General Guides to Life

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May 2012


General Guides to Life
May 2012

How valuable is your time? In life, we know that time is something very precious and priceless. And yet we procrastinate, and use them for things that are of no good at all to us. Meanwhile, we can sometimes be very protective of our cash, while wasting the time that could have been more precious. Let’s do the counting: Let’s say your annual salary is $36,000. This means you earn $3000 a month, which means $100 a day. With that, we can say that an hour of your time is approximately $4. So, when you go to the cinema for two hours, you use $8 plus the ticket fee. When you sleep for 7 hours, you are ‘using’ $28. When your friend asks you to go to his birthday party for 4 hours, he’s also asking for $16. Using the previous example, if that friend asks you to go to a party, you would not hesitate at all. However, it would be different if he is asking you directly for $16, right? The fact is that we underestimate the value of our own time, and tend to use it for things worth less than it should. Substituting your time for money is one of the most effective ways to stop yourself from procrastinating and instead use it wisely. Another example: If you’ve got to pay $2 to use the highway but would reach your destination 15 minutes faster, is that a good deal? Some people would use the highway without doubt and some would not, but the same method can be used to calculate it. If an hour of your time is $4, then 15 minutes is $1, so $2 is not worth it. Is it worth it? This is the primary question you need to ask yourself when you are asked for time. Is having 7 hours of sleep worth $28? Is having dinner with your friends worth $8? Is replying the email from your high school friend worth $1? You’ll realize that some of these things are absolutely worthless, although there are also many that you find priceless. If you think it’s worth it, then go do it. Otherwise, find something worth it to do. Knowing the value of your time is very crucial for you to understand that it’s not something you can waste on anything or use for things that are not worth it. It also teaches you what and who are really important in your life and are worth spending those dollars for. In addition, this also clears out the priorities in your life and what’s precious for you and what’s not. I used 2 hours to make this post, and you don’t need to know how much my time is worth, but I can say that having you read this and learn from it is priceless and precious to me. If you’ve read to this word, I can conclude that it was worth it to spend my time on this post. When you think of time as money, to most people it would be clear that it actually is a lot more valuable than you previously thought it is. And it is. In fact, you might be reading this post or for quite a few minutes now. Can you tell me whether that was worth it?

How being proud and showing off is different To be proud and to show off are two phrases very different by context and yet very similar by definition. It is very easy to assume that a person showing off is proud, although obviously it is wrong since being proud is a positive thing while showing off is not. However, when you learn the thin line between them, you could easily differ them. Technically, the base, or the core of both of these traits are the same. They are happy with what they have. The difference lies in the extent to which it is displayed. To be proud is to be very happy with something and glad of what you have, while showing off is to display it and be cocky. Not clear enough? Okay, take it this way. Let’s say a man has a daughter who has just won a singing contest. To be proud is to walk beside her confidently and be happy to be the father of that girl. To show off is to stand in the middle of a shopping centre and tell everyone, “Hey, my daughter just won a singing contest!” To be proud is more of a quality that involves self-contention more than everything else. When you are proud, you are happy with yourself. It is an inner feeling, and you keep it there. That’s proud. However, a ‘show-off’ is someone who does not seek self-contention alone. They want prestige, respect from other people for something that they should not care about. It is being cocky and overconfident. And yet, despite these differences, it remains a true fact that showing off is just being proud taken to an extent too far. Yes, it is good to be proud of who you are and what you did, but there is a certain limit exceeding which it becomes a bad thing. Pride is a good thing, but you should also take it with the same amount of humility and respect to others. Otherwise, it is, by definition, showing off, which is obviously a bad thing. When you’re proud, there remains a possibility that you could be showing off any second if you don’t control yourself. As I said, there is a very thin line between the two terms, and sometimes pride makes our vision unclear and we can’t see that line. When you start mentioning how great you are or what you did to those who didn’t ask, that’s showing off. When you act differently to show something good in you, that’s showing off, and you should know then that you’ve crossed the line. If you’ve got a perfect mark for a test and someone asks you for your mark and you answer honestly, would that be showing off? No. You’re just answering their question. It’s a common mistake people do. “Hey, in what position are you in the company” someone would ask. And the person they talk to would say, “I’m their CEO.” This could be mistaken as showing off, but they’re asking, and the truth is out. That’s being proud, not showing off. However, if that is mentioned without being asked, the line is crossed. Being proud is doing everything naturally, but showing off is something you do solely for respect and prestige. Yes, it’s quite difficult to make out the line between those two terms, but I hope I cleared it enough for you to be proud, but not to show off!

How to remain optimistic when bad things happen When bad things happen, it can only be natural if you become sad, disappointed, and hopeless. You feel like a total failure in it and see absolutely no reason to be happy. You fell, and want to get back up, but sometimes the sorrow keeps you away from the motivation to get up. You know you have to be optimistic and try again, but it looks pointless. So, how do you remain optimistic and full of hope to try again when the situation is bad? Take on the positives. It is a fact that no situation is entirely bad for you; there’s always something to gain. When something bad happens to you, it is an extra experience for you to learn what leads to bad things and how to overcome it. Also, it could mean that you’re entering a new process in your life: a tougher one, one you can further develop from. For example, you were sacked from your company. You’re jobless. Maybe this is time for you to learn what made you get sacked and to prevent it in the future, and search for a new job that perhaps is better for you!  Think of it as a start of something new, not the end. Unless you die, everything that happens to you won’t be permanent. Every change that happens to you is NOT the end. So, when there is a drastic change or something bad happens to you, it might be the end of a good period of time for you, but let’s just think of it as the start of an even better time! Of course, this does not change the reality, but it changes the way you look at it- which will highly influence the way you respond to it. This really happens, because when you are in a different mood, you interpret it differently, and when you’re sad, you don’t think in the same optimal way you normally do.  Abandon it and think of it again later. Again, this does not change reality, but it changes the way you look at it. When you faced something bad and just think about it right away, you tend to focus on the most obvious things: the bad ones. But when you forget it for a few hours’ or a few days’ time and think about it again, you are likely to re-think about it and see it with a more positive attitude- a chance instead of a loss, a change instead of a drop. Trust me, it does happen that way.  Find a quick response immediately, after you’ve thought of it back in focus. This is a matter of common sense. When you respond quickly, you accept the change and try to improve with it. When you do, your mind is in search of a solution- a means to improvehope. You’re back in positive mode and want to improve from that point, not remain in the negativity of the change. Maybe it’ll be a chance to be even better, who knows?! This is where you’re supposed to be- on the road to becoming even better. Agree with me? Disagree? Have other ideas? Either way, be sure to tell me!

How our personalities are shaped There are a very wide range of personalities among the billions in the earth, and each of them is unique. Between the quiet, the outgoing, the extrovert and the introvert, it can only be natural for us to wonder, “How on earth are those personalities shaped?” People have so diverse personalities that we can’t even guess what made them as they are. But the truth is that they have 3 things that shape their personalitiescontinuously. Yes, these 3 things are still shaping you right now... 1. Experience. I would call anyone who denies this a total idiot. Obviously, the experience we had in the past affects us so deeply that it has been ‘planted’ into our personalities. For example, a person who has trusted people but has always been let down would now not be open anymore. Someone whose opinion is never heard in the family would be very quiet regardless of where they are, since they have a mindset that tells them their opinion is worthless. The good experiences build up confidence in you, while the bad ones tell you what to not do. Either way, if the same thing happens frequently and continuously, they would impact what you are as a person; you learn from it. 2. Genetics. Another obvious thing. It’s natural that family members have similar personalities. Genetics affect our natural personality; how we think and how we respond to situations. “Like father like son.” and “Like mother like daughter.” I’m sure you’ve heard of these phrases. There is a huge scientific complexity behind genetics that I haven’t even bothered to think about, but a part of your personality is shaped since you were born, perhaps something from your parents or grandparents. 3. Mental awareness. This is something less obvious and known, but it matters to the same extent as the previous two. Your mental awareness is your mental age, or maturity. This is a major part of your personality as it is also a major factor of how you perceive everything that happens around you. For example, if a 9-year-old pushes you at the mall that you fall, someone with a low mental awareness would be mad and perhaps push them back. Someone more mature will ignore it and walk away, not wanting to cause trouble over a small thing. They would understand that, well, that’s what kids are like. This is mostly about our perspective to actions in the world. It must be noted, though, how they shape your personality. It’s not that each of these three forms each part of your personality and become who you are. WRONG. These factors are parts of you, but they merge together in one thing that forms your true personality: your life. They combine with each other to form you. Imagine a computer. It’s not that the processor forms the input speed or the hard drive creates the speed you access the memory, but the true performance of it is determined by a combination of the processor, hard drive, graphic card, etc. So, your experiences, genetics, and mental awareness form your personality. So, what does that mean to you? Do you need to do something? No, not really. The purpose of this post is to just inform you of how your personality is formed so you can understand yourself better. And if you read it down to this word, I’m pretty sure it’s done its job really well already!

How to make horrible work fun In the current state of the world, there are many things we need to do for our own good, even if they are boring, unpleasant, or tiring. There might be the 2000 word English essay you’ve got to do finish by the end of the week or the monthly sales report you boss demands to be done by Tuesday, and they seem too boring, tiring, and just things you don’t want to do, even if you know you have to. You’re not motivated at all to do it- you want to have some fun instead. So, what do you do to make that horrible work fun?

Do it with friends and colleagues. I think we all know that everything can be made quite fun in the presence of our friends, especially those who are in the same position. It would help a lot for you to gather around friends, discuss about whatever you’re doing, and have a casual, fun conversation among yourselves. This could lengthen the time you need to finish the task, but it will feel faster and more enjoyable. I know, this can sometimes be impossible when you are far away, but in most cases video calls would do the trick well enough Take a 5-minute stress busting break every small milestone you achieve. This can be playing games, online browsing, or anything that you enjoy, but the logic behind this is to have a short time you will look forward to and makes you motivated to keep going and work. The milestone could be finishing a section, a chapter, the data chart in your report, or anything appropriate. Remember to stick to the 5-minute time frame, though! Listen to music. This is an odd trick, but it is also very effective. Through earphones, casually listen to music, paying attention to the songs and the lyrics a little. This makes it your main attention point while not being distracting enough to make you go off your work. You will subconsciously do the work (surprisingly well) while having fun listening to music. Yes, your quality of work might decrease a little bit, but that’s better compared to you stressed of your work, which would reduce the work quality even more. Have a very interesting work environment. It is also a proven fact that having an interesting work environment, despite stressful and unpleasant work, have an effect to the mood you are in and how you perceive that work. If it does not help being in a plain room you usually are, try doing it in the backyard, where there are a few interesting things to notice. If that doesn’t help, you could try the local café or coffee shop. Being in the company of others, or even in an unusual place, helps get you out of your work monotone. This could also help you out of the horrible feeling you get when working, as there are a lot of things to notice around.

That’s just 4 of the ways I personally use to make some of my most boring and stressful work interesting and fun to do, and although there are many out there that work just as well, I’m sure it’s a start good enough to make you enjoy your work more, even if they’re still unpleasant. And that means stress and sorrow is no longer waiting for you in the room you work in!

How people improve and develop in life You might, or might not, have known this before, but as humans nurture over their lifetime, either in terms of intelligence, emotions, social life, or any other aspect of life, there are always things that make them develop and change into someone different (even if it’s just slightly different). We don’t just change without a reason, there’s always something that makes us change. What are those reasons? Well, first of all, you should know that there are two types of situations that make us learn and develop ourselves: There’s the easy way of developing and the hard way. The easy way is the one we know and those that are obvious: lessons. When you’re told of a life lesson or an improvement by your parents, teachers, or even a personal development blog like this, sometimes it affects you and you think, “That’s right. Maybe I should change and develop myself into a better person.” And with that, you improve and develop into a better person. The hard way, obviously, is the opposite. You don’t learn through lessons. Instead, there are many experiences you face that make you realize the truth behind them, and you learn from those experiences to develop into someone slightly different. We face a situation we normally don’t, and we find out something during the process of it. This is also the main reason why people say, “The process of something is always more important than the end result.” It might end up as a failure, but something valuable is gained from it: an important lesson. This is also why older people tend to be more mature, because they have faced more things in their lives and therefore learned the hard way more. Obviously, it is better for you to learn things the easy way, since it does no harm to you at all. Unfortunately, many people realize no importance in those lessons and think they are not worth it to learn about. When we are taught the easy way, we are often blinded of its importance in our lives. We don’t notice how it’s going to impact us before we see it ourselves- the hard way. When we experience it, we realize it, but there are some consequences you have to face- needing to experience it (which is usually unpleasant). So, learning the easy way is better for you, but for most people, the hard way is more effective when you don’t ‘get’ the lesson by learning the easy way. When you learn the easy way, you merely learn the theoretical side of it, and it might not make sense. But when you learn the hard way, you’ll need to face it altogether- the theory and the practical side of it. And it’s hard to deny that the practical side of it would be much easier when you know the theory; when you know what’s good to do, all you’ve got to do is do it, but when you don’t, you’ve got to learn it first. True, it IS a choice to learn the hard way, and you could, but what I’ve been trying to tell you is that it will make you stress more, and it’s going to be tougher on you. As I said before, most of the experience you need to learn the hard way is mostly unpleasant. Isn’t that self-explanatory enough for you? So, next time you get a life lecture from your boss, teacher, or parent, listen up!

True Measures of Success What’s success? How do you know whether or not someone is successful? Well, you might be thinking about the level of fame they are in or how much money they have, but is it really that? The truth Although there are many aspects that can be associated to the level of someone's success, there is one part that is consistent and necessary in every person who can be called successful: their own judgment. Why? Because success is highly associated with standards and their own are the most accurate. I'll explain this: Success is a very abstract thing. For example, if you were a computer programmer at a small company making a 5-figure salary, would you be successful? It depends. If you were a high school drop-out, that would be a very satisfying job without a doubt. You would then call yourself someone successful. But if you had a PhD degree at computer science in Harvard University, you would have expected a LOT more from yourself. Therefore, you will be disappointed and call yourself a failure. In both cases mentioned above, we are talking about the exact same thing. But if you were a high school drop-out, you would have far lower standards compared to a PhD holder at Harvard. So, why does this mean our own judgment is always the most accurate for ourselves? Well, it's simply because we know ourselves best. The standards we set ourselves with are always the most accurate, because we know every single experience we went through and the reasonable expectations we should be able to meet. If we exceed it, then we are successful. If not, then we're not successful. It's that simple. Of course, there's a reason other people could not be an accurate judge for you. Let's get back to the programmer example. If you were a PhD holder being that programmer, obviously you are a failure. However, someone working at a fast food restaurant making a low 4-figure salary would still call you someone successful, because of the same reason: standards. They have a much lower standard, so they could not judge anywhere near as well you could. In the ideal set of circumstances, our standards would gradually rise. As we gain more experience and learn more, it is natural that we become better, we KNOW we become better, and therefore expect more from ourselves. At one point now, we might be successful, but 5 years later, at the same point, we might not, because we failed to live up to our own expectation of rate of improvement. Take it this way: If you were a 12-yearold in eighth grade, you would have been a genius, right? There's no way a normal 12 year old could be in eighth grade. But, if 5 years later, you're still in eighth grade at the age of 17, you would be called a total idiot by everyone. So, now that you know this, judge yourself, would you? Are you successful or not? Don't ask others, they don't know what you went through. Or even worse, judge others when YOU don't know what THEY went through!

The Power of Your Words Has it ever occurred to you that mere words that come out of your lips have powers far beyond you imagine? Have you ever thought that your current words and the near future's reality are closely related? Well, you'd better do now. You might not have believed it before, but it makes huge sense when you think about it. Steve Jobs, when Apple was developing their first tablet computer, named that device the iPad. And what do you call it now? The iPad. His mere words, “This is called the iPad.” have made us call it that even beyond the day of his death. Yes, I know you're thinking, "I am no Steve Jobs." But again, you can't hide from the facts. And the fact is that your words to anyone to whom you say it to has huge effect. Why? Well, let me use an example. When someone you respect highly tells you, "You're the person I can trust the most." (Even if you're not). Later, when you are given something to do by that same person, you would be thinking, "I'm the person he trusts the most. I can't let him down." Then you'll do everything you can not to let him down, and later you succeed. On the other hand, if he says, "Go away. You're useless." (When you're not) when he gives something for you to do, you'll be thinking, "He says I'm useless, why should I do something he tells me to?" Then you won't do it, and therefore what he says will be right: you're useless. So, just like Steve Jobs' and Bill Gates' words, our words and what we call everything around us have a chance of becoming reality. Words we say are a lot more than just words. They reflect what we think, our behavior, our feelings, and how we perceive everything around us. They are the main way of communication, and mean a lot more to people than you might have thought. In fact, they have powers similar to self-fulfilling prophecies, although of course in a much smaller scale. So, now that you've been told about this, I hope you know well enough not to say anything as you please. Your words, whether you know it or not, are weapons capable of doing so much more than you think. Be careful with your every word, for once they're said, you can't take them back, and you never know what is affected by your words. Watch out!

5 ways to achieve improvement "Improve on this. Improve on that, too." You've heard it countless times. People keep telling you to improve, and you and I both know that it sounds simple, but the actual thing is not nearly that easy. We all try to improve, but most of the time it just doesn't work. It's just hard to improve, I know. So, how exactly do we improve and become better? Well, there are 5 things you NEED to know. Probably you've heard of some of these before, maybe not for the others. 1. Have a clear aim. You can't just say you want to improve at something; you need to know exactly WHY and HOW you want to improve. For example, if you say you want to be healthier, what exactly do you want to do? Lose 5kg weight? Do more 15 minutes of sports? You need to know exactly what you want in detail; that way you know exactly what you're doing. 2. Keep on trying. I think you know by now that improvement is nothing that comes overnight. Instead, through lots of time and effort, it appears gradually. So, if you see the results of what you're trying to do not paying off, you still can't say the results won't come. It hasn't, but if you keep trying, it will. 3. Ask for help. Well, this is pretty obvious, but somehow people rarely think of this as a way to improve. As you might have known, people have different strengths and weaknesses. So, if you happen to have a desire to improve in something that isn't your strength, probably it's someone else's strength, and chances are that if you ask them, they can help you to improve in various ways. 4. Innovate. Okay, so you can't improve, but that's with the methods you've known of. That's how far you can do with the current ways. But what if your potential can actually be expanded a lot more using other ways you- or even other people- haven't found yet? With that said, if you can't seem to improve any further with what you've done so far, it's time to brainstorm, ask, and search for new ways to improve. No, your potential doesn't stop there. There is a lot more you can do. 5. Be consistent. As I said before, a good, stable improvement takes a lot of time, and it happens very slowly and gradually instead of all of a sudden. During this slow process, it is essential for you to try those improvements step-by-step, consistently. This way, you give your body a chance to adapt. Be warned, however, that you MUST be consistent. If you are not, well, at best, you're wasting a lot of time trying to improve and go back a few steps from where you are heading. Your body needs to re-adapt to the improvement again. That's it for my part. Well, of course, if you disagree with me, or you have other ways to improvement, be sure to tell me!

5 simple but important things most people fail to do There are a lot of essential things we have to be able to do so we can maintain a certain life quality. Physical ones, such as food and health routines, can be obvious, and can be fulfilled immediately. However, there are a few mental things that are important that we fail to fulfill. Here are 5 of the most common important things related to mental and social health that most people are unable to fulfill: 1. Think from another person's perspective. To some people, this can be one of the most natural and easiest things to do, while it could be the complete opposite to others. It is the nature of humans to think about what's good for themselves, which is by no means inappropriate. However, in the current state of the society, it is of equal importance to know, understand, and consider what might be good for others, and, most importantly, for everyone. Unfortunately, some people do not understand what it feels to be someone else; the importance of mutual benefit. They don't care. Why? Because people in general put their own importance before others’ and they haven't cared enough for others. Luckily, as we live on, some people are able to do this, as they care more about others around them. 2. Differ between needs and wants. Although there is a clear line between what remains a necessity and what is merely something we want, it can be difficult at times to separate them from each other, especially when they involve things such as fun and/or happiness. There is no clear way to overcome this problem, although it might come gradually with experience. 3. Control themselves. Sometimes, we know it is bad to do something, but for a reason or another, we still do it. For example, you know that it's not good to tease your friends, but for a reason or another you still do it. As I might have said before, this is related to your subconscious self. Deep inside, you know you have 'fun' by seeing their reactions to what you do. But sometimes, you gotta do fight that, do what you know is right, and leave off your subconscious. Know exactly what you're doing and why. 4. Be satisfied. This is one of the simplest things to do, but still one of the hardest nevertheless. As we live, there are some things we would like to improve on; those become our aims. When we achieve that aim, however, the standard rises, and there are still some things we would like to improve even more on. This process repeats the whole time, which means we are almost never satisfied with what we have as our eyes are headed for even more. The will to improve is good, but sometimes it is more important to appreciate what you have and be content with it. How? That's easy, just look at what you actually have right now instead of what you wish you had. You'll be surprised at how much effect that small action brings. 5. Focus. That sounds easy, right? "Focus on what you're doing and let nothing distract you.' We think we can all do it- and most of us probably think we HAVE done it, but the truth is the opposite. Do you have the kind of focus it takes to finish a 5-page report without a break? Probably not, as humans' average attention time is short. When there is something else more interesting than what we do, that's where our attention goes, unfortunately. Well, now that you know about the 5 simple but important things we fail to do, why don't you try to find solutions and share them with me?

4 ways to increase your life quality Looking to increase your life quality? Here's how:

Get a balance. There’s a limit to how much of something good you can get until it becomes bad for you. Also, when you go for too much, there’s too little of something else. Therefore, it could only be beneficial for you to find and apply the optimal balance. Find the optimal balance in how much of something you’ll get. For example, the optimal balance of the distribution of a kid’s time might be 9 hours of sleep; 2 hours spent eating, 6 hours at school, another 2 in family time, et cetera. All of these activities are positive, but let’s imagine someone with 13 hours of sleep. That would leave too little time for other things and is therefore not part of a good balance. There’s an appropriate limit for practically anything, and it’s good to meet it, but not exceed it. Stop hoping, start trying. Why not? Is there actually a point in just hoping indefinitely for something to happen? I don’t think so. They would mean absolutely nothing unless you start trying to make them happen, and what’s a better time than now? Make an effort and take steps to actually make it happen, instead of dreaming it. I mean, why let it stay in your dreams when you actually can have it in reality? Start taking actions and steps, even if they are very small ones, to reach what you want. Get it done. I think everyone would agree that there is no point in starting and trying to accomplish something. Unfortunately, that doesn’t happen a lot, especially when you try to achieve something that takes a lot of time and effort (long term). But think again: Are you really going to let all the hard work that you’ve done NOT pay off? Are you ready to admit that all the work you’ve done trying to achieve this has been wasted? Even if the enthusiasm to get it done has vanished, you’re a lot better off finishing the things you’ve started and get the rewards rather than start something else (and not finishing that either). Have a clear purpose. What are you living for? Why are you doing this? Have a clear aim for everything you do and focus upon it, so you don’t waste loads of time and energy for nothing. You’ve got to know exactly and in detail the purpose of doing everything you do, even if it’s insignificant or only part of an even bigger process. Let’s face it: If you haven’t got a clear purpose, then you don’t know why you’re doing it (the reason) and therefore SHOULDN’T be doing it as it’s just wasting your time!

Physical age vs. mental age Your physical age is not necessarily your mental age. In fact, it is, more often than not, different-slightly. Your physical age, as you should have known, is the time from the moment you were born to right now. On the other hand, your mental age is a measure of how you think and behave. A mental age of 16 is the average for people with a physical age of 16. It is true that (usually) people with a more mature physical age tend to also have a higher mental age due to more time for self-development and experiencing things in their own lives, but that’s not always the case. In some cases, younger people (kids or teens) can be more mentally mature in comparison to their older counterparts for various reasons. One of the primary reasons is genetics. A few people, naturally, can think better and know the basics of life faster than others; related to their family lines, etc. Another, more easily understandable reason is experience. When someone has faced more diverse situations, especially difficult ones, and learns well from them, there is a very big chance that they will be much more mentally mature after learning from the experiences they have faced in the past. This is also the reason older people tend to be more mentally mature; because they have faced more things and learned from a lot of things in their longer lives. So, I said you can be more mentally mature if you have faced more difficult situations. Does that mean you should throw yourself into hard situations? NO. I also said diverse. Put yourself through many different situations and see how well you can deal with it. There are enough problems in the world, and I think you could not deny that problems will come to you as you face these situations anyway. Bad decisions, in particular, teach you the better solution to something. Should I have a more mature mental age? Well, that depends on your preference. If you want to have fun and enjoy life, maybe not. But if you want to face real life and the problems you need to overcome in life, then you WILL want to be more mentally mature, for sure!

Holding back the real YOU While it is obviously best to be yourself and stay true to who you are, there are a few unfortunate situations in which it might be better, or even necessary, as your true personality and interpretation of situations do not fulfill the role you need to fill at that time, especially in important and formal events involving people you do not normally mingle with. This can sometimes come very easily as a natural instinct at certain times, but some might still struggle to hold back their true self, as they are not used to it at all. Here's an example: What would you act like around all your best friends? Well, if you were to meet the president, would you retain that same personality? Probably not. But would a 4-year old's attitude be as different around the president compared to his friends? Chances are that it won't be all that different, even if they are told of the importance. They find it less of a priority to hold back their true self than you do. Let's face it here: most of the time, you're not who you really are, and you do that for the sake of your general reputation. You don't want many others to know the real you, just in case they think badly of it, as it isn't what they might want from you... Might. Yes, because sometimes, they don't. We're sometimes too cautious, and in the cases of the people you have a possibility of working with them for a long time, it's better to show your true self right away so they know you well already and do not think you have 'changed' at a later date, because when you work with someone closely in a long time, your true personality will be revealed sooner or later anyway. Now this is where you shouldn't be holding back your interpretation of things and your personality. In short, it is sometimes good to hold back who you are, as it might be unacceptable at certain times, but don't do it too much, for you are who you are and that's how you are unique. Show your true colors and be proud of it!

Finding your real personality So, you were a really quiet kid in elementary school and became a really outgoing teen as you approach high school before finally being a leader in a big company now. But all of these really different people are, well, you. So, what's your real personality? Truth is, you don't have a real personality that stays there in your whole life. As you live and get older, you become different and act in different ways. Your personality evolves over time. So, instead of having your current personality as your real ones, they are simply an evolution of your past personalities. This evolution involves change, and the rate of it depends on the rate of change in your life. When you face a drastic, immediate, and big change that affects you significantly, there is a big chance that you will also change quickly. However, if the change around you and the situation you are in is gradual and takes a lot of time, the same will apply to the change in your personality. As a human being, you are able to change your personality to suit how you should act in different situations, especially those you face often and in long periods of time. Admit it: around your friends you're not the person your family thinks of. You don't have a real personality, but those personalities you do have change as you face different situations, and even if they do stick to you for a long time, it won't be with you your entire life. However, in very rare circumstances where there is little change over the lifetime of a person, it is theoretically possible for a person to have the same personality from a very early age (5 or 6 years old). A more common type of this (but still rare) is when a person has the same personality from the moment they exit childhood (around 12-13 years old) to the end of their lives, whereas personalities, on average, do not last a lot longer than a decade. During growth, this time is quicker, and gradually slows down as you approach adulthood, where the rate is slowest. Also, this rate is different from one person to another, depending on their mental growth and maturity, so you there's no definite rate. Your personalities, after all, are unique to you, and only you. You may be asking, "What's your point?" Well, stop trying to 'find your personality'! Just work on the ones you have!

Social Pressure Social pressure comes in many different ways... You’ve probably heard of the term ‘peer pressure’, a type of social pressure (happening mostly to teens) in which your habits and behavior become more similar to that of your close friends over time as you have a close relationship. In many ways, this can easily be marked as a negative effect, but not necessarily. Truth is that peer pressure can be both negative and positive, since both their negative and positive qualities can get to you. Another type is where your actions at a certain time determines a lot of things for your friends and your success or failure means a lot to their future, either short term or long term. Again, the effects of this pressure can either be positive or negative. On one hand, the pressure could motivate you to do the very best you can and give it all you have, making you do the best. On the other, it is also a possibility that it will make you nervous and thinking too much about the effects of what you do, leaving you unable to do your best. Both types change you is a way or another, either in the short term or long term, but the biggest factor in whether the effects are good or bad lies in your own interpretation. Even if they try to change you to the worse, if you interpret it in the right way, there can always be something good to gain from the pressure they give you. If they try to make you better but you think of them in a wrong way, the effects would also be bad. It's not what they do that matters most; it's your interpretation. It's all about what you think of it and how you react to them.

Habitual Changes for the Better I know everyone knows exactly what their weaknesses are and even the very simple solutions to them. We know that there is something in you that prevents you from changing, even if you know you've got to change for your own good, and that there will be consequences to take from your own inability to change your part of your personality or a specific bad habit(s). However, in some cases, we 'just can't', even if you know it's good for you (don't worry, that happens to me too). This is because a (small) part of you still likes the old way that you know isn't good and would like to hold on to it. Mostly, that would mean holding on to something you know is bad for you for what it has (normally, that would be fun, happiness, or other good feelings). We tend to take a LOT of time to move forward when there's still something we want, and your only opponent to that improvement you need is yourself. Well, although it is not a sure-fire way to make yourself change for the better, there are a few steps you can take... The first step is to tell yourself what you will gain with this change in yourself. Tell your conscious self what improvements will take place. After that is done, you have to dive deep in yourself and find out the reason you haven't been able to make yourself change. For example, "I can't stop smoking because it gives me relaxation and a way off problems." or "I can't stop playing games because they're fun and are what brings me happiness." Whatever it is is fine, as long as you be honest to yourself. Habits and personalities are not things you can change in an instant. Give it time and allow gradual change that goes through a process. For example, if your bad habit is not being able to study because you watch TV, then don't try to study the whole day all of a sudden. Start with 10 minutes a day, going to 20 a day after a week, and so on. If your bad habit is smoking 5 bars a day, reduce it to 4 for a week, then try how you go with 3. Take big changes gradually, because drastic changes often don't work at all.

Short and long term needs Your needs are either short term or long term. Short term needs are those that you absolutely need now, and the effects of not having them over a short period of time would be immediately visible. The majority of these needs are concrete, and are clearer, affecting your physical condition (such as food, shelter, or clothing). Meanwhile, long term needs are less obvious, and we can usually carry on for a certain period of time without them, although that would significantly reduce the quality of life you have. These are the ones that affect your mental condition, such as the need to feel respected, the need to have hope, or have others supporting you. In the case of the short term ones, you need them and you know it, and significant physical changes would take place should you fail to obtain any of them. In the case of the long-term ones, however, everyone needs them, but they might not necessarily realize it, although there would also be significant changes without them in a certain period of time (e.g. depression, lack of motivation to live, the urge to suicide.) To put it short, long term needs are those that affect your mental health. Having one of those needs does not mean the other is fulfilled. For example, the richest person in the world would, without doubt, have all the short-term needs he could dream of. However, it is still a possibility that he does not have the long-term needs, especially if he is dealing with divorce, personal problems, lawsuits or other problems he is deeply concerned about. On the other hand, a poor boy might not have enough food to live, but he might (although unlikely) feel loved and respected, and even enjoy life. This would be the opposite of the rich man. In comparison, short-term needs are simpler to obtain. If you’ve got money, then it’s almost guaranteed, as you would be able to get decent shelter, food, etc. There are no such ‘guarantees’ in the case of long-term needs. No matter who you are or what you do, there will always be a chance that your long- term necessities, or ‘subconscious needs’, might not be fulfilled. How can you be sure whether or not you have this fulfilled? Easy. Summarize your whole life in one word, and see whether the word is positive or negative. If it is a positive word, then you have these necessities, which are more related to your current feelings than anything else.

