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1. Make real decisions.
A man understands and respects the power of choice. He lives a life of his own creation. He knows that life stagnates when he fails to decide and flourishes when he chooses a clear path. When a man makes a decision, he opens the door he wants and closes the doors he doesn’t want. He locks onto his target like a guided missile. There’s no guarantee he’ll reach his target, and he knows this, but he doesn’t need such guarantees. He simply enjoys the sense of inevitability that comes from pushing the launch button. A man doesn’t require the approval of others. He’s willing to follow his heart wherever it leads him. When a man is following his heart-centered path, it’s of little consequence if the entire world is against him.
2. Put your relationships second.
A man who claims his #1 commitment in life is his relationship partner (or his family) is either too dishonest or too weak to be trusted. His loyalties are misplaced. A man who values individuals above his own integrity is a wretch, not a free thinker. A man knows he must commit to something greater than satisfying the needs of a few people. He’s not willing to be domesticated, but he is willing to accept the responsibility that comes with greater challenges. He knows that when he shirks that duty, he becomes something less than a man. When others observe that the man is unyieldingly committed to his values and ideals, he gains their trust and respect, even when he cannot gain their direct support. The surest way for a man to lose the respect of others (as well as his self-respect) is to violate his own values. Life will test the man to see if he’s willing to put loyalty to others ahead of loyalty to his principles. The man will be offered many temptations to expose his true loyalties. A man’s greatest reward is to live with integrity, and his greatest punishment is what he inflicts upon himself for placing anything above his integrity. Whenever the man sacrifices his integrity, he loses his freedom… and himself as well. He becomes an object of pity.
3. Be willing to fail.
A man is willing to make mistakes. He’s willing to be wrong. He’d rather try and fail than do nothing. A man’s self-trust is one of his greatest assets. When he second-guesses himself by worrying about failure, he diminishes himself. An intelligent man considers the prospect of failure, but he doesn’t preoccupy himself with pointless worry. He accepts that if a failure outcome occurs, he can deal with it.
A man is willing to be defeated by the world. he still exudes confidence. he allows them to have their reaction. A man doesn’t adopt a confident posture because he knows he’ll succeed. He knows that when he stops trusting himself. When he assumes this role.) . the first to ask for what’s needed. A man doesn’t hide his sexuality. 6. and the first to say “I love you. Man is the out-breath of source energy. through him. But he refuses to be overwhelmed by his own self-doubt. 4. he is surely lost. and into the world. The universe does not respond positively to his hesitation. but he won’t surrender to fear. 5. Be confident. he has no doubt he is living as his true self. Only when he’s in motion do the floodgates of abundance open. and he loses his edge. He’ll surrender to fate when necessary.” Waiting for someone else to make the first move is unbecoming of him.A man grows more from failure than he does from success. he makes no apologies for his nature. Success has its challenges. where it can serve his higher values instead of just his animal instincts. Re-channel sex energy. It isn’t because he’s ignorant or suffering from denial. There’s no need for him to lower his energy just to avoid frightening the timid. (You can do this by visualizing the energy rising. and eventually flowing throughout your entire body and beyond. but a man learns more about himself when he takes on challenges that involve risk. If others shrink from him because he’s too masculine. But when the odds of success are clearly against him. A man accepts the consequences of being male. He must wean himself from suckling the energy of others and become a vibrant transmitter of energy himself. He often knows that failure is a likely outcome. When a man plays it safe. It’s because he’s proving to himself that he has the strength to transcend his self-doubt. A man is the first to initiate a conversation. He must allow that energy to flow from source. He re-channels much of his sexual energy into his heart and head. It is his job — his duty — to share his love with the world. his vitality is lost. Express love actively. expanding. not a passive receiver. A man is an active giver of love. He’s willing to be taken down by circumstances beyond his control. This builds his courage and persistence. Success cannot test his resolve in the way that failure can. A man speaks and acts with confidence. A man is careful not to allow his energy to get stuck at the level of lust. He owns his attitude. two of his most valuable allies.
