COACHING
177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS
The Thought Processes, Habits And Philosophies Of The Great Ones

Steve Siebold

COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS
The Thought Processes, Habits And Philosophies Of The Great Ones

Steve Siebold Published by London House www.londonhousepress.com © 2008 by Steve Siebold All Rights Reserved. Printed in Hong Kong. No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in or introduced into a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form or by any means (electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise) without the prior written permission of the copyright owner. Ordering Information To order additional copies, visit www.coachingmentaltoughness.com or by calling 561-733-7078 ISBN: 0-9755003-2-5 Credits Editor: Brenda Robinson brenda515@comcast.net Book design by Sandra Larson Design www.sldesignfx.net

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CONTENTS
Dedications ............................................................................................................ iv Introduction .......................................................................................................... vii Secret 1 - The World Class Operates From Objective Reality .................................. 1 Secret 2 - World-Class Wealth Begins With World-Class Thinking .......................... 4 Secret 3 - Champions Have An Immense Capacity for Sustained Concentration ......................................................................... 7 Secret 4 - Champions Are Driven by Emotional Motivators .................................. 10 Secret 5 - The Great Ones Separate Truth from Fact ............................................ 13 Secret 6 - Champions Lead Through Facilitated Introspection .............................. 16 Secret 7 - The Great Ones Know They Are Unaware ........................................... 19 Secret 8 - Champions Develop World-Class Beliefs Long Before They Become Champions .................................................. 22 Secret 9 - Champions Embrace Relativity ............................................................. 25 Secret 10 - The World Class Compartmentalizes Emotions ................................... 28 Secret 11 - The World Class Connects To The Source Through Gratitude ............ 31 Secret 12 - Champions Know Adversity Is The Catalyst of Mental Toughness ..................................................... 34 Secret 13 - The Great Ones Do It All With Class .................................................. 37 Secret 14 - Champions Make ‘Do or Die’ Commitments ....................................... 40 Secret 15 - The World Class Is Consistently Great ................................................ 43 Secret 16 - Champions Understand Logic vs. Emotion .......................................... 46 Secret 17 - Champions Are Willing To Suspend Their Disbelief ........................... 49 Secret 18 - The World Class Is Ferociously Cooperative ........................................ 52 Secret 19 - Champions Are Curious ...................................................................... 55 Secret 20 - The Great Ones Possess Supreme Confidence ..................................... 58 Secret 21 - Champions Evolve From Competing to Creating ................................. 61 Secret 22 - Champions Remember Their Roots .................................................... 64 Secret 23 - The World Class Never Bows To Criticism .......................................... 67 Secret 24 - Champions Believe In Choice .............................................................. 70 Secret 25 - The World Class Embraces Metacognition .......................................... 73 Secret 26 - Professional Performers Don’t Require Immediate Compensation .................................................................... 76 iii

Secret 27 - Champions Embrace Conflict For Growth ........................................... 79 Secret 28 - Champions Are Comeback Artists ....................................................... 82 Secret 29 - The Great Ones Are Masters Of Their Work/Rest Cycles .................. 85 Secret 30 - The World Class Is Coachable ............................................................. 88 Secret 31 - Champions Are Mentally Engaged in The Creative Process ................ 91 Secret 32 - Champions Operate With A Clear Conscience .................................... 94 Secret 33 - Common Sense Is The Foundation Of High Performance ................... 97 Secret 34 - Champions Always Strive for Greater Competence ........................... 100 Secret 35 - Champions Develop Bravery In The Battle for Their Dream ............. 103 Secret 36 - Champions Hold Strong Convictions ................................................. 106 Secret 37 - The Great Ones Know The Power Of Conversation ......................... 109 Secret 38 - Champions Are Decisive .................................................................... 112 Secret 39 - The Great Ones Choose Discipline Over Pleasure ............................. 115 Secret 40 - The World Class is Determined To Win .......................................... 118 Secret 41 - Champions Dedicate Their Lives To Greatness ................................. 121 Secret 42 - Champions Are Driven By A World-Class Belief System ................... 124 Secret 43 - The World Class Has Great Expectations ......................................... 127 Secret 44 - The Great Ones Are The Most Enthusiastic People Alive .................. 130 Secret 45 - Champions Love What They Do ....................................................... 133 Secret 46 - Champions Create A Winning Environment ..................................... 136 Secret 47 - The World Class Makes Exercise a Priority ........................................ 139 Secret 48 - The Great Ones Are Professional Failures ......................................... 142 Secret 49 - Champions Have Tremendous Faith .................................................. 145 Secret 50 - Champions Handle Fear Like a Snake Charmer ................................ 148 Secret 51 - Champions Evolve From Fear To Love Based Motivation .................. 151 Secret 52 - Champions Understand The Limits Of Money ................................. 154 Secret 53 - Champions Are Future-Oriented ....................................................... 157 Secret 54 - The Great Ones Challenge The Facts ................................................ 160 Secret 55 - Champions Are Driven By Fun .......................................................... 163 Secret 56 - The Great Ones Learn to Forgive ...................................................... 166 Secret 57 - Champions Know Why They Are Fighting ........................................ 169 Secret 58 - Champions Know Very Good is Bad ................................................. 172 Secret 59 - The World Class Embraces Free Enterprise ....................................... 175 iv

Secret 60 - Champions Believe In Global Citizenship .......................................... 178 Secret 61 - The Great Ones Don’t Give Back . . . They Just Give ....................... 181 Secret 62 - The World-Class Is Obsessed With Their Goals ................................. 184 Secret 63 - The Great Ones Believe They Cannot Fail. They Can Only Learn And Grow ...................................................... 187 Secret 64 - Champions Are World-Class Communicators .................................... 190 Secret 65 - Champions Are Products of Their Habits ........................................ 193 Secret 66 - The Great Ones Understand The Power Of Humility ....................... 196 Secret 67 - The World-Class Achieves Happiness From Being And Becoming, Not Acquiring and Possessing .................................. 199 Secret 68 - Champions Believe In Honesty .......................................................... 202 Secret 69 - The World Class Knows Great Ideas Are The Solution To Success ... 205 Secret 70 - The Great Ones Are Products Of Their Own Imagination ............... 208 Secret 71 - Champions Don’t Let Feelings Get In Their Way .............................. 211 Secret 72 - The World Class Operates From Love and Abundance ...................... 214 Secret 73 - World-Class Leaders Are Willing To Get Fired Everyday ................. 217 Secret 74 - Champions Don’t Care Who Gets The Credit .................................. 220 Secret 75 - Champions Are Zealots For Change .................................................. 223 Secret 76 - The Great Ones Operate With Integrity ........................................... 226 Secret 77 - The Great Ones Are Bold .................................................................. 229 Secret 78 - Champions Are Interdependent ........................................................ 352 Secret 79 - The World Class Knows The Leaders Primary Role ......................... 235 Secret 80 - A World-Class Attitude Leads to World-Class Happiness ................... 238 Secret 81 - Champions Seek Balance .................................................................. 241 Secret 82 - Champions Are Professional Listeners ............................................... 244 Secret 83 - The Great Ones Are Masters of Momentum ..................................... 247 Secret 84 - World-Class Achievement Requires Teamwork .................................. 250 Secret 85 - Champions Evolve From Proving Themselves to Expressing Themselves ................................................................. 253 Secret 86 - World-Class Managers See Themselves as Change Agents ................. 256 Secret 87 - Champions See Mistakes As Intellectual Capital ................................ 259 Secret 88 - The Great Ones Only Negotiate Win-Win Deals .............................. 262 Secret 89 - The World Class Builds And Nurtures An International Network of Contacts .................................................... 265 Secret 90 - The Great Ones Never Hesitate To Seize Opportunity ...................... 268 v

Secret 91 - Champions Are Masters of Mental Organization .............................. 271 Secret 92 - The World-Class Catapults Their Consciousness By Overcoming Obstacles .................................................................. 274 Secret 93 - The Great Ones Are at Peace with Themselves ................................. 277 Secret 94 - Champions Know The Power of Persistence ..................................... 280 Secret 95 - The World Class Pursues Power To Manifest Their Dreams .............. 283 Secret 96 - The Great Ones Always Push For Progress ........................................ 286 Secret 97 - Champions Praise People Lavishly And Often ................................... 289 Secret 98 - The World-Class Is Always Willing To Pay The Price ........................ 292 Secret 99 - The Great Ones Are Aware Of Their Limitless Potential .................. 295 Secret 100 - Champions Prepare To Win ............................................................. 297 Secret 101 - The World-Class Is Committed To Personal Development ............... 300 Secret 102 - The Great Ones Are Problem Solvers .............................................. 303 Secret 103 - Champions Are Obsessed With Productivity And Results ................ 306 Secret 104 - The World Class Is Profit Driven ..................................................... 309 Secret 105 - The Great Ones Take Responsibility ............................................... 312 Secret 106 - Champions Take Risks ..................................................................... 315 Secret 107 - The World Class Has Tremendous Self-Respect ............................... 318 Secret 108 - Champions Know Revenge Is For Amateurs .................................... 321 Secret 109 - Champions Keep Things In Perspective ........................................... 324 Secret 110 - The World Class RAISES Their Rate of Vibration At Will ............. 327 Secret 111 - The Pros Reward Themselves For Execution .................................. 330 Secret 112 - Great Leaders Understand Recognition ........................................... 333 Secret 113 - Champions Know The Power Of Programming ............................. 336 Secret 114 - Champions Are Of Good Cheer ..................................................... 339 Secret 115 - The Great Ones Are Learning Machines ......................................... 342 Secret 116 - Champions Change Their Emotional Responses ............................. 345 Secret 117 - The Great Ones Have A Sense of Urgency ...................................... 348 Secret 118 - The World Class Believes In Servant Leadership ............................. 351 Secret 119 - The Great Ones Make The Complicated Simple ............................. 354 Secret 120 - Champions Understand Success ...................................................... 357 Secret 121 - Champions Thrive On World Class Self-Talk .................................. 360 Secret 122 - The Great Ones Know Salespeople Drive All Business .................... 363 Secret 123 - Champions Know Security Is A Perception ..................................... 366 vi

Secret 124 - The World Class Believes In Self-Reliance ....................................... 368 Secret 125 - The Great Ones Manufacture Their Own Self Image .................... 371 Secret 126 - Champions Are Bold And Daring Visionaries .................................. 374 Secret 127 - Champions Never Say Die ............................................................... 377 Secret 128 - Champions Define Winning As Personal Progress ............................ 380 Secret 129 - Champions Know Abundant Health Begins With Body Weight ....... 383 Secret 130 - The World Class Seeks The Wisdom Of The Ages .......................... 386 Secret 131 - World-Class Employees See Themselves As Self-Employed .............. 389 Secret 132 - The Great Ones Aren’t Afraid To Suffer .......................................... 399 Secret 133 - Champions Learn From Role Models .............................................. 395 Secret 134 - The World Class Believes In The Power of Self-Understanding ....... 398 Secret 135 - The Great Ones Evolve from Success To Significance ..................... 401 Secret 136 - Champions Know Humor Is No Joke ............................................... 404 Secret 137 - The World Class is Character Conscious ......................................... 407 Secret 138 - The World Class Builds On Support ................................................ 410 Secret 139 - Champions Have a World Class Work Ethic .................................... 413 Secret 140 - The World Class Dreams Of The Future, Yet Lives In The Present ................................................................ 416 Secret 141 - The Great Ones Know How to Say “No” ........................................ 419 Secret 142 - Champions Are Not Addicted To The Approval Of Others ............. 422 Secret 143 - The World Class Loves Liberty ........................................................ 425 Secret 144 - The Great Ones Seek Solitude ......................................................... 428 Secret 145 - Champions Are Happily Dissatisfied ................................................ 431 Secret 146 - The World Class Masters Time Management .................................. 434 Secret 147 - Champions Follow The Results Matrix ............................................ 437 Secret 148 - Champions Avoid Delusion .............................................................. 440 Secret 149 - Champions Feed Their Vision and Starve Their Fear ...................... 443 Secret 150 - The Great Ones Are Powerful Public Speakers ................................ 446 Secret 151 - The World Class Develops Emotional Intelligence ........................... 449 Secret 152 - The World Class Forms Brain Trusts ............................................... 452 Secret 153 - The Great Ones Are Obsessed With Strategic Advantages ............... 455 Secret 154 - The World Class Reframes Painful Past Experiences ....................... 458 Secret 155 - Champions Know Their Brains’ Primary Purpose ........................... 461 Secret 156 - The World Class Focuses On ‘The Why’ .......................................... 464 vii

Secret 157 - The Great Ones Are Critical Thinkers ............................................ 467 Secret 158 - Champions Live By The Law of Attraction .................................... 470 Secret 159 - The Great Ones Use Mentors .......................................................... 473 Secret 160 - Champions Are Congruent .............................................................. 476 Secret 161 - The Great Ones Seek Fulfillment ..................................................... 479 Secret 162 - Champions Escape Excessive Cognition .......................................... 482 Secret 163 - The Great Ones Are Masters Of Follow Up .................................... 485 Secret 164 - Champions Do What’s Right ........................................................... 488 Secret 165 - The Great Ones Think Big .............................................................. 491 Secret 166 - Champions Build Cocoons ............................................................... 494 Secret 167 - The World Class Chooses Repentance Over Blame ......................... 497 Secret 168 - The Great Ones Grow Up ............................................................... 500 Secret 169 - Champions Embrace Diversity ........................................................ 503 Secret 170 - The Great Ones Use World-Class Language .................................... 506 Secret 171 - Champions Understand Cause And Effect ....................................... 509 Secret 172 - The World Class Relies On Infinite Intelligence .............................. 512 Secret 173 - The Great Ones Manifest Energy .................................................... 515 Secret 174 - Champions Embrace Nonlinear Thinking ...................................... 518 Secret 175 - The World Class Gets Paid To Think ............................................... 521 Secret 176 - The Good and Great Are Separated By A Razor’s Edge .................. 524 Secret 177 - School Is Never Out For The Great Ones ....................................... 527 Resources ............................................................................................................ 531

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DEDICATION
This book is dedicated to the tens of thousands of people around the world who purchased and promoted 177 Mental Toughness Secrets of the World Class. As good as I felt about the book when it was published back in 2005, I had no idea how many lives it would touch. It’s a humbling experience to receive so many emails, letters and phone calls of appreciation from so many wonderful people. Thank you for supporting my life’s work. I hope the mental toughness process does as much for you as it has for me.

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INTRODUCTION
Since I began coaching the mental toughness over 20 years ago, people have been asking me the secret of my success. While there is no magic formula, there is a process I’ve developed that works. That’s what this book is all about. It’s intended to be used as a companion to 177 Mental Toughness Secrets of the World Class. You’ll need both books to coach the process effectively. Some of my peers have asked why I would reveal the system that made me a million-dollar coach to some of the largest sales teams in the world, and the answer is simple: it’s the right thing to do. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not trying to sound like a saint. I’m a proud American capitalist and I’m going to continue to sell my services. At the same time, there are so many small business owners, entrepreneurs, and managers all over the world who desperately need this process yet don’t have the luxury of a substantial training budget. This book will show you exactly how to coach each of the 177 Mental Toughness Secrets. It will guide you step by step and give you the tools to build a psychological blueprint of every performer you coach. It includes over a thousand critical thinking questions, which will serve as the foundation of your coaching.

HOW TO USE THIS BOOK FOR MAXIMUM RESULTS
Think of this book as a tool that will help you open the window to your performers mind. The questions, beliefs and suggestions should be used as a starting point to helping the performer reveal himself, to himself. (Or herself) It’s what we call facilitated introspection. You, the coach, are facilitating the introspective process for the person you’re coaching. You’re asking critical thinking questions designed to make the performer really think about…what she thinks about…and how her thoughts are impacting her performance on a daily basis. Use the book as a guide, but don’t be limited by it. If the performer has a negative reaction to a certain question or concept, dissect it and discuss it…or table it for another session. You’re overall goal as a mental toughness coach is to build a mental/emotional blueprint of the performer you’re coaching so you can coach directly to the blueprint. If you’re coaching a team of 25 people, be prepared to develop 25 different approaches to coaching the mental toughness process. Remember that amateur coaches use one coaching style for everyone, and professional coaches tailor their style to the blueprint of the performer. Each performer is different, with his/her own set of beliefs, fears, philosophies, dreams, habits, thought processes, prejudices, etc. This book will help you unveil the performer’s uniqueness so you can coach him in a language he’ll understand and respond to.

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and watch what happens to your retention rates. Not sales competence. If you run a small or medium size organization. its competence. Not product competence. So when does it end? It doesn’t! Mental toughness training is like exercise. It becomes an ongoing part of the everyday culture of the organization that becomes more valuable every year. It has nothing to do with you. At the same time you’re asking the performer to reveal some very personal. The more rejection oriented your business is. It has to do xii . I’m talking about emotional competence. If you’re doing private coaching. The more a performer is exposed to world-class thinking. I hope you will decide to use it. The fact is almost anyone can be trained to develop mental toughness.Use the 177 Mental Toughness Secrets of the World Class as your guide. the more she will understand herself and why she’s getting the results she’s getting. They don’t possess the emotional toughness necessary to survive in a rejection oriented environment. but one on one is where the performer will reveal herself the most. Often time’s companies with low retention rates will ask me to deliver a motivational speech for their salespeople. and bring your coaching book with you during your face to face or telephone coaching sessions. make it mandatory for every employee to participate in the mental toughness process. Don’t be offended. closely held beliefs that were programmed into him as a child. There is no end. I always tell them the same thing: It’s not motivation you’re people need. the more time you should invest. Remember that most people are ill-equipped to handle massive doses of rejection. Don’t take it personally. When you come in and start scrambling her dots. Implement the mental toughness training process before they hit the street. conduct a 40-60 minute coaching session once a week with the group and an additional one on one session at least once a month. much like a ‘connect the dots’ game. like direct sales and network marketing. understand that most people are quitting because they’re not mentally tough enough. FINAL THOUGHT My last piece of advice to you as a coach is to exercise patience with the people you’re coaching. If you have a team. and negativity and watch what happens to your retention. I ask them to commit to 12 months of training with me or one of our coaches. Give them the tools to navigate their way through criticism. you’re asking her to question beliefs she’s had for 25 years. What you’re doing is teaching the performer two major languages: middle class and world class. These beliefs are how she makes sense of the world. she may become defensive or project an attitude of disbelief. Keep in mind that if you’re coaching a 30 year old. You can use this book in small groups. Odds are you’re wasting millions of dollars on new recruitment tools looking for the one out of a thousand who is tough enough to thrive in a rejection laden environment. If your annual retention rate is less than 90%. and then have the sales managers take over my role and continue the process. rejection. The answer is in this book. Pretty heavy stuff! Be sure to allocate sufficient time to match the magnitude of the task. I would conduct one session per week for 40-60 minutes. When I coach a Fortune 500 sales team. but very few organizations know how to do it.

You are the gatekeeper. Some will build world class lives from your coaching. It’s the greatest thrill of all. phone calls and letters you’ll receive over the course of your career thanking you for making a positive change in someone else’s life. from the hundreds of emails. Being a coach can seem like a thankless job. and middle-class programming is difficult to overcome for any coach. You don’t learn it on the street. sometimes even when it’s in our own best interests. The fact is not everyone is going to become a world-class thinker and experience world-class success. Some people can’t be saved. It’s not taught in any college or university. habits and philosophies of the great ones is through repeated exposure. Take them as far as you can and then release them back into the masses.with threatening her sense of security. How your students decide to use the process is up to them. Don’t ever forget that. as I have. Coach. Florida xiii . To your success. Your patience and consideration will payoff in time. Give if it all you’ve got. and that’s ok. working. You. but not for them. Most likely you’re the only person who will ever take the time and possess the skill to open the door to the land of abundance we call the world class. you are responsible to your students. You’re job is to expose these ideas and philosophies to the performer to the best of your ability. I used to be one of them. I pray you will feel the joy of this job. The choice is theirs. We fear what we don’t understand. and then let it go. or Mrs. I’d like to thank you in advance for all the coaching you’re going to do with this system. Others will fall back into middle class mediocrity. Decades of poverty. Steve Siebold March 1. Mr. 2008 Palm Beach. As my late business partner Bill Gove used to say. Focus on your success stories and know that you’re making a difference. and as a fellow coach I respect and appreciate your efforts and sacrifice on the behalf of others. is the catalyst. not yours. Many mental toughness coaches get discouraged and disillusioned when people don’t get it. The only way to learn the thought processes. Human beings are a funny animal.

goals. attitude.1 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective Coaching objective reality means making sure the performer perceives his or her skill level as close to reality as possible. you are talking to a world-class thinker. This is a serious issue especially as it relates to skill level. . This delusion interferes with taking your charge to the next level. Most middle-class thinkers are mildly to extremely delusional regarding their career skills. and get all of the excuses on the table so you know exactly what she’s thinking. work ethic. Ask her to explain the reasons her numbers are not satisfactory. A salesperson who believes she is world class will continue to make excuses and blame others as she continues to manifest middle-class results. She will remain confounded and excuse prone until a world-class coach steps in and coaches her into objective reality. If she doesn’t make excuses and accepts full responsibility. Getting Started Have a one-on-one discussion and pore over her sales results. etc.

I will get better results Shocking Questions 1. My results are the true measure of my level of thinking 2. how come your results don’t show it? 3. Are the results I expect you to get really impossible. I’m a world-class performer (when their results show otherwise) 2. Are your habits. If you really believe you’re a world-class performer. Are you confident enough in your ability to improve to sign your name to it? Middle-Class Beliefs/Objective Reality 1. would you get better results? If so. What would it take to improve your sales skills? 3. If you improved your sales skills. or are they just impossible for you? 2. World-class results are more about luck than skill 3.2 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. World-class results are pie in the sky World-Class Beliefs/Objective Reality 1. by how much? 2. When I become a better performer. I am responsible for my results 3. actions and behaviors congruent with the size and scope of your vision? .

Use this Dr. What benchmarks can we set to indicate you’re on the right track? Coaching the Upgrade Challenge her beliefs and ask her to prove they’re true. Jekyll/Mr. Soften your words with the right brain creative. What action steps can you take in the next 90 days to move you closer to the results I need you to get? 3. and be candid and direct with the left brain analytical. COACHING NOTES .3 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Sensitive Questions 1. How can I help you bridge the gap between the results you need to achieve and the results you’re currently getting? 2. Hyde coaching approach to tailor the coaching tool to the personality style of the performer. Final Thought The cornerstone of the mental toughness coaching process is simple: Identify the performer’s core beliefs−what he or she “knows” to be fact−and then coach around upgrading the beliefs that are holding the performer back.

What is your philosophy on making money? 2. Helping the performer gain clarity around money will have a direct impact on every other area in this process.4 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer upgrade his beliefs regarding the manifestation of money. Getting Started Have a discussion about the performer’s core beliefs about money. poorer? . This coaching session is designed specifically to clear a huge area of confusion within the middle-class mindset. and to remove any intimidation around the wealth creation process. Why do the rich get richer. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. and the poor. Is making money easy or difficult? 3.

Rich people are snobs.5 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/World-Class Wealth 1. Are you interested in becoming financially independent? 2. Would building a mentor team of wealthy people help you become wealthy? . crooks. 2. Who do you listen to about money? Financial experts or rich people? 3. Making money is fun and easy. I deserve to be rich. What’s stopping you from becoming financially independent? Sensitive Questions 1. 3. World-class wealth begins with world-class thinking. and hucksters. If you’re so smart. World-Class Beliefs/World-Class Wealth 1. What would you need to change in your thinking to earn more money? 3. 3. I don’t care about making a lot of money. I’ll wreck my personal life if I attempt to become wealthy. why aren’t you rich? 2. Shocking Questions 1. 2.

Be patient. Your objective here is to get them thinking about money and questioning their beliefs about wealth and wealthy people.6 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Most people have a low financial net worth. The masses will deny they even care about money. We know the root cause of this is middle-class thinking about money. COACHING NOTES . Money is one of the most misunderstood and maligned concepts in the history of the human race. feelings and attitudes about money. Lead by example with worldclass results. You’re not going to change their beliefs overnight. Final Thought Help a person upgrade his beliefs about money and you will change his life for the better. Your job is to coach them into the habit of thinking about and monitoring their thoughts. Remember to take one step at a time.

