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Generation gap: How many times have you felt that your parents don't understand you, that they have no respect for you as an individual? How often do you shake your head in frustration and blame it on the 'generation gap'? Parents! They are like aliens from another planet altogether! You and they are in different camps; strangers forced to live under the same roof Right? Wrong! There is a way of bridging what appears to be a yawning chasm. If you genuinely want to improve your relationship with your parents (and give them a big shock in the bargain!) try listening to them, treating them just like you would listen to a valued friend. Instead of always whining, 'You don't understand me", stop and think. Do we ever try and understand them? Parents are under a lot of stress, too. When we are worrying about our upcoming Math exam, they are worrying about the boss in the office, and just how they are going to pay for our braces. Like us, they have days when someone humiliates them at work. Sometimes, they don't know where the money for all the applications you send to foreign universities is going to come from. Your mom may seldom have a chance to go out and enjoy herself. Your dad's colleagues may deride him because he cannot afford membership to a club. Yes, weird though it may sound, parents are human too. They may have dreams they've sacrificed because they want you to realize yours. Once you step into their shoes and try to look at things from their point of view, two wonderful things happen; one, you feel a new respect for them, and two, you will find that you can actually get your own way without heated arguments. Today, when you come back from school or college, ask your mom or dad, "How did your day go today?" or "Tell me a little more about your job." or "Is there anything I can do to help you around in the house?" You'll see the visible difference it makes to the atmosphere at home. And each day, try to keep your promises - to do your homework, to clean your room and to write letters or telephone if you are living away from home. Seventy five per cent of the youngsters claimed that the teenage years were a time of stress and anxiety for them - anxiety about exams, jobs, parental expectations, peer pressure, love lives, the need to look good and dress smartly, and well, even the state of the nation. Generation gap means difference in attitude, or lack of understanding between younger and older generation. This generation gap has always been there but these days it has reached to an explosive stage. The values and patterns of life have changed to a great extent. Today, everybody likes to live and behave in his own way. This attitude has widened the generation gap, which can never be filled. It is now destroying family life completely. The elders look after the children and make all sorts of sacrifices to bring them up. Naturally, they feel they have a right over them. They want their children to follow their instructions as they have certain expectations from them. But the children, when they grow up, want a complete freedom in their thoughts and actions and unfortunately their thoughts and actions are just opposite to those expected by the elders. They revolt when any kind of restrictions are imposed on them. Consequently, the family breaks up and everything gets ruined. In India, we are yet in the initial stages, but the gap has appeared and it is going to grow bigger day by day. So it is not only the responsibility of the younger but also of the elders to fill this gap with their love, affection and trust. The problem, in fact, has grown and intensified due to the rise in complexities of life. These complexities have arisen in the wake of modernism where everything allied to tradition, custom and the world was to be turned upside down. The problem arises mainly when parents forget how did they behave, what problems did they encounter and what feeling did they feel when they were children, especially teenagers. When the children enter the stormy teens the problem of generation gap comes out with greater intensity then ever. Children too fail to see their parents· point of view and blindly stick to breaking rules. For them, at this age, their friends suddenly become important dislodging the parents from the vantage point. This causes great anxiety to parents and the friction increases between the children and the parents. At this time, grandparents can play a constructive role in order to bridge the gap of thought, attitude, and way of life and approaches to it. Generation gap is not that serious a problem if families can learn to sit over dinner and talk or sit in the living rooms over a cup of hot comforting coffee and talk the things out, ironing the difference and sharing the experiences. When this communication barrier is transcended and the ice broken, the problem does not remain that serious anymore. Talking it out calmly and coolly, with the idea of sorting things out, changing for each other and changing for better can be the most helpful instrument in bridging the generation gap. Family outings, vacations, tours, to picnic-outings, often with the family etc can be effective ways to initiate intimacy between parents and children. Watching movie and discussing them, putting forth the different viewpoints can be a beginning to inculcate the habit of a healthy dialogue between members of the family. Such small things and steps can do wonders in initiating a healthy family atmosphere and reducing friction between two generations that are right in their own respects. Their only fault is that they are viewing the same object from opposite directions. Age, time and experience or the lack of it, forces them to do so. Essay on importance of 'Learning English' in India AKHILA MOL ESSAY "The English language in all an advanced and flexible one and its teaching should not be discarded altogether. Indian cannot afford to ignore this language". -Dr. Rajendl'a Prasad India inherited' English' from the British who ruled our country for more than two centuries. After independence, there have been a great deal of argumentation in aspect to the position of English in free India. The Orthodox view advocated the