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coming out process? Any other comments? Makes me feel less isolated since I'm not flamboyant enough to identify with all the other gay boys I've met IRL Everyone rocks. I hope I can nix this facade soon. Made me more accepting of myself and more tolerant of gay culture. I like the "cool roommate" type of stories. They make me more comfortable with the prospect of having to experience that in the very near future. I've just been creeping for the past hour or so, but I'm sure I'll introduce myself at some point. It's comforting to know there are so many of the kind of guy I'm interested in. Realizing that I'm not alone. its just a really cool place, theres sometimes some good advice and good broporn ;) It's so awesome to know that there are so many of us who don't fall into the stereotype. Love it. Feel united. I am new semi lurker, but you guys seem cool It's been nice to hang out with some more masculine gays on reddit It has helped me out a lot knowing there are other gay guys who are just guys. I've been secure with my sexuality (to myself, at least) since I was 16 and it was definitely life-‐ changing when I accepted it. Since then I've been completely open with anyone who asks and I've never had any problems as a result. People genuinely appreciate others who are not afraid to be themselves... It just showed me I could associate with a group of homosexuals that wasn't overly effeminate Just joined... But seems like my kind of crew! (I'm a stereotypical straight dude, even though I'm bi) I definitely has builded my confidence when it comes to guys. I'm bi, and I'm used to being around girls, so I tend to get all weird and nervous around guys. I think /r/gaybros has really helped, at least in mindset, not sure about in practice, though =P I feel way more comfortable with the fact that I'm into guys :) Not really sure whether I'm bi or gay sometimes, since I've have never dated before :( makes it seem more natural
It's great to see other guys accept being gay/bi does not come with a requirement on how to act or what to like. It's making me put myself out there and experience the gay community I was already pretty much out and had accepted my sexuality, but I love the community :P I just joined, so not at all :). /r/Gaymers helped quite a bit though, it's nice to find a place on the internet where being gay is the norm. For years, I was uncomfortable with my sexuality due to my internalized stereotypes of gay men. Somewhere out there I know there's a guy who /r/gaybros is helping get over all that. That's awesome. I never had any problems with my sexuality before but it's nice that the people here have an effect on others and helped them. I have come out to more friends I know because of this place. I never really brought it up with my friends, mostly because I was nervous about it and I didn't think it was THAT important, but the people here have made me realize that being gay is an important part of me and it should be out and in the open with people close to me. The best community on reddit I have been a part of. I've struggled with my identity and fear of being uncategorizable for far too long. It's showed me that not all gay men are the same Feel more comfortable here than anywhere else "gay" I've found. I like the upbeat, positive vibe. Knowing that I'm not the only dude who likes other dudes has made me a bit more comfortable with myself Just found it friend, I like the idea of it though. One of the large hurdles for me is the 'gay' stereotype. I sometimes feel I have to be effeminate in order to be gay. false. I <3 gaybros. It sure has helped me accept that there are people like me in this world, Masculinity and being gay are separate concepts While I've been quite content in my own identity for a few years now, I think it's great that gaybros provides an outlet for people who don't identity with mainstream gay culture. Gaybros has helped me accept my sexuality by making me realize how awesome it is to be gay. Helped me realize that I don't have to be flamboyant to be gay. It's great to see and connect with other guys that are not flamboyant, just average guys. Though I'm only a lurker, reading /r/gaybros has made me more comfortable with myself. It's nice to know that there are a lot of gay men as unfabulous as I am. By being AWESOME.
