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1. Elegant Self Confidence How To Be Elegant
Secrets of Elegant Self Confidence, Poise and Gracefulness Let me start by sharing this wonderful quote by Genevieve Antoine Dariaux, "To be elegant is first of all to know oneself, and to know oneself well requires a certain amount of reflection and intelligence." There are two stages of becoming elegant, starting first from the workings of inner elegance, because true elegance starts from within. If you are looking for quick tips on to achieve an elegant look (outer elegance), click 'The Art of Elegant Style'. Everyone knows somebody elegant. She could be a celebrity. That girl who seems to have it all together. The one with all the designer clothes and bags. The soft spoken girl who speaks eloquently. She could be who you want to be. We express this hope in many ways. We buy the nicest things that inspires elegance, dress our best and carry designer bags. Does that mean we are elegant? Not necessarily so. I've been trying to define the elegant woman for as long as I can remember. Dictionary.com defines an elegant woman is one who is pleasingly graceful and stylish in appearance and manner. She is so much more. For me, that woman is (but not limited to), Audrey Hepburn. The elegance of Audrey Hepburn continue to inspires the world today in elegant fashion, how to be classy and the art of elegant living.
Two Stages Of Acquiring An Elegant Self Confidence
What are the two stages of acquiring an elegant self confidence? They can be loosely represented by the insides (heart) and outsides (your personal grooming, your walk, posture, poise etc)
I believe we first start from the inside. Jesus of the Bible says, "You blind Pharisee, cleanse first that which is within the cup and platter, that the outside of them may be clean also." Matthew 23:26 (The Pharisees were hypocrites, fakes) True to what the Bible says, once we have dealt with the 'inside' (your heart), the rest of the workings of an elegant self confidence will become an ease.
There are many different definitions of elegance. On Elegantwoman.org, elegance is defined as 'graciousness in action.' An elegant woman is a gracious woman. She is gracious till the end. She will never shove others out of her way in a crowded train. It doesn't matter if she looks elegant, speaks the part but fails terribly in her everyday life. The truth eventually finds its way out. The way to be gracious? Love others, value and esteem others. Treat everyone the same, regardless of social status, looks, speech, education. Do not save your best manners for certain people only. Genuinely care and put others first. Instead of telling people about yourself, listen to others and let them talk about themselves. I remember that when Audrey Hepburn was growing up, her mother told her that '"You" is boring.' When you are gracious, you move with an elegant self confidence, from knowing what to do and what to say appropriately. Secondly,
Be Yourself, Be Authentic
As cliche as it may sound, to be elegant, you have got to be authentic. Real. Inauthentic Elegance I've seen friends try to be elegant by wearing pearl necklaces, social-climb, become food connoisseurs, show off designer bags, speak Prada amongst a hundred things.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. While all that is personal preference, one is not truly elegant that way. She may appear elegant, know all the lingo, but is far from elegant. Her facade will wear off, say in a fit of anger. Or you may see her sponging off others. Shoving others in a train. Bad-mouthing others. To Get Self-confidence, Get To Know Yourself Better Many of us think we know ourselves thoroughly. I realize how much I don't know myself when I am caught buying something that is not me, investing time and money that I'm not good at, forcing myself to do something I really don't want to do. Other ways that 'one does not know herself' exhibits this by putting up airs, doing something only because she thinks it will make her look rich, elegant, sophisticated. She tries too hard to impress. She does something only for her image. A root meaning of the word, "Elegant" is authencity. That is one of the keys of self confidence. To know yourself makes you become secure within yourself. Many women have secret struggles with self confidence and self esteem. There are many roots of this issue which are too long to discuss. While I am not a psychologist, I think its best to keep it simple. I believe gaining elegant self confidence has a lot to do with authenticity. It's a matter of discovering who you are, what God has given you in talents, aptitudes and aspirations, dreams and what is in your hand. How does One be Authentic? Start by taking an inventory of yourself. I. II. III. IV. Take some time to discover your likes and dislikes. What are your strengths, talents, dreams? God put them there for a reason. What do you think about all the time? It is your passion. What is in your hand? What can you do? Assess the opportunities around you.
Summary of First Stage To Elegance
When we work on those questions thus embarking on self-discoveries, we discover our passions and weed out 'impurities'. We go on a journey to refine ourselves to our fullest potential. See also How to Become an Accomplished Lady. Voila! You have no time for low self confidence. You suddenly realize you know a lot about something - your passion - you speak with pride and self respect.
Researching deeper. because one usually not just desire to be elegant simply for themselves.Plato from Elegance must be combined with loveliness. Now you're ready for. However. See more at easy elegant tips. Do I value other people's time? Or do I assume that it will be alright for them to wait for me? A lovely person is thoughtful at all times. So how to be absolutely lovely? Cultivate Loveliness I've found that it is easier to 'be the right person' than to 'try to be the right person' What is the difference? For instance. gracious woman. How to be lovely as Audrey Hepburn? She is one who. if I were meeting the Queen of England. 2. I WILL not be late. This is the root of an elegant. internal and it comes from all the goodness and love from the heart." Lovely Quotes . a one-in-a-lifetime opportunity.. This is the beginning of elegant self confidence. I wouldn't dream of being late.. It is easy to do. if I know in my mind that I should not be late.. It is hard work. We become comfortable in our skin. If you look up the dictionary today. very hard for me indeed. For instance. We can stop being self-conscious and focus on others. How To Be Lovely "The most effective kind of education is that a child should play amongst lovely things. is generous with her smile. if I have reverence for other people's time. 4 .. I might be two hours early! It all boils down to what you value. I try very hard not to be late by setting a timer. I've found that the intrinsic meaning of that beauty is natural. but to shed a little joy around her and beautify her world.To be true to ourselves is to be authentic. you'll find that 'loveliness' is defined as 'an exquisite beauty'. an alarm etc.
she would make light of it. It is big-hearted to be the one who smiles first because it takes a certain type of admirable courage and lack of self consciousness. unless it is a real emergency. quality lifestyle where she has time for church. and gives up her seat to that pregnant lady. so that it will not be a disturbance to others. believes others come first. listening with delight when children attempt to converse. 5 . While money can be lost. she considers others. she will appear to never have noticed it. come rain or shine. time is lost for ever. When she has an appointment with someone. She will never make an excuse because she knows others have cleared their schedules for her. Her pleasant countenance exudes her. If she is foresees to be five minutes late for her hair appointment. if not a little early. In her actions. she is always on time. She speaks softly in public places. She listens and refrains from talking about herself. She will always offer a helping hand to elderly. She sticks to her appointments. is on time. Time is one of the most valued currency. family and friends. she phones as early as fifteen minutes before. she has a deep reverence for time and other people's time. While she may not agree with differing opinions. She is dependable to turn up for her appointments. settling into a unrushed. f you have had an embarrassing moment. She also has positivity that a smile will be returned. She asks about you and your family if they are well. Her gestures and actions reflect that too. Her smile encourages other smiles. She moves to the middle of the train to allow more space for passengers who come after her. She shows her reverence for time by the way she lives her life. A little pat on the head for a little dog. Her words are kind and thoughtful. She stirs her tea quietly in order not to all attention to her cup. she will be gracious about it. She respects wishes and personal choices of others and will not ask intruding or potentially embarrassing questions. She never cancels. if not a little early. it may be earned back. But when time is lost. unless asked. If you have spilled soup on yourself. She takes into account potential time-hazards when planning her time As mentioned earlier.My heart instantly warms up to a person who smiles.
' . Eunice says: Personally. listening to good. not allowing herself to be drunk with wine. She never says to anyone. 6 . she graciously accepts and shows her appreciation. have too many possessions. that people are thinking about her. (More about developing poise. 'She is disciplined in her lifestyle. is impeccable in appearance. get involved in a good cause and community and reading good books. she'll take over the conversation and tell them what happened when SHE went to Italy. I find it helpful to keep this mental discipline to attend a church. guard your heart. If she discovers any of those situations to be true. This is because you force others to look at you in less-than-presentable appearance.Quote unknown She also knows being disciplined in her heart and mind means taking efforts to 'guard her heart'. patience.is disciplined in mind and heart. it says 'Above all. A beautiful impeccable appearance is ruined by a poor posture. She does not allow herself to go over an embarrassing situation in her mind. Good posture is important as well. Keep your back straight at all times. slouch or lean on anything. She disciplines herself not to fuss and get on with it. kindness etc.) A lovely person definitely does not need to spend excessive time getting dressed. watching. Do not fold your arms. For instance if someone was talking about their trip to Italy. be over ridden with debt.' She'll never steals anyone's thunder by switching an conversational topic to herself. She does not get embarrassed. 'Do you know who I am?' or 'I don't deserve this! I deserve better. important. She never assumes she is well-known. How to be lovely is also to be impeccable in appearance. shop incessantly. I also use a daily devotional. In Proverbs 4:23. or have disorder in her life and home. for it is the wellspring of life. be addicted to bad habits of eating junk food. She achieves a timeless style by a sense of thoughtfulness about herself. I was once told that in France. it is considered rude to go get bread at the bakery in home clothes and unmade face. talking about her or will give her a ride home. Learn to feel graceful with good posture.' Guarding one's heart is reading. wholesome things that will inspire fruits such as love.
has a good work ethic. Due to her disciplined manner of living. She can recount silly stories of her dogs. She loves her husband. but she does not neglect herself and she continues to take interests outside of family. 'I adored my work and did my best. She doesn't go out the night before if she has to pull off a big project the next day. her mother-in-law.Audrey Hepburn has a balanced life with her values intact. She does not merely expresses it with words but through actions. She loves beautifully decorating her house and up keeping it. beautiful gardens. She does not think she is better or more important than anyone and vice versa. She shows us how to be lovely by having a good work ethic. Just as she is always on time.' . designed. She loves dogs. She sends birthday flowers. She is passionate about her work. she prepares for it and is confident. She is never too busy for her family. without complaining. treats everyone the same. She employs a thoughtfulness and observation of her world. She knows when she is over-stretching herself and says 'no' to the unnecessary. remembering what is their favourite toy. but it will not take over her values. She speaks in the same manner to the janitor as she would to the vice president of her husband's company. It has similarities like a child playing with a dollhouse. She performs what is required of her. she has a strong work ethic. She takes time to get to know the world around her. books. her children. She can notices things about little children. She prioritizes and keeps things simple. She works hard and doesn't give in even though she is tired. She loves. her loved ones. She also does not repay a rude comments with nastiness. she enjoys what she has chosen. loves. 7 . If she has a big client meeting the next day. She is passionate about family. She is never hurried and in a rush.
She gets the best quality that she can afford and will use it until it needs to be replaced. Poise and Carriage How to be Graceful. When complimented. of rushing around. She is also generous with her time. that brings out the wonderful sense of loveliness so we can now bestow on others." to the person who confides in her. you will know what to do. coupled with the fact we have no training in this area and very few examples of graceful women for us to emulate.A study of deportment and manners of graceful women. She says. While we can achieve elegance in our charcter and dressing. her things. I trust and am very sure that in time to come. words. affection. of being too busy .. praising someone who has helped her with her hair. her compliments. or accomplishments or her age. A giving person is not merely generous with her finances. we may not achieve elegance in the way we move and carry ourselves. is authentic and never puts on pretenses. She is unafraid to say that she doesn't know and does not pretend to know.is gracious. "Oh. Deportment and Manners Elegance through Expressions. Ultimately being lovely comes when one is inspired for the love of people. in spite of ourselves. Why? We lose the art of being graceful in our modern day of convenience and time management. She does not fake her youth. The poise that knowledge gives. instead of giving advice unless asked for. It is when you realize how much God loves you. encouragement and praises. which comes supernaturally from God. 8 .. her wealth. She tries to be as respectful as possible and is humble. she accepts it kindly but gives away the credit. is a giver. She assumes the best of people.
