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They were you. They were you. They were you. Without you near me, I can’t see. When you’re near me, Wonderful things come to be. Every secret prayer, Every fancy free, Everything I dared for both you and me. All my wildest dreams Multiplied by two They were you. They were you. They were you. Ok. You might not be a Broadway wonk. I get that. I can live with that. I understand if spats and spirit glue mean a hill of beans to you. But you can’t deny the potent power of romance, the power of two people discovering that the pleasures and blessings from their separate pathways were, in a sense, breadcrumbs leading home to the fixed star. All the shining lights? They were you. All the rainbows far away? They were you. Every fancy free? All my wildest dreams? They were you. In Luke 15, Jesus asks, “Suppose one of you has a hundred sheep and loses one of them. Doesn’t he leave the ninetynine in the open country and go after the lost sheep until he finds it?” I can just see that feisty little sheep, snorting
The iconic off-Broadway comedy “The Fantasticks” is the world’s longest-running musical. It opened May 3, 1960 and closed January 13, 2002 after 17,162 performances. (The show was revived in 2006 and is still playing today at the Snapple Theater Center in NYC.) Its breezy score, intimate staging, and whimsical goodnaturedness have proven to be a formula for longevity. Or maybe it’s that one song. You know, the one you can’t get out of your head. For weeks. The song that might be the most tender love ballad in 100 years of Broadway anthologies: “They Were You.”
through the moss, then the moss over there, then the distant moss, then the really good-looking horizon moss that promises green mouthfuls and a warm tummy, and suddenly I raise my smelly shorn head and find myself alone with nothing but…moss. And then I see him, plodding over the hill, a silhouette gaining detail and expression as he approaches. And what do you think my shepherd does? He holds out his arms, calls my name softly, and offers me something to eat that’s better. It’s a gentle attraction. There seems to be two ways of looking at life: that the points of light, beauty, delights, sweet sunrises and warm greetings, are either the exception to the rule or the rule itself. Either God woos us with a quiet, persistent fortitude, or God begrudges us tender relief here and there between our just deserts — or worse, when we “are due,” like a drowsy Karma broker. Which is it? Which is most in line with Scripture? Is God rightly passive or strangely in pursuit? As Henri Nouwen writes, “Many people don’t think they are loved, or held safe, and so when suffering comes they see it as an affirmation of their worthlessness. The great question of ministry and the spiritual life is to learn to live our brokenness under the blessing and not the curse.” I choose the blessing. So. All the colors? Coffee? Breadcrumbs for ducks? They were You. (I say it with mustard-seed faith!) All the light? Stars burning behind navy clouds? They were You. The smile of my son, the laugh of my daughter, the rainy sheen on a silver street? They were You. They were You. They were You.
The two lovers, Luisa and Matt, discover their marriage has been the result of an intricate if somewhat ridiculous conspiracy by their fathers, adding undue strain to their already shaky union. They part ways, each leaving their small town to experience the “real world” alone. After a predictably traumatic series of misfortunes, both characters return with revived commitment for one another. That’s when they sing the song: When the moon was young, When the month was May, When the stage was hung for my holiday, I saw shining lights But I never knew: They were you. They were you. They were you. When the dance was done, When I went my way, When I tried to find rainbows far away, All the lovely lights Seemed to fade from view:
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Irving Bible Church: a community on a journey.
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Why are we here?
IBC is on a journey committed to growing in Christ, connecting in community and joining the mission. This commitment comes from Jesus’ words in the Great Commandment (Matthew 22:36-39) and Great Commission (Matthew 28:18-20).
How do we do this?
Growing in Christ At the heart of the journey is the gospel of Jesus Christ, the story of the Son of God coming into our dark world to bring light, life, hope and transformation. The journey begins when we trust Christ, but it doesn’t end there. God’s desire for each of us is for our hearts and lives to become more like the one who has saved us. (Ephesians 4:11-13) Connecting in Community The gospel story draws us into a community of people whose lives have been transformed by Jesus. This journey is not one that we undertake alone. We are designed to do life together as a community of Christ-followers. It is essential that we walk with one another on the journey. (John 13:34-35) Joining the Mission The gospel tells us that one day God will take all that is broken in this world and make it whole. Those of us who are on the journey together are called to be people who do what we can to make glimpses of that day show up in our day. We do this by telling the gospel story and demonstrating gospel-shaped love to a needy world. (Matthew 28:18-20)
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Photo Update: The Gathering
The Gathering kicked back off in January, tackling a series called One Life — what it looks like to live our one life for Jesus. A weekly event for 20s and early 30s singles and married couples, The Gathering will explore Questions You Wish Christians Would Really Answer in February.
On Super Bowl Sunday (Feb. 5), IBC will hold its evening service at 4 p.m. instead of 5 p.m. Go Cowboys! Wait. No.
50 YEARS ON THE JOURNEY
IBC Sunday worship service, May 1982
A Brief History of irving BiBle CHurCH
1960 A series of home Bible studies in Irving is led Summer 1961 Several of these groups purchase an old church
1960, a few small group Bible studies gathered together and bought an old church building on Grauwyler Road in northeast Irving. The 20-person congregation formally organized themselves in 1962 as Irving Bible Church, and 50 years later the body of IBC still gathers to walk the journey of faith together as a family. In 2012, we celebrate the legacy of those believers who had the vision, endurance and faith to make — and keep — IBC a reality through the years, many of whom you can still find sitting at the Mo or walking through Town Square on any given Sunday. But most of all, we celebrate God — his faithfulness, his persistence, his blessing, his work — and praise him for the salvation and new life that make “Big C Church” possible, and IBC a reality. Makes you wonder: where will God take us next?
by Keith Gilmore.
December 1962 June 1963 Fall 1964 Summer 1965 1965 April 24, 1966 Summer 1967
building on Grauwyler Road in NE Irving (later Harvey’s Barbeque); about twenty people begin to meet as a church under leadership of Al Classen, a former missionary to Nigeria who had returned to attend Dallas Theological Seminary. Formal organization of IBC; constitution and doctrinal statement adopted. IBC begins renting Forrest Park School on Metker in north central Irving for Sunday meetings. Start of a building program to plan new facilities. Al Classen leaves to teach at Moody Bible Institute; Dr. Stan Toussaint comes in as pastor while continuing to teach at DTS; about sixty attending. Purchase of four acres of property on Finley Road. Dedication of original building on Finley Road. Toussaint resigns to become president of Colorado Bible College.
Longtime IBCers reminisce…
These IBC veterans have been around 20+ years, most even longer.