It has helped me realized that there are bros who are gay I was already out when I found the subreddit, but it's nice not feeling like I'm not "gay enough". Though I don't post to r/gaybros, I love the community because it helps me realize that there are a *lot* of guys out there that simply like guys and don't obsess with the glitter-‐and-‐rainbows scene. No, but it's fitting me better than most other gay communities. Was out before coming here, but glad to see the stereotypes being broken constantly and showing gays as everyday regular people (because we are) It has been a nice counter to the political aspects of homosexuality. It hasn't it's just an awesome subreddit and my kind of group It has definitely helped me feel like I'm not alone Not much, just seemed like I found a place that I seemed to fit into better. Better than more stereotypes I was already pretty comfortable with my sexuality, but having access to a community that's mostly guys like me is just comforting and feels more welcoming to me than most other LGBT communities on Reddit. Started to make me realize the truth about my sexuality and that its okay to be gay It's a great community with awesome posts and people hasn't. I'm fine without /r/gaybros. Also, I was really encouraged about the group when it was first creates. but now I see its just like all the other gay groups here. Most of the people are just posers. I feel like I finally can identify with a group of people, in terms of sexual preference. I love manly men and hey, so does just about everyone else here. It's great. Just a nice helpful supportive place. just like mackin on hot dudes It's a nice,accepting and less political place to just come and be gay, and read gay and generally... well... gay. gaybros masculine and carefree, like me. It hasn't. It's just a cool place. It's been nice to find a subcommunity of the LGBT culture that somewhat defies stereotypes.
It's nice that the face of homosexuality doesn't have to be flaming queens. It made me realize that I'm not incredibly weird for not being stereotypically gay (yeah, I've had very few gay role-‐models) and they're just a great bunch of people. Because you bros are cool, it's nice relating to other cool dudes. made me feel better about being non-‐stereotypically gay in the gay community. /r/gaybros helped me realize that not all of us fit the stereotypical gay characteristics that are set out in society. I thought I was alone in that case. It's made me realise I am not the only one like me on the webs It's nice to see there are normal guys out there that don't make their sexuality their entire identity. I live in Los Angeles, so it's hard to find "bros" It's good to know the are other dudes who act straight (because they're guys), yet like to bang dudes. I don't feel much connection between me and the gay community as it is portrayed in the media (fairies wearing rainbows having orgies in clubs). I'm not really flamboyant at all and like sports, violent games, etc. /r/gaybros made me realize there are a lot of people out there just like me. I came out roughly a week after I found /r/gaybros. /r/gaymers is also a pretty sweet subreddit, but not as good IMO. Love it! More HOCKEY! It's put me in contact with other guys who are queer and have similar interests (sports, beer, etc). I always accepted myself but it's nice to have a group of masculine gay guys like myself I can relate with bromos much more than really effeminate guys. Im out, but I'm not an obvious gay and I don't actively introduce myself as gay. So not everyone knows. A good support group and friendly advice Love you guys. I can be the person i can't be in real life, and not feel pressured to fit to any stereotypes, i can just be... me. Been out already, just helpful to know I'm not the only gaybro out there! I have a thread that explained how happy I am to see this thread. Although I have to say I still don't have the chance to appreciate this thread as much because the LA meetup was for over 21s.. ehem ehem.
I love gaybros not specifically for what it does for me necessarily, but because I see so many dudes have been able to admit to themselves who they are because of it, and I think that's awesome. was already out and everything before i discovered /r/gaybros Helps support my idea that I don't have to speak with a lisp and attend parades to enjoy what I like. It really hasn't, but it's damn entertaining. It lets me be the gay guy I am, not the one society says I should be. It's been great, same stuff as what most people have already said. It has helped me realize that being gay doesn't mean being fabulous. Gaybros and gaymers helped me to come to terms with the masculinity issues that had been bothering me since accepting my sexuality in high school. I came from a Christian, southern town which promoted what I've termed hypermasculinity I'm as out as I want to be, but mostly, r/gaybros has just been a good place where gay guys can go talk about whatever and not have it be too emotionally or politically intense. Fucking love it If anything, it's made me depressed by seeing all the cute couples. ;_; It's made me realize there are a lot more gay people like me, who are not the general stereotype, and don't make being gay the only thing about their personality. Not as boring as /lgbt Not as sensitive as /gaymers Meh. Sometimes it can be interesting. I didn't have anything like this when I was coming out, but I think it would have been a great resource. Everyone here seems so positive and willing to help others out. Good to see other masc men out there I like the community built around non-‐stereotypical ideas of what it means to be gay. I am much more interested in masculine pursuits than activities women typically enjoy. I'm glad I've found a community of guys who seem to enjoy being guys and not having their sexuality be the primary thing people should know about them. It's been awesome, especially to see that there are plenty of more masculine, normal, not stereotypically "gay" gay guys out there.