Getting Started Have a conversation around the importance of sustained focus and get a feel for how the performer thinks about this concept. 7 being the highest. On a scale of 1-7. Why did you rate yourself at this number? 3. How important is sustained focus and concentration to attaining worldclass results?” . Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. how would you rate your level of discipline when it comes to sticking to a long term goal? 2.7 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer upgrade her beliefs in reference to the significance of sustained concentration on a single objective.

World-Class Beliefs/Sustained Concentration 1. I’m too busy to narrow my focus onto a single objective. Sustained concentration and laser focus on a single objective are critical to world-class success. It’s hard to concentrate because my life is so chaotic. 3. Name three objectives you have focused on and achieved in the last three years. I can concentrate on a lot of different goals and still get world-class results. 3. 2. The clarity for sustained concentration comes from selecting the single most important objective you want to focus on.8 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Sustained Concentration 1. Give me your most impressive example of a time you used sustained concentration to achieve an objective? 3. . 2. Shocking Questions 1. Put the goal you love as your top priority. The drive comes from the passion you feel to achieve the goal. Put the goals you like on the backburner. Do your results show you are more interested in instant pleasure or delayed gratification? 2.

Their mindset is instant gratification. COACHING NOTES . ask her what activities she needs to eliminate or suspend in order to focus on the chosen goal. and it’s your job as a coach to help them break this middle-class habit. Do this by helping her identify which goal will help her move closer to the manifestation of her vision. Next. This is a formula for losing. and if they don’t get it. they turn their focus elsewhere. Remember you’re teaching someone who has been raised in the age of computers. The younger your student the shorter their conditioned attention span.9 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Sensitive Questions 1. Final Thought Sustained concentration must be coached in incremental steps. How can I help you decide what your most important goal of the next 12 months should be? 3. and videogames. What skills do you need to build or upgrade in order to develop worldclass concentration? Coaching the Upgrade Help her decide on the single most important goal or objective she wishes to achieve in the next 12 months. How can you improve your ability to concentrate on an important task to its fruition? 2. microwaves.

Getting Started Talk to the performer about what growing up emotionally means to him. philosophies and behaviors are childish and hampering his level of success. fulfillment and happiness. habits. What is the primary difference between the way adolescents and adults process the world? 2. What does growing up emotionally mean to you? .10 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To make the performer realize that some of his thought processes. How about when it comes to fear? 3. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. and what he would have to do to move to the next level of psychological maturity.

I only focus on the events and circumstances I can control. World-Class Beliefs/Emotional Maturity 1. 2. Since I’m an adult in chronological terms I automatically think like an adult. How can I help keep you on track in this area without being a nuisance or offending you? . I operate out of objective reality. What percentage of the time do you respond emotionally like an adult? Sensitive Questions 1. Do you understand the distinction between adult and childlike emotional responses? 2. fulfilled and happy I will be. is your emotional response more like an adult or a child? 2.11 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Emotional Maturity 1. Physical maturity and emotional maturity are one and the same. 3. Shocking Questions 1. 2. When you experience rejection. Have you ever responded emotionally like a child and caught yourself doing it? 3. 3. What can you do to remind yourself in adverse situations to grow up and stop reacting to events like a child? 3. Further growth is unnecessary. The more competent I become at controlling my emotions. The world is what it is. the more successful. I’m already emotionally mature.

as opposed to the level he claims to be. The way he responds to this candid and direct coaching will tell you how emotionally mature he actually is. Simply walk him through the questions and then keep this concept in front of him on a regular basis. The idea of growing up is easy to understand but a little in your face. especially among the middle class. COACHING NOTES . The bluntness of the expression quickly gains the attention of the student. Final Thought The average person is ill-equipped emotionally to respond to adversity at the world-class level.12 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Your goal is to increase your charge’s level of awareness as it relates to his emotional maturity. The delusion factor in this area tends to be extremely high. After a while it will become a part of his everyday self-analysis.

which is a fact that cannot be changed.13 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer make the distinction between truth and fact. . If you’re from Miami. If you’re from Toronto. you would probably say thirty degrees is cold. Getting Started Explain to the performer that facts cannot be changed while truths are alterable. is thirty degrees mild or cold? It depends on your perception. So. In the mental toughness process we call this perception a truth. “Right now it’s thirty degrees outside. Use the weather example to make the point. thirty degrees is mild. Is thirty degrees cold or mild? It depends on your perception of temperature.

3. There is no difference between truth and fact. I’m not locked into any belief. Why rock the boat? World-Class Beliefs/Truth vs. Do you understand the significance of making the distinction between truth and fact as it relates to becoming a world-class thinker? 2.14 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. I’ve gotten this far with what I know to be a truth. Are you willing to do whatever it takes to upgrade your truths. I’m in a never ending quest to raise my level of conscious awareness. Have you double checked your facts? Are you absolutely positive they are not truths? Are you aware what it will cost you and your family if you’re wrong? 3. I don’t need to question what I believe to be fact. How many truths have you been operating under that you believed were facts? Middle-Class Beliefs/Truth vs. What is not making the distinction between truth and fact costing you and your family? 2. I’m old enough and smart enough to know the way the world works. 3. 2. Shocking Questions 1. 2. I am always questioning what I believe to be fact. or are you willing to settle for mediocre results? . Fact 1. Fact 1. Do you see how someone operating under facts that are actually truths would be handicapping his success? 3. I’m always searching for a higher level of thinking.

threatened performer. rather than limit him. COACHING NOTES . coach…is what YOU just said Truth or Fact? Final Thought Middle-class thinkers refuse to consider the idea that many of the things they see as fact are actually truth. When was the last time you realized you were operating under a fact that actually turned out to be a truth? Coaching the Upgrade The goal is to help the performer realize that most facts are actually truths. Use this technique as an ongoing coaching tool until your performer begins to challenge your statements with” Ok. and he has the power to upgrade those truths to philosophies that serve him. Remember that comfort is the mantra of the middle class. Do you believe utilizing the mental toughness tool of truth vs. The average person connects the dots of life though the things they believe are facts. How can I help you make the distinction between truth and fact in your everyday performance? 2. fact will move you closer to your ultimate vision? 3. and will strike back out of fear when challenged. and anything or anyone that jeopardizes it will incur the wrath of a frightened.15 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Sensitive Questions 1.

How clear is the average person about what they want out of life? 3. and if she answers yes. ask her to write it out and include as much detail as possible.16 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer develop the habit of self analysis and introspective thinking. How clear do you believe the World-Class is about what they want out of life? . When you say you have a crystal clear vision of what you want in your life. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Most people are delusional about the level of mental clarity they have as it relates to what they want in their life. what exactly do you mean by that? 2. Getting Started Ask the performer if she has a crystal clear vision of what she wants out of life. and this simple exercise will show you exactly where your performer stands in this area.

3. I don’t need anyone to help me discover my hidden desires and emotional motivators. The answers to my problems are all inside me waiting to be discovered. Are you letting your ego interfere with your evolution? Sensitive Questions 1. Is it possible there is more power in the introspective process than you fully understand? 2. What have you got to lose by giving it a try? . Introspection is simply answering the question “why” over and over. 2. I’m grateful to have a coach facilitating my introspection. Would you be willing to suspend your disbelief regarding the introspective process to see if it’s more valuable than you think? 3. If you know yourself so well why isn’t your vision clearer? 2. World-Class Beliefs/Facilitated Introspection 1. 3. The more I understand myself the more successful. fulfilled and happy I will be. 2. I know myself well enough. What makes you think the answers you’re searching for are not inside you? 3.17 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Facilitated Introspection 1. Shocking Questions 1.

Give them a little time if they don’t buy into the concept right away.18 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Help the performer understand the value of the introspective process. COACHING NOTES . Since consciousness is a moving river. we are all in a state of perpetual physical. Final Thought Taking a performer down the path of facilitated introspection is not a coaching technique. never ending process. You will know you’ve completed the task when the performer begins to do this without your prodding. but an ongoing. mental and spiritual evolution. Remember that years and years of middle-class programming have left most people closed-minded about ideas that are ethereal by nature.

This paradoxical concept keeps the performer in a never-ending quest of learning and growing. How did you arrive at your current level of awareness? 2. the lower he usually is. Getting Started Ask the performer to rate his or her level of awareness as it relates to success. The higher the person rates himself. Your job as coach is to help the performer wake up to this critical truth. How much higher do you believe there is left to climb in terms of your thinking? 3. fulfillment and happiness. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Who are some of the most aware people you know and what makes you feel this way about them? .19 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer realize the more you know the more aware you become of how much you have to learn. Most world-class performers are at a level of awareness that allows them to see the actual scope of how much there is to learn. The person who believes he knows it all will rarely be interested in personal growth.

I’m already at a very high level of awareness. Shocking Questions 1. I don’t need to increase my level of awareness to achieve world-class results. fulfillment and happiness are unrelated to my level of awareness. 3. The more I learn the more I realize how little I know. Who are your role models for world-class awareness? 3. actions and behaviors reflect your belief of world-class awareness? Sensitive Questions 1.20 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Awareness 1. How can I help you raise your level of awareness? 2. Success. 3. 2. 2. Do your habits. Do you believe it’s good or bad to reach the level of awareness where you come to the realization that the more you know the less you actually know. joy and love I experience. The more aware I become the more peace. If you have world-class awareness why haven’t you achieved world-class results? 2. . The more I increase my level of awareness the easier it is to succeed in life. What makes you believe you are so aware? What evidence do you have to support this belief? 3. World-Class Beliefs/Awareness 1.

This takes patience. and lots of questioning. COACHING NOTES . practice. The professional mental toughness coach works from the inside out. Keep asking questions and take copious notes on the answers. Final Thought The amateur mental toughness coach attempts to motivate through the outside in approach.21 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Remember that in Mental Toughness coaching your job is to push the performer to think and question what he or she knows to be true.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What would you classify as your world-class beliefs? 3. Getting Started Explain how we learn and adopt the majority of our beliefs from our parents and other adults of influence during childhood. and how most of us spend our lives operating on these inherited beliefs.22 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer recognize that beliefs are the software of our minds. Would you classify most of your beliefs as middle class or world class? . What are three things in your work life you know to be true? 2. and that by upgrading her beliefs she will automatically upgrade her behavior. no matter how limiting or false they are.

World-Class Beliefs/World-Class Beliefs 1. 2. My programming creates my beliefs. Beliefs cannot be changed or upgraded. What are you doing to upgrade your most closely held beliefs? . and my behavior dictates my results. 2.23 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/World-Class Beliefs 1. Do you believe it’s possible to upgrade your most closely held beliefs? 3. my beliefs direct my behavior. World-Class beliefs create world-class results. If your beliefs are world class why haven’t your results followed? 2. How successful are the five people you spend the most time with? Sensitive Questions 1. Beliefs and results have a cause and effect relationship. After childhood it’s too late. 3. How do you feel about the belief/behavior connection? 2. Shocking Questions 1. 3. Most of my beliefs are world class. Middle-class beliefs create middle-class results. I feel disloyal to my parents if I classify the beliefs they taught me as less than world class. It’s my responsibility to upgrade my own beliefs. Would you rather hold onto middle-class beliefs or be successful? 3.

Whereas the middle class is shocked and stunned by setbacks. They operate their lives knowing their destiny is certain. It’s probably going to take some time to raise their level of awareness. because their beliefs lead them to do whatever it takes to become great. The great ones know it all begins with a vision and a belief system to make it reality. COACHING NOTES . They encounter obstacles yet rarely falter knowing they are on the road to their ultimate vision. Final Thought The great ones believe in their greatness long before we call them champions. and bumps in the path are simply are a part of the journey. and that will serve as their guide to elevated consciousness. Continue giving examples of what the middle class and world class tend to believe about different aspects of life. The good news is you can coach more than one belief at a time. Remember you’re challenging beliefs that have been held since childhood. the world class expects these things to occur as part and parcel of their ascension to the top.24 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Be patient with people when it comes to helping them upgrade their beliefs.

remind him that half of the world’s population will spend the day simply looking for something to eat. and the obstacles and challenges they are facing pale in comparison to others around the world. what are you comparing it to? 2. what exactly do you mean by that? 3. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.25 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To remind the performer that everything is relative. Getting Started When the performer is wasting mental energy in self pity. When you say you’re facing a big challenge. Whose problems or challenges would you like to trade yours for? . When you say times are tough.

How can I help you move your mental energy off the obstacles you face and on to the dream you have for you and your family? . In a world where many people spend their entire lives struggling to survive. Relativity only relates to the physical. Relativity grounds my thinking and makes me a better performer Shocking Questions 1. 2. Why would you waste your mental energy in self pity? 2. what gives you the right to complain? 3. 2. Is the way you’re thinking right now moving you closer to or farther from your ultimate vision? 2. World-Class Beliefs/Relativity 1. Other people’s hardships having nothing to do with getting what I want. Is this thought process helping or hurting you? 3. Reminding myself that others face much tougher challenges helps keep my problems in perspective. 3. Are you mentally tough enough to move past this problem? Sensitive Questions 1.26 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Relativity 1. Relativity is not a high performance tool. Relativity makes me feel grateful 3.

COACHING NOTES . It’s a non-linear concept rooted in quantum physics. gratitude is to the mind. Final Thought Embracing the idea that everything is relative puts things in perspective and shifts the performer’s thoughts from self-pity to gratitude. What physical exercise is to the body. The emotion of gratitude has the magical quality of increasing mental energy as its expending mental energy.27 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Keep in mind that the performer already knows he should keep his problems in perspective. but it feels good to wallow in self-pity and receive sympathy from others. The goal is to help the performer wake up and realize that this is a tool she can and should be using when things get tough. This tool will help reduce stress and increase performance.

What’s the best technique you’ve learned for compartmentalizing your emotions? 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.28 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer build the skill of focusing on one problem or challenge at a time. How do you think the president of a country compartmentalizes his/her emotions while making life and death decisions? . Getting Started Ask the performer to explain how she handles multiple problems without becoming emotionally overwhelmed. Do you believe the ability to compartmentalize is something you’re born with or something you learn? 3.

2. How skilled are you at directing and controlling your mental energy? What positive results have you achieved by doing this effectively? 3. fulfilled and happy? . How often do you become overwhelmed emotionally? Sensitive Questions 1. How can improving this skill help you become more successful. If you were better at compartmentalizing would you be farther ahead in your life? 2.29 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Compartmentalization 1. 3. You can’t learn to compartmentalize. Compartmentalizing gives you the ability to focus on the most critical task and keeps you from becoming emotionally overwhelmed. Compartmentalizing is only important during crisis situations. 3. Shocking Questions 1. World-Class Beliefs/Compartmentalization 1. Compartmentalization is a skill you build through practice and discipline. You either have the skill or you don’t. Practicing compartmentalization is an ongoing process that never ends. How can I help you improve your compartmentalization skills? 3. You can’t practice compartmentalization. 2. How can you improve your compartmentalization skills? 2.

COACHING NOTES . make him aware of it and help him expand his capacity a little at a time. It’s all about harnessing mental energy and consciously directing it toward the task at hand without distraction. Final Thought The size of a leader can be measured by his or her capacity to handle multiple challenges without becoming emotionally paralyzed. The skill of compartmentalization is being able to maintain mental focus no matter what is happening on the outside. Once you know where his breaking point is. See how many challenges you can throw at him before he becomes emotionally overwhelmed and experiences a mild mental meltdown.30 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Observe your student in pressure situations where focusing exclusively on one problem at a time is a necessity.

What were you taught about expressing gratitude as you were growing up? . Do you believe expressing gratitude can make you happier? 3. Getting Started Explain that psychologists have found through years of study that people who express gratitude on a regular basis experience higher levels of life satisfaction and happiness. How do you feel about expressing gratitude? 2. fulfillment and happiness. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.31 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer learn to use the emotion of gratitude as a tool to manifest feelings of success.

Feelings of gratitude attract more good feelings. Gratitude is the aristocrat of all the emotions.32 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Gratitude 1. Shocking Questions 1. what are you waiting for? Sensitive Questions 1. Expressing gratitude is corny. coworker or loved one? 2. They know it by the way you act. Gratitude is a touchy/feely concept that makes me feel uncomfortable. How can I help you use the concept of gratitude? 2. Do you believe expressing gratitude can make you a better performer? 3. 2. 2. How can gratitude make you feel more fulfilled and happy? . When was the last time you expressed gratitude to a friend. Expressing gratitude keeps you in a spirit based consciousness. 3. Who do you think would love to have you express your gratitude to him/ her? If you know this. 3. You don’t have to tell people you appreciate them. World-Class Beliefs/Gratitude 1. How can gratitude enhance the quality of your relationships? 3.

This will get him in the habit of thinking grateful thoughts and allow him to experience the emotion of gratitude on a regular basis. Once the performer begins to realize the impact this tool can have on him and others. If he believes gratitude is corny. you simply remind him to continue to use it. This state of mind. held in the head and felt in the heart may contribute more to the success. start dissecting that belief with a series of coaching sessions. Final Thought Coaching a performer to think in terms of gratitude everyday may be the single greatest gift you could ever bestow on another human being.33 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Once you uncover what the performer believes about gratitude you can begin helping him implement it into everyday life. An effective method of doing this is having him start a gratitude journal where he records what he is grateful for on a daily or weekly basis. COACHING NOTES . fulfillment and happiness of the performer than anything else.

Have past adversities been more harmful or helpful over time? 3. What have you learned about overcoming adversity that has helped you the most? . Getting Started Have a discussion around what adversity means as well as the most productive responses to it. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.34 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer alter her perceptions about the role adversity plays in getting what she wants. What does adversity mean to you? 2.

Avoid adversity at all costs World-Class Beliefs/Adversity 1. What steps can you take today to overcome or cope with this adversity? 3. When you say you’re facing a major adversity. Adversity leads to burnout 3. Could this seemingly insurmountable adversity actually have a kindergarten solution? Sensitive Questions 1. what are you comparing it to? 3. Adversity allows you to start over more intelligently Shocking Questions 1. How can I support you in getting the biggest benefit out of this adversity? 2. or just impossible for you? 2.35 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Adversity 1. Is it impossible to overcome this adversity. Adversity facilitates growth 2. Can you see the long term benefit of this adversity? . Adversity creates stress and wears you down 2. Adversity forces you to think at a higher level 3.

but they are mentally equipped to deal with them as the need arises. COACHING NOTES . Final Thought World-class performers aren’t out looking for adversities to conquer. the performer becomes fearless and free to attack life with all the talent and ability he has inside him. Your job as a coach is to help the performer develop the belief that he has the ability and skill to adequately deal with anything adversity that life throws him. Once this belief takes hold. Help him build the mental habit of being more concerned about how he responds to adversity as opposed to the adversity itself. the mentally tough performer is well prepared and trained to handle any threat on any level and respond in a proportional manner. Just the military guarding the borders.36 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Determine the performer’s current level of consciousness and begin moving him to a higher level of awareness by helping him understand our greatest achievements and breakthroughs have come out of our greatest adversities.

To help the performers conduct themselves in a respectful manner to build confidence and self-esteem.37 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer make the connection between self image and classy behavior. Getting Started Ask the performer whom she admires when it comes to conducting herself in a manner she would consider “classy”. How often do you qualify as behaving “classy” in your everyday life? 3. regardless of the order in which you facilitate the upgrade. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Why did you select this person as your role model of class? 2. One leads to the other. What would it take for you to behave in a class manner all the time? .

Do you believe there’s a link between self image and classy behavior? 3. Is it possible your self image is holding you back from higher class behavior? Sensitive Questions 1. 2. Do you think the class you exhibit has an impact on your relationships? .38 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Class 1. Class is an outer reflection of an inner belief. On a scale of 1 to 7. how would you rate yourself in terms of the class you exhibit in your daily life? 2. fashions. Shocking Questions 1. 2. and gadgets. 7 being highest. It’s about behaving in a manner that matches your self image. Class is something you’re taught only if you grow up in a privileged situation. The more you think of yourself the classier your behavior will be. Where did you develop your beliefs about class? 3. 3. 3. What makes you believe class has anything to do with success and money? 2. World-Class Beliefs/Class 1. Class is about self respect and respect for others. It’s easy to have class if you can afford all the latest styles. You can only have class if you have money. Class has nothing to do with money.

but don’t buy it. Loving and respecting yourself feels great.39 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Once the connection is made between self image and classy behavior. begin to help the performer address the issues that erode her level of self respect. This will allow her to test drive what it feels like to have world-class self respect. and watch the transformation begin. Encourage your performer to select a role model and simply pretend to be this person when it comes to operating with class. the more she will prefer to operate in this mode. The longer she pretends to be this person. and carrying that into your interactions with others just adds to the jubilation she will experience. COACHING NOTES . Almost anything can be coached if the coach is competent enough to break it into small steps and patient enough to give the person time to grasp it. Final Thought Amateur coaches will tell you that classy behavior cannot be coached. Let her walk a mile in the role model’s moccasins. Encourage her to see herself as the classiest person on the planet and exhibit the kind of behavior that person would have.

and maintains complete mental focus on the task. What role does commitment play in a person’s quest for success. The basic difference surfaces when things become difficult and the middle-class thinker begins to question his commitment and search for a way out.40 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand the importance of making iron clad commitments that will force him to utilize the full capacity of his mind to succeed. Getting Started Make the distinction between how middle-class thinkers make commitments compared to how world-class thinkers make commitments. What does the concept of commitment mean to you? 2. fulfillment and happiness? 3. How committed have you been to achieving your goals throughout the course of your life? . Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. The worldclass thinker rarely wavers.

3. Commitments must be met or your credibility is ruined with yourself and others. 3.41 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Commitment 1. How can I help you improve your commitment keeping capability? 2. What would your three closest friends say about your track record of keeping your commitments? 3. Shocking Questions 1. What has breaking your commitments cost you in terms of self respect? Sensitive Questions 1. What would you have to change in order to keep more of your commitments? . Making a commitment means fulfilling the promise no matter what it takes or costs. rock solid promise to deliver. A commitment is an iron clad. 2. World-Class Beliefs/Commitment 1. Commitments are about doing the best you can. Commitments can be broken. How many commitments have you kept in your life and how many have you broken? 2. 2. How does keeping your commitments make you feel about yourself? 3. Commitments can be flexible.

Make the performer aware of the consequences that breaking commitments invokes in terms of self image and self respect erosion. The average person simply quits when he feels pain. The true cost of a middle-class approach to commitment is more about what it does to destroy the performer’s integrity with himself than it does to anyone on the outside. The person who consistently breaks commitments loses belief in his ability to persist until he succeeds. you will be relegated to lower levels of success. and if your word has a shaky reputation. The world class forges ahead knowing that pain is temporary. but self respect is forever. COACHING NOTES . You must make the performer understand that the fundamental reasons the average person is getting nowhere are his middle-class beliefs and approach to commitment. Final Thought There is no compromise when it comes to coaching around commitment.42 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Your job here is to help the performer recognize that delivering on commitments is the foundation of world-class performance. Pound away at the idea that your commitments represent your word.

7 being highest.43 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand that the mark of the pro is consistency. Consistency in behavior and consistency in thought. Getting Started Give the performer examples of how consistency separates the good from the great in her performance field. What have you learned about how to be consistent in your job? . how consistent are you in your job? 3. What role do you think consistency plays in being successful? 2. On a scale of 1 to 7. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.

Consistent thinking manifests consistent results. Consistent habits. 2. to whom are you comparing yourself? Your peers. actions and behaviors require consistent thought. Success is about luck. I’m too busy trying to eke out a living. 3. When you say you’re consistent. What steps do you need to take to improve your consistency on the job? 3. How can I help you become more consistent? 2. not consistency. Do your results reflect consistent actions? 3. World-Class Beliefs/Consistency 1. Shocking Questions 1. or the best performers in the business? Sensitive Questions 1.44 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Consistency 1. 2. would there be enough evidence to convict you? 2. Consistency is one of the hallmarks of champions. Who is the ultimate role model of consistency in this business? . I don’t have time to think about consistency. Consistency is one of those overused business buzz-words. 3. If you were being tried in a court of law for being consistent in your career.