No matter how hard he tries to comfort himself and achieve a state of peace. Only when facing his fears does a man experience peace. Accept responsibility for your relationships. that would rob him of the growth experience — and probably make a quick enemy of him as well. what does the man do? Does he warn his friend off such a path? No. and that is enough for him. When a man sees a male friend undertaking a new venture that will clearly lead to failure. Face your fears. The man honors his friend’s decision to reach out and make the attempt. “Here… let me help you with that. The man may offer his friend guidance. The male path is filled with obstacles.A man channels his sexual energy into his heart-centered pursuits. He feels such energy pulsing within him. 9. he knows he’s fallen out of alignment with his true self. 8. These obstacles help a man discover what’s truly important to him. A man can handle being knocked down many times. The man won’t deny his friend the benefits of a failure experience. he cannot overcome his inner feeling of dread. . He doesn’t run and hide from the tests of fear. It typically includes more failures than successes. and helpless. For every physical setback he experiences. He feels weak. the man encourages his friend to continue. staring straight into his fears. For a man. The man knows it’s better for his friend to strike out confidently and learn from the failure experience. Through repeated failures a man learns to persist in the pursuit of worthy goals and to abandon goals that are unworthy of him. When you see a man at the gym struggling to lift a heavy weight. but he knows his friend must fail repeatedly in order to develop self-trust and courage. as if sailing on the winds of an inner scream. A coward never makes the attempt. driving him to action. When a man hides from his fears. He feels even more like a man when he advances in the direction of his fears. Specific outcomes are of less concern to a man than his direction. He allows his sexual energy to explode through his heart. A man feels like a man whenever he faces the right way. do you jump in and say. depressed. He turns toward them and engages them boldly. being afraid of something is reason enough to do it. A man makes a friend of risk. he enjoys a spiritual advancement. 7. A man’s fear is a call to be tested. Honor the masculinity of other men. Maybe the two of us can lift it together”? No. He feels uncomfortable standing still. A man succeeds or fails. not just his genitals.
he knows that’s a form of self-abuse. he can make peace with death. He actively seeks out the company of people who inspire and challenge him. A man teaches others how to treat him by the relationships he’s willing to allow into his life. and associates consciously. When a man is satisfied that he’s done that. but he holds himself accountable for his decision to tolerate such behavior. A man holds himself accountable for the relationships he allows into his life. But if he fails to do so.A man chooses his friends. Die well. A man lives well when he accepts his mortality and draws strength from knowing that his physical existence is temporary. and he willingly sheds those who hold him back. So a man isn’t ready to live until he accepts that he’s already dead. lovers. death becomes his enemy and haunts him all the days of his life. A man refuses to fill his life with negative or destructive relationships. He must learn to share his love with the world without holding back. A man’s great challenge is to develop the inner strength to express his true self. . he initiates the break-up and departs without blame or guilt. When a man faces and accepts the inevitability of death… when he learns to see death as his ally instead of his enemy… he’s finally able to express his true self. A man doesn’t blame others for his relationship problems. When a relationship is no longer compatible with his heart-centered path. 10. A man cannot die well unless he lives well. He holds others accountable for their behavior.
walk down the busy street. but just see yourself a ton of experience richer. imagine if your game was better. by realizing this. what Shaquille O'Neal can do in basket ball might be harder for me. but it is pretty damn accurate. Say that things are going shit with the girl you are interested in.. that is a better person and most of all that will suit you better! Being in the single lane is not misery. and 90% of the men on this planet are AFCs with no game. a girlfriend or even a wife. that is her problem.. anyone can" I personally don't really believe this is true. does she already know who you are? Does she know you masturbate with lotion in front of your mirror flipping thru porno magazines every monday? NO! She doesn't know you. So this statement might not be true in all cases. you don't want her anyway! Sometimes you do get rejected by a girl who knows you. you feel that to fix it you need to put in soo much work and really go down on your knees. His simple thing is that he uses loads of confidence and he always frames himself as being the MAN! . she is not actually rejecting you. so if you lose one chick. one of