORRYING It is with good reason that I deliberately placed this chapter near the end of the book. Insomnia can cause people to get drowsy or fall asleep when they are expected to make decisions that may mean life or death. In the meantime I will try to bring to you in this short chapter. In fact many fine books have been written on the subject. anorexia.

With all of the above mentioned I strongly believe that worrying is the biggest killer of North American. Here are some of the methods I use to control my worrying: METHOD #1: FOCUS ON PREVENTION. I knew if I didn't do something about my worrying that I would end up with an ulcer before I was seventeen. 34 . possible to stop worrying but it is an ongoing battle. It is. Rachelle. I would worry about failing at school so much that I almost did. that I was not good enough for her. I started falling asleep faster. therefore. Shortly after I had started reading the book my life started to change. First try to think of a way to prevent what is worrying from ever happening. We need to be reminded from time to time on the importance of not worrying and on some of the methods you could use not to worry. His first book was such a joy to read that I knew had to read this other one. When I was young I would worry about failing my classes but I never thought once that studying and working hard would guarantee me a good grade. I would worry but I never thought of a way to prevent my worries from happening. I felt more secure with my relationships. If Rachelle was only ten minutes late to call me I would get so worked up that I would almost be sick. Since then I must of read the book at least five times from cover to cover and picked it up over 100 times to read specifics chapters. I LEARNED AND SO CAN YOU! When I was thirteen years old I was definitely a chronic worrier. I would go to bed at about 10 PM and stayed awake until 3 or 4 am worrying. My wife would probably categorize me as someone who doesn't worry enough. I worried about my future and just about everything else.Go Ahead Make Your Day accidents than drinking and driving. If you worry about getting fired from work. When I was sixteen I met my first girlfriend. I literally became a new person. focus on becoming so good no one would dare to fire you. I worried that she might leave me. For the first six months I worried about everything. I worried about my weight. I had already read Dale Carnegie's book "How to Win Friends and Influence People" when I saw his book "How To Stop Worrying and Start Living". who is now my wife. I had a more restful sleep and was more relaxed during the day. I would worry about my parents getting a divorce even though I had never even heard them argue.

If preventing something from happening is beyond my control then I quickly accept that fact. During the day I don't have time to give my worries much thought and by the end of the day I am so exhausted that even if I wanted to stay up all night worrying I couldn't. 35 . Once I know something is beyond my control then I think of the worst thing that will happen if my concern does materialize. If you never break the law you don't need to worry about the police breaking down your door in the middle of the night. METHOD # 5: PLAY THE ODDS.Go Ahead Make Your Day METHOD #2: ACCEPT THE WORST. METHOD # 4: HONESTY IS STILL THE BEST POLICY. If I look at everything that ever worried. I do something constructive. I then remind myself of the quote. about 70% of things I worry about don't materialize. I will work harder and take on new projects. If you don't cheat on your income tax you never need to worry about being audited. Stay honest. Sometime we can be are own worst enemies in the fight against worrying. I know my odds and realize that it is more realistic to think that my worries will probably not happen." METHOD # 3: KEEP BUSY. If you never lie you never have to worry about what lie you were telling to who. me in my live I find that over 90% of my worries have never materialized. "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Now that I worry less about silly little things. Do yourself a favor and stay honest. In some cases when things are really getting to me I try to make myself as busy as I can. In most cases the worst thing that could happen is really not all that bad. If you never steal you never need to worry about being caught stealing.

Go Ahead Make Your Day POINTS TO REMEMBER. Keep busy. Stay honest. Play the odds. 36 . Try to prevent. First realize all the side effects of worrying. Accept the worst.

You are born with all you need to be happy. a nicer car or a fancier stereo to be happy. It is up to you.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER TWELVE TAKE TIME TO REFLECT KEEP WORKING By now I hope you understand that happiness is an internal thing. Long term happiness is completely up to you. If all my hopes were achieved then my job was successful." call it "meditation time. your priorities your "road map". Every time you review this material I hope you are reminded that you can be happy and the time to be happy is now. This is why this chapter may be the most important chapter in the book." call it "reflection time." It doesn't matter what you call it as long as you do it. Take the time as often as you can to review your goals. I hope that even if you learned nothing new the book gave you a chance to reflect on your priorities in life. you cannot wait for happiness to come to you. I am hoping that after you began to read from the book that you approached the remainder of your day with a better frame of mind. I hope that as you read this book you find being happy easy. Call this "quiet time. You don't need more money. You need to work at it. Unfortunately my success alone cannot ensure you long term happiness. This chapter is about taking the time to reflect and remind yourself about the importance of being happy. Being happy is an ongoing task. 37 .

