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By Claude Fontaine
Go Ahead Make Your Day
By Claude Fontaine
First Published by Jump Start International 1995 Re-Published by WEBaddicts 2001
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INTRODUCTION GO AHEAD MAKE YOUR DAY
Not a How-To Book Go Ahead Make Your Day!
CHAPTER ONE BECOMING YOUR BEST FRIEND
CHALLENGES SELF SERVING ? EXERCISE IMPORTANT POINTS
3 4 5 5
CHAPTER TWO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR REACTIONS
JACK AND JOHN ACTION AND REACTION VISUALIZATION YOUR HAPPINESS IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY Important Points
6 7 8 8 9
CHAPTER THREE COMPETING ONLY WITH YOURSELF
COMPETING AGAINST OTHERS WHAT'S WRONG WITH BEING COMPETITIVE? BEING TOO COMPETITIVE THE STRUCTURE OF COMPETITION IMPORTANT POINT
10 10 11 11 12
CHAPTER FOUR DON'T TAKE YOURSELF TOO SERIOUSLY.
PRIDE vs. LAUGHING AT YOURSELF SHARE YOUR STUPIDITY DISARM JOKES ABOUT YOU IMPORTANT POINTS
14 14 15 15
CHAPTER FIVE WELCOME CRITICISM
TRY TO BENEFIT FROM CRITICISM
GIVE WITHOUT NEEDING TO BE GIVEN TO POINTS TO REMEMBER 29 29 30 30 31 31 CHAPTER TEN COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS POINTS TO REMEMBER 32 32 32 CHAPTER ELEVEN STOP WORRYING WHY STOP WORRYING? I LEARNED AND SO CAN YOU! 33 33 33 34 .Contents ONLY A MOTHER WILL SAY "GO WASH YOUR FACE" Points to Remember 18 18 CHAPTER SIX WRITE YOUR OWN EULOGY HOW WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE REMEMBERED? LIVE TODAY THE WAY YOU WISH TO BE REMEMBERED TOMORROW FOLLOW YOUR MAP POINTS TO REMEMBER 19 19 19 22 22 22 CHAPTER SEVEN FOCUS ON NOW SOMEDAY FOCUS ON ONE THING AT A TIME EXERCISE POINTS TO REMEMBER 23 23 23 24 25 25 CHAPTER EIGHT AIM FOR BALANCE TO MUCH OF A GOOD THING WHERE IS YOUR TIME SPENT? HOW MUCH TIME ARE YOU SPENDING FOR: HOW MUCH TIME SHOULD YOU SPEND WITH: POINTS TO REMEMBER 26 26 26 27 27 28 28 CHAPTER NINE DON'T EXPECT TOO MUCH FROM OTHERS NOTHING NEW DON'T LET INGRATITUDE RUIN YOUR HAPPINESS.
METHOD # 5: PLAY THE ODDS.Contents METHOD #1: FOCUS ON PREVENTION. METHOD # 3: KEEP BUSY. 34 35 35 35 35 36 CHAPTER TWELVE TAKE TIME TO REFLECT KEEP WORKING MY MEDITATION POINTS TO REMEMBER 37 37 37 38 39 GO AHEAD NOW What are Habits? Want to The How To Do It 40 40 40 41 41 APPENDIX A IMPORTANT POINTS 1 2 CHAPTER TWO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR REACTIONS Important Points 3 3 CHAPTER THREE COMPETING ONLY WITH YOURSELF IMPORTANT POINT 4 4 4 CHAPTER FOUR IMPORTANT POINTS 5 5 CHAPTER FIVE WELCOME CRITICISM Points to Remember 6 6 6 CHAPTER SIX WRITE YOUR OWN EULOGY POINTS TO REMEMBER 7 7 9 CHAPTER SEVEN FOCUS ON NOW 10 . METHOD # 4: HONESTY IS STILL THE BEST POLICY. POINTS TO REMEMBER. METHOD #2: ACCEPT THE WORST.
15 15 15 CHAPTER TWELVE TAKE TIME TO REFLECT POINTS TO REMEMBER 16 16 16 .Contents EXERCISE Write your focus goals: POINTS TO REMEMBER 10 10 10 CHAPTER EIGHT AIM FOR BALANCE HOW MUCH TIME ARE YOU SPENDING FOR: HOW MUCH TIME SHOULD POINTS TO REMEMBER 11 11 11 12 12 CHAPTER NINE DON'T EXPECT TOO MUCH FROM OTHERS POINTS TO REMEMBER 13 13 13 CHAPTER TEN COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS POINTS TO REMEMBER 14 14 14 CHAPTER ELEVEN STOP WORRYING POINTS TO REMEMBER.
Happiness is. It is more a book of reflections that is intended to assist you in forming the happiness habit. we are going in the wrong direction. If you are like most people. You can be happy right now! Happiness is not some mysterious thing for which we need to search. Since the age of sixteen I have made it a hobby to read self-help books. and Jose Silva. My collection of self-help books and biographies extends 1 . If this is the view of happiness that you share I have great news for you. an inside job. you probably view happiness as an end result. to name only a few. Napoleon Hill. Happiness is a result of buying a car or becoming financially successful. Anthony Robbins. "Happiness is an Inside Job". "I am convinced that happiness is within the reach of everyone. You need not wait to be happy. Barry Kaufman. or getting a job. Happiness is a result of moving away from home. In his book.Go Ahead Make Your Day INTRODUCTION GO AHEAD MAKE YOUR DAY Start With Happiness. Dennis Waitley. These reflections have come from years of reading books and listening to cassettes. John Powell writes." Not a How-To Book What you have in front of you is by no means an attempt to tell you how to be happy. The problem is that if we reach out. and has always been. I have read books by Dale Carnegie.
The end result is a few pages that you can pull out which will become your notes. my guide. These exercises are designed to help you reflect on the contents of the chapter. your guide. "Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be". At the end of several chapters I have included some exercises. when reading these books. You must take the responsibility of going ahead and making it your day. the following pages are my notes. Stop giving the responsibility for your happiness to everyone around you. GO AHEAD AND MAKE YOUR DAY! 2 . Being happy is far too important to leave it up to someone or something else. Go Ahead Make Your Day! Abraham Lincoln once said. You must make happiness a habit. At first. In effect. As my collection grew I decided that it would be easier to write down key thoughts in a separate book for quick reference. or the way others treat you. The following pages are an attempt to organize all of the thoughts that help me be happy. my book on being happy. I would highlight the important thoughts that I wanted to retain.Go Ahead Make Your Day into the hundreds. Happiness is truly as simple as making up your mind to be happy. your book on being happy. My challenge to you is. This is why you must constantly remind yourself to be happy. Appendix A is a section to which you may transpose the exercises from the individual chapters along with any additional key points you may wish to remember. You must free yourself from being a victim of the way your boss treats you. the way your parents treat you.