It's just nice to have the reinforcement of knowing there are other people like you. Rock on /r/gaybros. I was already out before this was a community, but it has showed me that there a lot more masculine gay men out there :) I've been out for some time now, relatively completely (although not making it obvious). Can't say its helped (not that its hurt any though). Hasn't really helped me, but it's an awesome place. It's good to know there's other gay guys out there that are both secure with their sexuality without being flamers. Communication is key to everything. It makes me feel welcome and a place I can go to get away from everyday life. I like that it shows the diversity within the gay community; that being gay doesn't have to mean one thing or another. Its just dudes. (Not to mention this subreddit contains the types of guys I find attractive.) It's helped me realize that being gay has nothing to do with appearance, the way I act, or anything but the people I have sex with. Just a bunch of nice and funny bros I like visiting r/gaybros as it provides an avenue for gay men who don't fit into the often stereotyped role of gay men. Inspiring :) It's a great source of emotional support and human connection, a great community filled with other typical manly gay guys with several shared interests. I can finally identify with a part of the gay community. My advanced age obviously makes me the oddest man out in this survey, but I thought I ought to respond since I follow the subreddit and at least one old geezer should be represented. I was fortunate in my coming out that my parents were extremely open-‐minded and, unusually for the time, had many gay friends, most of whom were excellent and positive role models. I was also blessed by having come to maturity during a time and in a cultural environment in which sexual freedom was seen as something to aspire to. This place has help me accept myself more, but I'm not convinced on coming out. Didn't, but I fucking love you guys. Penis = awesome
Good to see dudes that break the stigma It's a safe space where I can be reasonable sure of level-‐headed, non-‐hysterical discussion and camaraderie. I have to say that I've been pretty comfortable with my sexuality before coming to /r/gaybros, but it's awesome to see such a great community of masculine gay guys. Finally, some proof that not all gay guys are feminine and obnoxious! It didn't really. But it's a place that I feel comfortable in. It's awesome, I love these guys. They make me feel more comfortable about not having rainbows flying out of my arse. Until I found gaybros, I didn't think there was anyone like me out there. It helped me figure out that being gay is me and so obviously doesn't change a damn thing. It helped me accept myself for more than my sexuality. Gaybros helped me realize that just because I like dudes, I don't have to be a fucking queen about it. The underground gay culture is hegemonic, and really hostile sometimes, this place lets me be a dude who likes dudes... and video games... and guns. Just found the community and looking to come out more, and date around more. I just want to date a lot of the gay bros. You guys are just awesome It's nice to find guys who are guys. Being gay is one small part of my life, it doesn't define who I am. Hehe, I've been out a while. It's just awesome. It's a very positive and encouraging community. I'm a lurker, but I like to read other people's stories. It hasn't. I've been perfectly comfortable with my sexuality since I came out when I was 16. I'm glad to know we're not all feminine. They've just been awesome, generally, no real hands extended for help, as I haven't asked. It has been awesome to be in a group of regular guys who accept you. Nobody is overly sensitive or dramatic, so that works great as well. It is a great community and full of very supportive intelligence man.