In our first years attending IBC, my son, Brendon, was starting to attend Awana on Wednesday night. One week, one of the girls’ leaders stopped me and asked if I wanted to help with the 3rd grade girls class. It was great until the leader told me she was moving and asked if I would head up the class. I looked around and no one else was there. I was totally unprepared and yes, very unqualified, but I did it. That year, Larry Aswell, who was the Awana commander, passed away suddenly from a brain aneurism. On the following Wednesday, we gave all the Awana kids a blue balloon to release in his memory. That was a special time. I was happy to be in that place at that time. A couple of years later, I found myself on staff at IBC! Moral of the story: God will open the door for you; you just have to walk (or get pushed) through it, and you will be blessed! I have been blessed a lot at IBC. Donna o’Reilly
I started attending IBC before Andy was our pastor. Our family was in the process of changing churches, and we wanted one that taught the Bible. I remember when there was a change, and Andy became a candidate for the pastorate. I really wanted Andy, and joined the church so I could vote for him. So many years later, I’m still so grateful for Andy and Alice McQuitty. God has used them along with so many faithful members to guide our church. FloRence JaRRell My parents started attending Irving Bible Church before I was born and some 40 years later, my family and I still attend and serve weekly at IBC. My earliest and fondest memories of IBC are with my Grandfather. “Papa” was the IBC custodian for about 10 years in the ‘70s. But he was also the unofficial greeter every Sunday morning. Sometimes, I would join him at the front door as he warmly welcomed each member with a hearty handshake. I treasure my childhood experience at IBC and am blessed to see my kids building similar life-long memories. loRen MacDonalD
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October 1, 1967 Chuck Swindoll begins as pastor. December 6, 1970 Dedication of auditorium on Finley Rd. Summer 1971 Swindoll leaves to begin ministry at First Evangelical January 1973 December 1978 Summer 1979 Fall 1984 December 1986
October 4, 1987 1988 1989 February 3, 1991
Free Church in Fullerton, CA; Sunday attendance about 450; Dr. Ken Barker serves as interim pastor. Dr. Stan Toussaint returns to IBC as pastor and to DTS as a professor. Toussaint resigns due to increasing demands of teaching and pastoring; IBC attendance about 450. Ken Parlin comes to IBC as pastor from a ministry in Omaha, NE. A group leaves IBC to start Community Bible Church of Irving. Ken Parlin resigns as pastor of IBC; attendance about 200. A young associate pastor in Garland named Andy says of IBC, “God help the poor guy who pastors that church next!” Andy McQuitty’s first Sunday as pastor of IBC. He is 32 years old. IBC’s technology consists of only a Selectric typewriter and a mimeograph machine. IBC spends $16,000 on its first Apple computer system. IBC gets its new building sign, complete with a very fancy planter. Andy preaches a sermon titled “Purpose: Letting the Why Drive the Wherefore,” in which he says, “I dream of a church where… The Gospel is the underlying theme; where grace is accepted, valued, extended; where the salvation of souls is the norm, not the exception; where self-discipline and holiness of life spring, not from guilty compulsion, but from grateful servanthood; where joy and hope reign. Where love for people springs from love for God; where joy and gratefulness to God permeate the air;
1991 May 19, 1991 December 1992 1991-1993 Fall 1994 Fall 1995 Fall 1996 1998 1999 2001 2002 Easter 2003 2004 2005 2005
where God’s people are one in spirit; where service is considered a privilege and not a pain. The IBC organ and choir robes mysteriously disappear under cover of darkness. Dedication of Educational Building on Finley. Revised Constitution approved. IBC outreach concert series hosts then-unknown bands The Newsboys and DC Talk in the parking lot. Capital funds campaign for relocation: $1.9 million pledged. Average attendance in sanctuary: 725. Average children’s attendance: 175. Little-known band The Dixie Chicks plays for the grand opening celebration at the new Kinwest location. The band Mercy Me records “Traces of Rain, V. 2” in IBC’s music studio. The Kutchi are chosen as IBC’s unreached people group focus and initial strategy is discussed. Earthquake devastates thousands in Kutch. IBC provides funds for relief work, and helps to provide over 400 families with new housing. New Town Square and Worship Center is complete. “The Ugly Mug” coffee shop opens at the east end. First Easter is held in the new Worship Center. The central ceiling beam bears the names of those for whom IBCers are praying to come to faith. First IBC Back to School event. Candles in the worship service becoming a regular part of the service landscape. Lent formally observed at IBC. The first Maundy Thursday Service is held.
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Construction of Town Square and Worship Center, October 29, 2001
IBC leadership, about 1963
IBC staff, 1993
We started at IBC in ‘87 (I think) because we lived a block away and if I didn’t like it I could always walk home. I came from a Catholic background with 13 years of Catholic education, but stopped going to church for many years. I really enjoyed the Bible teaching (what a concept) and the people at IBC. Still do. The best memories so far have been serving in youth group with my sons, and I would encourage everyone to do this whether they want you there or not. Where else can you put peanut butter under your arm pits, wear false teeth, act crazy, be in a play, wreck the rental van in San Antonio, and still be allowed on the premises? Pat o’Reilly I remember when we still used the hymnals in the service, and because Ken (my husband) was so tall we could never share one! I remember when we took our kids to the nursery and they just opened the door because everybody knew everybody and we didn’t even have to sign them in or out. I remember playing softball on the IBC Women’s softball team even when some of us were pregnant and couldn’t run very well! I also remember Ken and Pastor Andy playing basketball together on the IBC Men’s team and stirring up some trouble (getting kicked out of a game)! SheRRi ShaRP
From the first time I set foot in IBC, I felt right at home. My husband Ken and I were new believers, and soon my mother Betty Slackney began attending also. One of my earliest memories of IBC is the Sunday that my mother, my husband, and I were baptized in the baptismal at the front of the old sanctuary. I’ve always appreciated all the great teaching of God’s word at IBC — not only for myself, but also for my children Matthew and Michelle. I appreciate all the wonderful people who shared their love of the Lord and taught and nurtured my kids as they grew up at IBC: Elaine Bethea, Susie Mercer, Ellen Theilen, Pat Martin, Betty Slackney, Linda Butcher, Jan Fanning, Richard Bridges, Robin Hurt, Barry and Cindy Harrington, and Scott Werntz — just to name a few. Suzie GReen Have a memory you’d like to share? Visit our Facebook page and post your remembrances: Facebook.com/irvingbible.
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April 2005 The first issue of Chatter goes to print. August 2005 Hurricane Katrina hits the gulf coast. IBCers ship
2005 2006 2006 2006 2008 May 2008 August 24, 2008 2009 July 2009 2010 December 2010 2011
truckloads of supplies and water to Louisiana and Mississippi, along with work crews. 700 IBC families adopt refugee families and shuttle them to Town Square for month-long emergency assistance programs. Advent formally observed at IBC. First Ash Wednesday service is held. Water is Basic is founded. Over 350 wells have been drilled to date, changing the living conditions of roughly 400,000 Sudanese. First Lighting the Flame service held to kick off the Advent season. IBC launches Parenting Alone, a one-stop resource and relationship center for single parents to help meet their physical, emotional and spiritual needs. Elders revise IBC’s statement of “Women and Ministry at IBC.” Jackie Roese preaches for the first time, drawing national attention. IBC holds its first Pentecost Festival. Andy is diagnosed with Stage IV colon cancer. He wears a pager that beeps every time someone prays for him and lets him know. IBC is awarded the Golden Apple Award for service to students in the Irving Independent School District. Pastor Andy declared in full remission. New web site launches; social media expands; The Summit begins at IBC as a way to celebrate and communicate to the volunteers who serve the church in any capacity. Launch of Small Groups at IBC. IBC celebrates 50 years on the journey. More to come.