It begins with helping the performer understand the critical nature of consistent performance and how it serves as the foundation of success. Once the performer understands this. Remember that most performers in business believe they are much more consistent than they actually are. Your job is to dissolve the delusion and move the performer into objective reality. and tend to dismiss this critical component of success. not on anyone’s opinion. COACHING NOTES . Final Thought Coaching consistency is one of your most important tasks as a world-class leader of people. you move on to helping her evaluate where she stands in this area and how to get to the next level.45 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Move the performer from delusion into objective reality as it relates to how consistent she is in her position. If her consistency is already world class. delve into the nooks and crannies to find ways to improve. Remind her that judging her consistency is based on behaviors and results.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Getting Started Explain that logic is based on linear thinking and is used best in business to formulate business strategy and action plans.46 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand the dual roles of logic and emotion and how to separate the two for maximum effect. Do you believe there’s more power in logic or emotion? 3. Are you more logical or emotional? . Emotion is non-linear and is used to motivate a performer to make quantum leaps in thinking and performance. Do you believe the process of goal setting is more logical or emotional? 2.

Emotion 1. What are your top 3 emotional motivators? Sensitive Questions 1. What can I do as your coach to support you in learning how to use both logic and emotion to improve your results? . Logic creates the ‘how’. World-Class Beliefs/Logic vs. Men are logical creatures. Human beings are primarily emotional creatures. Shocking Questions 1. Emotions create the ‘why’ 3. How have you used emotion in the past to improve your performance? 2. Women are emotional creatures. How can I help you uncover your emotional motivators? 3. How can I help you use both logic and emotion more effectively? 2. 3. Showing emotion and vulnerability are signs of maturity and mental strength. Emotion has no place in the business world. Do your results indicate that you’ve used emotion to get superior results? 3. 2. Emotion 1. Showing emotion reveals weakness. 2.47 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Logic vs.

Final Thought Most business people fully understand the role logic plays in performance. yet have no idea how emotion fits into the world of commerce. If it works in professional sports. Professional sports coaches use raw emotion to drive performance more than any other tool to get the best out of their players. Begin by uncovering the performer’s beliefs around emotion and help her understand how to leverage it for world-class success. why wouldn’t it work in business? COACHING NOTES . and that emotion is where her real power resides.48 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Make sure the performer understands the distinction between logic and emotion. You’ll know you succeeded when the performer tells you that logic is for strategy and emotion is for motivation.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Getting Started Have a discussion with the performer around openmindedness and spirit-based consciousness. Exercise patience and give him a chance to think about what you’re suggesting. Tell him he can always choose not to adopt these new ways of thinking after he has fully digested the concepts.class results? . Are you more ego driven or spirit-driven? 3. thoughts and philosophies you’re presenting. Do you consider yourself to be open-minded? 2.49 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer to suspend his disbelief in the ideas. Are you willing to consider new ideas that have produced world. Keep in mind that the middleclass thinkers hold onto beliefs that make them comfortable like a drowning man to a life preserver.

Has being open minded hurt you in the past? 3. World-Class Beliefs/Suspending Disbelief 1. it’s just a matter of doing it. I don’t care who gets the credit. 2. I don’t help. I’ll follow anyone who can show me a better way of doing things. 2. Is it possible someone has found a better way to get the results you desire? 3. 3. Do you think it would help you to consider the ideas of other successful people? 2. I always check my ego at the door. 3. All I want is the result. I’m not looking for new ways of thinking. I already know what to do. Has ego-based thinking hurt you in the past? 2. I’m already an educated person. How can I help you put what you know aside for a while and consider some new ideas that have the potential to help you? . Shocking Questions 1. I know what I know. I’m always open to new ideas that move me closer to my vision.50 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Suspending Disbelief 1. What’s more important: achieving your vision or feeding your ego? Sensitive Questions 1.

and reinforced for decades. Once you’ve accomplished this. use the sensitive questions for the right brain creative types and the shocking questions for the left brain analytical−as a general rule. Final Thought Getting a performer to suspend his disbelief when presented with a new idea. he is relegated to the beliefs he was programmed with growing up. As always. no matter how small or radical is an essential step in world-class coaching. COACHING NOTES .51 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade What you’re trying to accomplish here is to convince the performer to open his mind for the sake of getting results faster and more efficiently. Remember the beliefs the performer has are probably as old as the performer himself. give the performer some time to consider the new ways of thinking. Without an open mind. For most people that means a middle-class existence and a mediocre life. Without an open mind it’s difficult to help the performer increase his level of conscious awareness. Breaking limiting beliefs down takes time and persistence. They’ve been re-stated. corroborated.

How would you respond to teammates who accuse you of sucking up because of your ferocious cooperation? . What do you think of people who others call “ a company man/woman’’? 3. attitude. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.52 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer transcend her ego-based thinking and build the habit of ferocious cooperation. Do you believe being extremely cooperative makes you more valuable? 2. Getting Started Explain that the concept of ferocious cooperation means going well beyond the average team member and becoming the biggest asset to any group she represents. and overall interaction with the team. This idea includes work ethic.

53 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Ferocious Cooperation 1. Shocking Questions 1. The company/organization doesn’t care about us. and people who go beyond their job description are on the side of the company. How can I help you upgrade your level of cooperation? 2. It’s us against them. Do you believe becoming more cooperative will move you closer to your vision? 3. World-Class Beliefs/Ferocious Cooperation 1. Would you classify ferocious cooperation as more middle class or world class? Sensitive Questions 1. Overly cooperative people are suck-ups who make the rest of us look bad. What would hold you back from making a decision to become “ferociously cooperative”? . Are you afraid of being ostracized by your middle-class thinking peers if you exhibit ferocious cooperation? 2. 2. Ferocious cooperation is rare and makes you more valuable to any organization. 3. Ferocious cooperation shows dedication and fearlessness. in one way or another. What’s more important to you: Your peers’ acceptance or achieving your vision? 3. 2. Ferocious cooperation is always rewarded.

you can stop playing cheerleader and start coaching around strategy. Coach your performer to always consider doing the polar opposite of what the middle-class think and do. the worldclass zag. The middle class think it’s about being recognized for their efforts. the middle-class mentality will begin to lose its grip on her consciousness. When the middle-class zig. Once your charge reaches this level of awareness.54 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The biggest obstacle to getting the performer to adopt this philosophy is the middle-class belief most people have about going the extra mile. Final Thought Coaching around ferocious cooperation is easy once you convince the performer it’s the only logical choice for a world-class thinker. In other words. Everything you’re coaching will ultimately benefit her more than anyone else. Be sure to leverage the performer’s vision when trying to persuade her to take action on this idea. You’ll find this often leads to success. and the truth is it’s about the performer herself. Once she understands this. COACHING NOTES . a performer who adopts this habit will be in demand no matter where she goes.

Explain that this is another example of how the great ones use non-linear thinking in problem solving. how curious of a person are you? 2.55 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To encourage the performer to recapture the childlike curiosity we all had as children. Getting Started Coach around the concept that the best problem solvers seek the simplest solutions to problems and only utilize complex solutions when absolutely necessary. On a scale of 1 to 7. Do you believe there’s a link between world-class results and curiosity? . 7 being highest. Do you believe being curious can help you get better results? 3. Talk about the fact that world-class performers use childlike curiosity to discover solutions in places where middle-class performers would never look. To convince the performer that curiosity is a habit that often leads to finding kindergarten solutions to seemingly complex problems. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.

How can you use your curiosity to get better results? 3. Curiosity is for children. I love to ask questions and learn how other people think. The answers to my problems already exist. 3. Does using curiosity make sense to you as a non-linear problem solving tool? . 2. I absorb ideas about new ways of creating success by being curious. I just need better results. 2. I just have to keep my eyes open and continue to ask strategic questions. I don’t need to be more curious. Have you ever considered curiosity as a problem solving skill? 2. Shocking Questions 1. I know what I need to know. How can I help you become a more curious problem solver? 2. Have you ever solved a problem as a result of being curious? 3. 3. World-Class Beliefs/Curiosity 1. If you were charged with being a curious person in a court of law would there be enough evidence to convict you? Sensitive Questions 1.56 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Curiosity 1.

World-class coaches know big problems require new ideas and creative thinking. meeting new people. Suggest reading books he wouldn’t normally choose. which demands non-linear thinking.57 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Encourage the performer to nurture his curiosity in all areas of life as a strategy for finding solutions. The great coaches push their charges to see things at a higher level of consciousness and look for answers in unlikely places where middle-class thinkers would never look. logical linear style. COACHING NOTES . and becoming a master at asking questions and listening intently to the answers. just waiting to be discovered. going to movies. Final Thought The average leader coaches in left brain. Convince him of the belief that all the answers are there. Help him understand that curiosity is a catalyst to new perceptions and points of view.

58 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand the power of acquiring supreme self-confidence. and the subsequent impact of the language on self-confidence. 7 being highest. Getting Started Talk to the performer about the difference between middleclass language and world-class language. Do you believe supreme confidence is something you’re born with or something you learn? 3. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. as opposed to external events or circumstances. how self-confident are you? 2. On a scale of 1 to 7. Who are the three most self-confident people you know and what created their confidence? . To coach around the belief that supreme self-confidence is a mindset created by thinking.

Supreme self confidence is self created. Do your results reflect supreme self-confidence? 3. What would it take for you to develop greater self-confidence? 3. how would you rate your self-confidence? 2. Success is the only thing that creates self-confidence 3. Self-confidence has nothing to do with whether you’re winning or losing. 2. Would your three closest friends say you have supreme self-confidence? 2. 7 being highest. Self-confidence is a decision you make about how you see yourself. Supreme self-confidence is arrogance. Shocking Questions 1. and people won’t like me if they think I’m arrogant. On a scale of 1 to 7. Do your habits. What has contributed most to the self-confidence you have now? . You either have it or you don’t. It’s an inside job. World-Class Beliefs/Supreme Confidence 1.59 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Supreme Confidence 1. Confidence is something you’re born with. 2. 3. actions and behaviors reflect supreme self-confidence? Sensitive Questions 1.

The active part is done through self talk and visualization programming.60 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Encourage the performer to begin to monitor the way she uses the language with herself and others.com. Listening to world-class programming CDs in the background of her life will also be a big help. the subconscious mind will begin to see the pictures as real. but as a world-class coach. your job is to help the performer understand that to get results she’s never gotten she’s going to have to become someone she’s never been. Visualization combined with positive self talk will serve as the foundation of her world-class belief system. Most people wait for the success. COACHING NOTES . Ask the performer to picture herself as having supreme self-confidence in any situation that is currently creating anxiety or uncertainty. The second most powerful tool is visualization. Have her visit www. Self talk is the single most powerful proactive reprogramming technique. The passive part occurs when the performer begins to experience uncommon success. It’s both an active and passive process. As this visualization process becomes a habit.milliondollardmind. Final Thought Coaching self-confidence is critical.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. it’s usually a waste of mental energy that could be better spent focusing on creating superior solutions. Does competition motivate you? 3. Help the performer realize that while competition is healthy. To raise his level of awareness and foster the belief that self actualization is a more intelligent approach to high performance. Getting Started Have a discussion with the performer around the concept of competing versus creating.61 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer evolve from ego to spirit based thinking. Do you believe competition is the best way to improve performance? 2. What percentage of your time do you invest thinking about beating the competition? . Encourage the performer to redirect his thoughts of beating the competition to thoughts of creating world-class results.

62 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Competing to Creating 1. Do you think more about winning or solving problems? . Which is more important to you: beating an opponent or building worldclass problem solving skills through creativity? 3. World-Class Beliefs/Competing to Creating 1. Creation is the highest form of thinking. Success is being # 1 3. Competition is the highest form of motivation 2. How can you build your creativity muscles to become a better problem solver? 2. Competition is ego based. Creation is spirit based. Would you rather succeed or stroke your ego? 2. How often do you use your creative powers to solve complex problems? 3. Show me a good loser and I’ll show you a loser. 3. Creating solutions is the key to world-class success. 2. Shocking Questions 1. Are you more of an ego or spirit based thinker? Sensitive Questions 1.

63 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Your job is to build the performer’s belief that creativity is the secret to world-class success. Final Thought Coaching a performer to transcend the middle-class obsession with competition is one of the most significant gifts you can offer. Coach around the concept that the more time the performer spends in a spirit-based consciousness the more creative he will be. beating the competition will take care of itself. While competition has motivational value and can be effective and enjoyable. Focusing on thoughts of love and gratitude will help the performer make the change in a matter of minutes. COACHING NOTES . Teach him to recognize when his ego is dominating his thinking and encourage him to switch to spirit-based thinking immediately. you want your charge to understand there is a higher level of thinking that manifests better results. and if he focuses his mental energy on improving this skill.

however modest or extreme. To use this concept for stress reduction and as a grounding tool.64 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To encourage the performer to stay connected to her roots and be proud and grateful for how far she has come. how does it make you feel to be where you are now? 3. Who are the people that helped you most along the way? . To help her avoid the trap of forgetting what it took to get to the level of success she’s achieved. Getting Started Ask the performer to share the story of her journey to the level of success she has achieved. How hard was it for you to get where you are now? 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Looking back to where you came from.

2. No one ever helped me. Does slowing down and remembering where you came from help reduce the stress you experience? . because I have such a long way to go. I was always a world-class thinker. Do you ever take time to reflect on the growth and progress you’ve made? 3. good or bad. Have you ever thanked the people who made your success possible? Sensitive Questions 1. Remembering how far I’ve come and what it took to get me here keeps me grateful and humble. World-Class Beliefs/Remembering Your Roots 1. 3. 2. Shocking Questions 1. Everything that happened in my past. Does thinking about how far you’ve come give you peace of mind? 2. Where do you think you would be right now without the help and support you have received throughout your life from other people? 2. Do thoughts of gratitude for the help and support of others in your past create a sense of fulfillment for you? 3. It doesn’t matter how far I’ve come. ended up contributing to my current success.65 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Remembering Your Roots 1. 3. I’m a self made man/woman. I wouldn’t be where I am today without the help and support of many other people in my past.

COACHING NOTES . It’s easy to get caught up in the current challenges in life and forget the progress we have made.66 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Explain to the performer that this is just another mental toughness tool to add to her toolbox and utilize in pressure situations. Final Thought Coaching a performer to remember her roots is another way to help her become her own coach and best friend.

To coach the performer to ignore middle-class sniping and stay focused on her ultimate vision. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What impact does criticism have on your day to day performance? 3. Getting Started Describe the difference between solid advice and baseless criticism and coach around the idea that the more you do the bigger target you become for critics. Does criticism bother you less or more than it did 5 years ago? . Why do middle-class thinkers like to criticize world-class performers? 2.67 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer make the distinction between world-class advice and middle-class criticism. Mentally prepare the performer to expect ongoing criticism that will increase as she becomes more successful.

How can you decrease your sensitivity to criticism? 3. Has criticism helped or hurt you more often in the past? 3. 2. How does criticism make you feel? Sensitive Questions 1. 3. 2. Criticism makes me feel bad and weakens my resolve. Criticism is painful and should be avoided at all costs. 3. Criticism says more about the criticizer than it does about me. Baseless criticism should be dismissed without comment. How sensitive are you to criticism? 2.68 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Criticism 1. World-Class Beliefs/Criticism 1. When was the last time criticism stopped you from doing something? 2. Criticism is negative. Constructive criticism should always be considered. How can I help you learn to ignore baseless criticism? . Shocking Questions 1.

Coach the performer to evaluate criticism from a logical.69 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Your job here is to raise the performer’s level of awareness when it comes to being criticized by helping build the belief that criticism is one of the most valuable tools for creating world-class success. If she doesn’t see the benefit. COACHING NOTES . she will likely process the criticism with her right brain and become emotional and angry. Both constructive and baseless criticism should be considered a stepping stone. If she sees the criticism as a way to manifest her vision more rapidly. she will process the criticism with her logical left brain. Be sure to keep the performer’s ultimate vision in front of her when considering the validity of any criticism. Having her vision in front of her will insulate her from the pain and keep her mental energy focused where it can serve her most effectively. Final Thought Coaching a performer to use criticism as a growth acceleration tool is one of your most important roles. without emotion. left brain point of view.

70 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand everything he does is a choice. and some of the things we choose are simply not in our best interests. have and do? 3. and the more competent he becomes. If you had the freedom of choice in every area of your life. have and do? . what would you choose to be. from getting up in the morning to how to spend the day. Make him understand that everything we do is a choice. 2. Tell me some of the things you do in your life that are not a choice. the more choices he has. What would it take for you to be able to choose everything you would be. Getting Started Talk to the performer about the choices he makes every day. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.

2. How can I help you make better choices? . Freedom to choose is the ultimate gift. I choose everything I do. 2. I have very few choices. Shocking Questions 1. 3. Can you see how altering your perception about making choices could help you? 2. Who makes most of your choices for you? 3. Did you choose to get up for work this morning because you wanted to or because you had to? 2. World-Class Beliefs/Choice 1. What would empower you to take control and make better choices in your life? 3. Freedom of choice is essential to world-class living.71 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Choice 1. How could making better choices help you move more quickly toward your ultimate vision? Sensitive Questions 1. Having too many choices scares me. Only wealthy people have choices. 3.

Help elevate their thinking by talking about how world-class thinkers believe everything they do is a choice. and how this belief empowers them to take control and responsibility for their lives. and happiness. Your job is to make the performer understand that he is in charge and 100% responsible for his own success.72 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Coach around the concept that middle-class thinkers believe they have no choices and tend to see themselves as victims of an oppressor. COACHING NOTES . Final Thought Keep in mind as a coach that the belief that says we have the freedom to choose is essential for attaining quantum leaps in success. fulfillment.

The benefit of self-consciousness lies in a person’s ability to objectively evaluate how her thinking is helping or hurting her.73 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer recognize the value of thinking about what she thinks about. Do you believe thinking about what you think about can help you get better results? 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Getting Started Talk to the performer about how human beings are the only species on earth who have the ability to evaluate their thinking. and then making the necessary upgrades and adjustments. Explain that this is the equivalent of a computer possessing the ability to step outside of itself and evaluate the quality and effectiveness of its own software. Do you believe there is a cause and effect relationship between your thinking and your results? . Have you used meta-cognition in the past to enhance your performance? 3. and how her thinking is impacting her results.

World-class thoughts lead to world-class results. 3. What do you think about most of the time? 2. I become what I think about. What thoughts would you consider upgrading or discarding? Sensitive Questions 1. I’m too busy to think about what I think about. My thinking has nothing to do with what happens in the real world. 2. World-Class Beliefs/Metacognition 1. Do you think it’s possible to get better results by upgrading your thinking? 3. 3. How can I help you increase your awareness of what you’re thinking about? 2. The more aware I am of what I’m thinking the easier I can upgrade my thoughts. What would motivate you to become more conscious of your dominant thought processes? .74 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Metacognition 1. It’s my results that need improvement. Shocking Questions 1. My thinking is fine. Are your dominant thoughts helping or hurting you? 3. 2.

and to continue asking herself is this thought process moving me closer to or farther from my ultimate vision. professional coaches motivate from the inside out. Help the performer build the belief that there is a cause and effect relationship between thinking and results. COACHING NOTES . While the amateur struggles to motivate his team from the outside in.75 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Your goal should be persuading your performer to build the habit of using meta-cognition. Final Thought Coaching around thinking is the job of the world-class coach. It all begins with analyzing what is happening inside the mind of the performer.

It doesn’t matter if they’re running for office or sweeping the floor. Do you believe your level of compensation should dictate your effort? . Getting Started Have a conversation around the meaning of compensation to determine what the performer believes about it.76 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer strengthen the habit of delayed gratification and compensation. Do you put more effort into activities that offer greater compensation? 3. and to realize that every action moves him closer to enhanced rewards and recognition. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Emphasize that world-class performers are in the habit of performing at this level whether they’re compensated or not. Have you ever felt as though you were putting out more effort than you were being paid for? 2.

I have world-class work habits whether I’m saving someone’s life or washing the dog. Do you believe you’re underpaid? 2. nothing less. What would it take for you to believe that compensation always catches up to performance? 3. 2. otherwise I’ll be ostracized. Shocking Questions 1. 2. I’m overworked and underpaid. I work at the same pace as my co-workers. What would you have to change in order to upgrade your efforts regardless of the compensation you receive?” . I do exactly what I get paid to do. Compensation has nothing to do with my work habits. 3. World-Class Beliefs/Delayed Compensation 1.77 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Delayed Compensation 1. Are you afraid of putting in more effort than you’re paid for? 2. 3. Compensation always catches up to performance. What’s the worst thing that could happen if you put in more time and effort than you were compensated for? 3. Nothing more. Are you afraid your world-class work ethic will go unnoticed? Sensitive Questions 1.

begin the process of gradually moving the performer towards adopting the belief that compensation has nothing to do with putting in a world-class effort. This is how they make sense of the world. COACHING NOTES . and most likely hang around people who help to reinforce those beliefs. Remember that moving someone to world-class thinking is a process.78 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Take inventory of where the performer currently stands on this issue. If it’s not a world-class position. middle-class beliefs. but also be patient. Final Thought Most people you will be coaching have been programmed with limiting. and that accurate compensation will eventually follow their her results. All of those middle-class beliefs have many years head start on you. Be strong and tough. It’s all they know because they’ve never had exposure to a world-class coach like you to walk them through the belief upgrade process.

79 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To determine the performer’s belief about conflict and if he sees any potential for growth in situations where conflict occurs. Find out how he has dealt with conflict in the past. What role has conflict played in your evolution as a performer? 2. and if it has ever served him in the long run. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Do you believe there are times when conflict can be positive? 3. Getting Started Talk to the performer about his feelings around conflict and how often he experiences it during his daily work routine. Can you remember a time when conflict accelerated your growth? .

2. 2. Conflict is negative. Is there a possibility that conflicting opinions might accelerate growth? 2. Conflict catapults growth. Shocking Questions 1.80 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Conflict 1. Why are you offended by someone with an opposing view? Sensitive Questions 1. Why are you afraid of conflict? 2. Conflict creates dialogue within a team. Conflict makes me uncomfortable. How can I help you embrace conflict as a catalyst for positive change? 3. Would you be willing to purposely create conflict to infuse energy into a longstanding problem? . What’s the worst thing that can happen in this conflict? 3. World-Class Beliefs/Conflict 1. Conflict makes me think 3. Avoid conflict at all costs. 3.

81 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Coach around the concept of embracing conflict keeping in mind that most of us have been taught to avoid it at all costs. Give them examples of leaders who have used conflict as a strategy to generate an emotional response from people who would not ordinarily get involved. and conflict terrifies the average person. Final Thought Getting a performer to embrace conflict is all about helping them transcend the fear of not being liked. COACHING NOTES . Remember that the middle class loves to be comfortable.

and how she thinks the performer was able to pull it off. Ask her to share what she believes is the greatest comeback story of all time. and that the ability to recover from defeat may be more important than the initial effort. Do you consider yourself a comeback artist? 2. What does it take to become a comeback artist? . Getting Started Ask the performer about her greatest comeback and the impact it had on her thinking. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Are comeback artists born or made? 3.82 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer develop the world-class belief that being a comeback artist is one of the greatest secrets of world-class success.

Being a comeback artist is a decision. 2. What have you given up on where you could possibly made a comeback? 2. World-Class/Comeback Artists 1. How can I support your comeback efforts? 2. Being a comeback artist isn’t a skill. Do you have the mental toughness to become a comeback artist? 3. 2. Shocking Questions 1. Failure is a set up for a comeback. it’s an attitude. It’s easier to accept defeat and move on. Not everyone can be a comeback artist. Are you certain you haven’t given up on some of your goals and dreams prematurely? 3.83 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Comeback Artists 1. Comeback artists are born with the ability to persist. How would it feel to make a comeback in an area no one believed was possible? . Are you allowing fear to paralyze you and delay your comeback? Sensitive Questions 1. 3. 3.

Probe them for examples of their comeback prowess and you will automatically raise their level of awareness as to what being a comeback artist really means. Share this statistic with your charge and ask him if he considers himself average. This is when you will know you have created a comeback artist. COACHING NOTES . Many people claim to be comeback artists yet have never made a comeback in anything in their life. Give them comeback examples from world-class performers in your business that will help them see the big picture. you have the right to ask him to prove it by engaging in a comeback. Final Thought Seventy percent of the population will quit at the onset of physical or psychological pain and never even consider a comeback.84 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Coaching around becoming a comeback artist will often take you back to making sure your performer is in objective reality. Once he claims to be above average. Once a performer defies his own belief system by making a comeback. he will never see failure the same way again.

Ask her if she believes this would lead to world-class results. At what point have you experienced burnout from overwork in the past? 3. To show her what a high performance work/rest cycle looks like. Do you believe most world-class performers overwork themselves? . Getting Started Engage in a dialogue with the performer and ask what her ideal work/rest cycle would ultimately be. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.85 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer determine how balanced she is in her personal and professional life. What do you believe your work/rest cycle would have to look like for you to get the results you want without burning out? 2. Give her some examples of performers in her profession who are getting world-class results and what their work/rest cycle is.

