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Congratulations on completing the PREPARE/ENRICH inventory. These results are a snapshot of how you each described your relationship on the day you took the assessment.couplecheckup. These results are summarized in the following report pages. All relationships require attention. Larson. Ph. which are resources you can use to build your relationship.D.com as a way to proactively enrich your relationship. PREPARE/ENRICH is designed to get you thinking and talking about your relationship. Based on over 30 years of research. They are also trained to teach you new relationship skills that can lead to a more satisfying couple relationship. 2008 Life Innovations. the questions and topics addressed by your assessment were customized to your relationship. the more you will both benefit: We wish you much success in growing together as a couple! Report Section Couple Map Family Map PREPARE/ENRICH Customized Version Couple Typology / Strength & Growth Areas Relationship Dynamics Personal Stress Profile Contents PREPARE/ENRICH © Copyright. the more you invest in your relationship.D. Olson. 2 . Your results will also highlight growth areas that need to be improved. Taking the time to reflect on your relationship is an important part of growing as a couple. This report can help identify your relationship strengths. Your trained PREPARE/ENRICH facilitator will be able to provide you with feedback and answer questions as you go through the results together. Ph. maintenance. and direction to keep growing and running smoothly. We encourage you to consider taking an anniversary Couple Checkup each year at the website. Peter J. http://www. Page 3 4 5 8-10 6 7 SCOPE Personality Scales Authors: David H. Don't view your results as permanent or unchangeable. Inc. Remember.
Generally. Harmonious couples also enjoy high levels of satisfaction across most areas of their relationship.40%) Areas with Moderately Low Couple Agreement Growth Areas (PCA=0 . Conventional couples are often highly committed to one another.20%) Areas with Low Couple Agreement 3 . this couple is best categorized as a Harmonious Couple. Harmonious Couple Type Based on past research with thousands of couples.100%) Areas with High Couple Agreement Strength and Growth Areas Core and Customized Scales Communication Family & Friends Financial Management Leisure Activities Parenting Expectations Sexual Relationship Spiritual Beliefs Conflict Resolution Partner Style & Habits Roles & Responsibilities Forgiveness Possible Relationship Strengths (PCA=50 . It will be helpful for them to clearly identify their strengths and growth areas as they continue to build their relationship. Couple Typology (Core Scales) Based on the PCA scores across the core categories. Conflicted couples have a lower level of satisfaction and often struggle with many areas of their relationship. skilled in communication and conflict resolution. but not as skilled in communication or conflict resolution. Levels of Positive Couple Agreement Relationship Strengths (PCA=80 . PREPARE/ENRICH categorizes couple relationships into one of five common relational patterns: Vitalized couples are typically most satisfied with their relationship. There are likely some relationship areas that have room for improvement. Devitalized couples have the lowest level of satisfaction and have growth areas in almost all aspects of their relationship. harmonious couples have a high degree of relationship satisfaction and both feel good about many aspects of their relationship.70%) Areas with Moderately High Couple Agreement Possible Growth Areas (PCA=30 .
and is sometimes able to ask for what he/she wants in the relationship. Very Low Very High Partner Dominance focuses on how much one feels controlled or dominated by their partner. Average High Avoidance is the tendency to minimize issues and reluctance to deal with issues directly. KRISTEN: TREY: TREY: TREY has a very high level of Self Confidence. KRISTEN has a high level of Self Confidence. TREY scored in the high range in Partner Dominance and often feels his/her partner is dominant. KRISTEN: TREY: Average TREY is generally good at expressing thoughts and feelings. and typically feels good about his/her ability to effectively accomplish what is wanted in life. KRISTEN: 4 . or interested in managing his/her life. controlling. Very High Very High Self Confidence focuses on how good one feels about oneself and their ability to accomplish what they want in life. and feels very sure of his/her ability to effectively accomplish what is wanted in life. KRISTEN scored very low in Avoidance and will often be open to identifying and discussing issues in their relationship. positive self-esteem. positive self-esteem. and can easily ask for what he/she wants in the relationship. controlling. and usually interested in managing his/her life. KRISTEN scored in the very low range in Partner Dominance and does not feel his/her partner is dominant. KRISTEN is good at openly expressing thoughts and feelings. Relationship Dynamics Assertiveness is the ability to express one's feelings and ask for what one wants. KRISTEN: TREY: Very Low TREY scored in the moderate range and will sometimes minimize problems and may occasionally be reluctant to deal directly with issues.