To some extent. education influences a person's deportment . but yes. children were trained in deportment. bearing. 7.as it relates back to thoughts and how one thinks which prompts the body's response. as I was one of those girls who struggled with an ugly walk. I've found a way for us to train ourselves in the art of deportment. I've corrected it over the years though it is far from perfect. 5. Our dictionaries loosely define deportment as "a manner of personal conduct. A woman who has beautiful deportment is said to be poised. style and elegance. 3. How To Be Graceful Though beautiful deportment may come more natural to others.org! So after researching acting and its methods. most likely. whether conscious or unconscious. Expression Manners and Etiquette Dressing Poise How to Walk How to Sit Social Conduct 9 . I'm not sure why it was dropped off the education curriculum. Anyway here goes! Deportment simplified into areas of study 1. schooled in ballet and ballroom perhaps. I like to think of deportment as the art of moving gracefully. because you are more conscious of the way your body moves. 2. Of course deportment is not limited to that as we will soon see.. Deportment is the way you express yourself through your features and by the way you move or hold your body. 3. walk and carriage. but now deportment training is mainly reserved for the acting profession. we should place value on learning how to be graceful." I prefer to describe what it is over a few terms such as . If you are a dancer. behavior. 6. It is important to learn how to move with beauty. it is obtained by training. This took me many years to find and develop. chances that you will be better at the art of deportment. graceful and elegant. About 100 or so years ago. If your parents are graceful in their movements.. 4. you will be walking and moving in the same way. I believe in its importance and thus I hope to archive the training of deportment here on Elegantwoman.I believe that in our journey of refinement. An overview of this is outlined below. She does everything in the most finished manner. poise.
otherwise. You can read more into this in your own time on my basic etiquette pages.Expression To learn to be graceful. you must have an understanding of basic manners and etiquette. Mastering this will give you command of yourself and an appearance of ease. So to ensure that we only give beautiful expressions. We also need the power of analysis and self-correction. Manners and Etiquette To learn how to be graceful. This takes the form of facial expression. when to and when NOT to apologize etc. moving your arms etc. This will affect your deportment. we have to obtain mental poise. and control the impressions we make in our head. See also how to be gentle. However. because they will govern your behaviour. be a perfect guest. If I can only leave with one suggestion in your approach to manners is that "You should always consider the feelings of others". you will feel your best. Dress as though you might bump into that highly-esteemed someone on the street. That means to obtain beautiful and elegant expressions. The study of this will give you a measure of confidence of knowing what to do in every situation. Dressing How much does the clothing affect you? More than we think. gestures. and to obtain it. walking. When you look your best. It is a form of action. I've privately interviewed several women who admit that they feel better about themselves when they know that they look their best. we have to control how we think. don't get caught up in etiquette rules and judge other people by it. They consist of a general study of how to socialize. Poise Poise is balance. 10 . Expression is the result of thought 'materializing' on her face. Nothing imparts quite the same glow of satisfaction as knowing that we are properly dressed. be introduced. you would have missed the whole point. contributing to your appearance of ease and removing every trace of self-consciousness. we must first study expression. you have to understand balance in the way you hold yourself and the way you speak.
To be balanced. your stomach in and held. in style and grace is to attain self-possession and mastery. Correct this right away! We should not waddle. with your chin neither too low or high. nor strut as fashion models do on the runway. not staccato. Your feet are somewhat apart. we may develop rounded shoulders and a forward head. you would need to know the right posture. A strong core is established only by exercise and a strong base is determined by the distance of your feet. As children who copy their parents. This. How to Sit You should not fall into a chair or throw yourself on it. This posture is formed by training. legato. I suppose that is where the training by 'placing a book on your head' comes in. like a turtle. Our heads. not aimless but a deliberate rhythmical movement of your legs and feet in sync with gentle compensating movements of head and arms in a slow graceful swing. 11 . a good understanding of posture and the way the body is designed 'to move or be still' is needed. shoulders back and down. arms to the side. your graceful personality will show.we should walk in a manner that is characterized by grace and freedom. our upper torso should remain as strong as possible. If we have not employed ergonomics in our worklife. should not distract others by bobbing. The right posture is a delicate balance of a straight back which is properly aligned with the head. How we should walk .To obtain poise. When we walk. We should not be over-arching our back. it should not be swaying back and forth. To learn to walk well. Sit with your legs closed but lean them at an angle to one side. Do not sit squarely on both feet. Thus. opening your eyes to what you are right now and how you should be. How To Walk Unfortunately for us. as that is too manly. It should not be hasty or hurried. but should be slightly lifted. most of us learn how to walk by copying faulty and ungraceful models. the powers of awareness and observation come into play. it is no doubt that we have been marred by examples of bad walking from generation to generation. nor sit cautiously as though you suspect that it is dirty or would break under your weight. to have a strong core and a strong base. exercise and maintained by habit. as though you have a confident expectation of life. By freeing yourself from inefficient styles of movement and bad habits of gestures. as that suggests obesity. while relaxed. therefore is part of mental poise.
We prevent annoyances.. Learning how to overcome self-consciousness is also part of elegant deportment. but mastering a beautiful deportment can help with this. while the appearance of "laziness" is worn as a badge of pride in some circles. you must do your best to mask it because to appear uncomfortable is to not only increase your own discomfort in yourself but in others. elegant deportment does allow any form of laziness for instance. Love is kind. If you are uncomfortable or self-conscious. we are acting in love. Social Conduct Do not ever rush or be in "time management" mode.. the act of lounging around. Manners And Etiquette How To Be Exquisite Hello and welcome! Do you know that etiquette and manners are not the same? Everyone usually agrees that there is always improvement in their manners and etiquette.Do not jump up or arise suddenly from your seat in an abrupt motion. I'm not an expert on overcoming self-consciousness but you can start by building a sort of elegant self-confidence. misunderstandings.by knowing that you are correctly postured and at ease (which prevents further questioning in other people's minds) and possessing the confidence of having a refined set of skills: good manners. By doing so. patient . correct diction. 4. Also.. good grammar. I've taken much pleasure in studying this topic and happy to share what I've learned.. There are many ways to overcome this. nor lift feet up to 'stomp' as you get up. because we are thinking about others before ourselves. I think both the desire to improve and be a well-mannered person is a beautiful thing. imposing and living this way makes our world a better place Thank you for that! 12 . elegance in your speech and the art of conversation and socializing.
d. It makes a person beautiful. they are kindness. class) e. What do you think about all the time (are you a self-absorbed narcissist? Or are you considerate of the other person)? i.Why You Should Pay Attention To Your Manners (I loved the manners of Linda & Cole Porter in the movie Delovely) Have you met someone you really liked? She most probably had the most beautiful manners and she made you feel at ease. What Are Your Manners Saying About You? Our manners say much more about us than we realize. Your level of self control. Your level of education. **Here is the greatest test of elegance and refinement . She was a lady. The extent of your reading. b. travelling experiences g. What kind of family you have. c.Her Manners Manners are wonderful to have. I enjoy being in a family where everyone speaks kindly to each other. What kind of person you are. f. They tell other people who you are. Your social economic status (or matter-of-factly..amongst other things Manners' Little Secret 13 . the way you handle conflict. How you were brought up. h. a. they are refinement. what is it like to live with you. Manners are love..
They warm up to you. you get 'found out'. you can be who you want to be. exquisite manners. I love this quote by J.Here is a little secret of having unsually refined manners. People won't even have a clue about lack of your education..K Rowling "It is our choices. when you have fine manners. They want to be around you. You choose who you want to be.. Despite all the above. you can rise beyond all that WITH the best.J. Speaking kindly to someone regardless. We didn't go to the right schools. with fine. Otherwise. 14 . it is distracting and negative. And people respond to kindness. you'll realize that it no longer matters because you have assimilated. They like you. far more than our abilities" . everyone likes someone who have manners. you can arise above all that and communicate a better sense of yourself (as opposed to reality and history). People probably assume you were educated at top schools. elegant manners. They might even think 'way off'. They think you're great. most beautiful. Rowling In other words. You're friends now with people you like and choose to be friends with. That is kindness. They'll like to be around you because of the way you make them feel. You've become one of them. Manners are kindness. Whatever your social circle is. or are embarrassed of your family's lack of resources. You've become classy. That's Manners' little secret. We want to find friends of similar tastes and goals. If one day. When you communicate with manners. Being well dressed is pleasant and inspiring. you've considered the other person's thoughts and feelings. We aren't educated enough.that show what we truly are. K. At the end of the day. sophisticated enough. we are not interested in people who do not like us. wealth etc. hang out with the right people etc. They'll feel impressed by and maybe even secretly admire you. is a show of mutual respect or the recognition that we are all the same. There are times we feel we aren't good enough. Despite your insecurities.
Most people have good intentions but do not realize. Always try to be patient and see others in the best light. It is simply impossibly to remember all of them. Etiquette is an orderly way of doing things and a customary code of conduct of good behaviour.. How tempting it is to go.. 15 . poised. Having manners is a sure tell-tale sign. Have you ever tried reading etiquette books? In general.manners is not etiquette. Etiquette are well thought of rules that present an orderly way of doing things. the harsh expression on your face is not exactly becoming. etiquette are a list of (almost boring) rules. While some are helpful. An elegant person. How to Have Both Manners and Etiquette If you have manners first. Firstly. "she's so rude!". we'll still be gracious in spite of. despite wearing a pretty dress. falls fast from elegance when her face turns sour as she complains about everything. God helps us with His grace! 5. It'ss easy to get offended when you've put in considerable effort in your manners but someone else has not. Manners are the result of a kind heart. looking gorgeous. conflict-avoiding way. as well as the most considerate. they can get quite ridiculous. Manners. Secondly. are a result of graciousness. Don't Get Offended By The Lack Of Manners Having manners is also about putting up with the lack of it in someone else. Etiquette is like the Law but it is not the law.Manners is NOT Etiquette The truth about manners . An Elegant Life The Art Of Elegant Living An elegant life . etiquette will follow. on the other hand.You first have to choose.
She may be occupied.Coco Chanel With this "framework" in mind. 3) Keep your house in order. simple yet splattered with meaning. we eliminate choices that are not meant to be and we'll no longer There are some general principles of an elegant life you can follow: 1) Choose quality. Leave all the cheaply poorly made stuff behind. nor is she flustered. First of all. Think about what is the MOST important to you in life and ensure your daily choices reflect that. "Elegance is refusal. She is patient and kind. you can pick out good quality for less. "How does she have it all put together?" It boils down to one simple principle: careful selection. 8) Learn to enjoy the simplest most authentic pleasures in life: a good book. Develop your own style. riding a bike. If you decide that you no longer wanted to be in a toxic relationship. but not busy. She never dreads her feet and finds meaning in her work. 7) Don't pay too much attention to fashion. Limit them to less than five. the best that you can afford.How do we live an elegant lifestyle? In my opinion. A lady is never in a rush. opt for the lesser paid job which allows you to work from home. Once you can do so. Learn to assess value of the item. 2) Minimise stuff. Have only one of everything. it is one which is uncluttered. if you wanted to spend more time with your children. 6) Be selective of the activities and hobbies you pursue. 4) Do not overload your schedule 5) Do things that make you happy. Do not buy anything until you have completely exhausted its use. For instance. minimize the time spent with that person and slowly withdraw yourself. some self reflection is a must. love. See 'How to be a Lady' One wonders. She always have time for her family and leisure but not too much time till she gets but bored. cuisine made from the freshest ingredients. and doesn't draw attention to herself. family and friends selective passionate hobbies." . 16 .
Pursue that nagging interest. So there in lies the art of refinement. 10) Go to church and grow spiritually. Neat. 12) Take up ballet or ballroom dancing. Learn to see the beauty in the world around you. It does wonders for your heart. Appearance Elegant Keywords: Clean. A new language.. loving the creation He has made and having a vision of the final completion . 13) Travel. Slowly. A refined person works on herself as God works like an artist. musicals etc. Always seek self-knowledge. His masterpiece.9) Choose your friends wisely. We can choose elegance. Look for friends with similar values. You. surely day by day. 11)Learn something new. 15) Appreciate the arts. in plays. Simple 17 . In children's art. The art of good stewardship. It is easy to get lost especially when we wear many hats. Tips On Elegance Quick And Easy Ways To Become Elegant Simple daily reminders about the choices we make. just pick a few subjects you love and passionately pursue a deeper knowledge of it 18) Cultivate a relationship with yourself. Take an online class. 16) Throw a party! If you are intimidated. a skill. 6. It does wonders for your posture. Traveling opens up mindsets and exposes us to culture where we can learn a thing or two. we still have to make a conscious effort to simplify and weed out the unnecessary. Spend some me-time. 14) Keep your finances healthy. Some tips on Elegant Entertaining 17) You don't need to know everything.. Despite the greater understanding and knowledge we obtain. throw a small dinner party for five.