Rest and recreation are critical for peak performance. What action can you take in the next 30 days to help you balance your work/rest cycles? 2. Is it possible to create more leverage at work so you can get more rest? 2. It’s possible to work less and make more money. What’s the worst thing that could happen if you built more rest time into your schedule? . World-Class Beliefs/Work/Rest Cycles 1. Is lack of money costing you your rest and recovery time? 3. How can I help you balance your work/rest cycles? 3. 2. 3. 3. Relaxation is the incubator of new ideas. Is anyone to blame for the lack of balance in your life? Sensitive Questions 1.86 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Work/Rest Cycles 1. World-class performers are workaholics. World-class have no personal life. World-class never rest. Shocking Questions 1. 2.

are probably as old as the performer herself. Final Thought As in most aspects of mental toughness coaching. Avoid prescribing specific action until you know what the performer believes. Middle-class performers usually want to work less. Both require coaching in this area because one will never attain world-class results and the other will burn herself out. As long as she is blaming outside forces for being overworked. Give her time to consider your suggestions knowing that beliefs must be chipped away at a little at a time until the change takes place. you must uncover the performer’s beliefs about work/rest cycles. World-class performers usually want to work more. Remember that the performer’s beliefs.87 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The key to moving the performer into balance is to persuade her that she is 100% responsible for being out of balance. Be patient. balance won’t be achieved. COACHING NOTES . no matter how limiting.

Is your level of coachability helping or hurting you? 2. How important is coaching to manifesting your vision? . As his coach. Getting Started Determine how close to objective reality the performer is in terms of his level of coachability. on a scale of 1-7. and how being at that level is moving him closer to his ultimate vision. Ask him to rate himself. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.88 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To have a discussion with the performer around his level of coachability. 7 being most coachable. Whom do you believe is more coachable: The middle class or the world class? 3. you will know exactly how much (if any) delusion you are dealing with.

Is your ego getting in the way of your coachability? 2.89 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Coachability 1. Is there anything I can do to help increase your level of coachability? 2. 3. Being coached is for beginners. The higher I climb the more valuable being coachable becomes. World-Class Beliefs/Coachability 1. Would becoming more coachable expand your perspective as a performer? In other words. I already know enough. can being coachable help you see your performance more accurately by getting feedback from someone outside yourself? . 2. 2. What’s keeping you from being more coachable? Sensitive Questions 1. Shocking Questions 1. 3. Being coached gives me an outside perspective that brings me closer to objective reality. Being coached is only for sports. What’s more important: being a lone wolf or achieving your vision? 3. Do you see the value of becoming more coachable? 3. Being coached keeps me sharp.

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The two biggest hurdles you face when attempting to improve a performer’s coachability are ego and emotionally sensitive people who are unaccustomed to accepting constructive criticism. Be sure to address both of these hurdles during your coaching sessions and build your case around the idea that the benefits of transcending their ego and opening up to feedback will exponentially accelerate the journey to their ultimate vision. Like a broken record, keep coming back to how everything the performer decides to improve will help them manifest their vision. Otherwise they will interpret everything you ask them to do as extra work in their already overloaded schedule.

Final Thought
Coachability is a key ingredient in creating world-class performers. No matter how good a coach you are, if they’re not listening, you’re getting nowhere.

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To persuade the performer that creativity and imagination are two of the highest forms of thinking, and that both skills must be exercised daily to unlock her full potential. To build the belief that focusing their mental energy toward creating new solutions is smarter than wasting it worrying about the competition.

Getting Started
Have a discussion around how she uses her creativity and imagination in the problem solving process. Ask her if she believes she can improve in this area and if that would help move her closer to her ultimate vision.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs
1. Do you believe the best performers are the most creative? 2. What role does creativity play in building wealth? 3. Do you believe creativity and imagination are rooted in a mindset of fear and scarcity or love and abundance? How about competition?

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1. Creative thought and imagination are for artists and inventors. 2. I’m too busy to be creative. 3. I’m not a creative or imaginative person.

World-Class Beliefs/Creativity
1. Creativity is the secret to problem solving. 2. Creativity is the way to wealth. 3. Competition is ego-based. Creativity is spirit based.

Shocking Questions
1. Why aren’t you using your creative power to help you get better results? 2. What is the biggest problem you ever solved using creative thought? 3. Are you denying the power of creativity because of it’s non-linear nature?

Sensitive Questions
1. How can you become more creative in your work? 2. How can I help you exercise your creative faculties? 3. Are you a better problem solver when you’re in an ego or spirit based consciousness?

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Remember during your coaching session that most people have been conditioned to operate from a fear and scarcity based mindset. Competition is an example. The performer wastes precious mental energy worrying about the competition. While a measure of this is prudent, most of this mental energy should be directed toward creative thought to manifest new solutions. Fear and scarcity restricts thinking. Thoughts of love and abundance expand thinking.

Final Thought
Creativity and imagination make the finite infinite. There can never be a finite amount of money because money is manifested from ideas, which are the product of creative thought. Love is the soil and creativity is the flower that grows in it. Love and creativity are the two greatest examples of nonlinear concepts. Neither have a beginning or an end. They have always been and will always be.

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To help the performer evaluate how congruent his habits, actions and behaviors are with his conscience. To persuade the performer that part of the world-class mindset is always attempting to do the right thing.

Getting Started
Have a discussion with the performer around the importance of having a clear conscience and being proud of his personal and professional code of conduct. Get a feel for where the performer stands in this area and the level of importance he places on it.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs
1. How does knowing you are doing the right thing impact your performance? 2. Do people that refuse to do the right thing have an advantage over you? 3. In your experience, do most people do the right thing in business?

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1. People who take advantage of people get ahead faster. 2. You can’t have a clear conscious and be super successful. 3. People who have no conscience make more money in business.

World-Class Beliefs/Conscience
1. Doing the right thing is best way to insure success, fulfillment and happiness. 2. You can fool other people, but you can’t fool the universe. Act against your conscience, and you will pay the price. 3. Operating with a clear conscience elevates you from a successful person to a significant person.

Shocking Questions
1. Based on your conduct in business, do you have a clear conscience? 2. Are you proud of the way you operate in business? 3. What could you do to improve how you feel about yourself?

Sensitive Questions
1. Do you always try to do the right thing? 2. Have you ever done something that left you with a guilty conscience? 3. What would have to let go of to improve the way you feel about your conduct in business?

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Be reminded this is a sensitive subject for many people. Ask these questions gently, yet in a firm, professional tone. The performer may not reveal he has a guilty conscience, but these questions will certainly make him think. The purpose of this coaching tool is more about facilitating introspective thinking than it is confessing feelings of guilt or shame. Don’t belabor this. Ask the questions and move forward.

Final Thought
Coaching around conscience opens the performer’s mind to uninhabited areas of thought. A performer whose habits, actions and behaviors are congruent with his or her conscience is a happy performer who sleeps well at night. One coaching session in this area has the power to catapult a person’s level of happiness and life satisfaction.

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To help the performer realize all of the mental toughness secrets and success principles are rooted in common sense. The goal is to help the performer avoid the middle-class mistake of making the simple, complicated.

Getting Started
Make the point that these beliefs, philosophies, habits and thought processes are thousands of years old, and that she has been using some of them her entire life, either consciously or unconsciously.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs
1. Are the most successful people you know smarter than you? 2. Is success more about successful habits or luck? 3. Is world-class success more about knowing or doing?

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Middle-Class Beliefs/Common Sense
1. You need a lot more than common sense to achieve world-class success. 2. Common sense will only get you so far. 3. Common sense is for kids. Business requires advanced thinking.

World-Class Beliefs/Common Sense
1. Most business problems have kindergarten solutions. 2. Common sense is the foundation of problem solving. 3. Common sense is the cornerstone of world-class success.

Shocking Questions
1. Do you consider yourself a sensible person? 2. Give me an example of a problem that can’t be solved through a common sense? 3. Do you believe common sense is the root of most great ideas?

Sensitive Questions
1. Can any of your current problems be solved through common sense? 2. What’s the biggest problem you’ve ever solved with common sense? 3. How can you implement common sense more often in your work on a daily basis?

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Remember that most people have been conditioned to search for complex answers to complex problems. Your job as a mental toughness coach is to encourage the performer to exhaust all common sense solutions before looking to more sophisticated formulas.

Final Thought
Be reminded that higher level thinking almost always moves towards simplifying the problem and solution, yet the average person believes the opposite. Middle-class thinkers look for complex answers, while world-class thinkers look for simple, everyday, common sense wisdom.

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To persuade the performer that the key to better results is greater competence. To encourage her to focus her mental energy on developing world-class competence in her area of expertise.

Getting Started
Ask the performer how she rates in terms of competence compared to the most successful people in the business.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs
1. How important is possessing world-class competence to getting worldclass results? 2. How do you think a person develops greater competence in your position? 3. What do the best performers in the business do to continually upgrade their level of competence?

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1. Success is about luck, not competence. 2. Success is about who you know, not competence. 3. I have world-class competence in my job, but I’m still getting middleclass results.

World-Class Beliefs/Competence
1. World-class competence yields world-class results. 2. The more competent I become the more I’m worth in the marketplace. 3. Greater competence comes from ongoing study and experience.

Shocking Questions
1. On a scale of 1-7, 7 being highest, how competent are you in your job? 2. How competent are you compared to people you admire most in business? 3. If your level of competence continues to improve at its current rate how long will it take you to manifest your ultimate vision?

Sensitive Questions
1. What steps have you taken in the past to become more competent in your job? 2. What actions could you take in the next 90 days to dramatically improve your level of competence? 3. How can I help you become more competent?

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The goal is to help move the performer into objective reality in relation to how competent he is in his job, especially compared to the best performers in the business. Remember that many people overrate themselves in terms of competence as a defense mechanism. Performers who believe they are already great tend to coast, and neglect to strive for greater competence. Results are the ultimate measure. Emotion skews many people’s self evaluation, but results are impossible to refute.

Final Thought
Coaching around competence is a critical starting point in the mental toughness process. Only when a performer is operating from objective reality is it possible to coach him to the next level of competence.

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To help the performer build the belief that taking the necessary risks required world-class success requires bravery; and that bravery can be developed over time.

Getting Started
Have a conversation with the performer in reference to what role she believes bravery plays in her work life. Get a feel for what she thinks about bravery, and what she believes it will take to move to the next level.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs
1. How important is bravery to manifesting your vision? 2. Do you believe bravery can be learned and developed? 3. What does it mean to you to be brave in business? Can you think of any examples of ‘business bravery’?

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1. Bravery is for war heroes. 2. Bravery means putting yourself in physical danger. 3. Bravery is something you’re born with.

World-Class Beliefs/Bravery
1. Bravery is a state of mind that can be cultivated at will. 2. Bravery means pushing for progress in spite of fear. 3. Bravery is a decision to move closer to your dream.

Shocking Questions
1. In business, on a scale of 1-7, 7 being bravest, how brave are you? 2. What are you doing to increase your tolerance for risk? 3. Are you more brave in business this year than you were last year?

Sensitive Questions
1. What action steps can you take to become braver in business? 2. Are you playing it safe in business like you’re going to live forever? 3. What’s the worst thing that can happen if you become braver and take more risks?

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Move slowly with this one, knowing that most people have never been questioned about bravery. Men have been trained to associate their self worth with their level of bravery for generations, and it’s easy to arouse an illogical, emotional ego based defensive response if you move too fast. Your goal is to make the performer think and evolve intellectually, but it doesn’t need to happen in one coaching session. Be patient and aware of the role ego plays around bravery.

Final Thought
The world-class coach handles bravery like a sharp sword, moving confidently yet carefully allowing the performer to grow through a process. She knows keeping the performer’s ego at bay is the secret to clear and rational thinking.

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To see where the performer stands in terms of his degree of conviction of his work. To find out how much the performer believes in what he is doing, and how he is using his conviction to influence others.

Getting Started
Talk to the performer about his level of conviction in his career. Try to get a feel for how much he believes in his product or service and it’s impact on customers.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs
1. How important is your degree of conviction to your career? 2. What role do you believe conviction plays in a person’s success? 3. How does a person develop a stronger sense of conviction?

How convinced are you that you’re in the right job? 3. Do your results in business reflect your conviction? 2. You are either convinced about something. 7 being the strongest conviction. All leaders hold strong convictions. Great conviction can be developed. people won’t like me. If I take a stand on something. Shocking Questions 1. World-Class Beliefs/Conviction 1. 3. 2. or you’re not. How can you increase your level of conviction in your current role? . how would you rate your conviction toward your job? 2. On a scale of 1-7. Strong conviction is for ministers and salespeople. What job would present a stronger conviction for you? 3. Do your co-workers and customers see you as leader with conviction? Sensitive Questions 1. 2. Conviction is what empowers people to take action. 3.107 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Conviction 1.

and it flies in the face of what they’ve been conditioned to believe. Final Thought Coaching conviction has the power to catapult performance. but can also be developed through programming. Conviction can be coached and conviction can be built. Your job is to make sure the performer understands how important great conviction is to world-class success. Talking about this is often new territory for people. and how to use is it as a tool of influence. including their life’s work. Strong convictions have the power to alter people’s beliefs and behaviors. how to develop more of it.108 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Remember that most people don’t hold very strong convictions about anything. The masses are encouraged not to get too excited about anything for fear they will be disappointed. COACHING NOTES . Conviction comes naturally in some cases.

and how rare yet critical this sacred skill is to the performer’s success. Getting Started Have a discussion around the importance of conversation as it relates to manifesting her vision. How important is developing your conversational skills to manifesting your vision? 2. Can great conversational skills be developed. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Do you believe most world-class performers possess great conversational skills? 3.109 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To highlight the power of becoming a world-class conversationalist. Get a feel for how she thinks about conversation and what she’s doing to improve her skills. or do you have to be born with the gift of gab? .

Shocking Questions 1. Great conversationalists are big mouths. World-class conversational skills can be learned. Great conversation is the catalyst of building relationships. Is there a direct link between your conversational skills and the manifestation of your vision? Sensitive Questions 1. 3. 2. How would you rate your conversational skills: middle class. 3. Who is the best conversationalist you’ve ever met and why? 2. Do you have a plan of action for becoming a better conversationalist? . not made. What would it take for you to become a world-class conversationalist? 3. What are your best and worst traits as a conversationalist? 3. Great conversationalists are born. Conversational skills are critical to world-class success. World-Class Beliefs/Conversational Skills 1.110 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Conversational Skills 1. or world class? 2. upper class. Only extroverts are great conversationalists. 2.

111 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Your goal is to help the performer understand that her conversational skills are one of the most critical aspects of success. COACHING NOTES . and to help her develop an action plan that will move her toward world-class competence in this area. Final Thought Keep in mind that coaching your performer around conversational skills is probably the one and only opportunity she will have to improve in this area on a conscious level. This is one of the most critical yet overlooked secrets of the worldclass.

Why are decisive people so successful? . Explain that the masses are conditioned to second guess themselves at every turn and tend to be indecisive. The root of the problem lies in their fear of making the wrong decision. What do you believe is the secret to making world-class decisions? 2. Getting Started Talk to the performer about how he feels about his ability to make decisions and accept the consequences. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.112 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To make your charge aware of the fact that world-class performers make decisions quickly and change them slowly due to their selfconfidence and fearless mindset. How important is being decisive to attaining world-class success? 3.

Decision making is scary. How often do you reverse your decisions? 3.113 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Decisiveness 1. how decisive are you? 2. 3. Shocking Questions 1. How long did it take you to make your last major decision? 2. Following someone else’s decisions is safer. Decisiveness makes for hasty decisions. Are you decisive enough to become a world-class leader? Sensitive Questions 1. how can I help you become more decisive? 3. Decisions create results. 2. World-Class Beliefs/Decisiveness 1. Do you have the necessary confidence to become a decisive leader? . 2. 3. 7 being most decisive. Decisiveness is a critical leadership skill. As your coach. Decisions create direction. On a scale of 1-7.

114 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Coaching decisiveness means coaching confidence. Push your performer to take stock of her level of confidence and help her build the belief that she will be able to deal with any result of any decision she makes. Final Thought Remember that decision making is a skill that can be developed through practice and mental reframing on what making an incorrect decision means. People who are more self assured and believe in their abilities are more decisive. COACHING NOTES .

Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What does the term discipline mean to you? 3. Do you believe most world-class performers are more disciplined or just luckier than middle-class performers? 2. Can discipline ever be enjoyable? . Getting Started Talk to the performer about his beliefs and philosophies as they relate to discipline.115 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer become more aware of the critical nature of choosing discipline over pleasure enroute to manifesting his vision. Try to get a feel for what role discipline has played in his life up to this point. as well as how much more discipline he believes will be required to move to the next level.

Shocking Questions 1. Discipline is what separates the world-class from the middle-class. Discipline isn’t worth the reward. how disciplined are you? 2. What would you have to do to become disciplined enough to manifest your vision? 3. 2. As your coach. What is your lack of discipline costing you? Sensitive Questions 1. would you be living your dream? 3. Discipline creates the excitement of knowing you’re on your way to your goal. how can I help you become more disciplined? . If you were more disciplined. how disciplined are you? 2. On a scale of 1-7.116 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Discipline 1. Discipline means making a decision and sticking to it. Discipline is painful. Discipline isn’t fun. 2. World-Class Beliefs/Discipline 1. Based on your results. 3. 7 being most disciplined. 3.

117 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Remember that most people believe discipline is painful. Getting the average person to embrace the idea of discipline is no easy task. so be sure to talk about his emotional motivators to keep him fully engaged. and they avoid it at all costs. Your role as a coach is to be the alarm clock that jolts him out of middle-class thinking. results begin immediately. Final Thought Once a performer wakes up and realizes that developing world-class discipline has the power to change his life. Talk to your performer about discipline in terms of benefits. COACHING NOTES . and how improvement in this area will move him closer to his ultimate vision.

See what the performer thinks about this. Can determination be enhanced. or are you born with a fixed amount of it? 3. Getting Started Ask the performer how determined he’s been in the past.118 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective Hold a coaching session around the concept of the role determination plays in the creation of world-class success. Do you believe world-class performers are more determined than middleclass performers? 2. and ask him just how determined he is to making his vision a reality. Can a person’s level of determination be quantified? . Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Probe further by asking how this level of determination served him in overcoming obstacles and maintaining motivation. and the driving force of that determination.

What would motivate you to become more determined to manifest your vision? . Determination comes from clarity of purpose. 2. actions and behaviors reflect your determination? 2. Determination is something you either have or you don’t. 2. 3. 3. World-Class Beliefs/Determination 1. Determination separates the classes. Do you have the determination to manifest your vision? 2. People without determination are lazy. You cannot create determination. On a scale of 1-7.119 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Determination 1. Determination is bolstered by belief. Do your results reflect your determination? 3. Do your habits. Shocking Questions 1. 7 being most determined. how determined are you? 3. What does your level of determination say about your belief in yourself? Sensitive Questions 1.

it’s about tying it back to his vision. COACHING NOTES . Connecting it to his vision changes the entire landscape. it’s going to come across as just another thing he has to think about that he doesn’t have time for.120 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade One of your primary coaching goals is to help the performer reveal his level of determination to himself. Once again. you can bet they would be determined to go for it. Without the vision. Chances are you are the only person who has ever coached around this subject with him. and it’s probably going to take him a little time to get his arms around it. Your job as a coach is to help them believe it’s possible. Final Thought World-class determination follows world-class belief. and persuading him that it’s possible to raise his level is critical. and that they can make it happen. Making him aware of how he rates in this area is important. If most people believed they could attain world-class results.

Help the performer recognize that the masses like to belittle the accomplishments of the world-class by calling them lucky. and at the right place at the right time. compared to the best of the best. they’re world-class because they are dedicated to greatness. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. how do you believe this is done? 3. What does it mean to dedicate your life to greatness? 2.121 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To make the performer aware that world-class performers aren’t world-class because they’re lucky. Is it possible to go from being good to great at something? If so. gifted. The fact is champions earn every ounce of their greatness through hard work and dedication. Why aren’t more people dedicated to becoming great performers and manifesting their dreams? . Getting Started Have a coaching discussion around what it really means to be great at something. This is how they justify their own mediocrity to themselves and others.

Only greedy people are dedicated to greatness in business. Dedication to greatness is the foundation of a successful and happy life. Shocking Questions 1. 3. why aren’t you more successful? Sensitive Questions 1. If you are really dedicated to greatness. People dedicated to greatness suffer in their personal lives. 2. Dedication to greatness means both personally and professionally. 3. would there be enough evidence to convict you? 2. 2. You can’t be dedicated to greatness and have a happy family life. Dedication to greatness means fulfilling ones full potential. Do you believe it’s possible to achieve greatness in your career and still have a fulfilling personal life? . World-Class Beliefs/Dedication to Greatness 1. Who is the most dedicated person you know and why? 2. What would motivate you to become more dedicated in your career? 3. If you were more dedicated would you be more successful? 3.122 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Dedication to Greatness 1. If you were on trial for being dedicated to greatness in your career.

123 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The most popular excuse middle-class performers use for mediocre dedication is they will sacrifice their personal and family life if they increase their efforts in business. Be sure to address this issue before moving forward. In the best of cases this is a weak excuse. in the worst of cases it’s a limiting belief. Final Thought Coaching the average person to a level of dedication they have never experienced means helping her transcend her limiting beliefs and taping into her emotional motivators. The only hope most people have of doing this is through the guidance of a world-class coach—that’s you! COACHING NOTES .

and our subconscious minds house our most deeply held beliefs. Give a person with a $100.124 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand the only way to attain and maintain world-class results is by building a world-class belief system. which consists of upgrading the language and mental pictures the performer uses with himself and others. Do you believe a person’s beliefs can be upgraded and reprogrammed? 3. How do a world-class performer’s beliefs differ from a middle-class performer’s? 2. Getting Started Persuade the performer that he must embark on building a world-class belief system through the reprogramming process.000 salary and he will find a way to get back to earning $100. Explain that our beliefs dictate our behavior. Are world-class performers born with world-class beliefs? . Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.000.000 a year self image a $300.

What would it take for you to build a world-class belief system? 3. World-class beliefs are the result of world-class programming and reprogramming. 2. Is it possible your beliefs have been holding you back? . Do you think you’re capable of building a world-class belief system? 2. Only the rich and powerful have world-class beliefs. education and power have nothing to do with world-class beliefs. Wealth. 3.125 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/World-Class Belief System 1. World-class beliefs are the result of world-class programming and results. World-Class Beliefs/World-Class Belief System 1. What level of beliefs do you have right now in the eight different areas of your life? Sensitive Questions 1. If you have world-class beliefs why aren’t you getting world-class results? 2. Shocking Questions 1. Only the highly educated have world-class beliefs. How can I help you upgrade your belief system? 3. 3. 2. World-class beliefs must be consciously created. Some people are born with world-class beliefs.

It’s how we connect the dots and make sense of something we cannot fully comprehend. her belief system will begin to change. Remember that beliefs are the way people make sense of the world. Explain that programming occurs primarily through language. Challenging the performer’s beliefs may cause conflict.126 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade After questioning the performer and determining her beliefs. The most effective method is through increasing her awareness of how she talks to herself and others. Persuade her to listen to world-class programming CDs in the background of her life to give her a boost in the right direction and teach her what world-class beliefs and philosophies sound like. Final Thought Be patient with people knowing that whatever beliefs they hold have been there for many years and are deeply rooted in the performer’s psyche. help her create a plan of action for upgrading her limiting beliefs. and by upgrading the words she uses and creating strategic world-class affirmations and embedding them into everyday conversation. COACHING NOTES . because the new world-class belief you’re suggesting may scramble the person’s dots and disrupt the way in which they organize their world psychologically.

coach around the foundation of quantum physics which states we are literally creating what happens to us through our thoughts. Quantum theory suggests that everything at its core is energy. make your case about how and why our expectations tend to manifest themselves on the physical plane. For the left-brain analytical personalities. Customize your examples any way you think the performer will understand. For the right-brain creative types. and results are the effect. . and energy can be manipulated by thought.127 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer that what we expect is very often what we get. To help her build this belief and continuously raise her level of expectation. knowing the end result is her believing that positive expectations are the cause. coach around this concept with as few ethereal ideas as possible. Getting Started Depending on the personality and beliefs of the performer.