For engaged couples. KRISTEN appears to have a very high level of stress. Such individuals will profit from learning and using a variety of coping resources to better manage personal stress. It will be helpful to learn and make use of effective coping resources to better manage personal stress. This level of stress is characterized by many frustrations and high demands on a person’s time and energy. The stress may also contribute to problems with physical. The Personal Stress Profile examines each individual's personal stress level over the last year. relational. Key resources for coping with stress include healthy communication. and closeness. stress levels are based on responses to 25 common sources of personal and wedding stress. Personal Stress Profile TREY appears to have a high level of personal stress which can create many demands on a person’s time and energy. and emotional health. and emotional health problems. conflict resolution. It is not uncommon for their lists to be somewhat different. relational. flexibility. PREPARE/ENRICH Exercises: Identifying Most Critical Issues. Never 1 TREY Top 10 Stressors Inadequate income Lack of time for family How often have these issues created stress for you? Seldom 2 Sometimes 3 Often 4 Very Often Often Lack of sleep Lack of time for friends Poor health of other family members Your parents Feeling emotionally upset Lack of exercise Lack of time for yourself Time away from family Feeling emotionally upset Lack of sleep Too much to do around the home Your job Feeling overweight Feeling physically ill Lack of exercise Lack of time for friends Your own health Eating too much KRISTEN Top 10 Stressors Very Often Often Very Often 5 Sometimes Help this couple compare their lists of top stressors. Balancing your Priorities Sometimes 5 . It can cause physical. Take a moment to help them discuss where things are similar and where they are different.
Most healthy marriages not only foster connection. On this dimension. relationships can range from inflexible to overly flexible.OVERLY FLEXIBLE Couple Map VERY FLEXIBLE FLEXIBLE KRISTEN TREY SOMEWHAT FLEXIBLE INFLEXIBLE Couple Closeness is defined as the emotional closeness one feels toward their partner. Closeness Exercises. DISCONNECTED SOMEWHAT CONNECTED CONNECTED VERY CONNECTED OVERLY CONNECTED Couple Flexibility is defined as the ability to adjust to changes in roles and leadership in response to life's demands. Relationships in the flexible range are open to change when necessary. This is a healthy balance that most couples enjoy. relationships can range from disconnected to overly connected. but also leave room for each partner to continue to grow and develop as individuals. PREPARE/ENRICH Exercises: 6 . Flexibility Exercises Couple Discussion: Review the closeness and flexibility results. Both individuals described their relationship as Connected. meaning they experience a healthy balance of "We" and "I". and roles can adjust to life's demands. It can also be helpful to discuss any desired changes (increases or decreases) in closeness and flexibility. Both individuals feel their relationship is Flexible. On this dimension. Leadership and decision-making are equally shared. with a good balance between stability and change. which reflects an interdependent relationship. or closeness and separateness. It can be helpful to discuss what is positive about the current levels of closeness and flexibility. Mapping Your Relationship.
Family Flexibility is defined as a family's ability to adjust to changes in roles. with plenty of freedom to be an individual and pursue outside relationships. Mapping Your Relationship. Discuss family closeness and flexibility with actual examples such as observing a holiday. family relationships can range from disconnected to overly connected. They can have some difficulty adjusting to stress and finding new ways to deal with challenges. Leadership and decision-making are generally shared. TREY experienced a family of origin that felt Somewhat Flexible. On this dimension. and roles are clearly defined with little flexibility. and roles and routines are adjusted as needed. celebrating a birthday. These families maintain a high level of structure and organization. leadership and discipline. or handling discipline. On this dimension. What does each person want to bring from their family into the current relationship? What does each person want to leave behind? PREPARE/ENRICH Exercises: 7 .OVERLY FLEXIBLE Family Map VERY FLEXIBLE FLEXIBLE KRISTEN SOMEWHAT FLEXIBLE TREY INFLEXIBLE Family Closeness is defined as the emotional closeness one felt growing up in their family of origin. Flexibility Exercises Both individuals grew up in Somewhat Connected families. Leadership. decision-making. meaning they experienced some family closeness. These families maintain a balanced level of structure and organization. family relationships can range from inflexible to overly flexible. KRISTEN experienced a family of origin that felt Flexible and somewhat open to change. Closeness Exercises. DISCONNECTED SOMEWHAT CONNECTED CONNECTED VERY CONNECTED OVERLY CONNECTED Couple Discussion: review family of origin closeness and flexibility results.
as opposed to large groups or parties. Couple Discussion: Couples with one person scoring higher than the other will need to communicate openly with one another about attending social events and getting together with others. They may be low-key. deliberate. and less connected socially. These individuals tend to be reserved or introverted. KRISTEN scored in the Average range for being Social. and behavior in social situations. These individuals may notice they generally enjoy having a balance between alone time and social activity. PREPARE/ENRICH Exercises: SCOPE out Your Personality This trait reflects preference for. 8 . These individuals likely feel re-energized after spending time alone or in small. TREY scored Low on being Social. If out of balance. SCOPE Personality Scales Social (S) The SCOPE Personality assessment consists of five dimensions based on the Five Factor Model of Personality. intimate settings. while the other prefers more privacy and alone time. Compare where the Personality SCOPE results are similar and where they are different. They can avoid unnecessary conflict in their relationship by checking it out with each other before saying "yes" or "no" to making social plans. Social introverts often lack the exuberance and activity levels of extroverts. These individuals may find social settings enjoyable. They often prefer to be alone or with just a few close friends. One person receives energy from socializing with others. but will value privacy as well. Review the results of all five dimensions rather than focusing on just one or two traits where individuals score high or low. Discuss the advantages and drawbacks to each. they could appear reclusive or cut off from others. Their preference for being in groups or alone may change based on their mood or external circumstances. This difference may become more apparent when they are experiencing greater amounts of stress. The five dimensions and the couple's results are described below.