complete stoppage of use of English in any forum. According to experts the English language is an embodiment of western culture and thus the learning or studying English can endanger our own culture and values . ´In my considered opinion English education in the manner it has given to us has emasculated the English educated Indian, constrained our intellect and endured us effeminate" - Mahatma Gandhi It is a bitter fact, that' English' has created a wide gulf between the few English educated and many uneducated. The English learned scholars of India, contributed a lot to English literature, but these were not given any credit in the history of English Literature. The works of Rabindra Nath Tagore, Jawaharlal Lal Nehru, Mahatma Gandhi, Dr Radha Krishnan were beyond doubt a real contributor for the literature of English language, commanded much praise and admiration throughout the world, but not in the history of English literature. The moderates felt the necessity of making study of English optional during at that time and according to many others, under the existing circumstances a sound knowledge of English is necessary at least for acquiring higher education. They advocate the importance of learning of English for the advancement and growth of technical education in the country. They argued in favor of making the English subject compulsory in school and universities. The crux of the problem lies between the two theories, one says making English as medium of instruction for all education, another says, making English necessary just for higher education. Undoubtedly learning of English is very important for scientific and technical education, but making English medium of instruction in school education shall not be an appropriate option in Indian perspective. Ours is a rural based society, our mother tongue is Hindi. We are using either Hindi or any other regional language in our daily life, in-house, in market, and for all general communication. English is an alien language for the general public, under such circumstances,attaining knowledge through a foreign language is so cumbersome, irritating and painful that the average student whether graduate or postgraduate, has degenerated into a mere crammer of the text books, unable to express himself well, all his energy and intelligence is consumed in cramming the text books to secure good marks. Even after 56 years of independence, passing a compulsory paper of English is so painful for an average student that he crams some essays, letters and other grammar rules, to secure just the pass marks. India does not lack the intelligentsia. Indian students have earned a reputation. a name in higher education, in IT, Space, Science and Technology where medium of study is English. It is thus undisputed that learning of English as language is very important as it is not only necessary for higher scientific and technical education, but it is a linking language, spoken through out a large part of the world. It is one of the most popular international language for all diplomatic, political conferences, treaties and scientific discourses. One can't imagine to arrange any international conference, scientific discourse, without help of English, as medium for communication among the members. English had played very important role in making the Indians enlightened about the many revolutionary ideas during the British rule. We can't forget the role played by Indian scholars and educationist in our freedom struggle. Our freedom could have been a dream even as yet if we lack scholars that they have been able to tell us what is freedom. In present condition when India has attained freedom English is playing very crucial role in the progress of the country. The Indian students are the most favored engineers, technical experts in European countries because they could understand and communicate well in English. The name of Indian students in IT Space, is world wide recognized. They could acquire the knowledge and expertise in the respective fields in English. The study of English language is thus very necessary to introduce us into the fast developing world. If India has to keep pace with the. developed nation in the present scenario of glob3lization and liberalization we must give due importance to the learning of English language. If India has to keep abreast with other fast moving nations of the world, in the field of literature, science,space, computers, economics, we can't ignore the importance of learning English. Imagine, had Kalpana Chawla, Hargovind Khurana, Dr. Amritya Sen,etc. not acquired the knowledge of English, would they have earned the recognition, they possess today? Shakespeare' once said, "Sometimes out of ills cometh the good". Macaulay introduced English in India to produce clerks but the study of English radiated on Indians an exhorting influence that made them confident of wining the freedom. But all this do not mean that English should be a cause of irritation, frustration among the general mass. English should not be a medium of education compulsorily. For these reasons, English is no more the only medium for answering the questions in almost all competitive examinations. Even in States and Indian Administrative Services examination one can opt Hindi or other language for written examination. English can be a supplement, but can't be allowed to be supplant of our mother tongue. No doubt learning of English is very important even in Indian perspective to acquire higher qualification to have pace with the fast progressing world economy. to have communication with world's emissaries, leaders. scientists etc. yet English should not be allowed to be used as official language or for medium of imparting education at school or college levels. "For more than two centuries of intimate Contact has made English an integral part of our educational system mid this can't be changed without endangering our education in India. Moreover, English has today become one of tire internationally spoken language of the world and we Indians can't neglect its study as it will put us in backwardness but the medium of instruction must be from the every nature of the case by the mother tongue", said our late Education Minister Maulana Azad.