CHALLENGES Life presents us daily many challenges and obstacles to overcome. We must make peace with ourselves and nurture our mind. this responsibility is much too important to leave to others. body and spirit. Once we become our own best friend we develop an inner peace. ugly. Daily we abuse our bodies with alcohol.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER ONE BECOMING YOUR BEST FRIEND By now we all have heard that we are our own worst critic. Being our own worst enemy is the most likely factor in preventing many of us from being happy. The sad part is that many of us don't realize just how bad a friend we are to ourselves. The last thing we need to do is to fight ourselves along the way. We tell ourselves that we are stupid. We abuse our minds with negative personal perceptions. It is no wonder we battle with the idea of becoming our own best friend. After all. fat. etc. This inner peace allows us to become loving and happy towards ourselves. etc. In these increasingly complicated and difficult times we truly need to become the best friend we can to ourselves. 3 . We must take the responsibility of looking after ourselves. drugs. What is even sadder is that most of us are our own worst enemy as well. junk food.
becomes happier. loving ourselves more and becoming happy is selfish and self serving think again. Someone that will make sure you lose weight properly with exercise and diet and not crazy fad diets. Someone that will always be there to remind you of your goals. become a more peaceful place. have spent most of our lives doing the opposite such a habit. indeed. you are overweight the characteristics you will be looking for in a best friend might be: Someone who will love you for who you are. Someone who will not try to deny the fact that you may be overweight. kindness and happiness to everyone we come in contact with. To form such a habit we must be constantly reminding ourselves of what we need in a best friend. The second part of developing this habit is to have a very clear image of what you personally need in a best friend. "If just one person changes. Barry Kaufman the author of "Happiness is a Choice" sums it up best when he writes. our evolution will cause countless ripples". At first you may even need to remind yourself several times a day. and I included. Becoming Your Best Friend. touches another with a more loving and peaceful hand. then. If each of us acknowledges him or herself as one entity in an interlocking network of interactions. for example. can be difficult to form. Later when it is developed a couple times a month will suffice. the world has. 4 . If. Since most of us.Go Ahead Make Your Day SELF SERVING ? If you think the idea of becoming our own best friend. like most good habits. Someone that will be there to encourage you to lose weight because of concern for your health. Once we develop this level of self content we automatically radiate love. Being your best friend must become a habit to you. like the stone dropped in a pond.
After being your own best friend is a habit then review it at least once a month. Someone that will put you back on track if they see you slipping and encourage you to do better next time. EXERCISE Take the time now to write down what you need in a friend. WHAT I NEED IN A BEST FRIEND IS: IMPORTANT POINTS Be happy. loving and content with yourself and you will automatically radiate love and happiness. Review it every day for the first few weeks until being the friend you need becomes a habit.Go Ahead Make Your Day Someone that won't give up on you when your progress is not quite what they expected or when you cheat a bit. 5 . If your needs change in the following months then write these needs down and repeat the process.
His father was pig headed and his mother was weak.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER TWO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR REACTIONS JACK AND JOHN Jack and John grew up in two very different environments: Jack went to a school where all the teachers were idiots. 6 . kind and always ready to help. His father had a very strong character and his mother had a heart of gold. John's parents were the best. John went to a school where the teachers were good. Jack's parent were not very understanding.
The truth is. The funny part is that Jack and John were brothers. She even ended up firing him. The truth is your mind controls all your reactions. You may honk the horn and your blood pressure may rise. For every excuse you can come up with I'm sure we could easily find hundreds of people that could have used the same excuse but did not. 7 . and only you. If John and Jack both won a million dollars John would probably be happy and grateful. You may try to blame your reactions on alcohol.Go Ahead Make Your Day Jack had a part time job at the age of 16 working for a boss who was a real pain. The difference was how John and Jack reacted to everything. the pressure at work. The important point is that you. Life gave these brothers many similar opportunities. You may curse and get yourself all worked up. it is time that you take full responsibility for your reactions. drugs. Your job now is to convince your mind that this is not the way that you react. If you turn the other cheek it is a reaction. on the other hand. She showed no respect for him and never praised any of his work. If you happen to be in a traffic jam you may normally act in a negative way. These people take responsibility for their reactions and act in a positive way. When looking back on the situation you may realize that your reaction was very negative. If someone says fire. and even had the same part time job working for the same person. can be held responsible for your reactions. the way other people treated you or a combination of the above. If you get angry and resort to violence it is also a reaction. You must take responsibility for your mind. ACTION AND REACTION Life is a series of reactions to the circumstances which we encounter. If you want to react in a positive way to an action you must first tell your mind to react positive in this situation. His boss always praised his work. you jump. Jack. went to the same school. They had the same parents. For every action there are several different reactions possible. If someone says boo. probably would be upset that the government would be taking a third of the money in taxes. You may be thinking that reactions are controlled by your nervous system and are totally uncontrollable. the way you were raised. you run. John had a part time job at the age of 16 that was great. therefore. take control of your mind. If someone walks up to you tomorrow and slaps your face it is an action. To control your reactions you must. She gave him more and more responsibility along with more privileges.
At first it may be difficult but the more you practice the easier it will get. It is still possible to react in a positive way even when everyone else is not. it would be difficult to return to your work and to perform to your maximum. You visualize yourself turning on the radio to a relaxing station or you see yourself having the time to listen to your favorite cassette. You then make the best of the situation. Take the time to gather your thoughts and come up with a good excuse for why you are late. Try to learn something from what was said remembering that it was said by someone who was not in control. If he or she has chosen to be miserable that is their problem and not yours. You visualize that you had anticipated such a delay so you left your home or office early. it is far better if you can stay in control and stay positive. If the traffic jam is longer then anticipated and you are most definitely going to be late you quickly realize that the situation is beyond your control. Much like the martial artist practices over and over.Go Ahead Make Your Day VISUALIZATION Convincing your mind to react in a positive way is simply a matter of visualizing the way you wish to react in any given situation. YOUR HAPPINESS IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY Once you have assumed responsibility for your reactions your happiness is no longer dependent on anyone or anything. If you wish to act more positive in a traffic jam visualize yourself in a traffic jam. You visualize yourself actually getting calmer as the hectic highway pace gets slower. You can let his or her mood drag you down or you can take control of your reaction. You realize that getting worked up about the situation can only make it worse. moving and blocking until moving and blocking a punch becomes a reaction. Then return to your work with that episode behind you and focusing on the task at hand. If your boss. coworker or customer is in a bad mood you decide how to react. Take the time to reflect on what was said to you. co-worker or customer is screaming and criticizing your work. If your boss. At first it may sound next to impossible to react this way to yelling and criticism. How good your day goes is no longer your boss's. You would be much better off if you had the ability to stay calm. In fact. co-worker's or customer's responsibility. This will demonstrate a far better mental attitude. You take a deep breath and realize that the situation is beyond your control but your reaction is totally in your control. Don't give up. I guarantee you that only a 8 . You can train your mind by repeated visualizations of any situation. You see it as a break in the action.