Avoid harsh colours. too many photos or art work on the walls. Think positive things so that you'll wear a warm expression on your face. hold your head up in self respect and walk away. 2. 5. "I've been to Paris a million times!" vs "Yes. 6. say hello. Exaggeration is not pretty. When insulted. Pour your sorrows only to a very close friend. please and thank you. 9. Wear it in a neat chignon or ponytail. or fold your arms. That always works. Never praise yourself. speak as properly as you can manage. never slouch. Posture: Always stand up straight. dangling trinkets. Speech 1. 5. 18 . sharp-edged looking furniture. clean and add soft decorative elements. sit with your legs crossed. Be gracious when you encounter someone rude. Keep hair away from your face. 4. 8. 3.1. Greet. problems unless you are talking with your bestfriend. or scuffed and your clothes are ironed and has no stains. For a more in depth commentary on an elegant home. If in doubt. Without being stiff. 2. 7. 3. Or draw attention to yourself. click "Home" title of this section. wear a classic-styled dress in a neutral colour with small. I try to go there often because its one of my favourite vacation spots". Downplay your emotions. Dress appropriately according to occasion. Ensure your shoes are not dirty. pronounce your words clearly and avoid slang. Elegant Home Keep it simple. Remain positive and speak about only good things. elegant accessories. 4. Refrain from using vulgarities. Be friendly and remain light-hearted in conversation. Keep clutter out of sight! Avoid novelty items.
read. Pick an area of interest and develop on it. one watch. books. Learn to cultivate an eye for beauty. Set a once a week. Make time for that sport. One car. one camera etc. Learn a sport or two and pursue it passionately. Develop a shopping habit to only buying things of the highest quality that you can afford. Instead of going for the cheapest or most expensive item. Do not undermine the value of education. Have only one of everything as much as possible. This is to give an appreciation of the differences in people and countries. At least know one or two famous dishes from every country or culture. 3. Become an elite! Adopt A Sport 1. beautiful places. write about it. 19 . it expands your mind and broadens your horizons. Take classes. Train yourself to decipher value. Find friends to do those sports together as much as you can! Travel and Culture 1. fortnight.Buying Only Elegant Things 1. 5. Travel. That will help you buy things that you really need and things that complement the things you already have. Before you shop for clothes. Develop a more in depth knowledge of different cultures. 2. spend about five minutes looking through your wardrobe. 2. Discipline yourself to keep your possessions as sparse as possible. Learn about the cuisine of different cultures. 3. flowers. 3. 4. Pursue Education Take pride in getting educated. a month. Appreciate good design. learn to see which item is most value for money. Continually invest in your education. 2.
Start by taking initiative to organize dinner for your friends. As you gain more confidence playing the hostess. Be considerate. kindness. So I'll do so with the grace of God! 20 . Organize the emails. send out reminders. That knowledge increases your elegant self confidence. coffees at your house or in your garden. Always remember your greetings. It's not elegant to expect your guests to split the cost or mention anything about how much you've paid for the food and wine. 5. learn how to throw one! Its returning the social favour. 2. you'll be a lot at ease at yourself. 3. Always think about others before yourself. and never rude. compassion. book the restaurant. An Elegant Mind 1. 3. text messages. you can start by throwing teas. which is not quite natural to do so human-wise. do not talk to any one person longer than five to ten minutes. My personal suggestion is attend a good church. 2. Make your way around! 4. It is very flattering to others of that culture that you made the effort. Dress your best (appropriately). mingle. 4. find the host/hostess to offer your greetings and your gift. 2. 5. At a party. smiling with confidence. Acquire A Social Ease Among People 1. To get out of our comfort zone is to be sophisticated. It is more elegant to throw and (completely fund the party). Say goodbye to your host before you go Elegant Entertaining 1. Always fill your mind and heart with love. Keep it light-hearted. Introduce yourself or introduce others to each other. As you graciously go to parties.4.
6. 7. in the world around you. may you have many of them. Ask yourself. We leave you a tradition with a future. See past the faults of others. you will discover that you have two hands: one for helping yourself. its not a life emergency. and redeemed and redeemed and redeemed. If you are feeling a tad sour. Appreciate beauty. quality. 21 . For a slim figure. seek out the good in people. The tender loving care of human beings will never become obsolete. perfection and fine workmanship.3. you'll find one at the end of your arm. 5. renewed. walk with knowledge you'll never walk alone. Never ever rush. Never throw out anybody. speak words of kindess. revived. Your "good old days" are still ahead of you. share your food with the hungry For beautiful hair. be in a panic. let a child run his fingers through it once a day For poise. reclaimed. 4. the other for helping others. Be interested in others.com For attractive lips. As you grow older. 'what is the worst that can happen?' In most cases. look around you and tell 10 things about the room or the day that you like. People even more than things have to be restored. Time Tested Beauty Tips as recommended by your elegant ambassador Audrey Hepburn Audrey and her son Sean Used with permission from audreyhepburn. Remember. see the good in them. if you ever need a helping hand. See them through Jesus's eyes. For lovely eyes.
Two that struck me was that being a lady does not require wealth. Many women tell me they often feel fake. Ladies are Not Born. They are Made "Being a woman does not automatically make one a lady. Since one generation is equivalent to thirty to forty years. I believe it's best summarized by Candice Simpson. libraries and video. How To Be A Lady There are all sorts of theories on how to be a lady. acting and get over your blunders as soon as possible. The key to understanding of learning to how to become a lady is this: Learn through reading. But being a lady is more than that.7. Quite often celebrities and their movie/television characters are mimicked as reference points for ladylike behaviour due to their high visibility. Perhaps. that means it would take over 200 years for anyone to become a lady! Thankfully. Their friends also are unused to them. they are thinking of Scarlett O'Hara in victorian times and feel that they must go back to the style of dress in order to look ladylike and elegant. When change happens." The quicker we understand this. The other one is an Southern Texan saying that it normally takes seven generations to make a lady. often commenting that they have become too formal. with modern technology. What does being a lady mean to you? So many images are conjured in people's minds when they think about how to become a lady. That is simply the process of finding a new balance. though I must admit that I understand why it might take seven generations to make a lady. understanding. imitation. Tweak it.org to minimize the 200 time period. It is my goal on elegantwoman. adjust and you'll find the right balance as you change sooner than you think. unnatural when they try to develop ladylike behaviour. though historically there were a larger proportion of ladies among the wealthy. You feel uncertain. you'll often feel like everything is thrown off balance. who wrote How To Be A Lady A Contemporary Guide To Common Courtesy. Here is my paraphrased and abridged version: 22 . the less hard we would be on ourselves when we make mistakes or etiquette boo-boos. may feel nervous and wobbly. we can draw upon them for examples and study.
modified and passed down to us by our forefathers. It is the result of many years of trial and error. play the piano and sing. A lady knows that beauty and wealth can be fleeting.the subject . write. purpose and influence. Peasant girls treasure a hand-me-down bonnet and wear them on special occasions or when they go to town. but understanding the processes of how to be a lady is akin to pursuing a well-rounded education. connections or status they lack. Rihannaa. no matter how much money. which will produce greater happiness. Other girls who were fortunate to be educated at home pride themselves in learning and made effort to remember their manners. it is more fashionable to be like our modern day superstars. but her inner character is the measure by which others will ultimately judge her as a person. from higher education to the common sense manners. Fergie etc etc. empowers her to become a woman of accomplishment and poise. years of thought and philosophy and culture that was inherited. The Modern Lady In the past. women from all socioeconomic backgrounds wanted to be thought of as ladies. It is the fruit of a studied life. These studies of being a lady did not come without a price. depending of course on what you would like out of this life. appropriate dress and social mores have changed so dramatically that the definition of being a lady has left everyone confused. A lady by today's definition knows that educating herself in every way possible. She knows it is not her dress size or the money she possess that brings her satisfaction in life. Katy Perry. research and discoveries. Afterall. and her sincere words of praise and thoughtfulness will reflect her strong values and place her ahead in the minds and hearts of those who know her. draw. attitudes.org. 23 . as written extensively as anywhere on elegantwoman. Wanting to be ladies in modern day I know wanting to learn 'how to be a lady' in modern times may seem unnecessary and uncool. Her courtesies. I think we are sometimes too quick to discard the old and embrace the new. Servant girls served with dignity and tried their best to mimick the way ladies spoke and devoted their time to read by candlelight when their duties were over. Learning how to be a lady . Being thought of as a "lady" may be the one of the highest compliments a woman can receive in her life. the high esteem in which she holds herself and others.itself sounds old fashioned and grandmotherish. read. You might even get laughed at. fulfillment. Call it what you like.Manners.
A lady has to know all the rules of etiquette. being a lady helps you be decisive and assured of knowing how to go about your day. the more you bring out the gentlemanly side of the boys and men in your life. Misconceptions of Being a Lady Today. you'll feel more beautiful. Whether by conscious effort or instinct. Being a lady means you're old-fashioned and boring. She is not carefree and free-spirited. (On a side note. you'll be surprised about the reaction it evokes in others. Perhaps they become suspicious. When you ask nicely and gently. You will gain a relaxed sense of confidence. but you'll notice that even the dogs and cats like you more. hang out. I've known her all my life and I wish she can see that people are rude and mean to her because she was to them in the first place. 3. It is a great self-esteem booster! 5. You will feel secure in yourself. Here are some misconceptions of becoming a lady. 4. 6. However. 6. 8. YOu are gracious. 5. 2. I did tell her something similar (actually to stop being a freeloader because people are talking) and got booted off her friends list.The World of a Lady 1. A lady can't be fashionable. You won't feel the need to impress or respond to bad manners with the same tit-for-tat. The more you act like a lady. what to do in every situation. get around in life. It is also about choosing to believe the best in others and yourself. Being a lady is about being kind. She has to wear conservative looking clothes from the victorian ages. 2. I've stumbled upon a blog of an exfriend and she complains about how people are rude to her all the time. or who is a lady. or for someone who has no voice. Everyone seems to speak kindly and gently to you as you would to them. I know this might sound absurd. 4. Don't let this stop you! 1. 9. 24 . who she hangs out with or where they dine. Eventually you'll stop feeling like a fake. You'll start to feel like royalty whenever you go. A lady is elegant but not sexy. People will be relaxed around you and seem to like you. she doesn't like sports. holiday. Your husband or son might initially think there may be something wrong with you. A lady is boring. she doesn't say what she really thinks. Only grannies care about being ladies. Your world is generally a more pleasant place. A lady is so feminine.) 3. what it means to 'be a lady' is lost among the sea of messages of what one wears. an ease about yourself. just keep at it. because you've become a lady and you might even develop the courage to graciously stand up for something you believe in. 7. That is hardly accurate at all. what one talks about. When you feel like a lady. but you do not need to explain.
25 . How did teachings of "How to be a Lady Develop? Some say training women to become ladies originated from Royal Etiquette This is my version. instead of eating with our hands.pretty much in favour of what is beautiful. a lady should employ herself in personal grooming. the art of 'how to be a lady' has been studied. I suppose that is how cutlery had been developed.Read more misconceptions of Being A Lady and myths about elegance. as well as being a conqueror in life (meaning overcoming struggles and rising above difficulties). It seems that it all began with a little set of rules. They were guidelines on 'how to behave'. Back when kings and queens ruled the earth. due to social and technological advancement and the wide spread availability of education. Fun fact: A little bird told me that the first etiquette rule was in french and it meant 'stay off the grass'! Over generations. It is in human nature to prefer beauty over vulgarity. polished and refined perhaps starting in the royal courts and aristocratic circles which then trickled down to the masses and finally to us. Etiquette had developed alongside. With some basic observation and development of culture. True. dress well and learn etiquette. etiquette was written for people who lived in the royal courts. However if you are without a kind heart and thus without manners. a series of 'behaviour' had been encouraged and others been eliminated . A lady has usually given thought and also more or less developed an organized way to go about life. drawn from my research. The Essence of Being A Lady A Kind Heart and a Conquerer Being a lady is simply having extended manners such as always looking for a way to be kind and generous. people will see through the actions as being articial.
How To Be A Lady Character Wise
A lady remains composed. No matter what the situation, she tries her best to keep her composure and calm. She knows that no matter how she freaks out, it is not going to help the matter. Keeping her cool and calm enables her to employ her best action. A lady does not steal someone's thunder Upstaging the bride, turning the conversation to oneself or taking over the conversation, talking incessantly about herself or talking non-stop for that matter is not something she would do. She gives credit when credit is due, better yet, she gives away all the credit and singles out people who have made it a team effort. How to be a lady, then? If she has been to Italy many times, and someone who just came back from Italy for the first time, she does not take this time to share her experiences but very nicely asks, "Did you enjoy it?" and lets her talk about her experience. She does not have a know-it-all attitude. Despite her qualifications, she does not let her appearance communicate the "I-know-better". She keeps this to herself and retains a humble attitude. In fact, the more one knows, the more they are humble about it, because they understand that it is impossible for anyone to know everything or achieve it all. She does not make anyone feel less or stupid. A lady does not expect everyone to like her, think like her, agree with her or be friends with her. No matter how nice she is, she understands that about one in ten people she meets may not like her in the way she wishes. She goes about her business, still proceed to remain friendly and polite but does not go the extra mile to gain the friendship that is not wanted. How to be a lady? She also does not expect everyone to agree with her all the time or have the same values or thinking. She accepts individuality and respects personal choice. She is comfortable with differences.
She keeps her word. She respects deadlines and keeps them. She also remembers words no matter how friendly they are, are not to be taken lightly. She acknowledges that words have power. She knows that she can refuse to talk about anything if she doesn't want to. She also means what she says and she remembers her promises, even if the other party does not. She never talks too much about a subject. She does not bother go into too much detail, There is always a slight regret after one talks too much. She is formal in her emails at work. She writes in a respectful and business like manner, knowing that it is important to keep it short, to the point and make her requests clear.
