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be the kind of person who generates positive energy and sidesteps negative energy rather than For more great resources. just a little more knowledge might help us examine our paradigms. Yet.. Covey writes. And. he believes his employees would goof off and stand around the water cooler talking all day.. "But is it possible that under that apparent disloyal behavior. which in turn will affect how they interact with us. Covey writes that the inside-out approach says "[I]f you want to have a happy marriage. Page 2 . Covey tells the story of a manager who has taken management training classes and seminars and who is friendly to his employees. We must start by examining our own character. rather than looking at our problems as "being out there" (an inside-out approach). "The way we see things is the source of the way we think and the way we act. So. we decided to review The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People in more detail." Our paradigms will affect how we interact with others. people want to know more about Covey's The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Covey argues. these employees question whether I really act in their best interest? Do they feel like I'm treating them as mechanical objects? . Covey is still on the bestseller lists having sold some fifteen million copies. visit www.The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. To try to change outward attitudes and behaviors does very little good in the long run if we fail to examine the basic paradigms from which those attitudes and behaviors flow. Covey suggests the manager ask himself. We simply cannot maintain wholeness if we talk and walk differently than we see. Covey notes that life threatening experiences or a major role change in a person's life can change a person's paradigm.. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People begins with the astute observation that people perceive the world differently. paradigms. Covey says that we all have our own paradigm. Borrowing slightly from the concepts of Quantum Mechanics. If he took a day off." So. and because we view the world with our own unique "lens.. any effective self-help program must begin with an "inside-out" approach. they are unwilling to honestly examine their own paradigms. He feels they lack independence and responsibility." Covey goes on to explain: ". . he doesn't feel that his employees have any loyalty toward him. They are unwilling to look at the way they look at things. Covey says that although many people want to be effective in their lives and achieve certain goals or dreams.authenticedu.. which is our own map of how we perceive the world and how we think the world should be in our ideal view. So.[T]hese paradigms are the source of our attitudes and behaviors.. part of achieving insight involves making a "paradigm shift" which causes us to perceive things differently. Among his many examples. and motives." it is difficult to separate the observation from the observer. We cannot act with integrity outside of them.

If you want to have more freedom.One way to quickly grasp the self-evident nature of principles is to simply consider the absurdity of attempting to live an effective life based on their opposites. Before a performance. Covey says.empowering it." Hence. . If you want to be trusted. deceit. What do you want people to say about you at your funeral? How will you be remembered? Note to budding. relentlessly. character and principles are keys to success. effectiveness. Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind Covey starts with the extreme example of considering your death. Stephen Covey's Habits of Independence: Habit 1: Be Proactive Covey says you must use your resourcefulness and your initiative to work toward your personal goals. it isn't Page 3 . Covey suggests visualization. Covey writes: "You can do it [visualization] in any area of your life. self-help writers: Leave the funeral spiel out. empathic. It's not particularly motivating! Covey says that many people climb the ladder of success only to find the ladder was leaning against the wrong wall. and happiness in life. "We may be very busy.." Then. The first three habits. over and over again. vividly. or the daily challenge of meeting a goal. are habits of independence.. He points out many peak. loving parent. but we will also be truly effective only when we begin with the end in mind. focus first on primary greatness of character. the more your circle of influence will expand. If you want to have a more pleasant. Create an internal "comfort zone. a difficult confrontation.authenticedu. the more effective you become. It doesn't scare you. a more helpful. cooperative teenager. be a more responsible. Working within your circle of influence is productive. He writes. each person has both a circle of influence and a circle of concern. They will help you achieve a private victory of being more personally effective and independent. mediocrity. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People points out: "Principles are guidelines for human conduct that are proven to have enduring. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People jumps into the habits you should work toward creating as a part of your life. permanent value. see it clearly. visit www. be a more understanding." To succeed. Further. consistent. when you get into the situation. a sales presentation. uselessness." For more great resources. baseness. be trustworthy. we may be very efficient. or degeneration to be a solid foundation for lasting happiness and success. If you want the secondary greatness of recognized talent. more latitude in your job." After discussing the importance of character. athletic performers are visualizers. I doubt that anyone would seriously consider unfairness. In particular. a more contributing employee. Worrying endlessly about things outside of your circle of influence isn't particularly productive.

