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Peter Pan syndrome is a deep-seated belief that one will never, and must never, grow up.

It is named after the legendary character of the same name who lived in Neverland, a place where kids are immune to aging.

Like Peter Pan
Though they chronologically grow older, they have not grown up. Like Peter Pan they break societal norms to serve their own purposes and don’t care much for the feelings and rights of others. They want all the power but are not willing to share the responsibilities, not ready to sacrifice and reject moral structures which are part of mature adulthood. As the World Health Organization has not yet recognized Peter Pan Syndrome as a psychological disorder, the syndrome is not currently considered a psychopathology. Psychologists make a clear distinction between Peter Pan Syndrome and other, more serious, mental conditions involving adults who behave as children both emotionally and mentally. This is because it is often found that people suffering from Peter Pan Syndrome are mentally fully developed adults who often carry professional activities requiring strong intellectual skills.

Overprotective parents responsible
Leading psychologists warn that overprotective parents can be responsible for this disorder as this prevents them from developing necessary skills to confront life. Though Peter Pan Syndrome affects both men and women, it is found more among men. Psychologist Dan Kiley, who defined ‘Peter Pan Syndrome’ in 1983, also used the term ‘Wendy Syndrome’ to describe women who act like mothers with their partners or people close to them. Wendy is said to be behind every Peter Pan, taking his every decision and responsibility.

Associated with narcissism
Peter Pan Syndrome is often associated with narcissism, though not in the negative, selfcentered sense. They are attracted to introspection in an attempt to find that imaginative comfort inside their own minds. On a positive sense this characteristic is seen as being in touch with the unbridled imaginational freedom of childhood. While succumbing to the prescribed order of things, most people forget all that they knew as an idealistic child, the eternal child is able to draw from their own raw, creative energy to remind us of how colorful life really is.

Effects of male socialization

Men with Peter Pan Syndrome find it difficult to make genuine friends and as a result feel desperately alone. Relationships with parents Men suffering from the Peter Pan Syndrome display the following traits in their relationship with parents: • • • • • • • Are obsessed with their mothers Have estranged relationship with the father They believe that it is not possible to obtain the father’s love and approval They have difficulty interacting with figures of authority Are not mature emotionally Exhibit silly behavior Hide their inner insecurity with macho attitude Relationships with women When the male forms attachment with a woman they • • Are prone to extreme jealousy and violent outbursts Cannot accept a woman asserting any independence. Peter Pan overachievers .Dan Kiley’s book. The Peter Pan Syndrome. Becomes easily provoked and gets into fits of rage He becomes protective of the woman only if her dependence on him is complete. Males diagnosed with having this syndrome were found to exhibit the following psychological traits: • • • • Either exaggerated or paralyzed emotions Anger taking extreme form of rage Joy turning into hysteria Disappointment grows and develops into depression or self-pity As a result males diagnosed with this syndrome find it difficult to express love. feel guilty and have difficulty relaxing. The fear of impotency and rejection contributes to verbally abusive behavior. They may resort to alcohol or drug abuse to escape from the challenges of daily life. This helps them take the focus away from their own limitations and vulnerabilities. Though he may appear strong and assertive to the woman. They don’t feel sorry for inappropriate actions but blame others for their shortcomings. in reality he feels threatened by her independence. is based on research on of the effects of male socialization on relationships. refuse to share feelings. They are unable to share their own sensitivity with women as they fear appearing weak and unmanly in front of friends.

They are eternal children who also have a competitive spirit.copperwiki.php?title=Peter_Pan_Syndrome . They can be successful businessmen with a childlike view of the world. References: http://www. All the time the Peter Pan overachiever is looking for another eternal child with whom he can run away. Their success often stems from their refusal to lead a 9 to 5 They conform to the conventions of the adult world to escape once they lay their hands on the resources required to escape.The world also comprises of Peter Pan overachievers.