the most experienced MPUAs and probably one of the best. not yours. she doesn't know you. ALL GIRLS ARE DISPOSABLE. look at all the beautiful women you meet. that keeps me sarging and that keeps me succeeding is ALL GIRLS ARE DISPOSABLE! Yes I have had my oneitis. what does that matter? NOTHING! there are plenty of fish in the sea. you could be dating any one of them. and a girl who just attacks one of your negative personal features before she knows you is a bitch. just go back to the drawing board with that one! Some girls resort to personal attacks. One of the corner stones of NLP is "if one person can do it. it is pretty much true! You can use an amazing line. My advice is: Go downtown.. I'm 5'11'' and he is 7'1''. Well yes this is tougher.. he is always honest to the girl. so see it this way. but I got over them.1. dump you and you are back in the single lane. she might tell you something mean. Rejection is nothing and all girls are disposable! The above statement is offcourse a generalization. But as it relates to pick up. practice your game. My mantra that keeps me going. he says he doesn't use any tactics or routines. two actually. she just rejected the approach. it is opportunity! 2. this is your chance to meet a girl that is hotter. you probably saw 10 hotties in 10 minutes.. "Back of fatso" or "Not interested baldy" don't take this personal! Again. but say it with zero confidence and you have ruined it! And then you can use a really shitty or dirt simple opener like the Apocalypse [link] and use that will a shit load of confidence and it will work like a charm! David X. use your new experience. This gives me such inspiration to keep practicing my game! So dispose that impossible oneitis and go approach a few new girls! And what about rejection? When you approach a girl and she blows you off. Supposedly there are 51% women on this planet. With enough confidence you can accomplish anything! This is one of those things you hear all the time but you don't really believe it.
you can use your canned material when you are in a tight sport and you don't know what to say. I looked them deep in the eyes and just spoke my words from the guts. And you. test peoples reactions. you are both great in bed and everything just clicks. she will feel it. just so you have done it. it didnt matter. not having meaningless sex. possibly even "Mystery Method" and "Rules of the game". I could keep the list of cons going for a lot longer. you are picturing a perfect. Later on in this thread I will talk more about NLP and how that can help you improve your confidence! When it comes to state of mind. no I mean deep passionate love. this together with confidence are really the pillars of inner game. with this playing in the back of your head you will have the right state of mind and great confidence to play your game like a master! Casanova himself would be jealous if he saw what went on in the back of my head 3. but it is there. and then you use what you though worked well to design your own routines! But using other peoples routines all the time doesn't make you a PUA it makes you a recordplayer! . you have to approach every set with the mind set that "I can do this!". you have read "The Game".. You are not being you and there is a risk she will be able to tell the difference from when you are quoting and when you are improvising.. some of it was made up by MPUAS so it should work all the time right? Cons: There is a big risk of you sounding like a bad taperecorder just repeating what you heard someone else say. I understand the confusion guys. you are new to the forum. but then you hear some more experienced PUAs on the forum talking about how canned material is crap and you shouldn't use it. lets list a few right here. You approach a girl with an opener and she says "Hi Mystery!" or "yeah I've heard it before. Every time I approach a girl that I intend to pick up. keep that picture in your head as you look her in the eyes and introduce yourself! She will notice something different about you. standing tall with just massive confidence! You have to believe in yourself. There are pros and cons with canned material. it is all about your delivery! When I was in Spain I picked up 2 girls who didnt speak English and I speak zero spanish. Pros: If you have approach anxiety a scripted approach might be easier to use. Use canned material with care I know how it is. what if you run out of routines and you can't improvise? Some canned stuff were made to work in very specific situation and may not work at any other place." I actually recommend that you try some of the mainstream routines you have read. she won't know what.The point I'm getting to is that what you say doesnt really matter. Without the right frame it is meaningless what you say you might as well tell her you are a childmolester. and you are inspired and ready to go sarge. I picture myself making love to her. You have memorized the lines and read the success stories. passionate love making scene with her. but probably the biggest con and fear many have for canned material is to get called out on it. tell your 'friend' not to keep pics of his ex.