Short & Long Term Wants Like your needs, your wants can also be either short term or long term. Mainly, short term wants are those that are related to your current comfort, feelings, and happiness, and are 'generated' based on your situation at the moment, with a time frame of up to an hour. On the other hand, like its name implies, long term wants are those that you aim for in the long run, and not the present (or even near future). They are more related to your dreams and your aims in life, and take (by far) more time and effort, with time frames that could reach an entire lifetime. These (if and when they are fulfilled) are what you can call your major successes in life. Short term wants can easily change very frequently. You can have one in a minute and have another entirely different shortterm want in the next, as your feelings and situation change rapidly too. As they depend on your CURRENT condition, they can change, and are therefore not a good measure of what you truly want. For example, you could be teased by your friend and all you want to do is find a way to get them punished, but 5 minutes later you're playing with them and that will is gone by the wind. You might also want a new phone, a better wallet, etc, which would be categorized as short-term as they are more about materialistic things. Long-term wants are different. They very rarely change, and only do if there is a drastic change in something that happens to be significant for you, which is reasonable seeing as they depend on deeper things such as your personality and who you are, along with your deepest intentions. These long-term wants are more about social status, reputation, and life quality rather than emotional situations or materialistic things. Like needs, they are more abstract than their short term counterparts, and are the ones that vary a LOT more from one person to another compared to short-term wants. However, these are not to be mistaken with needs. These things are good to have, and are something extra for you, but if one of them is taken away from you, nothing too significant will happen to your life unless it is a very long-term want that suddenly fails out of nowhere. It could cause a minor setback for you, but unlike needs, the effect will not affect you too much.

Quantity vs. Quality It is common belief that quality is always better than quantity, and I would not disagree with that. Quality is more important to have than quantity, as they would let you be more focused and be the absolute best in one area rather than just be 'good' in many areas. However, I would not agree with that statement in all situations. Why? Take it this way: You would rather have 1 dollar than 4 dimes, right? But what if I gave you 50 dimes for that dollar? You'd very much think again. Is it better to have a Smartphone than 10 'regular' cell phones? On one hand, even the combined capabilities of those 'regular' cell phones would come near to matching a smartphone's. On the other hand, however, if you decide to sell those cell phones, you could have had enough money to buy 2 or 3 smartphones! In these comparisons, the most important thing is to be rational. In exaggerated numbers, quantity can beat quality, although it is true that quality is better in most situations. There is no method to find out exactly which are better, so it is up to you to think and decide using your common sense.

Your Unfulfilled Potential There are no limits to what you, as a human being, could achieve. It is common sense that there is always an end to our abilities, beyond which is nothing we can achieve, at least as of now, which I could not deny. But that's only using the potential that you have fulfilled and could use at the moment, and not your entire potential. In other words, you can actually do a LOT more that you think, and almost nothing is impossible. Let's face it: back in the ages of the cavemen, they thought it was really great for a human being to be able to make a fire in an hour. Now, all we do is turn a button or rub a match. This shows the potential of the human civilization in general, which was not fulfilled yet back then. Now, it's the time for YOU to show your potential. You are better than you, your family, and your friends think. There's only one thing left for you to do: use it. In fact, you know you can be better than you are now, and you realize some of that unfulfilled potential; in your dreams and imagination. Yes, unless you have wild imaginations, almost all of the things that you imagine are possible. You CAN do the stuff you want to, from being a racecar driver to the richest person in the world, but before you take the first step towards all of that, you have to face the biggest obstacle that lies in your path. Yourself. Yes, YOU are the biggest obstacle to your dreams. A voice inside you claims that you can't do it, when actually you could. The sense of doubt is what stands in your path, and what this post tells you- that you are ABLE to do it, is the first step to achieving it. When you know you can do it, you make serious efforts to actually and realistically reach for your dreams with the potential within you that you have yet to unlock.

Fooling yourself Fooling yourself is the act of trying to conceal the truth from yourself and convincing yourself that what you actually know as a fact is wrong. It is also a common action to take when the truth looks dark, and you try to tell yourself it's fine. However, as comforting as it might seem, all you are doing is setting yourself an uncertain future that you are not prepared for. Although it would almost be natural if you tried to fool yourself in certain situations, there are a lot of reasons why you shouldn't.

Factors in your decisions
Decisions are diverse. Some are simple and taken in a fraction of a second, while others require the thinking of many people and a lot of time. As a matter of fact, decisions are taken at almost every action we take in our lives- from obvious ones such as whether or not you should buy a house to simple actions such as deciding between putting your phone in your front pocket or in your bag. However, not many people know exactly WHY they're taking that decisions- it just feels right, sometimes. But there's a reason behind everything! Yes, that's right. So, the reason behind your decisions, although you do not realize them, are these: Your unconscious prediction of the outcome. Remember 'Think before you act'? Well, in reality, your brain does it without you realizing it in your every action. In less than a fraction of a second, your brain knows approximately what will happen if you do action X or action Y. This is the main factor in your decisions. 2. Pros and Cons. Naturally, in considering something, you compare what's good of it and its drawbacks, and then decide whether or not it is worth to take. If you think that the good parts of it are worth getting even if there are drawbacks you have to face as a result, you instinctively take the action. 3. What you unconsciously want. Sometimes, you also consider what you actually want (subconscious appeals). Even if you know it's not going to be good for you and there is little to gain from doing something, you still do it, because you want to have fun, a good reputation, etc. 4. The norm. When you decide on something, you take what usually is taken into account. If what you are about to do is different from what you usually do or what others do, you question this decision even more and think if what normally is done is better.

Even if you don't think it's going to happen, reality doesn't change. Fool yourself all you want, but the truth is still what you have to face sooner or later. Whether or not you choose to believe it or not, if something will happen, then it will, and if it won't, then it won't. Your thoughts do not change facts. You won't be prepared. When you only set yourself up for the best, IF something unfortunate does happen, you're not prepared, as you believed so hard that it won't. Hoping is one thing, but it's no reason not to be prepared just in case what really happens is what you fear would. You're making a battle inside you. If you TRY to convince yourself to something, then there's practically two sides of you, and you're undecided on which is right. This distracts you from your daily activities, as you constantly think and worry about it, reducing your performance, even if you don't realize that it is. It's useless. You're fooling yourself to convince you something. Ironically, as I said before, this doesn't work, as you still constantly think and worry about it. What you're trying to do doesn't serve its purpose, so there's no point in doing it.

5 ways to deal with drastic changes Drastic changes are never something you expect. While you might wish for a drastic change to take part in your lives, you never really think that it would happen. Even worse, the majority of these major changes are not good ones, and they catch you unaware, not knowing how to react. Curious on how you can deal with it? Read on! 1. Know the situation fully. Give yourself time-as much as you need but as little as possible- to understand what is truly happening around you, and accept the truth that it really is happening. The will to work to cope with a different situation only comes when you realize and admit that a drastic change is happening and you need to cope with it. 2. Simply try to adapt. Let your natural instincts and previous knowledge guide you into the new situation. It might not lead you to the best solution, but it is only from there that you can work on areas where you need to change and what you should act like to cope with this. 3. Talk to someone (optional). While it is true that nobody knows yourself and the changes you face better than you do, someone might know how to deal with it better- through experience and lessons. With that said, if there is someone you know you can trust and can help you with this, it might not be a bad idea to share it with them and ask for advice, which you can choose to or to not use. 4. Be yourself. No matter what the changes are and what the new situation you have to face is, your way is always the best solution to this for you. As you are yourself, you can only do the best if you act like you. Trust yourself. If everyone around you advises you against doing something, but you know as a fact it's the right thing to do, go ahead. It's your life, your decisions. Trust yourself and understand that this isn't anything beyond your abilities. Never let any outside change around you affect who you are inside. 5. Keep negative thoughts and stress away. The only thing that negative thoughts and stress gets you is the lack of focus to actually cope with it in the best way you could. This can be one of the most difficult things to do during drastic changes, but it is one of the best nevertheless. Remember on what is happening now and aim to solve it now. When you've got something happening now, it's enough trouble, just as the future is enough trouble for itself. Keep your sight focused on what you really need to do.

Innovating Innovation is something that is made all the time-and could be by anyone. It happens not only when a company like Apple or Microsoft gets a new invention that could change everyone's lives, but also by you when you find anything new- new ways to manage time better, solve problem to its core, or do anything in a good way differently. In fact, these innovations, both simple and complex, whether or not you have realized it before, are what makes the entire (or at least part of) human civilization improve, grow, and change over time, no matter how long it takes. For example, if a kid is bullied by another, the norm would normally be that they either report to their parents or teacher, or avoid them completely and make them an enemy. However, if one could try to make friends with them to find out exactly why the person does it, they could help each other solve problems and improve each other to become better people. THAT is one innovation on solving social problems. What most people would do is usually not a bad solution to anything, but when you think outside the box and decide to innovate- whether it be problems, how you dress, or even the layout of your house to your comfort, you risk it all: the result could be the best or the worst, and there is rarely a middle ground. Having the bravery to say what you really think, not what you know the society wants you to think, is the core of great innovations, for these new things are nothing like we have before, and like anything new, it has got to prove itself before being acknowledged. Thinking outside the box is another important factor, which makes total sense seeing as, with the things you already have, there's nothing more to add. If you see that nothing is working for you right now, then you know that it's time to add something; innovate, think outside the box. Usually, this results to senseless ideas that are terrible, but always, once in a while, something terrific better than what you've always thought about comes to mind. The invention of the airplane is proof of this. When it was first created, to the people at that time, it was something impossible to do and a waste of time, but it wasn't a terrible idea, a terrific one instead. These new solutions to every problem humans face are everything change and advances in human technology is all about.

The past, present, and future
For the development of you as a person in your own life's growth, the past you have encountered, the present you're facing now, and the unpredictable future you have yet to see all have a role. These three times have functions for you, even if you might not realize it. So, what are they? The past is the time when you experience and learn the lessons through what you have faced. They're what have told you everything you know about life, and it is because of the past that you have become the person you are today. The past is responsible for whoever you are now, good or bad, as it's through the experiences in the past your attitudes and personality has formed. The person you used to be in the past should be the only one you aim to be better than. In short, it's the process to everything now.

Theory vs. application
The theory of what's good to do and what's bad is easy to find out. The easiest example: this blog. I've said many things about what's good and what's bad, and undoubtedly I was right, that's something good to do. However, making action for them is more difficult, for there is a part in you that says otherwise and pushes you to the wrong direction. Subconsciously, you are having a fierce battle deep inside you between what you know is good and what you feel will be: your brain versus your heart, one of the most difficult battles in your life.

Unconsciously, there are some things you want: fun, respect, and reputation. The will to have these three things can overcome your brain and what you know, and therefore change some of your actions. There is almost no method to make sure you're doing what's good, but there is one: total self-control. It is not easy at all to do what's good, but the ability to do the good instead of the easy can be gained- slowly. Before anything happens, however, you must let your conscious self choose: which one do you trust The present is what matters for now. It's the time you can use, and is the more: what you feel or what you know? Only after you do that can you even main thing that determines the near future. It's your chance to do better, start to control yourself and your actions fully. and is the primary thing that you should worry about right now. It is the present that you should and can use to do anything you are supposed to There is no definite way to be able to do what you know is actually good, for do, and it's the most important thing you should worry about right now. there will always be something stopping you from it. Honestly, I haven't It's the product that the past has made on you and the time given to you been able to do that either, but only with time, practice, and space to know yourself to the deepest point can you even go in the first step of applying in for today. real life what you know, as you are able to control anything within you that The future is where your plans take place. It's the present later, and is is stopping you from doing what you know is good (or not doing what you your focus in the long run. The future is what is determined by your know is bad). For example, my will for fun is constantly urging me to play a actions now and in the past to an extent, and what you do between now video game as I write this, but I know this is good for me, and for you, and then. It's who you will be, and what the long run, the rest of your instead of having my time wasted on a game. I hope it really IS good for you! life, and everything after the present is all about. In fact, that's what you live for now.

Hope is everywhere, if only you search for it Before I start off, I would like to clarify things here: What is hope? Well, hope is the positive chance that something will be as you want it to be- or even better. So, as I said, hope is everywhere. Yes, even in the times of sorrow and sadness where there is nothing positive around. There might SEEM like there is nothing positive around, but there always is. There’s never a time where you are certain or destined to fail-never. There’s always a chance, however small, that you can do it. You know this, actually, deep down, as it is that little voice inside you telling you to keep going for it: hope. “After every dark time lies a touch of happiness." Let’s just say, you’ve made a gigantic mistake that left all your friends mad at you. There’s practically nothing positive about this- you’re lonely, there’s no one to support you, and you feel really bad about this. This is a terrible thing to happen, and there is no reason to disagree with that. However, as you think even deeper, it’s all coming back to you. The fact that without a social life you can focus more on your academic (if you’re a student) or your work (if you’re an adult) performances, which could show significant improvements, gives you a reason to think that it isn’t entirely a bad thing. Hope is still here, you’re not doomed. When you just mourn over something being a failure, you will not be able to regain the motivation of trying once more, and still giving your best effort to be the best you can be in life. But when you find hope, you know that you’re not a total failure- there’s something you’re good at and there’s something you can do better than most people in. This is the very reason some people think it is good to stay positive at all times: when you’re positive, you search for hope, and find something good in everything you see, hear, or touch. When you search for it, you find it. Remember, “When one gate closes, another one is wide open for you.” Something positive in every single experience is always there, even if it might not seem so. All you need to do is be assured that it’s there and try to find it. Your effort to find hope will ALWAYS be paid off, as you’ll always find it. Always.

Your intentions vs. the outcome There are a lot of things we intend or plan on doing in the near future, all of which are what you think is either the right thing to do or will bring great effect to you or other people. Unfortunately, some of those intentions might not be pulled off like you would like it to. In some cases, you might be unable to do what you previously thought you could, which pulls you away from any plans or intentions you had on the time you succeeded, which you didn't. For example, you might have been teased by someone over your limit and intended to take revenge by beating him up and make him regret, but in reality you were unable to do that. As a result, what you thought should have happened (him regretting it) did not. It is also a possibility that external forces are stopping you from doing what you wanted. Maybe you wanted to show the world how great you are in soccer by posting a video in YouTube and Facebook, but there is still a chance that one or both of these sites might just be down. When your intentions and the outcome is different, it would not be abnormal to let out a small feeling of disappointment, as you did not achieve what you wanted to. However, take note that each failure is simply a stepping stone to success, as it urges you to try in a different time, way, or place. Either way, the belief that failure stops genuine success is wrong. When these times come, you must either change your intention as you’ve learnt something better, do another attempt with what you have known with your failure, or just go on and try again, believing that your failure last time was a matter of sheer luck. The outcome of everything in life does not go your way; it isn’t affected just by you, but by everyone in the society. The truth is the truth, and acceptance of it is crucial to your future. No matter what you do, good or bad, here or there, now or tomorrow, there will always be something blocking your path- which might or might not be a bad thing. Realize that the world is full of people and they all have their own different intentions, not just yours. Your intentions depend on you, and only you, while the outcome and reality depends on every single person in the society. No, that does not mean you can’t fulfill your intentions. That means you’ll have to try harder, learn from everywhere, and be persistent on the good. Intentions aren’t good enough, but action completes its whole package. With action and intention, it’s just a matter of time before you succeed- even if the time is long.

Our Inner Necessities Our basic necessities are extremely obvious: food, shelter, clothes, etc. They’re the things that you couldn’t survive without, and the reasons for that are very clear. There are also, however, less obvious necessities we have: those relating to our mental, social, and emotional needs. While our physical condition might remain fine without these needs, the same do not apply to our mental condition, which could become overwhelmed or stressed out. Without these distinct needs, you could get various mental issues, including depression, extreme loneliness and sadness, and struggle to cope with the actual world as you face it. You’ll find it difficult to socialize with others, and could not find a feeling of happiness easily. You might be able to survive, but in the current human society, it’s a hard (to say the least) situation to be in. Without these needs, you’re practically dead in the society. What are they? Well, here we go...  Happiness. Well, you might have listed happiness as a primary want, but let’s think about it: What if you don’t have any happiness? You’ll live in a life filled with sorrow, zero enjoyments, and only bad things you worry about. There’s no happiness in you, your friends, and everyone else. Without happiness, which is arguably the general term for EVERY good feeling, you might even lose the will to live on. Happiness is in every good moment you have. Life without it is, at the very least, terrible, and at the very most, wasted.  Respect. Who doesn’t need respect from others? To have a comfortable life in the society consisting of thousands of people, you’ll want to have some respect from part of them and a small reputation of you, having them not bugging you at unwanted times and give you the reasonable things you want from them, e.g. not checking your bag without your permission or accessing your house at midnight. This reputation is built up over time as they find you able to do things, and partly admire what activities you have and/or the way you do them and the results you gain. This could range anywhere from making a business marketing plan that works effectively to winning an award of being the best student in high school. Without respect, well, people will simply treat you horribly.  Affection/care. This one is a bit more complicated, and one that you might not have realized, but the necessity is in you nevertheless. We all FEEL the need to feel that we actually mean something to someone out there, and that our actions and presence in this world has brought in a positive impact to someone. We need the motivation we get from having others care about you, and the fact that you are valuable to someone out there.  Stress-free time. Between all the tasks, business, work, social life, and the many concerns we face in life, we need some time in which we can actually enjoy our lives, take a break from everything else in life, and really feel the happiness and joy of living. Take it this way: you own a mansion, with a large swimming pool, tens of bedrooms, two luxurious living rooms, and many other lavish additions. However, you keep trying to renovate it and make it worth even more, and never actually live in it. This would be work wasted, as you have no time to really enjoy it. Well, that’s all I can say. I know there are more, but these should be more than enough to basically cover most of them. Hope it helps!

This is YOUR life! This is your life you’re living. The quality of YOUR life, what happens in it, how they affect you, and the majority of the things of your life are determined by yourself. You are the one in control of yourself, not any other person in the whole world. Other people can change a lot of things in your life, as they are part of it, but there is one thing you should never let them change: who you are. You are a unique person and it is your choice to determine your personality, and others have absolutely no right to change that. Keep that in mind. This is your life you’re living. Make it good. Make it the best it could possibly be. It’s your life, so it is also your responsibility to make sure everything in it goes well. If there’s something you feel isn’t what it should be, then change it. It must be you, because it’s your life. If you don’t try to improve your own life, then who will? The odds are, no one. In your life, you are the one who controls everything. If something in you is doing great, you’ll get the credit, for it’s your hard work and effort. If something in you is wrong, you’ll take the consequences, for you are responsible for whatever you have done. Relying in other people is almost something you should try to avoid, for you do not know what others are capable of or what they will do. In YOUR life, most things are determined by you- your feelings, your actions, your words, and your behavior make who you are, and therefore how other people treat you in generalwhich is a lot. If people don’t treat you well, you would have a miserable life with no one there for you. Live up to your responsibility of being your own life’s driver and commander, and make sure you are good enough to be it. YOUR life is at stake, YOUR skills and intelligence is at play, YOUR time is at use, and YOUR responsibilities as the chief of your own life are being tested. This is all about you. You’re many parts of your life, and you can’t just rely on others to make it right when you aren’t. They can only affect you and mildly change you, not determine who you are. That’s your job. Do it.

Overcoming weaknesses Every single person in the world has a weakness- whether it is physical, emotional, intellectual, or social. These weaknesses are the things that stop us from being perfect, and we all have lots of them. While it is absolutely certain that there is no method we can use to get rid of those weaknesses, there are a few that will help you overcome it, and make the weaknesses less meaningful, as you find alternatives to do things that do not involve those weaknesses, including (but not limited to): 1. Develop yourself. Don’t get stuck with your weakness. Instead, a try to improve yourself is always worth it, as you can always learn skills and ways to help you overcome the weakness. Inventions are excellent examples of this. The calculator, for instance, was invented since it wasn’t humanly possible to calculate 10-digit numbers in a fraction of a second, and the Braille was created for the blind people to overcome their weakness (at least partially) and be able to read and communicate, to an extent. 2. Ask for help from other people. After all, we are all part of a society who needs each other to survive and live well, and you should not be scared to ask for help. There is always someone ready to help you, as your weaknesses can be their strengths. Helping one another in the society is the point sociality is created. This is the whole point of it, so make good use to it. 3. Look for other ways. For example, a person might not be able to speak in a clear manner, and it is a challenge for others to understand him. To overcome that, he writes text messages and emails instead when he has something to say, and uses instant messaging services for casual speech. Not the best solution as his main communication method, but at least it works. 4. Take advantage of everything around you. If you can’t mow your lawn, hire someone to do that for you. If you can’t handle being around many people, search the internet for ways to overcome that. If you’re a terrible driver, walk instead, or use a public vehicle. There are always ways to overcome virtually everything, so all you need to do is look for those ways and follow it. 5. Negate it. Maybe you are not so good physically, and can’t run fast. With this weakness, you can simply fill your days with things that do not require running, and if you are not a patient person, find jobs that do not involve waiting for a lot of time and has more actions instead. The simplest example: If you can’t do it, don’t do it unless you know you have to. After reading this, you shouldn’t need to worry about your weaknesses limiting your activities and preventing you from doing certain things. No more “I can’t do it.” Go on, it’s the time to prove that you HAVE overcame what used to prevent you from doing activities well!

The way to productivity "Oh no, I've still got so much work to do, and it's got to be done by tomorrow! And if I don't do it well, I don't even want to think about what will happen!" These words, or something similar, are one of those things you think of when you panic out of pressure, if you're a student, an employee, or practically anyone with things to do. You need to be productive. So, what should you do? 1. Assure yourself that you CAN do it. Believe in yourself and your abilities, and know that if you try your best, you will be able to do it effectively. Even thinking about this can be the reason you have that extra motivation to do your work 2. Break down your to-do list to 20-30 minute tasks and do what you think is easiest or take the least time to complete. A cluttered to-do list is the last thing you want, and it could get you stressed even before you try to do anything. 3. Focus on your task, and do not attempt to multitask or do anything along with it. Clear your mind off anything else and make sure the only thing you worry about is completing those tasks, one by one, with the best quality possible in a reasonable amount of time. 4. Continue the rate at which you are working, and proceed from one task to another, if you've still got things to do. Keep your mind clear. 5. Every hour or so, take a 5-10 minute break off those tasks and do something more enjoyable- relax, play a short game, watch TV, etc. This will refresh your mind and get you back into the spirit to work. 6. Try to get things right your first time. You won't want to waste time reviewing and worrying. 7. Take every task to its absolute end when you do it. This will take it off your mind for good and leaves you more focused to other tasks. 8. Set a tight schedule for yourself. The extra pressure to follow that schedule is also extra motivation to do it quickly with a good standard of quality for your work. 9. Do your absolute best in everything you do. When you try, you can, and you'll be able to do things in the best quality you possibly can. There are plenty more, but just following the few I mentioned above will raise your productivity a lot. Time is precious, so the extra time you get by doing them quickly can be used for a lot of things. When you're productive, it could also help others and urge them to do the same. Need proof? Try it yourself!

Similarities and Differences You might have easily noticed how different you are from your parents, your teacher, or your friends. This is what makes you a unique person, as you act differently from other people and think in no way similar to any individuals out there. The similarities, however, are enough to bond you together as part of the society and the human race in general. However, it sometimes goes vice versa, when the differences are thought as a sign of abnormality that leads to social rejection, and similarities are thought of as signs of being a copycat, neither of which is close to its actual purpose.

Do the best for yourself! If you don’t take care and do what’s good for yourself, then who will? You are the one responsible for your actions and what you do, and you are responsible of your own behavior, personality, and body. If you do not make sure that they are well, then do not expect anyone to, because you are the one responsible for it. Apart from others, your own good should be a priority very near the top of the list as it is one of the most important things for you, your future, and some very close people around you. Stay strong! No matter what happens, never let it weaken you and prevent you from doing what you could have done. Whatever has past belongs there, and you should not let what happened affect you for a long time. The present is your chance to make everything that was bad, become better. If you are unable to stay strong, you will let it affect you negatively and you would be stuck in the past instead of trying to make the future even better, which leads you to failing to fulfill your potential. NO MATTER what happens, stay strong and do the best. Don't let anything at all stop you, especially when it's the past. Do your best! You do not know exactly how much you can do or precisely how well you can handle something unless you really try it and put everything in it. Every situation and all the actions you take could just mean a lot later (you just don’t realize it now), so do your best in everything, as you won’t know the difference it could mean later. It doesn’t feel good regretting that you didn’t try your very best. Even if you fail after doing your best, you know the result reflects your true abilities and it will still be better compared to your abilities when they are held back. Remember, it could make a difference. Do your best, always.

Material and immaterial items
You might have known that material items are those you could normally buy through the usage of money or barter, while those that are immaterial are priceless, rare, and those you couldn't buy with any amount of money. While some immaterial items could be exchanged, in desperate situations, for some material items, the way human trafficking or (in the smaller scale) pets are sold, it doesn't work vice versa. No amount of money or precious objects can be traded for the loss of your best friend's or your parents' lives, I think we can all agree on that, but they would be worth nothing for those who do not know them. Never fail to tell these two types of items apart, for they are completely different in value.

Do what you’re happy with! If you’re doing what you’re happy with, you would have a more enjoyable time, and there would be no pressure on you. It also activates extra motivation in you, as you’re happy with it, which greatly affects your final result and the quality of everything you do. When you’re on to something you don’t enjoy, you would feel forced to do it, and that would reduce the quality of what you’re doing as there is no true will to complete it and do your best with it. If you’re happy, you would fulfill your potential and do your best. It makes you enjoy your time and improves the quality of what you’re doing. That’s quite something to be able to do at once!

Be your own biggest critic! Be your own biggest critic! Of course, as you know, it does not feel pleasant when others criticize the way you do something or the result you have achieved. However, it is part of your duty to be able to judge where you expect yourself to be and what you expect yourself to be able to do, and try to ‘pressure’ yourself to be able to live up to your expectations, which is preferably even higher than any other expectations your friends, family, or other people expect from you. This way, you will surely be able to satisfy them and live up to their expectations, because before they see anything, you would have made it live up to YOUR expectations. The ability to be your own biggest critic not only allows you to live up and satisfy other people, but also to improve your work quality in general and creates less pressure on you, as it lifts up the pressure that others put on you. At first, however, it would seem difficult to live up to your high standards and satisfy yourself, but as you go on, over time you will try your best to get better and better in a fast rate, and later the ability to live up to those standards will be yours. The eagerness to improve is very important here, as your own critic relies on pure will and your own goals. When you have satisfied yourself with something, raise your standards to even higher, so that you can still continue to improve. Others will also raise their expectations when they see you doing well, so keep taking it higher in order to satisfy them and always be your own biggest critic. Never let anyone be the bigger critic, as it is YOU who knows the exact capabilities you have and what you are capable of.

Be open to corrections! Be open to corrections. Right now, you might think you’re right, and you have all the reasons in the world to think so, but maybe later something or someone will come and prove you wrong. In this case, think of it again, and make sure you know which is right. Do not just insist on what you think even if you know you’re wrong just for prestige or esteem, since if you’re wrong, sooner or later people will know that you’re wrong. If you admit to being wrong and are open to suggestions or corrections, you’ll end up better in the future since you improve sooner, not later. Being closed to corrections and suggestions also means you are preventing yourself from improving, changing, and making progress, which is one of the most important things in life. To not let others try to correct you for the better it to screw yourself up in the future when others are already right and you still insist on the wrong thing. When you know you’re right, it’s not a problem at all to defend what you know or what you think, but the minute you realize being wrong is the time you have to admit you’re wrong and change the ‘wrong’ thing with what you recently know is ‘right’. When someone thinks you’re wrong, consider it. Are they wrong or are you wrong? If you know as a fact that they’re wrong, you’re the one who’s supposed to try to correct them, and hopefully they are open to your correction. Do not be offended, as they’re just trying to help you improve. If you realize you’re wrong, you should thank them for pointing that out and helping you become better. No one is perfect, and the only way we can improve is to help each other out. Well, they’re trying to do that, so don’t be mad or angry just because they are trying to help you.

With time, everything is going to get harder and tougher With time, everything is going to get harder and tougher, and you are going to improve yourself and adapt to the things you will have to face. A few years ago, you didn’t have to face the problems you do now, did you? And even if you did, you might not be able to handle it well- but you do now. Obviously, you have improved, and become better in at least one area. See, you’ve become a better person, and now have to face tougher things. This is only going to continue in the future, as you continue to improve and the challenges you face continue to get harder. Take the simplest example: school. Students in first grade slowly get better in their lessons, and in second grade they face something more challenging. Reacting to that, they continue to improve, only to face something even more difficult as they graduate to third grade. This process continues, not only in school, as it goes on and on to high school, university, work, social matters, and whatever else you might be facing. This is a natural flow of life, and so are your improvements, which do not stop to get better and better to overcome the challenges you see in life. The only person you should be better than is the person you used to be, and the only person you should accept being beaten by is the person you will be in the future. The only thing you should worry about is this: will you improve in a rate fast enough to catch up with the rate life is getting tougher by the minute? You will improve, but the speed of that improvement is up to you to determine. Make it good enough to be able to overcome life.

The art of giving without expecting returns

The art of giving without expecting returns is one that could either make the most sense in the whole world or one that is the most illogical, idiotic concept you have ever heard of- and it all depends on how you think of life itself as a whole. The understanding of this concept is one that you will gradually get over time as you meet people, adjust perspectives, and understand the concept of putting someone else as your first priority, and not your own importance. It is how you care about something even more than you care about your own condition or position, and therefore ready to sacrifice part of something you have for them, without expecting any favors to be returned. For some people, this concept makes zero sense, as they do not get any benefits at all from giving others something they have, and thus they do not think there is any purpose as they do not get anything in return. For others, though, the happiness of others brings them joy and they are more than happy to be able to do something for the good of others- and nothing else. For those people, to be able to help others is a pleasure in itself, and they do not demand anything in return, as they are already content with being able to help others. If you learn to change your perspective, you'll notice that both of these thinking concepts are completely understandable. The first type cares about themselves more than anything else, while the second prioritizes others. It is acceptable to think about yourself, but there are also times when other things in life are more important- especially those we love. As usual, there is an optimal balance you must achieve in order to balance between the thinking for your own importance and the matters of others. Balance is the key.

Fulfill your potential! There are a lot of things you can do very well and a lot of abilities you have that you might not use. This is a huge waste of your potential, as there could have been a lot of good things you could have done using what you could do. There are a lot of people out there wishing they had your ability or potential and use them, but you, not them, have it. So, why waste what you have if it could be used to do good things? Use them, help others, and be the best that you can be.

Plan your future! Ever wondered what you would do in 6 months, 2 years, or a decade? Well, you should. In fact, just knowing is not enough. You should make effort to reach your long term goals, now. Unless you plan your future, arguably you are walking around the world, endlessly, without a destination. Anything you plan on would be a motivation and a target you have set yourself with, and it is possible that everything else would be based on that plan you have made. It doesn’t have to be written; simply having it in your head is enough. Never waste time! Why? Because time is an extremely nonrenewable resource. Even a second of the time you wasted could not be taken back, ever. The fact that it is very valuable strengthens my statement, as it is only with time that you can do any process. The time you have 'wasted' could have been used to make something that could have triggered a huge change. If you're asking why this blog post is short, it's because I'm trying to save your time from reading it. Go and use it for something better, maybe like reading other posts! It’s never too early It’s never too early. You might think it is too early for you to act or try to do something big. Well, there's no such thing. If you do it now or in the near future, it would have a bigger effect than later as it would last for a longer period of time. There's never a time too early as waiting wouldn't do you any good- unless you know it would. While in 3am, 'It's too early to wake up' applies, 'It's too early to stop the problem' never does. Again, the most important part here is common sense.

Patience leads to success! There is no such thing as an instant success that you can achieve in a very short period of time. A drastic change where your whole life is suddenly so much better is very unlikely, and everyone needs to slowly build up to each of their successes. Be patient and keep doing what you believe will eventually take you there, even if you do not know exactly when it is. Keep in mind that every process takes time, some more than the others, but if you have patience and dedication, time will do its work with you and your patience shall be rewarded.

Think Multiperspective! It is absolutely essential for you to be able to picture yourself in other people’s perspective and what you would have done in their shoes before judging them. Understand why their behavior is the way it is and never put yourself as your first, or even worse, only, priority in life, as there are others out there who might also need your help. There is always a reason why people do the things they do, but you-in your own perspective- might not be able to understand. It is therefore necessary for you to switch your point of view and think, “If I was in his/her shoes, what would I do?” In most cases, you would have done a similar action, and this is where sympathy and understanding starts.