She uses the subject in her email to allow someone to identify it immediately. She also leaves adequate contact details. Though blackberries and email-on-the-go are common these days, she does not assume that an email can replace an text message on the phone or a phone call. She does not expect a reply immediately and will wait up to a few days to re-send that email. She also understands that if it is truly urgent, she will not depend on email but will use the phone, make a trip to the office, or send a registered letter. At work, she is respectful to all she works with, and does not treat people differently according to rank and position within the company. She does not act like she works hard only when the boss walks in. She does not claim all the credit when she hands over a report, if the work has been shared. Neither does she speaks with positivity, smiles and energy to those above her, rudely and coldly, grumbling to those who work under her.
How To Be A Lady At A Party
At a party or a wedding, she does not talk about work or business or use the opportunity to make a sales pitch. It is never proper to hand out business cards at personal events of celebrations: a wedding, a Christmas party or a dinner party. It is not a place to do business, to network or gain clients, out of respect for your host. There is a place to do that. Never ask for a business card. If someone asks for yours, adhere to the request in a very quiet manner. If you do want to make the contact, suggest that the person contact the host to get your contact or say that you will contact your host to get their details. Though this is off-the-record and highly advised to use personal discretion, to get their full name and add them on Facebook. When meeting someone for the first time, stand to shake his/her hands. When being introduced, kindly stand so that everyone may see who you are. A lady is always a great guest at parties. She never arrives too early or late and always brings a gift. She dresses up and appropriately for the party. She never shows up with or as an uninvited guest to the party without first asking permission.
She socializes, gets acquainted with everyone and engages in pleasant conversations. She does not hog any guest or monopolize the conversations. She keeps her conversation light and friendly. She never asks to be shown around the house unless she is offered a tour. She never ventures into personal areas like the bedroom, bathroom other than the allocated party area. She doesn't take or touch things or be too friendly to help herself to the fridge (unless requested to). She sends a thank you note after the party. When invited to a party, she does not ask, "Who will be going?" This show a conditional acceptance and is not particularly gracious. It exhibits a self-absorbed focus instead of the appreciation of being invited. If you have some concerns, do find other ways and be tactful about it. She also rsvp as quickly as possible, with the view that her host will have an easier time planning. If she declines, she gives a straight forward answer instead of, "I'll let you know, I might be coming." (and often as it happens, the 'I'll let you know if I can come' 95% ends up as without any further response or attendance.) If you said you are coming, ensure that you be there. I cannot count the number of times I've heard very generous hosts complained she cooked for 20 but only 15 came. And as a horrifying result, some texted to say they cannot come at 9pm when the party starts at 8pm with very stupid reasons and many simply did not show. It is an incredibly inconsideration.
How To Be A Lady Socially
She asks permission before giving out the phone number of her friend. She also never calls anyone after 1030 pm and before 9 am, unless it is an absolute emergency. A lady knows her boundaries and does not overstep it. She does not call by first name unless asked. She does not turn up unannounced to someone's home. She never asks about what someone's home is worth, profit margin, or how much money they make or earn. She never makes an enquiry about how many people the other person in her company has dated, their sexual history or go into any intimate details. She also never asks how much something costs, amount spend per head at the wedding, where they bought it from, at least NOT directly.
no matter how many people are already at a party. but this is written only to encourage discretion and to be sensitive. resolve any issue etc. If they said that they will turn up. They show a committed.She knows that even if so-and-so is her bestfriend. How To Be A Lady When Travelling At a hotel. but does not persist relentlessly or to say something that makes the sales assistant feel uncomfortable and avoid her eyes. How To Be A Lady in the Art of Conversation A lady never interrupts someone mid-sentence. She also makes her request known clearly. she offers immediately to call them back after her social engagement. she cannot expect to gain that 'title' in return but is graciously happy when it is returned. she leaves the place as it was before. She is dependable when you make a social engagement with her. or keep nothing from her but respect her wishes. for example. If casual. She does not expect her 'bestfriend' to tell her everything. or a friend's house. or clean the sink if there are watermarks. she answers only if the call seems urgent and rings them back an hour later after the meal is over. she does not turns her phone to silent and does not take calls during a formal dinner. Depending on the formality of the situation. I certainly enjoy meeting up with these people and are very happy that most friends bear this trait. If she does take the call. I know when you are close to someone. 29 . P. She certainly does not chat. She tries to clear her rubbish.s. and calls her her bestfriend. A lady should never try to guess before someone speaking finishes her sentence and should never try to interrupt. neaten the place. if she could have the price brought down due to a defect. disciplined character with high integrity. How To Be A Lady With Integrity She does not cancel at every whim. they will definitely do. all the above does not matter. or having a meal with someone. How To Be A Lady With Your Phone During dinner. she does not chat on her phone.
drink or take some chocolate. There was one guy who looked at me straight in the eye and said. but at that time. She uses a memory game to ensure that she remembers their name. I learned to shut up and not apologize for anything.so when my friends found out that I had a cell phone. nor was comfortable being labeled as 'rich' and wanted to be like everyone else. no one had cell phones except the 'rich kids'. I was not rich (but had a generous mother). How To Be A Lady In The Company Of Others A lady makes an effort to remember names and pronounce them correctly. My mother insisted I carry a cell phone to school because she had bought one for me. Sooner or later. She repeats their names after being introduced to make sure she got them right. Simply say no and perhaps ask for something else. Sometimes we add on because we feel a little insecure or perhaps sense your friend wondering and would like to help out by answering before being asked.for myself at the local mall to avoid embarrassing questions to how much it cost etc. they asked to look at it.Although. people who talk too much. I'm bad with names." How to be a lady? From then on. I try my very best to relax and let the person continue chattering while I keep very quiet. She also never calls anyone after 1030 pm and before 9 am. do not listen as well.how my mother had a great discount etc. I sheepishly handed it over and proceeded to explain how I got it .faux leather . unless it is an absolute emergency. (I even kept my leather designer purse at home that my mother bought me on her business trip and bought an ordinary one . I never felt comfortable parading anything that other children didn't have . not to get an explanation. So take extra care to ensure you have communicated clearly. If you do not choose to smoke. A lady refrains from giving unsolicited explanations. She asks permission before giving out the phone number of her friend. ) From a young age. yet graciously responding. 30 . "I asked to see it. I know it in my heart that it is an excuse when I say. I had a humiliating experience when I was in my teens. I often notice as well. It is really not necessary to go on further. she will realize and give you room to speak. I do understand when we sometimes enter into conversation with someone who talks incessantly.
She never brags especially about luxury items if someone present might be struggling with a small income.Proper introduction: Introduce the younger to the older. have a child etc) 31 . Though I do not feel that we have to strictly adhere to this. She never says things to make other people feel small or says things to make only herself feel better. the man to the woman If there is rank. They could be due to the lack of income. A lady refrains from asking uncomfortable questions. for saying a wrong word etc. I never want others to ever feel how I felt and go through extra pains to never make anyone feel terrible about themselves. Even though it has been many years. She also never laughs or makes jokes at other people's expenses. a young woman of being laughed at. introduce the 'lower' rank to the one 'higher one'. "Have you lost/gained weight?" "Is it real?" (gold/diamond/designer goods etc) "How much did it cost?" "What grade/specs is your diamond?" "What happened to your face?" "What is that on your face?" (usually a very big pimple or a rash) "You don't remember me do you?" "Is that your boyfriend?" "When is it your turn?" (to get married. use your own discretion with this general guideline. Never assume that your friends know each other or have introduced themselves. How to be a lady? A lady never brags. Its better to encourage them. I can still recollect the painful memories when I was a child. She also quickly changes the topic after graciously saying her 'Thank yous'. for being too skinny. a teenager. of designer things. she makes light of her achievements when praised. lack of knowledge of clever things etc. lack of sophistication. I get laughed at my inability to speak fluent 'local' Mandarin.
If you need to speak privately. Send a sms message discreetly if you really must. She never whispers or points at someone and laugh. seethe. Both looking at a person.."Why did you get retrenched? What happened to your old job?" If you really have to ask. or look at your other guests and say. No one likes to do it. no matter how she wants to lash out at the offense. she accepts as graciously as possible and keeps her feelings in control. It makes the person of the subject very insecure. She never apologies if not in the wrong How to be a lady When She is Angered A lady never shouts or raises her voice. do so out of the view of others.. be incensed." or "I hope you don't mind me asking. And please do not use the age-old disclaimer. and it takes a humble spirit and strength of character to do so. "I don't mean to intrude. try your very best to speak privately. grit my teeth and keep my face calm when I do. if there are others in the room who cannot understand. She does not bring it up again and again. Its best to keep to topics where you can engage in speaking in the main language if there is someone else who only understands the basics. please try to be indirect or be sensitive that your friend might be uncomfortable or really does not want to talk about it. 32 . She makes the effort to move on. Whispering or cupping your hand over the person's ear is no no." She does not speak in another language to another person. Do not let the party go on with a constant translation . She never allows her face to be contorted with rage. How to be a lady when making mistakes A lady is not afraid of making apologies when she made a mistake. I need to explain what that means in Indonesian for her. excuse me for a bit. If you can't communicate in the general language of the party. I work on my character (or ask God to work on me!). then smiling and laughing out loud is also offensive.it is inconsiderate to the other guests. When being apologized to.
'Is this a good time?' Asking "When will be a good time to call?" is also excellent. Or if you need five minutes. She also does not insist that everyone must pray. She does not asks guests to pray acknowledging that not everyone is comfortable to and usually does it. "Now enough of that. and deals with the mishap in a composed. She knows that there is no point in arguing. affected. she wisely excuses herself or changes the subject for the moment. she is controlled and very smartly removes herself if she feels that she is about to snap. make that request clear. possibly enraged. running around the room or sitting on the floor. she does not allow herself to be embarrassed. When she said the wrong word. and says. she does so privately. How to be a lady when making a phone call When a lady calls first. She does not proceed to 'fake laugh' at her mistake and go on and on about it. 33 . makes a silly mistake. If it is a minute-long call. A lady never puts anyone on the spot. If she has to say something unpleasant. ask when you first call "Do you have a spare minute?" And do stick to that minute. dignified manner. She does not make guests place games at her parties especially if those games involve speaking in front of everyone. How to be a lady when she needs to direct. If she is having an intense discussion while the person perhaps is irritated. move away eye contact then strategically change the subject. A lady does not get embarrassed. in hopes of concealing her mistake. she ends the call too. you embarrass me!" Show a bit of unconcern and disinterest. She gives a generous smile at her offending guest. But perhaps a laugh or a smile and move on. near her tipping point and break out of control. or is the subject of 'jokes' by an inconsiderate friend who proceeds to tell of her dating history in at a dinner party. She knows how to cool herself down and knows its best to deal with the situation in a calm manner. She can always come back to it later when there is some time alone for each to think reflect. You may also say.In anger. She never singles out a person and ask direct questions especially in front of everybody.
It is vulgar to criticize. or might feel not so confident displaying their grammar.g. Although this is also a result of cultural differences. but people come with different personalities.Some people might be wearing dresses or is particular about dirt on the floor or have fears of public speaking. "hate". I do not like to subject my guests to games because I do not like assuming that they do like games! How to be a lady When Expressing Herself A lady does not complain or whine or nag. or have a poodle or intend to buy a poodle. They are so ugly. Or to use "I" too much. How to be a lady . or other rude words. I simply state my observations that at least half the guests are extremely uncomfortable. 34 . Obviously. or are shy. She does not use swear words and maintains composure in her words. "angry"(use annoyed or irritated). Vulgarity in language does not simply apply to swear words. She also does not preach about any subject. Although I have no qualms about public speaking as long as it is in the English language. play a game using any sort of intelligence or someone is put on the spot (unless they are children).this is perfectly acceptable. Limiting them is key. Or assume. or it is in a very intimate setting . It is sometimes vulgar to be too direct to the point where it is inappropriate. quick wit or creativity. Or to use "intense words" like. "I can't stand poodles.my personal experience I personally prefer not to have games where everyone stares at you in the room while you share something about yourself."ugly". How to be a lady With Personal Opinions She does not voice strong opinions on her likes and dislikes e. refrains from vulgarity in language. how many of us can actually say that we enjoy the conversations when someone is complaining or whining or nagging? A lady uses all the magic words. give strong comments on politics. if all of you have been friends a long time." She understands that the company present might actually like poodles. boast or speak of other people's personal problems to everyone.