Albert J. Classen, 1963
E. Andrew McQuitty, 1988
Senior Pastors of IBC
Albert J. Classen Stanley D. Toussaint Charles R. Swindoll Kenneth Barker (interim pastor) Stanley D. Toussaint Ken L. Parlin E. Andrew McQuitty 1961-65 1965-67 1967-71 1971-73 1973-78 1979-86 1987-present
Forrest Park School, 1963
BY T H E N U M B E R S
Ag e ( y eAr s)
WH ere i BC lives (toP 8 Cities)
Carrollton: 140 Coppell: 1,024
45–54 35–44 25–34
Dallas: 285 Euless: 139 18–24 Flower Mound: 440 Grapevine: 173
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46.4% 53.6% total number of Adults: 2,710
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Irving: 1,629 Lewisville: 292 Key: = 100 people
where you’re needed for God’s glory,” she says. “We talk about what it means to grow in Christ, connect in community, and join the mission, and what that might look like for you.” Leesa says Propel brings the big scale of IBC down in a way that enables people to meet each other and get plugged in. “Propel offers an opportunity to meet IBC’s ministry leaders and learn more about how they can be used.” She says it’s also about community.“I think the days are over where you walk into a church and you just know everyone.” She adds, “IBC is always trying to create a sense of community. Churches have to evolve with the times to continually break down the barriers.” Prior to her Propel experience, Leesa says she went through a very dark time after the death of her father. “I was in a depression and didn’t realize it for a long time,” she says. “Everything felt broken, but the IBC service was comforting to me. There were times where I sat in the worship center and cried. My spirit knew I needed more, and that I was going to have to be more involved.” Leesa says she had to go through all of this because God was going to use it in her life and in the lives of others. “You have to be willing to step into something like Propel and be vulnerable to learn where your place could be,” she says. “A lot of people stick their toe in the water but don’t always get in. If they’d be willing to get in they would find their place.” It’s safe to say Leesa has jumped in with both feet. Having endured many challenges in her own life, Leesa says she now dreams of helping empty-nest women in midlife go through their own physical, spiritual and emotional changes. Fittingly, Leesa was recently invited to speak at a ladies’ church event in Florida. “They called me out of blue and it was kind of a full-circle moment for me,” she says. “I spoke at this church when I was 19, and Jeff and I were married at this church. It was like God gave me this gift to help me see the light again.” And her ministry continues. Leesa and Jeff are now involved in IBC’s marriage ministry where they facilitate small groups. “A marriage ministry is what saved our marriage, and that is how we knew we wanted to be involved,” she says. She adds, “My desire is that others will give IBC a chance through a program like Propel. There really is a place for everyone. Propel broke down this huge building into real people who had a heart for Jesus and for others.” Annie Wood’s father’s name is not Oliver Warbucks, but is, quite possibly, Albert Finney. Interested in living your own Propel story? See page 16 for details.
She left her longtime church home amid a struggle with depression — all while yearning for a place to serve well. Here’s how Leesa found direction and community in a new season of life. Leesa Black was raised a pastor’s daughter in Atlanta, Georgia, and for as long as she can recall, her life has been God-centered. From teaching to speaking to volunteering, she has dedicated her life to the Lord and his work. Called a true southern belle by her friends, Leesa and her family lived in Florida, Georgia, Alabama and Tennessee before making their way to Texas more than 20 years ago. Leesa, Jeff, her husband of 33 years, and two adult children — Landon and Amanda — now reside in the Dallas-Fort Worth area. The church Leesa and Jeff had been dedicated to for many years now had a different vision, and their longing to serve the Lord according to his plan for them led the Blacks to start visiting other churches. “We just wanted God to be able to use us more,” she says. “And if we couldn’t do it there, then we needed to go to a place where we could.” The desire to be Jesus’ hands and feet is what initially led Leesa and her husband to visit IBC. “We always knew God had something for us and we were searching for that.” Leesa and Jeff had been praying to figure out where they belonged for quite some time, and didn’t just want to go to church once a week.They wanted to be involved, but there was a problem. “The first time we walked into IBC, I remember thinking I could never fit in here. IBC was such a welloiled machine and I couldn’t imagine what they could need me for,” she says. One Sunday after church, Leesa and Jeff were having lunch at a local restaurant when they ran into IBC pastor Bryan Eck. Leesa says she shared her story with Bryan, and her concern of not fitting in or finding a place to serve. Bryan suggested Leesa and Jeff try IBC’s Propel program and said he thought it would make a difference if they were willing to give it a try. “We went not knowing what to expect or what it would be,” she says. “Instantly, we fell in love, and after the first Sunday, we committed to go through the fourweek program.” Leesa says Propel is an experience designed to help you figure out how you can best plug in to IBC’s culture and calling. “Propel is intended to ‘propel’ you into
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IBCers and Their Stuff: Gray Matter
We all have stuff. Stuff describes us, even defines us. (Or does it?) Whatever our stuff may mean, we all have at least a little of it. And some of it is really interesting. Meet the Grays, IBC’s resident musical family. Rusty plays piano/keyboard on Sundays with the IBC Band (and also plays the trumpet); Linda sings in Vox Humana and Ensemble Choirs; daughter Leah helps lead worship on Sundays with the IBC Band (and also plays French horn); son Daniel plays the euphonium and runs the camera during service. Chances are you’ll see — or hear — one of them in some capacity every Sunday. But enough about them. Here is their stuff.
1. DanIEL Gray: son 2. EuphonIuM: I started playing this about a year
ago, and I really do enjoy it. Making the switch from trumpet actually didn’t take me too long, and I’ve been more successful on the euphonium, so that’s cool.
3. XBoX: This is mainly what I do with my free time. 4. GoLF CLuB: I’ve been playing golf with my dad
since I was little, and every summer I get more and more into it. This past summer we tried to play once a week, and I think I got pretty good.
5. ruSTy Gray: dad 6. MELoDEon: This was recently used for Advent
Sessions V. 1. I got it when I was ten years old from Kuwait, and at times it was my only means of practicing the piano — which I started playing when I was three.
7. TruMpET anD BaTon: These are my everyday
teaching materials. Someone called the baton a “wand,” and well, sometimes I wish it was because some days I think making middle-schoolers disappear would be a great thing. keep it on my desk at work for studying, and to remind me of my true purpose and hope.
8. BIBLE: This is my wife’s grandfather’s Bible. I
9. LInDa Gray : mom 10. SaMoa: My husband used to travel to many
countries and lead worship for an evangelist, and on their trip to Samoa I was invited to join. These are some of the gifts we received from the natives.
11. aDDInG MaChInE: When I was in college,
I wanted to be a math major because I loved it so much; but because I use the adding machine daily, I’m pretty bad at “off-the-top-of-my-head” math now. getting it than I have in my entire life.
12. IpaD: I love my iPad! I have read more books since 13. LEah Gray: daughter 14. BLoG: It started as a hobby, but has turned into
a bit of an obsession. If I get started on a post, I normally lose track of a lot of much needed time.
15. MICrophonE: I’ve been singing since I could
speak, maybe even before. It’s my biggest passion in life and I’m currently trying to figure out what I’m going to do with it! my Christmas money on it in a heart beat. I use it more than my fancy Nikon because the pictures are gorgeous and very natural.
16. CaMEra: I found this in a pawnshop and dropped
are you an iBcer? Do you have stuff ? We want to show-and-tell it. contact firstname.lastname@example.org.
Word to the Why’s
Within two months of each other, in the height of the fall holidays, both of my sisters delivered healthy baby girls. Lexie Grace and Abigail Hope.