Important Points Life is a series of actions acting on you. Secondly. Once you have decided to take responsibility for your reactions your happiness and success is no longer dependent on anything or anyone. Once you decide that you would like to react in this way and you know you are responsible for your reactions. weeks or days on this earth being unhappy you must decide the time to be happy is now. Take full responsibility for your reactions. on the other hand. In fact. You can also decide not to feel sorry for yourself. You realize it doesn't matter what happened to mess up your day or to mess up your life. it is easier to find someone or something else to blame for your faults. Since you don't want to spend your last years. You must first decide that this is the way you wish to react. You then must visualize yourself in the situation and reacting the way you would like.Go Ahead Make Your Day short while after you have decided that you must take control of your reactions it will be possible. you decide how you would like to react. If someone gets upset with you. You have the option to react in a positive or negative way. it then becomes possible. The advantages. Taking responsibility for your reactions is not always easy. You can go on a drinking binge feeling sorry for yourself and end up miserable. for being responsible for your reactions far out weigh the effort. and realize just how precious and short life really is. You can react in a positive way. visualize yourself reacting in that manner until it is an automatic reaction. You can stop dwelling on the past and start focusing on your potential. you must remind yourself of all the disadvantages to reacting negatively and all the advantages to reacting positively. Once you have selected the right positive reaction. keep your cool and stay in control enabling you to take control of the situation. 9 . Also it can make you realize that you never know when your time will come. To every action there are several positive reactions. You can get angry in return and engage in a battle that may even turn violent. If a close friend dies you decide how you want to react.
Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER THREE COMPETING ONLY WITH YOURSELF COMPETING AGAINST OTHERS When I was growing up and going through school the teacher would hand out awards to the students with the best grades in English. When we get out of school and into the work force it doesn't stop. In school I could never get the grades to place me at the top of my class. It was easier to accept my standing due to the fact that I was not trying than to accept that some students were better than I was. When playing hockey the coach gave an award to the best defensive player. In kindergarten. We strive to be "Employee of the Month". etc. I remember being devastated when I placed second in the annual track and field day. Nothing! My wife would tell you that the most competitive person she knows is Claude Fontaine. Math. This gave me a small advantage when it came to sports. the top scorer. It is no wonder so many of us are hung up on competing against others. WHAT'S WRONG WITH BEING COMPETITIVE? Some of you might be asking. I came to a point were I stopped trying. "What's wrong with being competitive?". History. etc. I played every sport I could. the most improved. I remember one Saturday going to a hockey 10 . the office's top producer or the top salesperson. Before going to high school I was considered big for my age. From a very young age we are forced into competing against each other. The problem is not being competitive but against whom you are competing.
My friend was then added to the team in my place. During my high school years I attended only one sports team try-out. This group is driven by the hope that someday they will reach the top position. I loved playing and watching all sports. I found it easier to believe that I was not the best athlete because I didn't try.m. The following week I approached the coach and informed him that I didn't really have time to play. then one day they just can't keep up with the younger athlete who is entering his prime. Years of being "the bridesmaid" can take its toll.m. The fact was. My friend was cut in the third practice which I didn't attend. that I didn't want to play if I couldn't be the best. I believed that I was just not a competitive person.Go Ahead Make Your Day practice from 8:00 a. Like my school work.m. For the person on top it is a constant struggle to keep the top position for one day someone will come along and knock that person down from the pedestal. to 10:00 a. for years they compete at the highest level of their sport. There is only room at top for one person. I said back then and truly believed that I was not playing any sports because I hated competing. At the bottom of the triangle there is a group that just can't put it together. After being crushed over and over again they simply give up. During this try-out I intercepted a pass going over my head and dove for a lay-up in front of the coach. At 11:00 I had a basketball practice. BEING TOO COMPETITIVE It was not until recently that I realized the opposite was true. they are always being disappointed. from which I left early so I could try-out for the school volleyball team between 12:00 and 2:00 p. or join a weaker group so they have an opportunity to be the best of that group. This blow may be even harder to take than the disappointment of never being on top in the first place. THE STRUCTURE OF COMPETITION Whenever there is competition between people the following things happen. Closely following the top position there is a small group of people. 11 . I was so competitive that when I got to high school and there were many students who were equal or greater in size. It was a basketball try-out and a friend wanted to go but didn't want to go alone. Athletes often experience this. I made the team. Even those who are a close second are not safe from feeling unhappy. When I got to high school I stopped playing all sports. strength and ability.
one thing that you have learned or changed. or bigger house. Enjoy every one of your successes no matter how small. You can start being happy right now. Since your goal is to improve yourself you can be happy everyday with your successes no matter how small. you may have a tendency to look down at them. In the presence of someone who has less than you. physically and spiritually. Instead. You will no longer have to wait until you are named "Employee of the Month". you may become envious. otherwise. IMPORTANT POINT Compete only with yourself. In the presence of someone who is succeeding financially and has a bigger car. This is a sure way of missing out on a relationship that might have. Enjoy other people's successes no matter how small. jealous or even depressed because that person has more "toys" than you. Everyday I try to improve Claude Fontaine mentally. "Top Producer" or "Most Valuable Player" to be happy. This mind set is imperative for becoming truly happy. enriched your life. I try to never be down on myself because of my faults. stop and think. you will then be free to be sincerely happy for others who succeed.Go Ahead Make Your Day HOW CAN YOU BE COMPETITIVE AND HAPPY? I am still very competitive except now I am competing against myself and not against the world. 12 . When you live your life in competition with others you can never be fully happy. Once you learn to compete only with yourself. I acknowledge them and strive to improve on those areas I feel are deficient. On the days that you feel you have not improved at all. I am willing to bet that you can find. You can then also enjoy your own successes more. at least.