She does not tell everyone that she has sponsored their family's holiday. "What is the brand of your jeans?" How to be a lady With Personal Favours A lady never asks for free help from professional friends and asks for help only if she fully expects to pay. If she allows her friend. It is integrity of the word. at cost price or even free. she is quiet about it and tries not to let anyone know. Discuss them with your mother. your husband. She does not make an announcement or spectacle of it. how much it cost. If the friend offers it free or a discount. she wants to pay full price to support her friends. another church. her restaurant to hold a party at a discount. or limit them as much as you can. How tempting this is but after I had my first business. neither does she make the person feel embarrassed or reminded of her generosity of the favour. or that she could have made more money if she did not allowed Kelly to use her restaurant. I also appreciated greatly when a friend insists on pay full price to support my growing business. "Goodness. She does not tell her this. If her friends are already doing well. I never found it very satisfying when the friend asks for the discounts first even though I had every intention to offer them a discount. She does not correct someone's grammar. pronounciation or laugh at the mistake. How to be a lady When Doing Favours For Others When a lady does a favour. another religion. paid for her new spa package or she invited them on their yacht. with all expenses paid. she does not make her friend feel that her party did not spend enough. Kelly. another race. Especially to people she does not know well. she may show her appreciation by recommending more friends. I know we are all humans and we have many strong opinions. 35 . Though she has the means. what is she wearing?" or ask. When I was touched by this gesture. She does not say things like. she accepts them graciously if she wishes. Write anonymously on a blog. and proceeded to do so the best I can. no matter what inconveniences it has cost her. I wanted to make this gesture mine.business. Do use great discretion when voicing them. no matter what disagreement she may have afterwards or if any argument has sufficed.
Sometimes. coughs. spills. or ruined some chairs. How To Be A Lady When Observing The Unpleasant A lady never points out negative observations about someone's manners. How To Be A Lady In Relationships A lady never points out or discuss mistakes. Leave in the past in the past and do not inquire about others. a person's unkempt appearance. she will not be invited again if she had be inconsiderate. did not pay etc. She understands that a friendship has to be two ways. She makes people feel at ease. knocks over the coffee cup. She does not stare or point no matter what. How To Be A Lady with Social Debt She is aware of social debt. It is hard because we ladies like to seek solace in one another and complain and compare to make ourselves feel better. 36 . If she accepts favours. She does not encourage more gossip. A lady never goes into details about her break-ups or her past relationships. does not want to know. the bad behaviour of someone's child. She does not make a gossipy interested face. she knows the favour has to be repaid.If Kelly made a mess. At least she wills herself to. one invitation followed by her issuing the invitation. It is none of our business. imperfections of her partner. She pretends to not notice at the child's bad behaviour. She repays social invitations by giving social invitations. but I do urge all of us. no matter how interested she is. She cannot be expected to be invited to parties constantly without inviting back. have a personal talk to her and not mentioning any of the above because the issue is separate. the state of her house or car etc. is never offended if they did not do as she would have done. talks with their mouth full. or sometimes for entertainment. within a light hearted conversation it is accepted. Obviously. faults. sneezes. She never stares when someone chews with their mouth open. knowing that she might have had a bad time at home before she came out. rude or un-appreciative. myself included to be considerate of how our partner would feel or if he does the same to us. never takes it personally.
She does not ask if she could. A lady does not feed other people's children. in public places. I know many mothers are particular about the germs and diseases hands carry from other people. She allocates proper time for her meals. 37 . She does not reprimand other people's children or correct their manners. Feel free to give your compliments though.She does not eat someone else's food without permission. if she must remove her shoes. She brings a pair of fresh socks to wear on the plane. or wave. She refrains from doing so. eat while walking. she does not remove her shoes unless she does so to wear the 'bedroom slippers' they have provided. A discreet quick application of lipgloss or lipstick is quite acceptable though it is advised to make sometime to go to the ladies. even when offered. she focuses on the person's counterance. driving. That is of course. the package of sweets you have in your bag. so do be considerate of the different standards of cleanliness and refrain from it. Some mothers do not allow certain types of toys or toys made of certain types of material. She also does not hog armrests. sits down and eats at a table. She does not put make up in public places. She is considerate how feet sometimes might smell and is diligent to do so. She also does not teach them. touch them or play with them unless invited to do so. She eats slowly and chews. Giving gifts to children: Do check with the mother if it is appropriate. Check first with the mother. not in front of television. One may give the occasional smile. She understands that eating is a private action and does not stare or look at someone when they eat. She does not eat on the go. her/his eyes and not how she/he eats. when having a meal together. Do ask if you are in doubt. All mothers have their own ways or philosophies of how their children should be brought up or what they should be taught. Do not feed anyone's children with your food. on the bus. On the airplane. unless it is a picnic.
or photos that will get their friends in trouble with their partners. pointless videos of herself or any thing to boast .How To Be A Lady Final Bite Sizes Netiquette On Facebook. she can simply untag herself. Neither does she ask very personal questions by that way. rather than plagued them with incessant photos of her model-make-over poses. Nor does she depend on it as if it were email or the phone. Though it is personal choice. her baby. A lady does not upload vulgar photos on Facebook. She does not expect her friends to log into Facebook regularly or to read her messages to them quickly. She does not post embarrassing photos of her friends. She also does not use vulgarity freely or join groups that have vulgarities in their Names of descriptions. She also does not type her comments on Facebook walls. or other social networking site A lady does not add every possible acquaintances even those she has only met for 5 seconds unless she genuinely would like an acquaintance with that person. The key here is to do so in moderation. photos of compromising positions.assuming that people are indeed interested in the details of her life. How To Be A Lady With Designer Goods A lady uses designer goods subtly 38 . She may ignore them if they are picky and simply do not like the photo because they think they look fat. photos of sexual items used as jokes . especially if everyone is in the picture. she does not upload every single photo of her life. She chooses her photos wisely and sees Facebook albums as a way of sharing her photos with her friends. photo albums that may reveal something her friend wishes it to be private. her wedding.if you really have to. make it a private album . She does not it it replace her social life. She adheres to her friend's requests as much as she can if for instance they do not like their photo. She also does not feel obligated to approve every request. red drunken faces (unless they are happy and tasteful).
she keeps a straight face calmly say thank you. She also ensures they are not dirty or scuffed. There is always something very frugal and sensible about a lady. while she is young. she does so quickly and discretely. There is something ethereal about her. How To Be A Lady And Sexy She does not wear clothes that makes others blush. A Lady does not behave inappropriately. For instance. she either wears a nude set or a camisole. She also wears the right shoes for the situation. If it is too translucent. a dark coloured underwear with a white blouse. How To Be A Lady With Luxury A lady does not have excessive things and neither does she place too much value on materials. In unfortunate event. If someone points it out to her. she excuses herself to the bathroom or if that option is not possible. wear certain types of jewelry upon occasion. you can tell where her values lie. too revealing. She does not go and spend on every single thing or is always concerned about the latest fashions. she buys the highest quality she can afford and will only replace them if they cannot be used any longer. she knows it may not be as adorable as it used to be. If she buys things. never high heeled shoes when hiking (which I have witnessed before in Hawaii). jumping up and down in delight at age 45. 39 . gadgets etc. running down the hills when she is older. she does not adorn herself with designer logos all over her clothes. Too sloppy. but the older she is. She also knows when it is appropriate to wear or carry a certain bag. She does not adjust her straps in public. for instance.While she enjoys and appreciates the finer things in life and may like designer goods. too high fashion or wild in expression or anything that calls negative attention to herself is something she will never do. her shoes. Nor does she talk much about materials. It grows with age. and excuse herself to the bathroom. she may get away with some things. She does not wear clothes revealing any hint of undergarments. bags and have such logos dangling from her ears.
She also knows that putting her bag on the floor may cause her to bag to transport germs and bacteria home. A lady always knows that the larger the purse or bag. It is as fundamental as brushing teeth.How To Be A Lady Keeping Up Appearances A Lady takes care of herself and her appearance all the time. it is wise to discipline ourselves to only take what we need. she goes to a salon to get them all in her natural colour. If she no longer want to sport a colour very different from her natural colour. clean and neat. A lady pays attention to her roots when she colours her hair. she either keeps a simple cut with clear nail polish or simply short. How To Be A Lady At Functions With Dresscodes A lady understands all the dresscode. She however does not ask if she could bring a guest at someone's wedding. Whether it is being late for an appointment with the spa. She does not wear anything to upstage the bride. She will find a way to do this. a change to the reservation at a restaurant or to check if the appropriate attire at the opera.) 40 . it is loud and clear. the less elegant or formal it is. anything too revealing as though she was going to a club (she does not wear anything too revealing period. guest. How To Be A Lady With Her Appointments A lady makes the effort to call and check as soon as possible. she calls to be considerate. A lady also keeps her eyebrows trimmed. A lady takes her of her nails. If she cannot afford the resources or the time to have them done all the time. Depending on circumstance. shaped and body waxed where it is seen. the less elegant. A lady knows the more revealing of her feet of the shoe. after marriage and after she has a baby. If her invitation says. To take too much sometimes exhibits a sense of laziness to be thoughtful of our circumstances.
elegant look that is timeless are quite simple. She does not take calls at a wedding and attempts to chat. She does not say. She appreciates that they thought of her. A lady never gives a thoughtless gift. She does not wear denim to a wedding. "Lets do lunch. she smiles and bears it. If she receives one. But they can be learnt." She understands that it is their responsibility to contact her. let's do lunch or have coffee but never makes the effort to do so two days later. At the movies. She does not take someone's phone number without the intention to call. She doesn't say. *** to be continued ***** Timeless The Art of Elegant Style Fashion Timeless Quote on Style . There is of course. a more sophisticated elegance whose taste you will eventually develop. 41 . How To Be A Lady With Integrity A lady never says what she doesn't mean to do or follow up. or a gift she doesn't like too much. at a wedding. its influences and nail down styles that never go out.When Christian Dior was asked 'what is key to good dressing?' He said. I'll call you later and not call. If someone says to her. at a meeting. grooming and good taste . 'There is no key! If there were it would be too easy. rich women could buy the key and all their fashion worries would be over! But simplicity.the three fundamentals of fashion .She knows "Formal" or "Black tie" means long dresses and gowns and she does not wear cocktail dresses to a formal event. but for starters. at dinner. The basic principles of achieving a beautiful. we will stick to simple clean lines and focus on quality. She may make the first move but also understand that not everyone says what they mean.' How does Audrey Hepburn look so timeless? How do designs become classic? We take a look at fashion. A lady knows when to turn off her cell phone. even though it is discreet. by rich and poor alike.cannot be bought.
Develop your own customized skin care and hair care range. try to have minimum make up. There is always something very cohesive. Clean Neat Graceful in appearance.Note: You needn't go out and spend a tonne of money. Go for a more natural look in the day. and heavier at night. "For all her chic thinness. neat and in place. She is Neat and Clean She is neat as well as clean. VI. An timeless look is always freshly laundered. V. a soap and lemon on cleanness. Keep it simple. You'll always notice her before her dress. pay attention what works for you and be disciplined about it! As for make up. soft. ethereal look about a woman who is elegant. according to occasion. these baby steps are simply SLIGHT changes. It looks effortless and perfectly gentle. It is impossible for someone who to be elegant without being immaculately groomed. She also dresses appropriately. IV. elegant woman is always I.Truman Capote. a rough pink darkening on her cheeks" . VII. Keep your look fresh and updated. She gives you nothing to question or frown about. III. elegant Style to pay attention to your personal grooming! Remember not to get overwhelmed. Prefers timeless. I love how this quote describes. subtle. Here are the grooming basics: Skin Care. Has a pleasant appearance and expression. classic styles. nails. How is Your Personal Grooming? The first steps to achieving a timeless. have a clean face. An elegant woman is more materiallyrestrained than we realize. and smell fresh (from having showered and not reeking with perfume). See Make up Tips. Hair The very very least. I find that unless you are a make up artist. Make Up. Wearing quality clothes. she had an almost breakfast-cereal air of health. Breakfast At Tiffany's 42 . Wear fresh clothes always. Basic Elegant Style Principles An timeless. II. rounded. Clutter is not good for your well being.
but I've found a small collection of clothes works well! I've since realized that I very much enjoy the simplicity of only having a few pieces. dress it up or down. even though I've listened to countless gurus telling me that Less is indeed more. Minimize Quantity of Your Clothes My personal story with my wardrobe I've discovered this 'Less is More' theory on my own. Of course. So only buy what you love. So an elegant dressing and shopping rule of thumb is to hold out for the quality stuff. it lasts for a long time and may end up to be cheaper because you get more uses of each item. at least for me. It pays to have the very best that you afford. and that we need more of this or that. when I stop buying clothes I'm only half satisfied with. When you really love an item of clothing.net for helping me get the housework done and clutter gone! There are several great cookbooks for the messy planner. there is help out there for you! For example. I seem to find it easier to work out my wardrobe. I love Flylady. buy only what you love and do more with less. Good quality is not an extravagance. But the truth is.Your facial expression and peace is also affected by how you run your life. If you are not born organized. You get dressed much quicker and you become more creative to work with what you have! 43 . It pays to get better at being neat and clean. Are you always in a mad rush? I'm sure we all try to be neat and tidy in more ways than one. They affect our self confidence more than we realize. you'll find yourself wearing it over and over. I know it is natural to think that we have never enough. Quality Quality is essential to elegance. mix and match. many women dream of having a different thing to wear for everyday of the year. Aim for quality over quantity. My ideal wardrobe is to have 10 really good pieces that I can wear over and over.
those clothes that are too big or small for you. her jewelry cleaned. (See Wardrobe Refashioning Step One) Shopping Well She knows her boutiques. 44 . she knows herself well. What is a Wardrobe edit? It a de-cluttering of her collection. how they wear it and the process of getting dressed. That does not mean they they spent the most money nor time getting dressed. that she no longer loves or has too many of. edit that wardrobe! Ruthlessly discard all that is not elegant. brands and fabrics well. shoes re-soled and polished. A final note. those that you haven't touched in two years. Analyze your wardrobe. it is true that when someone is very fashionable. She maintains her clothes and does an edit every three to six months. designers. get buttons and loose zips repaired. Most important. She knows what is her elegant style and what she looks good in. The elegant woman also maintains her wardrobe. Begin to discard anything that does not fall under the 'elegant' category.You can start re-building your ideal wardrobe now. Get the repairs done. Planning is essential to an elegant woman's wardrobe. A wardrobe that works is a wardrobe that has been well thought out. Edit Your Wardrobe Start today. How does she maintain her wardrobe? She routinely bleaches her clothes to ensure the whitest of whites. It consists of giving away clothes that does not fit. Do you have your basics? Do you have the right accessories? Do you commit any of these bad fashion faux pas? Wardrobe A Classic Wardrobe Essentials The best dressed women are often those who devote the most thought into what they wear. she is not quite elegant.
