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VCV magazine 246

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ENERGY & BALANCE
As a manager, housewife or househusband,
or independent entrepreneur, you’re constantly
keeping various balls in the air. Like a professional
juggler, you focus to make sure you don’t miss
any of the balls. It’s therefore interesting that, at
a juggling workshop, the trst thing you learn is
to drop the balls! More Balls Than Most provides
various corporate trainings and I commission them
regularly. Time and time again, most managers
struggle with the trst exeroise: throwing up three
balls rhythmically and then simply letting them fall
to the ground. Although the instructions are clear,
more than half the participants try to catch the
balls. lt is a retex, and it would seem hard to
repress. Fittingly, the workshop is called ‘The Art
of Letting Go’.
Everyone knows the principle: you’re busy
seeking a solution for a problem and it just won’t
work. The harder you try, the more you struggle.
Then you go for a bite to eat, take the dog for a
walk or take a shower and, all of a sudden…
you’ve got it! Precisely because you took some
distance the solution seems to pop up out of
nowhere. This stepping away consciously is also
a form of letting go. Companies like Google and
3M know how important it is to arrive at creative
innovations. That’s why they obligate (!) their staff
to do something completely different for 10-15%
of their time: table tennis, golf, sleeping, computer
games. It doesn’t matter what, as long as it’s
nothing like work.
In love we’ve known forever: if you love
someone, set them free. If they come back to
you it was meant to be. If they don’t, then they
were never yours to begin with. This applies to
the relationship with your partner, and especially
if you have children: you know you’re going to have
to let go of them one day. Raising children is, in
fact, letting go piece by piece as your kids start
gaining their independence. Giving them the
space to make their own mistakes.
And here we arrive at a highly sensitive point
that’s applicable both in our private lives and in
business. Who teaches us to make mistakes?
Everything in our society - education, work,
government - is focused on doing things right in
one go. Mistakes are often punished mercilessly.
But be honest: from what did you learn the most?
From the mistakes you’ve made! How much space
do we give others to make errors? Our children,
employees, partners? How about ourselves?
Perhaps that’s why letting go of notions and
routines is so scary. It feels unnatural, we’re
scared of making a mistake.
On the other hand, sport teaches us that trying
to maintain control can have an adverse effect.
If, on a mountain bike, you have to go through a
huge hole and up the other side, the last thing you
want to do is step on the brakes. It’s the dumbest
thing you oould do as you're likely to ty over the
handlebars. Skateboarding is also relaxing. If you
tense your muscles you’re going to fall, get tenser,
and end up in a vicious circle. Some time ago, in
a stressful period when I went horse riding, I was
thrown from every horse. Even the calmest horse
around went wild when I got on its back. So I
stopped for a while. Years later, when all the stress
had disappeared from my life, it all went far better.
It works the other way round too: if you’re so
involved in sports that you can’t think of anything
else, all the stress disappears from your body. If
I’m involved in a tough climb on a climbing wall,
there’s not a brain cell in my mind thinking of my
‘to-do-list’ – my body and mind are fully occupied
with the ‘dangers’ of the moment. In Curaçao,
while swimming my daily kilometer in the sea,
I achieve a particular cadence, a sort of trance
that helps me for a moment see everything from
afar, and far more clearly. I have come up with
my best ideas while swimming.
Next time you have the feeling you’re juggling
too many balls, do an experiment and let go. It’s
exciting, against your instinct, but, who knows,
may achieve some surprising results.
The boat is safer anchored at the port: but
that’s not the aim of boats.
‘Then you go for a bite
to eat, take the dog for
a walk or take a shower
and, all of a sudden…
you’ve got it!’
ESTHER JACOBS (19890074) GIVES MOTIVATIONAL SPEECHES AND WORKSHOPS ABOUT
THINKING DIFFERENTLY. HER MOTTO IS: ‘IF YOU DO WHAT YOU ALWAYS DID, YOU WILL GET
WHAT YOU ALWAYS GOT’, AND THEREBY STIMULATES CREATIVE THINKING. HER FIRST BOOK
‘WHAT IS YOUR EXCUSE?’ IS ABOUT THE EXCUSES PEOPLE HAVE TO NOT CHASE THEIR
DREAM. HER LATEST BOOK ‘WHAT IS YOUR DREAM?’ GIVES EXAMPLES OF PEOPLE WHO DO
CHASE THEIR DREAMS. ESTHER LIVES A DREAM LIFE HERSELF: SHE ONLY WORKS A FEW
MONTHS EACH YEAR AND DIVIDES HER TIME BETWEEN CURAÇAO AND AMSTERDAM.
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