I enjoyed the fact that people thought I was doing a high pressure job. I loved telling people about my job. As a tester one of my responsibilities was to take calls from Installation and Repair Technicians and I would assist the technicians in any way I could. I placed the squirrel beside my computer so that. but I was manufacturing my own stress. I realized that I was taking myself and my job far too seriously. loved the action. especially when they would tell me that they didn't think they could handle such a high pressured job.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER FOUR DON'T TAKE YOURSELF TOO SERIOUSLY. For some this part of the job was just to much to handle while I. Looking back I realize that it was my way of feeling important. on the other hand. Shortly after making this realization I recovered a wooden carving of a squirrel that a colleague of mine had tossed in the garbage. While working for Bell Canada I was given the job of Tester. I began taking the calls and my job lighter. my stress level was drastically reduced and my efficiency was proportionately increased. It was not uncommon to have eight calls on the go at once. The telephone set I used had the capability to connect approximately twenty callers at one time. 13 . whenever I looked at the squirrel I would be reminded not to take life so seriously.
" SHARE YOUR STUPIDITY Once you start taking yourself less seriously and learn to laugh. Why not share your amusement with others. or a racial joke. while writing this booklet I have come to realize that my mother and siblings are also very proud. Some of the biggest laughs I have with my friends are not when I tell a dirty joke that may scandalize someone. or a joke that may offend someone. You also will notice that people who laugh the most are the ones who are able to relate to your circumstance because they see themselves as capable of doing the same thing or they already have done so. It is not always easy for proud people to laugh at themselves. As the old Chinese saying goes: "Blessed are they who can laugh at themselves. When the joke you are telling is about yourself people feel free to laugh knowing that no one is being scandalized. LAUGHING AT YOURSELF Not taking myself so seriously is one of the hardest things for me to do. I greatly admire my father. 14 . NOTE: Use some discretion when selecting who you tell what to. let alone laugh with others about ones own shortcomings. I get the biggest laugh when the person we are laughing at is me. In fact. So. hurt or offended. They shall never cease to be entertained. Although this pride has served us well in many aspects of our lives it has also been burdensome in others. don't stop there. My father is a man with much pride. I must constantly remind myself that doing stupid things is part of being human. in order to be like him I chose to adopt his sense of pride.Go Ahead Make Your Day PRIDE vs. The worst that could happen is that people will realize you are human.
It is not the actual words that hurt your feelings or offend you. There is nothing that will disarm words faster then taking them lightly and trying to find the humor behind them. it is important to take the words with a grain of salt. Don't take the words personally but try to find some humor in them even when you know they were deliberately said with the intent to tease or hurt you. On some occasions you could interpret the words as someone trying to be funny. Take words said to you lightly and with humor. No matter what the occasion. Share your bloopers with others.Go Ahead Make Your Day DISARM JOKES ABOUT YOU Along with being able to laugh at yourself you also must be able to take a joke. IMPORTANT POINTS Don't take yourself so seriously. but the way you interpret the words. In some instances you could interpret the words as someone making a comment without stopping to think. 15 . The ability to take a joke is not always easy for someone with a lot of pride. Learn to laugh at your bloopers.
my problem with having too much pride makes it hard for me to accept criticism at times.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER FIVE WELCOME CRITICISM This chapter is an carry-over of the two previous chapters. In Chapter Four. As stated in chapter two "Take Responsibility for your Reactions". This is another reason why I am giving this topic its own chapter. and Chapter Four. As stated in the previous chapter. It combines Chapter Two. 16 . it can be such a hard thing to handle that I thought it deserved its own specific chapter. Although the other chapters cover the basic principles of handling criticism. you must sometimes take criticism lightly with a sense of humor. "Don't Take Yourself so Seriously". it is all up to you. you should take control of how you wish to react. You can react positively or negatively to any criticism.
The lady turned around and shouted out to him. In his dream he was nicely dressed and working in a cigar store. That day the little boy sold more newspapers and received more tips than he ever did. The dream was an inner voice talking to him. who was deeply hurt. put on his Sunday suit and left the house before his mother could find out. The next day the boy reflected on the lady's comments and on his dream. I am not sure of the exact details to the end of the story. If the source is that of a jealous or spiteful person then use the techniques learned in Chapter One and don't allow your critic the satisfaction of getting to you. He jumped out of bed took a bath. criticism may hurt but you must step back and try to find a valid point in the criticism. The store was sparkling clean with not a magazine or a can of tobacco out of place and was filled with smiling customers purchasing his merchandise. It is the story of a poor newspaper boy who was selling papers on the streets of Toronto. you may just find something that will enrich your life. He found that people were more receptive to him and they smiled more. Cleanliness then became a way of life for him. but for our purpose I will say he went on to own one of the largest cigar stores chains in Canada. After all. cried himself to sleep. One day the young boy approached a nicely dressed lady to sell her a paper." The little boy turned around and ran home in tears giving up his newspapers for the day. That night the boy. During the night he had a dream. Everyday he sold more and more newspapers and after a couple of months he had saved enough for his very own news stand and a new suit.Go Ahead Make Your Day TRY TO BENEFIT FROM CRITICISM An interesting story was told to me several years ago but I no longer remember who the story teller was or their sources. The point of the story is obvious. "You dirty little street peddler why don't you go home and take bath instead of pestering everyone on the street and disgracing our fine city. 17 . If you truly cannot find one valid point in the criticism you must then look at the source or motive of the criticism. He decided that it was more than a coincidence.
Points to Remember Criticism can be helpful. Anyone else. It takes a mother to tell you that your face is dirty. but a friend. will just kick you. It takes a friend to tell you to remove the sign that says "kick me" off your back. 18 . go wash or your wife to tell you not to attempt to fix the dishwasher. Realize the source of the criticism.Go Ahead Make Your Day ONLY A MOTHER WILL SAY "GO WASH YOUR FACE" It is also important to remember that most criticism comes from the people who care enough about us to try and help.
Today marks a new beginning to the rest of your life. HOW WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE REMEMBERED? When your time has come to leave this earth how do you want to be remembered? Would you like to be remembered as a happy person or a miserable one? Would you like to be remembered as kind or angry. as honest or dishonest? If you have never reflected on the way you would like to be remembered then do this now. Therefore. you cannot change it. What would you like your: Spouse to say? 19 . it is important to approach life with your final day in mind.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER SIX WRITE YOUR OWN EULOGY Today is the first day of the rest of your life! You should not worry about the past. I also sincerely believe that today may be your last day on earth. imagine yourself at your own funeral. Picture the people approaching the podium and giving their eulogy to you. To help you do this.