She prioritizes good quality and fit over high fashion trends. for the apparel oft proclaims the man. A Well-Dressed and Appropriate Wardrobe Because an elegant woman seeks understanding first. Good Dressing Quotes Costly thy habit as thy purse can buy. She understands her lifestyle and the kind of events she is involved in. If you met someone who was dressed and groomed in such a manner that you could not relate to them. She is never over dressed or under dressed. She understands that she has to keep her collection of clothes in a tight quantity in order for her to remain well-dressed within a reasonable amount of time and enables her to be punctual. She does not have too many shoes. or when there is a change in lifestyle (a baby. elegant woman too? Check out elegantwoman. rich but not gaudy. .unknown.Shakespeare Clothing identifies who you are in your world. but not expressed in fancy. . she knows that the most important person in fashion is herself. She is one that does not have too much. It shows you the step-by-step process of a 45 . a new job etc) she re-evaluates her wardrobe. no matter where she shops. you'll never find inappropriate clothes in her wardrobe. She does not buy clothes she thinks will impress others. Whenever there is a change in seasons. She is appropriate.and your life will change. tailoring her wardrobe to her lifestyle. nor too many of the similar items. Despite her love for designers. she always has enough good quality clothes that enable her to be well dressed. . She dresses according to the occasion. then planning.Ginie Sayles Change your appearance and change what you do with your time . you would never know if the person had a heart of gold or not. You are more in control than you think. Want A Wardrobe Refashioning Make Over? Do you desire the wardrobe of a well-dressed.She will never buy something that isn't her. takes an inventory to prepare for the new season.org's Wardrobe Refashioning page. She learns to have a eye for good clothes.
get rid of it!) 11.Robert Louis Stevenson Take everything out from your current wardrobe. Throw out 1. Bags that have lost their shape 13. We will now give your wardrobe the fresh start it needs. Clothes that have rips in them 8. Clothes that clearly have been washed too often 9. skirts.wardrobe overhaul and teaches you how to build an elegant basic wardrobe. Scuffed shoes 12. Clothes with unremovable stains 10. 5. Clothes that are faded (no matter how trendy you think they are) 7. or do not fit properly 3. Bags that are beyond repair 46 . Cheap looking clothes (if you think it might look cheap. pants change according to fashion trends). including those sitting in boxes. Clothes that you don't wear anymore because they are too long or short (we all know lengths of blouses and the waist lines of jeans. Clothes that are too big or small. A wardrobe that works! Wardrobe Refashioning Step One Wardrobe Edit & Discard The most important art is to omit . Clothes beyond repair 2. Clothes with holes 6. Clothes no longer in fashion 4. drawers.
Cut all loose threads dangling from your clothes 2.unknown. You are more in control than you think. Come back here when you have done this. Costume jewelry that looks dull and fake Repair 1. If you do not know whether it fits. do not procrastinate. accessories that have gone out of style 16. If you haven't visited that box in six months. it is unlikely that you love it. If you have difficulty giving it away. Wardrobe Acquiring Your Basics Refashioning Step Two After pruning and editing your wardrobe. you'll have to figure out if you have your 'Everyday Basics'. When sorting. Getting The First Step of Wardrobe Refashioning Done Do it now. "Salvation Army".and your life will change. so do it in intervals of ten minutes. You might take a while. What are your Everyday Basics clothes? 47 . All done? Let's Proceed to Wardrobe Refashioning Step Two: Acquiring Your Basics Change your appearance and change what you do with your time .14. Repair all those missing buttons 3. Hats. You'll be amazed at what you can achieve. do not try it on! This is the first basic round. Fabric bags whose fabric looks dirty and are beyond the wash 15. Bleach those whites that have gotten dull Give away anything you haven't worn in the past two years. . put it in an box marked. just seal it (without looking in it) and drop it off at the nearest Salvos.
If a girl loves Stileto heels because she loves the way her legs look in them. Buy only 48 . he is an accountant working in an corporate office down town. grey pants etc. your Everyday Basics clothes would be white blouses. it often is a waste of money and closet space. and everytime he goes into a Snowboarding shop. Not Enough Everyday Basics clothes You can tell the kind of priorities someone has by the what they spend on. If you are a stay home mother. I've met someone who was crazy over Snowboarding. Do you always feel a slight tinge of embarassment when you open the door of your house. An elegant woman is elegantly dressed all the time. your clothes could be silk blouses and capri pants. Take some time to think about your everyday basics. Did he need that many Snowboarding Tshirts? Not exactly. Such is 'aspirational shopping'. How to know if you do not have enough of the Everyday Basics? 1. Do you feel daggy? Or too casual? If you work from home. Take that shopping with you and be disciplined. if you work. Your Everyday basics depends on your lifestyle. she'll realize she can look better at work and feel better. There are girls who buy expensive and glamourous clothes. or when you have chance meeting with your friend? 4.This is the category of clothes the clothes you wear in your everyday life. You'll end up having more things to sort out and deal with the guilt of its less than optimal use. While there is certainly nothing wrong with that. For instance. She spends hundreds of dollars on them but would only part $20 for a pair of shoes she wears to work everyday. Do you have a hard time finding something to go with tops or bottoms? 3. If she had put more thought into her Everyday Basics wardrobe. bags and shoes but do not really have too much of a social life. he'll come out with a new T-shirt. Everyday basics should be clothes that can be worn like a uniform and throughout the year. They aspire to that lifestyle. especially in most of the days. Make a little virtual wardrobe or scrapbook of clothes you love to wear everyday. Do you take too long to get dressed? 2. house dresses and negligees are important. There is also another reason why people have too many items of one thing and not enough of what they really need. black skirts. And this can be applied to your clothes as well.
and you'll be on your way to building an elegant wardrobe that you love! Come back here when you're done with this step. After you get dressed. VIII.what you have mapped out for yourself. You have a random pair of shoes/bags/pair of earrings that never get worn because they never go with anything you have. 3. 2. Taking a long time to get dressed (past forty five minutes). First make a list of ALL activities and Social events that you attend in your life.Matching Your Clothes to the Lifestyle You have. You find it hard to match your clothes. 6. you leave the house feeling insecure and don't feel good about yourself. An Analysis of your Lifestyle must be done. You wonder what your friend will think of you because you are wearing the same outfit the last time you met her. VI. 4. 9. Your lifestyle may consist activities of I. All done? Let's Proceed to Wardrobe Refashioning Step Three: Analyzing Your Lifestyle . You have a feeling that what you are wearing are too worn out and should not seen outside the house. IX. You wish you were wearing something else but it was in the wash. 10. VII. 5. Cooking Cleaning Running errands School Office work Retailing duties Meeting friends for coffee Exericse Church Weekend gatherings 49 . 7. III. bags and accessories. 8. X. V. Make some effort. You find yourself shopping for a new outfit whenever you have to go to an event. IV. This guide to a basic wardrobe has to be studied so you'll never again feel like the above. You don't feel appropriately dressed (because you have nothing else). How do you know if your wardrobe works for you? Do You Often Feel like You've Got Nothing to Wear? A wardrobe does not work if you find yourself often in these situations: 1. In a constant state of "I don't have anything to wear". II.
for example. E. VII. but you may wish to map out your own guidelines and structure your wardrobe. VI. Have different drawers for different categories of clothes. and not enough of linen pants for your elegant casual weekend. A different outfit for every weekend for about two months! If work from home. The purpose of this 'Guide to a basic wardrobe' exercise is to know what you have. a pair of stilettos when you only wear them once a week for cocktails. Career/Work Wardrobe Daytime Wardrobe Evening Cocktails. 'Weekend Wardrobe'. If you work five days a week. I. Some ideas: 1. capris or sleeveless dresses making 5 outfits. You may want to further categorize your clothes into categories. compare them to your current wardrobe and fill in the blanks. V. 'Cocktails/Dates Wardrobe' etc. 2. you could have possibly 5 to 15 outfits. white blouses. 'Work Wardrobe'. Elegant Gowns Sportswear Housedress (what you wear at home) Negligees (what you wear to bed) Mapping Out your wardrobe The guide to a basic wardrobe is to map out your wardrobe. (Note that outfits refer to combinations.Analyzing your wardrobe As you look at what you have. III. After mapping things out. you can wear a few 'uniform' pieces. Buy five pink satin hangers and use them to separate your clothes into sections 50 . you may find you have too many of something. IV. II. skirts. so actual pieces of clothing could be less.g.Once that is done Organizing Your Basic Wardrobe Separating them into sections for different activities help you get dressed better and quicker. though not necessarily. These wardrobe guidelines are not absolute.) Your weekend wardrobe can range from having 8 to 12 outfits.
You will not cause someone to ponder. friends. In fact. a lookbook is effective. scuffed shoe. "Gosh. Some examples are unconcealed red patches on the face. 2. A few different ways to create lookbooks 1. or "Did you see those dirty fingernails?" Personal grooming is about presenting yourself in the best possible way. Tip: Always lay out what you are going to wear the night before. "The cornerstone of elegance must be represented by a bar of soap. Today we have help from many places. bad designer knockoffs. a weak collar.Make a Lookbook Some of you are extremely creative and as long as you have sufficient options. you can whip out a fabulous new outfit. run in the stockings. 51 . beauty counters. take out those photos and 'match' them together." Maybe from her time. magazines. faded clothes etc. Whether or not you are creative. she looks so pale". It enables you to 'see' the outfit before trying it on. clothes that are not ironed. It is simply impossible to not know at least a little about grooming. untidy hair and make up. When you are mixing and matching. Take a snapshot of yourself whenever you are wearing an outfit you feel good in. you may not have the time in the morning to do trial-and-error in front of your mirror. Someone once said. Take a snapshot of everything you own and put them into categories. so you won't be stressed out in the morning! Personal Grooming For An Elegant Lady Self Grooming is not about vanity. a bar of soap was all she had. It minimizes efforts to 'put things back'. Bad personal grooming can be spotted a mile away. flip the lookbook. Others. a dirty. dirty fingernails or chipped nail polish. proper grooming takes the 'spotlight' away from yourself. It tells people what you think of yourself.