Be there for others when they need you When other people need you to help them, you should try to the best of your ability to help them to improve a part or the whole of their lives. You never know the difference you could have made for them and how much your help means to them, especially when it comes to more important and serious things such as advice and personality. Try your best to be ready to help other people, anytime and anywhere, because you don’t know exactly when you will be needed for important matters. Your help could have a huge impact on them, and even if you fail, they will appreciate your effort. Trust me. Be careful of your surroundings Do not get too carried away and assume that everything around you is good, as they might turn out differently. Never get too attached to something unless you know exactly all about it and you are sure it will not turn out badly. For example, you never know if your favorite football turns out to be explosive or your friend turns out to be the child of your mother’s childhood enemy. Be ready for the possible scenarios that might happen, so you will not be overwhelmed IF it really happens. Be a little skeptical, and do not believe everything you were told unless you are sure about it or trust the source. Discover! There are undoubtedly a lot of things around you that you do not know of, and it would be beneficial for you to know of them. In fact, the first thing you have to know of is yourself. When are you most productive? Are you a more instinctive or scientific person? What improvements have you made in the past month? There is more to you than you ever thought or realized, and the benefits of knowing that is endless. Also, it doesn’t hurt to know more about your surroundings and about other people around you. Try it out!

Happiness is unique! There is no fail-proof way to be happy, as the way to obtain happiness depends and differs from one person to another. You could be the richest person with all the things you could ever dream of, and be less happy than an orphan without a hand. The discovery of happiness is closely related to what you are content with, and the expectations you have on life. If one person looks happy with where he or she is in life, in the same position you might not feel happy as you expected either more or something different. This makes it even more important for you to find out what your deepest desire is and what you really want in life, making it your ultimate purpose.

Do what’s best for you! If you don’t take care and do what’s good for yourself, then who will? You are the one responsible for your actions and what you do, and you are responsible of your own behavior, personality, and body. If you do not make sure that they are well, then do not expect anyone to, because you are the one responsible for it. Apart from others, your own good should be a priority very near the top of the list as it is one of the most important things for you, your future, and some very close people around you.

Use common sense! Common sense is the basic form of knowing what you should do in certain situations. The usage of common sense is of huge importance as sensible behaviors are what lead to a better routine and time management, and later acceptance in the society in general. In most people, common sense grows naturally as we age, through our childhood and every moment in our lives. While it is also used most of the time, ‘most’ and ‘all’ are different, especially when feelings are involved. However, this should never be an exception, no matter what. My Message First off, we welcome suggestions or comments about this guide and others at : We hope this guide has helped you in some way. Enjoy our other guides: A Good Life Quotes for Everyone Feelings Situations Types of People Religious General Guides General Guides for Kids Essential Factors of Life Parts of Friendship Kid’s Guide to Social Problem Also, feel free to sign up for the digital versions of General Guides to Life by emailing the above address or visiting our blog at: Have a better life!

Think of what you have, instead of what you don't
Almost everybody in the world has always kept dreaming about having things in the future and how great it would be if you had things that you currently don't. Admit it: The latest smartphone, a new car, affection of your crush, or a lot of other things that I couldn't possibly mention. Although it is good to dream of things you would like to have in the future to motivate you to try and work hard to own or possess them, they could also make you forget about things that you already have; Shelter, health, a life, food and many things you unconsciously take for granted. So, instead of dreaming of what you could have had, start appreciating what you really have now!


Religious General Guides
February 2012
Third Edition

This is the summary of everything in General Guides to Life, compiled into a religious version based on Christianity. However, the rest of our guides are designed for everyone.

Your role in the society Ever wondered why you're exactly as you are in exactly the places you've been in with the people you know? Well, God made it so. There's a role He wants you to play in the lives of other people and their role in yours. Every little thing you do to others, be it talk to them, insult them, play with them, or work together in a project. God designed every single person as they are to fulfill one specific role in the society, with other people filling other roles. This has been God's plan, and you being with your family and friends is no coincidence at all. However, each and every one of those roles is designed with one purpose in mind: for God's glory. Those roles work together and 'combine' in such a way that ends up worshipping God with all our heart, even if you don't realize it. Every single thing that every single person does around others has an effect they give out, which could do a lot of things: giving ideas, giving happiness, teaching life lessons, or many other things. The role you're supposed to play? Well, you're doing it really well, as God designed it for you as exactly who you are, and you are exactly who you are, so practically you CAN play it perfectly. Now that you realize that everything has been planned by God, you should also know that you mean more to others than you might think as you fill a role in their lives, and consciously or not, you're part of their lives. So, never even think of trying to become someone else, for you are designed by God himself as exactly who you are. Are you not proud of who you are now?

The obstacles in the road to success Humans naturally have the will to have peace among them and live in harmony, which is also one of the things God wants from the entire human civilization. With peace, we are able to help each other and do our best as one. There would be little, if any at all, conflicts, between one person and another as they would be easily resolved in peace. With all this said, why isn't there peace? Well, here are some of the most common ones...  Will for prestige. Who doesn't want to be respected, to have authority, or to rule over something? Like Herod who wanted to protect his throne by his attempt to kill the baby who was King of all Kings, we do not want to lose the social statuses that we have, and there are a lot of things we would do to protect it, including making conflicts and problems, to the devil's delight. Will for fun. Sometimes, fun can be gotten in wrong ways involving other people and their presence around you. For some unsympathetic people, doing something bad to others and see their pitiful reaction could be a definition of fun. The pain they receive inside their hearts are twice as much as the happiness and temporary fun you get. Perspective difference. People process different forms of information in many different ways, and have different wants and needs. The fact that we live in the same world with the same resources often end in conflicts of whose priorities are more important, since many of us could not understand others' position and way of thinking. This causes quarrels as people try to push their priorities ahead of others, which can sometimes require things that could not be used in two separate places at the same time. Misunderstandings and assumptions. One of the devil's most used tricks to you is partial knowledge, and assuming to your brain's creativity on the rest of the parts you don't know. Most assumptions are inaccurate and wrong, but at times, before you know what's actually real, you're tricked by yourself and the devil.

Free will God has given us free will to choose our decisions for ourselves. He has given your life in your hands and put you in charge. He has given us authority to choose what we do, what we like, how we behave, but most importantly, who we are. He is no longer controlling you and forcing you to do certain things, and it’s all under your control. Remember, though, that God lives in you, which means, through you (and other people), He acts and does the things He needs to do. The control you have is not genuine, and God is able to pull it away anytime He wants. Take it this way: Stakeholders of a company hires a CEO to handle the operations. With that, the CEO is in charge for the company, and has the power to choose the best for himself and for the company. However, the stakeholders also have basic requirements they want the CEO to fulfill and things they want him to achieve, and anytime they are unhappy with his work, they can fire and sack him anytime they want. That is similar, but not the same, with your relation to God. He created you and gave you free will to think and decide for yourself, and therefore you are in charge for your own life. However, there are things He wants you to do: Love God with all your heart and treat others like you want to be treated. Failing that, if He is not satisfied with how you live your own life, He can do all sorts of stuff to you, including taking away your free will to think and decide in your own life. The Bible has told you things that are good to do and things that aren’t, and your responsibility is to make good use of your free will, making good decisions for yourself. Don’t make God regret putting trust in you. Do what you must for God, for He is your number one priority. He gave you free will to decide the way you want your own life to go. He lets you in control of your own life. Are you not going to put that to good use? He gave you A LOT, and requests from you to just put it to good use, love Him with all your heart and to treat others the way you want to be treated. He gave you so much, and do you think disappointing Him by not making good use of His gift of free will is a good way to return the favor? Probably not.

Your role in the society Ever wondered why you're exactly as you are in exactly the places you've been in with the people you know? Well, God made it so. There's a role He wants you to play in the lives of other people and their role in yours. Every little thing you do to others, be it talk to them, insult them, play with them, or work together in a project. God designed every single person as they are to fulfill one specific role in the society, with other people filling other roles. This has been God's plan, and you being with your family and friends is no coincidence at all. However, each and every one of those roles are designed with one purpose in mind: for God's glory. Those roles work together and 'combine' in such a way that ends up worshipping God with all our heart, even if you don't realize it. Every single thing that every single person does around others has an effect they give out, which could do a lot of things: giving ideas, giving happiness, teaching life lessons, or many other things. The role you're supposed to play? Well, you're doing it really well, as God designed it for you as exactly who you are, and you are exactly who you are, so practically you CAN play it perfectly. Now that you realize that everything has been planned by God, you should also know that you mean more to others than you might think as you fill a role in their lives, and consciously or not, you're part of their lives. So, never even think of trying to become someone else, for you are designed by God himself as exactly who you are. Are you not proud of who you are now?

God has given the world the way it is God has given you the world as it is, so there is absolutely no point in complaining and groaning in the hope that the world will get better. The world has been made, and no matter how much you wished it could be different, nothing would change unless you give real effort and try to change it. If you could not change your surroundings to what you want it to be, then change your opinion about it and accept it as reality. There is, as always, a reason the world is made this way, and you are definitely in no position to argue with God about this. If you like the position you are in the world, then that's great. If you don't like it, you could try to change it, and if you can't do that either, change your opinion about it. In other words, accept the fact that it's reality. God has made the situation this way for you, and nothing can change that. The only thing you can change is the way you react and respond to what the world has in store for you, which, as a matter of fact, is what life is all about: the decisions you make and the actions you do as a reaction to the world. It might be difficult for you to accept a bitter truth, but honestly deep down, you know you are going to have to face it sooner or later, and it would better be sooner rather than later to 'suffer now, enjoy later'. You could just take the bad time now along with the worry of having to face it in the future, which could make it become an even more complicated matter. Anything God lets you face is NEVER beyond what you are able to do at that time, so never worry. God is always with you.

The best for God
The best thing for God to happen to you, the people you know, or the whole world, is almost certainly something you do not expect, and it is also often not what you think is best, but it is ALWAYS right. The best for God is the best for everyone. Every time anything happens to you, don’t ask, “Why must this happen to me?” Instead, say, “I’m ready, God, let your plans happen to and in me.” Never for a second in your life put God second to anything, because He is the very reason you are here and He is the person for whom you live for. His words are law, and there are absolutely no exceptions to them. Keep in mind that God is part of everything that happens, and everything that happens is part of His ultimate plan of your life. There is a reason He puts you through everything that you have and will face, and remember He does only the best for you. You might not realize it now, but it’s the truth. You are born in this world to give your ultimate best for God, and it is only in Him that you can do anything. Maybe you are put into a place or situation you don’t like, and you might think that it isn’t good for you, but there is always reason for that to happen. If it’s not good for you now, then it’s good for someone else, or He might want you to learn something. Either way, your life is for God, and if His intention is to put you anywhere and with anyone, in any condition, and you have no right to argue with Him. God always knows what he's doing. He will never put you through anything you can't handle, and He does the very best for everyone- Himself, the human civilization, me and you, and everything in the world. Have faith in Him and trust Him, for he has promised to us all happiness and eternal life just if we believe in Him- and He does not break promises. You don't know what he's doing, but you know He does the best and you could do no better. Don't even try to argue with Him and do what you think is best, because His words are the truth and the unbreakable law. It's your job to follow Him.

God acts passively You might not see God in your life physically, helping you along the way, but He is helping you through the people around you, the things that happen, and many other ways. He is the one behind everything around you, despite the fact that you might not notice it. He is part of absolutely everything you see, hear, and touch. This is His method of being a part of your lives, unlike what you might have suspected before. He is hidden, but He is ALWAYS there for you, without exception, so in every situation, always keep your faith in Him, and He will be there to help you.

The way you treat God You might not see God in your life physically, helping you along the way, but He is helping you through the people around you, the things that happen, and many other ways. He is the one behind everything around you, despite the fact that you might not notice it. He is part of absolutely everything you see, hear, and touch. This is His method of being a part of your lives, unlike what you might have suspected before. He is hidden, but He is ALWAYS there for you, without exception, so in every situation, always keep your faith in Him, and He will be there to help you. Respond to God If you know that God wants you to do something, you MUST do it, as it comes from The Almighty, the one who created you. Respond to what He says, do what He wants you to do, and be who He wants you to be, because His words are law for us to follow. He knows the best you could be and what you could do. If you know God wants you to do a part in your plan, you have absolutely no authority to question His words and His orders. He only does the best, so just do His plan and you’ll see why He wanted it to happen later. God can do the impossible God can do the impossible. Whatever you think doesn't make sense or impossible, it is SO possible by God, and he does that. It's called miracles. Never underestimate God, He can do anything. Think of it this way: He created the amazing Earth, people, universe. Everything you see, it was Him behind them. He has done all those things, so impossible to have been done by humans. For Him, nothing is impossible. He has made 7 billion people on this earth and designed it as it is, and guided them in lifeall at once. Logically possible? No. Heavenly possible? Of course.

God is good God is good. He will NEVER do anything bad to us or lead us to the wrong path. God is always there for you when you need Him, and is the only one you can always count on being right. He knows you better than anyone else, and that 'anyone else' includes yourself, so always trust Him and have faith that He will do only the best for you in the end. His 'best' is always better than what you want. Just believe Him, He knows you best and He knows what is good for you.

Thank God Thank God for everything and for having you live. He has even created the God lives in you world for you to live, made it exactly as it is, God lives in you. He is in your heart, guiding you in every step of your life. He is always there for you, and with guided you your whole Him in you, you are supposed to be doing good and spreading His existence. He is that little voice in you that is life, and even sent His only always there, urging you to do good, and is the reason that no matter how much hate you contain, you still carry Son, Jesus Christ, to save a little care to everyone around you. His guidance is what you need to rely on every day of every week. As a you from sin. The act of matter of fact, He works in you. taking all this for granted is undoubtedly a mistake, and there is every reason You are the one of the things and people through which God gives people blessings and help. In you, He works to help others. Through you. This is why you need to cooperate with Him and help others, because it is through in the universe to thank every human that God works His blessings and miracles. You are a blessing to someone out there, and you can Him for everything He has done for you. Thank Him help them, because God guides in you to do the very best. He works in you, so give way for Him to use you to help for everything that others and yourself. Never resist God’s will, ever. He has a reason for using you in that particular case and nobody else. He knows best, so trust Him. happens to you, thank Him for everyone you He is a part of you. He will never let you get lost, and He knows what He’s doing. The fact that He lives in you know, for waking you up means that you are precious to Him that He decided to reside in you, and that He guides you wherever you go. It today and giving you also means you are a source of blessing for other people and you mean a lot, and that you’ve got a very another day to live today. important role to play in this world. Go fulfill and play that role well! Thank Him for absolutely everything.

God will forgive you

God will forgive you, no matter what you did, as long as you believe in Him. No matter how big your sin is, He is good enough to forgive you. If you have confessed what you did and that it was wrong to do so, He has erased the sin for you, always remember that. Do not say to yourself, “I am sinned. I am a bad person. I have gone against God’s will.” If you have confessed and asked for forgiveness, He has already forgiven you for it and there is absolutely no reason for you to still be guilty. After you have confessed to God about your sins, any more feeling of guilt comes from the devil, trying to make you think, “I am sinned. God will not forgive me.” This is a completely wrong statement, because God forgives you, and He loves you so much that He has given Christ to die in the cross for you. The first feeling of guilt comes from The Holy Spirit to make you ask for forgiveness, but any guilt after that is from the devil, so never tell yourself God will not forgive you, because He has, even for the biggest sins you might have. God loves you so, remember that, and there is no sin that you could not be forgiven for. As long as you remain faithful to Him and confess that you have been wrong and did something bad, God will forgive you. Nothing can change that-ever. Never feel guilty for anything you have asked for forgiveness, because the sin has been erased from you. The only thing you should do after that is not to repeat it again, obviously. No matter how bad your sin is, God is good, and He WILL forgive you.

Rely on God’s power In some situations, your skills are not good enough to handle it well. You simply have no power to solve or manage the situation. However, remember that God will always be there to help you. Have faith and pray to Him to help you, and He will. His power is the greatest and there is nothing that He cannot handle, so always rely on him when you face any challenges. Your power is nothing compared to what He is able to do. Just have faith in Him, and he will do the rest for you.

Have faith in God Keep in mind, God will give you whatever is best for you in the end, although you might not realize it just yet. If you are wishing for something, if it is good for you, He will give it to you at the perfect time, so be patient. He has an intention in delaying or doing whatever happens to you, which you will only understand later after some time, despite it being unclear exactly when. Have faith that God does the best for you and trust in his plans, and the best shall happen to you later in life. Let God's plan work in you. God's intention on your strengths and weaknesses The abilities and strengths that you have are there to help other people to overcome their weaknesses, while your weaknesses are there so you can work together with others in the process of trying to minimize whatever weakness you have. With this He taught you to be able to live together with other people to help each other become better people and develop a bond no other species are capable of. No matter how hard you try, weaknesses are an unchangeable part of life that you can't eliminate, and the same goes to the existence of a limit to the strengths you have. Overcome the devil's temptations and challenges! There are times in which challenges and temptations will appear in your life and try to stop you from doing what's good. However, you can resist the temptations and overcome the challenges, for God has given you the power to do so, and there is no power greater than the one from God. Whatever is trying to stop you or prevent you to become better is what you must overcome, and do not let it change you for the worse- ever. Have faith in yourself and always remember that God is there to help you whenever and wherever.

Hope exists even in the darkest of times There are times that you might have felt so bad and miserable that you feel there is no hope the situation might recover or something good can be gained out of it. However, no matter what, there always is hope. Simply stay put and wait, and soon God will be there to help you. Anytime, anywhere, He will be there for you, as He is the Shepherd that will not let you be lost-ever.

The reason God created you Well, that's a hard thing to find out. However, it is simple: you are created to help others in your life and make the world a better place for everyone, no matter how. This isn't simple; however, as there are a lot of things and variety of actions you can take to make it better. The choice of which to take is yours, depending on your more specific goal, what you can do, what you're interested in, and your current situation, along with the near future.

God is always with you God is always with you! No matter what you're doing, he is passively helping you, even in your hard times, so never worry. Everything that has happened in your past is what He has made for you, and it is your past that has shaped you into who you are. For that reason, NEVER regret it, no matter what. God has guided you through those times and that is what He made of you. In difficult times of the present and future, remember, no matter what, God is there to help you. We are all equal Like it or not, God created all humans as equals, and no one is naturally more superior to others. It is therefore necessary to treat other people equally, and not do anything like favoritism, unless it is necessary. Every human deserves respect and chance to get a good life, no matter who they are. However, some people are more skilled, which enables them to take advantage of that chance they deserve. Others, on the other hand, fail to do so, which is why social priorities are now unconsciously set, prioritizing great leaders and ignoring those begging for money in the streets. God does only the best for you You might think that God has never answered your prayers or given you what you wanted, when He says He cares about you? Why? Well, God has an even better plan in store for you, one that is different from the one you have in mind. You do not know what he is planning for you, or you might not even know it was God’s plan all along AFTER it happens as you take it for granted. However, if you do analyze it later after God’s plan takes place, you will know exactly why God made everything that happened happen to you.

You are priceless God spent some of His time to create you as an unique being that no one can ever replace. You are worth a lot more than you think, to yourself, to your friends and/or family, and most of all, to God. He has cared for you so much that he has sent his only son, Jesus, to save you from sins and the fires of hell. You are worth a lot more than you think, so stop being sad and comparing yourself to those you think are better than you, because you have abilities that rivals them. God himself cares for you, otherwise He wouldn’t have used His time to personally blow the Breath of Life into you. Appreciate yourself.

God watches your every action Never think that just because other people aren’t here that you can do whatever you wishgood or bad. Keep in mind, wherever you are, anytime God is watching you, and He knows if you are doing good or evil. There is no way you will be able to trick Him, and He knows about every action you take. Be in your best form and do your best for God no matter what, as even if you can’t see Him, He can see you. He will know about everything you do, so keep living life for Him, being the best you could possibly be.

Prove what you say with what you do There are a lot of people who are able to say good things and boast qualities. However, an action is worth a thousand words, so prove what you say with your actions instead. Unfortunately, this is what many people are unable to do. Words, when they aren’t proven, are worth almost absolutely nothing, as the true colors of everything are shown in action, which is absolutely real and believable, and proof that you are not telling lies. I know, typing this would also mean almost nothing if I do not prove what I say with actions myself, which is what I am trying to do. In fact, prove the facts before you say it, so that no one will hesitate about you being untrustworthy. God is your number one priority

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General Guides for Kids
January 2012
Final Edition

This is a summary of everything in General Guides, designed for kids, mainly 9 to 12 years old. Enjoy!

Enjoy your life! While it is important to learn new things and be a good contribution to the world, the necessity to be happy and enjoy your own life is one that could never be neglected. You should always have a time when you enjoy what you're doing, to keep you happy and motivated to do what you are required, but not happy with doing. When you enjoy your life, it would greatly affect everything you dopositively. You will be more cheerful and motivated to always improve, and most importantly, look forward to your life in the future.

Grasp everything you can! You never know when you need something from the past, and it never hurts to just grasp lessons from everything you do in the past. It is very simple to learn from each and every experience and grasp them for the future. While it is not a sure thing that you will need them, you will definitely appreciate it when you realize it later. It is not something I can describe in words here, you will know it when you experience it later. Mark my words, trust me.

Be yourself! There's no use to try to imitate someone else. While you might think you are trying to gain something by being someone else, you are still yourself and there is nothing you can change. Remember, you are just as good as any of them and it is not worth it to sacrifice your natural self for anything, seeing as in the end, you are still yourself. Your natural self is who you are, and it is your best self. When you're not yourself, you won't be able to fulfill your potential and the incredible things you could do. Try it and see for yourself. Be happy! Be happy! Even if you have problems, being sad or worried will only put down your mood, not solve what you're concerned about. When you're happy, you'll be more energetic, optimistic, and enthusiastic to live, learn, and improve, so you'll overall be in a better shape. There's completely no point for you to be mourning at this stage over anything that isn't all that serious and important, so just enjoy your life! Being happy is healthy for you and it could get you to do better in your activities. Go on, try it out and see what I'm talking about!

Use time wisely! Use your time wisely! Never take time for granted and think you’ve still got all the time in your life, because sooner or later, they WILL run out. Make sure you use every single minute you have to either enjoy your life, learn more to help yourself in the future, resting, or helping others. These are among the most useful activities you can do, but of course there are more. There is an old saying, “Time is more precious than gold.” This is correct, considering you can never take back any time that you regretted wasting in the past, as what has past could not be changed. You can, however, make sure that you use your time for the best purposes in the future. What the best purposes are, however, depends. It is a matter of opinion and personal choice for you to determine which activities and people are worth using your time for and which are not. Perspective plays its role here, as no two people or things are worth the same for you or any other person. There is priority on which you wish to use your time on, as some things are more useful, helping, and enjoyable than others-to you. This choice differs from one person to another, so you can’t just ask someone else. This is personal preference, your own choice. Reading this, for example, you might learn a thing or two, but someone else might think they’ve wasted their minute or two reading, since it has nothing useful to them. Time is the most precious thing you can ever give or use, and is worth more than anything. If you work, maybe in a month you’ll get a thousand dollars. However, even the largest amount of gold, money, or anything concrete in this world will not be able to buy you a second. That’s how precious it is, so stop reading this and using your time wisely!

Take every chance! Take every chance! Most chances will only come to you once in your whole life, so take them while you can. Otherwise, you could be disappointed in yourself later and ask yourself why you didn’t. Keep in mind that it is better to do something and fail than to not do it and always wonder for the rest of your life whether or not you could have done it. If you take your every chance, you would succeed in some of them, and for the rest, at least you know how you did, instead of avoiding it and still wondering. One of the biggest obstacles that prevents you from taking your chances is the fear of failing, and the truth is, not trying is even worse than failing, as you don’t even try. Take it this way: Finishing last in a marathon is better than not participating at all, since when you finish last, you are still qualified, which is obviously not the case when you do not participate at all. At least you’ve tried and went for the (slim) chance you might have won, even if you didn’t. The same goes to these chances in life you might have missed or chosen not to go for, as trying and knowing you failed is still better compared to not trying and wondering whether or not you could have succeeded. You might regret the decision later. Did you know what would have happened if you went for that chance? No, because you didn’t go for it. The knowledge of what would have happened is reason enough for you to take that chance, not to mention the possibility of success. Every time there is a logical choice to go for something, do it! There are a lot to aim for, and unless there is something to lose, you won’t regret to have taken that chance. A chance is an opportunity to act and do something. Never lose opportunities, for you do not know what you could do with them!

Understand others! Understand others! They might not have the same abilities, personality, and perspective as you do. Every human is unique, and you must understand that while others try their best, they might not be able to do the same things you do. They have a reason for doing the things they do, even if you know it’s wrong. Every person has their own personality, which is different and is the very reason we are all unique people. You could not expect anyone to do things and understand the world the exact same way you do, because they are a completely different human being. You’re different from anyone else, and so are they. Try to understand it from their perspective, as they might not know as much as you or maybe they know more than you. The way you behave is different, and there’s almost nothing you can do to change that. All you can do is accept them as they are and understand that they are nothing more or less than who they are. In fact, it is the differences in the world that makes it run as it is today. Could you imagine a world where all seven billion people in it are the same in personality and behavior? Then we will have a very boring world, where no one can cover up for each others’ weaknesses using their strengths. So, think of differences between you as something good and to be appreciated, not something to be disliked. Understand that we are all unique people and it is the difference that makes the world as it is. When you have understood that, it is unlikely that you will be cross at other people. Remember, they are who they are, so accept them. Don’t expect them to be someone else, because they are trying their best to be the best they can be.

Know exactly what you want! Know exactly what you want! You are the one telling other people exactly what you want, what you like, and everything else about you, and not vice versa. If you don't know what you want, how can you expect other people to? After all, you are the person who knows yourself the best, and no one beats the best of every category. If you know yourself the best, which you do, then no other person can know you better! Remember, knowing yourself is one of the most important things you could ever do, as it is the centre of everything else in the world. The ability to know your deepest self lies in you, so you should be able to do it. All the answers you need are already there in you, and you know it. All you should do is think of them calmly in a quiet room where you are alone. Ask yourself the questions you need to and let go of yourself. Let yourself go into daydreams or trances, or anything you might go into. Let go of yourself. Slowly, you would see or know exactly what you want, each and every one of what you want. It almost sounds silly, but it works. Don't let anyone influence you, because no matter what happens, deep down, nothing will ever change. Your wills will stay the same no matter what happens, so don't let anyone make you think they've changed. Hold on to yourself and stay true to yourself. Deep down, you know you will still be who you are, so don't even try to fool yourself and think you're someone different. Facts don't change. Even if they think it's what you want, remember that you know yourself best and you're the one who tells them what you want and what you don't. Know exactly what you want, and stick to them.

"Some actions are better not done, but their effects can always be minimized." Be responsible for your actions! Despite the fact that we all make mistakes nearly all the time, in many of those instances we might regret them in some point in the future. While it is true that when you did it, you didn’t know what it would bring, it happens, and could not be changed. However, there are always things you can do to recover or make up for what you have done, and by ‘always’ I mean ‘with no exception whatsoever’. There is no time, no matter what you think, that can be marked too late for any form of recovery. The obvious actions for recovery should be returning what you changed for the bad into what it was before you did, and trying to set back any changes it has caused as an effect. For example, if you’ve bullied a friend and forced him to give you money, you should be returning it to him soon, and try to make up for any depressions or stress he might encounter with you as the main reason, or maybe even some of his close family members who feel bad and angry for what you have done. Taking responsibility for your actions is one of the best things you could do. YOU caused this, so there is no excuse for not being able to take responsibility for what you have done. Take it this way: YOU bought a house, so there is no excuse for not being able to pay the instalments to the end. At least, apologize for being a bad influence, and do what you can. Before you can be responsible, admit you were wrong and try to recover the situation, you would not know the meaning of others’ perspectives. In other words, you don’t care. You care, don’t you? Take responsibility!

Cope with the society! It is a mistake to not listen to others in your surroundings and follow the sensible habits they do. If you just do your own way for a long time, it will be extremely difficult for you to fit in to real life in the society later when you face real life. Do not just do what you wish, for others might not like the effect you create as a result of what you do. Learn about the norm and what is good and bad for you and others before you decide on what to do, as failing that you will face a difficult situation in the future.

Be ready for change Despite what you might have believed, a drastic change in your life could happen anytime, both good and bad. Be ready, and know what you will do if a certain situation comes upon you, for it just might. You must be ready to cope with whatever is waiting for you in the future, even if it is unlikely, just in case it does happen. There just might be an earthquake in your area tonight or you could be promoted to a great position tomorrow, who knows? But just be ready for everything that might happen to you. Period.

Discover yourself! Who are you? This might seem like an easy question to answer. However, it can get complicated when details are on. How? Well, what do you do? What is your deepest desire? These questions are actually part of who you are. In fact, knowing yourself to the deepest possible could just be the most challenging task in your life that usually takes just a little less than a lifetime. There are a lot of things about you that you might not even know ofat least not now. So, who are you most afraid to lose? Where are you usually happiest? What is your best memory? There are a lot more to ask about who you are, but this should get you started.

Try to be balanced Try to be balanced. How much time do you spend playing? What about studying? Sleeping? Well, you should know how to balance your time so that you are able to do the right thing at the right time, thus managing a good, balanced, schedule. It isn't a secret that being balanced would help you to be good in all aspects of life, and if you tilt towards one side more than the other, you later lose the ability to become good in many areas. Studying, socializing, friends, family, personal time, sleep, work, school, and other activities must be done in an appropriate amount, not too much and not too little.

Give, not receive This statement goes for everyone. Do you feel you are contributing more to your society and helping them more than they are helping you? The help you give to your friends and family by giving them happiness is your gift to them, an you should be happy enough that they are happy, not because you are given something nice from someone. You should not become a hectic job or task to handle for anyone, but someone who can help them reduce their tasks instead. Whoever you are, you CAN help!

Breaking Routines As a kid, you might have been subjected to have a routine that you follow every day. However, you might not need to be stuck to them! There’s always something to get from a new activity you haven’t done before or going to new places. Be brave, experience new things! Do not be stuck fully to your schedules and routines. Although it is best to follow them most of the time, there are times in which you have to break free from them and do something else. Try it out!

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January 2012 Final Edition

This guide is all about the situations you face in daily life, which you might not know how to react to. Enjoy!

When you can’t handle it When you can't handle what you're about to face, you do not trust that your own abilities are good enough to handle the situation that you will be facing in the near future. This is sometimes just a feeling that makes you nervous to face it (which reduces your ability even more) or something you know as a fact. If you know as a fact that you can't do it, it would only be logical if you tried to ask or get some help from others to handle the situation. When this is not the case, however, simply trust yourself and do your best. It's simple.

When a lot is expected from you
When a lot is expected from you, you might doubt your own ability on whether or not you will be able to live up to those expectations and be able to do what they expect you to. This could also be a time in which you may want to prove to others that you are able to do whatever they expect you to, even if they don't think you are skilled enough to fulfill their expectations. Either way, you would want to, as always, do your best in everything you do- no matter what the situation is and no matter what others think. This might be difficult, however, as you could easily be mentally affected without you realizing it. Simply try your best.

When you are demanded to improve When you are demanded to improve, you or someone else is not satisfied with the quality you are doing one of your activities and want you to raise your game quickly and become better. There is something you NEED to be better at, and in a short time you must be able to reach a new, higher, expectation and a new standard you must live up to. You must realize, however, that even if you are not demanded to, you still have to improve, as that is what life is about: improvement over time. The trick in these situations is to try harder and push yourself to your limits, putting all your effort to what you're doing. Focus. Never let yourself get panicked, as it will not only reduce the quality of what you're doing, but also reduces your time to get it done well. The critic in yourself should be stricter and hopes more from you than anyone, and the demand from others to improve mean you either need to focus more and get the job done or you need to learn on how to improve on what you're doing. Do both. Learn AND focus. When you are misunderstood When you are misunderstood, other people in your surroundings assume something about you that you know truly is completely or partly untrue, due to what they see or hear. These situations are often caused by either a lack of communication or the wrong interpretation of what they see and hear, causing them to get the wrong assumption. Simple things such as making things clear could easily clear things off in these situations, and telling them what is right is ALWAYS worth a try, even if it fails later. There’s not a lot more you can do, but hope that their mind will understand the truth and interpret it well so they could understand you.

