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Hadith: How to be a pious wife

It is a duty upon all of us to fulfil our roles to the best of our ability in order to attain success in this life and for the Hereafter. The following are just a few hadeeth of the blessed Prophet Muhammad (peace and prayers be upon him), highlighting the position of women in their household, and the duty upon them in serving their husbands with regard to his rights upon her. Inshallah, with the correct intention in mind, fulfilment of this role and the striving to perfect her character according to the Quraan, Sunnnah, and the way of the Pious Predecessors, it will only cause her to attain the pleasure of her Creator, and bring her closer to attaining Jannah. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him said): Every soul from the children of Aadam is a master; so the man is the master of his family, and the woman is the mistress of her household. If I were to order anyone to prostrate to other than Allah, I would have ordered the woman to prostrate to her husband. By Him in whose Hand is the soul of Muhammad, the woman will not fulfill the rights of her Lord until she fulfils the rights of her husband; and even if he were to request her for himself (i.e. to have sexual intercourse with her) whilst she was sitting upon a camels saddle, she should not refuse him. It is not right that any human being should prostrate to another being, and if it were right for a human being to prostrate to another human being I would have ordered the woman to prostrate to her husband due to the greatness of his right upon her. By Him in whose Hand is my soul, if from the crown of his head there was wound pouring forth pus, and she (the wife) came and licked that, then she would (still) not have fulfilled his right. If the woman knew the right of the husband, she would not sit when his morning and evening meals were presented until he finished. If a woman prays her five daily prayers, fasts her month (i.e. Ramadaan), guards her private parts, and obeys her husband, it will be said to her, Enter Paradise through whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish. Indeed he (i.e. the husband) is your Paradise and your Fire When asked Which of the women is best? The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said, The one who gives him pleasure when he looks; obeys him when he orders; and does not go against his wishes with regard to herself or her wealth by doing that which he dislikes. Your women from the people of paradise are the beloved and fertile, the one who is an asset to her husband, who if her husband becomes angry comes and places her hand in the hand of her husband and says, I will not taste sleep until you are pleased (with me). I was shown the Fire and found that the majority of its inhabitants were women, due to ingratitude. It was said: Is it that they disbelieve in Allah ? He said They are ungrateful to their husbands and deny the good they do. If you were to treat one of them well always, and she then saw something (displeasing) from you she would say: I have never seen any good from you.

Source: Sifaat Zawjatus Saalihah (The Righteous Wife) by Muhammad Shooman, trans. by Aboo Talha Dawood ibn Ronald Burbank

Hadith - Sahih Al-Bukhari 7.123, Narrated Abu Huraira Allah's Apostle said, "It is not lawful for a lady to fast (Nawafil) without the permission of her husband when he is at home; and she should not allow anyone to enter his house except with his permission; and if she spends of his wealth (on charitable purposes) without being ordered by him, he will get half of the reward." Hadith - Al-Tirmidhi #3095, Narrated AbuUmamah , Transmitted by Ibn Majah

The Prophet used to say, "After fear of Allah a believer gains nothing better for himself than a good wife who obeys him if he gives her a command, pleases him if he looks at her, is true to him if he adjures her to do something, and is sincere towards him regarding her person and his property if he is absent."

Hadith - Al-Tirmidhi #3254, Narrated Anas ibn Malik Allah's Messenger said, "When a woman observes the five times of prayer, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her chastity and obeys her husband, she may enter by any of the gates of Paradise she wishes."
[AbuNu'aym transmitted it in al-Hilyah.]

Hadith - Al-Tirmidhi 3257, narrated Talq ibn Ali Allah's Messenger said, "When a man calls his wife to satisfy his desire she must go to him even if she is occupied at the oven." Hadith - Al-Tirmidhi 3272, narrated Abu Hurayrah When Allah's Messenger was asked which woman was best he replied, "The one who pleases (her husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a command, and does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he disapproves."
[Nasa'i and Bayhaqi, in Shu'ab al-Iman transmitted it.]

Hadith - Bukhari 1:28, Narrated Ibn 'Abbas The Prophet said: "I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to

Allah?) He replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."