WISDOM FOR PAREnTS WhO WOnDER
I have Anniston Cate — the first grandchild — and I am bitter that my sisters didn’t let me in on the fact that we were supposed to give the little bambinos Fruits-of-the-Spirit middle names. But that’s the price you pay for being the first and the oldest; you always miss out on cool trends and usually settle for something plain and responsible like “Cate.” But that’s beside the point. The point is, my parents rang in the New Year with a grand total of six females to deal with until the day they die. That’s right. Six.
Because the truth is, even though their babies have had babies, we are still more of their babies than the new babies. Right? You following me? And at the end of the day, even though my parents didn’t cry at any of our weddings and told us they were going to travel in a Winnebago and would contact us in a few years once they recovered from raising us, well, they’ve come back around. They’ve only slipped through our fingers and gone off-grid a few times. (Note: Just because you are an empty-nester does not mean you can go offgrid. We, as your adult children, will actually call the police and put a search warrant out on Facebook for you until we ascertain that you are alive and can possibly still babysit your granddaughter and can possibly still take us shopping or meet us for dinner or that you have not actually gone out to a farm to re-live the 60s like you always swore you would do when we were completely, emotionally, hatefully 16-year-old-girls.) We are forever their girls. And our daughters are forever their granddaughters. For-ev-er. My poor parents. They were young — 21-year-olds — working as missionaries with a Navajo tribe in New Mexico. No mom friends, play-dates, guy friends who have “been there done that” or older, wiser parents and grandparents to say, “This is normal. Give her to us. Go take a nap.” No one there to tell the young, ex-hippy, idealistic couple that this was just the beginning of a long road — and really — they better take a nap. And maybe take out a second mortgage. And maybe get their hearts ready for little girls who would crush their spirits, test their sanity, and make their hearts love and their souls soar in ways they didn’t even know were humanly possible. That’s the kind of stuff that only another parent can tell you. And here are some more wise warnings.
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Once you become a parent, you are in for life. They never go away. Once you potty train, beware; they will suddenly have to urinate at the most inopportune moments in places with the dirtiest public bathrooms imaginable. Once they talk, they will never stop asking why or saying Mommy. Once they discover your smartphone, it will no longer be your smartphone. If you love them well, they will come back to you — again and again. If you treat them with respect, they will actually listen to what you have to say (whether they act like it or not). If you guide them to honesty, they might end up confessing. If empathy abides in your home, your child might grow up to give away everything they hold dear. They will hurt you. They are born with an innate ability to be really, really good liars. Time-outs can actually go on for 48 hours and you might need a bottle of wine and earplugs. There are some things a book cannot teach. There are things you can’t be warned about until they happen. And they break you. When those things happen, grieve. Be angry. Be confused. Be scared. Remind yourself you are in for life. And then? You need community. Mentors. Support. Wisdom. And a healthy dose of another parent’s horror stories. Followed by a mom or dad who will cry or cuss with you and then help you get back. These are the things that only other parents can tell you.
TRICkS oF THE TRADE
My daughter will be three years old next month. I cannot believe how fast she has grown. She was just a little baby and now she says things like, “Mom. I think we can compromise about these M&M’s,” or “Mom, that was so sweet of Daddy to go to work and make money.” She is growing so fast. As I reflect on parenthood, I am most grateful for those little words of wisdom from other parents that have saved me these past few years. From my friend Krista who has a biological child, adopted child, and two stepsons, I got the most important piece of wisdom to date. I was trying to force feed Annie while other kids ran around playing during community group one night when Krista gently said, “You know you can just let her play and stuff a bite in her mouth every time she runs by you.” What?! You can?! By the end of that night, my kid had eaten more than she had in the previous year. An entire hotdog. Chicken. Even veggies. Like a fish, she came over and opened her mouth and I dropped a little nugget in and she ran off. I left Krista’s house amazed. This was a woman who knew what she was doing. A pastor’s wife of four once told me how she sat against her daughter’s door while a world-class tantrum ensued — she cried her eyes out as she heard her daughter screaming and kicking the door. I didn’t think this was good encouragement to a new mom at the time, but she was trying to explain that against your best efforts, some kids just have the ability to throw terrific fits and that doesn’t reflect upon you. I will always remember the first time Annie screamed for two hours straight and I sat against her bedroom door wondering if I had given birth to a demon. I remembered that lady’s voice and I felt so much more human. Is it dorky to say that my most treasured advice thus far has come from the voice of Mr. Rogers? Fred Rogers — the gentle, kind, quiet, beautiful voice that writes about giving his children tools to express their feelings. Or from one of my adopted grandparents who tells my husband and me not to squash our daughter’s strong will because it will be the very gift we want to encourage in her one day. Or from one of our very own pastor’s wives, Kim Jones, with a house full of boys who looked at me and said, “My boys literally ask me to stop sending Lunchables to school everyday! Ha! I don’t have time to make lunches everyday and so far they are all happy, healthy kids with an extra dose of Lunchables in them.” So now I will forever be able to live without guilt as I send Annie to school with a Lunchable or a less-than-perfect sack lunch. Thank you Kim Jones... thank you, thank you, thank you. The truth is, the old adage, you are only as good as the company you keep, might be the best parenting advice of all time. A how-to book can only take you so far down the road. Parental instinct or resolve can only take you so far. But wisdom from the parents and grandparents who have gone before you? It takes you the distance.
WarnInG: WarnInG: WarnInG:
“She was just a little baby and now she says things like, “Mom. I think we can compromise about these M&M’s.”
Don’t believe me? Ask my mom. She’s been at it for 31 years now. Jenny Simmons, ironically, does not like eating persimmons.
Being a mom or a dad can be 100% terrifying, according to an unscientific Chatter pole of one very dramatic person. But you know it’s true. Turn the page to learn about some helpful parenting resources and events, brought to you by Parenting at IBC.
The word “tantrum” is derived from the original Greek word meaning “to fling Oreos.”
84% of brothers believe their mother’s daughters to be overrated.
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Parenting at IBC
Whether you’re a first-time parent of a newborn or a seasoned pro with teens, the ongoing challenge of parenting only seems to increase with time. With resources for parents diminishing as children grow older, Parenting at IBC is committed to providing ongoing resources and training for parents every step of the way.
Because true life change happens primarily in the context of relationship, We value smaller groups that provide true community. Because God’s heart is gracious towards us, We value parenting that centers on grace rather than performance. Because God’s Word is living and active, We value biblical truth as essential in parenting. Because growing means caring for those beyond our homes, We value equipping children, youth and parents to serve our body and the world. Because hypocrisy is the opposite of truthfulness, We value parenting that models appropriate transparency and authenticity.
Because parenting strategies are situationally based, We value parenting grounded in lasting principles that transcend life stages. For more about Parenting at IBC, visit parenting.irvingbible.org.