When you change your mind When you change your mind, you just discovered or realized something about a matter that you know is right but opposes what you thought before you found out about it. Therefore, you 'banish' what you previously thought to accept the new knowledge that you just received. A change of mind could be drastic, which means it just completely replaces what you used to think of, or slowly, which is the case when it first makes you hesitate about the truth, then accept the new knowledge and assume it is fact. While the first form might only take less than a minute, the second form is a long process that could take anywhere from ten minutes to months or even a year. The only thing you should consciously do in these circumstances is to observe each of the two opposing sources of information and see what you thing makes more sense, although this could almost be omitted as you almost always do this automatically before changing your mind even if you don't mean to. This change could be difficult as you were so convinced before changing your mind, and now you have to accept the fact that you used to be wrong. In these situations, one battle is going on: the past you against the new you. When you change your mind, you could be proven wrong as a fact. However, that doesn't stop the possibility for you to change your mind in a matter of opinion, as over time, some happenings and actions will happen, and everything changes, prompting you to change your opinion about practically everything you know. While changing your mind occasionally is a good thing, try not to do it too much, as it could baffle your mind and leave you uncertain about what you are changing your mind about.

When it matters When it matters, you are in a time when the decisions you make and the actions you take have great influence on either the near or the far future (or both). Your actions and your words at this moment determines a lot of what will happen in your future, so you must do your very best to think of what you will do. In fact, your decisions will mean a lot not only to your future, but also that of others, and therefore you give them the best you can. On the small scale, fate is in your hands. When you know your actions, words, and decisions matter, you might feel some pressure on you seeing as one little wrong move you make could be reason everything does not end well. This pressure, from both your inner critic from inside you and the people relying on what you do, can be the motivator that urges you to try and/or think more, or the reason you are panicking and feeling uncalm as you think about what you would do. In these times, every little thing counts, and every second you spend could be the difference between failing and succeeding, depending on how you use it. The exact outcomes of everything you do might not be clear to you, but if your actions matter, people, including yourself, are counting on you and trusting you to do the very best possible. Don't make them regret it. You can handle every situation you face, but only if you put all your effort into it and truly want the best. When you do, the ability to handle what matters is there for you to use, and there is nothing preventing you from making a difference- in a good way.

When you trust someone When you trust someone, you truly believe in the person you are about to trust with a task or information of some sort that they will try to do what you want them to do to the best of their ability, which you think is enough to fulfill what you want. You believe, as you have experienced for a period of time that they are trustworthy enough and good enough for you to believe in them. Make sure, however, that they are not going to use that trust you give them for purposes ‘you don’t want them to do’, since that could be a disaster for you. A lot of problems start as trust that is not kept as it is supposed to, so make sure, before you do, that the person you are about to trust is really able to keep that trust and not let you down, as failure to do this could lead to many unwanted, complicated problems between you and them. Trust, after all, is not something you should just give to people without consideration. It is something you give to a few people you know you can believe and count on doing the right thing. The ability to trust someone is based on many different factors, but once it is broken, there are very few ways it could be rebonded together as it was before it was broken. Remember, it is an ‘expensive’ gift you can give to others, so only give it to those who are worth it. When it is kept well over time, however, you would trust each other more and more, as you believe in one another even more that they can be counted upon. This kind of trust is a very positive one, as trust kept over time would strengthen the bond between you and increases the chance for you to help one another. When this happens, fight for it, as it is rare and precious among people.

When you need to make a choice When you need to make a choice, a range of possibilities are open for you and you will have to choose what you think is best among them. There will be a lot of aspects that you need to analyze to make the best choice, some of which are:  Your first purpose. What would the ideal choice be? What qualifications would make that purpose? Define your own meaning of ‘the ideal choice’ in your situation.  The end result of each choice. Predict what will happen if you take a certain choice. Analyze the effects those predicted end results might have on you and the people around you, plus the environment.  The pros and cons of every choice. It is no secret that this is a crucial step in the choosing of anything. Which choice or possibility will bring you the most benefits without giving you a lot of drawbacks? Also think of what benefits are more important and which drawbacks you MUST NOT have.  Perspective change. Think of which choice you would have taken if you were in someone else’s position, and think of the effects your choice might bring on them, IF the effects of your one or more of your choices will involve affecting them. This should not be the main factor in choosing, but it should at least be taken into consideration.
Remember to use every related knowledge you might have to this to determine your choice and take it to consideration. Take your time, unless it is extremely urgent, to make your choice, especially if the impact will be significant, in order to make the best choice possible. Never hurry up in making choices, as you will not be able to focus and think of it well, and therefore might not make the best choice. The main thing here is to focus in your thinking. Focus!

When things change dramatically When things change dramatically, there are sudden and significant changes in a particular situation that makes you think that you are in a fully different and unrelated place and time compared to what you were a few moments before. You might not know what to do because you had almost no time at all to know or get used to the new situation, which is the very reason why you should be suited and prepared for all situations that might confront you in the future. Although this might happen very rarely, it could lead to very severe happenings or extremely great events, so it would be reasonable to watch out for sudden changes that might happen at any time.

When things change gradually When things change gradually, there are small but continuous changes in your life that, together, makes a relatively significant difference. These changes, however, are so small and slow that some of the more unobservant people would not notice it and take it for granted as though nothing has happened. To be able to adapt continuously is something of great importance to be able to live well to this everchanging world. However, the gradual change leaves you with some time to adapt instead of having to get used to it all in the same time. Life and everything in the world, changes at all times, so you must be able to cope with it in any good way. When you try to adapt When you try to adapt, you feel like you are in a new situation that you are not comfortable in. You also feel that you are not familiar with it and are trying to get used to it, modifying yourself and your thoughts in some occasions. When you try to adapt to a new situation it would be one of the most difficult things you go through for quite some time. The effort and difficulty you go through, however, is likely to be worth it, seeing as events you encounter after you are used to it are often nice and pleasant. The process of adaptation is difficult, but it usually leads to a better series of events. When you have too much to think of When you have too much to think of, your mind can't usually focus or act as you normally would. You could do a lot of daydreaming or could not focus, and therefore unable to do the best in the activities that you do. Obviously, the best thing to do under those circumstances is to clear your mind one by one thing and putting a stop to the things in your mind by taking care of them. It would be much better if you take care of one thing before proceeding to another since you would focus and do your best in it. You can also ask someone for advice if you have any trouble in taking care of the things in your mind and what bothers you.

When something is not understandable When something is not understandable, it feels that something is strange and might make you very curious. There are a few parts of a mystery for you at that time that does not fit together, and it makes you confused about the happenings. Your brain simply doesn't understand and could not put things together as an understandable series of events that makes sense to you. This, however, might be changing over time, when you slowly understand it when it gets realistic and understandable. When this happens, it is often good to stay still and wait for things to make more sense. Try to investigate or ask someone; they might, perhaps, understand some things better than you at some times.

When you feel you can't live on When you feel you can't live on, you have such many problems of great size that stops you from being able to enjoy and be happy in life, at least for the current time. You do not feel that your life is doing any good to anyone, including yourself, and you almost feel tortured by the state of living you currently are now. It is difficult to be optimistic at these times, and you often doubt what you will be doing next to get better. However, there is always hope however dark it is, so find your hope and do your best and give your greatest effort to improve the situation into the good so it will be all fine for you.

When you are guilty When you are guilty, you feel sorry for an action you have done, regardless of whether or not you did it in purpose or whether or not you had meant to deal the caused damage. You regret doing what you have done and might try to do something that would cancel out that particular action. You might even do things for a person you usually wouldn't as you regret what you do and you (sometimes desperately) want to cancel the damage you caused out and make sure things are fine. This is good, but once you have settled it you must look to the future instead of the past, and not think too much once it has all returned to the state it is supposed to be. When you face the sad truth When you face the sad truth, you often get angry or have your anger rise, and might also have the occasional feeling of disappointment that comes across to you. At these times, you might also go into depression or heartbreak, and wondering what you will be able to do next to improve your mood. It is, however, also the first sign that you should do something new and start a 'new' life. As I said before, there is always hope, so try to do something new to cope with whatever situation you are facing after you know the truth. Try to put it behind and not think about it too much so that you can be focused on the future instead to the unchangeable past. When you face the happy truth When you face the happy truth, you feel as though you would want to explode with happiness and might think about it the whole time, as you are overjoyed to know that something great that you want to happen has really happened. You might even become uncontrollable to yourself due to overjoy and go a little bit wild and abnormal compared to your usual self, which is usually caused by the excitement that is running in you. The truth, however, has to be thought very deeply and, instead of getting overjoyed, you should simply think what you are going to do next, after consideration of what you already know recently.

When you await for something to happen When you wait for something to happen, it is when you keep quiet and 'do nothing' until a period of time that you want to come goes to you. That period of time that you wait for contains something; a happening, that you wish to see or take part of. This is a time in which you might not feel patient and wanted time to be quicker, and you impatient feeling gives indescribable discomfort to you that you occasionally do not understand. You might try to do activities to make time seem and feel to flow faster, but it is more likely for you to try to count the time down to what people call 'the moment'.

When it is urgent When it is urgent, you need to have or do something in the next few moments of your life to stop or prevent a bad thing from happening or do something good. You could not afford to lose any time and need to do something as soon as humanly possible. It is just as important, however, that you stay calm in these times whatever is waiting for you, because panicking will take you no further than even worse failure, for you would not be able to focus and do your very best you could have done when you are calm and focused. Do the best you can according to the situation and let fate determine the rest.

When you find hope When you find hope when it seems dark, it means that you are given to make the situation bright and light into the good instead of the problems in the dark. A small chance that could matter a lot, depending on how you use it. In these times you should follow and use this well in the way of following your brain and your heart. It is uncertain, but it is always possible. Hope is something that you should and must use wisely. Again, you should follow your heart. It usually knows the right way through a passage that science could now explain. Do what you think is best, and leave the rest to luck and hope. When you make a decision When you make a decision, you think either with your heart or with your brain and either deeply or shallowly. In these times it would be your highest priority to think and consider every possibility wisely and with great focus, seeing as a decision could either ruin your near-perfect situation or get your highly flawed position close to perfection. Decisions determine the majority- if not all- of the things that will or are about to happen in the world. It is of the greatest importance that you consider every possibility and every choice and decide upon the very best possible. The categories and possibilities of each decision vary a lot, but in almost all occasions a good choice is available. When you go for it When you go for it, you feel that you have enough chance to catch or get something that has become your objective. You give your best effort to attempt or do a specific activity to reach a specific goal. It is also essential that, in these times, you do and try your total best and (sometimes) push yourself to the absolute limit, as it is usually a time that will determine what happens next. The times when you go for it and attempt your best are usually very important and decisive. You go for it when you think you can do it and you take the risk of failing for the chance of success. Should you? Ask yourself.

When each bit counts When each bit counts, you know that something in a very small amount could make a big difference to something. You therefore do your best to get every single achievable thing you go for, no matter how big or small it is in amount, and try to get the most out of every bit. For example, every single second in a race might count and every single point in a competition might be crucial. At these times it is usually worth it to take considerable risks for small rewards, as it might just make the big difference you are looking for and that could make (or break) your day and your motivation.

When you know that something has to be done When you know something has to be done, you feel that you have to stop something bad or start something good to make the situation better. You feel that in the certain situation that you are in, you could not stay still and wait, so you act and do something to improve something, either yourself or with someone who share the same idea and could help you. The action that you do often vary a lot, since there are a lot of actions that people take to reach and achieve many different things. Therefore, it is essential to take the right action necessary to do your best to achieve your objective and improve something.

When you know When you know about something, you can either be happy or disappointed with it. When you are happy, you would probably try to do odd things you wouldn’t before. This might be good, as long as you keep control of yourself and your actions. However, when you learn something that disappoints you, you might be angry of feel depressed. Again, this is understandable as long as you do not do this too much or too long and make this something that disturbs the routine of your normal daily activities. To face the truth might be unexpected, or maybe unwanted, but the sooner you know the more time you have to react to it, whether or not you like it, so appreciate the fact that you know. When it is uncertain When it is uncertain, you could not be sure of how things are or what will happen next. There are quite a few possibilities of what might happen or how the situation is going to be later, and it is often very unpredictable for most people. This is not a time you want to have too much in your life since uncertainty and unpredictability can leave you unprepared for what is waiting for you in the future. These times often lead to a surprise, which can either be good or bad, and one that you are not likely to be prepared for. Some people, however, do not mind surprises and therefore are fine with uncertainty. It varies between people. When you fail When you fail, you must understand that failure is not a blocker of your path to success. Failure is something that simply delays your success, and it doesn’t mean that you can't succeed. The best thing you can think of doing in these times is to try again and learn from your mistakes to improve and get better each and every time, and not to give up on your goal. Take failure as one of the unexpected steps to your goal and have another go, since you surely won’t make the same mistake again and therefore would have a better chance as you've learnt by experience and know better of what to do.

When you are out of luck When you are out of luck, you are in a position in which the only thing you can count on is your own effort and skill. These times are those in which you could not afford to and do not want to take an uncertain chance on something, which is usually important and can lead to something bad. Luck is something that happens when chances go in favor of you, when the odds go your way, and in these times it is not something that you would like to use. The solution, however, is simple: use something that you know will work, and try your best no matter what happens.

When things don't seem right When things don’t seem right, you know that a part of a time is negatively not as you expected, and you struggle to cope with the unexpected happening. You might try to do something to improve the situation, but in most occasions you would not do anything and see until you are sure. However, it is a very correct action to make sure that things are as it should be as soon as possible, and not wait for the most convenient time for you to do so as you might simply be too late by that time. Try your very best and put all your effort so that everything can go well.

When you are supported When you are supported, there are many people and things around you who help you in completing a specific objective through an amount of time. You feel and you know that people around you will be there for you whenever you need them to, either by your family, friends, or other people whose presence you are able to feel. They are people who are ready to help you when you need them, and are prepared to do you a favor when you ask for it, without going against you; instead, they trust that you know the right thing and decisions to make in life. This is a good time for you to do something along with their help so you can do it well.
When you need help When you need help, you are in a situation in which, to improve things, you require help from a friend, a relative, or someone else around you. You know that, by yourself, you would not be able to do what you have the ability to do with other people, so you therefore ask for their help. The help that you require are often important to have, despite sometimes unnecessary or even making the job harder for you, which obviously was not your true intention of asking them to help. It is crucial at these times that you ask for help to the right people at the right time so that it will result greatly.

When you are trusted with a task When you are trusted with a responsibility or task in is your job to complete it well in a good way when you know it is a good thing to do. The trust you are handed along with a task is, at most occasions, relatively significant, and by doing it well you keep the trust that people have given you. Responsibilities vary highly, but generally it is almost always good to do them well, while the opposite would create problems. While tasks have variable ways to be done, and consumes effort and energy, it is most likely that, in indirect ways, you will not regret what you have done.

When someone leaves you for some time When someone leaves you for quite some time, or maybe even forever, you feel sad and regret it, with some parts of you hoping that it does not have to happen. When they leave you, you feel and you know that something is missing. In some occasions, people who have experienced this, perhaps rightly, try to forget about the person who has left them, despite failing in many attempts. Some people, on the other hand, are ready for this, and do not require a lot of time or effort to deal with this. The best way to handle these situations is to forget them and start a new beginning in any good way.

When you make a mistake
When you make a mistake, you have accidentally done something that is not according to the perfect plan. You do something 'wrong' or, in positive words, 'unexpected'. This, at most occasions, mean a negatively different approach to your related activities in the future as you would need to 'fix' the mistake and erase its effects before doing and repeating what you were supposed to do rightly (the chances of making a mistake twice is slim as you've learnt from the first time). There are, however, such things as good mistakes, the 'solution' of which leads into an unexpected (and accidental) success. It is important, even with this said, that you make as little mistakes as you could, even if making zero mistakes is humanly impossible.

When you defend your opinion When you defend your opinion, you truly feel that a statement you have mentioned earlier, despite being opposed by many people, is correct, and you defend what you think is the truth and/or what you think is right or correct to do. This is what almost all people do in the occasion of a debate or quarrel, and done as people want their opinion to be known and respected. While to defend your opinion is to defend the truth, you should also listen to others as they are likely to have a reason why they think that way and, in some situations, you might be wrong. It never hurts to do so, seeing as everyone's got their own opinion on something. When you feel small When you feel small, you feel very bad and lonely that you think you have no influence in this world at all. You might be bullied or not being listened, and given unfair treatment that you feel useless. It is essential at these times that you keep being optimistic and look forward to the future by taking a look at how you can improve to become better for yourself and give positive influence for other people around you and those afar that you could help. In fact, you, at these times, should ask for help to other people that you trust and those you know could help you out from the difficulty you are facing at the current time. When you face something new When you face something new, you are required to be able to adapt easily to the new situation and cope with it well so that you do not struggle to 'survive' in the new situation, place or time. You are not familiar with the situation you are in and you might be confused as you might not know what to do. It is, again, hugely important that you are able to understand situations quickly and act as you reasonably should in a short period of time so you can, then, work and live to your full potential as usual. Your brain can usually help you to identify and analyze what best to do in a specific situation, so train it to be able to help you adapt to new situations quickly and effectively.

When you don't want to take the risk When you don't want to take the risk, you feel that, while it might be good to be able to get something good, it also poses a risk that could worsen the situation you are in, and that you are satisfied enough not to take the risk for it, as you might also feel unable to take and overcome the odds that are against you. You, at that time, feel and know that you should play safe and be content with what you already have. You know with your common sense that it is hardly likely that you will be rewarded well when and if you succeed taking the risk and avoid it to not lose what has already been in your hands.

When you have a bad feeling When you have a bad feeling, you think (with no reason or evidence to support) that something bad is going to happen in the near future to you or someone around you. This feeling often makes you scared and avoid similar situations if you can, although, at most occasions, it is no more that instincts and does not truly happen, and you feel this only because you are not feeling optimist and very well at that time. It is still very important, no matter how great the feeling is, that you continue your normal activities, as it is not that likely to really happen in the real life. Try to always forget about any bed feelings and enjoy your life normally.

When you just can’t do something When you just can't do something, you do not dare or do not want to suffer the possible consequences for doing an action. You might think that your brain knows it is something good to do, but you don’t have the heart to do something because you unconsciously fear it might lead to something bad to others and to yourself. You don’t have the guts to do an action, and the force that prevents you from doing this is almost indescribable as you don't actually realize what prevents you from doing a specific action. There is practically nothing you can do about this, since that is you and your natural state. When you can’t control yourself When you can't control yourself, you feel like your brain and your conscious thought have no control of your arms and legs' reflex to a situation and could not think as quick as your body’s movement through time. You act rapidly to respond to a sudden change in situation that you could not have control of, which is done depending on what your brain has known about the right actions to do (at least according to the brain itself, but not necessarily truly good to do for others). This is mostly not a good thing to have, especially seeing as you might do things you wouldn't normally do that would be very surprising for some people. When you have a good feeling When you have a good feeling, you have an abstract, indescribable thought that something good is going to happen to you in a short period of time. You might be confused as you have no evidence to support what you think, and this could even be false in some occasions and only happens because you are feeling superbly well at the time you feel this. When you have this feeling, often you will take risks and do things that are related to chances and luck only because you think you would have good luck and all that will happens in the near future could only be good. This feeling also often makes people overconfident, so if this feeling comes to you, assure yourself that it is just a feeling and won't do anything real.

When you think When you think, you consider with your brain about something that has been around you or has the potential to affect you. You consider the best choice to do, and you are focused upon finding the best solution to everything in your life for yourself. Outside, it might look or seem to other people that you are practically doing nothing, but inside, your brain is trying its hardest to find out something important to you. When you think hard, even the smallest noise or instruction might just be able to stop or distract you, or even make you forget what you had been thinking before. If you have some spare time, it would never be a bad idea to think about the best thing you could do.

When you follow your instincts blindly When you follow your instincts blindly, you feel that your heart, without conscious knowledge from your brain, suddenly knows what to do, and you follow that indescribable force that you feel will lead into something good. You feel (sometimes rightly, but in other occasions wrongly) that your heart knows exactly what to do in a certain situation and you 'let' it take over your body from your brain. Assure yourself, however, to do this only if there are real hints, not just the abstract feelings and instincts, that tells you that a specific action will be good to do and has less risks or things that will make the situation worse.

When you struggle
When you struggle, you give your greatest effort and try to your very limit to do something, and yet that would barely be enough to reach it. You struggle, but what you try might either be not enough or just enough to get what you expected. You might even go to be tired in the process, asking others for help, or do anything that might help you achieve that goal seeing as you need each and every piece of aid that would help you. Keep in mind at these times, however, that after the struggle comes the joy and the rewards that you will be able to enjoy once you finish dealing with whatever has made you struggle in the past.

When you force yourself over the limit When you force yourself over the limit, you push beyond your realistic ability to do something and still go to the best of your abilities even if you are not in shape good enough for it. While it could work for that instant and do what you would like it to do, the consequences that come after it is very rarely small. You could suffer physically, as in the case when you force yourself to run longer than your stamina allows, or mentally, which happens when, for example, you steal money from the bank out of poverty, leaving yourself a huge feeling of guilt.

When you're out of time When you are out of time, there still are things you have to do in an unrealistically short period of time that you could not handle. Naturally, these situations would make you panic and hurriedly trying to finish what you're supposed to, although that isn't the best reaction you could have put in. In these situations, try to control yourself and stay calm, which would undoubtedly help you to do the best you possibly could. Try to think of better ways you might be able to do what you must or get yourself some more time, if it is possible. When you’re wasting time When you’re wasting time. When you're wasting time, you use some of your precious time to do something that is neither necessary nor good to do, either because you have no idea of anything better to do or you simply WANT to waste time. The time you are wasting, however, could have been used well if you thought more. There's nothing wrong with having fun or not being productive, but always make sure that there's a point and a reason of doing the activity you use with your time.

When you make a new beginning When you make a new beginning, you realize that what you had in your life before was not in the route of where you wanted it to be and decided to make a big change. You try to leave everything bad that you had in the past and either eliminate them or change them into something better. Making a new beginning, however, also means taking a risk of losing what you had in the past, as there is no guarantee you will still have it later. This is one of those moments where you really have to think hard and decide on the best, considering everything, as a mistake could be fatal and of huge impact.

When you are clueless
When you are clueless, you simply have no idea of whatever is going on or anything at all about the situation around you. As a result of your lack of knowledge about the current situation, you might not know exactly what you are supposed to do to cope with it. The state of being clueless is almost terrible, as you have no idea what might happen to you and how you should react to what is happening around you. Before you do anything, make sure that it is logical to do so, and most importantly of all, find out better about your situationwith any sensible method.

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When you do not pay attention
When you do not pay attention, your mind wanders off into something other than the thing you are supposed to be focusing on, which could be caused by boredom or because you think about something else too much. This can either happen consciously, when you do not want to pay attention to anything around you, or unconsciously, when your mind just wanders off when you didn’t want it to, and go into a state called ‘daydreaming’. Regardless of which it is, you should try to focus and keep your eyes locked on what you’re supposed to pay attention on, because it could just be very important for you.

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When you learn to let go
When you learn to let go, you realize that would be better to release and remove from your life some things or people and proceed on without them. You might feel that it is what is best for you, or maybe for them, if they are people. Therefore, you find the best way out to cope with it, either making sure they are fine or trying to forget them. Even if you have learnt to let go, though, it could still be difficult to do so, as deep inside, you do not want to. However, it is quite a significant step in doing so.


Types of People
January 2012 Final Edition

This guide is about the types of people and personalities of people around you. Enjoy!

Patient Patient people are those with the ability to wait for a long time and hold their temper and anger to almost extreme limits. They are the people who will not easily get mad and can control their feelings to remain as calm as possible. These people are less aggressive than other people and are a lot calmer, which makes them more organized and have greater self control, which allows them to be conscious and always do what they know is the best even if they are extremely angry and annoyed. Their ability to be able to wait for long periods of time without being out of control is also related to the fact that they are able to control themselves very well and do the best no matter what. Patient people are usually more of the quiet and introvert types, as they do not talk too much or express their opinions, but keep them in their head instead. These people are not so active and are kinder than most people. However, this makes them more likely to be made fun of and bullied, since other people think they will not do anything to defend themselves due to their calm nature. This is correct, however, in most instances, unless you count the extremely rare case where they are pushed far beyond their limits and just take out all their temper into whoever is annoying them. Again, this is a very rare case, and other people do this way more often than patient people.

Reactive people are those who quickly and easily react to whatever happens to them- quicker than most people and one of those who do it immediately under most circumstances- often without sufficient thinking. These people respond to any change in great speed and urgency, which sometimes makes them careless as they do not think of the appropriate action to take as a response to what happened. Like most personalities, being reactive is something good to have, as you could react and adapt to whatever change has happened quickly, but it could also become dangerous when you act without thinking whether or not it will be a good reaction. No matter how quick you need to be, it is never an excuse to not think and do something that is not appropriate. Although reactive people tend to respond to their situations in less than a split second, which is ideal in situations where things are urgent, actionpacked, or when you are running out of time, it also gives these people a lot less time to think whether or not what they do will be good for themselves and for others. Some people have mastered the art of thinking quickly, which eliminates the risks of being reactive, but they are not so large in quantity. If you are one of those people who are reactive, just be careful when you do react quickly, and think in the process. If and when you realize that it isn't something good to do, stop yourself in the process and hope that you weren't too late to stop and do something different.

These people, however, can also be overreacting to what is happening in They are among the kindest and most helpful people around, their surroundings, which means they are doing more to react to it than they however, since they are patient to help others and do not want to should be. This is caused by a sense of panic and a lack of coordinated hurry anything up. They believe in their own self-control and are able thinking to their actions. In fact, sometimes, not reacting at all is better than to do the best no matter what mood they are in. Not many people can reacting wrongly or over doing your initial reactions. Remember, the first initial reaction is often not the best and one that you do not usually want to do that, you know... do. This is, however, not always the case, and there are times when it is the best. The key is described in one word: thinking.

Headstrong people are those who insist on having their opinion accepted than others and according to them, what they want MUST be done. One of the very few good qualities about being headstrong is that they do not give up easily, if ever, so they always push to the edge of their limits to get what they want. However, they are very bad listeners and tend to want to be the leader and decision maker of anything they are involved in. They do not accept to be looked down upon or not being listened, and are among those least likely to change their opinions over short periods of time. Their nature of needing to have what they think be accepted by others and not listening to what others have to say often makes them unwanted by many people. The lack of their ability to work well with others are also a primary reason they don’t do well in work that require communication and cooperation, while having great potential in individual work and tasks that only require pure individual skill from themselves, as they usually have outstanding self-management skills. When it comes to themselves, they tend to be more organized than most other people, but they also demand full control when it comes to work that involve other people, making them seem bossy. They believe strongly that what they think is the best, and very little things can change that. While being headstrong might be good in childhood where you need to know exactly what you want and the ability to be organized with yourself are among the top priorities, it becomes less and less of a good characteristic when you grow up and life requires you to be able to work together well with other people to accomplish more difficult tasks. But then again, in some cases, this personality often disappears as some time comes by to adapt to the fact that cooperation is required.

Cooperative Cooperative people are those whose abilities shine out when they work together with other people. They are able to coordinate, work together, accept differences, and put together ideas in a group, and whose teamwork skills are better than most other people. Cooperative people do not insist on being a leader, but they are excellent members who can accept the differences between people and the difference between their opinions. They can help others and understand their position, and are more of the social people who do not prefer to work alone. When they do, however, their quality of work seems to be lower than it could be, as they are better off working with others. The capabilities of each cooperative people differ from one to another, but tend to do much better in groups since they can rely on each other and help one another depending on what they could and what they could not. In terms of pure skill, they are usually a little behind others, but it is their ability to communicate, relate, understand, and socialize that makes up for the lack of pure skill. In their childhood, they tend to be less competent than their friends, but later works out better, since they are more than capable of working with others- of almost any type or personality. They have great cooperation and self management skills, which makes them organized. To be cooperative is a very good quality to have, seeing as it is required to work together with others and end up with a good result. In fact, it could arguably be said as one of the most important qualities for a person to have as without cooperation, all you can do is work by yourself and rely on your own abilities- which is, after all, nothing compared to the abilities of many people-including you- combined together.

Ready Ready people are those who are always well prepared for many likely situations that they will face in the near future. These people think about the possibilities of things happening and make sure they are ready to face them when those happenings come. They are among those who are able to handle unexpected situations, both positive and negative, better than most people, as they are ready for what they face in comparison to the majority of others. Most of the time, they are well prepared for what the pessimist fears and the ambitious hopes- and almost everything in between.

Money Grubber Money grubbers are those whose objectives in life seem to be getting as much money as they possibly can. These people appreciate money more than other people, and seem to hate wasting even the smallest amount of money. Most of them are either involved in very serious business or have lived a long time with another money grubber, and hence got the influence from them. To some people, their obsession to money could be so great that it becomes annoying, but to them, money is among the most precious objects. A vast majority of these people are also more closely linked to worldly riches than other things, which partly explains their behavior. Persuasive Persuasive people are those with the ability to persuade the majority of other people into thinking or doing what they want those people to, using words or actions that make them change their minds. A friend could persuade their classmates to tell them what the project was about, for example, by saying he or she had to do it for their grades, or a CEO could persuade his or her shareholders to trust his or her business plan, saying why it will work and its benefits. The ability to persuade others come naturally to some people through their excellent word choices or actions, but don’t be fooled. As always, think to yourself: Is it good or bad? Impatient Impatient people are those who are unable to wait for long periods of time in order to get or reach what they want or need to, or feel uncomfortable when they are unable to finish something in a time frame that they mentally set, which is usually 'as soon as possible'. These people value their time a lot- perhaps a little too much- that they think it is too precious to be spent waiting. That thinking, however, is done unconsciously, but leads to their outcome, making them annoyed when a process takes longer than they want it to.

Appreciative Appreciative people are those who are grateful for everything they have in life and are content with them. They rarely wish they had more, and think of most, if not all, of the things that happen, as a good blessing. These people also appreciate every single thing others do, and are among those who always look on the positive side of life instead of the negatives, and think of what they have instead of what they don't. While this help them to be happier than many with their life, it could also prevent them from trying to make everything even better, as they are fully content with what they have, when they are far too appreciative.

Imaginative Imaginative people are those who imagine that fantasy things, magic, movies, and games, are true, and like to daydream about what people call silly and childish things even if they know those are not something that happens in real life. They do not care about that fact, though, and just imagine about fantasy objects and happenings. It is still imaginative when a person imagines something that might happen but is unlikely, despite not being impossible. They do not think or focus as much as most people do on real things that are happening around them, as they daydream too much instead.

Forgetful Forgetful people are those who have a short span of memory when they are supposed to do something at a specific time, but do not realize it at that time, or, in other words, forget. Not just once or twice do they do this, but very often. This might happen because they are distracted about something else or they simply forget about what they should do. They could not remember something that they normally should, so they ignore, and realize it a few moments later and regret the fact that they forgotten, but they usually could not do anything by then, which makes this a very annoying personality for everyone, even for themselves! Guides Guides are people who are good in one or more areas (of studies or of anything) when compared to other people around them. They have the ability to guide or lead people to become good, are willing to, and do so in some times. They know about a category well, and tend to teach others or try to get people as good as them, or at least get better. They are mostly patient or are wise and responsible, who can take care of their time very well. To be repeated, most guides are good in no more than one area, so they can also be guided by another. Remember, almost everything changes over time! Safe Safe people are those who would hate to take risks, even for great rewards. They believe in satisfaction in what they have, and only take and do things if they know that there is no way it could make them lose something. They want what they have in safety and ensure that they are not lost from their possession, thus not risking it for something else. They do not want to take part or participate in activities around them that seem dangerous, risky, or hurtful, and go for safe ones that do not require any risk to get involved. In short, they are people who do not take risks, not for anything.

Shallow Thinking Shallow thinking people are those who think for only a short distance, either only about themselves, their small environment, or only the present time and not the future. They are not able to see long ranged into the abstract limits of time or space, and assume that the best to do is anything that is best for the present time in the current place, which they might regret very badly. They take the simplest perception of things and not think deeply, thus the name shallow thinking. They do whatever is the best according to them at that time, not seeing the good or bad. Therefore, it is better to be wide-thinking, instead of focusing wrongly in this personality.

Routine Followers Routine followers are the ones who always want things in order in schedules, and get frustrated when they get messed up with their routines. They are very strict in following them and do not accept widely any disturbances that might stop their planned timetable, which they might have formed since a long time before and are long-ranged in some cases. They practically plan their own lives and what they do to reach certain things and goals in the right time. They are some of the timeliest people and those who are least likely to be late for anything. They rarely depend on luck, and make their schedules in a way so they are surely on time.