gives the action some kind of special power. With every other inhale imagine that heaviness or as I. In a single chapter I cannot hope to give you a detailed study of the art of meditation or the benefit of lowering your brain wave activity to an alpha state. meditation. For me meditation is a time to relax and reflect. Focus on your breathing inhale for as long as you can then slowly exhale about 5 times. What I would like to do here is share with you a method that will help you get started meditating.Go Ahead Make Your Day MY MEDITATION The word meditation may conger many images in your mind. If your last 3 minutes were fully focused on your breathing and getting heavy the brain wave activity has probably slowed right down. You know you have done this successfully when you feel your body sink into your mattress or chair. Read over the exercises in this book (To make this easy you can transpose your answers to the workbook) Once you know what you would like to meditate about it is now time to get your body relaxed. To make this a habit you should try to do this at the same time every day." but for me the word. "The Silva Mind Control Method". that cement gets added until your eyes are covered. I guess I could easily call it "quiet time" or "reflection time. You may visualize Yogi Flyers. First find a spot where you will not be interrupted. The book of meditation that probably had the most influence on my style of meditation is Jose Silva's. To achieve this sit down in a comfortable chair or lay flat on your back. At this point you should be feeling completely relaxed. Next inhale. Now for every inhale feel your body getting heavier. This will give your whole body a real heavy and relaxed feeling. You may visualize spaced out "hippies" meditating. then imagine cement is poured on your calves. The best time would be when you first wake up. There are many good books written on the subject and I guess my meditation is a combination of many books that I have read. I like to visualize someone pouring warm cement on my toes. At this point your brain is in the most 38 . At first you may find it necessary to be in a quiet spot but soon this will not really matter.

Visualize yourself handling things the way you would like to be handling them. all your goals are things that you cannot remind yourself of too often. Slowly bring yourself out of your meditation. I recommend you do this once a day preferably when you first thing in the morning. Feel the pressures and stress leave your body. Once you have visualized yourself as being happy or visualized anything else. you are ready to bring yourself out of your meditation. It can be as short as fifteen minutes. Visualize yourself going through your day with a smile. POINTS TO REMEMBER Meditate Meditate often 39 . You may now start programming your mind to be happy. It should be done as often as possible. All the points in this manual. With every exhale feel yourself getting lighter. It is guaranteed to get your whole day off to a great start with your goals and your priorities freshly in mind. This time to yourself is a very important part of staying happy and positive.Go Ahead Make Your Day receptive state for programming.

I believe that happiness is within the reach of each and every one of us. 40 . Secondly. We can be happy as quickly as we can make up our minds to be happy. Fortunately. We must reach within. we need to do it. if happiness is one of your habits these times come less frequent then for most people and when they do come the duration is shorter. The first element we need is to want to. we need to know how to and then thirdly. If we want the sum of our days to equal happiness lets make happiness a a daily habit. I believed that everyone wanted to be happy. Want to When I first started out writing this book I naively believed that this first element was a given. Unfortunately. They get a feeling of being love when someone takes the time to console them. it is save to assume that you are someone who wants to be happy. The truth is that every one of us from time to time have periods when we don't want to be happy. What are Habits? Dr Stephen Covey (the author of the book "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People ") says we need three elements to develop any habit. Our life is the sum of all our days. some people hardly ever want to be happy. If you read the book this far. When these three element are present we can develop any habit.Go Ahead Make Your Day Go Ahead Now Well there you have it. Some people love the attention they get when they are upset. the twelve habits that help me in developing the happiness habit.

They must make their own day. This was a person who had proofread the first draft of my book. I strongly believed that everyone wanted to be happy but just needed the knowledge. All s that I can really do is show an example and point people in the right direction. Regardless of the weather. your employer. Do It This is the part that people have the hardest time with.. I would say to myself.Go Ahead Make Your Day The How To I said that when I started writing this book I made the mistake of thinking that everyone wanted to be happy." It was only after giving up about thirty times that I finally understood what I meant when I pick the title of this book" Go Ahead and Make Your Day". Don't waste another month being unhappy. “ Who am I trying to fool? If I can't teach my own wife to be happy then how can I go out and teach anyone else. This way of thinking was the single factor that made me give up several times on writing this book. your customers .. Why couldn't I give her some words of wisdom that would make here feel better. I also made another huge mistake when I thought that I could teach people to be happy. Everything that has been written here means nothing unless you do it. 41 . From the time I started writing this book I have been reading everything I can about happiness. I thought that I was an expert and that I could teach the world to be happy. A person that I shared all of my believes with. Don't waste another day. GO AHEAD AND MAKE YOUR DAY. Some days I would come home to find my own wife unhappy. Don't waste another week being unhappy. I knew that it was my responsibility to make it my day. The one thing that I was not getting was that it's not my responsibility to make other people’ day. It requires you to make a conscious decision to be happy on a daily basis.