High expectations lead to disappointment. 2. Shocking Questions 1. Positive expectations lead to positive behavior. Give me an example of something you expect to happen that you couldn’t imagine expecting five years ago. How are you actively raising your expectations? 3. . which makes them more attractive to others. Expectations have no impact on results. Raising expectations is a skill that can be learned. How do raise your level of expectation? Middle-Class Beliefs/Expectation 1. 2.128 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. How does raising your expectations help you attain better results? 3. If you have such high expectations why aren’t you getting better results? 2. High expectations move a person into a higher vibrational frequency. Its impossible to raise your expectations. Do you believe we can influence our results by upgrading our expectations? 2. You either expect something or you don’t. World-Class Beliefs/Expectation 1. 3. 3.

Positive expectation is a skill that can be learned and utilized by anyone. COACHING NOTES . Take it step by step. Give me an example of an expectation you have recently expanded upon? Coaching the Upgrade Keep in mind that most people you’re coaching around expectation have probably never given the idea much consideration. or world class? 2.129 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Sensitive Questions 1. Final Thought The impact of positive expectation on a performer’s subconscious mind cannot be overstated. knowing that some people must experience success with a new idea before it becomes an integral part of their belief system. How would you rate your personal expectations: middle class. so it may take a little time to comprehend the actual scope of what you’re suggesting. How have your expectations helped or hurt you in the past? 3. upper class.

Is there a correlation between enthusiasm and happiness? . Getting Started Talk to the performer about his level of enthusiasm and whether it’s helping him move closer to his vision. Who is the most enthusiastic person you’ve ever met? 2. and that’s what makes it so attractive to other people.130 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To convince the performer of the benefits of world-class enthusiasm. Explain that the emotion of enthusiasm is rooted in a mindset of love. and its massive impact on the subconscious mind. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Do you believe there is a correlation between enthusiasm and success? 3.

What would it take to for you to become more enthusiastic in your work? 3. Enthusiastic people are child-like. 3. 3. Enthusiastic people are naïve. On a scale of 1-7. how would you rate your level of enthusiasm? 2. Enthusiastic people are emotional risk takers. Enthusiastic people are courageous. 2. World-Class Beliefs/Enthusiasm 1. 7 being most enthusiastic.131 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Enthusiasm 1. How enthusiastic are you about your work? 2. Enthusiastic people are phonies. How would your co-workers rate your level of enthusiasm? 3. Would you be more successful if you were more enthusiastic? Sensitive Questions 1. 2. Enthusiastic people have the most fun. Shocking Questions 1. How can I help you become more enthusiastic in your work? .

COACHING NOTES . Coach the performer to upgrade her self-talk about her work and to tell herself why she is so enthusiastic about it. Refuse to give up on a performer who lacks enthusiasm until you have exercised these world-class coaching strategies. It’s a robot that obeys its conscious programming.132 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Try to coach around the concept that enthusiasm can be natural. especially during the first thirty days when most people give up. Final Thought Coaches: Make no mistake. Reinforce the idea that the subconscious mind simply responds to conscious programming and does not possess the ability to judge whether something is natural or self created. but is extremely effective. Encourage her to proceed on faith and be sure to guide her in the process. Enthusiasm can be coached and it can be programmed. Sometimes all a performer needs is an awakening to his or her own personal power. but it can also be artificially manufactured through reprogramming. Warn her that reprogramming through conscious self-talk may seem strange at first.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. or do they simply love the results what they do brings them? 2. Getting Started Ask the performer what he loves. What impact does loving what you do have on the quantity and quality of a persons work? . Once you determine his level of passion. and to show him that loving what you do is the ultimate strategic advantage. or does it have to occur naturally? 3. you can have a conversation about the impact this is having on his work. Is it possible to learn to love what you do. about his work. if anything. Do you believe most world-class performers love what they do.133 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer learn to love what he does for a living.

Nobody really loves what they do until they retire. When you love what you do. Shocking Questions 1. Loving what you do is your best chance of attaining wealth. 3. would you continue to work? 3. Would loving what you do move you closer to your vision? 3. You’re just setting yourself up to be disappointed. Is it possible to increase your love for what you do? 2. You either make good money or you do what you love to do. Work is hard. the only reward you need is the experience of doing it. 3. It’s unrealistic to expect both. Would your co-workers say you love what you do? . If you won fifty million in the lottery. Do you love your work? 2. 2. 2. It’s not supposed to be fun. World-Class Beliefs/Loving What You Do 1. Doing what you love is possible for anyone in a democratic society. Do you act as though you love your work? Sensitive Questions 1.134 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Loving What You Do 1.

the most prosperous nation in the history of civilization. When you coach out of love the performer will feel it and do everything in her power to keep you as her leader. Loving what you do is almost seen as being greedy to many people. Be patient in your coaching and remember it’s not going to happen overnight. The performer begins to understand that her best interests are your top priority. COACHING NOTES . you risk losing the performer to another profession if she can’t find a way to love her current job. even in America. If you’re a manager or coach within a company. Final Thought Coaching someone to move toward a life of loving what they do might be the greatest gift you can offer as a world-class coach. and most are programmed not to even think about it.135 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Keep in mind most people are middle-class thinkers who are just happy to have a job. That’s how most of us have been programmed. and that you have transcended any fears about losing her.

Remind her we become like the people we spend the most time with. and ask her if that’s acceptable. and the impact she believes it’s having on her life.136 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer of the impact environment has on thinking. Getting Started Question the performer about her environment. Have you surrounded yourself in a world-class living and working environment? . success and happiness. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Do you want to be like the people you spend the most time with? 3. Are the people you’re hanging out with helping or hurting you? 2.

As long as the people I associate with are nice. Do you live in a neighborhood that exudes abundance? Sensitive Questions 1. A world-class environment is both physical and mental. On a scale of 1-7. 2. 7 being the world class. 3. Are there any other ways you can associate with world-class thinkers without ever meeting them? . Do the people you spend the most time with enjoy the level of success. Are you willing to spend more time with champions for the impact they can have on your level of thinking? 3. how would you rate your environment in terms of the people you associate with? 2. What would it take to upgrade your level of associations? 3. The important thing is to be comfortable with the people you associate with. fulfillment and happiness you are seeking? 2. 2. The more time I can spend surrounded in an environment of abundance the more I will believe I belong there. Associating with world-class thinkers is the single most powerful tool to becoming a world-class thinker. Shocking Questions 1. World-Class Beliefs/Environment 1. it will have a positive effect on me.137 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Environment 1. If I upgrade my level of associations I will alienate my current friends. 3.

138 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Be aware that many middle-class thinkers become offended when you coach around upgrading their associations. then through reading their books. In other words. Help them understand they’re not dropping their friends or family. etc. and the people they hang around have a major impact on their thinking. They feel they are betraying old friends and family members. This is the result of years of middle-class programming. COACHING NOTES . whatever it takes. as well as who are the major influencers in his life. Final Thought As a mental toughness coach you need to dig into the performer’s environment and see how he lives day to day. If not in person. and it sometimes takes several coaching sessions to help them transcend this low level of consciousness. Your job is to persuade them to take action and get them around the great ones as often as possible. but simply choosing to add some bigger thinkers to the mix of people they interact with. CD programs seminars. Then little by little. encourage him to begin to upgrade. Help them see that consciousness is contagious.

Explain that cognitive functioning is enhanced by exercise. Getting Started See where the performer stands around the belief that regular exercise has the power to catapult his performance no matter what field he’s in. Do you believe regular exercise has the power to move you closer to world-class performance in your career? 2. why don’t more people engage in it? . in addition to the obvious physical health benefits. If regular exercise is instrumental to world-class success. Is forming the discipline of regular exercise worth it to you? 3. even if physical prowess has nothing to do with his performance field.139 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To show the performer that exercise is a critical aspect of his climb to the top. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.

3. 2. physical. and spiritual energy. Shocking Questions 1. Is your current fitness level helping or hurting you? 2. Exercise manifests mental. I hate to sweat so I don’t exercise. Would regular exercise help you attain your ultimate vision? 3. Exercise is for fitness fanatics and health nuts. 2. 3. Exercise is the foundation of world-class health. What is your current exercise schedule? . Does your fitness level mirror the level of success you are trying to obtain? Sensitive Questions 1. Exercise is for athletes. My body is a temple and I keep it healthy through exercise. Are your exercise habits closer to middle class or world class? 3.140 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Exercise 1. World-Class Beliefs/Exercise 1. What would it take for you to build world-class exercise habits? 2.

Final Thought The world class is the product of superior habits. including daily exercise. COACHING NOTES .141 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Remember that your goal is to help the performer understand that consistency is the key to maximizing the benefits of exercise. Get him to commit to at least one hour of daily exercise.

and that they cannot fail.142 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer build the belief that every world-class performer has failed many more times than they have succeeded. What effect would doubling your failure rate have on you? 3. What does the concept of failure mean to you? 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. world-class performers believe failure is an illusion. On the other side of the spectrum. To persuade her that the middle-class thinker’s obsession with security is what keeps him mired in mediocrity. What were you taught about failure as a child? . they can only learn and grow. Help the performer understand that the middle class is conditioned to crave security. which is what keeps them fearful of failure and limits their success. Getting Started Coach around the distinction in thinking between the middle class and world class as it relates to how they perceive the concept of failure.

Failure equals pain. If I play it safe I’ll avoid failure. I cannot fail.143 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Failure 1. Failure enables you to start over more intelligently. would there be enough evidence to convict you? 3. 2. Only losers fail. If you were accused of being a fearless business person in a court of law. I can only learn and grow. Are your beliefs about failure closer to middle class or world class? Sensitive Questions 1. 2. World-Class Beliefs/Failure 1. If you were more willing to risk failure. Shocking Questions 1. What would it take for you to become a fearless performer? . What would happen if you set a goal to double your failure rate? 3. 3. would you be more successful? 2. Avoiding failure insures mediocrity. 7 being totally unafraid. 3. how afraid of failure are you? 2. On a scale of 1 to 7.

Living in a fear-based state of mind consumes the performer’s energy. especially in the business arena. Any gains you make in this area are significant considering the number of fear-based beliefs most of us have. Coach around the philosophy of “What have you got to lose. but improbable without years of coaching and heavy exposure to fearless role models. enthusiasm. Taking the average person from fearful to fearless is possible. versus what you have to gain by taking calculated risks. and zest for life.” Final Thought Remember that whatever level of fear your performer is operating under is the product of many years of programming and conditioning. incremental gains in the beginning and allow for the magic of momentum to accelerate the process. Make sure the discussion also addresses how fear not only limits your level of success.144 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Talk to the performer about the benefits of transcending fear. Fear is the main reason most middle-class thinkers never break out. Settle for small. COACHING NOTES . but is also the primary cause of burnout.

145 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To take inventory of the performer’s faith in himself and anyone or anything beyond himself. tolerance and empathy. Turning the performer off in this area could destroy the trust you’ve established and jeopardize entire coaching relationship. but the ability to tap into a higher energy field that has the power to dramatically increase persistence. The goal is not religious or spiritual conversion. and to suggest he consider faith in a higher power if he hasn’t or is opposed it. so proceed cautiously. tenacity. and purpose. Exercise caution. Getting Started Have a discussion beginning with faith in self and expand the conversation from there. . To help the performer understand the necessity of having a high degree of faith in himself. Remember you may be entering sacred territory as it relates to the performer’s religious and spiritual beliefs.

Shocking Questions 1. How have your religious or spiritual beliefs helped you through tough times? Middle-Class Beliefs/Faith 1. 2. 2. fulfillment and happiness in life? 2. Your faith must reflect your parent’s faith. 3. enthusiasm and persistence. Faith is about believing in something you cannot prove. Are you mentally tough enough to question your own religious/spiritual beliefs? 3. Are your religious/spiritual beliefs helping to expand or limit your thinking? . Faith in yourself is critical to world-class success. Faith is about religion.146 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. or someone else’s? 2. Are your religious/spiritual beliefs really your own. Great faith manifests energy. 3. Would you be offended if I asked you what role religion or spirituality plays in your life? 3. World-Class Beliefs/Faith 1. What role does faith play in creating success. Choosing a different faith than your parents is disloyal and wrong.

Are people who refuse to discuss religion. If you’re too strong. no matter how delusional they are. yet worth the effort to the dedicated leader. He may even attack you verbally. Do you believe people who refuse to question their own beliefs are more middle or world-class thinkers? 3. To leave a source of such great energy and power untapped is unthinkable to a world-class coach. The middle-class thinker will most likely become offended if he thinks you are challenging any of his most sacred beliefs. Use a soft and warm tone of voice when coaching in this area. All you’re really attempting to accomplish is to challenge the performer to think about faith at a higher level of consciousness. and learn to use to it as a mental toughness tool. They fill in the gaps of understanding with faith in things they cannot prove. Final Thought Coaching around faith is tricky.147 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Sensitive Questions 1. the performer will interpret your coaching to be a threat to his beliefs and it will frighten him into a fear-based response. sex or politics operating from love or fear? Coaching the Upgrade Remember that for many people faith is what helps them connect the dots and make sense of the world. COACHING NOTES . Have you ever considered the impact your faith has on your work? 2.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Do you believe it’s possible to transcend adolescent fears? 3. Getting Started Talk to the performer about the how the middle-class lives in fear while the World-Class world-class manages fear. Coach around the fact that a fear-based consciousness is what keeps people from climbing to higher levels of thinking and results.148 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer harness the power of fear and use it as a tool while never allowing it to dictate her thought processes. What is the best way to overcome fear? . What role do you believe fear plays in success. fulfillment and happiness? 2.

Fear is negative. Feeling fearful is uncomfortable.149 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Fear 1. Would the people that really know you say you are closer to fearless or fearful? Sensitive Questions 1. Feeling fear is powerful. Fear protects me. Fear builds my critical thinking skills. Does feeling fearful help or hurt you? 3. Do your results indicate you are a fearless or fearful performer? 2. 3. When was the last time you made a decision that terrified you? 3. 2. What role does fear play in your life? 2. World-Class Beliefs/Fear 1. Has fear ever held you back from doing something you wish you would have done? . 2. 3. Shocking Questions 1. Avoid fear at all costs.

Most people claim they’re operating in an abundant state yet their results show a pattern of fearful decision making. while world-class performers often underrate themselves. With the performer’s results as your proof.150 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Keep in mind there is a high level of delusion when it comes to fear. but to help them move to the next level of success. Help the performer understand that the purpose of helping them become aware of their fear is not to attack them. Help them by citing examples of world-class performers operating fearlessly and manifesting major results. move them into objective reality and help them see how fear has continued to hold them back. Middle-class performers almost always rate their thinking higher than it actually is. Most people are so close to their own fear-based thinking they can’t see it. Continue to compare and contrast their thinking and results with those in the world class until they can clearly make the distinction between a fear and scarcity and a love and abundance based consciousness Final Thought Successfully coaching fear usually means cutting through the performer’s delusion of his/her own level of thinking. COACHING NOTES .

Refuse to accept general answers such as “My family” or “Happiness”. Do you believe it’s possible to move from fear to love-based motivation? . love-based motivation is the choice of champions. Get specifics and don’t be surprised if the performer hesitates to answer knowing he probably hasn’t thought about it before. What’s the difference between fear and love-based motivation? 2. Getting Started Ask the performer what his five most powerful emotional motivators are.151 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To show the performer the difference between fear and love-based motivation. Continue to probe through questioning. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. and to help him identify which one he’s using most of the time. What do you believe are the advantages of love-based motivation? 3. Keep asking questions until you have clearly identified five emotional motivators. To persuade him that while fear-based motivation is powerful.

Fear-based motivation leads to burnout. Love-based motivation is for new age thinkers. 2. Do you believe you would be happier by moving from fear to love-based motivation? 3. What has been the more dominant motivational force in your life: love or fear? 3. Love-based motivation doesn’t cut it in the real world. What percentage of your daily motivation is rooted in love? 2. Love-Based Motivation 1. Love-Based Motivation 1. Only love-based motivation can real sustain. Do you believe you would be more successful if you shifted your motivation from fear to love? 2. and were they motivated by love or fear? Sensitive Questions 1. World-Class Beliefs/Fear vs.152 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Fear vs. 2. How can I help you make this critical transition? . 3. What are your three greatest successes. The world is a jungle and love-based motivation will only take you so far. Shocking Questions 1. Love is more powerful than fear. 3.

The sky is the limit! COACHING NOTES . so few people will confess to it. Help her imagine what heights she could reach if she transcended her fear and upgraded to love-based motivation. The delusion factor will probably be high in this area because most people don’t want to admit they’re frightened. the performer will reach her own conclusions and most likely realize that fear has been her primary motivator. Final Thought Celebrate the idea that the performer has gotten this far on mostly fear-based motivation and survived the pain of being frightened. Fear-based motivation is not rewarded and sometimes looked down on in our society.153 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Get the performer to dissect her results and identify whether she was motivated more by fear or love. By looking at prior motivators from past achievements.

fulfillment. Getting Started Remember that nothing among the middle class is more misunderstood than money. she quickly goes back to her normal level of happiness and fulfillment. What role does money play in your current level of happiness? 2. would it impact your level of happiness? 3. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. and that having money simply makes you more comfortable. If you doubled your net worth. Most middle-class thinkers believe money is the magical solutions to all their problems. To persuade her that if she’s not happy without wealth she won’t be happy with it.154 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand what accumulating world-class wealth will and will not do. To help her make the distinction between success. Explain that money is extremely important. and happiness. What would you do with your life if you won ten million dollars in the lottery tomorrow? . Your job is to help them understand the limits of money without destroying their desire to acquire it. Studies show that once a person adjusts to her new found wealth. but has very little to do with happiness.

Rich people are greedy and ruthless. Money has little to do with happiness. 3. Great wealth comes from big ideas. fulfillment and happiness? 3. Do your results indicate you understand money? 2.155 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Money 1. Rich people are crooks. Rich people have total control over how they spend their time. 2. Are you expecting money to make you happier? 3. What do you believe is holding you back from earning more money? . Do you believe it’s possible to double your income? 2. If you doubled your income. 3. Money is the root of all evil. Shocking Questions 1. 2. Are your efforts congruent with the wealth you wish to accumulate? Sensitive Questions 1. how do you believe it would affect your feelings of success. World-Class Beliefs/Money 1.

Final Thought Great persistence and patience is required when coaching someone around creating world-class wealth due to years of middle-class programming. Use as many real world examples as possible to chip away at the performer’s limiting beliefs and lack and limitation thinking. and at the same time help her realize becoming wealthy won’t make her happier. You want her to work towards wealth with a full understanding of what money will and will not give her. because they’ve been conditioned through formal education to think in linear terms. just more comfortable. Your job is to help her believe it’s possible. COACHING NOTES .156 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Remember that most people would love to earn more money but are unaware of how to do it.

The goal is to limit the performer’s expenditure of mental energy on events of the past. like one hundred units. unless they empower him. assign a number to the amount of mental energy we all have during a twenty four hour period. how many units is he wasting on the past? Most people don’t realize how much time and energy they devote to thinking about the past. Middleclass thinkers tend to spend an inordinate amount of mental energy focused on negative past events that cannot be changed. Ask him if he has only one hundred units per day. Getting Started Explain this concept of energy spent on the past to the performer and ask him what he thinks about it.157 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To make sure the performer is focusing his mental energy on what needs to be done today while creating a crystal clear vision of his future. Your job is to help him understand this and build the habit of redirecting his thoughts back to the present and future. To make this idea more tangible in his mind. .

The future will be here soon enough. Why do middle-class thinkers focus so much on the past?” Middle-Class Beliefs/Future Orientation 1. Shocking Questions 1. 2. How much of your life have you wasted thinking about the past? 2. events and circumstances I need to manifest my vision. Thinking about the future clarifies my current actions. 3.158 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. 2. Thinking about the future attracts the people. How much return does a person get from focusing on the past? 3. I’ll just be disappointed. Would you have enough evidence to prove to a jury that you have worldclass future orientation and vision? . Do you believe focusing more on the future helps a person become more successful? 2. Do your results indicate you are past or future-oriented? 3. I don’t need to think about it. Thinking about the future brings me closer to it. If I create a vision for the future. I have no control over the future. 3. World-Class Beliefs/Future Orientation 1.

159 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Sensitive Questions 1. COACHING NOTES . Awareness is the key to helping her make the change. or future. Final Thought Coaching future orientation involves expanding the performer’s awareness of how middle-class thinkers dwell on the past and world-class thinkers focus on the future. Do you see the value of becoming more future-oriented? 2. she will begin to see the potential of redirecting. Another method of helping her raise her awareness is to listen to other people talk. How can I help you become more future-oriented? Coaching the Upgrade Help the performer begin to monitor her mental energy expenditure on a daily basis. This will help her recognize how much mental energy the middle class wastes on the past. What could you do today to help build the habit of future orientation? 3. After a few days of analyzing where her mental energy is being directed. focus and planning. and build the skill of redirecting thoughts of the past toward the present and future. Show her enough examples of these two groups and eventually she will build the belief that world-class results demand futureoriented vision. and notice if they speak mostly of the past. present.

The goal is to move the performer from positive thinking to critical thinking. Do you believe there is always a better way to accomplish something? 2.” 3.160 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer to think at a higher level and challenge what the masses claim to be fact. What do you believe most people mean when they refer to themselves as “realists. Getting Started Ask the performer about past experiences when he followed someone or some idea he was sure was right but turned out to be wrong. Explain that world-class performers are always questioning the facts and searching for better solutions. Why do you believe most people refuse to challenge the facts? . To help him understand middleclass results are the result of middle-class thinking. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.

I’m barely surviving. 2. Challenging the facts is for dreamers. and happy? 2. On a scale of 1-7. 3. There is always a higher level of thinking. 2. Would your three closest friends say you are more of a follower or a leader? 3. Shocking Questions 1. the facts don’t count. I’m too busy to challenge the facts.161 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Challenging the Facts 1. I can’t afford to challenge the facts. There is always a better way to do everything. 2. I live in the real world. Do your results prove you are a follower or leader? Sensitive Questions 1. how often do you challenge the facts in your life in hopes of better results? . 7 being most often. 3. When the dream is big enough. Give an example of a time you challenged the facts in your life. World-Class Beliefs/Challenging the Facts 1. Give an example of something or someone you unconsciously followed without challenge? 3. fulfilled. How can challenging the facts help you become more successful.

COACHING NOTES . and to consider the possibility that there is a better way. The goal is to unlock the door of the performer’s mind so it’s wide open to greater possibilities.162 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The idea here is to get the performer to really think about who and what he is following. You can afford to agitate him a little. Coaching this can create anxiety for the performer because the facts as he knows them are part of how he makes sense of the world. It’s better if the performer comes to this realization on his own. World-class coaches are more guides than teachers. but any more than that is probably counterproductive. Final Thought Coaching a person to challenge the facts as he knows them is more about persistent questioning and prodding than it is about educating. Be sensitive to this as you push him to challenge. Help him raise his awareness a little at a time.

To probe the performer to see if he really enjoys his work. To persuade the performer to begin to think about the strategic advantages involved in having fun at work. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.163 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To make the performer aware of the fact that most world-class performers are having fun because they love what they do for a living. What percentage of world-class performers do you believe are having fun at work? How about middle-class performers? . Getting Started Have a discussion around having fun at work and get a feel for what the performer thinks about this. Do you believe most world-class performers love what they do so much they would do it for free? 2. Is it possible to experience great success and fun at the same time? 3. and if it’s possible to eliminate activities that aren’t fun.

How much fun are you having at work? 3. 3. Workers having fun are always the most successful and happy. 2. How can I help you have more fun in your job? . Work is not fun. Work is fun. On a scale of 1-7. 3. Shocking Questions 1. How does someone who’s not having fun in their job compete with someone who is having fun? 3. Work is not supposed to be fun. If you earn your living doing something fun your chances of experiencing uncommon success increase dramatically. Are your beliefs about having fun at work helping or hurting you? 2.164 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Fun 1. 2. 7 being most fun. You work hard so you can have fun when you retire. World-Class Beliefs/Fun 1. how much fun are you having in your job? 2. What is the most fun job you ever considered? Sensitive Questions 1.