Over-caring Over caring people are those who care and love some people so much that they make sure of their safety and contentment that it sometimes gets annoying as they worry too much. This is one of the few examples when too much of a good personality becomes a bad one. Over caring people, unlike other bad personalities, begin as those that people like for their care, but end up disliked for over worrying and caring too much that they are assumed and marked as annoying. This is a personality over which people has no control of, as they mean no harm and only intend to care instead of over caring and annoying. Flexible Flexible people are the ones who can adapt quickly and very well to different people, places, plans, and situations. They could easily switch or alter their brain and get used to different situations almost immediately, without being confused, but instead with confidence. They would be able to do their best in different scenarios and situations and flow with them without great difficulty. These people do not mind a lot of change and are fine in new places, even if they are not risk-takers or adventurers, because of their great ability to cope or deal with the problems they face in daily life, and continue acting as though everything is normal and as though they are used to the things they face. Flexible people are able to cope with different people very well and therefore are able to get along with practically everyone. They could change their behavior to suit others in the logical situation and not have problems with them. This makes them favorable in groups, but very little people are flexible. They could, however, be a negative personality, when combined with ignorance, which makes people simply flow with other people’s plans without care; blindly. Good ones, on the other hand, are able- and do not mind- to switch from being a member to a leader or from an extrovert into an introvert, depending on their surrounding situation around their area. This personality can either be good or bad, and it is all depending on their other personalities to determine this.

Leader Leaders are the type of people who are trusted by a lot of people and are able to do activities very well, thus leading other people. Most of them have a lot of influence or are smart so that they are able to do this. Leaders also have qualities to guide other people to do their job right, and know what they have to do. They are wise and are able to make good decisions for the group of people they lead, and most are respected by that particular group of people. They are strict and focused on their tasks to finish it in the best way possible, and they are regarded responsible for their mates so they must ensure everything goes well. No wonder they are strict, right?

Pessimist Pessimist people are those who keep thinking of the worst case situation they might go through. They are not simply hoping that they will have good luck, but assume they have very bad luck instead. While many people do not prefer to be pessimist, since they have the (false) myth that 'What you think will happen really will happen', these type of people are among the most ready when something bad really will happen, so while it might keep these people very worried among things, this could not be classified as a fully bad personality to have. In fact, nothing, I repeat, nothing, is fully bad without any goods.

Realistic Realistic people are those who react to true situations well and use their brains to give logical reactions in their area. They always remain relevant in every situation and are sometimes considered wise or smart. They do not dream or wonder about things they know are not true (some even ignore virtual things) and only think about things they expect to happen or those that have good odds of happening. If the situation demands them to worry, they worry. If the situation demands them to be happy, they will be happy. They think of the world, well, normally, and in the way people should as they use their brain well, but when it comes to hearts they struggle very much. Optimist
Optimists are people who hope for the best and assume, or think, that the scenario that will happen in the best that could have, which makes them unprepared when the worst comes. They try so much to make themselves not worry of the situation in front of them, despite knowing the truth. While this might sometimes be good when you are over worried, being too optimist can result in not realizing the truth and not being prepared when something really does happen. Most people assume this is a good personality, since they also assume that 'What you think will come true', which is not true. So, again, the key is to be realistic.

Boring Boring people are those that do not have a sense of humor or doing fun. They do not mean to be so, however, it is simply that it is how they are. The majority of these people are workers who spend a whole lot of time working or those that are extremely serious that they become boring since their seriousness urges them to get over their sense of humor. They are often teased and avoided for this reason as they are someone you could not have fun with. Boring people also not uncommonly have something at the back that they hide from everyone else that they are doing something that urges them to be that boring.

Middle-Man A middle man is something that is used to refer to someone between two people having a controversy. He is the judge or the connector between them, and could either make things bad or good. Good ones are the problem solvers of people who make peace and the situation good, but bad ones could make things even worse by angering the other people. These people are usually in the neutral personality, they do not side, and neither are they very introvert, nerdy, cool, or extrovert, or might be in a position to not judge single-sidedly before reaching full knowledge. A middle man is the person who can make it all or break it all.

Attention-seeking people's personality differs and varies through many people's perspectives. Some people think they are cool and funny, with the action that they do every day, but others also thin that they are annoying and very disturbing, because they do things that do not make sense and are very silly. These people seek the attention of others, and mainly do this because they wanted to be known and popular among the people they 'show off' to. Most, if not almost all people who are attention seeking, are active, extrovert people who wanted to be popular, and are not nervous about doing anything. A major part of them are also risktakers who dare to do odd and unusual things to catch other people's attention.

Curious Curious people are those who want to know about everything around them as deep as possible and be, in rough words, the know-it-all. They have the will to become smart people and they simply want to understand what's going on around them in the method and way that we call 'science' or 'psychology'. Curious people are good thinkers who can analyze well, and are also those who are good listeners. They have the will to find out about their friends' behavior, and are usually the first to notice something odd and discover more about the subjects they find interesting. Sometimes, though, they might seem to get into other people's business, or get into trouble, so remember, nothing is always that good and perfect. Workers
Workers are people who like to do things and not relax or rest as much as the typical person. They do jobs as a pleasure, not as an obligated activity. In their spare time, it would be rare when a worker stops to have fun or chill down, because to them, those activities are things that stop their boredom from reaching them. They enjoy being given tasks instead or having spare time when, to them, they do nothing, and therefore it is a time that they have wasted. Workers are rare among the general society, but are very focused, and therefore are very good to do work.

Sporty people are those who like to do physical activities, enjoy it, and are good at them. Most are energetic and are extroverts, seeing as they are in a very good physical ability and are quick or talented in sport (which requires energy and fitness). It is a rare occasion indeed when a person is shaped to be sporty, as most of these abilities are made from birth. Active people are usually the sporty type, as they would have been able and would have been interested in sports. Very little introverts and super-serious people are sporty, as they do not do a lot of physical activity that makes them have this quality, which is neither good nor bad. People would be fine as they are, but it would make a good addition to someone, despite not being as important as other positive characteristics of people.

Fun-minded people are those who want fun all the time and make that almost their first and (in some cases) only priority. They want to enjoy their lives and ignore the true situation around them even if the people around them try to make them realize that and focus on what is important. They might also seem a bit selfish to get the fun they want and annoyingly talk about it, but that is not always the case. These people have a cheerful latter, and sometimes are fun to be around, although again, these are highly variable. Their position varies through their other personalities and the types of people around them prefer.

Helpful Helpful people are those who could and are willing to help other people in some ways that they are able to do. They can give aid to people when they require, especially when doing a task or job they have to do. However, they are also often helpful to themselves, and thus could do their work well. Most of them know what they have to do to make things better, while others need instructions (but are still helpful). They are favored by many people for this personality, which, in simple words, help other people a lot. This, however, is not a definite personality and could change over time.

Odd Odd people are people who do unique or weird things and activities compared to the general population. They may have an abnormal behavior or like rare things that others don't, and are usually rejected in the society of the dominant people in their area for their high level of unusualness compared to others, and might not have the sense, behavior, or a certain quality that the others do. They are considered annoying to others, which might truly be the case, but they do not realize it at all so they think they are fine. In rare occasions, though, they are not actually that bad, but their environment rejects them in. Odd people, practically, annoy everyone around them and make people avoid them almost immediately as a response to their unusual behavior. It is a rare situation when someone wanted to be friends with them without any hidden meaning behind. They are even those people who make the patience of many peopleincluding those who are usually calm- run out, because they do things in such an unusual and unacceptable way that are no good to anyone. They are the trouble causers and even the best debater around might not be able to go on their side and think they are right.

Mean Mean people are those that annoy other people for fun, and pleasure comes to them when other people are angry or annoyed, especially those they know and want revenge to. It makes sense, actually, and meanness of people happen every day, but these people do tease, harm, or bully other people for their pleasure commonly, so they could be very annoying at times. Mean people, however, rely on their other personalities for others to determine to befriend them as they are good jokers or avoid them since they are very bad annoyers.

Lazy Lazy people are those who are some of the most ignorant people around their particular area. They want to relax and have a good moment all the time, and they do not care as much as they should about their tasks, activities and jobs that they have to do. They are not the type who think a lot and consider things. They try to make sure they have as little responsibilities and tasks as possible, and sometimes do not stick to them, and take things they have for granted. They are easily satisfied and do not want to do many things, therefore usually being especially low at academic performance.

Understanding Understanding people are people with empathy who know and understand other people’s situations and feelings, and act into the good to give them support over their position. These people know how it is to be in other people’s situation, and they are able to act sensibly according to the situation. They are able to adapt to different situations well- quickly, and are able to give advice or guide other people into the good. The majority of these people are calm, seeing as they are able to think a lot and analyze people’s situations very well to solve any problems around. With these qualities, most understanding people are trusted greatly by many people. Understanding people, with their kindness as an abstract reason, are often bullied and teased by dominant and active people in their environment. Therefore, they often become introverts who are calm and quiet and do not have a lot of people to support them. Most have small groups of friends who are also bullied or those who admire or appreciate their kind and understanding personality. Sometimes they are liked by more people- even active ones- in the rare occasion when they fit together, help each other, or simply seek their understanding. These people's social position in their environment varies very highly, so nothing is certain about these people. Easy-Going
Easy going people are those that take life easy and do not concern much on anything. They just relax, and ignore any problem around them, assuming or hoping that it will take care of itself or get taken care of by someone else. This makes them annoying sometimes, especially at the idea that, in rough words, they do not care about anything. Their underestimation of problems also leads to being overshadowed, and later they have too much problems in their hands that they could not manage. These people might have tended to show off that those problems do not affect them and made this a habit or simply just want to enjoy themselves and ignore problems and tell themselves to deal with them at a later time, which gets longer and longer until he or she is overwhelmed by it. Easy going people sometimes get a lot of people around them because they have a lot of time, or they have none because they are classified as ignorant. They might go along with extroverts, other joke-makers and non-serious people, plus funny people and ignorants. To others, though, they seem very uncaring to the world and are too ignorant, therefore leading to being avoided and sometimes bullied, disrespected. They are also often disliked by teachers, mentors, or even some parents, because they are rated immature being unable to take care of their own problems and tasks, leaving them be instead, which gives even more tasks to people around you.

Nerdy Nerdy people are those who prioritize their academic performance in comparison to other matters. They are also used very commonly to refer to people who spend a lot of time reading books or any other forms of writing, especially knowledge and factual ones. They are also often very curious to know and find out scientific facts in the form of articles and books. They rarely know, however, of technology or anything very physical such as sport seeing as those are out of their interest. They are rarely strong in physical terms and rely on the whole on their academic performance, which they assume (sometimes rightly) that it is the most important thing most of the time.

Serious people are people who are focused on things they know are important, and prioritize them before other things they want to do. They know which is essential and which is not, and act well, solving things seriously without any sense of humor or jokes. They meet targets and time limits as rules and laws that are very important. They are often introverts who always think to do the best they could. Serious people are also very rarely popular or cool because they focus fully on their compulsory works, which takes their time instead of going out or having fun. That is right, they very rarely have fun, but to them, it isn’t bad if they get to finish everything they need to. Serious people, again, are very focused, and, like any other, prefer people similar to them. They do not fancy the company of any popular or cool kids, who often distract them and have fun. Instead, they prefer those who help them in their work to get it done well and (in some cases) quick and other factors are not important to them as long as important things on their job are done (almost) perfectly, while others are just additions. The presence of any joker, fun maker, popular or cool people are regarded as disturbing as they make focus go away. In most cases, they also prefer quiet places to work well.

Reflective Reflective people are those who look back to their past a lot of times and think about them. This makes them excel in learning lessons from the past mistakes and not repeating them, in comparison to others. It also does, however, make it difficult for them to let go of their past and enter the present and/or regretting some of the actions they have did in the past, even if they are probably the only one who remembers it. These people often forget to live the present in the best way for their future as they might be stuck in their past.

Relaxing Relaxing people are those that stop in their spare time to enjoy the time and take a break from their work, while others work or play, not noticing the time for their breaks (yes, this is the very opposite from workers). When it is the time, (although it, in some occasions, happen when it is not the time) they let their body rest and stop doing anything much, instead of having fun or working. Most of them are balanced, but a fair portion of them relax too much and do not know the time to work well seriously. Relaxation is good at spare time, but not all the time! Relaxed people often have great problems with those who are serious, especially when they have a job they have to do, but ignored that responsibility. Workers also assume that those who relax are wasting their valuable time doing nothing, which is somewhere between true or false, or probably somewhere in between. However, with fun or fun minded people, they could 'click' together and be together well, as they would probably have the same perspectives of life. Leaders take the concept that relaxed people and lazy people are similar, and therefore they avoid the relaxed people since they are assumed as unreliable people for work and responsibilities.

Extrovert Extroverts are the very opposite of introverts, who prefer to be around many people and a center of attention. They like to do many things that involve physicals, and tend to look dominating their area. Extroverts have a lot of friends who accompany them, and most good communicators are extroverts, who often joke around and seem to be brave around. Extroverts use their brain to think a lot less than introverts because they very rarely are calm and think by themselves only in rare occasions. Many people in the world, especially males, are extroverts, so the world is set on the standards of an extrovert. Extroverts also set the majority of the people in the trading/ economical business, which requires communication skills above the ability of introverts. Extroverts tend to be together with people who are well-known, popular, powerful, or smart in some cases. They, because of their lack of thinking, go with people who, like them, dominate, which will make them even more powerful or dominating, either in a good way (leading, helping) or a bad way (controlling, bullying). They very rarely go along with 'nerds' or anyone who are introverts unless they have a reason of doing so (again, this is not necessarily bad, they could simply want to help, or they can go bullying and trashing). They also tend to get close with either focused people, who help them work, or creative people, giving them many perspectives on life. Introvert Introverts are people who prefer to be by themselves most of their time. They tend to look quiet, and think from the inside. They feel uncomfortable when faced with many people, and in most cases lose their energy a lot quicker than extroverts. However, they also tend to have hidden talents or abilities that are hidden beneath them, that only themselves know, or some people. They love quiet places where they can think and focus well with themselves without anyone disturbing them, being the critical thinkers and analyzers they are. Some people are becoming introverts from pressure by their environment, but most are made by nature- from birth.
Introverts tend to get along well with other introverts, because they all think a lot and share their ideas in the same way. Like any other, they get along with the people who have the same perspectives as they do. However, in some cases, they might also get along with others, especially when they share the same interests, or have an experience in which they feel comfortable, which happens around kind and helpful people. Introverts are likely to have a better relationship with their teacher (in children) or bosses (in adults) because of their will to learn and know more. They always feel bad around noisy and energetic people, by whom they may be overshadowed, bullied, or simply discomforted. However, these could change, despite it being unlikely.

Productive Productive people are those who tend to work and do useful activities all the time they can. These people, who are usually serious and not easygoing, believe that it is a waste of time to have fun or do any activities that do not produce notable results, saying that it is not 'a time used wisely', which isn't a wrong concept at all. However, there also needs to be a balance in life where fun and a time off stress is required, which is what they didn't understand. Being productive, however, means they are able to do a lot of things in a short period of time, making them time-efficient.

Ambitious Ambitious people are those who have high hopes for themselves, maybe even beyond their realistic abilities. They are extremely optimistic and believe they can do a lot of things well, only to be disappointed with themselves later in some cases. These are also the people who plan out things in the near and far future without thinking of any challenges that might stumble them. While it would be good to remain optimist and look forward to a bright future, these people often overlook their challenges and underestimate everything that might go wrong, thus leaving them not ready then they come.

Open Open people are those who share their lives, how they feel, and other (maybe) personal things to many people. These people are often extroverts or people who have a big social life, which triggers them to share their feelings. As a result, their personal life often becomes a topic to talk about, even if it is not appropriate. While opening up to people is good to obtain advise and understanding from them, it could also become annoyance to others who ‘have heard too much of them’. It also makes them much more vulnerable to insults and even some forms of bullying. These people, however, do not see these risks as a threat, so they go on with it. Personal Personal people are those whose personal lives are almost a secret that very few people know of, perhaps even no one but themselves. They are most likely the quiet people around their environment, and are scared to take the risk of being a topic that people around them talk about. Unlike open people, they are likely to possess a very small social life, and prefer to be alone or just with a small group. In short, they are most likely introverts, although the possibility of an extrovert being personal is not at zero, as everyone just might have something they hide from everyone else. Childish Childish people are those who act immature to inappropriate levels so much that they act as clueless and helpless as little kids. While in early stages of life being childish is almost mistaken as cute by many people, it becomes rather annoying later when a sense of responsibility is needed from the childish individual, whom he or she will not be able to fulfill, thus leaving extra unnecessary tasks for other people around them, making it difficult. Childish people are often those who take life too easily and aim to have too much fun in their lives, without considering other things.

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This guide is about the feelings you feel in daily life. Enjoy!

Different The feeling of being different comes when you know there are a lot of big differences between you and the rest of the society, and you feel that there is no similarities between you that makes you united and work together with them. There are two feelings that could come after this: either you feel lonely and disappointed with yourself, or you feel unique and proud of those huge differences. Which of these will happen to you depends on the exact scenario and your reaction to them, so it could not be specified. Be sure, however, to take advantage and make the best of this.

Grumpy The feeling of grumpiness comes very easily when you are in a bad mood or are irritated of something you are disappointed or sad about. If you are grumpy, it is likely that you would not be happy with anything, and see everything in life as negative and annoying. You would not be your usual self, as you would be far more skeptic and mean to other people, and sensitive to things that are annoying. When you're grumpy, try to switch what you're doing into something fun if possible, as that would lift off the bad mood and grumpiness you are in. Determined The feeling of determination among those most difficult to describe in words. It is simply the feeling of great motivation inside you telling you to keep pushing to your limits and keep trying your best to achieve what you aim to do. However, like the feeling of being motivated, it is linked closely with the personal will of you or others with this feeling. It is that little voice inside you that pushes you to try again and not just give up when you fail at doing or achieving something, and lets you use all your effort once more. There is method to neither build noir diminish this feeling, as it comes naturally and almost unchangeable using practical methods. Hopeful A hopeful feeling is one that comes when you see something that highly relies on chance and filled with uncertainty, in which you hope or believe that the best will happen. You are unable to do anything but hope that whatever you are worried about went or ended up well. It is often accompanied by a little worry, and maybe even the feeling of being scared when it is something important. However, it is also wrong to rely and believe on false hope, as it would give you nothing but great disappointment in the end.

Grateful A grateful feeling is one that you get when you appreciate what you have now, as there was a chance that a might not have had it. This feeling is one of those that is accompanied by thanks, and again, full of appreciation. Although you could literally feel grateful every day as there is always something to appreciate, this feeling only comes when you REALIZE that you should be thankful to have it now. It would be much better, though, if you could be grateful for every single thing you have now, as there is always a chance you could have lost it. Appreciate everything you have!

Pity A pity feeling is one that you get when you feel bad for people that you think is in a worse position or condition than you are at the moment. You might feel it when they are in a bad situation, when they are unable to know or realize something, when they are not in the ideal place, or when they fail to do a certain thing. It could sometimes be accompanied by the will to help them get out of that position, but that is not always the case. You simply do not want them to be in that position, although they might not know they are in a bad condition. When you feel pity, you just have a sort of sad sympathy. You wish they could be in a better situation, like the one you are in at that time. You could feel sad for them and just hope they do well, or try to help them out from that position. You could even feel superior at that time as you are in a much better position, but that would not be the ideal reaction to it. The core of this feeling is regret, as all you do is regret that your friend is not in the ideal position or condition.

Hatred Hatred is a feeling of extreme dislike between one person and another caused by a series of activities or actions they took to the other’s great annoyance. It is the feeling where you feel like anything that person does seem annoying and makes you angry at them, at the same time want to cause misery to them. It is the topmost level of dislike and problems, where you just wish the worst to happen to them. It is also the peak of any deep problem between humans, which could end in a fight or attack, or peace once understanding has been regained between them.

While pure hatred is rare among people, it has become increasingly common lately, mainly due to the excessive amount of conflicts and problems arising in the last few years. In most cases, it begins with a simple disagreement that later leads into dislike of each other, only to grow by a few more problems to become hatred. Hate is a very strong word only used to describe extreme situations, though, unlike dislike. In many cases, there are very few things, if any, that can pull down and relieve the hatred and turn it to peace, as the feeling is so deep Unless you help, there is completely nothing you can do for the that it is just so difficult to forgive what they have done. person you feel pity for. So, there are only two good actions to when you feel pity. You can either help them to be in a better position so Hate can also turn anyone in it unable to control themselves, turn there is nothing to feel pity about, or you simply try to forget about it. wild, or temporarily change their behavior to a more aggressive one. After all, no matter how much you pity them, there is nothing you can The only way to stop hatred by yourself, though its success is a hitdo but help. If you feel pity for long periods of time, YOU could and-miss, is to simply separate yourself from that person and think become sad and quiet, and your mood bad all of the time. Let them about it, trying to understand their position and why they took certain actions. Then, do not see them for a long period of time until you are handle themselves. sure you have relived it, as it could bring your hatred back up.

Surprised The feeling of surprise comes when you do not expect something to happen or something to be in the state and/or condition that it is which you didn’t know before. In surprise, you might get in a behavior that you normally don’t. You might have to react quickly or go panicking, as it all just comes to you all of a sudden. It is when you encounter something unexpected suddenly, and previously had no knowledge of. To be surprised can be both a positive and negative feeling, depending on the exact scenario you are in and how you perceive it. The best way to handle surprises is to take some time to let it sink in you and for you to completely realize what is happening, then make your first reaction accordingly. To react too quickly might lead you to the wrong reaction as you have not enough time to think of the right thing to do. As it is unexpected and comes all of a sudden, you have a lot to think of in a short amount of time. In the positive form, there might not be any reactions necessary to be taken, but that is not the case with being surprised negatively. Calming down is a very important thing to do here, as always, to make your mind think as it is supposed to. Try to think well of what you should do, and change what you do accordingly. For example, if you are working in a bank and your boss announces of a robbery that took place last night, the first thing you would do is check the causes, tighten security measures, etc, not screaming around, asking what would happen. The saying, “Expect the unexpected” actually means “never be surprised by what happens”. Yeah, you should have expected it and it wouldn’t have come off as a surprise to you.

Curious A curious feeling is one you get when you are so eager to try to find out about a matter even deeper or find information about something you do not know of. Something in you so desperately want to have knowledge about something, what they are, and extra information about them. In times when you are curious, you are likely to try doing things you might not usually do due to the overwhelming desire in you to know more. Typically, this only happens when you are so interested about a subject, as these feelings do not appear often. Having a curious feeling is usually a good thing, as it strengthens your will to find out even more and enrich your knowledge, which typically could never do anything negative. However, there are cases when you are TOO curious about something and end up trying TOO hard at trying out some information about the matter. As a result, you do risky things that could end up bad, and sometimes lose track of your time opposed to what you are supposed to do. As a result, your excessive will to know could make you forget about other things you might need to do. It is a good thing, but too much of it will never be good. Having a curious feeling is good. However, you should be able to control that eagerness so it does not distract your attention away from other things you should be doing. Keep your priorities steady, and don’t let your curiosity mess with it too much. Always be sure of what is most important, and what’s next. Control of yourself is the key to most important things in life, including curiosity in this case. Never let the curiosity in you drive you to doing what you know isn’t something good. You should control the curiosity, not vice versa.

A worried feeling is a feeling when you are concerned about a particular subject or object is situation that you are not sure of and could not be. Worried feelings are very common, especially when we care about something, and it is away from us. These can also make us depressed or stressed, two very negative feelings that we have to avoid. Worrying, on its own, is not so bad, but the worst part about this feeling is that it could lead to very negative feelings over periods of time. There are, actually, times you have to worry, and it is good to do so at certain times when it is realistic. Yes, that is the key. Be realistic. When you are irrelevantly worried, you should- but are not obliged to- take your mind off by doing something exciting. Otherwise, go and make sure for yourself about the things that you are worried about, which will obviously take your mind off those worries and relax, as there is nothing to worry about. This is the most effective and definite way to handle your worries, plus you know what is going on with what you are worried about. Most of the time, this is also the easiest solution available. In the case that you could not do this, distraction is the best way around. Try your best to keep forcing your mind off your worries and switch it into something positive until you can be sure.

Cheerful A cheerful feeling is a feeling that occurs when you feel really happy and that nothing can seem to make you feel down (although that is wrong). Sometimes, to some people, they feel cheerful almost all the time. A cheerful feeling is mostly a good feeling because it gives you positive perspectives on life and makes you not worry too much on those that are troubling. However, it sometimes also makes you underestimate the problems that you have in life, thus getting you in occasional troubles. It is good to be cheerful, but you've got to act accordingly to the time and situation.

A panicked feeling occurs when you are worried that something bad that is likely to happen, and don’t know what to do to stop it. You try to stop something in a short period of time without knowing whether it will work or not. It is a very common feeling and sometimes it can be extremely difficult to calm yourself down when you are panicked. Panic can also cause you to do things carelessly or in an unnecessary huge rush. Panic is never a good thing to have- it does nothing more than stopping you from being calm, of which is a key to solve things in many cases. When you are panicked- irrelevantly- take deep breaths and stop your activities for a while. Stop those rapid movements and take your time in your activities, best with someone to be there helping you with whatever you are panicked about and calm you down. When you are calm, you do things and activities a lot better, and, believe it or not, actually, faster, than when you would in a panicked situation. Even when your panicking situation made sense, you will still do far better off when you do things in a calm situation so your whole brain and your body can work to their maximum possible limit at that time.

Jealous A jealous feeling is a feeling you get when you see or know that someone is in a certain position or has something that you want, but are unable to get. You feel like you want to be in their shoes. Every person’s position in this world is different, and therefore the feeling of jealousy is very common among us. Jealousy, while being a hidden feeling in most cases, can start fights among people, and that is a reason why we should-and must- avoid it. Jealousy could go and break your friendships because of something that is not worth it. Sometimes, we do not realize that we are jealous to someone. That is even more complicated. It is very difficult to determine things when you are jealous. Sometimes you keep it, sometimes you unleash it. Sometimes, in the biggest situations, you might become uncontrollable by yourself and there is nothing you can do when this happens, because jealousy first invades your mind. Therefore, it is a lot easier to avoid being jealous to other people. While it may sound complicated, the truth is a little simpler. You have to feel thankful and satisfied with what you have and understand that it is enough for you at this stage. It takes a little practice, but it will pay off at later stages when you know the world at your peak. Sick Silly A sick feeling is something that happens when you are, well, sick. It leaves you weak or hurt on a particular body area or takes away your energy so you could do nothing. A sick feeling is the most scientific feeling among the common ones, and is one of the rarest if you take care of yourself well. It only happens once in a while when you do something wrong to your health. Once you are sick, there is absolutely no way that you can simply snap out of it in your heart like other feelings. It affects your physical health and you have to wait for your immune system to fight back so you can snap out of this feeling (medicines only help them). It is one that no one, I repeat, no one, wants. A silly feeling is a feeling when you feel that your sense of sensibility gets low that you do things that do not cope with the situation when you think with common sense. This, in certain times, leads to a good humor, but other times it annoys people and can get you into trouble for not acting good and not using your brain to cope with it. Some people have this nature from birth, which can either make them popular and nice or hated by many people, as they are called attention seeking. You just have to snap out of it and be sensible when this happens, and just try your best to act right.

Thoughtful A thoughtful feeling happens when your brain has a lot of things, either in life or simply imaginative, to think of. Sometimes the brain switches into this state by itself, and we realize it a few moments later to snap out of it. It is sometimes hard to prevent this, especially when there are a lot of 'interesting' things in your life to think of. At certain times you also go into a trance and imagine yourself in a different situation when this happens, hence lowering your consciousness and sense to the real world. This feeling, however, could also be simply defined as 'thinking a lot at a time'. It could be either of those.

Confused A confused feeling is a feeling that occurs when you do not have the ability to determine what is happening around you. Your brain is 'blown away' at that time, and thus could not help you with the situation as it normally would. Usually, situations around you when you are confused are pretty much complicated that it made your brain- and youconfused about it. Confusing and complicated enough to make you frustrated and preventing you from getting a good thought and understanding it, actually. It is hard to act very well at these situations, because you don’t know what you're up for, so you must be very careful when this happens. When you are confused, bring yourself together and make sure you know what you are doing and that you can think properly. Then, take your time and start processing your situation slowly, one by one, until you are sure of it and you know what you want (and should) do. Make sure you are no longer confused, because acting when you are confused

In Love In love is a feeling you get when you have a crush to someone similar your age and opposite your gender. (otherwise, that is called care) It is a very strong feeling that influences you to get close or be nice to the specific person. It can even make you distracted about other things, and is probably the most complicated feeling there is, as it could lead to hundreds of other feelings. It is very rare, though, in early ages, and mild ones start when you are a decade old, but none turn serious for at least half that time after it. As said, it is very complicated, and therefore I could not describe it in words here. No Feelings/ Feeling-less Having no feelings could also be defined as an empty feeling, without any definite expression. This could happen when you simply are in a neutral state or you could not describe what you are feeling in words because it is not so clear, even to yourself. This mostly happens when there are so many things that are happening in your life that you do not realize what you want to do and what you expect to happen. When things are complicated in your life, this happens. After something big happens in your life, this happens. You just don’t know what you want and what you feel. You simply feel nothing; you have no feeling at a certain time.

Broken Hearted often makes you do bad or inappropriate things that you will regret, because your body and brain do not function as well and perfect as you normally would. Simply make sure Broken hearted is a feeling of disappointment to love that you did not know to make the best decisions that you will not regret in the before. It happens when you know something bad about them that makes you disappointed in them. This leads to you being very depressed and extremely future. sad, and often stopping you from doing your regular activities. It is something that often occurs in teenagers, and leads to other problems since it has affected your feelings and your thoughts altogether very deeply that you can barely hide the fact that something bad has happened to you, even in times when you are usually happy or calm. Thus, quite a few days of your life could actually be ruined when you have this feeling, so avoid and stop it as soon as possible! Lonely Hurt Sometimes you feel lonely. You feel no one is there for you, and you feel that you are all alone in the world, with no one supporting you. Mostly, this happens in kids in schools or college, because it is where social position matters (unfortunately) most. It gets in the way when there are spare time supposed to be spent with friends, but you have no friends to do so with. Well, you can’t change how they think. This is life. They have seen a part of you that they want to avoid. When loneliness strikes, you feel no one is there for you in this world. When you feel lonely and you have no friends to be there for you, go to a guide, a teacher, or a counselor to seek their
Hurt is a complicated feeling. It could either mean you are physically hurt, such as when you bump yourself or get cut, and fight, or it could also mean that you are mentally hurt, which happens when you are insulted or something bad happens to you socially. Mentally hurt is the type that usually keeps the pain in the heart longer than the pain in the skin left by physical injuries. Hurt is a feeling when you feel pain in your body, and can come unexpectedly, just like other feelings. A hurt feeling can last for a long time, even a whole lifetime. There might be no end to what we call 'permanent injuries'. One of the reasons we should take care of ourselves, that is. It is difficult to determine what we should do when we are hurt. It simply depresses us. Well, it is a lot simpler when you are physically hurt. Get rid of your bruises or cuts and heal them with antiseptic liquids, then put a bandage until it is healed. If it is severe, get to a doctor or a hospital (basically a medical expert) to help you and let them manage it for you. When you are mentally hurt, report or tell it to someone you trust. They might- and probably will- help you. Think things over and try to be optimistic, otherwise try to stop yourself from being hurt by anything that did.

advice. They usually can help you, especially in tough times like you would have had when you are lonely. Listen to them, but more importantly, do not let your feeling make you feel down. Loneliness, when thought, can even make you lonelier. Don’t let that happen! Make yourself feel better with the company of someone who will understand your position and those who you think could help you in this. There is no time when you have no one, remember that. Your family and teachers, basically everyone who cares about you, will always be there for you when you need them.

A feeling of boredom is a feeling that happens when you have too much time on your hands- empty, boring time which you don’t know how to fill. This is almost the opposite of stress, and is less likely to happen as you grow up, because the older you are, the more responsibilities you have and the more things you have to do. Boredom happens when you are restricted or are unable to have fun at the place and time you are in, and mostly have no activities to do. When you are bored, usually time feels so slow around you. It feels to flow in very slow speed, and you want it to be over, which seems like forever. When you are bored, the best thing to do is distract yourself with something that you enjoy. Couldn’t do that? That is the reason why you should bring something small that can entertain you in every time possible, just in case you get bored sometime. One of the most effective methods to pass these times is to think and not remember that you are waiting for time to pass. You feel time very slow if you wait, but it goes very fast when you are not paying any attention to it. Just go on with life and act as though you are not bored. Then you really won't be bored.