/Ross Jeffries I know I have posted this quote before in the forum. However. when I find something that works. they ask her a million questions but they never let her finish answering one of them. flunked-out former students are peddling. study some AFCs approaching women. I have studied a lot of AFCs in the field and this is what happens. I stay on the same theme for a while.AFC Yourself . a formula is when you notice that a type of approach works great. use different words and change it after the situation you are in. In a way I am myself.Personally at the moment I have No routines and No openers that I have memorized and recycle over and over. They tell the girl their lifes story. but there is a reason for that. you can use everything you learn from the community and the world of pick up and still be yourself. and you can flex your forumla. See there are several ways to do this. in my oppinion there are 3 selves. Talk less and let her talk herself to your bed! Fist I have to say that what I'm writing about today is something I learned from studying Ross Jeffries. fun. Or you can be yourself.PUA See. they rush up to a girl (if they dare to approach) and start talking. one of the greatest MPUAs ever. Therefore I thought it would be appropriate to begin with my favorite Jeffires quote: Quote: So shit-can those club-routines my retarded.RAFC Your better self . I am spontaneous in my approach midgame and close and I do it all with loads of confidence. and easy way to have the satisfaction and choice with the truly desirable women you’ve really wanted. they are too busy thinking of their next line so they won't even remember the girls name! . just use different spices from time to time! As an ending to this post I just want to mention the debate that has been going on in the forum lately about being yourself and using natural game. and learn to listen your way into a womans bed. For example: say that "oppinion openers" really work for you and matches your game. but you are sticking to the same concept. Formulas are in my oppinion a great way to get started. they get nervous and start talking about everything they see (untied shoelaces or dead bugs) they speak to fast. It's the smart. and in a way Im not. you will be an improved version of yourself . but not your original self.this is not a good idea. make them up as you go! This is how you learn to be spontaneous and imaginative. then I recommend that you use a different one everytime. you can be and actor/recordplayer .your better self!! 4. Your worse self . this will help you keep your game going for longer and you will be able to maintain relationships where you can be yourself from beginning to end! Formulas and Routines are two very different things. find your recipe for success and use it. because it is freaking genious! Next time you are out sarging.
how many times do you think a girl at a club feel that she meets a guy who really listens and care for what she says? NONE thats who! If you approach a girl with your canned openers. my best closes have been after 20 seconds. My ratio of opening sets and leaving with a number was incredible. that I can get the phone number of any girl they point out. I have made some money doing it. what she says might be pure gold for your future game with her. I will discuss NLP later in this thread. although I'm still direct in my approach. Another important aspect of this. She will be so distracted talking about herself that you can begin the kinoescalation and she will forget to put up her bitch shield. just remember that when she is talking. And then as she is talking. just approach her with a shit load of confidence. I wait longer with closing the number and I create a connection first! My number of opened sets and closed phonenumbers have dropped a lot. encourage her to talk. This is fun and all. and it is actually more fun too! So here is how it's done! Open up and start a conversation. you can also use it to bond with her say something like "Yeah I can totally relate to that!". A number close is easy but where is the connection? Out of the things I post in this thread. you don't have to memorize 4631 lines and routines. I won't even bother with writing down how I do my instant close.How many guys do you see picking girls that actally listen to them. thats what they know the most about! So if you really want to talk to someone and you really want to bond with them you don't really have to say much. when I make a bet with my friends. it could be as simple as a question. because I have now learned my lesson that a number is useless if you have no connection with the girl when you close! Nowadays I have changed tactics. again lets use an oppinion opener as an example. when she answers . Like I have said earlier. See I have formed a system or call it a method if you want. maybe to about 40-50% but the ratio of day2s from those numbers is about 90% close to 100% so this new effective tactic of mine have really proved to pay off. Like 10% maybe. she will talk herself right into your bed! This truth doesn't just apply to first meets. so if you are confused about the NLP references in this post just wait a couple of days and hopefully your questions will be answered.make sure you listen. a statement or my personal favorite a quick cold reading. maintain a dominant posture and position in the conversation. you might use it as cocky funny material or to neg her. I would estimate about 90% all within a minute! But my ratio of the numbers I got from my instant close and the day2s I got from them was aweful. and then you just lean in and kiss her! That will shut her up and she will feel as if she connected like never before! Guys as you practice this you will notice that pick up isn't as hard as it seems. everyones favorite subject to talk about is themselves! It is quite obvious. everything from prude girls in packed buses to bartenders in wild night clubs. I can open a set and number close within a minute. . if even that. use something to get her talking. I have made instant number closes that my friends thought where impossible. this is the lesson the one I learned myself most recently. stop picturing her naked and LISTEN to what she says! 5. where I catch girls off guard. how you do that doesn't really matter. it is genius on day2's and dates as well. When studying NLP I learned something important. you never know what type of girl she is until she is talking to you..