This is for those who enjoy doing their hair. Exercise affects your core muscles and gives you good posture. establish a skin care regime that works for you. tidy and elegantly styled. You should wash your hair every other day. Check out some Sophisticated Hairstyle videos. You can wear it up or down. you might view my Sophisticated Hairstyle Gallery for more ideas. even complexion. Also. tie up in a casual pony tail or leave it as it is. combing your hair or attempting to tie your hair in public. we all have moments in our lives when we are battling zits. exercise regularly. A medium long to should hairstyle is the most versatile. Other basic good skin care tips are to wear sunscreen. Good hair etiquette also means never scratching your head. If you do not have good skin. opt for a low maintenance hairstyle. be sure to get your roots down regularly. That reason is good enough to engage in exercise! I know when I'm not getting enough exercise when I start to slouch. Find a hairstyle that suits the shape of your face. Also consider your lifestyle. Naturally. 52 . Elegant Hair Personal Grooming for hair means that hair should be clean. A good concealer helps mask those imperfections as a spotty face is distracting. Body Exercise and Posture You can tell when a woman applies personal grooming to her body when she takes care of it. neat. My stomach muscles become weak. If you wear a different colour to your natural hair. straighten it or curl it. sleep well and drink lots of water. If you have a fairly busy schedule. when choosing a hairstyle.Face Good Skin A person with good personal grooming always seem to have clear.
hair from your legs. or coated with a clear protective coat. The way she walks. Her movements of her body. stands and her eyes lit up as she walks towards the person waiting for her. Have someone videotape you or take up some ballroom or ballet lessons to improve on how you move. She pauses. 53 . I've always believed that your desires will teach you want you want to know. I feel being poised is not just having composure. In general. underams. looking disheveled. you build your self-esteem and confidence because you feel good about yourself.have a lot of style. Ideally. but dignity as well. Pay attention to your gestures and movement. not to mention the harm to health. not clothes you are trying to fit into. You feel better when you find the clothes you want to wear. From my study. Though poise is a fruit of elegance. Dirty fingernails are a rude shock. Fret not. A poised person has elegant mannerisms. You can't help but watch as she gets out of the car. You be poised without necessarily being elegant. I believe elegance and poise comes together. carries herself is fluid and gentle. Move with grace.. The most elegant look is the French manicure. yet strong and purposeful. smiles at the doorman. It is a graceful and elegant bearing in a person. you can be composed even though you've walked into an important meeting late. neat and healthy. because they look clean. It is just like. In other words. talks. and say thank you. She is unaware of the impact of her presence at the atmosphere of the room.When you exercise. Whether nails should be long or short depends on your lifestyle. You sometimes can't take your eyes off a woman with poise. bikini lines should be removed at all times and your upper thighs and arms too if your natural body hair is long and dark.. your nails should be polished or buffed. So what is the definition of Poise? Poise is composure and dignity of manner. Hair Removal I have some girls writing to me about how their mothers never taught them grooming and are bad examples themselves. She walks to the front door already opened for her. you have to learn to be elegant first. Nails Personal grooming for nails means they should always be clean and shaped.
or being unrushed or beauty of sitting still. though I can't remember where it was from. looking at her watch or letting her eyes wander. do you acquire poise? Study the lessons of elegance so that you will maintain an attitude of grace and composure. and she was coming the other way. She seemed oblivious to the frenzy. walking quickly. clunky. improve your posture! Posture plays a big part in the visual element of poise. If someone is standing across her. And definitely. It is one of the signatures of a beautiful and elegant woman. I turned a corner. Developing poise takes time. This became an abiding image for me of celebrity containment. How then. 54 ." The opposite of Poise? You can spot a mile away. surrounded by a pack of photographers and journalists. :) Develop Poise For Beauty and Grace How can we develop poise? Poise in a woman is a beautiful thing. to the babble and camera flash: the expression on her face was remote and introspective. Remember the definition of Poise Poise is composure and dignity of manner and graceful and elegant bearing in a person It is definitely a much more achievable goal when we break it down like that. Wouldn't it be the best to look graceful from every angle? And we will be free from awkwardness. ugly gestures.My Favourite Quote About Poise I came across this passage in an article once. I liked it so much I saved it. awkward. stumbling. one must study herself and increase awareness of how she communicates through her movements. without fidgeting. It embodies the essence of poise. Poise is the beauty of being in the moment. Clumsy. If she stirs her coffee. "I almost ran straight into her in the lobby of a French hotel. of self-protected glamour wrapped in a bubble of poise.. If only we could do it all today! To develop poise. she does it quietly. she listens politely and attentively.
This process is like we are "untraining" our bad habits to develop ones. composure and dignity of manner 55 . performing. The only way to combat that is to practice. History of Poise Development All princesses has a "Deportment" trainer in all aspects of social graces. 16 She was taken to King Xerxes in the royal residence in the tenth month. We can see its existence from the book of Esther in the bible. sit. act confident and don't worry about the mistakes you've made. do so! There are more to pagents than winning or beauty. So he set a royal crown on her head and made her queen instead of Vashti. personal grooming. in the seventh year of his reign. It is 'muscle memory'. stand. did you watch that? This trainer has existed since a long time ago. but Esther remained humble. They are great opportunities for us to learn a thing or two about developing poise. move. Just like in the movie The Princess Diaries. for all his nobles and officials. These days. And she won the favor of everyone who saw her. winning or losing. In the past. even during Biblical times. 18 And the king gave a great banquet. the month of Tebeth. and she won his favor and approval more than any of the other virgins. social graces and how to handle sticky situations like being put on a spot. She won the King with her poise! Definition of Poise: graceful elegant bearing in a person. The traditions of this schools are dying out because they are expensive and not held in high regard like they were once did.While you develop poise. if you have an opportunity to enter yourself or your daughter to beauty or glitz pageants. walk and even dance. She will learn to carry herself. It is also the body's habits that we 'untrain' to walk. He proclaimed a holiday throughout the provinces and distributed gifts with royal liberality. 17 Now the king was attracted to Esther more than to any of the other women. Esther's banquet. sometimes we can feel very self conscious. young women went to charm school or finishing school to learn how to sit. Imagine being singled out for royal treatment? Other girls turned into a diva.
she worked on terribly hard to remove her country accent. Pass them on. who devoted their lives to beauty and art of the woman form.. these birthdays. It is the tradition of celebration! I agree that it seems commercial . A life fulfilled is a life shared. The Benefits of Elegant Entertaining If you have moved into a new town. it's a good way to meet new people and introduce yourself to the new community. I remember all my parties. it is shown how the little geishas-in-training learn how to develop poise. Learning how to develop poise is like learning to put make up on but for the body! While you put make up to present your best face forward. because she wanted to elevate herself. While we don't have to train ourselves to please and entertain men. poise is putting your personal best presentation to the world. the book and the movie.. it is an elegant skill. In the movie. if I did not have these little celebration dates. Create rituals of celebration. and gather your loved ones. but celebrations are just an organized way of making sure you lavish all your attention on one person at least once or twice a year. Christmas. anniversaries. valentine's day. Spend time. Secondly. That is why companies set aside an entertaining budget for team building or gaining clients You'll leverage your time by meeting all your friends at once.Imagine training for one year for beauty and poise? Grace Kelly begged for a voice recorder at the age of 18 from her father. the take-away message developing poise is that we can do this just for ourselves. it allowed us to peek into this fascinating old world of women. they are creating memories. Elegant Entertaining Inspirations Why should we learn how to entertain? Firstly. acting as the trainer. You'll create a memory. They give an excuse to take fabulous photos too! 56 . which is more than enough. Cook. She is now an icon of eternal elegance and poise. They would practice siting and then getting up from seating position. In Memoirs of a Geisha . "Not like a horse" Michelle Yeoh. It is also a way to enrich your business networks and relationships. drink. Memoirs of a Geisha . would say. eat. I once asked myself. not money on materials on holiday traditions. would I have made the effort to give attention to all these important people in my life? Probably.
It is also a good motivator to tidy up the house! As your dinner party looms close. A good conversationalist is not to be a naturally a chatty person either. See How To Be At Social Ease Be an elegant and great host! Don't forget to dress up! On The Art of Conversation The Good Conversationalist From Emily Post Manners. you'll find yourself going that extra mile your house needs. Forget the plastic cutlery and paper plates. Most of all. Forget the six-packs of beer and economy-size of chips. it is not essential to have a wide vocab or have lots of experiences. forget effortless. Conversation is a two way street. sloppy parties! Make a commitment to that today. It's a give and take. Serve yummy food and drinks. there need not be any logical reason to celebrate . As Debra Ollivier says.to clink glasses in a simple fete! Elegant Parties Your party hosting is also about presenting yourself. Contrary to popular belief. And please forget parties with no music or decorations. See ideas of Elegant Dinner Recipes Set elegant table decorations Graciously handle embarrassing situations. Create the an elegant atmosphere. Extend elegant invitations. But how often it is that it's all "take" or all "give"! 57 . You want to do it in a tasteful way. How To Be An Elegant Host Create a guest list.
but my personal experience is. don't fret if you identify yourself above. or do not relate. The one who has no opinion.) The Golden Rule To Refrain From Being A Pest or Bore Stop and think.Self Check Time! We've all see the WORST types: The one who never stops talking. so you're already on your way! It is the power of knowledge. The one who interrupts." If you can't think of anything to say. Audrey Hepburn said her mother told her "I" in conversations is boring..when talking to strangers. Emily Post Manners says if you dread meeting strangers because you might feel awkward without anything to say. Now. The point of the page is to learn to be a good conversationalist. The one who always argues. don't panic. Don't Panic! While not all of us are extroverts and are natural in the social scene. Just one response at one time. "That's an interesting point to buy some time. After that. you can develop or branch off to a 58 ." Don't worry about the rest of the conversation.. The one who gives mono answers. Not from Emily's Post manners. remember to ask general questions and don't be afraid of pausing or saying. "Most conversational errors are committed not by those who talk too little but by those who talk too much. the best approach is to ask a few general questions. The one who asks too many questions. The one who sounds rude (and is probably rude). ALL of us have been one of them at some point or another. Your turn to speak never comes. Don't Be Afraid To Pause Emily Post Manners say there is a simple guideline which one can live by and refrain from being a pest or a bore: (Which I think is pretty funny. "Hmmm". by the way.
a vacation. Don't linger or try to make a friendship out of a new person. Throw the ball in their court . clarity and intelligent choice of subject. Otherwise. More Listening Listening In the Art of Conversation Really listen. Rely on sincerity. at least pointedly. 59 . ideas. planning a trip. Practice and you'll eventually be able to talk to anyone. See "How to be Lovely" Think about whether the person you are talking to is interested in your topic. "If there are three participants in a conversation and the one who talks more than one third of a time isn't having a conversation but giving a speech. nearly all the faults of the conversation are caused by a lack of consideration. Are You Giving A Speech? A funny passage I just had to include which goes something like this.Grace Your Way Through Parties. a new hobby. One tip to remember is to also avoid being in deep conversation with someone for more than five minutes. For example. See also Social Ease . ask for an opinion. try describing something you have been doing lately.ask for suggestions (keep it light-hearted and general). you can 'give' something of yourself and offer information to try to generate more conversation topics. In a party or social setting. Look at the person when he/she is talking and pay attention Don't interrupt. Would a person who does not know anything about classical music be interested in the latest schedule of the San Francisco Orchestra? That can be said the same for newly engaged brides who talk all about their wedding in the presence of their single friends. cooking. Less Talk. the idea is to move around. or new parents who talk of their child as if no one else had ever born children. food etc." Thinking Before Speaking Emily Post Etiquette is right when she says. Don't give advice.more interesting topic and discover some common interests.
please tell her discretely. 60 . do so gently with lots of 'disclaimers' otherwise the opponent will think you are calling her a liar. "Or really? I don't think it really fits me". Try to change the subject the minute you feel it might escalate into an argument. its so hard to find a pretty dress these days.Dorothy Sarnoff.. But if you see an unzipped skirt. Keep it short and simple and it will brighten up someone's day! Responding to compliments: For example. "Oh an old dress". don't go overboard or explain. because if I'm not a doctor. If you want to return the compliment. "I'm so glad you like it. say "Oh yes. . Don't speak in your professional lingo. a popped out button. Use.. don't speak in another language in the presence of others who do not speak your language. "Thank you very much!"." (especially when someone insists on a piece of information). Don't make it the largest word in your vocabulary.Also. "It seems to me. be light hearted when doing it.." or "Maybe I've mis-read. "I" is the smallest letter in the alphabet. Do employ tact." How to Tell A 'Secret' Never tell anyone about a bra strap sticking out or a run in her stocking unless you are her close friend. "Oh this is an inexpensive dress".. "That's a beautiful dress!" Respond." Don't belittle and say. a smudge of make up on nose or greens in her teeth.." Pay Compliments! Emily Post Etiquette Tips: Pay compliments! Be sincere. I wouldn't appreciate anything you have to say in a conversation filled with medical terms. where did you get your dress? I was admiring too. Good: "What do you think?" Bad: "I think. When disagreeing.
No matter how strongly tempted you are to pass along a nasty comment or to join in a group talking unkindly about another. even in a group of close friends. travel in areas of their personal. This page is about what to expect. Better to ask a male person tell him. find the host first and greet them with your gift. So let's start from the very beginning. It doesn't just defame the character of the other. immediately halts the speaker by saying. It could be a bottle of wine. Parties are a good way to extend your network and deepen friendships. don't do it. so that you'll be prepared when the situation comes. flowers or a box of chocolates.. Good things happen to people when they make the effort to socialize correctly. 61 . if you see a man's fly unzipped. "Goodness Barbara. Party Etiquette Social events are an integral part of your life. Taboo Conversation Topics Emily Post Etiquette on Taboo Conversation Topics: Conversations should not be about someone else. If they talked about the way they did about someone when they are not around. especially in a group. Most of us feel nervous going to a party. imagine what they would say about you when you are not there! How To Stop A Person From Talking Bad About Someone You Know Peggy Post quotes. and then immediately change the topic. professional or business lives.When You First Arrive Greet the host first When you enter a room full of people at the party. I know it is impossible sometimes. By limit that conversation about that person to 30 seconds. Adriane always says such nice things about you!". it makes you look bad.. grow. Party Etiquette . when faced with this situation. when you first arrive at a party. They will find their opportunities to expand.However. And that is what party etiquette is all about. do not tell him unless you are total strangers. "One of the kindest people I know.