Shop Talk is a highly interactive gathering for parents of kids of all ages to help sharpen their skills. As parents, we need the wisdom of other parents. Topics will include core principles of parenting as well as very practical discussion on issues parents face every day. FEBRUARY 26: Parenting — Guided by Principles
SEPTEMBER 9: Creating and Maintaining Wise Boundaries
“Can I…?” It’s a question parents hear all the time. When do we say “yes” and when do we say “no?” From an early age, our children begin to test and push the boundaries. Come learn how to wisely navigate these questions. One of the most challenging pieces of parenting is providing life-giving discipline to our children. We shape our children from an early age by how we handle consequences to rebellion. Learn how to discipline in a way that points children to the gospel and growth. Shop Talk meets in West C/D, 6:30-8 p.m. Register at parenting.irvingbible.org; KidZone is available by advanced registration at kidzone.irvingbible.org. Shop Talk is a free event. Questions? Contact Mary Ann at email@example.com.
oCToBER 21: Loving and Effective Discipline
Parenting at IBC has adopted core principles to guide this ministry and how we parent (see above). Come explore how identifying your family’s core principles can guide your parenting.
APRIL 15: Lost in Translation
Many times kids and parents are speaking different languages. Whether you have a seven-year-old or a 17-year-old, effective communication is key. Learn principles for speaking a language everyone can understand.
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Shop class is, in fact, still a thing.
Dr. Spock recommends a Vulcan diet for newborn humans.
Much has happened in world history after Jesus gave twelve men on a mountain the Great commission. But if you’re curious how, exactly, the gospel has surged through the peoples and places of the world over the past 2,000 years, here is a quick snapshot of christianity — the largest and longest running movement in history.
pErIoD onE: Winning the Romans (A.D. 0 – 400) • The gospel flows primarily along trade routes and cuts across social classes. • It flourishes rapidly during the early centuries and only begins to slow when it becomes the official imperial religion. Those who fear and despise Rome begin to fear and despise the Roman Christians — a warning to churches who mix nationalism with their gospel message. • There is soon a cultural “flourishing” of the peoples and lands that embrace Christ. Imagine if the Roman believers had chosen to bless the nations with some of the power and wealth accumulated between A.D. 310 to A.D. 410! Perhaps the history of Roman society would be very different. pErIoD TWo: Winning the Barbarians (A.D. 400 – 800) • Surprise! Some of the Barbarian tribesmen who invaded the Roman Empire are evangelized. Later in this period, the first monastic orders are established. Most monks of this era are reclusive, however some of the Celtic and Irish are more willing to venture out with the good news. (At IBC, we give special props to the Irish!)
Good News Traveling Fast
pErIoD ThrEE: Winning the Vikings (A.D. 800 – 1200) • Several Viking conquerors are led to Christ by their subjects. They carry the good news to Scandinavia and other parts of northern Europe. • Following the Gregorian Reform (strengthened by the Cluny, the Cistercian and allied spiritual movements), cross-cultural missions loses its focus. pErIoD Four: The Crusades to Reformation (A.D. 1200 – 1600) • The Crusades abort the advance of the gospel by warping mission into conquest. The Friars — a new type of monasticism that is truly missional in nature — are one of the few bright lights, although the Black Plague nearly wipes them out. • The Renaissance and Reformation at the end of this period bring decentralization of Christianity. Still, the newly established Protestant movement does not reach beyond its own people. pErIoD FIVE: To the Ends of the Earth (A.D. 1600 – 2000) • Catholicism expands until Napoleon’s ransack of Europe popularizes atheism, deism, and humanism. • During the second half of this period, an organized Protestant cross-cultural movement is launched: • First to the coastlands of non-western countries (1800 – 1910, European- led) • Then to the inlands of non-western countries (1865 – 1980, American-led) • And, in our generation, the focus has been on the unreached, unevangelized (less than 2% Christian) peoples of the world (1935 – present, Non-Western-led). So, here we are in between Christ’s establishment of God’s Kingdom and the end of the story. Just think — we could be living in the last era of world missions! From participating in Water is Basic to focusing on the Kutchi unreached people group, IBC is making history with the resources that God has entrusted to us. To learn more about IBC’s role in God’s global story, both across the street and around the world, you’re invited to attend the upcoming Lunch on a Misson on February 26 at IBC. Debbie Atteberry has visited places where it’s not unusual to see a guy riding a camel while trying out a new app on his mobile phone.
Source: www.perspectives.org (lesson 6)
• The Barbarians advance across most of Western and Central Europe. Rome loses half of its empire while the Barbarian world gains the Christian faith in the process. • Charlemagne (descendant of a Germanic Barbarian tribe) establishes temporary order out of chaos in Europe by promoting education and economic development under the strong influence of the monastic mission centers.
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Web: www.missionfrontiers.org/issue/article/four-men-three-eras Book: The One Year Book of Christian History By E. Michael & Sharon Rusten (A daily glimpse into God’s work around the world)
Local missions. Global missions. Both are vital to our Great Commission calling. But sometimes it’s hard to understand the most pressing issues facing our community and world; sometimes it’s hard to grasp what our IBC partners are trying to accomplish and how we can support them in meaningful ways. Lunch on a Mission is a monthly event designed to encourage, educate and provide opportunities for the body of IBC to engage in the work of making disciples through our strategic partnerships, both locally and around the world. For February: Lunch on a Mission will honor the contributions made by western cross-cultural missionaries, with a look at the 50-plus IBC missionaries that have served faithfully through the years. Join us February 26 at 12:30 p.m. in West D. Contact Dieula to reserve your spot at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Groups on Sunday
There’s always something new going on in Bible communities! Here’s a taste of what’s happening this month:
Synergy 9 a.m. — Middle School Room Couples in their 40s & 50s Synergy will be continuing a series that addresses how we should attempt to build relationships with non-believers. The Tree 9 a.m. — West D 20s & 30s, married & young families Please join us as we grow together in faith and in our marriages. Crossroads 10:45 a.m. — High School Room Couples in their 20s & 30s Come join us for biblical teaching on relevant topics in a small group setting. Journey 10:45 a.m. — Middle School Room All Welcome We will be continuing our series, “Prodigal God” by Timothy Keller. on Track 10:45 a.m. — West C Single Parents February: discussion of the IBC Teaching Series. We sit together at the 9 a.m. service (lower right hand side) and meet afterwards. Renew 10:45 a.m. — Training Center Diverse, All Ages & Stages We will be joining the Propel class for the month of February. This is a four-week class that requires preregistration. Legacy Builders 6:45 p.m. — Zone Jr. All Welcome Join us for fellowship, prayer and in-depth Bible teaching.
grade. Contact Beth at bhorn@ irvingbible.org.
Zone 6:30 Tuesdays, 6:30–8:30 p.m. in The Zone A weekly Bible study for kids. K-5 grade. For more info, contact Beth at email@example.com.
Ministry to Men
First Watch Fridays, 6:22 a.m. and Tuesdays, 6:30 p.m. — IBC Where are you in your journey with Christ? Where would you like to be? Join the men of First Watch for Momentum: Moving Closer to Christ. The winter study will focus on the book of Colossians. First Watch Xtra Meets Wednesdays at 6:30 a.m. in the Training Center
For Folks Ages 55+
Dinner and a Show Thursday, February 2 6:30 p.m.: Dinner at Spring Creek BBQ at Airport Freeway and Beltline Road.
Traducción del servicio dominical Será suspendida temporalmente. Checa Chatter para futuros detalles. Sunday Service Translations Will take a temporary hiatus. Watch Chatter for details. Estudio Bíblico en invierno: Colosenses, Enero 10–Marzo 6. Estudio Bíblico en primavera: Rut, Marzo 20–Abril 17. Winter Bible Study: Colossians January 10–March 6. Spring Bible Study: Ruth March 20–April 17.