its just nice to see other guys that dont fall into the stereotypical norm of being gay I don't have to change my personality to be gay They haven't helped me in coming out, they're just a hella sick subreddit. There are other gay men like me It hasnt helped me with my process as much. I was mostly out before r/gaybros existed. But I hope that Ive helped other guys with their process. R/gaybros has helped me understand how other guys, that are somewhat comparable to me, view some parts of popular gay culture and other topics. Thats what really draws me to the community. it's helped with getting away from the stereotypes. most of my gay friends/other gay guys i've met are a bit more on the feminine side, and i've only met a handful who are more into the standard "straight" interests and activities, where gay is just a minor side thing. I'm mature enough to understand that gay men come in all shapes, sizes and attitudes. I enjoy r/gaybros because I see it as a part of the coming out process for many dudes that have issues with the perception of a gay male. There are some who genuinely want to be around like-‐minded, more masculine individuals as that is who they truly are, while some see acting more masculine (or hypermasculinity) as an method of coping or coming to terms with their sexuality ("if I act more straight, society will like me better"). It's fun waiting to see if gaybros will become the new "str8 acting." Only time will tell. It's helping me to talk about intimate stuff and knowing what is like to come out by reading other people posts. But mainly it's just great to talk about any stuff not worrying to say something seen as gay. It's actually affected me very positively, knowing there are other people like myself gives me a great boost in motivation. I have asked for help here before and got an awesome response that has helped me go on to do things I haven't done before hand. I have accepted myself for a long time but always kinda felt I wasn't part of either the gay or straight world. It seemed like taking myself too far into one was "cheating" on the other and wasn't sure that I could be part of a gay world without being judged [by other gay guys] for my preferences for guys who were "straight acting" and liked what I liked rather than being into gay bars and such. I now realise that I am not alone. Also, while I do like girls I feel accepted enough now that I can date guys and say I am gay rather than bi (which is more of a technicality) and feel less like I was committing to a something which I didn't feel part of. It's a very specific group and no other group on Reddit describes me nearly as well. All of my friends are straight guys, lately I've been "one of the guys" and I don't know many other gay guys that are like that and this subreddit makes me feel like i'm not alone. r/gaybros serves as a decent example of another facet of gay culture. It's made me realize that there are lots of guys out there like me that are broish and gay too. They prove that being gay doesn't define your personality; you're just a regular guy, who just happens to be gay.
It was a main catalyst in helping me come to terms with being a man who is into men. Made me feel, not alone. It's nice to have a positive community for support. It gives me a place to talk about the things I like in a gay environment without worrying that I'll be the only one who likes/does that. I don't feel like I'm not gay enough. They didn't. I mean, I had already accepted being gay and come out a bunch of people when I found r/gaybros. This community helped me to appreciate the gay community as a whole much more. I'm not really a bro, but you guys are all really cute. Came out 1.5 years ago, so not really. But I feel like it's a community that I fit into (not really that much of a gaymer and the stuff there is sometimes too feminine for my liking) By being awesome I gained my acceptance on my own, of course with help from people that I have close relations to. Close friends' acceptance made me come out completely in the end, the 17th of February 2012 gaining only positive feedback. Pics and stories are cool and refreshing to see what other people are going through. I find that there are a lot of twinks in /r/gaybros that think they're bros but aren't. :/ I was already out. I find it a reminder that there are more gays like me than the media shows. Reading others experiences I was quite comfortable in my sexuality before this community existed. I am already well-‐adjusted The gaybros community is amazing. Finally I have a place that I can be gay, and be a guy, without any expectations of upholding either my gayness or masculinity. If I want to talk about glee here, I can, if I want to talk about weed, booze, frats, bromos, dick, sports, whatever...I still can. I used to like /r/gaybears but the bear community (although I could be a poster child for it) is very cliquey and seems at times hypermasculine. /r/gaymers is nice, but many guys there are twinks/fem which I have no problem with, but it's a bit more rainbows and unicorns then I generally associate myself with. /r/gaybros is finally a place for guys who just happen to be gay and discuss things, share pics, ideas, stories...a community for the gay man who doesn't identify with modern gay society. It hasn't but it's an awesome place that I love coming to daily. Just an awesome community of guys that I can relate to.