or trying to be totally independent. Covey writes: "[A] . the book. sand. Such Win/Lose thinking is encouraged and programmed into us by society. Covey points out that many people think Win/Lose. particularly for young men in their high school or college years. Covey says that all time management can be summed up by one short line: "Organize and execute around priorities. They internally believe. but they won't be good leaders or team players. But. because they aren't urgent." Stephen Covey's Habits of Interdependence.powerful programming agent is athletics. Habit 4: Think Win/Win Thinking Win/Win means seeking mutual benefit in your human interactions. Covey stresses that you must balance Production (P) with Productive Capability (PC). "If I win. Rather than being dependent upon other people. but also maintain the engine. Covey writes: "Independent thinking alone is not suited to interdependent reality. same old. Big rocks. The key to putting first things first is to understand that you have many things you can do which will have a significant.. family. Of course. First Things First. you probably don't do Page 4 ." For more great resources." Such people focus upon power and credentials.Habit 3: Put First Things First Put First Things First is the habit that became a book. Interdependence The remaining habits in The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People are habits of interdependence.. we'll wait for the movie. or organizational reality. visit www. You must allocate time to improve your Productive Capability. But. 'Winning' is 'beating' . but have trouble building meaningful relationships. They're not coming from the paradigm of interdependence necessary to succeed in marriage. They can be delayed. that's why you don't need to read First Things First! The first-things-first chapter in The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People will teach you all you need to know about time management. positive impact on your life. Independent people who do not have the maturity to think and act interdependently may be good individual producers.authenticedu. didn't really seem to add any significant insight to the basic theme. a zero sum game where some win and some lose. You shouldn't spend time doing unimportant things. ." He's correct.. Put the big rocks in the jar first. so will your success. Such people drive other people away and are seldom extremely effective. You must keep the engine producing. Same old. Often they develop the basic paradigm that life is a big game. jar. you lose.. And. so they will fit. we learn how to be more effective by effectively working with others. While we strongly recommend The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.

There is an analogy with Habit 3: Put First Things First. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People emphasizes that we must value the differences between people and how they view the world. Most people don't listen. No deal is better than any non-Win/Win deal. but as they are." Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw The final habit discussed in The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People is "Sharpen the Saw. listen with your eyes and with your heart. You Page 5 . the same is true for your own personal productivity." Covey goes on to discuss synergy in the classroom and synergy in business. You listen for feeling. you feel. You use your right brain as well as your left. for meaning. how can you discover Win/Win deals." which focuses upon self-renewal. That difference can be used as a source of insight. does he mean "sounds" like chortle. the psychological differences between people. Covey says: "Valuing the differences is the essence of synergy-the mental.To be successful you should learn to leverage the strengths of others. if you aren't even listening to the other party? Covey also suggests that you don't read your own personal autobiography into the lives of other people. grunt ?]. study. you listen with your ears. in fact. and plan. Nor should we only pretend to listen to others. Listening shouldn't be selective listening. They wait to talk. that only 10 percent of our communication by the words we say. Another 30 percent is represented by our sounds [tone? Or. and 60 percent by our body language. and meditation. visit www. Just as a machine will wear out quickly if not properly maintained. Mental Renewal discusses the need to read. you intuit. In empathic listening. chortle. To be effective. but you also.authenticedu." Habit 6: Synergize Covey writes: "What is synergy? Simply defined. the emotional. it means that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. And the key to valuing those differences is to realize that all people see the world. grunt. Habit 5: Seek First to Understand. where we learned that we must balance Productivity (P) with future Productive Capability (PC). then to be Understood Covey observes that few people have training in listening. and more importantly. But. To do this effectively involves being able to find Win/Win deals. For more great resources. You must take care of yourself. Covey breaks personal renewal into four dimensions:     Physical Renewal covers topics such as exercise and stress management. Covey writes: "Communication experts estimate. You listen for behavior. Spiritual Renewal involves possible religion. not as it is. Social/Emotional Renewal involves interacting with others to build our own sense of well-being. visualize.

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