8 p.m.: ITC Mainstage presents “Woman in Mind.” Call the box office at (972) 252-2787 for reservations.
Dinner and a Show Tuesday, February 7 6 p.m.: Dinner at Joe’s Coffee Shop, located at Irving Blvd and O’Connor.
Local and Global
Lunch on a Mission February 26, 12:30 p.m. Join us in West D for a Lunch of Love, honoring the contributions of missionaries. For more information please see article on pg. 13 or email Dieula at firstname.lastname@example.org. Laundry Love Volunteers Needed First Saturday of the Month Please join us as we provide free laundry cycles and detergent, strike up conversations and build relationships at Amigo Laundromat. From 9 a.m.–12 p.m. at 3349 Country Club Dr. in Irving. For more info visit llpirving.org or contact info@ llpirving.org.
7:30 p.m.: Entertainment Series of Irving at Carpenter hall presents “Aion Clarke.” For tickets, call the box office at (972) 253-1383.
Potluck Lunch and Fellowship Sunday, February 19 Immediately following the second morning service in the Commons Annex adjoining the haven.
FAITH & BELIEF
Events and Resources
Alpha — Wednesdays, 6:30 p.m. Alpha is an opportunity to explore the meaning of life and a safe haven for all honest questions. Contact Kym at email@example.com for more information.
Community and Resources
Sit with us on Sunday! Several single-parent families enjoy worshiping together in the 9 a.m. service. Come and join us in the lowest right-hand section, Rows 5 & 6, facing the stage. Single Parent Valentine’s Dinner and Dance — February 4, The Commons 6–9 p.m. Join us for dinner, crafts, limo rides, and more. Contact Jennifer at firstname.lastname@example.org.
HoPE & HEALING
Recovery at IBC Thursdays, 6–8:30 p.m. West Wing Youth Lounge Do you deal with perfectionism, pride, overeating, inappropriate anger or control? Recovery is confidential and all are welcome. Join us for a light meal at 6 p.m. for just $4. Shelter from the Storm Tuesday evenings — IBC A 16-week confidential small group study for women who have experienced the trauma of sexual abuse. We will discover what it means to find hope and healing. For more info, contact Michelle Robinson at email@example.com. Grace for the Wounded A confidential small group that explores the wounds we’ve received and the healing journey God has prepared for us. Male and female groups offered. Contact Bernadette at (678) 860-4575/txsojourner@att. net.
Marriage at IBC Sunday nights, 6:45p.m. West C/D A small group-based marriage series designed to help couples reconnect in the context of community. Visit marriage.irvingbible. org to register. KidZone is available by advanced registration.
For more info or to find out about our other Bible communities, visit biblecommunities.irvingbible.org or call Sherri at (972) 560-4614. Please visit page 20 for more Sunday Bible Communities.
Community at IBC
Small Group Leader Training February 25 If you are interested in leading a small group, this is the training for you. Contact Ryan at firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.
Marriage at IBC will be taking a break the night of February 5.
Infants Through 5th Grade
Respite Care Every fourth Saturday For families that have children with special needs. For info on how to register or to volunteer with this ministry contact Diana at email@example.com. MyZone — Wednesdays 6:30–8:30 p.m. — Zone/Zone Jr. A mid-week event for kids that’s great for bringing friends. K-5
Events and Resources
Shop Talk February 26, 6:30–8 p.m. West C/D Join us as we discuss the idea of being guided by principle in your parenting. KidZone available with registration. See article, pg. 12.
Middle/high School and College
Planet Wisdom Student Conference — February 10–11 Students 6–12 grade. See students. irvingbible.org for more info. Middle School Sundays MERGE AM — Meets in the Alcove, 10:45 a.m.–12:05 p.m.
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Life Groups meet in the Commons, 6:45–8 p.m.
Middle School Wednesdays The “W” — Meets in the Student Ministry area, 6:30–8 p.m. High School Sundays Life Groups — Meets in the Student Ministry area, 6:45–8 p.m. High School Wednesdays SWAG (Students Worship and Gathering) — Meets in the Alcove, 6:30–8 p.m. IBC College Ministry Meets Tuesdays, 7:30 p.m in the Alcove.
time! no auditions necessary. Contact Crystal at firstname.lastname@example.org.
ESL: English as a Second Language Wednesdays, 6:30–8:30 p.m. AZ14 & 15 Do you want to learn English? Improve your English? Come practice all four skills: speaking, listening, reading and writing. For more info, contact Corey at email@example.com. FREE Citizenship Class Wednesdays, 6:30–8 p.m. For those at least 18 years old who have been issued a Permanent Resident Card. We’ll guide you through the n-400 paperwork and prepare you for the main components of the new citizenship test. Contact Michael at firstname.lastname@example.org. IBC Career Transition Ministry Wednesdays, 6:30–8 p.m. Want to find a job? Come learn how to craft a rock-solid resume, use the Internet and LinkedIn to network, and ace the interview. For more info, contact Anna heil at email@example.com.
consultant, Kathe Lee, presents homeschool2college. Students 6th grade and up are encouraged to attend with their parents. no childcare available. Reservations are mandatory. Contact lowrysluvjesus@ verizon.net or see texasniche.com.
Stitches of Faith Mondays, 6:30–8:30 p.m. The Haven Our project continues: soldier afghans. Drop off your 12 x 12 inch squares to the tub in closet in the haven. Please contact Wendy Vera at firstname.lastname@example.org or (214) 533–2781. IBC Crop Night February 3, 5–10 p.m., The Training Center Just bring your pictures, albums, tools, and let’s crop. If you are new to scrapbooking let us know and we will be happy to help get you started. Don’t hesitate to join us if you are a card maker, paper crafter, or digital scrapper. For more info please contact nikki at nikkiscraps@ verizon.net. IBC Spring Softball Men’s and Coed. Spring season begins late February to early March depending on the location of play. We look to form teams in the city leagues of Lewisville and Carrollton on Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday nights. Contact Kurt heinemann at email@example.com or (972) 765-9912. The teams play in the city leagues to better minister to the public, show sportsmanship while having fun, and enjoy fellowship with one another. Budget Coaching Do you ever run out of money before you run out of month? We’ve all
been there. Sign up for a personal budget coach at mmcoach.org and learn practical stewardship skills.
Hearing Assistance hearing assistance is available during all three worship services. You can stop by the Journey Lounge for instructions. Red Cross Blood Drive February 26 and March 4 9 a.m.–2 p.m. and 4–8:30 p.m. Sign up: February 12 and 19 at the Town Square kiosk. Contact Joanne at firstname.lastname@example.org for more information. New Arrivals Congratulations to the following family on the births of their children:
IBC serves a delicious meal each Wednesday and Sunday night for $3. Contact email@example.com.
Justus and Suni George and their daughters, born September 2:. Kayla Molly, 5 lbs, 5 oz and 18 1/2 inches, and Katelyn Ann, 5 lbs, 2 oz, 18 1/2 inches
Ministry to Women
Women’s Retreat March 30–April 1 Registration details coming soon. Winter Bible Study: Colossians January 10–March 6. Spring Study: Ruth March 20–April 17 Listen to My Life January 23 — April 9 in West D Mondays 10a.m.–12 p.m. or 6:30 p.m.–8:30 p.m. Explore how God is weaving your story together and where he may be calling you.