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APPENDIX A GO AHEAD MAKE YOUR DAY
YOUR NOTES YOUR GUIDE YOUR BOOK ON BEING HAPPY

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CHAPTER ONE
BECOMING YOUR BEST FRIEND
WHAT I NEED IN A BEST FRIEND IS:

IMPORTANT POINTS
Be happy, loving and content with yourself and you will automatically radiate love and happiness.

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CHAPTER TWO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR REACTIONS
LIST 5 SITUATION THAT YOU WOULD LIKE ACT DIFFERENTLY IN
1 _______________________________ 2 _______________________________ 3 _______________________________ 4 _______________________________ 5 _______________________________

Important Points
Life is a series of actions acting on you. To every action there are several positive reactions. Take full responsibility for your reactions. Once you have selected the right positive reaction visualize yourself reacting in that manner until it is an automatic reaction.

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4 . Enjoy other people's successes no matter how small. Enjoy every one of your successes no matter how small.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER THREE COMPETING ONLY WITH YOURSELF THINK OF ONE THING THAT YOU WILL DO BETTER TODAY THEN YOU DID YESTERDAY IMPORTANT POINT Compete only with yourself.

____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ IMPORTANT POINTS Don't take yourself so seriously. 5 . THINK OF A GOOD BLOOPER THAT YOU COULD SHARE WITH OTHER.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER FOUR DON'T TAKE YOURSELF TOO SERIOUSLY . Take words said to you lightly and with humor. Learn to laugh at your bloopers. Share your bloopers with others.

If you can’ find any benefits don’ allow your critic t t the satisfaction of upsetting you. 6 .Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER FIVE WELCOME CRITICISM Points to Remember Criticism can be helpful If it was only intended to hurt you try to benefit from it anyway.

Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER SIX WRITE YOUR OWN EULOGY What would you like your: Spouse to say? Children to say? 7 .

Go Ahead Make Your Day Friends to say? Co-workers to say? 8 .

9 . If you don't remind yourself of your final destination frequently you may be going further away.Go Ahead Make Your Day Community to say? Church to say? Neighbors to say? POINTS TO REMEMBER Keep in mind it may be your last. Live your life every day with your eulogy in mind. Write your own eulogy.

Learn to focus all your mental abilities on the task at hand.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER SEVEN FOCUS ON NOW EXERCISE Write your focus goals: POINTS TO REMEMBER Focus on now. Don't wait for "some day" to be happy. 10 .

Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER EIGHT AIM FOR BALANCE HOW MUCH TIME ARE YOU SPENDING FOR: WORK ___________________ HOBBIES __________________ FRIENDS __________________ FAMILY __________________ HEALTH __________________ EDUCATION _______________ RELIGION _________________ YOURSELF ________________ 11 .

12 .Go Ahead Make Your Day HOW MUCH TIME SHOULD WORK ___________________ HOBBIES __________________ FRIENDS __________________ FAMILY __________________ HEALTH __________________ EDUCATION _______________ RELIGION _________________ YOURSELF ________________ POINTS TO REMEMBER Aim for a balanced life.

t If only one out of ten lepers return to thank Jesus should we expect anything more.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER NINE DON'T EXPECT TOO MUCH FROM OTHERS POINTS TO REMEMBER Don’ expect to much from others. You don’ give or help to be thanked. 13 . so t why let feelings of ingratitude rob you of feeling happy about doing good Give.

Count them frequently.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER TEN COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS POINTS TO REMEMBER Count your blessings.. 14 .

Stay honest. Accept the worst. Play the odds.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER ELEVEN STOP WORRYING POINTS TO REMEMBER. First realize all the side effects of worrying. Try to prevent. 15 . Keep busy.

Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER TWELVE TAKE TIME TO REFLECT POINTS TO REMEMBER Meditate Meditate daily 16 .

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