COACHING NOTES . We are now living in the age of the mind. This programming comes from the industrial age when people slaved away doing physically demanding. laugh. It’s a win-win deal. well past the point where they have any value. and enjoy their work more than ever. not during work hours. sometimes backbreaking work. Beliefs are handed down from generation to generation and can last hundreds of years. Part of coaching around having fun at work is helping the performer understand that some of their beliefs are no longer valid or empowering in the modern world. where it’s possible to have fun performing tasks that challenge the intellect and serve as a catalyst for personal growth. The benefit to the organization is increased productivity and decreased turnover.165 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Remember that most people have been conditioned to believe that fun is something you experience on the weekends. Final Thought Coaching fun at work gives the performer permission to smile.

Is holding a grudge more ego or spirit-based? 3. To help her understand the same energy she’s investing in something out of her control could be used to move her closer to her vision. Getting Started Carefully question the performer regarding her beliefs about the past and how she feels about it. Is it possible to forgive someone without condoning their behavior? .166 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer redirect any mental energy she’s wasting being upset or angry. Are their people and negative circumstances of the past occupying her thoughts in the present and what impact is this having on her performance? Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What is the benefit of forgiving someone who has hurt you? 2.

Have you forgiven people who have hurt you? 3. Only weak people forgive. Only strong people forgive. Forgiveness sets my spirit free. What impact does forgiveness have on you psychologically? 2. 3. 2. Who is the most forgiving person you know? Do you admire him or her? . Forgiveness is about loving myself enough to let go of the past. Have you ever done anything you wish to be forgiven for? 2. How does it feel to forgive? Sensitive Questions 1. World-Class Beliefs/Forgiveness 1. 2. Does holding a grudge have an affect on your body? 3. Shocking Questions 1. Only naïve people forgive.167 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Forgiveness 1. 3. If I forgive them it will happen again.

and beliefs on this subject. Simply move the performer forward. due to the personal nature of the subject. Like most of the more sensitive concepts. Few of us are taught anything about forgiveness. and we have no idea how much mental energy is bound up inside us just waiting to be released. feelings. and you may be the only person who will ever discuss this subject with him. clearly and gently. but to help redirect energy being wasted on the past. The idea is not to pry into the performer’s personal life. Don’t push too hard or too fast. Final Thought Coaching a performer to embrace forgiveness is a gift. forgiveness will likely require multiple coaching sessions over an extended period of time. Move slowly as you walk the performer through her thoughts.168 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Coach around forgiveness with caution. COACHING NOTES .

Getting Started Hold a coaching session around the performer’s primary motivator for achieving her vision. After she tells you.169 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer uncover her emotional motivators. people are usually driven by things that cannot be seen on the surface. Keep peeling back the layers through thoughtful questioning and watch the emotion flow. starting with “Why do you want to achieve your vision”. ask her “Why is that important to you?” Once she tells you. she will be in a highly charged emotional state of mind that will allow you to dig into uncovering the “wizard behind the curtain”. and to understand that the ‘how’ of world-class success is not as important as the ‘why’. In other words. . Find out what’s driving her by asking a series of probing questions around her emotional motivators.

Shocking Questions 1. What is a more powerful motivator. Is your current level of motivation strong enough to manifest your ultimate vision? 3. I fight so I don’t have to worry about money. I fight to maximize my potential. Is it possible to tap a deeper level of emotional motivation inside you that you are currently unaware even exists? . Do you know what you’re fighting for? 2. World-Class Beliefs/Knowing Why You Are Fighting 1.170 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. logic or emotion? 3. 2. I fight to survive 2. Do you believe most people fail to escape middle-class results due to a lack of knowledge or motivation? 2. 3. I fight to manifest my vision and fulfill my dreams. I fight to be comfortable 3. I fight because life is a gift and I want to experience all of it fully. What do you believe drives world-class performers more than anything else? Middle-Class Beliefs/Knowing Why You Are Fighting 1.

totally unfazed. COACHING NOTES . especially at the deepest levels. scorn her.171 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Sensitive Questions 1. Your job is to get the performer to trust you enough to tell you the truth in terms of how she really feels. how strong are your emotional motivators? 2. and she will continue moving toward her vision. What emotion drives you the most in your life? Is it possible to use it in your business life? Coaching the Upgrade Most people have no idea of the depth of fire that burns within that can be converted into emotional motivation. laugh at her. Keep asking why the performer wants what she wants and feels the way she feels. 7 being strongest. Are you willing to allow me to lead you though the introspective process of uncovering your emotional motivators? 3. You’re not coaching or advising in this role. Reject her. without judgment. When a performer knows why she’s fighting she becomes bullet-proof. because no one has ever taken them through the process. you are simply facilitating the introspective process. Final Thought Helping a performer uncover her emotional power is the psychological equivalent of escorting Clark Kent to a phone booth. On a scale of 1-7.

Your job is to move the performer into objective reality regarding how to identify greatness. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What do you think it takes to become a great performer in your field? . What do you believe separates the good from the great? 2.172 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help your charge understand the world is full of very good performers. yet great performers are rare. What role do you believe luck plays in attaining world-class success? 3. which is why they’re so well compensated. Greatness is mandatory for the manifestation of a world-class vision. Getting Started Ask the performer the difference between good. and great. and lead him through an accounting of his results to see where he stands. very good. You’ll find most people throw around terms like “great” as though greatness was a common occurrence.

cheat. Is it impossible to become a great performer in this field. Who would you identify as a world-class role model in your business attaining great results? . World-Class Beliefs/Very Good Is Bad 1. Very good performers are unclear about what they’re fighting for. 3. Shocking Questions 1.173 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Very Good Is Bad 1. What’s the difference in compensation in your job between a very good performer and a great performer? 2. World-class performers are more intelligent and educated than middleclass performers. How difficult is it to become a very good performer? 2. 2. and get lucky. Very good performers have never made the decision to become great. People get great results because they suck up. 3. 2. Very good performers negotiate the price of greatness. The only difference between the good and great is who they know. Are you holding back from making the decision to be great because some middle-class performer sold you on the idea that what you would have to sacrifice wasn’t worth it? Sensitive Questions 1. or just impossible for you? 3. Do you believe you have what it takes to become a great performer? 3.

174 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Once the performer understands the difference between good. and great. Once he understands that the first step in moving to the next level is a decision to do whatever it takes. he becomes aware that the only thing holding him back from manifesting his ultimate vision is himself. Final Thought The difference between very good and great in business is the difference between living a comfortable life and becoming a multi-millionaire. and that these three categories are determined solely by results. very good. it forces him to take full responsibility for his place on the scale. COACHING NOTES .

the more compensation she can command. It demands she take full responsibility for her results. Be aware that most people who have always been employed have never seen themselves as professional performers leasing their services to the corporation where they work. Many see themselves as cogs in the corporate wheel. The goal is to help the performer develop the belief she is in business for herself. . no matter how high their position. Once the performer begins to see herself as selfemployed she begins to realize that she is fully responsible for her own success. The better she becomes as a performer. This mindset empowers people to do whatever it takes to be successful or risk facing a life of regret. The company can no longer be blamed. Getting Started Talk to the performer about her beliefs surrounding this idea to get a feel for how much coaching you’re going to need to do.175 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer that the concept of free enterprise is as much of a mindset as a structure of enterprise. regardless of who signs her paycheck. This belief breeds great work habits and puts the performer’s success or failure squarely in her hands.

Free enterprise means taking responsibility for your business life.176 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. How do you feel about taking full responsibility for your results. Shocking Questions 1. Do you see yourself as self-employed? 3. 2. Do you take full responsibility for your results in your business life? 2. What do you think of the philosophy that all of us are really selfemployed? 2. World-Class Beliefs/Free Enterprise 1. 3. I have too many responsibilities to take advantage of the free enterprise system. Free enterprise is only for risk takers. 3. 2. Does the philosophy of self-employment motivate or de-motivate you? 3. Free enterprise only works for people who have their own business. Free enterprise is a mindset. no matter what the company does or doesn’t do for you? Middle-Class Beliefs/Free Enterprise 1. What does free enterprise mean to you? . Free enterprise means you are free to become wealthy.

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1. Would adopting a free enterprise, self-employed philosophy help or hurt you? 2. What would you have to do to fully adopt this philosophy? 3. How would this idea change how you approach your job on a day-to-day basis?

Coaching the Upgrade
Moving from believing you’re a cog in the corporate wheel to realizing you’re in total control of your destiny is a major shift in thinking, so be patient with people if they seem to be struggling. Instead of forcing it to fast, go for small gains that build momentum. Remember you are up against years of middle-class programming.

Final Thought
Coaching around free enterprise and seeing yourself as self employed is critical to building a world-class performer. Until your performer takes full responsibility for her results, she will be relegated to modest levels of accomplishment.

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To expand the performer’s world view regarding the responsibility we all have as citizens of the world. To help him understand that being a true member of the world class means not only world-class success, but taking responsibility for having a positive effect on the world.

Getting Started
Ask the performer how he feels about the concept of global citizenship, and any responsibility he feels to become a great global citizen. Give examples of world-class leaders such as former Presidents George H. W. Bush and Bill Clinton continuing to contribute time and energy to important world issues.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs
1. Do you believe in the idea of global citizenship? 2. Do you believe becoming a more active global citizen can move you closer to your ultimate vision? 3. Would becoming a more active global citizen help you be more successful at work?

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Middle-Class Beliefs/Global Citizenship
1. Global citizenship is for wealthy people and politicians. 2. I don’t care about global citizenship. I’m just trying to survive. 3. Global citizenship has nothing to do with my success at work.

World-Class Beliefs/Global Citizenship
1. Everything affects everything. The better global citizen I am the better I will be at everything else. 2. To whom much is given, much is expected. World-class success comes with world-class responsibility. 3. The world needs all the help it can get. I refuse to leave the burden to someone else.

Shocking Questions
1. Are you more of a giver or taker as a world citizen? 2. Are you willing to give back to a needy world, even on a small scale? 3. What have you done to make the world a better place?

Sensitive Questions
1. Is it possible that responsible global citizenship could be a non-linear success strategy of the world-class? 2. What could you do to become a better global citizen today? 3. How would becoming a better global citizen make you a better employee or business owner?

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The idea of global citizenship for most middle-class thinkers will sound foreign. Few of them will be able to connect this concept with becoming a better performer. Your job as a coach is to help them see the big picture.

Final Thought
Coach this philosophy knowing most people are operating in a fear-based consciousness, and will not immediately connect with this non-linear success strategy. Global citizenship is about sharing out of love and abundance for your fellow man, and that means the performer will move into this higher state of consciousness when he is involved in active global citizenship. The more time a person spends in a love-based consciousness, the more time he will want to spend there. Your job as a coach is to be the catalyst that gets him started. The way it makes him feel will take care of the rest.

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To help the performer understand the world-class philosophy of abundance and how it relates to giving without expecting anything in return. To persuade the performer of the positive effects giving has on confidence, self-esteem, and overall sense of fulfillment.

Getting Started
Talk to the performer about the difference between giving to get and giving for the sake of giving.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs
1. Do you believe it’s possible to give without getting? 2. What impact has giving had on you in the past? 3. Why do most people give? Why do you give?

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Middle-Class Beliefs/Giving
1. I can’t afford to give. 2. Giving is for rich people. 3. Most people don’t appreciate it, so I don’t give.

World-Class Beliefs/Giving
1. I can’t afford not to give. 2. Giving attracts abundance 3. Giving is the responsibility of every world-class performer.

Shocking Questions
1. Are you really giving or trading favors? 2. Is it possible your beliefs about giving are hurting you? 3. Have your beliefs about giving evolved with your thinking, or do you have the same philosophy you had five years ago?

Sensitive Questions
1. Could not giving enough be costing you? 2. Can becoming more of a giver move you closer to your ultimate vision? 3. Do you only give when you get something in return?

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Keep in mind that most of us have been conditioned to be traders, not givers. We give only when we expect to get an equal benefit in return. This low level of consciousness is rooted in fear. Your goal should be to help raise the performer’s level of awareness in this area so she sees that giving is actually a non-linear strategy that floods the giver with abundance, especially if she gives without expectation of return.

Final Thought
Giving without attachment floods the giver with feelings of love, abundance and gratitude. It tells the subconscious there’s a limitless supply, which directs it to make this idea a reality. The more the performer gives, the more she gets back. It’s impossible to outgive the universe.

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To coach the performer that putting goals on paper and reviewing them daily is critical to his success. Everyone understands goal setting, yet few people practice it. Your job is to persuade the performer how important this activity is.

Getting Started
Ask the performer about his beliefs on goal setting, and if he can tell you his top three business goals in ten seconds. If he can’t, they’re not burned in his mind at the world-class level.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs
1. How important is goal setting? 2. Why do you believe goal setting is important or not important? 3. Why do so many people know about goal setting yet only one percent takes it to the world-class level?

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1. I know what I want. I don’t need to write it down because it’s all in my head. 2. If I write down my goals and fail I’ll be disappointed. 3. Goals are for dreamers. I’m a realist.

World-Class Beliefs/Goals
1. My goals are the blueprint of my life 2. My goals direct my everyday actions. 3. Goals are mandatory for world-class success.

Shocking Questions
1. How much mental energy do you direct toward your three primary goals during on the average day? 2. How often do you review your major goals? Is this helping or hurting you? 3. Is it possible you have underestimated the importance of world-class goal setting?

Sensitive Questions
1. Would you be willing to reevaluate your beliefs around goal setting if I told you it would move you closer to your vision? 2. On a scale of 1-7, 7 being most important, how important is world-class goal setting? 3. Why is goal setting so important?

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Most people enjoying moderate success will tell you they believe in goal setting, but couldn’t tell you their primary goals in 10 seconds or less if you put a gun to their head. They are dangerously unaware of how much this is costing them, because they are at the level of thinking where they believe knowing something is equal to actively practicing it. In reality, they are no better off than the person who’s never heard of goal setting. Convince the performer to write his Top 10 goals down every day for 30 days and describe what happens. The performer will be stunned at the level of mental clarity and focus gained from this exercise.

Final Thought
World-class goal setting is the linear, logic-based process of champions. Vision is the non-linear, emotion-based process of champions. Put them together and you have a laser focused, emotionally turbo-charged performer who is unstoppable!

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To persuade the performer to adopt this philosophy.

Getting Started
Give the performer examples of successful people who have failed over and over, yet eventually achieved world-class results. Specific industry related examples will probably have the most impact.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs
1. How do you define failure? 2. What creates more personal growth: success or failure? 3. Do you believe personal growth is the secret of success?

188 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Learning and Growing 1. If you failed more would you experience more personal growth? 3. What evidence do you have to show you’re not afraid of failure? 2. 2. 3. If you’re not afraid of failing. 7 being most scared. Failure is necessary. The possibility of failure creates excitement. how much does failure scare you? 2. What would happen if you set a goal to double your failure rate? 3. World-Class Beliefs/Learning and Growing 1. Failure creates growth. Shocking Questions 1. Failure is embarrassing. 3. On a scale of 1-7. or failed by default? Sensitive Questions 1. Failure is scary. In the past. Failure equals pain. 2. why haven’t you taken more risks? . have you actively failed.

COACHING NOTES . you are almost always going to be coaching someone who claims not to be afraid to fail when the fact is they’re terrified of it. but the more you question them. you automatically remove the intimidation factor.189 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Since most of us have been conditioned to fear failure and avoid it at all costs. and that’s when you can go to work to convince them that reprogramming their beliefs in this area is critical to their success. Final Thought If you can coach a performer to control fear and embrace the growth that follows it. You’ll know the change has begun when the performer begins taking more risks. the more aware they become. Through careful questioning their fear will be revealed. Most people don’t even realize how much fear dictates their lives.

and if he believes they are important enough to warrant an active improvement process. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Getting Started Ask the performer what role communication skills have played in his life. Do you believe great communication skills are important in attaining world-class success? 3. What is the most powerful form of communication? . To persuade him to actively improve his communication skills on a daily basis. How much impact have your communication skills had on the success of your most important relationships? 2.190 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective Help the performer understand that his communication skills play a major role in his results.

how good of a communicator are you? .191 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/World-Class Communicators 1. Do your results indicate you are a good communicator? 2. Your ability to communicate is critical to your success. Shocking Questions 1. What are you doing to improve your communication skills? 3. Successful communication is about getting people to do what you want them to do. 3. 7 being best. Successful communication means mutual understanding. Who are the best communicators you know and what makes them so good? 3. 2. Successful communication is about connecting with people. 3. Communication is talking. Do you believe it’s possible to get better results through improved communication skills? Sensitive Questions 1. 2. World-Class Beliefs/World-Class Communicators 1. What makes you a good/bad communicator? 2. On a scale of 1-7. Communication means making people understand what you’re saying.

attending seminars or workshops. COACHING NOTES . Get the performer to really think about how his ability to communicate is affecting his life. Your job is to persuade the performer to begin an ongoing process of improvement.192 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Very few people deny the importance of communication skills. This could include reading books or watching DVDs on the subject. or joining a communication club like Toastmasters International or a Bill Gove Speech Club. Final Thought Coaching communications skills is about getting the performer on the path to constant and never ending improvement in this area.

Do you believe world-class habits lead to world-class results? 2. Getting Started Talk to the performer about how good and bad habits have affected her life. Why don’t more people develop world-class habits? . and that successful habit formation is built one activity at a time.193 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer that world-class performers are the product of superior habits. Why are habits so critical to success? 3. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.

2. Habits are something to break. 3. Great habits are too difficult to develop? World-Class Beliefs/Habits 1. would you be living your vision? 2. Great habits start out as cobwebs and turn into cables. Shocking Questions 1. 3. Habits are hereditary. If your habits were better. What middle-class habits would you have to give up in order to make room for world-class habits? 2. 7 being best.194 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Habits 1. World-class habits lead to world-class results. 2. how can I help you develop better habits? . As your coach. how good are your work habits? 3. Great habits are developed one day at a time. Are your habits more middle class or world class? 3. On a scale of 1-7. What would you have to change to build world-class habits? Sensitive Questions 1.

But building and coaching around habits is critical to your performer’s success. Motivating the performer is great. Convince the performer that a pre-determined set of world-class habits is one of the most important things he can do en route to his vision.195 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade What you’re up against is the middle-class belief that habits are something to overcome. COACHING NOTES . Inspiring him is even better. Help him identify the top five most important habits of the best performers in his business and create a plan of action to develop these five habits. Final Thought Coaching and monitoring a performer’s daily work habits is one of the most important roles of the world-class coach.

Why do people respond better to humility than arrogance? 3. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. and how most people love to help those who make them feel important. Getting Started Talk to her about the role humility plays in soliciting the assistance of others. What role does humility play in achieving world-class success? 2.196 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand the only thing standing between herself and her vision is the help and support of enough other powerful people. Why do most people fail to present themselves more humbly in business? .

Who are the most humble people you respect in business? . What would you have to do to become more humble? 3. Humility helps me connect with other people. Do you believe being more humble would move you closer to your vision? 3. Would your three closest friends say you are humble? 2. 3. Humility is classy. Humility is a sign of weakness. Are you afraid to be more humble? Sensitive Questions 1. Humility allows others to shine and feel important. 2. 2. Humility can be interpreted as a sign of incompetence. Shocking Questions 1. How could being more humble help you get what you want? 2. 3.197 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Humility 1. World-Class Beliefs/Humility 1. Humility shows a lack of confidence.

COACHING NOTES . and successful. One of the most effective methods of coaching humility is to let the performer select a role model of humility and simply mimic the role model. Final Thought Coaching humility is about helping the performer become more well-liked.198 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Coaching humility is tricky because you have to encourage the performer to be self-effacing without destroying his confidence. accepted. It’s also about helping him develop into a class act that other champions will embrace and allow into their circles of influence.

Getting Started Have a discussion with the performer around happiness and get a feel for how happy she’s been throughout her life. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.199 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer that happiness is the byproduct of becoming the person you were meant to be and pursuing the people and passions in harmony with your spirit. What are the ingredients of a happy life? 3. What does happiness mean to you? 2. Why are so many people unhappy? .

How could lead a happier. Who are the happiest people you know. If I only had (fill in the blank) I would be happy. Happiness isn’t a condition. 3. 2. 3. and why do you believe they are so happy? 2. what do you do to make yourself happy again? . it’s a decision. Thinking dictates happiness. Shocking Questions 1. more fulfilling life? Sensitive Questions 1. Happiness can be purchased. how happy are you with your life? 3.200 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Happiness 1. On a scale of 1-7. Explain what happiness means to you? 3. When you are feeling unhappy. Only the lucky ones are truly happy. Are you happy? 2. Happiness is a byproduct of acting in a manner congruent with your value system. World-Class Beliefs/Happiness 1. 2. 7 being happiest.

COACHING NOTES . which only creates shortterm happiness. Coach them to forget about happiness and focus on fulfilling their potential as people. Final Thought Happiness is the ultimate outcome in the game of life. They therefore tend to engage in pleasure seeking. self-sustained happiness that is immune to outside factors.201 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Remember as you’re coaching around happiness that most people have never been taught anything about the science of happiness. be aware that achieving happiness is so simple that many very intelligent people miss it completely. As a coach. and happiness will show up in the process. Your job is to help the performer realize that being and becoming the person they were meant to be is the real secret to long term. so coaching around this elusive state of mind may be your most important task.

Many fear-based performers believe in honesty. Many of our coaches are shocked at what their performers share with them around this topic. Give examples about the current wave of business executives who believed it was ok to bilk thousands of their employees out of their hard earned pensions. Getting Started Ask the performer what he believes about honesty. Do you believe most successful people are honest? . Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What does honesty mean to you? 2. and happiness. yet think its ok to be dishonest in business. fulfillment.202 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To serve as a reminder that honesty is the most intelligent strategy to attaining world-class success. Get a feel for what the performer believes about this. especially as it relates to business. Is what you were taught as a child about honesty congruent with what you believe now? How have your beliefs evolved? 3.

You can’t be honest in the business world today. You can’t be successful and honest. What would you like to be more honest about in your life? 3. Dishonesty erodes the richness of success. Who is the most honest person you know? 2. people won’t like me. Shocking Questions 1. 3. World-Class Beliefs/Honesty 1. The only path to long-term success is honesty 2. How honest are you? 2. 2. If I’m honest. What would you have to change to become more honest? . Would being more honest help or hurt you? Sensitive Questions 1. Is dishonesty ever justified? 3. Honesty feels good. 3.203 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Honesty 1.

Gathering this information on their belief and value system will give you great insight into how the performer is wired. Final Thought Learning what a performer believes about honesty will enable you predict a lot of his behaviors. Expect this initial response and continue to ask probing questions. COACHING NOTES . As with all of your coaching conversations.204 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade There’s more to coaching honesty then meets the eye. Most people have conflicting beliefs about honesty that are rooted in fear. Most people agree honesty is important and claim to be honest in everything. keep good notes on the performer’s responses and it will serve as a mental blueprint for your coaching. They believe if they were more honest in certain areas it would hurt them.

205 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer realize the difference between what middleclass thinkers believe about ideas versus world-class thinkers. Getting Started See how the performer feels about his own ideas. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What role do you believe ideas play in creating world-class success? 2. Can a person improve his or her idea generating ability? 3. To persuade the performer that almost any problem can be solved if enough creative energy is focused on it. and ask for examples of how being creative has helped him succeed in his life. What is the best way to generate new problem solving ideas? .

You have to be wealthy to invest time simply trying to come up with ideas. Could you double your income in the next twelve months with the right idea? . World-Class Beliefs/Great Ideas 1. Developing your ability to generate great ideas is one of the most profitable activities you can pursue in business. 2. Is it possible one great idea could change your life? 3. There’s no connection between money and ideas. What’s the best idea you ever had that you took to fruition? Sensitive Questions 1. 3.206 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Great Ideas 1. Some people are idea people and others are not. Ideas are the heart of world-class success. Do you see the value in becoming an idea person? 2. Money flows to great ideas. 3. Shocking Questions 1. Are you an idea person? 2. 2. What are you doing to cultivate your idea generating abilities? 3.

COACHING NOTES . Encourage the performer to think back on problems. Final Thought Coach this one with patients knowing you are most likely the only person who has ever or will ever coach him around this concept. You are probably the only chance he’ll ever have at understanding how crucial this skill is to his success. You’re attempting to help him make the connection between ideas and getting everything he wants out of life. no matter how small. Coach from your spirit and give him time to grow. Once he understands this. he realizes he is one spectacular idea away from manifesting his ultimate vision. that he solved over the course of his life by coming up with an idea.207 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Many people must experience the success of one of their ideas to fully understand the magnitude of becoming a professional idea person. knowing this one idea could literally change his life forever.