Go Ahead Make Your Day Children to say? Friends to say? Co-workers to say? 20 .
Go Ahead Make Your Day Community to say? Church to say? Neighbors to say? 21 .
It is important that you look at your road map frequently to make sure you are still on the right track. If you want your friends to remember you as a faithful and honest person be faithful and honest. Your final destination represents your goal. If you want to get to your destination in the shortest amount of time possible. POINTS TO REMEMBER Keep in mind it may be your last day here. FOLLOW YOUR MAP The analogy of setting out on a road trip without a map may be over used by now. but it still applies. The only thing you need to do is. commit yourself to your goal one day at a time. If you have never been somewhere before. If you would like your wife to remember you as a loving and sensitive man then be loving and sensitive towards her today and everyday. The roads you must travel to arrive at your destination represent the steps needed to reach your goal. here is the analogy and how it applies to the above example: Picture yourself going on a road trip. Neither should you stumble through your life hoping to reach your goals. Live your life every day with your eulogy in mind. Read it as often as you can to make sure you stay on track. There are many roads that will get you there. Some roads may be rougher or longer than others. If you don't check your map daily you might find yourself going to bed further from your destination then when you started your day. you would not dream of getting into your car and driving aimlessly hoping you might stumble upon your destination. it's important you have a road map (a plan for your goals). If you have never heard it. You don't need to make a big resolution or big promises to change yourself. The catch is you need to do this everyday. This may sound oversimplified but it really doesn't need to be complicated. Write your own eulogy. If you don't remind yourself of your final destination frequently you may be going further away.Go Ahead Make Your Day LIVE TODAY THE WAY YOU WISH TO BE REMEMBERED TOMORROW Once you have taken the time to write out your eulogy. use it as a guide. 22 .
they get more money. Plan out your day. When I say focus on now I mean it in two ways. they get a promotion. So stop waiting for "some day" to 23 . Enjoy the drive to work. they die. One is to eliminate the "someday attitude". (Warning: from personal experience this is not the best time to catch up on your sleep). It is said that you are happier on your way to the restaurant then you are on the way home. Why not be happy now? This may sound like a crazy and perhaps novel idea. they get a job. look for the things that make you happy. and the other is the ability to focus on one thing at time.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER SEVEN FOCUS ON NOW This chapter is dedicated to focusing on "the now". they get a new job. Take the time to enjoy the simple everyday things. You should also be happier on your way to your life destination. use this time to enjoy the radio or a cassette. You are happier on your way to a vacation then you are on your vacation. The "someday people" will be happy when: they graduate from high school. When you get home at night enjoy your supper. SOMEDAY The "someday attitude" is a trap that many people fall into. The time to enjoy is now and the time to be happy is now. but why not? Enjoy the journey. they retire. When you are at work. instead of the things that don't. Really enjoy that first cup of coffee.
the sooner it will become a habit. Use the work area given to clearly write out the areas you would like most to be focused. The ability to "Focus on Now" is sure to increase the quality of your life and give you greater happiness in whatever you do. Now imagine the feeling you would get if you were talking to someone who was giving you all of their attention. Whoever masters this art is sure to reduce worry and increase effectiveness in all areas of their life. If you have the ability to focus on work when you are at work you will be more effective. don't waste today being unhappy! The time to be happy is now! FOCUS ON ONE THING AT A TIME The second meaning of "Focusing on Now" is the ability to focus on one thing at a time. They didn't let themselves be distracted with other conversations or by the television in the background. "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you". The more you practice. We have all had the experience of talking to someone and leaving with the feeling that the person's mind was somewhere else. therefore. nothing else mattered. During your day you will start to catch yourself being distracted. Focusing on now is the ability to come home from work after a hard day and be able to focus on your relationship with your family or friends. focus on your spouse when you are with him or her and focus on your friends when you are with them. Focus on your children when you are with them.Go Ahead Make Your Day happen because it may not. Being unhappy would be the worst way to spend your last day on this earth. The more you remind yourself of the importance of "Focusing on Now". the more you will practice. This is perfectly normal and should be expected especially at first. Since we never know when our last day will be. If you have the ability to focus on now when you are driving in your car you may be saving your life or someone else's. Remember catching yourself being distracted is half the battle. The quality of your relationships will increase dramatically. The first step is to realize the importance of being so focused. This ability takes discipline to acquire. 24 . important to follow the oldest rule in human relations. It is. This ability or art to be able to focus on one thing at a time or "focus on now" can be learned. Focusing on now is the ability to go to work after a crisis has occurred at home and still be effective. Once your specific areas are written out try to review them before starting your day.
Don't wait for "some day" to be happy. Learn to focus all your mental abilities on the task at hand.Go Ahead Make Your Day EXERCISE Please write your focus goals: POINTS TO REMEMBER Focus on now. 25 .
Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER EIGHT AIM FOR BALANCE To enjoy a happy life we must enjoy every aspect of our life. etc. TO MUCH OF A GOOD THING The person who is so caught up in working so they can make money to purchase a nice car. You may enjoy the taste of cheesecake but if cheesecake is the only food your diet consists of you will not meet your nutritional needs. 26 . this person can never be happy without sharing their wealth with those they love. If partying and having a good time is your only source of happiness you also will not meet your emotional needs. we should aim for a balanced life. Life is very delicate and it can be snatched away without warning. and will not live long enough to enjoy that retirement. may be neglecting the people they love to attain these goals. may neglect their health. Much like a balanced diet. At the end of it all. A person who works hard in order to save enough money for retirement. To enjoy each aspect we must aim for balance. We must aim for a balanced life that does not over-dose in any one area. house. Since life is so precious and delicate it is important that we take time every day to examine what we are doing with our life.
In this exercise I would like you to reflect on these different aspects and what they mean to you. It should not be a depressing exercise. in percentage. then try to put down. This exercise. the amount of hours you think would be necessary to live a more happy and balanced life. rather.Go Ahead Make Your Day WHERE IS YOUR TIME SPENT? The following exercise is designed to help you reflect on where you spend most of your time. Writing Your Own Eulogy. an optimistic view on what is to come. will have given you an opportunity to reflect on the different aspects of your life. HOW MUCH TIME ARE YOU SPENDING FOR: WORK ___________________ HOBBIES __________________ FRIENDS __________________ FAMILY __________________ HEALTH __________________ EDUCATION _______________ RELIGION _________________ YOURSELF ________________ 27 . like all the other exercises in this book should not be an exercise in examining your shortcoming but rather your potential. The exercise in the previous chapter. I also would like you to estimate the approximate amount of time you currently spend on each aspect.