It hasn't; I was already comfortable with myself when I started coming here... but it's a pretty cool place regardless, so it's all good. It makes me happy to look at, but there really isn't any role for it to fill in my life. Nothing really, most of my friends are straight guys as it is. I've got no problems with my sexuality, just really glad this subreddit exists. It gives me comfort knowing there are always other people out there in the world who are similar to you! It's a cool place to find like minded people -‐Breaking down stereotypes I questioned myself about. -‐Confidence I'm not alone in my preference in relationships over sex. As I was already out, there wasn't much to help with in terms of coming out; however, it has helped me realize that there are many men out there that may seem straight but I still have a chance with... So basically I don't know who is gay and who is straight anymore.... Fuck you guys. <3 It comforts me to know that there are actually gay guys out there who are just normal bros. None, i'm new here. Already out, so not much. Considering I am already out and I have no problems with acceptance, the community hasn't helped in that manner. However, I do enjoy being able to communicate with other people who may share my experiences Allowed me to realize that there are other masculine gay men, that I am not alone in what is already a minority (the gay community). I take a great deal of relief seeing gay bros who don't adhere to the stereotypes. A big part, of why I'm nervous about coming out, is the expectation that I'll have to match a certain type of person. Clearly, this isn't the case. I just saw this community! I need more bear bromos. I've been out forever it seems. It's just nice to help others accept and come to terms with their sexuality. It has showed me a different aspect of the gay world, a more masculine and chill atmosphere I already was out before I found gaybros, but similar online communities with less flamboyant gays had helped me come out. They're just fucking badass. Shows that the stereotypes are misconceptions and I don't have to change who I am to be gay.
Love y'all to the end of time! Greatest people on here ever :D Gaybros rock! these guys make me happy It just lets me know that there are other guys out there like me, who like beer, sports and the great outdoors I recently found this subreddit, but its been a huge help. I used to worry that I wouldn't be able to fit in with the "guys" anymore after coming out, because of the gay stereotypes. But its good to know there's other guys out there who aren't defined only by their sexuality. We are men, first and foremost! meeting guys that are very comfortable with thier sexuality without making a big deal of it, helped me do the same. Also reading the coming out stories inspired me to call my father and let him know Im homosexual, with a surprising good and natural reaction from him. I was already plenty gay and comfortable before r/gaybros It's been an amazingly safe community...the only real gay community I've experienced where I've felt I belonged It has helped me keep apart the whole concept of who i am from what i like. Loved it at first, now its filling up with hipsters and femme dudes, its really depressing now. Amazingly. The never ending support I feel from the bros has only made me feel more safe and secure in coming out. Hasn't really helped me accept my sexuality but it has exposed me to others with similar tastes and interests Confirming that gays doesn't have to be all rainbows and pinks. /r/gaybros redefined the idea that a gay identity and a masculine identity are mutually exclusive; a person is not defined by their sexuality, and if anything this has been a great way to celebrate that we are gay, we are men, but above all we are gay men. I like gaybros. I think the overall state of 'gay culture' is such that there need to be groups like these reminding everyone (including other gay people) that homosexuals are not of a singular mind. I am lucky because I grew up in a very liberal environment. By the time I came out, being gay was mostly accepted by everyone in my community and it was even starting to get to the point where people didn't assume all gay guys were the same This was more than ten years ago. Nowadays, no reasonable person in my area cares if someone is gay and pretty much everyone but the most close-‐minded, least-‐educated people know that homosexuals come in all shapes/sizes and from all ways of life. Sometimes this subreddit makes me really sad, because
its yet another reminder that there are places all over the world, hell all over my country (USA) where people are still having to come out in religious households, around bigots, and in places where, even if people have finally accepted that gays exist, they have no idea that we aren't all a bunch of parading drag queens. I want to Before finding /r/gaybros I was uncertain about whether there were other guys like me in the community, or if there were any they were few and far between. /r/Gaybros has helped me understand that there are plenty of other great guys out there and that I just need to find them. I came out about a year before finding gaybros, but gaybros has helped me to make a few gay friends whom I really relate to -‐ which is a new thing for me. It hasn't changed how I see my sexuality much. I knew y'all existed, it's just nice to actually be able to converse with you! Given me a ton of awesome guys to just chat with.
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