Stress happens when you are very deeply concerned about something and almost couldn’t let it off your mind. It keeps you thinking about the thing you are concerned about, usually even exaggerating and over-worrying. Stress is the feeling that prevents you to do your regular activities at certain times, and it is a very rare occasion to see people stressed with things that are reasonable. Most of the time people over-worry, which is something that we must avoid. The world has hope and light even in the darkest situations; it is always balanced. So, turn come of this worry into happiness and relax, enjoy yourself. More importantly, though, enjoy life! When you are stressed, there is no better thing to do than to chill out a bit and enjoy yourself, because you are likely to over-worry about what you are concerned about. Play games, hang out with friends, or watching TV are the most common things that could do this, but it is better if you do something that you enjoy a lot. The more, the better, because it is more likely to take your mind off it. When you are reasonably stressed, the best thing to do is obviously go and solve whatever is making you concerned at that time as soon as possible. That, without any doubt, is sure to take the weight off your chest.

An angry feeling occurs at the time something not in your desire (and often far from it) happens. Rage in your body explodes, and you just want to show how mad you are at what happened. You are likely to be destructive or yell and scream easily. The time you are angry is also the time when you are most likely to lose control of yourself. You must make sure that you do not do anything bad when you do. Try your best, though, to keep control. It happens when something provokes you to get mad at something, and gives you reason to yourself to be destructive to the place, things, and people around you. When this happens, steer clear of other people so you don’t hurt them, either physically or mentally. Have a quiet time with yourself to think things over and gain self-control. Do not be with someone or something that reminds you of your angriness, as it will trigger you to do many very bad things. Try to enjoy yourself by playing or chatting, but be sure you won’t hurt anything when you do. Anger usually dissolves over time, especially when you are having fun. You just have to let time do its job and not make things worse for yourself. Simply don’t do anything unnecessary unless you're done with anger; that's the best thing you can do when this happens.

A sad feeling comes when you regret doing something or are disappointed in something. Many people define it as the antonym of happy, and it is correct, despite not being precise. A sad feeling is when you know that something has gone wrong, and there is nothing that you can do about it. However, when you are sad, you are calm. There is nothing that you want to do, and all you do is reflect and regret what has happened. This feeling is simply caused by the happening of something undesirable, which varies very highly at different times. You want things to improve, but you donít know how. Just like any other feeling, sadness is sometimes- and often- uncontrollable. When you are sad, it is essential that you donít put it into someone else. Go into your room and wait until you calm yourself. To quicken the process of calming down so that you no longer feel such a great amount of sadness that affects your activities, you could distract yourself from the sadness by doing an activity that you enjoy. After a while, your focus will shift. Sometimes, you will need someone to calm you down. However, the person who tries to calm you down often worsens things, so be selective. You should, in all cases, explain when you are back normal. Over time, it is almost certain that you will get back as normal.

Lazy When you feel lazy, you feel that it isn't necessary to do any significant thing at that moment and many activities you should be doing can be delayed. A lazy feeling is closely linked to being tired and/or depressed, seeing as those feelings could lead to the lack of motivation or energy to be productive or to work. This can be handled by trying to do activities that bring your spirit back up, such as those that require a lot of energy like sports. However, there are some cases when the laziness is physical. If it is so, the only thing you can do is take a short nap.


Happy A happy feeling is a feeling of satisfaction in your life. You are content with what you have and what is happening around you, and feel no need to do anything strong or quickly. A happy feeling is simply a good feeling that shows you enjoy life in that moment. Most of the time, you also feel calm; you are calm and have no problems or troubles that you are concerned about at the time. A happy feeling is different to different individuals; some might be happy with something and others might not. Therefore, happiness cannot be defined with more detail than simply the feeling of calm contentment and satisfaction. If you want to be happy, there is no specific thing you should do. As I said, aspects of happiness differ in different individuals. One sure thing that you must do to gain happiness, for sure, though, is to set aside and get rid of your problems as soon as possible. Problems, as you know, stop us from being happy. It makes us worried, angry, and sad. You should also give yourself what you want and satisfy yourself (of which method you should know of by now). In the case that you cannot do that, simply lower your expectations and be content with what you currently have. That is the easiest way you can be happy: enjoy life!

The feeling of being motivated comes when there is a great will to do something due to a good condition if you succeed or a bad consequence should you have failed. Motivation is an abstract feeling that makes you try harder and do your very best. Perhaps you are motivated to be the best in your class as your parents will get you a new phone if you do so, or you are motivated to reach your marketing target in the office to get a promotion. There is no definite way to get motivation; as it turns out by itself when you truly want something.

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Irritated The feeling of being irritated is closely linked with the feeling of both annoyance and anger. When there are things happening around you that doesn't go as you wanted, the feeling of irritation builds up, until the point when you just couldn't control your anger and temper. This leads to uncontrollable behaviors, such as being mad at people for no reason or just feeling panicked without knowing why. In other words, it could easily lead you to extreme levels of bad mood and despair. How you can avoid it? Simple, just stay calm and control yourself at all times.

Pressured The feeling of being pressured is around when there is an obligation to do as task in a period of time that you are not sure whether or not you will be able to succeed or handle it well. The impact of being pressured could either be positive or negative to you. On one side, it could make you try to do the task faster or better and give you motivation to do it well. On the other hand, to some people, pressure could lead to unnecessary panicking, which, instead of helping you to cope with the pressure, leaves you unable to do a lot with what you have. Be careful not to be panicked when you are pressured!


A Good Life
January 2012
Final Edition

This guide is about the things that make a good life for you. Hope it will help.

A Willing Life A good life is a life with the will to live on and become better. It is a life where you put effort to improve, help others, and a life where you actually want to be someone meaningful to people. A good life is a life where you have the spirit to always do your best and have the will to try doing your activities to the best of your abilities. A life without that spirit will just be a life without the energy to do the very best, and a life without true will to live will just be pointless and completely wasted for nothing.

A Meaningful Life
A good life is a meaningful life. For your life to be good, you should actually mean something to someone else and part of the world in general. Your life should be a positive influence to others, and you are precious to someone else. A good life is a life where you act for the good of others, and they appreciate the fact that you have done what you have for them. It is where you are actually making a difference in other people's life positively, even if it's just one or two. There is one base word in this: meaning.

Through your actions and what you do that affects others, by now your life would probably already have a meaning for some people around you- bad or It’s like being assigned to write a book, but you don’t have the good. You are dong something for them that they appreciate, and they motivation to do it. Obviously you still have to write it, but as a result appreciate the fact that you exist as you give them positive impact is some of the lack of motivation, the end result of your book is nowhere near way. Try to deepen that meaning, and mean more to others. Make your life satisfactory. The will and motivation to be the best that you can be is the reason that something has changed for the better or isn't going worse. very important, and a good life is only made when you want to have a Be the change that someone needs, and it could change the whole world for good life. Otherwise, without effort to make it so, your life is going them. Make it something that has an effect. Make it the grand achievement that you have deserved for all your work in living for years.

nowhere. Without the will to live, it will feel like you are forced to live, and life is an obligation instead of a chance. More often than not, something big in meaning starts with something a lot Natural motivation has always been and will always be there, inside you that urges you to live and become better. However, when certain things happen, you might just lose that motivation. This only happens if you let yourself lose it though, so never do. The motivation to live on will build up by itself over time, and all you should do is follow that motivation and do the best for yourself. Follow your heart, and you’ll do fine.

smaller. The small, common actions that you do for others mean more for them than you think, so don't think that you have to do something huge to make a difference. Although you do if you want to change the whole world, a small action could mean the world to someone, and are worth more than you think it is. The first change should be that you should stop being bad or unfriendly to anyone and be there for them when they need you. That is the syart, and you would already mean something to someone. Carry on and keep up the good work, and never stop learning, developing, and changing.

A Productive Life What is life when you don’t have anything to produce or offer to anyone else? What is it if you don’t have an effect on others, and something for the world? That’s right, nothing. A Good Life has something to produce and offer to others, and you don’t just waste your time doing useless things that would only be beneficial for yourself and not anyone else. And the process of producing things, mostly your actions and attitudes, goes on and on, instead of being just a single process, so it is continuous and almost never-ending.

A Happy Life What's the point of living if you just mourn over yourself, being sad and regretting every single action you've ever taken? A Good Life is a life in which you are happy and satisfied with your life, with times you can enjoy and a life full of joy. Of course, it's life, which means there are times in which you worry, be disappointed, and get sad sometimes, but there are also times in which you must be able to enjoy your own life, be happy and be proud of what you have done. The trick to living a happy life could almost be practical. All you have to do is be content with whatever you have done, everything you possess, and everything that happens to you. You do not need to change the position you are in life, all you should do is change the way you think about that position. When you are fully content with yourself, no matter what happens, you will be feeling happy the whole time and live a happy life. That's all you want, right? A life with good choices
A good life is a life in which you make good choices. If you think about it, the best things you face in life all started out with the good decisions you made, not the bad ones. Take note, however, that the ability to make good choices come from learning from the bad choices that you made so you won't repeat the same mistakes. With good decisions in your life, you will be able to have a better life, as they lead to good times and experiences. Choices and decisions are the core of your life, and it is up to you to make good ones to drive your life to a better path. A Responsible Life A Good Life is a responsible life. You must be able to take and handle your own responsibilities and not add work and weight to others with what you were supposed to be able to do. There are things that become your responsibilities, the most basic of which include yourself, your belongings, and a part of the world. You must be able to handle them and not be overwhelmed by these simple responsibilities in order to have a good life, as there will be tougher things waiting for you in life, and if you could not handle this, there is a very slim chance of your abilities being enough to handle those.

A Ready Life A good life is a ready life. You must always be ready for the things in life that might happen to you so you know the situations you will face in the near future, and be able to plan your reaction to those situations, thus giving yourself the ability to handle the situation well. If you are caught unready by the situation, you would not know what to do and the consequences of each action you take, and therefore risk a lot to chance, which could easily lead to many undesirable scenarios afterwards.

A Simple Life A good life is a simple life. If there is a more practical approach to something, there would be no point going the complicated way and troubling yourself with all sorts of challenges or problems to take care of. By living a simple life, you take the easiest way to get to your goal, and of course, it would be more straightforward, which makes it easier to manage. Unnecessary complexity is something useless, as all it does is give you a lot of things to take care of, unless there is something to gain by taking the extra complications. Simplicity could give you a lot of things in life. First and most obviously, it could take out the problems you face and not create new ones. It could also give you something that not many people have: ease of living. When you have a simple life, you could live easily and there would not be any troubles to try stop you. No complications, all you do is what you need to do to stay alive and have a good life; nothing much more than that. It also makes your life more organized, not directly, but by reducing the things you need to organize so you have less to worry about. To have a simple life, you must eliminate all the unnecessary things in your life and things you know will be useless in your life. Throw away the problems and anything that troubles you for the worse, and always take the simple solution out of any problem. Make it practical and straightforward, and make sure you do not make it complicated for yourself. In other words, don’t make problems for yourself to solve, and just do what you need to stay out of trouble and consequences, and little more than that.

A Changing and Innovative Life
A good life is a changing and innovative life, where you go and discover new things, learn more than ever, improve as though there’s nothing else to do, and enjoy like never before. It is a life with no repetitions, and a life you want to get out of your regular comfort zone to try things that you’ve never done before. To just repeat what you have been doing is exactly like watching a movie a million times when you know exactly how it will end. Get brave and try a change, because you don’t know how it will end. Remember the saying, “Life’s destination is the journey itself.”? Well, if you just repeat all the same things over and over again without trying new things, then ‘the journey’ will be just that, and therefore your life’s ‘destination’, or let’s say ‘purpose’, is practically nonexistent. To make life worth living, you’ll need to try out new things and see all you can, and experience as many things as possible, while trying to improve yourself, and everything you go through. This IS life’s journey: going through many things and improving everything to what you know is better. Improvement is a change, so practically change is one of the main things the process of life is about. Going with the ‘movie’ term, instead of watching a movie a million times, you’re better off with watching a million different movies and make suggestions on how each of them can improve. Through that, you’ve probably learnt a few things from every story’s morals, so you as a human being have already improved. Maybe by writing this I have changed your mind on what a good life is and improved your perception. Instead of re-typing this article, for example, I’m going to try something new: write another article on a completely different topic. Now, that’s a change, instead of wasting my time re-typing this a million times.

A Thoughtful Life A good life is a thoughtful life. All those things that happen or are there usually mean a bigger thing. In other words, all the small things in your life are there to lead to something bigger in your life. Sometimes, the meanings of everything are hidden, and the best things in the world are in your mind. So think and consider about your life, think and know what things in your life can mean or lead to, and make sure you know enough about your life so you can live it well, trouble-free.

A Controllable Life A good life is a life you can control. Of course, there are times in your life when you know it’s bad to do something, but you can’t resist to do it for a reason that you are not conscious of. These have bad influences for you, and have to be minimized. Maybe you’re addicted to a specific game and forget working. Maybe you are so angry to a person that you unleash your rage even if you don’t want to. You are the controller of your own body, so you should control it and use it for good reasons and make it a good thing. If you can’t control yourself, no one could control you and you might become very bad if it’s being let like that. How to achieve: Make a list of things you can’t control, and remind yourself once you start to do it. One of the ways are practice, you make scenarios and see how you react when it goes to a bigger scale. Try to make it bigger and bigger and you will control yourself well by that time. It takes effort, time, and sometimes a lot of people, but I am quite sure that it could work well and let you take full control of yourself whenever you need to. Isn’t the effort and time worth sacrificing for control? Of course! A Natural Life
A good life is a life that copes with nature. Most people in this modern era are too busy with themselves, machines, and other things that has become very common in the human civilization. Therefore, they forget nature, and other things God has given them. We must be able to take care of the world, and not destroy plants, animals, and other things we should not be using for our own comfort. We should think multi-perspective and not only from our point of view. We should know nature and how to cope with it well, because it is the only thing that has been there without any human forces. How to achieve: Once in a while, go on a small trip to parks, farms, or even forests and jungles. Visit zoos and natural habitats so that you, at least, know about it. Better yet, go on camps and see how things go without electricity, so you know how to survive without the convenient tools most people have gotten used to. Learn about their situation and what has been happening to them as a result of people’s want of a more comfortable life, and what should be done. Know what might happen, and think what you would do. The most important thing, before you do big things about it, though, is simply to know all about it and not get too used to the technology we have today: computers, TV, phones, and other things. If possible, you should also get to know people around you, who will probably help you in parts of your life.

An Improving Life
Over time, in a good life you must be able to improve and become a better person than you were some time ago. The experiences you have gone through would have taught you lessons that made you become a better person. Need proof? Imagine yourself when you were 3 years old. Do you think you could have done the tasks you usually do nowadays with the skills and maturity you had when you were 3 years old? Probably not. You have learnt lessons and how you could improve, maybe unconsciously, that led to who you are today. That's a huge improvement. So, keep improving everyday and become a better person for yourself and the society.

A Scheduled Life A good life is a scheduled life. If you have all your activities in order, you can simply follow it as a direction without being confused of your time management or activities. With a schedule you also have a balanced life consisting of work, eat, play, and other routines you may have. Schedules help in case you have too many activities to do in a short period of time, where you have to do them all, or in case you have too little activities, in which you’ll be able to relax a bit, but you’re not the kind of person to. I recommend at least 4 hours of work, 8 hours of sleep, 30 minutes of studying (if you’re a student) and 50 minutes of fun time each day. If you’ve got it all in order, then it’s a reasonable step to a good life.
How to achieve: Of course, you will have to make a list of activities and how much of each you need to make a good schedule. Then, arrange it in a way so it will make a good timetable you can follow well. Try for a few days; if it does not work well, you’d better change it. The purpose of the schedule is so you know how to live your life well. Plus, you learn to do a bit of self- control, which is among the most important skills in life. The key to be able to do this is to take risks and see how each schedule works for you; then work on the mistakes. Easy, right? Although it takes time, it will be worth it.
A Purposed Life A good life is a purposed life. Ask yourself: What do you want from life? What is the purpose of your life? What do you want to do? This would be the ultimate goal of your life and a guide for you to achieve this goal. What are you most talented at, and what do you want to leave to the world? In times you feel you need an activity, you can simply try to take steps closer to the goal of your life. This would keep you motivated to live on, and reach the goal as soon as you can. If you have a purpose that you want to reach in your life, that’s another big step for a good life. How to achieve: Think about what you could do and what you want to do, and think of the best thing that you want in your life that is realistic for you. Be sure that it is good for the world and you could do it, and it doesn’t cause badness to more people than it gives good to. Try to make the world a better place to live by using what you have inside: your talents, intelligence, or anything you could do. You would have to be motivated to do this, or you would not want to do this when better activities occur. Then, put your effort onto that purpose. Personally, making this is part of the purpose of my life.

A Problem-Free Life
A good life is a problem-free life. Do not make any problems with people around you, and make peace with them. Make friends instead of enemies, and solve any problems- if you have them- as soon as possible, even small ones, as tiny bits lead to a gigantic problem when time comes. Don’t make anyone feel like harming you, and do what you are supposed to do very well. Try your very best in every activity that you do and have someone you can trust if you have a problem in any time. Well, it is practically almost impossible to have a completely problem-free life, but you could minimize the problems as much as possible. How to achieve: This part is one of the most simple things you could achieve. Basically, all you should do is be good and friendly to everyone you know and give them no reason to harm or make problems of any kind with you. If you do get a problem although you don’t mean to, ask someone to judge it or get rid of the problem as soon as it is possible. Give all your efforts on solving the problem without causing more problems; then a good life will come to you if you do not have a lot of problems in your life to prevent you from being happy and getting a good life.

An Enjoyable Life A good life is life you enjoy. You don’t necessarily need all those excessive amount of work or study when you know it isn’t needed. Enjoy your life, and fill it with fun by playing, chatting, or any other activity you enjoy doing in your spare time. Find your hobbies and interests, it’s a lot easier to fill your time if you know and you are conscious of what you want to do when you’ve got the time. Even if what you enjoy is working, there must be a specific, fun type of work that you enjoy doing most, and go do it with the materials you have in your daily life. If you enjoy life, it feels good and you want to get more of life, right? How to achieve: Find out what you like to do and you enjoy and set your schedule with the things you have to do. On a specific time of each day, find some time, at least 40 minutes, to do things that you enjoy, because as human beings you need to be balanced. Do things you enjoy to get relaxed and release the stress you gain everyday so there is something you look forward to everyday and, that way, you will not be too concerned about the negative circumstances you experience in your work, school, or other daily activities that you do. Things you do should be related to what you enjoy, and that varies between people, so I could not suggest. Make sure anything you doesn’t harm anyone around you.

An Organized Life A good life is an organized life. If you know you need or want to do something, prepare in advance, and do your tasks that you need to do before you relax so you can release the stress of making your tasks. Doing tasks on time is also important so that you do not forget the things that you are required to do. You can do it well before you do any other activities that you do for fun or to simply fill your time. If you know you need to be better in something, I highly recommend training until you are satisfied with yourself before having fun and enjoying yourself. If you’re organized, life is a lot easier to go through.

A Worldly Life A good life is a life that copes with the world’s change. See technology, the world’s population and growth by knowledge? The world changes, to the more comfortable and better from most perspectives, and you could not- and must not- stay to live the same way and neglecting the significant changes that applies all over the world. If you have time and interests, you should even try to understand it and make inputs. Again, enjoy life! Technology and the new things invented by humans on earth develop quickly, so you should keep up with the modern age and discoveries, inventions, of the current age. There will be no stop to this in a considerable amount of time, so get used to it and don’t get stuck in the old ages even if you have grown in those ages. The past has passed, and the present and future is all you should worry about. How to achieve: Search the internet for news on things that are happening nowadays even if you keep them as nothing more than potential knowledge. Day to day, write what you do and what things around you seem to change, and things that are new to you. Track the growth of the world, probably once in 2 or 3 months, so that you don’t get too surprised if you see something new. Also, if you could, use them regularly- on a weekly basis for entertainment or additional resources but not too often, because most of them have bad things that might happen if you use them too much and more than you are supposed to.

A Heavenly Life
My Message A good life is a life that copes with heaven and beliefs. There is no scientific evidence of what happens after death, but the beliefs the world has today are most likely true with each of their happenings. This is, probably, the truth, and since it always is a good idea to keep looking to the far future, you should believe in these beliefs that talks of your afterlife, eternity, creation, and other things that even the best of the world could not prove. This is a very important thing for most people in the world, and I highly recommend that you should be one of those ‘most people’. Take the one you accept most or take the one you have from birth; that is basically the easiest way to find the religion you will accept for the rest of your life. Each has a set of rules that should suit you best, and is related to the purpose of your life. First off, we welcome suggestions or comments about this guide and others at : We hope this guide has helped you in some way. Enjoy our other guides:

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This is, probably, the truth, and since it always is a good idea to keep looking to the far future, you should believe in these beliefs that talks of your afterlife, eternity, creation, and other things that even the best of the world could not prove. This is a very important thing for most people in the world, and I highly recommend that you should be one of those ‘most people’. Take the one you accept most or take the one you have from birth; that is basically the easiest way to find the religion you will accept for the rest of your life. Each has a set of rules that should suit you best, and is related to the purpose of your life.

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Parts of Friendship
January 2012
Final Edition

This is about the times you go through in many friendships that you encounter in life. Enjoy! 1

When you are in a disagreement, When you are in a disagreement, you and your friend have two different perspectives on a matter and do not agree with each other' opinions. It would be normal in these times that you might be apart from each other or even fight, especially when whatever you have a disagreement about is big and/ or important. Disagreements are one of the most common starts of the problems in the world- big or small, so it is absolutely essential for you and your friend(s) to talk on a mutual agreement by discussing the matter before it becomes a big problem that could involve many people and impact them negatively.

When you let your friend win in an argument or fight When you let your friend win in an argument or fight, you value your friendship more than the will to win against your friend and your ego. You do not want to create further conflict between you and your friend than you already have, so you purposely lose out and let them win, both to stop the conflict between you and to make your friend feel satisfied and happy. You do not feel necessary to continue the argument and know that it is not worth fighting for, so you back off and take no further actions to defend your opinion. SOMETIMES, though, when the heat of your argument comes off, you might want to discuss about it nicely with your friend to clarify things with them. In these times, you are the one who takes the more mature action compared to your friend(s), and you would rather lose the argument than lose the precious friendship you are in. Although you have a feeling, however small, of disappointment that your friend didn’t listen to your opinions, you are still relieved that the fight that could have ended your whole friendship is now over. Congratulations, you know your priorities well. You know what’s important and what’s not. You made the right decision, as no argument is worth winning as much as a friend is worth. The fact that you still need to defend what you know is right still stands, however, and if losing the argument means letting your friend stray in the wrong direction, you must not let it happen. No matter what happens, you must still do what’s good for you and others, and while letting others win is sometimes a method to do that, there are also times in which the opposite action is required. Think before you act.

When you’re joking with your friend When you're joking with your friend, you are having fun with your friend verbally, through the words you say to each other that triggers laughs and happiness. Jokes could be plain funny lines, talks, or even some light insults. However, you should know your friend well before joking, as jokes that go too far could become seriously insulting and become a problem. It could be one of the best ways to have fun with are friend(s), but the fun could also go too far and create a problem. Unless you know your friend really well, be careful.

"Some friends are those without whom you are better living" When you want your friend out of your life, as they do actions that badly influence you or do unwanted things to you, you do not want their existence to have any further effect to your life. This could be, but not necessarily, followed by actions that is a form of your effort to get rid of them. The cause of this, however, is variable:  You could have a problem with your friend and you are trying to make life harder for each other. Maybe you had a disagreement or fight, and they are trying to make trouble for you. This could be quite something to handle, so you just want to get rid of them. You do not feel comfortable around them, and part of what they like to do is something you don't. Therefore, you know that a problem will arise between you as you are SO different, and try to get your friend out of your life before it does arise. The behaviour or personality of that person isn't what you would like yourself to be, and your friendship could gradually make you become. They might be nice to you and they did nothing wrong to you, but you know that they aren't good and you do not want to be like them, and cutting off the relation between you will delete all possibilities that you might.

There are also other causes, but in all of these causes, you do not like something about them and wish to avoid the problems that might arise. In the second and third causes, though, it could help if you tried to endure it and see, and be there for your friend, trying to help them to the best of your abilities, before deciding that you are a lot better off without them. When this happens, though, try to take it easy on them, and in a manner so that they don't really feel your dislike for them. Take it slow, and don't give them a hard time even if they do to you. Unless, of course, you just can't stand it anymore.

When you help When you help, you care about your friend that you would willingly give some effort and time to aid or assist them in a time when your help can be needed or wanted. At most times, the help you give is by your greatest effort as, when they succeed, you also feel very happy for them. Some people do not expect anything in return for their help, while others 'demand' to have their favor paid back by their friends at some other point in return for what they have done for their friends so that they are 'even'. Regardless, this is a time when you do not think about yourself, but the one you care most about would be the friend you are helping.

When you make new friends When you make new friends, you meet some people whom you are not familiar with before you saw them, communicated with them and, therefore, recognize. After the quick process of knowing and identifying each other, a closer relationship might come up since, after that, you might go through a series of events or activities together, knowing and trusting each other more and more in the process. This is the first step to gaining friends and being close to them as people who spend their time with each other, even if, some will not develop into closer relationships as you don't know and rarely see the other. When you face a problem together
When you face a problem together, you and your friend(s) was involved in a problem together and you try to face and eliminate the problem that would have given bad influence to all of you should you not try to prevent it. Your combined ability and intelligence to do the right thing is often better than individuals', so it is good to have someone with you, and it is of the very same reason that it would be less likely for groups of more people to fail when compared to individuals or smaller groups of people.

When you work together When you work and accomplish something together, you cooperate with your friend(s) to complete a task that must or should be done, either to avoid something bad or making something good. The effort you give, while making you tired and frustrated at some times, is, as always, worth it to give for the rewards that comes after you succeed, although, with your friends, you can easily enjoy it as an experience to remember with your friends. After you succeed, it will be enjoyable and 'easy' for you, and your friends could only make your job easier.

When you enjoy being together When you enjoy being together, either because you are doing something fun and enjoyable or simply because you can be with each other, talking, sharing ideas and getting to know each other better. When it is the latter, the presence of your friend(s) takes away the boredom or sorrow you might have had should you have been alone, as doing activities together, especially with someone you know well, could easily let you take your mind off some subjects you might not wish to have in your mind at that time.

When you improve each other When you improve each other, in any way, regardless of whether or not it is direct, your influence to your friend, either verbally, visually, or other means. Both of you become a better person, but that does not determine in which areawill, ability, personality, et cetera (which you actually could not determine in almost any way). At most of these times, you do not realize that your friend has changed to the better because of you, and neither will either of you realize when you become better because of them until a (much) later date. However, when you influence your friends or vice versa, it is not always good.

When you influence each other badly When you influence each other badly, it is more than likely that you do not realize what has been a result of what has happened, like you do when the influence is good. In some forms, such as abuse and bullying, it becomes very clear that it would be better if you are separated, while in other cases, it takes great brainpower and time to know that their influence on you or your friends is bad. This, however, can be changed with some actions that might change a certain behavior or habit one of you have had, eliminating the bad influence you have on each other. When you make a long-distance relationship
When you make a long-distance relationship, while you might physically be far from each other, you keep in touch with each other and still communicate, and thus keeping the relation you have built for a long time. Indeed, you spend less time together and are not as close as you used to be, but long-ranged relationships are one of the best solutions if you live apart and yet do not wish to end your friendship. It might be difficult to do so, but it is getting easier as more mobile communication technology develops, so you can take advantage of technology to communicate with other people even if you are miles away. You might also occasionally meet each other and see them face to face, as it is more comfortable at times. `When you are betrayed When you are betrayed, the person who used to be your friend suddenly turns away and becomes your 'enemy', for a particular reason. You are, of course, surprised, and disappointed in them, as you believed they would always help you. There is no point, however, in trying to sort it out, in most occasions, because that would not be a good solution. Instead, avoid them and try to get over it, forgetting them in the process. If and when the extremely slim possibility of them being your friend again, watch out for them, but accept them as the friends they were before. There is no definite method of knowing whether or not your friends will betray you, but you should be ready for all possibilities.

When you are afar When you are far, either physically or emotionally, you might feel as though you trust your friend less and will not enjoy being with them as much, as you might not like them as much because of a conflict or simply because you spend less time together and find new friends to be with. This is a time to avoid, because friend you know longer would know you better and you are likely to have built a very deep and close relationship over time. If you are physically far, there are many forms of long-range communication that you can use to keep in touch and your relationship even if you are far away from them. If it is emotional, see the core of the reason you keep a distance and try to eliminate it.

When there is a conflict When there is a conflict among you, it would be abnormal if you do not have a feeling of anger, disappointment, or hatred on your friend, regardless of whether or not they do too. You feel that it is better, at least for the time being, to keep a distance from them as to not worsen the conflict or create a new one. This is not an unwise action to take in the circumstances, but it would even be better if you eliminate the conflict you are facing. All those could only be done as far as to delay the problem, but you must not do it too long and wait too long as you might be unable to restore your friendship, which can only be done by stopping the conflict separating you.

When they leave you When they leave you, no matter whether they chose or had to, it is likely that you feel something significant is missing: your friends. Unless there is a conflict and you would have done the same, you regret that you can no longer be together and might feel sad for quite some time. You used to be together a lot that it is difficult to forget and not to remember their absence all the time. It improves, however, over time, as you slowly get used to it, or make new friends that just might partially replace their presence around you. After long periods of time, in which the wisest action would be distracting yourself with other friends or busy activities, you will naturally take your mind off them. When you trust each other When you trust each other, you believe that your friend could do what you expect them to and you trust that they will not do otherwise unless they had to. You also know that they know the appropriate thing to do and the fact that they have good impact on your life. You feel and think, rightly at most occasions, that you know them well enough to trust them with deeper and more personal things about you. These times take a long time to come, as people do not trust others lightly, especially about personal matters, and only happens after they have 'proven themselves trustworthy', which makes great sense, seeing as to trust unreliable people would be giving yourself tremendous risk that would be unnecessary. When you separate temporarily

When you know you can count on them

When you know you can count on them, you trust their ability and their will to help you in ways in which they could. You believe that they can live up to your expectations of what you want them to do. This only happens if you have known each other for quite some time and believe that they are good for you, as they have, in some point, proven themselves for you. When this comes, it is more than possible that they also trust you and know you would help them when they need When you separate temporarily, you will not be together with your friends for a certain amount of time, but are likely to meet and be together again in some point in you. This also leads to the closest friendships and the the future. While you might feel lonely at the time in which you are apart, you look least problematic forward for the day you could meet them again. It is almost certain that you do not relationship, wherever regret this as much as you would have if you are not to see each other again. You and whenever, if still keep in touch and care for them as they will remain to be a friend and a part of continued properly. your life in the future, a person who could determine how a few moments are going to be for you. When they come back, however, you might not be as close as you used to, despite the fact that your friendship is likely to grow again.

When you’re there for each other When you know each other well When you're there for each other, you have, and will remain to be, ready to help your friend(s) whenever they need your assistance to do something you could do better than them. So are they, ready as ever to help you when you need them in something. You care for each other so much as to make each other's safety and comfort a great priority. Both of you are convinced that you can trust each other in whatever you do and will always help each other whenever and in whichever way is best. Even if you are far away from each other or are unsure of what to do, you do your very best to help them with what you think is good. Keep this precious friendship, as you may need it in the future. When you know each other well, after a long time of being together, you can understand each other very well and know them both from the outside and the inside. This is also a time when you would already have trusted each other very greatly in a lot of the things that you do. You understand their intentions in the actions they take and the reason behind their every move and believe in each other. This represents a very close friendship, so it is of great importance that you keep it well no matter what, as it would be difficult to know friends so deep.

When it is complicated When it is complicated, you could hardly describe in words what has been happening among you, since the situation is complex and indescribable, involving many things. In these times, not only are you unable to describe what has happened, but also having the inability to react as well as you normally would, as you do not understand what the best action is to do at that time. This often leads to the making of mistakes, so it would be reasonable, in times like this, to focus pondering the situation through calmly so you know what it is like and what to do, as to do the best that you can without being careless.

