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1. What The Ladies Are Looking For In A man Our personality is what distinguishes us from other people. Though hereditary but it can be adjusted consciously. You may be a very nice man but if you don't attract ladies to yourself, no one may know that you are as good. You need to attract your Godgiven wife to yourself for her discover you as her God-given husband. In my survey I found that ladies are mostly attracted to outgoing, friendly, hardworking, neat and caring men. Other features admired in men include understanding, honesty, and confidence/boldness. Though some mentioned height and handsomeness but these qualities were mostly rated below the non-physical features of the man. A common but faulty notion is that ladies are attracted to successful men but I discover that they are attracted to elements of success in the man rather than the actual financial success except for few who have poverty culture. It is therefore erroneous to try to impress with money, in actual fact it can be counterproductive at times as the lady may tell you that her love is not for sale. Let me discuss the dominant four traits most sort for by ladies in men in greater details. Smile The Bible says in Psalm 16:11 "You will show me the path of life; In Your presence is fullness of joy; ... ". The book of Isaiah puts it this way "I will greatly rejoice in .the LORD, my soul shall be joyful in my God; for He has clothed me with the garments of salvation" (Isaiah 61: 1 0). Joy is a major character of a true Christian. In no other religion and in no other literature is joy so conspicuous as in Christianity 1

and the Bible. Put in the simplest form, it means having invited Jesus into your life at a point in time and thereafter being led by the Holy Spirit of God. It is not observing certain rules but becoming a new spirit being. Jesus is joy to the believer. John 17:13 says " ... these things I speak in the world, that they may have My joy fulfilled in themselves". My brother, the girls like men who can smile, men who truly have Jesus in their lives. I am not telling you this as manipulation, I am telling you because I know it is the truth. Invite Jesus into your life today, begin to smile in the joy of salvation and see the good girls being attracted to you. Neatness Many guys have missed their God-given wives (would-have-been wives) due to shabby dressing and un-cleanliness. It does not matter how expensive the shirt or shoes are but is the shirt ironed and the shoes polished? We all have body odour naturally but it becomes offensive when we allow bacteria to breed on our sweat. A man should always wear deodorant to suppress his body odour particularly in the armpit. Your haircut is part of your neatness. It changes in style with taste and fashion, you don't need to follow the trend but you must cut your hair regularly. The same apply to your finger nails. Neglect of these things can also be a pointer to the fact that you are stressed. When you allow the problem of life to weigh you down, you can't smile and you lose your sense of dressing almost simultaneously.

Still talking about neatness, beard makes you look aggressive but if you choose to keep beard then trim it regularly as well. Most ladies like clean shave. Shaving is challenging to most men, try enough methods until you discover the most suitable for your skin. I am not preaching vanity but if you must get along with girls, learn to be clean. Caring Almost all the girls included in our sample mentioned caring as a point of attraction. They all seem to like a man who is capable of listening to them and understanding their situation. Caring means being sensitive to other people's needs and situations. It means putting on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience according to Colossians 3:12. Hardworking As a man, the Bible describes you as the head of the woman. Eph 5:23 "For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Saviour of the body". We look up to Christ Jesus to meet our needs, so does the woman in Christ to her husband. By nature women are drawn to men who appear to be better than them. I think this has to do with the pronouncement of God over the woman that her husband will rule over her. It therefore makes the woman to desire someone better than her to rule over her. Physique You may be disappointed that most women are not really concerned about your physical look. Your muscle is not really an attraction to an average young lady. However, I discover that many ladies dislike young men with protruding belly. To that extent, I will suggest that as a young man you should watch your eating habit. If your tummy keeps growing, decide against breakfast and avoid eating too much at a goal. Better still, regular fasting will help to keep your tummy in shape. 2. What The Men Are Looking For In A Lady 3

When we talk about attracting men, there is only one attraction of the lady; her beauty, her character comes to play after the man had been attracted. It is your beauty that gets you noticed. However the concept of beauty varies from man to man as it is said, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Abraham was attracted to Sarah because she was beautiful (Genesis 12:11). Rebecca was chosen for Isaac because she was very beautiful (Genesis 24:16). Isaac confirmed that by himself in Genesis 26:7. eyes were delicate, but Rachel was beautiful of form and appearance (Genesis 29:17&18) and that was why Jacob laboured for her for fourteen years to have her as wife. Abigail was described as a woman of understanding and beautiful appearance (1 Samuel 25:3), no wonder David married her when she became a widow. King David married Uriah's widow because she was very beautiful (2 Samuel 11:2). King Ahasuerus married Esther because she was beautiful. In fact that was the main quality in searching for a qualified virgin for the king beauty (Esther 2:2&3). My sister, even the single pastor that tells you that beauty is not the issue cannot propose to you if he doesn't consider you beautiful. But let me repeat for emphasis, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Some men find slim girls attractive, others like ladies that are plump and chubby. No matter your stature you are beautiful to someone. The Bible says in Genesis 1 :31 that Then God saw everything that He had made, and indeed it was very good. So the evening and the morning were the sixth day'. You are part of God's creation fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). If you have not been attracting men then something has happened to your beauty. It may be physical or spiritual. When 4

you neglect your self, your beauty may be covered. But spiritually speaking your beauty can also be covered either satanically or by sin Isaiah 54:6 says For the LORD has called you, like a woman forsaken and grieved in spirit, like a youthful wife when you were refused, " What physically turns a man on varies from one person to another but generally the following have been identified as the common physical turn-ons. Legs, Buttocks, Breasts, Waist, Shoulders, Lips, Body Shape and the Eyes. Let me say here that your beauty does not make you promiscuous but the spirit that is in you which is manifested in your personal carriage and presentation. In actual fact, men lust after certain ladies not because they are beautiful but because they are debauched and lascivious.