A Little Bit of Everything
Membership at IBC — March 4, 10:45 a.m. — West A&B If IBC is your church home and you are interested in becoming a member, we have a storytelling gathering on Sunday, March 4. This is a time for IBCers to get to know a few of our elders, learn about our beliefs, get questions answered, and tell their own story of faith. Although it isn’t mandatory, we do recommend attending the four-week Propel class (see ad on pg. 16) before becoming a member. Contact Donna O’Reilly at firstname.lastname@example.org to register. In His Image Bible Study Wednesdays, 6:30–7:45 p.m. AZ15 A small group for adults (18+) with special needs. If you know of someone who would benefit from this group, please contact Shannon Miller at email@example.com. Scholastic Book Fair February 19 All day in Town Square Come buy a book for a child you love OR buy a book for a child at Townsell! Some of the proceeds will be donated to Townsell Elementary. Monetary donations will also be accepted February 5-19 in children’s ministry. help us meet the goal of giving 1,000 books to Townsell. NICHE (North Irving Christian Home Educators) Monday, Feb. 20 7–9 p.m. in The Alcove. nationally acclaimed educational
20s and Early 30s
The Gathering — Thursdays, 7 p.m. — The Alcove See ad on pg. 17 for more info. Weekly Groups Many young adults (marrieds, singles and mixed) meet in smaller groups during the week and on Sunday evenings to connect in relationship and grow in Christ. If you are interested in learning more, please contact firstname.lastname@example.org.
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Wednesday nights at IBC
Vox Humana Choir Wednesdays, 6:30–8:10 p.m. IBC Worship Center The choral community of IBC is always looking for new singers of all levels — beginner or pro. Everyone is welcome and you can join at any
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Still looking to find your place at IBC? Been here forever but can’t seem to figure out what it’s all about and how you fit into the larger picture? Want to have free breakfast every Sunday for four weeks?
Propel is an experience designed to help you figure out how you can best plug into IBC’s culture and calling. We’ll talk about what it means to grow in Christ, connect in community and join the mission — and what that might look like for you.
Register: Four consecutive weeks starting February 5 at 10:45 a.m. in West A. Register at propel.irvingbible.org. And for more information contact Sherri at (972) 560–4614 or email@example.com. Space is limited. Register early so someone else doesn’t get your bagel.
6:30 p.m.–8:30 p.m.
$10 for dinner
Contact Betsy at firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.
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Planet Wisdom student ConferenCe
February 10–11 at IBC | 6th–12th Grades
Have you ever worshiped God with your friends on either side? Have you ever been spoken to in a way you understand? Have you ever laughed so hard that you cried? do you want to?
Join students from all over the central U.S. as they pack the IBC Worship Center to hear great music from Dutton, laugh with The Skit Guys, and be challenged by IBC’s own Mark Matlock (conference speaker) and high school pastor Sasha Morgan (emcee). Cost: $55: Includes the 2-day conference and lunch on Saturday. Register: Online or with the Student Ministry office. Information: Contact Mary Ann at email@example.com.
MARRIAGE AND SEx:
A PAnel DisCussion
Engage in challenging, real-life conversations with a panel of experts and leaders about relationships, marriage and sex. Join panelists Dr. Gary Barnes (DTS professor) and Debby Wade (licensed marriage and family therapist, certified sex therapist) as we discuss questions like: What are some of the false premises about sex within the church? Why is there such conflict in marriage over sex? Are there gender differences in communication? Andy and Alice McQuitty will be facilitating. February 21 at 9:30 a.m. and 6:30 p.m. in The Commons. Visit irvingbible.org to learn more. KidZone is available by advanced registration at kidzone.irvingbible.org.
Life-changing discipleship for world-changing students.
QUESTIONS YOU WISH CHRISTIANS WOULD REALLY ANSWER
Thursdays, 7 p.m. in The Alcove. A young adults ministry. For more info, contact Betsy at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Brought to you by: Women’s & Men’s Bible Studies
First Worship Service: 9 a.m.
Children’s Classes (all ages) The Tree (young marrieds and families), West D Synergy (30s, 40s and 50s couples), Middle School Room
HoW Do I GIVE?
My time, talents & skills
Visitor Follow-Up Team (The Rex Greenstreet Ministry) We are looking for weekly volunteers to call, write, and email people who have recently visited IBC. Coaching will be provided. For more info, contact Sherri at email@example.com. Respite Care Volunteers By giving a few hours of your time to do crafts, play games, and spend time with special needs children, you give their parents a few hours for themselves. Contact Diana at firstname.lastname@example.org. Laundry Love Volunteers Volunteers needed to provide free laundry cycles and detergent, strike up conversations and build relationships at Amigo Laundromat in Irving. For more info, contact email@example.com. Mentor Kids in Single-Parent Families Men mentor a boy, and women mentor a girl from a single-parent family. Contact Marsha at mtribbett@ irvingible.org. Kids’ Night Out Volunteer Kids’ night Out, a ministry for single-parent families, meets the third Saturday of each month from 6-9 p.m., to give parents a much needed evening to themselves. For a fun night of serving these kids, contact Jennifer at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Video Game Consoles Needed have you cleaned out at home to make room for the new toys that entered your house this Christmas? If so, we are in need of some gently used video game consoles for our MyZone ministry. Bring your donations to the children’s ministry check-in kiosks. Laundry Soap and Dryer Sheets Laundry Love is collecting laundry soap and dryer sheets for their monthly events in Irving. Please bring these to the Laundry Love box in the donation area by the Training Center. For more info visit llpirving.org or contact email@example.com. Care Packages for Armed Forces help send care packages to IBCers deployed in our armed forces. If you are interested in joining this team, or if you are a friend or family member of a deployed service man or woman and would like to add them to our list, contact A. Gayland Leddy at (817) 320-3990 or firstname.lastname@example.org. Cars for Missionary Families have an extra car to loan a missionary family on furlough? Contact Missions at email@example.com. Online Giving Option If you would find it more convenient to donate to the ministries of Irving Bible Church online, visit give.irvingbible.org.
Second Worship Service: 10:45 a.m.
Children’s Classes (all ages) Crossroads (mid 20s-30s couples), high School Room On Track (single parents), West C Journey (all welcome), Middle School Room Renew (multi-generational), Training Center Thrive (30s & 40s singles), West D
Third Worship Service: 5 p.m.
Children’s Classes (all ages)
Community Dinner: 6 p.m. Community Events: 6:45 p.m.
Legacy Builders (all welcome), Zone Jr. 7 Middle School, The Commons high School, Student Ministries Area
SUNDAY CoMMUNITY MEALS
Each Sunday in the Town Square at 6 p.m. Cost is $3/meal or $10 max./family. 2/5 2/12 2/19 2/26 nO MEAL — Super Bowl Sunday Fajita Madness: chicken fajitas, chips and hot sauce, salad bar All American burgers and brats, chips, salad bar Baked Potatoes and fixins, salad bar
Interested in learning more about IBC’s budget for 2012 or other financial nuts and bolts? Visit budgetinfo.irvingbible.org.
If you’d like to serve on a Sunday night meal team, contact Pat at firstname.lastname@example.org.