When you slowly pull away When you slowly pull away, you start to avoid them more and more, bit by bit, over time, making sure that they do not see you avoiding them, either because they can hurt you badly if they know, or they will be heartbroken and really sad, and you do not wish that to happen as you still care (at least a little) for them. This is a kind way to 'escape' from the bad influences that they pose, as it does no harm to them, and while this does not improve them into a better person, it is arguably very peaceful and is unlikely to create further conflict between you two. When you feel no need to avoid them, however, it will never do any good to you to avoid them in any way for no reason.

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When you know each other well, after a long time of being together, you can understand each other very well and know them both from the outside and the inside. This is also a time when you would already have trusted each other very greatly in a lot of the things that you do. You understand their intentions in the actions they take and the reason behind their every move and believe in each other. This represents a very close friendship, so it is of great importance that you keep it well no matter what, as it would be difficult to know friends so deep.

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manner, and not in a way that would make you enemies, so that it would not still be something you have to worry about after it ends, as your friend would understand your actions. However, you might feel guilt to your friend in addition to the relief you received as an effect of cutting the friendship. It is your choice whether or not it will be worth it.


Essential Factors of Life
January 2012
Final Edition

This guide is all about the things that you need in life. Hope you find it useful.

Consistency Consistency is the ability to be in top form over a long period of time. It is the ability to do your best most of the time in your routines and not suddenly lose your ability without reason. An example: a football team wins 2 of 3 games. The first two were won with a huge margin, but so was the loss. Meanwhile, another team won all of its games with a margin of just one point. Arguably, the first team is better, but it was unable to be consistent enough to bring their top form to all their games, which makes the second team more consistent overall. Consistency is gained through practice. When you have done it more and got used to doing it, you will generally get better, but also more consistent, as you have done a lot of it. After a while, there will not be any dips in form, as you have known exactly what to do and eliminated moat, if not all, of the mistakes that makes you inconsistent. It could also be thought of as how reliable you are to always deliver your best. To do this, you must make sure that your performance is not like a roller coaster: going up and down.

Change Change is the transition between one condition of something into another. It is what prevents everything from staying as what it is, and is in every single process we see: change in position, speed, type, color, thinking, anything. Anything is change, but the changes we notice are usually those that are big and happen quickly enough for us to take note of. You might, for example, easily notice if a day is ten degrees hotter than the day before, while a slight increase of half a degree a week is an example of a change you might not notice of. The most important part of change is improvement, as it is the only change that gives positive impact to all the times after it. Improvement, along with time, is able to turn bad things good- if it was attempted seriously. On the other hand, negative change also exists, and it could make you- or anything- bad. Of course, like improvement, it needs time and effort to be successfully done. Change is a very important and essential factor of life, and that is highly dependent on the fact that without change, nothing will ever happen in life.

For me, I must be consistent to deliver and write useful things for you in this guide and others in General Guides to Life for you to learn However, that does not mean you should just accept all the change more and improve your lives through the extra knowledge you gained around you. While you should obviously boost your improvements, be alert that there is also negative change, and be ready to 'shoo it off' from me. What about you? Keep it up, stay consistent! when it comes to you, as the moment you are affected by negative change, you are risking a lot of things on the line.

Balance Balance is the optimal combination of two or more components of something that makes the best outcome and/ or results. It is how things combine and join together to form something bigger and more than them all and it is also how much of each thing is required in life to make it the best it could possibly be. For example, you might do work for an hour then sleep for 23 hours a day. Both activities are good to do and give you positive impact, but they are not in the right balance to create the optimal outcome. As a result, the excessive sleeping lessens the time with which you could have done things a lot more useful. When your life is not balanced, you could lean too much on a side and forget everything of the other, leaving you clueless when you need something from the side you forget. Maybe, in your free time you always mingle with your family. As a result, you would have very strong bonds between your family and you, but you will not be able to know the enjoyments of having good friends you can have fun with. Or you try to focus on your business or school so much that you push yourself past its limits, only to not have enough rest and end up sick.

Effort Effort is the amount of work, energy, and time you are willing to put into an activity that you do. It is how much of your abilities you want to use and how hard you want to try to fulfill or succeed in something. Effort is one of the most important things in life, seeing as, without it all your potential and what you could have done would have gone to be wasted. For example, you could easily have put in all your efforts into a race and won, but without effort, you wouldn’t have put your best in anything you do. The enthusiasm and will to do the best you possibly can is what drives effort to its peak and makes you put all your efforts into an activity.

Natural motivation is one of the main factors in giving all your effort, as it is that motivation that makes you willing to do the best, and therefore try to give all your effort. The lack of motivation will also diminish the amount of work and effort you will be willing to put into what you do, since you are not completely determined to completely do all your very best. Take it this way: remember the story of the tortoise and the hare? Naturally, the hare had more potential and ability to win the race, but he did not want to put a lot of effort in it, The benefits of having the optimal balance in your life are endless. so he slept. The tortoise tried nothing but his very best and put You will be able to enjoy the best in life and not miss out on any everything he had into the race and finally won. chances you could have without the balance. This balance, however, could be of many things: a balance of the things you do: how much To do your best, full effort is always required. One of the most sleep, work, and play you have, a balance of your own wisdom, common ‘blockers’ of full effort, however, is laziness, which prevents intelligence, and physical abilities, and other things. The perfect you from working and doing what you could have done. Keep your balance for people are different from one to another, so it could only motivation up: that’s what the strong will to do things what put in you be up to you to find your own optimal balance. No one can help you for. In EVERY single thing, ALWAYS give your best. with that.

Vision Vision is the ability to mentally see your ambitions and what you would like the future to be, and the full effort to try and reach that ambition or goal. It is the realistic dreams that keep you going in life, and is what you take certain actions for. Your vision is a long term goal you intend to achieve in a certain period of time, and is something you are attempting to reach at the present time. Your vision could, but also might not, be a milestone to the ultimate purpose to your life, or even the purpose itself. Vision is an essential factor of life as they guide you through points in your life and gives you a clearer idea of what you should be doing. An example? A man creates a school, and he says, “I want this school to be able to guide kids in the city and get them ready for real life.” Then, the schools vision should be ‘a school with a suitable learning environment for kids and appropriate education’. This is a more realistic and concrete goal for the man, and is the target for now. When the school achieves it, it would be a good milestone and a great step forward to achieving their ultimate goal.

Self-management Self-management is the way you control and manage your time, your behavior, your actions, and basically everything about yourself, your mind, your heart, and your body. It is there in every action you take and your personality as a whole. Therefore, it could almost be said that how good your self-management is what determines who you are and what you behave like. A good self-management could completely make you wiser and more focused, more patient and become a better person in general. Unfortunately, not many people have good self management skills, if any at all.

The key to a good self management is the ability to realize what's good and bad, and self- control, in a way so that your mind with common sense of what you know, is fully the one controlling what you do. You must let what you know is good, control you completely. It takes practice and time, so there is no instant method to have a good self-management. Over time, you will continue to improve your self-management skills, even if you don't realize it. Your ability to stop your first reaction in its tracks and change it to a better reaction to whatever happens to you will become better and better, as time goes Without a good vision, you could just be stuck in your way to by. achieving your goal without breaking it down, and you could just be living blindly without any clear things that you want to be able to Two important aspects of self-management is holding yourself from achieve. A lot of people live without a vision, but they should. So, if doing a certain action and the management of the time you have. You you’re one of them, start making one right now! have to strengthen the side in you that does what you know is good to defeat the side that wants you to just have fun for yourself. Again, here, the only thing that makes it perfect is the combination of time and practice.

Trust Trust is the belief from one person to another that makes them believe that another person is able and will do what you want them to. It is something that builds up between them over time and not instantly, and is a very precious thing you need to have. It is what builds even the slightest commitment between two people, and is among the things that MUST NOT be lost, no matter what happens. It is something that must not be given away lightly, as trust that falls to the wrong person could end up as a disaster for you. A lot of problems start as trust that is not kept as it is supposed to, so make sure, before you trust someone, that the person you are about to trust is really able to keep that trust and not let you down, as failure to do this could lead to many unwanted, complicated problems between you and them. Trust, after all, is not something you should just give to people without consideration. It is something you give to a few people you know you can believe and count on doing the right thing. Trust is the abstract matter that makes people believe in the will and ability of each other. Pure trust is something rare and definitely not something to be taken for granted. Positive trust is one that is kept well over time, which would strengthen the bond between them and gives room for even more trust to come. Obviously, it is a very essential factor of life, as without trust, there would be no commitments on earth, which means that friendship and every relationship will go nowhere near as far as relationships nowadays. It is the very basic bond between humans that build those relationships, and without it the world will be nothing but hatred.

Purpose Purpose is the very reason you live and the goal you want to achieve in your life. It is the very core of why you are alive, and is the very essence of your life. Without a clear purpose, your whole life has gone to waste, and there is absolutely nothing you live for. In fact, this is the number one most essential factor of life: the reason you live. The purpose of your life is the centre of everything you do, and the rest of your life depends on it. Each and every activity you do is supposed to be a small step towards that ultimate purpose of your life. Without purpose, you lived for nothing, without any goals to achieve. Practically, you’re living blindly, and your life is completely useless. With purpose, you have one ultimate goal you want to achieve in life, one that you devote your whole life for and the one you want to complete some time in your life. Therefore, you have one thing to use as guidance, and everything you do; you try to do anything to take a step towards that ultimate goal. At least you know exactly the very thing you want in your life: the base of everything else. A purpose is the most important thing of your life, and there is practically nothing you can do without it. As soon as you can, if you haven’t already, decide on the ultimate purpose of your life and start working towards it. Remember, it’s never too soon to start it. If you start now, it’s already a good few steps towards it faster than if you start later. You don’t want to a life where you don’t know what to do, right? Make a purpose. Live for something. Make it count.

Determination Determination is the inner will from deep inside you that pushes you to keep trying to the best of your abilities even if you have failed a lot of times doing the same things in the past. It is the motivation you have in you to not give up on what you want to your limits and not losing the momentum of the effort you are willing to give onto your activities. Determination is also the little voice in you that keeps you going through life and always tries your best, no matter what the past or the odds tell you. Determination is a very essential factor of life seeing as most things in life are nothing you can get right the first time and it requires multiple trials to make it good, not to mention perfect. Without determination, you would have given up on most things you wanted, and the will to fight for what you want or need will be lost in the process of trying to get it. Failures, especially, discourage you to try doing it again, saying, You are not good enough.” However, the same failures are the things that should keep you going (ironically) seeing as they should make you tell yourself you could do better and give it another shot. Determination is something that could very easily be lost when you were so optimistic about something only to be disappointed later. The amount of pure genuine effort you are willing to give could also gradually decrease over time as you lose momentum and interest in them. One of the best ways to keep your determination on is by telling yourself you could do better and that there is a chance for you to succeed. Keep your positive attitude on for as long as you can, and your inner motivation and will should be able to make you put enough effort to succeed. You CAN succeed, it’s just a matter of whether or not you even try.

Wisdom Wisdom is the essence of life. It is the main factor in what you do, how you act, the decisions you make, and even who you are. It affects the quality of all your choices and the reasonability of your reactions to everything that happens to you in your life. Wisdom is something that you build up over time, not just in an instant, through your previous experiences, what you know, and your understanding of good and bad. Again, wisdom can only be obtained through experience. Without experience, you are unlikely to be able to understand many of the knowledge and ways of wise thinking that are used. As a matter of fact, it is your bad experiences and decisions that lead you to the lessons and conclusions that eventually become wisdom, which will, ironically, enable you to make better choices. Wisdom is the ability to make good choices, even if it is difficult, which could easily drastically change the course of your life in the future. Your every action, everything you do contains either wisdom or lack of it. As a very basic example, it would be wise to breathe, for otherwise a problem will occur. Similarly, it wouldn’t be good to throw away your $5000 gold watch in the river, for it would have gotten you something undesirable: a loss. Think about what you have done in the past. Your mistakes. They probably made you wish you could have done something different to change your situation, but in fact, they are what made you the person you are today, and for that reason, you should thank them instead. A part of wisdom is realizing that your past made you who you are, the present is the time available for you to use, and the future is something to look forward to and a chance to do even better. Wisdom comes along with time. It is the ordinary experiences you face in everyday life that build up slowly to hand you extraordinary lessons, which in turn make you wiser and wiser. This process does not stop. As a matter of fact, after reading this you become wiser, for you have learnt something new and learned about wisdom itself. There is no specific thing you should do to get wisdom other than seeking it, for it would simply come along naturally over time.

Communication Communication is the base of every relation between any living being to another, especially humans. It is how human beings understand each other: through one of its many forms. It is a thing without which there would not be any relationships at all between humans as though one does not understand anything at all about the other, as there would be zero interaction between one living thing and another. Basic forms of communication are very common in everyday life. These include talking, body language, writing, and all sorts of different things. These are ways that we express our experiences, opinions, and everything else so that other people could understand the message you are trying to deliver to them. Note that most forms of communication uses either the sense of sight or hearing, although in rare cases, feel, smell, and even taste could also be used. With the rise of recent technology, new forms of communication have been coming along. These forms of communication require the use of a device or machine, including text messaging, emails, voice mails, the Web, social networking sites, and phone calls. These forms of communication allow its users to communicate with each other in great distance in a very small amount of time. However, the necessity to use a device makes it less commonly used in short distances when compared to basic communication forms like speech and writing. Communication is part of many activities we do with many people, such as chatting with friends, sending an email to a colleague, posting a status message on Facebook, or talking to a family member. Seeing as communication is the base of every relationship, a life without communication could almost be perceived as a life without other people involved, which would indeed prove to be difficult and miserable. That’s how important communication is!

Action So let’s just say that you know everything in the world and you are the wisest person on earth, with knowledge of what’s good and what’s bad. Good? Yes, but not good enough. To truly use what you have, you must do an action with it: help others or yourself, using whatever you might have had. If you had a lot and kept it inside, without doing anything using it, you would have wasted your potential and your knowledge. There’s a lot of ways you could follow to use what you have.

For example, you could tell your knowledge to others so that they know about it, or use your talent to entertain others and help them become better. This also depends on the location or exact situation, as they could also very easily influence what you can do, either chances and opportunities or a block in your path. There are other ways too, so be creative in thinking and make sure you use the best of whatever you have to help make the world better, for you and everyone else.

Another thing: General Guides to Life is actually MY action to help you all to become better people. It is my method of helping others and spreading what I know to make the world better. Well, that’s just my action. What about yours? Think it well...

Perspective Perspective is a combination of what information a person knows that he or she gathers through one or more of their five senses (either directly or indirectly) and how they process in their brain into a more describable form. Some people are able to ‘alter’ their perspective into someone else’s by thinking of what they would do in their position, which is done by trying to think like the other person and trying to pretend to know only the information that the other person knows. This is the very start of understanding of one another and therefore sympathy between one person and another. Unfortunately, some- or most- people are not able to do this, although the ability tends to come to them as they gradually grow. Those who are unable to alter their perspective are often selfish and immature, and they are people who think of their happiness as their first and (in some cases) only priority. This makes them quite annoying and unwanted to most people, as they make life more difficult for people around them using their bad attitude. Arguably, they do not care about other people’s feelings and act as they wish. There is no way to immediately be able to alter your perspective and back again, as I have told you, the ability to do this comes with experience and age. However, trying to do this and caring about other people is a very significant step to doing so, and the ability will most likely come sooner rather than later. Even realizing is a pretty good step. Perspective is an essential factor of life, as without it, there would not be any understanding and care between one person with another. Then there wouldn’t be as much peace as there is today!

Ability Ability is the skill a person has to be able to complete a task or a series of activities and how well they are able to do it. In the society, it is what a person is able to do better than most other people, and in this case it becomes synonymous to 'strengths'. It is one of the most important things you must have as without it you would not be able to do anything. Note that ability is something unique from one individual to another as no individual has the exact same set of abilities found in another. This, however, is also accompanied by weaknesses, lack of ability to do something that prevents us from being perfect. However, weaknesses are also what prompts us to work together with each other and develop ourselves, helping each other to overcome their weaknesses. For example, you might teach the lame nerd how to socialize better with friends, or your colleague will help you to finish that marketing strategy report you have no idea about, in exchange for printing the book he wrote for him. By doing this, we are using our abilities to help others, and that's basically the main point of having your abilities. In fact, I am using my ability to realize this and write this to help you know about it. Your abilities are not there for nothing, so don't take them for granted and just throw it away. Instead, use them to help others. By now, you probably would have known what your abilities are, either you have discovered it or you were told frequently by those around you. There is absolutely no reason not to use them, as it would be a total waste of your abilities.

Perspective Perspective is a combination of what information a person knows that he or she gathers through one or more of their five senses (either directly or indirectly) and how they process in their brain into a more describable form. Some people are able to ‘alter’ their perspective into someone else’s by thinking of what they would do in their position, which is done by trying to think like the other person and trying to pretend to know only the information that the other person knows. This is the very start of understanding of one another and therefore sympathy between one person and another. Unfortunately, some- or most- people are not able to do this, although the ability tends to come to them as they gradually grow. Those who are unable to alter their perspective are often selfish and immature, and they are people who think of their happiness as their first and (in some cases) only priority. This makes them quite annoying and unwanted to most people, as they make life more difficult for people around them using their bad attitude. Arguably, they do not care about other people’s feelings and act as they wish. There is no way to immediately be able to alter your perspective and back again, as I have told you, the ability to do this comes with experience and age. However, trying to do this and caring about other people is a very significant step to doing so, and the ability will most likely come sooner rather than later. Even realizing is a pretty good step. Perspective is an essential factor of life, as without it, there would not be any understanding and care between one person with another. Then there wouldn’t be as much peace as there is today!

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Quotes for Everyone
January 2012
Final Edition

These are quotes.. Like other wisdom quotes out there, but original and new!

A good combination of work and fun is essential to any person- one of either won't do any good A thousand men with great arms can be easily beaten by one man with good brains. A waste could be useful in another time or place, and something precious could be easily disposable in another's hands Ability comes over time, but the will to do something does not come by itself. Adapt to the world, for it is where you will live your whole lifetime. Always attempt to improve: improve yourself, others, and your world. Always do your absolute best, for you do not know what it will lead to in the future. Always find out the truth about everything, but use the knowledge you have wisely. Always have hope, because it is where faith stands and effort starts. Always learn new things, but never forget old ones. Add new ones, but never subtract old ones. Always try your best to the very limit, for you don't know what you will get Be brave, and you can conquer people. Be wise, and you can conquer the world. Be careful about what you say, for they can be as soft as silk, but also as dangerous as a sword Be patient, and what you look for will come to you. Be tough. Do not let the world change you for the worse, no matter what. Be yourself, but do as you know is right, and never stop learning about everything. Believe it or not, those who intend to teach end up learning just as much as those who intend to study

Benchmarks and standards mean nothing. What's important is that you try your best in everything you do. Brains are more important than brawns, for the latter would be useless without the former. Change happens. Adjust and adapt quickly, or you will be left behind by the world. Deep down, you know exactly what you want, what you need, and why you did what you did. The only thing that must be done is discover. Different situations can mean different things to different people and be used in a way that is completely dissimilar way Disability to adapt will lead to loss or disadvantage, to both you and others around you. Disappointment comes from expectations, but so does success. Discover yourself, for there lies a world waiting for you, and only you, to discover. Disrespect to others will trigger their disrespect to you Do not be ashamed of your mistakes, for through them you have learnt to improve and become a better person. Do not ponder about your past, for there is nothing you can do to them. Look forward to the future instead. Do not take anything around you for granted, as they all will, one day, run out. Do not take what you have for granted, for you will be surprised at the exact process of every thing and every happening that you see, hear, and feel. Don't let the past blind you. For the present and the future will be different, as time does its job. Errors can always be fixed, but it will never be the same as before it was made. Even the best humans make flaws and mistakes that help them be who they are. Even the simplest of activities have complex processes behind them

Every day is a new beginning Every day is a new chapter, for the past is over and the future is yet to come. However, just like stories, all these days are connected and related. Every living being thinks and acts in their own ways. Chances are, you won't understand them. Everyone can do something, no matter how small or big they are. Everyone has a role in this world. Fulfill yours. Everyone in this world could do something, if they give effort to do so. Everyone is different, and who they are are unchangeable. Respect that. Everyone leaves a mark; it is your choice to leave either a good mark or a bad mark. Everyone should always try to innovate change and change innovations. Everything is nothing without great effort Everything you use that are good for nothing are wasted Exact standards of anything are NOT benchmarks of what you should achieve. Instead, try to get more. Examples are merely examples. Aim to be better, not to match. Expect the unexpected, because that is what happens many times in the game we call 'life'. Failure doesn't happen when you fail. It happens when you refuse to try again and give it another shot Feelings are abstract; not seen through the eyes but felt with the heart. Focus on what you are doing, for you will get the best possible result by doing so.

Friendship comes in different ways and are different themselves, and it always matters how you think of them and how you treat your friends. Get used to living the way you do now. For that is how you will live, in the present and the very near future. Give and you will be given, receive and you shall be received from. Go for what is worth your time and effort, and learn to let go what isn't. Goals and targets are what keep you away from simply trying indefinitely. Chase them, fulfil them, and suppress them. Growth and change are 2 unstoppable processes of nature Hard times await us. Be ready. Hope for the best but prepare for the worst, for hope exists in the darkest situations, and doom is ready to take over when you are weak. Improve, but never replace, for history will mark everything as significant In some cases, action is not necessary. In those times, all we should do is wait and see. Inside every person you see is a personality and thinking that you see in no other person, shaped by a unique story no one else has experienced. Inspiration can come from absolutely anywhere It is always crucial that you learn how to learn, for that is the core of everything else you learn. It is not uncommon when we have to make compromises for a benefit, but ask yourself this question: Is it worth the loss? It is wrong to overestimate anyone, but to underestimate them is an act that must never be done. Know who you are, for you will be yourself for the rest of your life. Knowledge on which time to act, stay, surrender, and start is an important addition.

Learn to let go, forgive, forget, and try, for you will not be able to do anything meaningful before you know how to do them Leave nothing to chance, for you must know exactly what is real and what is not, and what might happen and what might not. Lessons are always learnt in life, for you learn from every single experience you go through Life gives you lessons not even the best teachers could give Life goes on at a certain speed no matter what. Your job is to keep up with it. Life has many ways to teach us, but we could only do one useful thing to them: Learn. Life is able to make all sorts of different situations, for all sorts of different reasons, which we might not know about. But whatever situation you’re in, there’s always a meaning. Life without communication is like a book without words. Life without communication is similar to a car without tyres. Life without others is one that is wasted Life without purpose is like journey without destination: useless Life, when difficult, might go to your very limits as a human, but it will never exceed what you are capable of handling Life's destination is the journey itself Live life to its absolute limits, for that is what life is for. Look forward to the good, and prevent the bad. Plan the positive, and anticipate the negative. Lost things can be regained, but two things couldn't: time and chances Make the best of every situation, good or bad, for there is always something we can get.

Many things must be understood with our whole hearts, souls, and minds, for knowledge and intelligence alone is not enough. Maximise what you have to minimise what you don't. Never act blindly, for what you think is right might not be right, and what you think is wrong might not be wrong. Never be afraid to face the truth, for that is what’s real and to not know is purely your loss. Never complain. If you are not happy of where you are, work to improve it. Talking won’t help. Never do anything without reason, for that would be a total waste of precious time. Never exceed limits you know should not be passed, and stay under rules you know should not be violated. Never give up on your deepest wish, for all you have done will eventually pay themselves off Never judge something before you know its story Never lose control of your thoughts, feelings, and actions, for they are the core of who you are. Never underestimate anyone and anything, for you might not know their true value. Never waste time; it is the most precious thing you are given. Use it well. New hope, chances, and paths come to you when you look for them. No human will be able to do everything by themselves, but together, we can all do many more things No matter how bad it might be, every moment is a chance to either learn more or enjoy. Even better, maybe both! No matter how much you know them or how much they have told you, the exact feelings of a person would not be understood by someone who sees it from a completely different perspective. No matter how smart or wise we are, we could still make mistakes. No matter how bad we are, we could still do good.

No matter what, to be comfortable is one of, if not the, most important factor to everything you do. No one is perfect, and all you can do to that fact is accept it. No prediction is more accurate than experiencing the real situation. What you think will happen might just be replaced by something elsegood or bad No reality is fantasy, but every fantasy could be reality No time is ever 'wasted'. For you live another second, add another experience, and the world undergoes a change. Not all lessons are good for everyone, since we are all different as people. Not everyone knows what exactly they're doing, but almost everyone think they do. Nothing and nobody can ever be completely worthless. There is always a role they play, although some are bigger than others. Nothing is better than doing what you know is right and avoiding what you know is wrong Nothing is meaningless, but the meaning that they leave might both be good or bad Nothing is perfect, so appreciate what you have, get used to it, and IMPROVE it Nothing lasts forever, so be ready just in case life demands you to let go of something. Nothing should block your way to any good goal you are trying to go for Nothing, ever, is meaningless Numbers are just a measure and words are just a description, so don’t rely too much on them. Often, both the best and worst things that happen in life are unexpected. Be ready. Expect the unexpected. Originality is the core of innovation and change

Over time, good activities turn into good habits, good deeds, and good routines. Partial focus will never give you the best result that you could have had when you give it everything you have. Patience is where you find the greatest rewards of life coming to you Physical conditions go up and down, but your mental condition must not go down. Proper timing to every action and activity you do is the key to make them work well. Pushing beyond your limits could only hurt you and not do any good. Real happiness could never be found in a life where you pretend, for a fake life only gives fake happiness Realize the value of the people around you now instead of later, when they leave Rise, but don't step down. Raise, but don't decrease. Try, but don't give up. Satisfaction and improvement are two things that do not go well with each other. Self control is the main ingredient to making great success Some things about you are unknown, even to yourself. Some things about others are also unknown, even to themselves. This is natural. Sometimes, physical limitations make some activities seem impossible to do. Sometimes, small things can be very meaningful, both in a good way and a bad way, and big things could mean nothing at all. Sometimes, we all need a break from everything happening around us. That's normal. Sooner or later, you know there are some challenging things you will have to face. Start something as fast as possible, and to a lesser extent, end it before it is too late.

Stay calm in every situation, for you will always be able to focus and do better that way, even if it is difficult. Success is always gotten by those who try to seek it. Surprises always await us in life. All we can do is be prepared. Take good advantage of all around you. Take life as simple as you can, do not go for unnecessary hassles. Take something good of whatever situation you have been in, no matter how bad it is. Take the risks worth taking, and ignore the risks that isn't, and you will not regret what you have done. The best feelings in life are indescribable, and are not felt through your senses, but through your heart. The best mistakes are those that you avoid. The calmest and most innocent could easily become the deadliest weapons, so always watch out. The content of every thing is more important than any other thing about it. The content of everything is not revealed, seek it yourself and you will find the truth; the good and the bad The core of every good decision is a logical mind. The first thing we must know how to control is the whole of our bodies, brains, and hearts. The greatest brains might not be able to understand certain feelings, but the heart will always be able to feel them The harder it is to accomplish something, the greater the rewards when you succeed The key to improvement is change, the key to change is innovation, and the key to innovation is knowledge.

The most valuable resource in the world is an extremely non renewable object called time The only authority taken from you would be the authority to do what's wrong. The only person who could truly bring you down is yourself. The only thing you can’t change is change itself. The process of any activity is always more important than the result. The process of everything is just as important as the result, if not even more. The simplest things and activities are often the most significant. The simplest way may be the best, and what takes a lot of effort might not be good The smallest things could become the most meaningful, given the circumstances. The speed in which you adapt must beat the speed in which your surroundings change. The speed in which you do things is important, but even more so is the quality and accuracy. The speed of something is useless when it is not reliable The start of the process is the second-most important stage of all. The only one more important than that is the end. The times when you seem unproductive do not essentially mean that it is wasted. In fact, they could be the most important times of your lives. The value of a person is not determined by his fame or his wealth, but how much he means for others and the good influence he had brought to them. The value of something depends and is different from a person to another. The way we think, act, and speak, changes as we grow, although you might not notice it.

The will to do something is much more important than the ability to do so. The world has already provided us with everything we need. All we have to do is find them and use them. The world is always balanced: something is never purely good, but there will never be a purely bad thing in life. The world never stops changing. Therefore, neither should we. There are always things beyond our capabilities, places beyond our reach, and mysteries beyond our knowledge. There are always things you have yet to know, so don't stop trying your best to keep being eager to learn and know more than ever. There are always times when no one seems to understand, but go your way and be yourself, and they will be through There are good times and bad times in the past, but it all remains in our head, along with the choice of what to do with those memories There are never limits you cannot pass, but there are those difficult to pass. There are some hard times in which we have to let go. There are things that are supposed to be forgotten and those that stay as memories. Don't mix them up. There are times we should follow the flow of life, and times when we must fight against it for ourselves There are times when it is best to stay and wait for the best time to act. There are times when we want to be good, but also end up being TOO good that many other things are sacrificed. There are two sides of everything: the good and the bad. Before you decide, make sure the good overshadow the bad. There is a person behind every action and a story behind every person that makes them who they are. There is a solution to every problem, but a problem after every solution. It goes on and on and on.

There is a very thin line that lies between bravery and foolishness. Never cross it. There is always something useful to learn or do in any given time There is no pain harder to swallow than the pain of lost hope There is no standard for people; just be the best you can be and ignore what others think about you. There is nothing to be gotten from revenge, but there is something from forgiveness: peace. There will be a place and time for everything, so don't be disappointed if it's not here and now There will be no time like now, so use it wisely There’s no better time to start what you want to do than right now There's a good and a bad in everything we do, but we can always make the most of every single thing we face. There's a reason for even the most indescribable things that happen in life. There's always chance and hope no matter what. All you need to do is find and use them There's always more to everything than meets the eye There's always something hidden in every person and every thing Things don't always go the way you wanted them to. But remember, there's a chance that it might end up better than you expect. Think beyond the norm, and your rewards could be beyond the expectations. Through time, people mature, things age, memories go, the world changes. Keep up. Time can get even the most drastic and biggest change to take place.

Time could not be created or deleted, it could only be used wisely or wasted. Time is what you go through over the duration of your whole life, while space is what you overcome with time. Timing. That's the key to everything that happens around us and what we do. To know someone well, you must understand why they do what they do and how they became who they are. To know without acting is useless. To act without knowing is even worse. To learn requires time. Some just require more time than others. To not know the difference between what you need and what you want is a big mistake in life To the closed heart, all the guidance in the world would not mean a single thing. To understand a person, you must be able to change your perspective into theirs. To win the game called 'Life', you must balance every factor of it. Together, we all can do something. Things that are impossible to do by yourself. Treat others as you treat yourself, for it will be vice versa for other people. Trust comes with responsibility. If you can't handle it, you don't deserve to be trusted. Trust could not be received so lightly, so do not grant it so lightly; the person you trusted might not need to know, and you might expect too high. Trust does not come easily, so when it does, keep it and take good care of it. Walk the walk before you talk the talk We all have what we need to start off. A great mind, a kind heart, and lots of time to use in our lives.

What brings you disaster might just be luck to other people What happens now is no coincidence and is meant to happen. Make the most of it. What is good for you might not be as good for other people, so think about it twice. What we have doesn't matter. What does is the way we use what we have. What we see might be an illusion. Learn to sense past what you see and hear. What will happen in the future is a mystery to us no matter what, so live today and don't bother too much about tomorrow. What you do is a part of who you are, so always keep that under control. What you experience can come and go, but what you learned as a result should only stay, not go. What's done has been done. There's nothing else you can do to change the past. When a challenge comes, instead of hiding, come to it as a chance to discover, learn, and experience. When concentrated, all the power from your body, your soul, and your mind unite and lets you do all you could possibly do When encountering something pointless, do not waste your precious time and energy, for you will need them for something more important When in doubt, everything around you becomes unclear-even those that would have been obvious. When old hope fades, new hope is always there, waiting for you to find it. When someone needs you, it is almost a moral obligation for you to be there for them unless something is becoming a serious obstacle. When something changes, do not regard it as the end of something good, but instead, the start of something even better. When something comes to you, either abstract or concrete, know what will happen if you do something BEFORE you do it, or it might be too late if you regret it later

When something good happens, it's there for you to enjoy. When something bad happens, it's there for you to learn and experience. When you are truly willing to do something, the challenges you face world take care of themselves as you pass by When you stay still and think, the truth reveals itself. When you stopped going for more, that is the very moment your useful life ends When you think, let your mind and heart be calm, for that is when you will be able to think best When you truly want something and put effort into it, even big obstacles could not stop you. With a good mindset, all that happens in life can only be positive With great will, one person can make the biggest difference in the world With the passing of time, all that has been impossible will be able to be done With time, comes more demanding people and situations. It is a must that we improve and learn in the same rate to keep up with it. Words can sometimes be more harmful and dangerous than actions, so watch when, to whom, and what you say. Words can speak, but pictures could show. Pictures could show, but only actions can PROVE. Words without feelings behind them are empty, and actions without objectives are meaningless Worrying is sometimes necessary, but always try to minimise it since it always gets in your way to success Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. You are who you choose to be. Be wise in that choice. You can regret, but you can't change the past. What you can do is learn from it.