28 .Go Ahead Make Your Day HOW MUCH TIME SHOULD YOU SPEND WITH: WORK ___________________ HOBBIES __________________ FRIENDS __________________ FAMILY __________________ HEALTH __________________ EDUCATION _______________ RELIGION _________________ YOURSELF ________________ POINTS TO REMEMBER Aim for a balanced life.
despite Jim. At the time. I tried to get rid of him but was not successful at getting him transferred. I felt that if I couldn't be happy at work. I tried to refuse to take him but I had no choice. because of the nature of the job his laziness had a direct influence on the amount of work I was required to do. Unfortunately. I expected that I would need to work a little harder. After a few weeks his laziness no longer bothered me because I no longer expected anything from him. In several cases his laziness cost the company money. His attitude and ethics drove me crazy. and they continued making comments about him. mostly his own. I even started to understand him and his priorities." This response made me even more furious. I was so fed up that I stopped expecting anything from Jim. When I worked with him I didn't expect any help from him. His response was "I knew what he was like before he moved into the department. than I should not be writing a book on being happy. Jim made me so miserable that several times I had second thoughts about writing this book. At that point. I 29 . I accepted Jim for who he was. At one point a couple co-workers and I approached our supervisor to complain. This chapter has been added to this book thanks to a lazy co-worker of mine.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER NINE DON'T EXPECT TOO MUCH FROM OTHERS Don't expect too much from others and you will never be disappointed. I was writing this book and nowhere in my book could I find a way to be happy in the presence of this person. This person whom I will call Jim was very concerned with energy conservation. My other colleagues continued to let Jim upset them.
It didn't matter to me.Go Ahead Make Your Day realized that many of Jim's acts of laziness were manufactured by us and then exaggerated. Dale Carnegie. I was trying to quit drinking coffee. I don't expect people to be in a good mood all the time. I noticed his pick-up truck in the ditch. Only one came back and thanked Jesus for what he had done.m. I don't expect people to be grateful when I help them. He accepted the coffee that I had craved so much for. but on this unexpectedly cold morning I yielded to the temptation. I stopped to buy a coffee to drink on my way to work. On the way to the hospital I kept talking with the man to make sure he was not going into shock. I never expected to be thanked. I honestly felt good about being able to help. He told me he had just come from the coffee shop so I offered him my coffee. In fact it was not until later when I was telling my friends what great excitement I had on my way to work that my friends asked me if the man had even thanked me. Should we expect any more then what Jesus received? DON'T LET INGRATITUDE RUIN YOUR HAPPINESS. I pulled over and got out of my truck. made the comparison in his book.. I helped him into my truck and I drove him to the nearest hospital. Once at the hospital I waited until the emergency staff arrived to take over. or expect people to get as excited about the pictures of my babies as I do. I immediately gave him a cloth so he could cover his wound and told him to apply pressure. One cold November morning at 5:00 a. The whole experience would have been a negative one. In the past I would have been so upset that he didn't try to thank me. 30 . nor do I expect a favor to be returned every time I do one. I even felt good about sacrificing my coffee. NOTHING NEW If you can adopt this way of thinking you will not be disappointed by others when they don’ live up to your expectations. At the time. "How To Stop Worrying and Start Living" when Jesus healed ten lepers. With my new mind set the whole experience was now positive. who is one of my favorite author. He responded by saying "yah". About five minutes out of town I was flagged down by a man at the side of the road. he didn't even ask me my name so he could thank me later. His face was covered with blood due to a head injury. I don't expect people to work as t hard as me. Once the staff arrived I said good bye and wished him well.
You don’ give or help to be thanked. The great thing with this giving outlook is that you never need to concern yourself with your own needs. If you adopt a giving attitude I guarantee your needs will be taken care of. our work. our society… we get a true feeling of belonging. so why let t feelings of ingratitude rob you of feeling happy about doing good Give. When we have a sense of contributing in out daily lives to our friends. Think of how much better the whole world would be if people would be more concerned with giving than receiving.Go Ahead Make Your Day GIVE WITHOUT NEEDING TO BE GIVEN TO I believe that it is only through giving that we can really be happy. 31 . POINTS TO REMEMBER Don’ expect to much from others. t If only one out of ten lepers return to thank Jesus should we expect anything more. Happiness comes from having a sense of contributing.
thought it was perfect. on the other hand. more conservative parishioners were appalled.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER TEN COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS One hot Sunday afternoon as my family and I sat in the pew at church waiting for the young priest to start his sermon. 32 . Half the church consisting of older. He stepped up to the pulpit and gave a sermon on counting your blessing. His sermon was so perfect. And that is that! POINTS TO REMEMBER Count your blessings. We all know we should count our blessings. so simple that it stayed with me all these years. the other half were just glad they didn't have to sit through a long sermon. beads of sweat rolled off our faces. His sermon was so perfect I feel that I should share it with you word for word: "Count your blessings" The priest then turned around and walked back to his seat. Count them frequently. I.
I am hoping by this point that making a statement like "stop worrying" will not sound so inconceivable. is Dale Carnegie's "How Stop Worrying and Start Living.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER ELEVEN STOP WORRYING It is with good reason that I deliberately placed this chapter near the end of the book. There are other areas of health problems that stem from excessive worrying.. WHY STOP WORRYING? Before I start writing about techniques that might help you stop worrying I think it is important to first remind you of the importance of controlling your worries. I am strongly convinced that worrying is probably responsible for more deaths then we may think. This means that you should not waste your time worrying about what has happened or worrying about what might happen. When you think of health problems due to worrying the obvious heart attack and ulcers come to mind. You know by now that you are responsible for your reactions. obesity. Remember not to take yourself so seriously. To thoroughly cover this topic it would take an entire book. pressure. Excessive worrying may also cause some cases of insomnia." With the exception of my own book and the Bible no book has changed my life more. anorexia. such as cancer. some of the techniques that have served me best. In the meantime I will try to bring to you in this short chapter. Researchers are discovering that many other health problems can also be related to excessive worrying. A book I would highly recommend to anyone. Study's now show that falling asleep when driving causes more 33 . alcoholism. etc.. Insomnia can cause people to get drowsy or fall asleep when they are expected to make decisions that may mean life or death. respiratory problems and diabetes to name a few. depression. Worrying is only a reaction to stress. In fact many fine books have been written on the subject. You should also know that you should focus on now.