WEDNESDAY MIDWEEk MEALS
Each Wednesday night from 5–6:20 p.m. in The Commons. Cost is $3/meal or $10 max./family. 2/1 2/8 Baked potatoes with all the fixins, salad, dessert. hosted by Lavern howell’s Team. Penne pasta with meatballs, bread sticks, salad, dessert. hosted by Pat O’Reilly’s Team. Pulled pork sandwiches, cole slaw, baked beans, dessert. hosted by Marlene Britton’s Team. ham, scalloped potatoes, mixed veggies, salad, rolls, dessert. hosted by Bob Downey’s Team. Enchiladas, tacos, refried beans, chips and salsa, home baked cookies. hosted by Barbara White’s Team.
new to iBC?
We’re so glad you’re here. Sometimes it’s hard to know where to begin, but we want to make the process of connecting and feeling at home as easy as possible. Here are some ways to start. Journey Lounge is a great place to get your questions answered, find help and encouragement for your personal journey, or just have a cup of coffee and settle in. Our team of volunteers would be happy to help you, and our goal is to make you feel at home. Journey Lounge is open every Sunday after all three worship services. The Newcomer Gathering is an informal get-together for those new to IBC and/or those wanting to learn more about who we are, what we believe and how to get plugged in. Meet other newcomers, ministry leaders and elders. Can’t seem to figure out what IBC is all about or how you fit into the larger picture? Want free breakfast every Sunday for four weeks? Propel is designed to help you figure out how to best plug in to IBC’s culture and calling. We’ll talk about what it means to grow in Christ, connect in community and join the mission — and what that might look like for you. You’ll also learn more about membership at IBC. Small groups exist to cultivate deep relationships that advance the kingdom of God in dark places — dark places in our world, in our relationships and in our hearts. We do this in the context of sermon-based Bible studies that meet in homes. Groups are comprised of 12 people or fewer and are formed by leaders who have completed small group leader training. To sign up for a group or get more info, contact Ryan Sanders at email@example.com.
Have questions? We’re here to help.
Learn more about IBC and meet others like you.
Changes to the menu may be made depending on cost and availability and Bob Downey’s whim. If you’d like to serve on a Wednesday night meal team, please email firstname.lastname@example.org.
Ready to get plugged in?
THE MoSAIC CAFé (THE Mo)
Hours Monday: 8 a.m. - 5 p.m. Tuesday–Thursday: 8 a.m. - 7 p.m. Friday: 8 a.m. - 12 p.m. Sunday: 8 a.m. - 12:30 p.m. & 4 p.m. - 7 p.m. Phone: (972) 443-3323 February drink special: Spiced Apple Cider
Connect with others on the journey.
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Belly-fueled halcyon days of pinch-rolled jeans and mall hair, a young philosopher in a beret and sweater vest opined: “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.”
Those who gauge the ebbing and flowing of philosophical musings posit that existential thinking reached its zenith in 1986. During those Jelly
you. Concepting the next scene of your screenplay while soaking in Palmolive may make Madge proud, despite her deceasedness, but it won’t actually put words in the mouth of your heroine who’s unlucky in love but full of spunk and looks likes Meg Ryan before the whole lip thing. Keep in mind that the business of living is not always the business of life. Yes, I know that sounds like something from a Tony Robbins seminar. But I assure you that my teeth are neither as blindingly white, nor my tan as richly umber as the inspirational, fire-walking giant’s. It’s just that, in the process of making sure everything and everyone is tidy, smiley and relatively non-stinky, we often forget to actually do anything besides raise tidy, smirky and relatively nonstinky kids. Until we one day find ourselves in the footwell of a Honda Odyssey experiencing upchucks of remorse, regret and reconstituted chicken. And that’s not how God wants us to live. Christ was an adventurer, a wanderer, an experiencer of life — even though he already knew what it was all about. And simply reading “Wild at Heart” doesn’t count. You actually have to get a little wild every now and then. Maybe it’s climbing a mountain. Maybe it’s starting your own business. Maybe it’s daring to eat at the Golden Arches again. But whatever it is, just put down Chatter (you’re at the end anyway) and go do it. After all, deodorizing the minivan might make the trip to church a little more pleasant, but it won’t get you one link closer to becoming the Sausage King of Chicago. Jason Fox often recalls Central Park in the fall although he has only visited New York in the winter.
What St. Bueller the Wise suggested during those long-lost, full-employment days of yore rings even truer today. I realized this truth in the way millions of others do every year — quasi-fetal in the passenger seat of a minivan hurtling through Oklahoma with my head in a plastic Target bag puking out the component parts of a McValue meal. Ah, Christmas. It was then, coiled in a sweaty, full-body cramp incited by equal parts virus and equal parts Dora the Screaming Explorer on the DVD player, that I reflected on the fact that my eldest kids were about to turn four. And while I had done much during those four years, I hadn’t really done much at all. If you catch my meaning. If you don’t, it’s the difference between changing diapers and changing the world. Okay, that’s a bit grandiose, but I now barely remember to change the oil in our vehicles, let alone try to change the direction of my neighborhood. Or even my neighbor’s sprinklers. Some people call this type of situation living under the tyranny of the now. Those people are being polite. The constant attention to that-which-mustbe-done-this-very-instant-Daddy-and-I-mean-right-now-if-you-don’t-wantpoo-colored-walls can turn your life into an early draft of “Groundhog Day” in which, instead of a funny/grumpy weatherman, Bill Murray plays Death and is forced to square off against Punxsutawney Phil in a game of Parcheesi until he’s able to teach the shadowy rodent that Parcheesi is not a condiment for pasta. And for once I’m not exaggerating. So how do we stop and look around once in a while and maybe accomplish something more than an empty dishwasher or leaf-freeish gutters? Is it truly possible to become like so many of our Facebook friends who constantly post photos from concerts and ball games and restaurants that actually frown upon using the tablecloth for coloring? Probably not. But maybe we — you and I together, strolling hand in hand along life’s beach or foliage-strewn path — can get close. First, learn to ignore the children. That’s “ignore” and not “neglect.” They need to be fed, hugged, groomed and taken to the pottitorium on a routine basis. But they don’t need your undivided attention. Seriously, they don’t. Unless you live in a barbed wire museum (they exist) or you’ve done the world’s worst job of childproofing by attaching the barbed wire to exposed electrical circuits, your spawn will survive. In fact, they’ll soon discover how more, umm, fun they can have when you’re not getting all Orwell on them. Although you may need to wear your slickest silk pajama bottoms until their clinginess subsides. Or give your thighs that Wessonality sheen if that’s how your house rolls. Put off until tomorrow what doesn’t need to be done today. Which is most things. Unless you’re a golf course superintendent, no one cares if your grass is 3-inches or 3 1/4-inches tall. (Except the HOA and I’ll save my thoughts on those organizations for later, but I will be using the words “Hulk” and “smash.”) The dirty dishes will eventually be cleaned by either magical elves, mothers-in-law or multiple runs through the dishwasher. Whatever works, as long as it’s not
The groundhog is also known as a woodchuck, a whistle-pig, or in some areas, a land-beaver. “I acquired fame by playing the coolest kid who ever lived. now, the only roles I can seem to get are bleak, insecure men.” --Matthew Broderick
The honda Odyssey was introduced in 1995 amid speculation that the Japanese had bought some Dockers.
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The Lindsay family (Gary, heidi, Brendan, Rebekah) and Chatter having a jolly good time in front of Canterbury Cathedral.
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