Never arrive late at a dinner party. Nevertheless.A good sense of party etiquette is to never arrive empty-handed. Do not arrive too early. The person whom you're getting to know is at risk of exhaustion answering all the questions. Party Etiquette . pause and wait for the person to finish her answer and contribute your own thought into it.) Good gifts to bring: wine.Breaking the Ice Realize now that not everyone is an extrovert and feel complete at ease talking to strangers. He or she will feel interrogated. If you don't allow them to ask questions about you. (See below. especially if it is a party in a home. it takes the pressure off yourself and others to be the perfect conversationalists. If your hosts says on "nothing". we tend to ask a stream of pointed questions. The other person will also feel flattered by your interest and attention. Keep your conversations light and happy! Party Etiquette . "What can I bring?". The host might be wearing curlers and stressing out over her roast.How To Socialize Ask light-hearted questions Find something about the other person you genuinely find interesting. just arrive with something small. Speak in a relaxed manner. champagne. chocolates. focus on similarities but try not to shift the conversation topics back to you but let them talk about them. Once you realize that. the first part of the party is to 'break the ice' and you can do so by gently asking questions and offering information about yourself. Your eyes will inevitably glow with sincerity when speaking to them. Party Etiquette Caution: Sometimes when we are excited. As you ask. there will be frustration! 62 . Call your host a couple of days earlier and ask. allowing the other person to return a question and ask about you. Focus on similarities When speaking with another person.
63 . people always know when you are trying to impress. they brag about the fine dining restaurants they often go to.. Take hijack the conversation. Talk about themselves incessantly. Especially about their excellent skills.When asking questions. their connoisseur knowledge of food and wine and basically talking about everything that is out of reach for everyone else. playing golf etc. "Oh we went there too! The pasta at ___ restaurant was the best in the world!" Namedrop." when there is someone who might be struggling to pay their mortgage. After pondering over this. They have no clue people are rolling their eyes in their heart Not be sensitive and speak about how "although we can both not work and travel around the world.. skiing. "Oh we didn't have to make a booking at this restaurant! This guy is a exclusive luxury ___ owner and he's a good friend of mine.. be sensitive about what is appropriate to ask. They let you and everyone know they are richer than anyone and you at the table For example. we choose to. Boast.. Don't even try. Speak about their privileges from knowing the other person in an impressive manner.Converse with Class and how NOT to converse. game to the point of poor sportsmanship. I decided to put up a dedicated page on The Art of Conversation." Brag. People Fall OFF The Party Etiquette Ladder Fast When. Party Etiquette Taboo Topics Some taboo topics and inappropriate questions you should not venture into How much do you earn? How much do you make in your business? How much did you pay for your car? Is it expensive? Are you married? This list is not exhaustive! Read more tactless blunders . Be highly competitive at any friendly social function. Try to impress. achievements: cooking.
if you ARE married. instead of saying. your boyfriend doesn't go with you? or your husband oversleeps?" Bridging the Gap of Social Class If." You try to invite questions to ask. however. But thing to take away from french culture is their awareness of being non-intrusive. my children go crazy with their dog here." Or just smile and say yes. "Does you husband like to cook?" And you can say laughingly. they address you as "mademoiselle"." Whereby you choose to either offer the information. you are aware of the difference in social classes especially if you are more privileged.How To Be a Seasoned and Savvy Conversationalist Follow the French style of indirectness The French are known for their sarcastic conversations mixed in with humour especially if they adore you. on the weekends I usually go with my mother to church etc.. Other ways include. Say things like. "Oh yeah." "Yes. everyone is so busy!" "Oh. For instance. "I enjoy the opera but its hard to find someone to go with these days. "Oh I'm not married. for some reason. "Oh. but it would be nice to have a husband who cooks!" Offer Your Information First "As Bait" You can also politely.. it'll be perfect when I have children. if you don't want to reveal any information... "Do you have children?" They would say.. if they would like to know if you had children. "What a beautiful garden! It's perfect for children to be running around. if you look fairly young to be married. 64 . Other Party Etiquette examples include. you politely correct them and ask to be addressed as "Mdm". elegantly offer information that you are single especially if you have an interest in the other party or would like them to recommend you to their friends. discreetly.
in social standing." "I look forward to my afternoon tea every day. Always attempt to make the other 'lesser' party at 'home' with you by being down to earth. financial status. education." "It was one of my favourite movies. education.. Or poor. So let's divulge into the normal conversation pattern.. How An Elegant Person Socializes Let's now look at the Party Etiquette of an elegant woman. Or stupid. "Oh yes... You can share your experiences another time or privately. It is kind to not make someone feel less.. Let her be the star tonight since she just got back from Italy. know so. it's time to take the focus off ourselves and let us remember that . reveling in all the attention) and speak graciously. and sometimes in an admiring way. I had the chance to travel to Italy. the root cause of this behaviour is insecurity and the lack of attention and love. It's natural for anyone to want to feel better. she would be sensitive and not speak about anything that others can't relate to." Treating everyone as equal no matter what social standing is one of the strongest traits of a classy person. intelligence. Party Etiquette . Or with resigned envy. During the dinner conversation say if they ask. I wanted to stay in bed all weekend too. travel experiences. Or small. Well. tell me more. It is gracious. See Mastering the Art of being Classy. "I also have a difficulty getting up early!" "The weather was so cold this weekend. kind and elegant. It maybe because you have lots in common. not putting yourself down but say. or maybe you have a future business agenda. never ever make the person feel so..which is your favourite Italian city?" Revert the conversation back to her. Or uneducated. to impress. keep a straight face (and not allow your face to light up with glee.Making Friends At A Party We all make friends with a motive.. it was very nice. I'm glad you enjoyed it. or better yet. 65 . Perhaps. If she is aware of her privilege in wealth.
you're relaxed. more elegant message. "I work in content management". Maybe they don't feel comfortable with it. And if it happens to fall into the category of what they do. I'm Kate. ask the friend who brought you. breathing. You're not out to impress. Some people are proud of their titles and what they do. I respond with a general answer.. very nice to meet you. 66 . If you really want to know. So when someone says to me. this is not the most elegant way to start a conversation.The Very Common Conversation Pattern "Hi my name is James. (or "I work in retail and distribution". what do you do?" Even though I'm passionate about what I do. elegant and perfectly content and at peace with who you are. let me just say. "in education" etc etc) By being general. People are more passionate and interested in talking about what they love to do. what do you do?" "I am the marketing director for BBC. sends out a better. posture. hobbies. What about you?" "I am the executive director for Macquarie bank. And the conversation can spin off in many different directions. ergonomics. And." And then the conversation falls flat. Instead. It can get intrusive and it is rather aggressive. Steering Away From "What Do You Do?" I try to cope by being general and steering away from the common pattern. or downplaying the importance of your work.The Dreaded Question Honestly." "So Kate. Why not avoid that dreaded question altogether? "What Do You Do?" . weekends.. "Eunice. or maybe they just do not tie their identity with their jobs. and others are not.let's not confuse ourselves with what you do and who you are." "Hi James. I like to talk about travel. that's even better because they will be speaking with heart-swelling pride. sports etc.
67 . hobbies. Do not talk to any one person for more than ten minutes at the start at the party." "With" is more elegant than "for". Avoid girlish bonding right away talking about your men problems.Giving off titles might impress or intimidate others. Do not ask for their phone numbers right away. either for comradeship or a potential love interest. have a brief conversation. Remember to keep your conversations light and happy. and you can go. If you feel like you like this person and want to establish a friendship this is what you do: To establish a new friend or potential business contact If you feel the 'connection' with someone. Flit around like a butterfly. And I'd rather talk about the beautiful weather! (At least for the first ten minutes. Avoid talking about work and your career aspirations. "Oh. he will definitely ask pointedly. quickly get their business/personal cards.) Gosh the weather is so beautiful today Did you watch that movie? What do you get up to on your weekends? How is your evening? Party Etiquette: Generally. If the other party really needs and wants to know more. recent news and events. It is more elegant to talk about everything general and light-hearted such as the weather. movies. Some "Don'ts" in Party Etiquette Do not linger. we want to move on to meet new people. meeting everyone by introducing yourself and ask if they are having a good time at the party. I work with ___________. in a party atmosphere.
should I tell him? Answer : Approach another gentleman and quietly tell him to tell your clueless male friend. you can talk business then. give it to someone close to you that may use it but on the condition that you need it back if your friend is coming over for tea. one should not assume that all men are gentlemen just as not all women are ladies. We have a whole list of etiquette question on our "Ask miss manners" page. If he had been the one to ask you out for dinner. "Oh do let me pay. What do I do? Answer : Grin and bear it. However. Remember your party etiquette! Etiquette Questions of A Lady Should a lady cross her legs when sitting down? Answer : It is better to keep your legs together without crossing your legs. Kindly ask that gentleman not to reveal that you approached him. If it is the second time he has asked you out to dinner. If you can't keep your legs together due to poor inner thigh muscles. If he refuses to accept. simply say "thank you for dinner" after he has signed the cheque. keep it for at least ten years. What do I do? Answer : Grin and bear it. My friend gave me a gift she thought I'll be excited about? I hate it.Or remember their names so you can search them on Facebook (of course. Should a lady attempt to go dutch? Answer : It is safe to assume that a gentleman will always pick up the tab for dinner. My bestfriend picked out horrible bridesmaids dresses for me. oh are you on Facebook?) before that. 68 . you may get the coffee or the movie tickets later or next time. Or discreetly exchange phone numbers and take your friendship to another level by scheduling lunch over the next few days. Otherwise. If it's a business contact. cross your legs. If she takes much effort to pick out the gift. casually ask them. If he asked for payment. give it to him quickly. Do not make a fuss or mention anything about it. pay cheerfully. Remember that it is her big day. say. especially if it is the first time or the first time in a long while. Do not discuss payment during the whole process. My male friend has his fly open. Do not offer to pay in front of the waiter. or when the waiter gives him the bill. Let him pay first." If he does accept.
Smile Repeat that person's name when introduced to you Remember their name! ask How are you? Answer your questions with positivity Respect boundaries especially if it is a first time meeting Say nice to meet you. Sit with good posture Lay the napkin on your lap Start eating only when the host has started If there is no obvious 'host'. jerk forward or roar with your mouth wide open when you laugh or bawl loudly at the sidewalk when you are sad. Eating. Maintain good posture at all times. Dining Manners Today A list of Good Dining Manners 1. 10. smile. No double dipping unless you are dining with a culture where all the dishes are shared. lovely meeting you. Do not slap your knees. 2. wait for everyone else before you start eating. Do not make a scene. 2. run etc. cry with dignity. 7. Keep your mouth closed when chewing. Try to make as little noise as possible in all situations. 4. 5. 9. cracking knuckles. crunching. 2. 3. giggle.) No slurping. 69 . e. Take small bites. Eat quietly. See How to have Elegant Gestures and Poise. (when you eat.g. 8. 3. chewing noisily. 6. 7. 4. Sit and walk straight. 3.Greeting Manners Today A list of Good Greeting Manners: 1. Laugh. sit. Say excuse me when you have to use the restroom Keep your area clean and tidy. General Manners Today A list of Good Miscellaneous Manners 1. 5. walk. 6. talk.
Remember." He's the guy. manners are kindness! 70 . looking sloppy etc 7. be interested in the surroundings. it'll be okay if I don't pay her back for lunch. Speak properly Make it habit to pronounce your words and use correct grammar."What is your commission like?" etc. 'Reverse engineer'. I should not offer to pay for parking. Avoid slang. It is generally rude to call a certain attention to yourself. To be on the safe side.". calling people by their pet names or short forms unless you are close to them. "How much do you earn?"." "Someone will take surely give you a lift home. Refrain from mumbling or speaking too fast. Dress appropriately. "She's so rich. 5. Never assume anything about anyone. never talk about money. 8." Never touch another person's things or children unless invited to. Mobile Phone Etiquette: Do not be occupied with your phone when with people. Speak as grammatically correctly as you can. "How much do you make from your business. even though she has attended hundreds? 6. Can you imagine Audrey Hepburn looking bored at a dinner party. "How much does it cost?". Such as wearing jeans to a wedding. "What did you pay for your house?". Smile.4.
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