I had already read Dale Carnegie's book "How to Win Friends and Influence People" when I saw his book "How To Stop Worrying and Start Living". therefore. We need to be reminded from time to time on the importance of not worrying and on some of the methods you could use not to worry. I knew if I didn't do something about my worrying that I would end up with an ulcer before I was seventeen. Rachelle. who is now my wife. that I was not good enough for her. I LEARNED AND SO CAN YOU! When I was thirteen years old I was definitely a chronic worrier. I started falling asleep faster. I would worry about failing at school so much that I almost did. Here are some of the methods I use to control my worrying: METHOD #1: FOCUS ON PREVENTION. For the first six months I worried about everything. I worried about my future and just about everything else. Shortly after I had started reading the book my life started to change. My wife would probably categorize me as someone who doesn't worry enough. possible to stop worrying but it is an ongoing battle. When I was young I would worry about failing my classes but I never thought once that studying and working hard would guarantee me a good grade. His first book was such a joy to read that I knew had to read this other one. With all of the above mentioned I strongly believe that worrying is the biggest killer of North American. I would worry about my parents getting a divorce even though I had never even heard them argue. Since then I must of read the book at least five times from cover to cover and picked it up over 100 times to read specifics chapters. I had a more restful sleep and was more relaxed during the day. If you worry about getting fired from work. If Rachelle was only ten minutes late to call me I would get so worked up that I would almost be sick. First try to think of a way to prevent what is worrying from ever happening. I would worry but I never thought of a way to prevent my worries from happening. I literally became a new person.Go Ahead Make Your Day accidents than drinking and driving. I worried that she might leave me. When I was sixteen I met my first girlfriend. I worried about my weight. focus on becoming so good no one would dare to fire you. 34 . I felt more secure with my relationships. It is. I would go to bed at about 10 PM and stayed awake until 3 or 4 am worrying.
35 . I will work harder and take on new projects. Do yourself a favor and stay honest. If you never break the law you don't need to worry about the police breaking down your door in the middle of the night. about 70% of things I worry about don't materialize. me in my live I find that over 90% of my worries have never materialized. In most cases the worst thing that could happen is really not all that bad. If preventing something from happening is beyond my control then I quickly accept that fact. If you never lie you never have to worry about what lie you were telling to who. During the day I don't have time to give my worries much thought and by the end of the day I am so exhausted that even if I wanted to stay up all night worrying I couldn't.Go Ahead Make Your Day METHOD #2: ACCEPT THE WORST. If you never steal you never need to worry about being caught stealing. Stay honest. If I look at everything that ever worried. Now that I worry less about silly little things. Sometime we can be are own worst enemies in the fight against worrying. I know my odds and realize that it is more realistic to think that my worries will probably not happen. "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Once I know something is beyond my control then I think of the worst thing that will happen if my concern does materialize. If you don't cheat on your income tax you never need to worry about being audited." METHOD # 3: KEEP BUSY. In some cases when things are really getting to me I try to make myself as busy as I can. METHOD # 4: HONESTY IS STILL THE BEST POLICY. I then remind myself of the quote. METHOD # 5: PLAY THE ODDS. I do something constructive.
36 . Stay honest. Try to prevent. Accept the worst. First realize all the side effects of worrying. Keep busy. Play the odds.Go Ahead Make Your Day POINTS TO REMEMBER.
This chapter is about taking the time to reflect and remind yourself about the importance of being happy. Unfortunately my success alone cannot ensure you long term happiness.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER TWELVE TAKE TIME TO REFLECT KEEP WORKING By now I hope you understand that happiness is an internal thing." call it "meditation time. It is up to you. Being happy is an ongoing task. You are born with all you need to be happy. a nicer car or a fancier stereo to be happy. I am hoping that after you began to read from the book that you approached the remainder of your day with a better frame of mind. This is why this chapter may be the most important chapter in the book. 37 . If all my hopes were achieved then my job was successful. I hope that even if you learned nothing new the book gave you a chance to reflect on your priorities in life. I hope that as you read this book you find being happy easy." It doesn't matter what you call it as long as you do it. Every time you review this material I hope you are reminded that you can be happy and the time to be happy is now. Take the time as often as you can to review your goals. You don't need more money. You need to work at it. your priorities your "road map". Call this "quiet time." call it "reflection time. you cannot wait for happiness to come to you. Long term happiness is completely up to you.
then imagine cement is poured on your calves. You may visualize Yogi Flyers. You know you have done this successfully when you feel your body sink into your mattress or chair. At this point your brain is in the most 38 . that cement gets added until your eyes are covered. gives the action some kind of special power. First find a spot where you will not be interrupted. I like to visualize someone pouring warm cement on my toes. If your last 3 minutes were fully focused on your breathing and getting heavy the brain wave activity has probably slowed right down. With every other inhale imagine that heaviness or as I. To achieve this sit down in a comfortable chair or lay flat on your back. Next inhale." but for me the word. This will give your whole body a real heavy and relaxed feeling.Go Ahead Make Your Day MY MEDITATION The word meditation may conger many images in your mind. meditation. Now for every inhale feel your body getting heavier. For me meditation is a time to relax and reflect. At first you may find it necessary to be in a quiet spot but soon this will not really matter. "The Silva Mind Control Method". I guess I could easily call it "quiet time" or "reflection time. At this point you should be feeling completely relaxed. Read over the exercises in this book (To make this easy you can transpose your answers to the workbook) Once you know what you would like to meditate about it is now time to get your body relaxed. What I would like to do here is share with you a method that will help you get started meditating. You may visualize spaced out "hippies" meditating. Focus on your breathing inhale for as long as you can then slowly exhale about 5 times. In a single chapter I cannot hope to give you a detailed study of the art of meditation or the benefit of lowering your brain wave activity to an alpha state. To make this a habit you should try to do this at the same time every day. The book of meditation that probably had the most influence on my style of meditation is Jose Silva's. There are many good books written on the subject and I guess my meditation is a combination of many books that I have read. The best time would be when you first wake up.
Slowly bring yourself out of your meditation. all your goals are things that you cannot remind yourself of too often. Visualize yourself going through your day with a smile.Go Ahead Make Your Day receptive state for programming. Feel the pressures and stress leave your body. I recommend you do this once a day preferably when you first thing in the morning. All the points in this manual. POINTS TO REMEMBER Meditate Meditate often 39 . Visualize yourself handling things the way you would like to be handling them. You may now start programming your mind to be happy. It is guaranteed to get your whole day off to a great start with your goals and your priorities freshly in mind. Once you have visualized yourself as being happy or visualized anything else. you are ready to bring yourself out of your meditation. With every exhale feel yourself getting lighter. It can be as short as fifteen minutes. It should be done as often as possible. This time to yourself is a very important part of staying happy and positive.