They thrive on developing new and creative solutions to problems. the more open person may recognize the value of their partner's steady approach to life. and more likely to be distracted from tasks. They are open to change. Couple Discussion: Couples with one person scoring higher than the other will need to communicate openly with one another about their goals. practical in nature. They are often dependable and goal-oriented. They'll want to remember to work with differences rather than attempt to change or criticize one another. SCOPE Personality Scales TREY scored Low on Change.” 9 . but it is not always a high priority. unconventional. and interest in new experiences. When out of balance. and less interested in new ideas and experiences. Change (C) This trait reflects openness to change. Others may wonder why they are constantly trying to reinvent the wheel. less focused. There may be times when the other's attitudes. These individuals do not enjoy settings in which they are required to conform to strict guidelines. relationship roles. and often have a broad range of interests. setting aside work and agendas. even when a tried and true method might work just as well. and long-term goals. but can also be flexible. They may also be less careful. These individuals are generally organized. TREY scored Low on being organized. they may appear to be too interested in new ideas and adventures. They are often easy-going and prefer not to make strict plans. Their attitudes are likely to be more conventional or traditional. KRISTEN scored in the Average range on this personality dimension. These individuals are more spontaneous. but they know where things are located. They know how to get organized. roles. distracting. This trait reflects how organized and persistent a person is in their daily life and work. They can balance one another out and avoid the extremes of perfectionism versus sloppiness. These individuals are more down to earth. Potential challenges include different expectations for housekeeping. They can work with their strengths and allow the more organized individual to handle necessary details. they could appear careless or disorganized. but can also become annoying. or even maddening when stressful events come their way. When out of balance. Change may be difficult for them and increase their level of stress. Conversely. The more practical person is often attracted to the other's free thinking and open attitudes. preferences or behavior will be challenging or frustrating. flexibility. and very open to new experiences. they could appear rigid or closed off to new experiences. Their home and workspace are likely somewhat cluttered. It is likely that their partner’s tendencies may be endearing at times. Building off each other’s strengths can help them appreciate their differences. It also reflects persistence in pursuing goals. and expectations. Organized (O) Couple Discussion: One person scoring higher than the other may represent a case of being attracted to their opposite. KRISTEN scored High on Change. But they will also need to guard against expecting the organized individual to function more like a "parent" and less like a “partner. These individuals prefer the familiar and things they are accustomed to. These individuals will tend to be flexible. When out of balance.
but generally know how to get along well with others and are well liked. problem solving and communication are key skills to help them deal with stress as a couple. They have more difficulty handling stress in their life. Couple Discussion: Couples with one person scoring higher than the other may experience occasional challenges. Some acquaintances may see their reactions as difficult to handle and pull away leaving them to feel even more isolated. anger or depression when faced with stressful situations. They value getting along with others. they can allow the more assertive partner the opportunity to truly understand how they feel. Some acquaintances may even see them as a push-over. When out of balance. This trait reflects the tendency to stay relaxed and calm even when faced with stress. versus those who are more reactive to stress in their life. These individuals are generally calm and able to cope with stress. they are able to respond and stand up for themselves. The other partner will benefit from working to be a good listener. and may tend to avoid such experiences. and helpful. anger or sadness might wonder why their partner doesn't feel the same way. they may sacrifice their own feelings and opinions to please others. KRISTEN scored High on the Pleasing dimension. When under high levels of stress. They might occasionally find themselves arguing about little matters. They will need to remember to work with one another's differences rather than attempting to change each other. Optimistic about people. These individuals will be trusting. and cooperative. One partner may need to develop their ability to honestly express both positive and negative opinions and feelings. Flexibility. They often don't enjoy new situations. These individuals can be warm and cooperative. In times of stress. are considerate. Others likely see them as capable of handling the everyday stressors that face most people. Pleasing (P) This trait reflects how considerate and cooperative one is in their interactions with others. 10 . these individuals appear fragile or overly sensitive. These individuals are more emotionally sensitive and may be easily upset. the more emotionally calm person may need to take control and help the other feel less frustrated. or assertive. decent. friendly. Looking for the positives in each other's personality styles can strengthen the relationship. The one experiencing anxiety. In their partner relationship. When they feel their rights are violated. TREY scored in the Average range on Emotionally Steady. and trustworthy. When out of balance. depression or anger. but are generally emotionally steady and in control of their life. they may find it difficult to ask for what they need. SCOPE Personality Scales TREY scored in the Average range on Pleasing. but occasionally somewhat competitive. they could experience negative feelings of anxiety. In so doing. They may be prone to anxiety. Emotionally Steady (E) Couple Discussion: Couples with one person scoring higher than the other may need to practice their communication and conflict resolution skills. stubborn. they view others as basically honest. KRISTEN scored Low on Emotionally Steady.
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