Do you believe imagination is critical to attaining world-class results? 2. Can someone learn how to use his imagination more effectively? 3. and that world-class imagination is a skill built one day at a time. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.208 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer that imagination is one the most powerful tools on the planet. Getting Started Talk to the performer about the role imagination plays in world-class success and get a sense of how she has used it in the past. How does a person’s imagination impact his level of success? .

209 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Imagination 1. Shocking Questions 1. Imagination is the foundation of world-class success. Are you afraid of imagining things you don’t believe you can achieve? Sensitive Questions 1. Are imaginative people daydreamers or visionaries? . I don’t have time to imagine. 2. Who is the most imaginative person you know? 3. Imagination doesn’t work in the real world. If you were more imaginative would you be more successful? 2. 2. 3. Imagination is for children. How could you develop your imagination? 2. All visionaries tap their imaginative powers. If you can imagine it you can do it. Could building a more vivid imagination be the missing link you’ve been searching for? 3. 3. World-Class Beliefs/Imagination 1.

The mind is drawn to images we create on our mental movie screen. she’ll begin to use her imagination to its full potential. COACHING NOTES . Be patient and explain the benefits of imagination in the same way you would electricity. linear personality will be tougher to coach due to the nonlinear aspect of imagination. The mind immediately goes to work to bring the images into reality on the physical plane. The left brain. logical. She’s probably been using her imagination all of her life. especially when the pictures are emotionally charged. Once she believes whatever she sees clearly in her mind can be created. The right brain. You can’t see it. non-linear personality will be quicker to catch on. emotional. Final Thought Coaching imagination has the potential to expand the performer’s entire spectrum of thought. but it exists.210 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Always be aware of the personality style of your pupil.

Talk about how the world class is aware of this disease and learns to use emotion as a tool without letting it interfere with their performance. To convince him to take continuous action toward his vision whether he feels like it or not. Why do most people allow their feelings to hold them back from doing what they need to do to succeed? 2. Getting Started Discuss how the middle-class is plagued by the disease of being led by their emotions and the inconsistency in performance this creates. How do world-class performers control their feelings? 3.211 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer break the habit of allowing his emotions to dictate his behavior. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Is it possible to break the habit of having to feel like doing something in order to do it? .

Don’t do things that don’t feel good. Feelings are sometimes irrational and can get in your way. If you ignored your feelings more often would you be more successful? 2. How can you improve your ability to push past feelings that threaten to slow you down? 3.212 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Feelings 1. World-Class Beliefs/Feelings 1. 7 being best. how good are you at pushing past your feelings and doing what needs to be done? 2. There’s always time to do it later. 2. 3. 2. Feeling follows action. Are your feelings costing you your vision? 3. On a scale of 1-7. Feelings are valuable as long as they are governed. How good are you at doing what you need to do whether you feel like it or not? Sensitive Questions 1. How can I help and support you in this area? . 3. Shocking Questions 1. It’s comfortable to do what I feel like doing.

and behaviors and you will be able to prove or disprove his claims. Final Thought Creating a heightened sense of awareness in reference to how his feelings are affecting him is the first and most important step. Cross check what he says with his daily habits. Once he locks into this idea. he will begin to become more aware of how his feelings are dictating a substantial portion of his behavior. Once he begins to see what is really happening as compared to what he originally believed he will be forced to decide whether to take control of his emotions or settle for a life of mediocrity. COACHING NOTES . Let the performer’s results be your guide in moving him toward objective reality.213 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Be aware that most people will overrate themselves in this area and claim great control over their feelings. actions.

Why do so few people succeed at making the transition from fear and scarcity to love and abundance based thinking? . Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Get a feel for the performer’s beliefs around this concept. How do you think world-class thinkers transcend their fear and build a love and abundance based consciousness? 3. Getting Started Discuss the difference between a love and fear-based consciousness. To convince the performer to monitor her ego and operate from love and abundance as often as possible. and that the root of middle-class thinking is fear and scarcity.214 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer that the path to world-class success is paved with love and abundance. What is the middle class so afraid of? 2.

What beliefs would you have to adopt in order to make the transition from fear and scarcity to love and abundance? . Shocking Questions 1. Love and abundance are spirit-based. fulfillment and happiness? 3. Love and abundance-based thinking is in harmony with the source that created the world. If you operate from love and abundance the world will take advantage of you. Love and abundance attracts more love and abundance.215 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Love and Abundance 1. How has fear and scarcity based thinking contributed to your success. 2. 3. World-Class Beliefs/Love and Abundance 1. 3. Fear and scarcity are ego-based. How would your approach to life change if you adopted a love and abundance based mentality? 2. 2. Only the rich and powerful can afford to operate from a love and abundance based consciousness. What would it take to adopt a love and abundance based consciousness? Sensitive Questions 1. Love and abundance thinking is a sign of weakness. What would you have to let go of in order to adopt a love and abundance based mentality? 3. What’s the worst thing that can happen if you decide to give up all thoughts of fear and scarcity? 2.

and letting go is going to generate additional fears.216 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Keep in mind that moving from fear and scarcity to love and abundance is a giant leap for most people and is going to require time and patience. Your job is to introduce a systematic process of coaching that breaks down this low level of programming and helps the performer upgrade his or her thoughts to love and abundance. but if you succeed. It’s an extremely difficult task. Too much pressure will create burnout. Final Thought The middle class has been conditioned over years and years to embrace fear and scarcity to protect them from pain. Coach this process step by step and allow the performer to grow at a challenging. fear has served and protected this performer from pain and injustice. Find the right balance for every performer you’re coaching and world-class results will follow. Remember that at some level. yet non-threatening pace. COACHING NOTES . Too little pressure from you will create stagnation. you will have altered the destiny of another human being and everyone he or she influences forever.

leaders must be focused and fearless.217 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand that in order to achieve worldclass results. and how far she is willing to go to back them up. What leaders do you respect the most. A leader who lives in fear of reprisal will wilt when the pressure from superiors becomes too great. Do you associate great leaders with fear or fearlessness? 3. What values are you unwilling to sacrifice in order to save your job or business? . This is just about the time world-class leaders are warming up for the fight. and how she has handled it in the past. Ask her about the role fear plays in this process. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. and why do you respect them? 2. Getting Started Talk to the performer about her most closely held beliefs as it relates to her role as a leader. Their convictions must be so strong they’re willing to bet everything they have on them.

The only true leader is the fearless leader. What steps would you have to take to become a stronger leader? 3. 3. 2. Are you willing to be fired in order to maintain your integrity as a leader? 2. World-Class Beliefs/Fearless Leadership 1. Shocking Questions 1. 7 being strongest. If I get fired I won’t be able to pay my bills. 3. What would you have to believe in order to become a fearless leader? .218 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Fearless Leadership 1. 2. Courage is the primary trait of a great leader. The rest are followers. How far are you willing to go to defend your beliefs? Sensitive Questions 1. how strong of a leader are you? 2. On a scale of 1-7. People that make waves don’t last as leaders. Leadership by consensus offers greater job security. Are you more of a leader or follower? 3. Leaders are willing to stand up for what they believe in.

A delusional leader is difficult to coach. What the world needs is people are bold enough to stand up for what they believe in and refuse to acquiesce to the threat of retribution or termination.219 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The enemy of mental toughness is delusion. Final Thought The world is full of followers and partially committed leaders. COACHING NOTES . Your job is to ask probing questions and move the performer into objective reality as it relates to their leadership ability and fearlessness. Be aware that most people will rate their leadership ability far higher than their peers rate them. because he is wondering what he could possibly learn from you considering how great he already is.

What’s the downside of giving people credit for their achievements? 2.220 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer to build the habit of giving credit to others. and how giving credit reflects a person’s consciousness. Have you ever been denied credit you deserved? 3. To help him understand that taking credit is an ego-based action while sharing credit is spirit-based. while spirit attracts people to you. Ego repels. What does it say about a leader who doesn’t give credit to his or her people? . Getting Started Remind the performer of the difference between ego and spirit-based thinking. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.

Are you afraid to give credit to other people? Sensitive Questions 1. The more credit you share the more you receive.221 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Sharing the Credit 1. 3. What beliefs would you have to relinquish to become a world-class purveyor of recognition? . Would sharing credit more often move you closer to your ultimate vision? 2. 7 being most. On a scale of 1-7. Part of a great leader’s job is to give credit to others. Taking full credit gives me more credibility. You have to take credit or risk being overlooked. Giving credit fosters harmonious relationships. how often do you share credit with others? 3. Sharing the credit takes the spotlight off me. 3. 2. How often do you publicly praise other people? 2. 2. World-Class Beliefs/Sharing the Credit 1. Shocking Questions 1. What would your peers say about you regarding giving credit to others? 3.

222 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Have a conversation about the benefits of sharing credit with more people. COACHING NOTES . and that whatever you give away must return to you in abundance by way of natural law. Your job as coach is to help him transcend this middle-class habit. Final Thought Coaching around sharing credit is a non-linear life strategy that the masses tend to ignore in exchange for instant ego gratification. more often. Convince the performer that it’s impossible to outgive the universe.

which many times will be illogical or irrational. ask the performer the worst thing that could happen if this change occurs. Do you consider change to be a good thing? 2.223 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer build the belief that change means progress. you can begin the coaching process by breaking down the cause of the fear. With the worst case scenario on the table. In your experience. and as a result tends to avoid risk and new opportunity. The middle-class is afraid of change. Do you believe that a leader’s primary role is to bring about change? . Next. what percentage of the time does change turn out to be positive? 3. Getting Started Start out by asking the performer about some of the potential changes she’s facing in the next twelve months. and progress is good. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.

Change equals new opportunity. Is your attitude toward change moving you closer to your vision? 3. Is your attitude toward change helping or hurting you? 2. 3. World-Class Beliefs/Change 1. Shocking Questions 1. Is resisting change more middle or world-class behavior? 3. What part of the change process scares you the most? Sensitive Questions 1. What is your fear of change costing you? 2.224 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Change 1. Change is scary. Change means progress. 2. Change is uncomfortable. 3. 2. Change is exciting. Change is unnecessary. What would you have to believe in order to become a zealot for change? .

and watch the performer begin to transcend this middle-class mindset. manageable pieces and you will remove the intimidation factor. Reduce each fear to the ridiculous. Dissect each one of her fears in small. Final Thought The professional Mental Toughness Coach knows getting the performer to become a zealot for change is crucial in this permanent white-water world. COACHING NOTES .225 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Identifying and breaking down why the performer fears change is critical to helping her move past this limiting belief.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. and happiness? 2.226 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer that integrity is a prerequisite for worldclass success. World-class performers are usually moving at such a rapid rate that they don’t have time to double check that you’re doing what you promised. poor. Breach their trust one time and it will be the last opportunity you have to do business with them. Who tends to have more integrity: the rich. What role does integrity play in success. or middle class? . and one of the key requirements to becoming a member of their circle is absolute integrity. fulfillment. Getting Started Have a conversation with the performer around the idea that champions only like to deal with champions. Do you see integrity as more of an asset or liability when you are trying to get what you want? 3.

What would you have to believe in order to maintain 100% integrity? . Integrity is a luxury of the rich and powerful. Acting with integrity is the right thing to do. Integrity is a value and has nothing to do with outside circumstances. and subordinates say you act with integrity? 3. 3. Shocking Questions 1. 2. superiors. 3. What percentage of the time do you act with integrity? Sensitive Questions 1. World-Class Beliefs/Integrity 1.227 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Integrity 1. Only the naïve believe in 100% integrity. If you were accused of acting with world-class integrity. That’s how they got rich. What percentage of the time would your colleagues. 2. would there be enough evidence to convict you? 2. Wealthy people have little integrity. What percentage of the time do your closest friends act with integrity? 2. What are three core beliefs you have regarding integrity? 3. Integrity is everything.

they will begin working on increasing their integrity quotient. Final Thought Coaching integrity means asking the performer to be brutally honest about how often he follows through on the promises he makes. Most are not lying to you. as always. COACHING NOTES . Your job. is to make them think at a higher level and move them towards objective reality. Once they are more aware.228 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Realize when you’re coaching integrity that the delusion factor with the middle class is high. The average person will rate themselves twice as high as they should. They really believe they’re living this way. and then coaching him around the value of increasing his percentage.

Who is more likely to be bold: the middle class or world class? 3. 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. what were you taught about being bold to get what you want? . Getting Started Ask the performer about situations when she was bold and it made the difference between success and failure. Fill in the blank: Bold people are___________________. Growing up.229 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand the value of being bold in select situations.

230 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Boldness 1. Would becoming bolder move you closer to your ultimate vision? . World-Class Beliefs/Boldness 1. On a scale of 1-7. 2. Shocking Questions 1. Do you have the self confidence to be bolder? 3. If you were bolder would you be more successful? 2. Bold people are strong. 3. Bold people are pushy. Bold people are rude. 7 being boldest. Is it possible to be bolder without being pushy? Sensitive Questions 1. Bold people have firm convictions. Bold people get what they want without hurting others. 2. 3. What would you have to believe to become bolder? 3. Bold people are arrogant. how bold are you? 2.

The meek and quiet rarely manifest their visions and fulfill their potential. so while she’s pushing to be bold. she sees it as a stretch and not a sign of abandoning her core values in regards to how she believes she should behave. and give them time to convince themselves of its value. Final Thought Coach your people to consider the power of a bolder approach than they’ve ever taken. Both can succeed through boldness without changing who they are or their core values. A Wall Street power broker is going to be bold on one end of the spectrum. The secret is to develop a level of boldness congruent with her value system.231 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Your job is to help the performer develop the belief that boldness is a requirement for world-class success. while a housewife in Nebraska might be on the other end. COACHING NOTES .

What are the advantages and pitfalls of an interdependent business philosophy? . Getting Started Ask the performer about what independence and interdependence means to him and how it fits into his work and family life. Do you believe it’s possible to accomplish more through independent or interdependent action? 3.232 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer discover the power of working with a team. and what’s possible when you’re willing to let go of doing everything on your own. How has counting on other people in business and in life worked for you in the past? 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.

3. Does working more interdependently create more opportunity? 2. World-Class Beliefs/Interdependence 1. If I relinquish control I won’t get the credit. Does interdependence scare you? 2. By the time I teach someone I could have done it myself. A good team beats a great individual every time. 3. 2. Everyone is interdependent. Do you believe interdependence is a sign of weakness? 3. Shocking Questions 1. Can you accomplish you ultimate vision alone? Sensitive Questions 1. I can do it better myself. Are you afraid moving from independence to interdependence will lessen the amount of recognition you receive? . The self made man/woman is a myth.233 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Interdependence 1. Would your co-workers say you work more independently or interdependently? 3. There is no limit to what you can accomplish with a team. 2.

Coach around the ego-based mindset that says you have to do everything yourself. Final Thought The independent superstar pales in comparison to the power of a team. Coach around the benefits the performer could gain by expanding the size and scope of their vision through building a powerful team. fulfillment and happiness. COACHING NOTES . Persuade your pupil not to allow middle-class thinking to limit the magnitude of his success.234 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The goal is to get the performer to ponder the possibilities of a more interdependent philosophy.

Getting Started Talk to the performer about what world-class leadership means—and that true leadership is more of a phenomenon that occurs when people believe in someone more than it is a designated position. What are the core competencies of a leader? 3.235 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To clarify the primary role of the leader as someone who is there to bring about change. What are three key things every great leader does? . Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What does it mean to be a leader? 2.

2. 2.236 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Change 1. Are your leadership skills helping or hurting you? 3. Who are three leaders you admire. not feared. Leaders are oppressors. Leaders run the world. World-Class Beliefs/Change 1. Shocking Questions 1. and why? 3. 7 being highest. Leaders are change agents. 3. superiors and subordinates rate you as a leader? Sensitive Questions 1. Leaders are dictators. 3. Leaders are to be feared. What beliefs would you have to change or adopt to become a leader people want to follow? . Leaders are to be respected. how would your colleagues. What would you have to improve to become a better leader? 2. Are you a competent leader? 2. On a scale of 1-7.

but people follow leaders who get results. Leadership is more about creating change than about being popular. even if they’re unpopular. Final Thought Tailor your leadership coaching around getting clear about what world-class leaders do—and keep reminding the performer that a leader who fails to deliver results—no matter how popular he/she is—will soon be out of work. COACHING NOTES . Popularity isn’t negative.237 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Remind the performer that people tend to follow leaders who get results.

Is it possible to upgrade your attitude? 3. Getting Started Talk to the performer about what role he believes attitude plays in creating success.238 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer that adopting a world-class attitude is a decision unrelated to outside circumstances. What does it take to improve your attitude? . Where do you believe a person’s attitude comes from? 2. and happiness. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. fulfillment.

What perceptions would you have to alter to upgrade your attitude? Sensitive Questions 1. World-Class Beliefs/Attitude 1. 2. Attitude can be upgraded in seconds. Is your attitude toward life helping or hurting you? 2. 2. Shocking Questions 1. Attitude is a decision you make. Attitude determines your approach to everything. If I was happier I would have a better attitude. What advice would you give someone about attitude? . Would your closest friends say your attitude is more middle or worldclass? 3. If I was more successful I would have a better attitude. 3.239 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Attitude 1. What’s the best advice you ever received regarding attitude? 2. 3. How can I help you upgrade your attitude? 3. If I was more fulfilled I would have a better attitude.

and to help him understand the magnitude of this concept. COACHING NOTES . the performer must understand that it’s more about decision and taking responsibility than anything else. Invest time teaching them how to pump themselves up. Final Thought Amateur coaches coach attitude like cheerleaders.240 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Your job is to get the performer to take 100% responsibility for his attitude. Don’t waste time pumping people up. Professional coaches know that in order for attitude change to occur.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What keeps people out of balance? 3.241 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer create a balanced life by blending worldclass work habits with a fulfilling personal life. Is balance even possible in today’s hectic society? . Why is balance so elusive to so many? 2. Getting Started Talk to the performer about her beliefs around balance and how satisfied she is in this area.

Are you working enough to be out of balance? 2.242 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Balance 1. 7 being most. Will creating more balance move you closer to your vision? 3. 2. you’re not pushing yourself enough. How will you know you’ve achieved a balanced life? Sensitive Questions 1. 2. how balanced is your life? 2. It’s impossible to attain world-class success and live a balanced life. World-class success and balance is possible. You have to choose between wealth and balance. World-class performers have no balance and no life. On a scale of 1-7. Shocking Questions 1. If you’re not out of balance once in a while. What does a balanced life mean to you? 3. World-Class Beliefs/Balance 1. 3. 3. Losing balance from time to time is natural. What would you have to change in order to attain balance? .

but possible. Cut through the delusion quickly and only add balance to your coaching after they’ve committed to do the work.243 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Do you agree with this sentence While helping a performer create world-class success. Final Thought Coaching balance alongside work ethic is difficult. coach her on how to use objective reality to achieve balance. Your job is to tell them what it takes. Remember that middleclass thinkers want world-class results without the work. and then coach them on how to create balance as they pursue their vision. COACHING NOTES .

244 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer take advantage of one of the most underrated professional skills in business today: the art of listening. What impact have your listening skills had on your career? . Do you believe listening skills are important enough to practice? 3. Getting Started Have a discussion around listening skills to determine the value the performer puts on them. How important are listening skills to world-class success? 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.

Shocking Questions 1. 7 being best. 3. World-Class Beliefs/Listening 1. 2. very good. or great? 2. Listening is something that should be practiced every day. Listening is a passive activity. how would you rate your listening skills? 3. would you be closer to manifesting your vision? Sensitive Questions 1. 3. Talkers are leaders. If you were a better listener. Great listening is an interactive process. Listening is one of the most important skills in business. What could you begin doing immediately to actively improve your listening skills? . Listening is something you do while you’re formulating your response. Who is the best listener you know? 2. How would your closest friends and colleagues rate your listening skills? 3. 2. Listeners are followers.245 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Listening 1. How would you rate your listening skills: good. On a scale of 1-7.

Final Thought Coaching listening skills is one the most important pieces of the success puzzle. Make sure you challenge them to ask the people around them to rate their skills. COACHING NOTES .246 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Many people are delusional about their listening skills and believe they are far better in this area than they actually are. which will help move them into objective reality. It gives your client a strategic advantage because so few of us are really listening. Fifty percent of people who visit therapists say the only reason is to talk to someone who is actually listening. Human beings have an innate desire to be heard and understood. A crucial part of your job as a mental toughness coach is to help your client understand this.

247 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective Convince your charge of the awesome force of momentum. Getting Started Talk to the performer about the concept of momentum and what role he believes it plays in success. Can momentum be artificially manufactured? . . and that it can be manufactured in the mind regardless of outside circumstances. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. How does mental momentum occur? 2. What experiences have you had with momentum in business? 3. fulfillment and happiness.

248 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Momentum 1. What thought processes assist you in creating momentum? 2. World-Class Beliefs/Momentum 1. 2. Momentum is a fearless state of mind. What steps do you take to create momentum? 3. Do you know how to create psychological momentum on demand? 2. 3. How competent are you at creating momentum when you need it? Sensitive Questions 1. Positive momentum evolves from positive events. Mental momentum is created in the mind. Momentum can be manufactured at will. 2. Momentum comes and goes without warning or explanation. It just occurs. On a scale of 1-7. 7 being best. how good are you at creating momentum? 3. 3. Momentum can’t be explained. Who is the best momentum creator you have ever met and why? . Shocking Questions 1.

Have him report back to you with his results during every coaching session. COACHING NOTES . get him engaged in the momentum creation process. Your coaching will empower him to control his thoughts and move him away from thinking like the masses. Final Thought Coaching momentum means teaching a person how to control and direct his mental energy toward thoughts that emotionally excite and move him into positive action. Most people respond to thoughts that randomly cross their mind like sheep following a shepherd. The more he does it the easier it will get.249 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Once you have persuaded the performer to study the power of momentum and to know it can be triggered by specific thoughts.

250 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To reinforce the idea that a great team will outperform a great individual every time. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. what was your experience? . Have you ever been part of a world-class team? If so. What are the disadvantages? 3. Getting Started Talk to the performer about the power of teamwork and what her experience has been working with teams. What are the advantages of working with a team to solve a complex set of problems? 2.

251 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Teamwork 1. What are your weaknesses as a team member? 3. Teams create momentum and fun on their way to accomplishing their task. Teams create a mental multiplier effect no single individual has the capacity to achieve. No one team member is more important than another. 2. What are you doing to improve your teamwork skills? . If you could build a dream team to help you achieve your vision. World-Class Beliefs/Teamwork 1. When the team solves the problem. 2. Are you afraid of teammates getting credit for your work? 2. Shocking Questions 1. What are your strengths as a team member? 2. the team gets the credit. 3. How good of a team member are you? Would your teammates agree with your answer? Sensitive Questions 1. who would be on your team? 3. Teams spend too much time bickering and not enough time solving problems. 3. Teams are difficult because you lose control to the majority. Teams are dangerous because teammates steal your ideas and claim them for their own. Each individual brings his or her own genius to the table and allows the team to tap into it.

Remember anytime you’re fighting fear you’re up against millions of years of instinctual conditioning and habit ingrained in a person’s DNA.252 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Fear and ego are the two biggest inhibitors of effective teamwork. COACHING NOTES . Your job as coach is to help your charge become aware of this simple fact. but it takes time and persistence. Final Thought Coaching teamwork is as simple as conditioning someone to eliminate their fear-based thoughts and move from ego to spirit-based consciousness. Be persistent. It’s possible to break through. take your time. Team members operating from love and abundance who aren’t concerned about who gets the credit are limitless in their ability to tackle complex problems. and exercise patience.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.253 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer recognize the difference between ego and spirit based motivation. Getting Started Have a discussion around the difference between proving and expressing yourself. and attempt to determine what motivates him more. Have you ever gained satisfaction by proving yourself to someone else? . Are you trying to prove yourself to anyone right now? 3. Have you ever been motivated by the desire to prove yourself? 2.

Would your closest friends and co-workers agree with your answer? 3. I don’t need to prove anything to feel worthy. 3. When I prove myself I’ll be happy 2. What percentage of the time do you operate from an ego-based consciousness compared to a spirit-based consciousness? 2. Expressing 1. 3. Is your dominant form of thinking (ego or spirit) helping or hurting you? . Self expression is the highest level of living. I don’t have any specific goal. Do you know the difference between proving and expressing? 3. Are you more ego or spirit driven? Sensitive Questions 1. Are you out to prove yourself or express yourself? 2. Self expression is for my own satisfaction. 2.254 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Proving vs. Expressing 1. Shocking Questions 1. but I’ll know when I’ve proved myself. I’ll feel inadequate until I prove myself World-Class Beliefs/Proving vs.