We can be happy as quickly as we can make up our minds to be happy. we need to do it. if happiness is one of your habits these times come less frequent then for most people and when they do come the duration is shorter. The truth is that every one of us from time to time have periods when we don't want to be happy. If you read the book this far. Unfortunately. What are Habits? Dr Stephen Covey (the author of the book "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People ") says we need three elements to develop any habit. I believe that happiness is within the reach of each and every one of us. They get a feeling of being love when someone takes the time to console them. 40 . I believed that everyone wanted to be happy. When these three element are present we can develop any habit.Go Ahead Make Your Day Go Ahead Now Well there you have it. We must reach within. Our life is the sum of all our days. the twelve habits that help me in developing the happiness habit. If we want the sum of our days to equal happiness lets make happiness a a daily habit. it is save to assume that you are someone who wants to be happy. we need to know how to and then thirdly. Secondly. The first element we need is to want to. Some people love the attention they get when they are upset. Fortunately. Want to When I first started out writing this book I naively believed that this first element was a given. some people hardly ever want to be happy.
It requires you to make a conscious decision to be happy on a daily basis.Go Ahead Make Your Day The How To I said that when I started writing this book I made the mistake of thinking that everyone wanted to be happy. your customers ." It was only after giving up about thirty times that I finally understood what I meant when I pick the title of this book" Go Ahead and Make Your Day". “ Who am I trying to fool? If I can't teach my own wife to be happy then how can I go out and teach anyone else. This way of thinking was the single factor that made me give up several times on writing this book. I knew that it was my responsibility to make it my day. your employer. Some days I would come home to find my own wife unhappy. The one thing that I was not getting was that it's not my responsibility to make other people’ day. Don't waste another day. I would say to myself. Regardless of the weather. 41 . Don't waste another month being unhappy. Don't waste another week being unhappy. I also made another huge mistake when I thought that I could teach people to be happy. All s that I can really do is show an example and point people in the right direction.. Why couldn't I give her some words of wisdom that would make here feel better. A person that I shared all of my believes with. They must make their own day. This was a person who had proofread the first draft of my book. Everything that has been written here means nothing unless you do it. I thought that I was an expert and that I could teach the world to be happy. I strongly believed that everyone wanted to be happy but just needed the knowledge. Do It This is the part that people have the hardest time with. From the time I started writing this book I have been reading everything I can about happiness. GO AHEAD AND MAKE YOUR DAY..
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APPENDIX A GO AHEAD MAKE YOUR DAY
YOUR NOTES YOUR GUIDE YOUR BOOK ON BEING HAPPY
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BECOMING YOUR BEST FRIEND
WHAT I NEED IN A BEST FRIEND IS:
Be happy, loving and content with yourself and you will automatically radiate love and happiness.
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CHAPTER TWO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR REACTIONS
LIST 5 SITUATION THAT YOU WOULD LIKE ACT DIFFERENTLY IN
1 _______________________________ 2 _______________________________ 3 _______________________________ 4 _______________________________ 5 _______________________________
Life is a series of actions acting on you. To every action there are several positive reactions. Take full responsibility for your reactions. Once you have selected the right positive reaction visualize yourself reacting in that manner until it is an automatic reaction.
Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER THREE COMPETING ONLY WITH YOURSELF THINK OF ONE THING THAT YOU WILL DO BETTER TODAY THEN YOU DID YESTERDAY IMPORTANT POINT Compete only with yourself. 4 . Enjoy other people's successes no matter how small. Enjoy every one of your successes no matter how small.
THINK OF A GOOD BLOOPER THAT YOU COULD SHARE WITH OTHER. ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ IMPORTANT POINTS Don't take yourself so seriously. Share your bloopers with others.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER FOUR DON'T TAKE YOURSELF TOO SERIOUSLY . 5 . Take words said to you lightly and with humor. Learn to laugh at your bloopers.
Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER FIVE WELCOME CRITICISM Points to Remember Criticism can be helpful If it was only intended to hurt you try to benefit from it anyway. 6 . If you can’ find any benefits don’ allow your critic t t the satisfaction of upsetting you.
Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER SIX WRITE YOUR OWN EULOGY What would you like your: Spouse to say? Children to say? 7 .
Go Ahead Make Your Day Friends to say? Co-workers to say? 8 .
Live your life every day with your eulogy in mind. Write your own eulogy. If you don't remind yourself of your final destination frequently you may be going further away.Go Ahead Make Your Day Community to say? Church to say? Neighbors to say? POINTS TO REMEMBER Keep in mind it may be your last. 9 .
Learn to focus all your mental abilities on the task at hand. 10 .Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER SEVEN FOCUS ON NOW EXERCISE Write your focus goals: POINTS TO REMEMBER Focus on now. Don't wait for "some day" to be happy.
Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER EIGHT AIM FOR BALANCE HOW MUCH TIME ARE YOU SPENDING FOR: WORK ___________________ HOBBIES __________________ FRIENDS __________________ FAMILY __________________ HEALTH __________________ EDUCATION _______________ RELIGION _________________ YOURSELF ________________ 11 .
12 .Go Ahead Make Your Day HOW MUCH TIME SHOULD WORK ___________________ HOBBIES __________________ FRIENDS __________________ FAMILY __________________ HEALTH __________________ EDUCATION _______________ RELIGION _________________ YOURSELF ________________ POINTS TO REMEMBER Aim for a balanced life.
You don’ give or help to be thanked. 13 .Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER NINE DON'T EXPECT TOO MUCH FROM OTHERS POINTS TO REMEMBER Don’ expect to much from others. so t why let feelings of ingratitude rob you of feeling happy about doing good Give. t If only one out of ten lepers return to thank Jesus should we expect anything more.
Count them frequently.Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER TEN COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS POINTS TO REMEMBER Count your blessings.. 14 .
15 .Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER ELEVEN STOP WORRYING POINTS TO REMEMBER. Try to prevent. Play the odds. Stay honest. Accept the worst. First realize all the side effects of worrying. Keep busy.
Go Ahead Make Your Day CHAPTER TWELVE TAKE TIME TO REFLECT POINTS TO REMEMBER Meditate Meditate daily 16 .