and this is mostly because she associates you with her own positive feelings! Note that some girls have extreme bitch shields and are not willing to talk and some girls just simply lack imagination. "hey you have to show/take/bring me to this place some time!" And she will just smile and say "yes" PUA: "So whats your number" When you call or text her. the conversation. so all you have to say is. there might be better ways but I'm posting what works for me! The main issue with setting up a day2 is that if you asked her out on a date then 3 horrible things are likely to happen 1. just like with everything I post in this thread. etc. tease her a bit and make her defend her place. What she is actually doing is talking herself into a comfort zone with you! Now all you have to do is to associate yourself to her comfort place! It could be as simple as just talking to her and putting yourself in her imagination. For example. she will remember that she had a good time talking to you. the money. She will assume that you are more interested in her than she is in you and you are ok with this. whatever feels comfortable for you.Anyway. All she has to do is put on a pair of victoria secret . it could be whatever: A bar. I told you in my last post the importance of letting her speak. agree with what she says. a hike. these are mostly the reasons why this doesn't work everytime. a city. a restaurant. these are things that I'm using myself to overcome difficulties in my game. I personally don't DHV but that is your choice. I don't say I have the universal solution. again. How to get a day2 without being an AFC This is a question that has circulated the forum forever. Whatever puts her in her happy place! 6. so you are talking to random HB. if you thought so please stop reading and go get a new job! The problem in the traditional "Man-chase-woman-game" is that you are responsible for all the action. a place where she has fun.So if you need your routines for this that is fine! As soon as the conversation is on. Have her keep talking. Another note to make. If she has sex with you its a favor from her to you! She owns sex and gives it to you! The paying part is obviously not the worst of these three. the ideas. Your goal is to start a conversation with the girl where you are both talking to each other (and not just you shoving lines down her throat). so starting the convo is your problem . start with your usual routine.. a beach. wherever she feels really comfortable. it could be other things like activites and hobbies too. start building rapport by using simple NLP tricks like imitating her posture and tone of voice (not in a too obvious way) this kind of stuff just makes it easier to connect. do they have that there? Thats soo what I will order when I get there" Now she is in a very comfortable state of mind and you are there with her. 3. you don't necessary have to talk about a place of comfort. Have her start talking about a place. I'm gonna tell you how to close her phone number. You are expected to pay for everything! 2. And now you strike your "evil" move. and this is one moment when you really get to use it. tell her something in the lines "hey that's cool I can totally relate to that". if it is a seafood restaurant: say "Oh I love mahi mahi. a place where she really feels comfortable. the logistics.
make that sound as a mutual decision. or invite her for coffee. she picked the place. she gives it to you because you deserved it for spending enough money on her. I pull causal hangouts all the time. I suggested that we should hang out and she said "as long as you pay" I told her my principle. and men need it to survive. I usually tell the girl that I have a principle of not paying for anything until I know her and I know she is a good person. we had a great time and the chemistry between us was great. but they don't really apply the classical date mind-set only because you did it so casually. I never ask her out. a perfect 10. My point with this story is that it was meant as a causal hangout and drink coffee but it turned into a six hour perfect evening. the best dates are completely spontaneous! . do you wanna come? we could just hang out and do whatever feels good?" If you have played your game well enough before she will agree without a doubt. it is also more fun. the funny thing is that many girls agree because they think you are asking them out. We got all the drinks for free because everyone in the place knew me (big time involuntary DHV) after that we went to the movie and then we kissed goodnight. but if you end up going for dinner after that. First of all. it is not only better gaming than a date. I never buy anything for a girl I haven't slept with. the worst part is that it happens all the time! In this post I want to get your eyes away from this nightmare scenario and open your eyes for something simpler. Don't use my line straight off. I have a simple rule. she doesn't really want it. this girl had game though. my suggestion. And if she chooses to have sex with you. rare as they get! We went out for a coffee. just pull something