You have to learn before knowing, try before succeeding, listen before saying, give before receiving, and think before doing. You might not understand even if you know, for perspective prevented you to. You never know the real impact of something before you experience it yourself. You should be able to prove what you say before telling it to others. You will always have the ability to do something when you have the motivation. You won't fail before you try, but the chances of succeeding before you try are at zero. Your life depends on what you do with it. Make the right decision on that. Your true happiness is one that you, and only you, can find in your lifetime. My Message First off, we welcome suggestions or comments about this guide and others at : We hope this guide has helped you in some way. Enjoy our other guides: Religious General Guides General Guides Summary Quotes for Everyone Feelings Situations General Guides for Kids Essential Factors of Life A Good Life Parts of Friendship Kid’s Guide to Social Problem Also, feel free to sign up for the digital versions of General Guides to Life by emailing the above address or visiting our blog at: Have a better life!


Kid’s Guide to Social Problems
January 2012
Final Edition

This is a guide on children’s social problems in school and at home. Enjoy!

Verbal Bullying to get something How to avoid verbal bullying There are times in which a bully-who is usually a person with many friends- wants something from someone else, especially in the upper elementary and secondary years. The thing they want may be in the form of stopping the victim from an activity, for example, wanting to get the victim off the football team, or a thing, just as the case is in getting a grade. The verbal pressure makes the victim give up or give the bullies what they want is the attempt of stopping it, even if they're innocent (what bullies want are out of their hands). Warning, it can lead to worse cases if ignored. And yet, one wrong move can lead to a big disaster. Timing is the key to solving this problem, but might also be the key to causing this problem. So, it is essential to solve it in the right way in the right time. What to do if you’re bullied
1. Try to ignore. The bully usually gets tired of bullying when he/she knows no one in watching /listening. 2. If on the nerves, find out what bully wants. Knowledge is the key to solving all problems, so find out everything you can about it. 3. Talk to bully to solve it. However, if the bully is someone who could also hurt you physically, it is not recommended. 4. Find a teacher or someone who can handle matters. This adult must have a power bigger than the bully and sensible enough to understand. 5. Sometimes, if you are outnumbered, get the support of adults to 'fight them off'. Younger children are afraid of adults. 6. Think. Put yourself in the bully's position and think again. 7. If the thing bully wants is givable and unprecious, give it. If all the solutions above can't solve it, then maybe it's worth it to give the thing to shut them up. 8. Stay away from them, maybe switch classes or, when you feel unable to bear it anymore and feel like it, consider moving to another school. This is a last resort solution.

1. Try to stay away from people you know are selfish and not good hearted even if they seem friendly. When you know them and they know you better, they might just be jealous of you and try to grab something from you and ruin your life. 2. Do not even try to boast about anything. Schoolchildren get jealous very easily, and if you boast then they would try to get the thing you have. 3. Be good, and have no enemies. If you have a lot of enemies, many people would want to harm you using force and outnumbering you so you can't defend yourself well. 4. Sense trouble quickly, so that you can react before 'bad things' happen. A quick reaction could save you by telling or anticipating it. 5. Have a trusted person who you can share everything with, so that problem anticipation are doubled. This person could help by suggesting solutions, analyzing, etc.. Then, repeat this order to avoid it continuously.

How to not cause this problem 1. If you want something from someone else, ask first. They might give willingly, saving you energy and time. 2. Try to earn it fairly. Make a deal, or do your best to get it somewhere else (if it's a thing). Otherwise, do your best to earn what you want without harming anyone. 3. Don't be selfish. Try, for a while think what you would do if you were them.

Verbal bullying to harm, upset, or for fun How to solve the problem This happens when student make each other mad or angry due to doing something not to the liking of the other. Therefore, they Be good to everyone and do not anger anyone. This can be hard, so want to get rid of the other by making sadness and anger to the just avoid people who can give you a bad influence. Beside that, victim, which gives him happiness. The bully uses his great power there's pretty much nothing you can do to avoid it. If this happens to or influence to others to do this, in most cases. Cases like these are you, follow the following instructions: usually obvious, and therefore easier to solve. Warning, this might 1. Try to ignore and just stay away from the bully. lead to physical bullying later as the anger and hatred grows 2. DO NOT TAKE REVENGE. The more you react the more you get between them, although in some point later they tend to regret to bullied 3. DO NOT TRY TO DEFEND YOURSELF TOO MUCH. Just like the above, have done this to the victim of bullying. it would bait the bully to bully you even more and make the situation a lot worse. 4. Solve it and try to see what the bully thinks you have done. Knowledge is the key. 5. Talk to the bully and explain the situation. If they understand and you're lucky, they'll stop. 6. Get a teacher or the principal for justice. Explain all the details you know and make peace. How to not cause the problem Other notes: 1.If you are bullied by many people at once, I highly recommend you 1. Think about the very core of the conflict and try to make peace with to build up a team consisting of the other person. people who also has been bullied by that particular group to help 2. If you know it won't be solved easily, get your teacher or, when the each other defend themselves. problem is big, the principal (or another person who understands 2. You must be sure of why they are bullying you and every detail you both sides and is wise) could have before reporting to an adult. If you do not have full 3. Hold your temper. Just hold it, and don't harm. Put yourself in the information, the bullies will most likely lie to get away from trouble. victim's position, what would you do? 3. Try not to get too provoked, because that would make the bullies tease you even more. 4. When things are really bad, consider moving.

Physical bullying to get something How to avoid and solve physical bullying The concept of bullying physically is simple, and yet can lead to a very big problem involving many people. A bully uses physical force to force others to get what they want. Plus, their friends could all 1. Stay away. Just get off the bully at all costs. If you don't, the bully will support and make it a very great problem, especially in schools. It is keep doing it. highly anticipated in many places by rules, but that alone might not be 2. Tell an adult. Problems like these are simple, so it is quite easy to solve. 3. Defend yourself. If the above methods don’t work, then it might be a good enough to stop physical bullying, considering the fact that bullies idea to simply fight back. Don't injure them seriously, though, it makes YOU rarely pay attention to rules and even ignore warnings from teachers, the bully. the principal, and parents. That is why the bullied person must be able 4. Move over. Avoid the bully at all costs; bring a medicinal kit and to solve their problems peacefully, and be able to defend themselves unharming weapons. If you need to, move to another school or when the situation demands them to. neighborhood. This, of course, happens after you tell the others of this
problem, and they fail to fix it.

How to not cause physical bullying
1. Talk. Decide with the victim, ask for the thing you want, make a deal, or ask for a source. Otherwise, get someone else. This saves energy, time, and trouble of many people, including yourself. 2. Think. Why do you want it? What will it be for and how important is it? Is there something else that is easier to get, but can work or do just as well? 3. Get it somewhere else. Try to find it in regular stores if it's an object, or prove that you have earned it. Make sure you do not hurt anyone in your attempt to get what you need. 4. Talk to an adult and see how you can get it and earn it well. Discuss the situation and every detail you have, then ask for a way. Make sure he/she fully understands the situation. 5. Persuade. If you are unable to get it, probably it is a very important or valuable thing in the eyes of the owner and they need it or want it more than you do. Accept it, and go with the flow. If you harm, you will not be able to get it, you get bad and trouble instead. Well, you get the point.

Other notes: 1. Report to an adult immediately if someone harms you physically, and let them manage it. 2. Bring a small stick, scissor, or any general tool you can use to defend yourself just in case someone attacks you. 3. If you think this is possible, I highly recommend studying martial arts. You can learn to defend yourself, but again, do not use your skill to hurt others. 4. If you see someone being hurt by others meaningfully, fight for the truth; report and see the problem, then try to be a peacemaker. Make sure you don’t get hurt, though.

Physical bullying to harm or upset When a student gets angry to another for a reason that is long and How to avoid physical bullying unforgettable, they might want to harm the other student to make sure that the person making them angry 'suffer a lot more than Stop having enemies! When you have a problem with someone else, themselves'. They try to get some revenge and try to cause problems. especially big ones, solve them immediately so no one wants to harm However, they do not realize that doing this would create an even you. Don't try to anger anyone unnecessarily, even jokingly, as some bigger problem and that this doesn't do good to anyone, not even people could take it serious and attack you later. Do not discredit themselves. Their minds are basically readable, "I want to cause pain them, just be cool and neutral with everything. Don't pick sides or do for this guy," Then they go punching or kicking. Of course, there has favoritism, just do everything fairly and try your best. You'll be fine, been efforts to stop this, but the efforts have yet to succeed in there's not a single doubt about it. Try your best in every activity and stopping this problem. That is the very reason every kid must know do not gain enemies anywhere. Simple, but it's quite hard once you the best solution to this dangerous problem before it happens to try. However, keep at it and you'll be fine. If you succeed, it is very them. It could lead to serious injury, criminalism, and even death unlikely that you will be facing any kind of bullying. (when it is harsh). Still say it's a small problem? Well, the next few So, it is, I think, worth a try, isn’t it? pages will tell you how to solve it. What to do if you’re physically bullied Run away. Stay out of the bullies' reach when you have no defense, so that they can't harm you very badly. Then, when they do not pay attention to you, tell an adult to stop them. Of course, tell the adult not to mention you, otherwise they would be even angrier to you. Then, try to study a bit of self defense (not attack) so that you can defend yourself if you are attacked. Ask the bullies why they bully you and what they want, then try to consult the matters with your teacher and parents so that they could try to stop the bullies from harming you further. If they fail to do so, simply ask for authority to move classes, (or any other place you're with them) to avoid them for good. That way, there's nearly no way at all that the bullies are going to get you again. How to not cause physical bullying Solve your problem peacefully. Why would you harm other people? What do you expect will happen if you do it? What will happen the victim? Is it gettable by making a deal or talking? Explain to a teacher what you want by doing it and the change you expect is going to happen. Then try to get it without harming them.
Other notes: 1. Physical bullying only happens when the problem is very bad, so try not to anger anyone very greatly. 2. Usually the bully would try verbal bullying before they proceed with physical, so watch out when people try to annoy you. 3. Teachers always try to stop it, so report if you see something like this immediately.

Bullying behind the back This kind of bullying, most of the time, only happens when it is done by How to avoid bullying behind the back someone with a very good social position. He or she says or do something, usually spreading something bad (true or not, it doesn't DO NOT TRUST PEOPLE UNLESS YOU KNOW THEM AND THEY ARE matter) to discredit another person. Then, they will either spread the HIGHLY TRUSTWORTHY. Especially with your secrets and some of your gossip or avoid and maybe try to harm the person. Once it has spread a past, many people are able to find things to tease you with very easily. lot to many people, then this would make everyone discredit and blame If something has happened, only tell a few people who would the person for a certain things. This leads to many other problems in this understand. If you just tell people you don't know very well or quite book, such as verbal and physical bullying, loneliness, and maybe even long, there might be hidden characteristics inside them that you bad manners once a person has become used to shouting and hitting haven't known yet and they might betray you. In everything you do, other people. The person who is trying to discredit might use face-to- when people try, they could find and analyze your slightest flaws, or face talking, social media,etc, but this kind of bullying happens after a big take a chance even from flawless activities if they're smart, so avoid conflict that had made the bully so angry that he/she would want to people who bully (if possible, do not make a single direct sacrifice their time to discredit other people. Again, this very rarely communication and do not share too much). happens with wise or good people or people with a not-so-good social position without a lot of friends to support them. How to deal with this problem How to not cause the problem If the person discrediting you is a big group of people, then it might be a good idea to build you own group of people to 'fight' them with. As some people say, play fair. (: However, what you do must not be the same with them, or it'll be you who is making the problem. Make your group try to get in theirs, and anytime a bad topic comes up, tell them to change it. If it hasn't spread yet, distract the bully with a better topic so he or she will forget about it. Act as though nothing has happened, and the bully will wait and later not do anything to harm you. If they are spreading something to discredit you, calmly say it is not true and tell them to stop. Remember, if you don't do it calmly, this can make it a lot worse, so if you know you can't act calm, just ignore. If you can, it'll slowly stop. Solve your problem peacefully. Why would you harm other people? What do you expect will happen if you do it? What will happen the victim? Is it gettable by making a deal or talking? Explain to a teacher what you want by doing it and the change you expect is going to happen. Then try to get it without harming them. Other notes: 1. Potentially, this can cause a lot of bad impact to you. Solve it as soon as you possibly could. 2. If you have no friends, simply ignore and reply calmly when needed. REPORT TO AN ADULT TO HELP YOU.

Loneliness in schools How to avoid loneliness Some students are avoided by others due to a difference between them; a disability, lack of skills, physical appearance, birth status or other categories that 'separates' them. Therefore, if a student is Be good. People often avoid being with you because they were afraid avoided, it carries various social disadvantages, and leaves a student you might (or will) do something bad to them. Try to get involved in bored with no friends to get along with. In class, it even gives the all activities, both in-class and at breaks. Make sure you don't go with student no motivator to learn, and it gives even larger bad impact. suspicious people or those who can betray. Get friendly to everyone, That's why it could lead to a very bad result and must not be left for be a good friend. This way, you get friends. Simple, but effective. long. You must, at least, try to stop these cases in your area, because Maybe, you can also interest yourself in several activities that can it always feels bad when people avoid you and you don’t have friends save you from boredom. If you are interested in many activities that just because of something small in importance. It might lead to a will you do, and are enthusiastic with the things that you do, it is very to take revenge or further harm, and sometimes stress in the inside, unlikely that you will feel lonely; because you enjoy the time you have so stop it when you have a chance to. and always have fun in all that you do, even if you have no friends. It is always a good idea to make good friends to be with, though. What to do if you are lonely in school How to not cause the problem Keep yourself busy by doing activities of your interest when you have time. In other words, distract yourself. Go make some friends you think will understand your situation, and have fun with them. Also, think. The biggest distractions and the best things are in your mind. Think about all the good times you've been through, or how to solve your current problem. At least there's something to do. Also, get some work that you like and will enjoy doing. There are no definite activities, because many people are interested in many different activities. This is up to you, and it is your choice to determine what you enjoy doing. Still, if you think it is still possible, the very best way out of this problem is always to make friends and have fun with other people who are good. Be good and always try your best, and people will want to befriend you. When you are leading or owning a group, never rule everyone else off. You should consider the good and bad, and get to know a person better before ruling them out. When you do, be sure to tell the person the exact reason why you don't want them in a polite and soft way. It would also be good of you if you could suggest a better group or position for them that you think would be more beneficial for them compared to yours. As long as you tell it nicely and politely, there is nearly zero possibilities the person would get mad at you, even if the reason involves something that insults them in an indirect way. Tell them what they should do to make better use of their time, and your problem will most likely be solved in a very good way. If you're not the leader, suggest the leader to do the things listed above. You can't always change people's minds, but it's always worth a try. Note: The key to getting friends is to try your best to be a good friend to others.

Selfishness How to avoid selfishness A considerable amount of people in the world think with a single perspective- their own. They assume others as beings who are there to help them, and not equals. They prioritize their own needs and Stay away or do not help people who ask for everything, do not want wants, no matter how much it hurts others. This, mostly, happens to to give an effort for anything, and receives all that they have without young children, who think “If I do this, what good will it do on me?" effort and counting on others to help them. Do not feel pity for They want the good themselves and think from their own helpless people; when they have tried and proven to fail, then that is understanding. They want all the credit. Usually, this disturbs many the time to help. If they receive too much assistance, they will get other people, and they will lose their friends, on by one, except the used to it and get angry if they have no help. When they have got ones that are the same. They are hard to understand, but they usually used to receiving no assistance without effort, then they will get the just don't realize the truth that they are sharing the world with billions good habit of trying their best and asking for help only when of people like them. Make them realize the fact and make them think necessary, and know which times to get help. If this person has a multi-perspective, then. If this succeeds, it will solve most of the mature mind, he/she might even start helping others, which is a good social problems humans have on earth. thing. It’ll help many more people than you think.

How to solve the problem

How to not cause the problem THINK MULTIPERSPECTIVE. What do you know and think from your point of view, and yet what do you think and what would you do if you were in the position of people around you: your friends, family, teachers. Think again: What do you really want? What do you want most in your life? What sacrifices would you want to make for it? What can you do to get it without other people being harmed? What can you do? Make an effort before asking for help, and know the time when you are required to get help. Other notes: The key to let selfishness dissolve over time is not to help selfish people too much and let them learn about the world by themselves.

If you have a friend that is selfish, make a decision. Do you still want them as your friend or not? If you do, you should make them understand the fact that the world must be shared with others to gain peace. Tell them to stop. If they are mature thinking, they will stop. If they don't, well, just don't pity them if they want something. Let them learn about how hard the world is and let them cope with it (as time proceeds). If you don't care anymore, just stay away and ignore any insensible thing that comes out from their mouth. Tell adults, they'll get rid of selfish people. (or fix them, at least.)

Arrogantness How to avoid the problem Many people in the world overestimate themselves and think that they are able to do more things that they really could, leading to comparison with others and therefore boasting to them. This is When you see or hear someone who thinks they're the best, stay bad, because they're false most of the time and they do it for fun, away, or try to prove them wrong. In other words, tell them or show which makes other people who hear it extremely annoyed with them that nothing is worth boasting about. Tell them their weakness, them. This could lead to people avoiding them and it gives bad and ask them to use their talent to help others develop it too instead influence to everyone, and this, of course, is a big problem in the of annoying others with it. A talent can be used for good or for bad, late elementary steps of children's school. Watch out for it. arrogant people use it for bad, and it is our job to shift them into using Overestimation, especially to yourself, always leads to bed things it for good. No one is better or worse, the only thing that matters is later on, so never think you’re that good unless you really are and how we use that equal amount of talent. you can prove it. This is a very simple but crucial problem and telling and proving to them that they’re wrong is the only way to solve this. Give them details and other sayings that will make them understand.

How to not cause the problem Think again. While you might be good in a lot of categories, everyone on earth has weaknesses and strengths. Some people's strengths or weaknesses are, in certain cases, hidden, and are hard to find unless it is time that they use it. For example, classmates wouldn't know if their friend was an expert in computer engineering and a person's curiosity to learn odd stuff about nature is very rarely seen by others. Even in some cases, your weakness aren't known by yourself, and we're all the same. When you do things or work with certain people, you sometimes see you're not as good as you imagine. Try to find out more about yourself, the world, other people, and everything around you, and maybe you will understand nature and the fact that we are all equal; our position in the world is the only thing differentiating us right now.

Boredom in Schools While in school, many people are bored of learning since they do not Do not stress it out. Many adults exaggerate how hard your education is so that you try VERY HARD to study. They're right, you should know the have a lot of time to play and have fun (which is important to them at that stage) The will to play is understandable, and no person can materials taught in school very well, but spend also time with your friends and play. When you finish your work, for example, you can have some fun as really stop it, but there are a few things that can be done to partly long as you don't disturb others. Talk with your friends, and SUGGEST stop it and it will be discussed in the next part. Part of it are caused by EDUCATIONAL INTERACTIVE FUN ACTIVITIES TO YOUR TEACHER stress in studying, and this is what we can stop. Many students are OCCASIONALLY. This lifts the stress from children, makes them remember told how their education should be; many are too exaggerating the what they learn, and lets them have fun. Some schools has already realized need of excessive studying. Students like you, usually, do not enjoy this, and let me warn you, do not suggest something like this too often. The school, because it is 'boring'. This is a global cause and I am sure most teacher gets sick of it. Maybe, you can work with friends to do this, and tell students in the world has (at least once) felt school is boring. the principal your thoughts, feelings, and suggestions for the school. School staff very rarely hear students' perspectives, so things might change once However, that does not mean school is a part in life you have to forget they hear your opinion. However, make sure you don't make your and isn't fun at all.
opinion too negative, since they would get angry instead of listening.

Carelessness in work How to avoid Well, this kind of problems are obvious and straightforward. Some people are not watching or doing things with caution and do what they do while being distracted with a thought or a sight that takes One of the very best ways to make sure you try to do things in your their mind's attention, and being careless as their consciousness and best try would be to take your time and not hurry, and being able to focus are divided into the entirely different things they're doing. think about it and make sure it is the best. You can look very precisely Therefore, they can't do their best, not because they are unable to, and proceed when you know you've done the best. If you know you but because they did not do their best due to trying to be too quick or can't do it, don't give up, just do your best, but also consider the time doing too many things at once. While focus is the key to a good, high frame and proceed if you think your time can be better used in quality work is a focused effort, time management demands people something else. Still, focus. When you have finished something, be sure you check it multiple to divide their focus to do multiple things at once. times to make sure it is right. If you forgot or don't know, that's a different thing, but it's a lot more annoying if you actually know it but you make a mistake, right?

How to stop the problem

Losing stuff Numerous children everywhere keep losing their things without being known by themselves, and this happens very often in many places. Some adults regard them as 'not responsible' and 'forgetful' while they actually couldn't control this. It disturbs many children misunderstood and being angered with things that they couldn't control, and many adults think everyone can control everything. However, there are also a few things you can do to stop losing it, and you can always keep guard on it.

Name your things that you don't want to lose. This way, if someone else finds it, they know it's yours and can give it back to you. Keep your things arranged and in order so you can find things well and can easily spot what's missing. Keep it in a non- hidable place so you can keep an eye on it over time. Also, check your belongings regularly before leaving to make sure they're not lost. If you're sure of yourself, you can bring it with you where you go. If you do lose it, well, of course you can't do more than try to remember where it is and try to find it, the rest is uncontrollable. Controversially, it partly depends on luck.

What to do if you lose something

Try to remember where you had it last, or where you saw it, and see if it's still there. You would also ask people who are near and ask them and see if they know where it is. Sometimes, people near would see it and place it somewhere 'safer', so ask several people about it. If there is one, find it in the nearest 'lost and found' box if what you lost was something that would catch anyone's attention (not a very small size) and 'valuable enough to take care of’. Just look for it and ask people, it's the best hope you have. The less valuable the thing and the busier the crowds are, the less your chances are of finding it, so find it quick and try to lessen the crowd.

Socially rejected

Some people are left off by others due to lack of skills, characteristics, or any other differences that makes them left off by the rest. In some cases, the person left off person must become better, in others, the group of people must learn to accept. However, it is a very rare case indeed when the group socially removes another individual without a certain strong reason, so, if a person is not accepted as a friend, he or she would have something that the others dislikes, making them unaccepting the individual as a friend. Sometimes, this kind of problem is complex, so it is necessary to find the main cause to solve the problem peacefully.

How to avoid the problem

Make friends. Look at people you are suitable to, and who are friendly. Look for people who you will not get in trouble with (by any means) and avoid people who will disturb you.If you don't want to be removed and you want to be involved with friends, then you should do the same to your friends. Treat them as equals, be nice, and think what you would want if you were your friend and go do/get it. Think like you friends, have empathy. That way people would like you and would want to be with you. Don't show off, but do your best in every activity and get involved. If you don't try to get involved, then you won't be involved, and people won't think you're involved. Then you'll be socially removed. You don't want that, do you? Boredom at home How to avoid this problem While boredom in school is very understandable, even the people who has boredom at home themselves sometimes can't figure out why they're bored, despite having a lot of entertaining devices such Play games, do activities, invite friends home, or go out sometimes! as TV, games, computer, etc. With this said, actually what makes you There's a balance in this world, and the internet is there for you for bored are lack of friends who you play with and enlighten your day, fun. There are nearly unlimited activities there, so I highly recommend and challenging activities since children rarely do things that challenge you to search your favorite activities and search for something to do their brain and body and therefore get bored. There aren't much to during your spare, 'boring' time. Think what you are actually do in that load of spare time, so yes, it is boring. However, with the interested in and what you actually want and develop it into new technologies arising, connecting and playing with friend from a something you can give for the world. Develop your talents and far distance isn't impossible at all, and you can simply search interests so that you can make it something you can contribute to interesting activities from the web. Although there are still many others. You can also have fun with games- search the web for free, children who are bored, the web helps a lot and that always is a good fun games, or go meet and have fun with your best friends or family start for all children to be able to find a way to solve their members. Other people's company always takes away boredom. The world is there for you, use it well! problems.

Overprotective parents How to solve the problem Some parents do not realize the high speed of their children's growth, and they treat their children as they always do in the past, not aware. Children's, and maybe your needs, change as you grow. Your Prove your maturity. Show them that you are able to do new characteristics, both inside and outside, change. They still see you as a things, use your brain, learn, and think for yourself. Show them you small kid who needs parents guidance all the time. One thing they find know the right thing by doing it without instruction. Do what you most difficult is trusting their children with time. You might feel know is right and important. Over time, they will realize your self controlled. You might be restricted to go with friends and other things management skills and eventually let you manage yourself. You can for your age. They forget your maturity and ability to choose. Many also prove it by organizing an event-be it making a big project, children, both right and wrong, find their parents too controlling. raising donation funds, etc. They will realize that you are capable of You're just one of the billion. So, the simple fact is that you need to let doing many things, and will let you control what you do with your them see and earn your freedom. How? time, since they trust you're doing something good and useful. Do daily things without being asked. In short, do the right thing all the time and your parents will trust you with your time. Misunderstanding How to solve the problem In daily life, most people do mistakes or accidentally do

something unpurposely. This makes other people angry and makes a small problem become very big. This is one of the biggest reasons to keep everything you do clear, so people can understand you well. Misunderstanding can lead to other problems mentioned in this book, so find your problem. However, there are a few things you can do, although it is not much, since misunderstanding is obvious and simple; but hard to solve.

Make everything you say clear so that the other person surely understands what you're talking about. If you can't, clarify the specific details so that they understand your actions or anything you have done. Then get someone who understands both sides, and has power over the person misunderstanding you. Tell them every single detail you have oif what happened, ask them for advice, and get them to solve the problem. Of course, the problem might not be solved immediately, but just remind them over time and they would forget the problems that you have. Time makes people forget the past, and things will return to normal as it flows. How long it takes depends on the size of the problem but it will disappear over time. In school, get a teacher or the principal; at home, it's more complicated, get your older sibling, cousin, aunt or uncle, or maybe someone from a 'child protection organization' or something like that (UNICEF), etc.

Bad manners In public places, schools, or even home, people have bad habits that are comfortable to them, and yet disturb other people around them. Most of them don't realize that they share the world, and assume they're the most important. Therefore, they do things comfortable to them. Unfortunately, their bad manners often affect many people in many places in a lot of time. This usually happens with small children who are unaware of the general rules of the world that includes taking care of others and don't really know the rules they must follow. This causes them to do things in whichever way they want, which isn't good since the people who aren't aware of rules usually aren't wise and can't make good decisions, which leads them to doing bad things.

How to avoid bad mannered people First, if you are in public, simply move to another place to avoid them. There is very little chance that they will follow you. If you can't, tell the people who has bad habits what they are doing to you and what impact it has to you. Advise them with what they need to know and let them think, if it's in the public. Tell them the bad things they could have done to you and other people around you, and politely report to his/her parents to take care of it. If it's an adult and it's something that is very bad, get a nearby security guard and let them solve their problem. If the person understands, he or she should stop when you tell them what they have done, but it is sometimes necessary to report to other people. If it's not in public and in your neighborhood instead, which would be complicated, get your Head of Neighborhood or someone with powers to make decision. In your school or house, avoid, talk, and report. If it fails, let it dissolve over time. How to not cause the problem
Keep control of yourself at all times in all places. Do not bump or hit people, insult them, or do anything that can raise their temper. Think before you act, make sure it doesn't annoy anyone around you and make them angry. Keep your behavior. Be nice, take care, and don't do anything silly or people around you would be angry since it would most likely be inappropriate to do silly stuff in public. Your parents, probably, has taught you a bit of behavior, and you should follow their instructions on how to behave well in public and when other people are around. They know what annoys other people, so you should follow them until you know more about the world. Also, follow rules in the place you're in. These are rules that everyone must follow for the convenient of others and violating these rules can get you in very serious trouble. Mostly, general rules such as 'No annoying each other' and local rules explain everything you should and shouldn't do, so it probably is the most important thing to do: FOLLOW ALL RULES.

Accidental harm If you are not sure what was meant by 'accidental harm', it is when How to avoid the problem someone harms someone else accidentally. For example, you kick a In public and in school, you've got to keep full consciousness of your ball and ended up hitting someone behind the goal, or raised your hands, legs, and eyes, especially in a crowd. Make sure you don't hand and hit someone beside you. Some people might think you bump or hit things without consciousness. When you want or need to mean to do that and harm them, but you don't. Then, they might get take a look at something, things that re not yours, in particular, and mad and report you or harm you back, and this creates a hard be careful when you hold or even touch them. When you play with situation for you because, if you do something a little wrong, then you someone, make sure the game isn't too rough and the person you're get in trouble. This can be the start of the biggest problems in the playing with isn't going to hurt you easily. Make sure you don't hurt world; one time a nation accidentally shot a ship they thought were other players, but if the game requires you to 'fight', do it softly, and criminals. They were misunderstood and a war started. True, in small just defend most of the time. Don't worry, this won't reduce the fun and common situations, it is REALLY hard to differ between a true that you'll get. Don't pretend to hit someone, you might hit them harm or an accidental harm (unless told), but it is quite easy once you accidentally and people will think the pretending was 'part of the plan' know. This happens everywhere- from schools to public malls and to harm them. Just do your activities slowly and carefully, unless roads. Watch it, small things like these can become a very big you're in a hurry. Don't bump. The situation in the present time problem. always makes people think small things are big, so don't make ANY problem. What to do if unavoidable How to not cause the problem Say sorry and explain what you were doing, and tell them the truth (that you didn't purposely do it). If you're lucky, the person who thought you harmed them might understand. If not, then just ignore and stay away from them if they don't take a highly serious and disturbing action. If they do, tell your teacher how small and the details of what you did and how they approached the problem. Then tell them it was a reflex or an accident and the fact that you couldn't have stopped it, and that you can't change the past. Always try to ignore unserious pressures, and respond CALMLY when you need to. If needed, talk to your teacher and get him/her as the judge and what should be done next. Chances are, it will be solved, because you don't get that much trust and get to be a teacher without being qualified. When you are harmed, say phrases like, "Ouch, that hurt!" "What was that for?" "What are you doing?!" or "Stop hitting me!" If it was accidental, the person would most likely say sorry or something similar. If it's a friend or someone you know and you're not convinced, keep an eye on them for the next day or two. If they show no intention of harming anymore, you can confirm that the person did not mean to do it. Not so hard to detect if it was accidental or on purpose, usually, based on the expressions and the frequency.

Other Problems If you want something and not given, Try to persuade. Give reasons of If you are forced to do something that you think is not needed/ why you want or need to have/do it. There are usually reasons of why wanted, just like other children being controlled or given too much they did not want to give it to you, and you should tell them what you guidance by parents or teachers, and given no freedom to explore want to do with it and why you want it so much. Do not beg for it or themselves or the world, explain to them why you don't want or need cry for it since it would make others sick of you and avoid instead of to do a certain activity, or have something better and more useful listen. If that fails, EARN IT. Show that you deserve to get it. Try to get than it. Prove that you can make better use of your time. Prove that it yourself instead of asking. For example, with friends, do a fund you can manage your time well without being forced. Tell them what raising or other things enabling you to get it. When you can't get it you can do better if you are allowed to be given freedom, and prove it from other people, get the thing yourself - try to achieve it without to them that you are responsible of yourself and you know the right other's help. If you really put an effort to what you are doing, you will thing to all the times- do the important things first, then have fun. almost certainly get it. Follow basic instructions, but don't let them control you as though you are a robot. Anytime they control you, tell them you know what's right and the fact that you can think. My Message First off, we welcome suggestions or comments about this guide and others at : We hope this guide has helped you in some way. Enjoy our other guides: General Guides Summary Quotes for Everyone Feelings Religious General Guides Situations General Guides for Kids Essential Factors of Life A Good Life Parts of Friendship Types of People Also, feel free to sign up for the digital versions of General Guides to Life by emailing the above address or visiting our blog at: Have a better life!

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