Healing Broken Relationships and Bitterness

Introduction: read story of little boy wanting to go fishing with his dad When you get offended and hurt in a relationship, how do you feel? Circle all that apply (angry, rejected, guilty, depressed, stubborn, defensive, hatred, bitterness, blame someone) A. Examples in the Bible about broken relationships: 1. King David’s broken relationship with God. Psa. 51; II Sam 11:1-27 and 12:1-7 adultery with Bethsheba. 2. Paul’s broken relationship with Peter. Gal 2:11-16 hypocrisy, law vs. grace 3. Philemon, a slave has a broken relationship with his master. He becomes a believer. Paul was the middleman to help the healing and take on the debt. Phil. 1:18 B. Example of a wrong way to resolve conflict 1. Cain killed his brother Abel. Gen 4:18; 1 John 3:12 2. Jacob deceived Esau out of his inheritance. Gen 25:32, Heb 12:16 C. Causes of Broken relationships 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. James 4:1-3 Isa. 59:1,2 Matt 18:21-39 1 John 4:20,21 Matt 6:14,15 1 John 1:6-7 1 John 2:9-11 Matt 18:15-17 Eccl 5:4-6 People fight because of s_____ desires (sin), lust Sin causes sep__________ How often should I forgive? If we say we love God but ha___ our neighbor, how can we say we love God? Unwilling to fo______ By not walking in the li_____ of Christ Ha________ your brother (not walking in the light) Unwilling to g_ to the one who offends Broken pr_______ or broken trust

D. Relationship – circle which one you struggle with these days • Co-worker • Family • Friends • Dating • People in authority E. Three sources of irritation - circle which one you struggle with these days • People • Environment • Self F. We communicate in three ways - circle which is most important to you • Words • Body language • Tone of voice

10201076.doc

11/15/08

G. Application: Who do you have conflict with? What is the Right Response to those who offend you? What is the Wrong Response to those who offend you? Mother or Father You Irritation - offense Resentment Bitterness A wall or barrier Co-worker or friend

H. Results of wrong response versus right response Results of unresolved Conflict 1. Bitterness Heb 12:15 2. Separation, a wall. Isa. 59:1-2 3. Anger Eph 4:26,27 4. Darkness and blindness I John 2:9-11 5. Experience a wall in our relationship with God. Matt 6:14-15 6. Blindness – a log in your eye. Luke 6:42 • • Steps of Reconciliation and healing 1. Look at the broken relationship from God’s point of view. What is God teaching me? 2. Forgive or ask forgiveness Matt 18:15-35 3. Pray for the other person. Matt 5:44 4. Pursue peace. Heb 12:14; Matt 5:9 5. Treat others the way you want to be treated Matt 7:12, Luke 6:31 6. Emotional healing takes time and sometimes therapy (counseling). 7. Sometime restitution is required. An American Expression: “have a soft heart but tough skin” Sometime relationships can not be totally resolved because some people will not like who for who you are or because you are a Christian

Sometimes God uses conflict, broken relationship or irritation to develop Christlike character. What is the hammer and chisel that God using in your life to develop character?

10201076.doc

11/15/08

Sign up to vote on this title
UsefulNot useful