similar. we bought tickets to the late viewing of the movie at 12am. but I'm a charming asshole! The best "date" I had of my life was actually also with the most beautiful girl I have ever gone out with (so far) 18yr old brunette. Recently I was in a long debate with a group of fun people on the PUA chat about the topic of who pays for dinner. Most girls assume that the guy will pay so be careful. "hey I'm going down town to chill out this weekend but my buddy flaked on me. I just don't! If I want to go out with a woman and not just bring her to my apartment I say something like. so you need to say it with confidence and keep a good frame not to come off as a jerk! By telling a girl something like this you come off as different and also you sort of force her to DHV herself which is always amusing. After this she can lean back and watch you attempt to prove yourself to be the man and the provider she needs to never have to lift a finger again. I have met resistance while doing this but never rejection. I told her about trust and all that and we ended up splitting it 50/50 and had a great time! Any girls reading this will think I'm an asshole and you would be absolutely right.panties and make sure they are slightly visible above her pant line and the guy will do whatever she wants. I met a girl last summer. but I charmed her good After the coffee place closed we wanted to do something else. you can buy her a cup of coffee. this disarms the girl and she can't use sex as a weapon against you anymore. so I took her to a place where I was a regular. then I told her how I backed up my principle. so if she didn't like me that was the perfect opportunity for her to escape. because women don't like sex. and she picked a coffee place that closed less than two hours after we met. All of this is the biggest and most horrible lie in society today. we had 2hrs to kill until then. so she suggested a late night movie. and she said that she didn't want to see me. No we didnt have sex but the date was perfect.
the first hug is always quick and awkward. it is the same with kino!! This is why I love the hand shake when you first introduce yourself. imagine that you are sitting somewhere. if you are gonna have sex with a girl after your date. noone is. Guys here is my trick: focus on her flaws (keep them to yourself though!). its not black and white. Kino-escalation basics The term Kino escalation for me was interesting when I first came to the forum. I know it has happened to me. although I want to give Vincent diCarlo credit for being pretty damn close. she isn't perfect. but I can't recommend this.I hope you learned something form this long post about how untraditional dates are the best. But then something happens. a very beautiful woman sits nearby. there is no universal formula here either. I usually look her in the eyes and smile. Now i know that Kino escalation is just a PUA term for increasing the sexual energy by increasing the way you touch her. and there is no eye contact! When you shake her hand. but she won't get a free dinner just for spending time with me! I want to give another dating tip while I'm at it. Sometimes I play with it and don't let go of her hand. you can vary it in a ton of ways. at the same time. Many guys panic when they are on a date because their date is too beautiful. You both start laughing. its like there is a glass wall between you and her that you have to smash. just google it. This was something I had worked on to find a basic formula for since I first lost my virginity. you can download his 30page e-book free online. some guys go in for a hug immediately. this is your opener. After you have opened her and you start working your game I found kino-escalation to most effective if it is constant. you comment on it and all of a sudden the glass wall is gone! Talking to her is easy and feels natural! Here is the thing. one thing many guys do is that they dont touch their girls enough and this becomes a problem. make sure it is a privilegie for her! You are the prize. I said I never pay for anything. Let me explain it like this. I didn't really get what it was about. look at her. I thought Kino escalation was some sort of tanta-like routine that made girls go nuts and gave you endless satisfaction in bed. so hot they can't speak to her. The basic tricks I use are fairly easy and work very good. I can flex that to a drink here and there. When it comes to sex. so you are not coming on to strong.. Use the classic method of two steps forward one step back! In other words you are always the one who pulls back first. it is very simple but yet effective. this makes things a lot easier and brings her down to earth. The truth is. you just can't think of a way to open and you get frustrated. I bet this has happened to all of you. touch her shoulder with my other hand. kino her and make her soo horny that she begs for it before you begin! 7. . say that a bus filled with drunk japanese tourists drive by and they are all screaming profanities that they just learned on their first visit to america. This is your kino opener.
