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If you scored 9 or higher for a Critic, there is a good chance that it is causing you
problems. Those for which you scored 7 or 8 might be problematic. Those with 7 or less are less
likely to be.
Exercise: Unblending
This exercise takes you through the steps as described in this chapter. Choose one situation in
which one of your Inner Critics usually attacks you. Imagine that this situation is happening right
now. What is your Inner Critic saying to you? ________________________________________
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Close your eyes and allow an image of the Inner Critic to emerge. Or access your Critic through
your body or feelings. ___________________________________________________________
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If you are scared of this Inner Critic or feel crushed by it, those feelings are coming from the
Criticized Child. Take notes about these feelings. _____________________________________
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Check to see if you have an image of the Criticized Child. ______________________________
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Ask the Criticized Child to step aside into a safe place (maybe with a strong protector) or
visualize the Critic in another room (as described above).
Remember that this Inner Critic is trying to help you and protect you. See if you can be open to
learning about it from its perspective.
If you are angry at the Inner Critic or want to argue with it or get rid of it, that is completely
understandable, but it wont help in getting to know the Critic. These feelings indicate that you
are blended with your Inner Defender. ______________________________________________
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Ask that part what its concerns are. ________________________________________________
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Validate its concerns, and then ask the Defender to step aside so you can be successful in
working with the Critic.
If it steps aside, check again to see how you are feeling toward the Critic. __________________
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If there is another Inner Defender part, ask it to step aside, until you are finally in Self with
respect to the Critic. (This means that you are openly curious about the Critic and interested in
learning about it from its perspective.) How do you feel toward the Critic now that you are in
Self? ________________________________________________________________________
Ask the Critic to tell you or show you what it is trying to accomplish by judging you.
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Be aware during these times if your Inner Critic gets activated. If it is helpful, evoke the image
(or images) of your Inner Champion from the previous exercise. Imagine this figure saying the
above Inner Champion statements to you. How does that make you feel? __________________
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