personally I usually dress like Im some sort of rockstar. as an example I'm gonna losely paraphrase David DeAngelo: Guys who are nervous and can't get sex off their mind (AFCs) tend to not be able to talk about sex. honestly not so much in public but in bars all the time! . don't just jump straight to her ass or tits! 8. And then there are guys like Mystery. sunglasses indoors. I wear necklaces. sunglasses (if it's sunny) and girls approach me a lot and comment on different things I wear. you have to feel (literally) your way to escalation. I've seen Mystery in several TV interviews. one thing that the girls can use as an excuse to approach you! To me this is brilliant. a streak of color in their hair.. just go step by step and increase the touch to more erogenic zones as you progress. it motivates me to keep this up and I'm glad that things from my personal experience that helped me can be at help for you too! "Looks" is another very debated topic in the community. there is no universal forumula that you can use. and they all end up looking the same. last one I saw was when he was on Chelsea lately (its on youtube) which was very intertaining. have at least one special peacocking item. And it is all based on Mysterys peacocking method. If you haven't seen his show the Pick up Artist you should at least look up some you tube clip where Mystery is peacocking his nerds. female tops. If the escalation is not constant and it slows down too much there is a risk she will lose interest an you will have to start over again. but the one thing he keeps saying is. I leave that to DiCarlo. that's just my style. there might be a youtube video up. if you find it please link it for the rest to see! I also find it very efficient to bring up sex as a topic early in the conversation. If you move constant and all of a sudden speed up and move to fast you will probably freak her out! Kino is fun to play with. you can even call an open discussion about sex a DHV if you want to! And when you have had an open sex discussion I have also found that this helps your kino escalation. Most girls know this. sex will no longer be something that you are both nervous about. you are comfortable together! If you were hoping that I would explain kino escalation in depth step by step. But remember. But mainly because like I stated earlier. constant escalation is very efficient and I will explain why. Let's talk looks! First of all I want to thank you guys for all the feedback and positive responses. I know Mystery has used this method. a watch. Im sorry to disappoint you..Alternating between giving her positive and negative body language is also very efficient. but I'm usually wearing clothes that are everthing but mainstream. while guys who are comfortable with their sexuality and have other things on their mind will have no problem talking open about sex. Some PUAs say that it doesn't matter if you are bald fat and wear a shirt with rests of yesterdays bolognese on it. pierced eyebrows. wrist bands. torned jeans etc. start easy and don't be afraid to touch girls. she will feel very comfortable when you open to her and you will force her to work for more attention when you give her a "cold shoulder". it doesn't really have anything to do with pick up. It is very amusing to see how they go all out.
However I still have a lot of the outfits that I had back then so sometimes I switch and show up as the rock'n'rolla type again. not natural beauty that is less important. but the way you present and carry yourself! Let's start with your body.Then there are guys like Ross Jeffries and David X. everything from Mysterys outrages clothing to David X. It is a lot of fun! I can also say without being the least ashamed that I'm a metrosexual. but I used to be horrible with women. I got a flirty look from a girl from a distance but as I approached and opened my mouth she would leave. So looks doesn't matter then? Probably not that much actually! However. this is why I started practicing pick up about way back in 2002. My issue was that I was way to skinny. Some "naturals" are what you can call ugly but they just have an ability to pull women. it won't be a problem. now I still dress like some sort of rock star but in a fancier way. it is up to you what you feel comfortable in. first thing! Straighten up that spine and fix that posture! Take your hands out of your pockets and stop looking down in the ground. I recommend you select your own style based on the music you listen to. there is a lot of truth to this but not completely. Style said it doesn't really matter how you look as long as you are well groomed. it was a great place to pick up girls. It doesn't have to be as extreme as if you like elvis you don't have to dress like him. your looks matters a lot. it also removes most barriers for how you can dress. and I adapted a real rebellious rock'n'rolla kinda style. being able to pull women from any situation. Sometimes even before I came up to her because my posture and clothing style just screamed inexperience and low self esteem. I still have MUCH to learn. For example. you should just try to avoid the two extremes.. let me tell you a bit about how I got started. look up! Like YOU are superior! You don't have to be a big muscle hunk to pull women. if you are way to skinny try to pack on a few pounds so that clothes look better on you! If you are a little too fat. Me.. So in my experience. it would just look wrong if my hair was nicely combed and . I'm an unnatural. I look pretty good. Adam Lyons and David DeAngelo usually just dress in nice respectable clothes that will look good everywhere. I personally don't mind make up and nail polish although I usually don't wear it cause Im not artistic enough to apply it myself When it comes to your grooming. Summer of 2003 I was the shit! So it took me about a year to turn from a retarded and scared little boy to a charming ladies man. when I first became a PUA I was always hanging at the same rockclub. they dress and look like douchebags but they are still masters in the field of pick up. when I had my rock'n'rolla period. When it comes to clothes. I became able to point out all my areas of difficulty and started to improve them one by one. Some guys talk about being naturals. But like I have said before. and in 2003 I felt comfortable enough to call myself a PUA. But maybe you could pick out the best of the late 50's and make a great modern style out of it? I just feel that music as an inspiration to your clothes is great because you will always have a great explanation to why you dress the way you do and you will come off as a strong individual! You can also vary your looks. As long as you are fairly normal built. this is a boost for your pick up! It makes you more comfortable in your sexuality and more open. but I little bit of food and working out buffed up my shoulders and suddenly I looked great in a suit. lost their virginity when they were 12 and just kept racking up women after that. try to make healthier choices and remove the most obvious fat. I have seen everything work.
well. she will be disappointed” well then guess what. And this is pretty much my point. it will be horrible! Again guys. all men think they are good at it” I love this quote because it is so accurate. Let’s talk about sex! Yeah I‟m starting this one with a Salt „n‟ Pepa quote. and I‟m continuing with another quote. I‟m lucky that I‟m still alive with that mind set. You are born as a primitive reproduction animal. you have to be ready to learn something every time you have sex! And how do you get good? You practice! This is why I recommend all the younger PUAs to stay in “not so good” relationships at least for a while so they can have sex on a regular basis for a period. in this is where I‟m saying that you have to build up your confidence and feel strong and sure that you can give her more pleasure than any man has ever done! If you prepare for sex by thinking “I‟m so horrible at this. It‟s a good thing that having sex is a lot safer.I was was perfectly shaved. and therefore you have to realize that without practice you suck! This is nothing to be ashamed of. so when you are in your younger years take all the practice you can get! I also want to add this. try different extremes. guys generally know more about their own bodies than girls do. which to me is shocking! What I‟m saying is that you weren‟t born to be a pleasure machine. The girl however might be even more inexperienced. try any skill oriented hobby that you have never practiced before and see how bad you will stink! Everyone is bad in bed their first time and my point with this rant is that the mind set you should have the first few times is that you are there to learn something. and this to many women is attractive! Don't be afraid to experiment. This one is from Jay Leno: “Race car driving is like sex. there could just be “room for improvement”. it applies here too. see on one hand you have to know that you are not as good as you think you are. and on the other hand you have to believe in yourself that you are better! Very confusing I know but I will explain! These two aspects of sex are the most important parts in a successful physical relationship. I‟m gonna come after 30seconds. you are not good until you have practiced. you were not meant to be good in bed. and I was certain that I could hit the twisty roads of the California mountains in any speed. to create confidence and a strong frame! You will hear most MPUAs talking about that you have to be an alpha male. you can use NLP for this. This may actually be all you need depending on how open you are with your partner and how experimental you get. you have to be a man and be convincing. just make sure you read her reactions and try to make her feel comfortable! The other part of this is the mental. . many girls even think that they don‟t have to do anything in bed. see what type of reactions you get! 9. you don‟t necessarily have to be horrible your first time. The mindset that you need to have towards sex is a huge contradiction. So my advice is that you should match your grooming to your style! And it will look like you care about your style. I‟ve had a few sports cars myself.
1. even if you don‟t know. Show confidence! Always be confident guys! In my opinion. but keeping this in mind has really helped me evolve as a PUA. you can still use this frame! So these are pretty much the two most important things when it comes to a great physical connection. it‟s gonna be a about a tactic that I used to get a lot of women. . confidence is 80% of your game. if you don‟t have it.But being the dominant alpha male doesn‟t mean “push her down in the bed and fuck her through the mattress” it just means that you are decisive. like you really know what you are doing. these were the “10 things I wish someone taught me (about Pick Up)” some of these are just really obvious things when you think about it. Be eager to learn! 2. you never know what happens! So stick around. start practicing more NLP! Well guys. in control and show a lot of confidence. fairly hard to pull off but golden if you do it! I might also post more tips in this thread later on. I do plan to post a bonus article here later this week.
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