The overall goal is to condition the performer to constantly analyze his thinking as well as what is creating his thoughts. no matter how great the performer. COACHING NOTES . Final Thought Coaching people to express themselves instead of trying to prove themselves is a tall order. (But don’t feel any pressure!). and most likely the only chance the performer will have at becoming a world-class thinker. you will have helped him alter his destiny forever.255 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Like many of the critical thinking questions in the mental toughness coaching process. expressing is just one component of this concept. It won’t happen in a day. no matter how good a coach you are. You are the catalyst of this process. the ego/spirit question must be asked on a regular basis. Be patient and persistent knowing that if you succeed. Proving vs.

256 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help leaders see themselves as change agents who are never satisfied with the status quo. Getting Started Talk about her feelings around being a change agent. Do managers have to be likeable to gain cooperation from their teams? . You are either moving forward or slipping behind. To help them realize stagnation does not exist. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Do you believe it’s more important to be liked or respected? 3. What do you believe is the primary role of a manager in terms of leadership? 2. and the costs associated with being a leader who is known for steering people away from their comfort zones.

7 being best. On a scale of 1-7. Why do you think it’s so important for a leader to be an agent of change? . Is your leadership style more like a politician campaigning for votes or a football coach focused on winning? Sensitive Questions 1. Based on your past results. 3. Do you lead by consensus? 3. 7 being best.257 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Change Agent 1. how good of a leader are you? 2. World-Class Beliefs/Change Agent 1. but they aren’t addicted to it. 2. 3. World-class leaders get feedback and then make their own decision for the good of the team. Shocking Questions 1. 2. The manager’s primary role is to bring about change. A manager’s job is to manage people and keep them happy. A good manager’s main role is to retain her people. how good of a leader would your team say you are? 3. Great managers aren’t addicted to being popular. They prefer it. have you been more interested in being popular or bringing about change? 2. A good manager motivates through cheerleading. On a scale of 1-7.

Remember this is a huge shift in mindset. Popularity is often part of the price.258 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Many managers have been promoted into the role without ever having led a team. The adult doesn’t have the luxury of putting popularity before performance. Final Thought Coaching people to become real leaders is the equivalent of coaching an adolescent into adulthood. Your performer must know this exalted status will not be free. COACHING NOTES . Condition the leader to modify their addiction to being liked into a preference for being liked. As a result of being promoted from the field they are now leading. and will probably take some time. Your job is to help the manager get out of her own way and step up to the plate as a true change agent focused on moving the team forward. What you’re essentially suggesting to your student is to grow up and become a real leader who people will want to follow. they often try to maintain the linear relationship they had when these people were their peers in order to retain popularity. and is often forced to make tough love decisions.

259 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer see mistakes as an important aspect of learning and growing. Getting Started Ask the performer how he views mistakes and what value sharing them openly with the team could present. Do you see the potential of removing fear from your team so people will be free to share mistakes and the wisdom gained? 3. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Have you been open with teammates about your mistakes in the past? 2. How would you lead a team in order to empower them to share mistakes? .

What percentage of the time do you share your mistakes with your team? 2. Making mistakes is human. how can I help you overcome your fear of sharing mistakes? . Mistakes make me look bad. What would it take overcome your fear of sharing mistakes? 3. Why are you afraid to share your mistakes? 2. If I admit mistakes I’ll be looking for another job. Are you sharing your mistakes often enough to help your team grow? Sensitive Questions 1.260 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Mistakes 1. 2. World-Class Beliefs/Mistakes 1. Mistakes are embarrassing. Were you ever penalized for admitting mistakes? 3. If you’re not making mistakes you’re not taking enough risks. 3. Making mistakes means taking chances and moving forward. 2. Shocking Questions 1. As your coach. 3.

Covering up mistakes is something most of us learned during childhood. Remind him that in world-class thinking. so it’s more than just a habitual thought process. The goal is a fearless mindset that thunders down the track like a locomotive toward the performer’s ultimate vision. COACHING NOTES . fear-based protection mechanism of self preservation and move into world-class thinking rooted in love. Be sure to appeal to his emotions by inspiring him to transcend the middle-class. you must approach it from an emotional perspective. abundance and gratitude. Final Thought Because most people are middle-class thinkers with thought processes and philosophies rooted deeply in fear and scarcity. Trying to convince a person to be fearless in this area is the equivalent of trying to persuade a child that the noise under the bed is not the boogy-man. any company or organization will seek him out no matter how many mistakes he makes. as well as the fact that it has worked for him to some degree and helped him survive. Be sure to recognize and acknowledge the performer’s fear in this area. it’s a reflex. conditioning people to see sharing mistakes as positive and risk free. Remind him that if he’s a good enough performer.261 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Like many pieces of the mental toughness coaching puzzle. survival is the booby prize. you will have to use many different strategies to elevate their level of thinking to world-class.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Who are the smartest negotiators you know and why? 2. Are the best negotiators more ego or spirit driven? 3. How do you know when you’ve succeeded in a negotiation? .262 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer the best negotiators only do win-win deals that serve the best interest of all parties. Getting Started Have a talk with the performer about her negotiating philosophy to get an idea of what her beliefs are.

2. 3.263 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Negotiation 1. No one wins a negotiation unless everyone wins. The person who gets the best deal wins. What would you have to believe in order to negotiate from a mindset of love and abundance? 3. Are you afraid to help the party you’re negotiating with get what they want? If so. Shocking Questions 1. The best negotiators are shrewd. and not to be trusted. crafty. The best negotiators are spirit driven. family and co-workers say you’re a world-class negotiator always interested in a win-win deal? 2. Would your friends. What makes you feel good after a long negotiation? . 2. what are you afraid of? Sensitive Questions 1. World-Class Beliefs/Negotiation 1. Do you always negotiate win-win deals whenever possible? 2. 3. The negotiator who makes the most money wins. The smartest negotiators always do the right thing for all parties involved. Are your thoughts during a negotiation rooted in fear and scarcity or love and abundance? 3.

264 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Be reminded that middle-class thinkers are always afraid people are out to take advantage of them. Winwin negotiating is another opportunity to help them raise their level of awareness and transcend their fear-based thinking. Final Thought Coaching a performer to negotiate win-win deals has almost nothing to do with the art of negotiating. The cause is world-class thinking rooted in love. Even though this is sometimes true. Win-win negotiating is an effect. it has nothing to do with influencing the performer’s mindset. COACHING NOTES . You are coaching the performer to use her mind and direct her mental energy. even though it’s not always evident. Your job is to help them realize that operating from love and abundance is always in their best interests.

Getting Started Discuss what the performer believes about the importance of using contacts to manifest her vision. Do you believe building a network of important contacts is critical to the manifestation of your vision? 2. Can the importance of key contacts be overstated. nurture and utilize their networks of contacts. Discuss the idea that middle-class performers tend to view their contact base like a Christmas card list. and the current form of methodology she is using.265 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand the differences between the way the middle class and the world class build. Why don’t most people invest more time cultivating key relationships? 3. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. or are they really that important? . while the world-class world class builds databases of influential friends and supporters.

How many people do you have in your network who will return your phone calls? 2. 2. The only thing that stands between where I am and where I want to go is the help and support of enough other powerful people. What individual could help you the most in your quest to manifest your vision? Are you actively pursuing this person? . Whom are you actively pursuing to get into your network? Sensitive Questions 1. 3. 2. I don’t have enough credibility to build a world-class network. I don’t have time to build a network. World-Class Beliefs/Network of Contacts 1. Building relationships is the key to success. Have you created a Dream One Hundred List? 3. The bigger my network the more the more leverage I gain. How many world-class contacts do you have? 3.266 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Network of Contacts 1. What action steps could you take in the next ninety days to build your network? 2. 3. Shocking Questions 1. I don’t need a large list of contacts to get what I want.

Everyone needs other people to boost them onto their shoulders to move to the next level. and then teach them how the world-class does it. It’s all about getting them to understand that big time success is never achieved alone. COACHING NOTES . Final Thought Coach someone to build a world-class network and you have single handedly altered their future. First convince the performer of the value of building a network. Your job is to get them to start building a database loaded with contacts.267 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Remember that most people think a network is an address book or rolodex.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Why don’t more people seize the opportunities they are presented with? 2. which virtually guarantees a mediocre existence.268 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand that middle-class thinkers allow fear to hold them back from seizing opportunity. Do you believe it’s possible to condition your mind to seize opportunity? . How do you push past fear and seize opportunity? 3. Getting Started Coach around the difference between how the middle-class and world-class approach opportunity. Your job is to make the performer aware of how the middle-class paralyze themselves through the fear of failure. and how by transcending their fear and moving forward boldly world-class success is possible.

What’s the worst thing that can happen if you take more risks and seize more opportunities? 3. What would you have to believe to become more of a risk taker? 3. 2. The more often I seize new opportunities the more courageous I get.269 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Seizing Opportunity 1. How can I help you become more of a risk taker? 2. 2. Seizing opportunity is uncomfortable. Seizing opportunity is for people without responsibilities. 3. Seizing opportunity is exciting. Shocking Questions 1. Would you be more successful. 3. Are you waiting for your second lifetime to seize opportunity and live your dreams? Sensitive Questions 1. Seizing opportunity is risky. fulfilled and happy if you capitalized on more opportunities that moved you closer to your dreams? . If you would have seized more opportunities you’ve had in your life would you be farther ahead? 2. Seizing opportunity means growth. World-Class Beliefs/Seizing Opportunity 1.

COACHING NOTES . and in order for it to become a habit the performer must be able to see the benefit of taking the risk.270 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Remember that seizing opportunity must become a habit. she can only learn and grow. Final Thought Get the performer to take increasingly larger risks to build courage and confidence. Once she believes she cannot fail. intimidation will be replaced by excitement.

What does mental organization mean to you? 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. 3. Mental organization has nothing to do with success. 2. Is it possible to become more mentally organized? Middle-Class Beliefs/Mental Organization 1. You’re either born with mental organization of you’re not.271 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer of the importance of mental clarity for peak performance. Only physically organized people are mentally organized. What are the benefits of being mentally organized? 3. . Getting Started Discuss the impact mental clarity has had on his life.

How can I help you become more mentally organized? 2. Would you be more successful if you were more mentally organized? 3. Mental organization is a learned skill. Mental organization is critical to success. Who is the most mentally organized person you know? . 3. how mentally organized are you? 3. Shocking Questions 1. Why aren’t you more mentally organized? Sensitive Questions 1. On a scale of 1-7. Is your level of mental organization more middle or world class? 2. 2. Mental organization creates clarity.272 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS World-Class Beliefs/Mental Organization 1. 7 being best.

Your job is to make him aware of the fact that one of the best kept secrets of the world class is their clarity of thought and ability to harness their mental power on only their most important objectives.273 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade As you’re coaching around mental organization. COACHING NOTES . be reminded that most people are unfocused and scattered when it comes to managing their mental energy. Final Thought Coaching mental organization is only a two step process: The first step is to help the performer decide on the most important things he wants to accomplish. The second step is to help him focus on those things to the exclusion of everything else.

Explain how the average person’s belief about obstacles builds a fear-based consciousness that keeps them from taking the necessary risks required to win. Have obstacles helped or hurt you more in the past? 3.274 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand the potential for growth each obstacle represents. Getting Started Talk to the performer about how the masses perceive obstacles compared to how super-achievers perceive them. What are the three biggest obstacles you’ve faced? 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What do obstacles mean to you? .

Are your beliefs about obstacles more middle or world class? Shocking Questions 1. 3. would you? .275 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Obstacles 1. 3. Are your beliefs about obstacles more middle or world class? Sensitive Questions 1. How do you feel about obstacles in general? 3. Obstacles equal pain. World-Class Beliefs/Obstacles 1. Are your beliefs about obstacles moving you closer to your vision? 3. Are your beliefs about obstacles empowering or disempowering you? 2. Obstacles are opportunities in disguise. Are your beliefs about obstacles limiting your chances for uncommon success? 2. If you could eliminate obstacles from your life. 2. Obstacles are the enemy. Obstacles should be avoided. Obstacles are necessary for mental growth. 2.

Take as long as you need to help her understand what you’re suggesting is not about positive thinking—but objective reality.276 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Make sure the performer starts (or continues) to see obstacles as a necessary catalyst for growth. Final Thought Seeing obstacles as your friend puts you in a mental position to embrace the catalyst to greatness. COACHING NOTES .

Who do you know that has the most peace of mind. especially when it comes to the performer dealing with herself. Getting Started Have a coaching conversation around the concept of creating a calm and peaceful state of mind. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Where does peace of mind come from? 2. Convince her that she already has everything she needs inside of her to create and live in a peaceful state of mind. What would it take for you to increase your peace of mind? 3. and why do you believe this person experiences such peace? . and that their approach to life and their world view is the secret to achieving it.277 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer realize world-class thinking begins with a mind at peace with itself.

Shocking Questions 1. Could greater peace of mind change your life? 2. Would greater peace of mind make you a better problem solver? 3. World-Class Beliefs/Peace of Mind 1. Peace of mind is the result of abundant wealth and resources. How can I help you experience more peace of mind? . Peace of mind is elusive. Peace of mind is attainable for anyone. How do you feel about your current level of peace? 2. What are you willing to do to increase the peace you feel? Sensitive Questions 1.278 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Peace of Mind 1. Could greater peace of mind be the missing link to your next level of success? 3. 2. 3. Peace of mind is the cornerstone of creative thought. Peace of mind is the result of external factors and circumstances. 2. 3. Peace of mind is the result of healthy thinking.

Final Thought Peace of mind enhances productivity. and increasing physical exercise. using humor to lighten up. a greater sense of well being and feelings of fulfillment and happiness. Daily action suggestions include reframing high pressure situations and events. COACHING NOTES . and then move him to a daily plan of action to make at happen.279 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Your job is to persuade the performer of the massive impact enhancing his peace of mind will have.

most middle-class performers give up at the first sign of adversity. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Who is the most persistent person you know and why? . Getting Started Have a coaching conversation around the idea that while the concept of persistence is simple and well known. 7 being most important. Talk about the gap between knowing and doing and get the performer to make a commitment to persist until he succeeds. On a scale of 1-7. What role has persistence played in your past successes? 3. and that many worldclass performers call it the secret of their success. how important is persistence to success? 2.280 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To make sure your charge understands persistence is one of the most powerful traits anyone can possess.

Tell me about the time you were the most persistent and succeeded? 3. What would it take for you to increase your level of persistence? Sensitive Questions 1. Shocking Questions 1. Nothing can take the place of persistence. Persistent people are annoying 3. Could increasing your level of persistence be the strategy that moves you to the next level? 3. Persistence is a trait of champions 2. Is your level of persistence more middle or world class? 2. 2. Persistence is to success what carbon is to steel 3. do you believe it was your lack of belief or desire that made you quit? . The impact of persistence on success is exaggerated. Persistent people are desperate World-Class Beliefs/Persistence 1. During the times you lacked persistence.281 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Persistence 1. Would you be willing to monitor your level of persistence on a daily basis to see how you rate in this area? 2.

Once you’ve driven this point home.282 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Most performers won’t push back on the importance of persistence. persuade the performer to take inventory of where he stands in this area and develop a tangible plan of action to make the necessary improvements. the only missing element is a level of persistence that refuses to quit no matter how rough it gets. COACHING NOTES . Your job is to help them realize this is arguably the most important piece of the success puzzle. The persistence is equal to or more important than all the other elements of success. and not to be fooled by it’s simplicity. Final Thought Once a person sets his or her sites on a well thought out vision with a solid strategy for its attainment.

3. Power corrupts. . Power is evil. Seeking power makes me a bad person. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. How important is having power to you? 3. What’s more important to you: having power over yourself or others? Middle-Class Beliefs/Power 1. What does power mean to you? 2. Getting Started Talk to the performer about her beliefs and philosophies around power. 2.283 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To get the performer thinking about how possessing power would help him manifest his ultimate vision.

How could I help you develop more power? . Are your beliefs about power holding you back? 2. Should you consider upgrading your beliefs about what power means to you? 3. How much faster could you live your vision by increasing your power? Sensitive Questions 1. 2. What has been your experience with powerful people? 2. 3. Power allows you to help others. Shocking Questions 1. Have you ever seen powerful people use it for honorable purposes? 3.284 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS World-Class Beliefs/Power 1. Power creates leverage. Seeking power to fulfill my vision is an intelligent strategy.

Possessing power creates great advantages but can be intoxicating. successful. Your role is to help the performer understand that power can create tremendous leverage and be used in many positive ways to help them get what they want. Final Thought A person with power has the ability to move rapidly from one vision to the next by engaging the help and support of other powerful. Use it as a tool but handle it with utmost care. All this is possible while still doing the right thing and helping others along the way. connected people.285 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The trick to coaching around power is to uncover the limiting beliefs that most people have about it. Since power is abused so often the upper class. Wield your power with care and compassion while you’re reaping its rewards and be sure to use it to help someone else less fortunate. COACHING NOTES . many people see it as a tool of negative manipulation.

286 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To make sure the performer understands the difference between middle and world-class thinking around progress and its impact on results. would you? . both personally and professionally. Getting Started Explain that the average person’s fear of progress is rooted in the belief that he won’t be able to successfully adapt to the changes. it simply attaches this mindset to any kind of change or progress that takes place. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. How do you feel about the rapid progress of today’s society? 2. If you could turn back the clock to a slower pace. Do you see progress as exciting or scary? 3. Since the middle-class thinker’s consciousness is rooted in fear.

Progress is natural. Are you afraid of progress? If so. Progress is scary. 3. I’m not smart enough to keep up with progress. Progress is exciting. What action steps could you take to develop additional world-class beliefs around progress? . World-Class Beliefs/Progress 1. Progress equals stress. What would it take for you to embrace progress at a higher level? 2. If you upgraded your beliefs about progress would you be happier? Sensitive Questions 1. Shocking Questions 1. How can I help you upgrade your beliefs about progress? 3. why? 2. 2. Progress equals opportunity.287 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Progress 1. 3. If you upgraded your beliefs about progress would you be more successful? 3. 2.

Persuade the performer of the benefits of abandoning fear and embracing progress as a vehicle to greater success. Final Thought People who push for progress automatically transcend the fear of change. fulfillment and happiness. This adds another brick in the wall of their love and abundance-based consciousness. COACHING NOTES .288 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Your primary goal is to get the performer thinking about progress the same way the world-class does. which they attach to everything they do.

Does praise have a place in business? 2. Do you believe searching for praiseworthy behavior is a high performance habit or a naïve philosophy? .289 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To remind the performer of the power of praise. Have you used praise as a tool in your personal life? 3. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Getting Started Speak to the performer about how praise has impacted her life and how to use it as a tool to build people.

Do you praise people often enough? 2. Praise creates conceit. Are you looking for people to praise you before you praise them? Sensitive Questions 1. 3. How would praising three people a day affect your thinking? 2. 2.290 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Praise 1. Have you been praised enough in your life? . If you used praise more often. No one gets enough praise. Great performers get enough praise. Shocking Questions 1. Praise makes people believe they are better than they are. would it help you get what you want faster? 3. 3. Praise builds self esteem. 2. World-Class Beliefs/Praise 1. Praise creates confidence. How can I help you become a hunter of praiseworthy behavior? 3.

most of the impact will be on the performer rather than the people she’s praising. all the while knowing the biggest impact will be the non-linear result of how this habit impacts the mindset of the performer. COACHING NOTES . Help her build this philosophy into a habit and the results will take care of themselves.291 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Make the performer more aware of using praise as a tool on a daily basis. understand the more praise the performer gives. Ironically. Final Thought Coach around praise as a linear tool for success. the stronger her self esteem and confidence will grow. As a coach.

Getting Started Determine the level of desire the performer has for his vision and discuss what you believe it will take to make it happen. Is world-class success more about talent or hard work? . To help the performer decide what he is willing to sacrifice to make his vision a reality. What role does luck play in world-class success? 3.292 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer he will have to pay a price for worldclass success. and that there is no way around it. Do you believe world-class success comes with a cost? 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Help the performer if his current habits. actions and behaviors are not congruent with the size and scope of his vision.

Have you thought about how these sacrifices will affect your personal life? . 3.293 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Paying The Price 1. How badly do you want to see your vision become reality? Sensitive Questions 1. Are you clear on the price you will have to pay to manifest your vision? 3. Super achievers are lucky. Shocking Questions 1. Is the price you have to pay worth it? 2. Super achieves are determined and enthusiastic. Are you negotiating the price for success? 2. Super achievers are highly educated. 3. Super achievers are average people with extraordinary focus and persistence. World-Class Beliefs/Paying The Price 1. Are you sure you’re willing to pay the price? 3. 2. 2. Super achievers know massive success comes with a non-negotiable price. Super achievers are smarter.

If the performer answers your questions and remains enthusiastic. Final Thought Coaching around the cost of success clarifies the performer’s thinking and challenges him to examine his true level of desire. COACHING NOTES .294 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Your role is to help the performer realize that paying the price for what he wants is a necessity instead of an option. he will have a much better chance of achieving it due to clarity you’ve helped him gain. You’re trying to get him to think things through before embarking on a journey with a hefty price tag attached to it.

not potential. Only special people have great potential. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. 2. What does the phrase “unlimited potential” mean to you? Middle-Class Beliefs/Potential 1. The concept of limitless potential is naïve. 3. How much potential are human beings born with? 2. . Focus on survival. How do you see your personal potential? 3.295 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer recognize she has limitless potential. Getting Started Have a conversation around the concept of human potential and get a feel for the performer’s belief system in this area.

Could you be doing more to fulfill your potential? Sensitive Questions 1. Final Thought Coaching around potential builds a performer’s belief that she can have anything she desires because she can become anyone she wants to be. Anything is possible for those that believe. How do you feel about the potential you were born with? 2. Shocking Questions 1. 3. Are you living up to your potential? 2. 2. . Fulfilling your potential is the purpose of life.296 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS World-Class Beliefs/Potential 1. Is it possible you have more potential than you realize? Coaching the Upgrade Your job is to get the performer thinking about her potential and if she is taking the steps to fulfill it. The concept of limitless potential is realistic. What actions are you taking to fulfill your potential? 3. How can I help you maximize your potential? 3. Your job is to make her believe it.

Do you believe preparation is overrated as a contributor to world-class success? 2. What impact has preparation had on your career? 3.297 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To uncover how the performer feels about the role preparation plays in world-class success. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Getting Started Ask the performer for his thoughts around preparation and how he has used it in the past. Do you believe the best performers are the most prepared? .

3.298 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Preparation 1. The more I prepare the more I win. What would you have to change to become more prepared? 3. If you were tried in a court of law for always being prepared in business would there be enough evidence to convict you? 3. On a scale of 1-7. Do you prepare as much as the best in your field? . Talent is more important than preparation. 3. Extensive preparation separates the good from the great. Does your level of preparation match the size and scope of your vision? Sensitive Questions 1. 7 being most prepared. Preparation is for novices. Preparation is critical to world-class success. Shocking Questions 1. World-Class Beliefs/Preparation 1. 2. 2. Has a lack of preparation limited your success? 2. how prepared are you most of the time? 2. Preparation isn’t necessary when you’re good.

COACHING NOTES . and to help her build this habit into her daily routine. which gives the performer an edge. Final Thought Coaching around preparation is critical because of its nonglamorous nature. Most of the competition won’t do it.299 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Persuade the performer that world-class preparation is one of the keys to world-class success.

What percentage of your success would you attribute to your ongoing personal development program? . What does personal development mean to you? 3. Getting Started Have a conversation about how the performer sees the role personal development plays in his success. How important is personal development to world-class success? 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.300 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer that better results begin by focusing on personal development.

If I become a better performer I will get better results. Personal development helps me understand myself. Personal development and self help programs are for unsophisticated people. What is your personal development plan of action for the next 90 days? 3. Personal development teaches me to think at a higher level.301 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Personal Development 1. How could you use personal development in the next twelve months to increase your income? 2. Do you believe you are responsible for your own personal development? Sensitive Questions 1. Personal development isn’t as important as professional development. Personal development is unrelated to financial success. 2. 2. Shocking Questions 1. 3. How much time have you invested in personal development in the last twelve months? 3. How much money have you invested in personal development in the last twelve months? 2. What’s your favorite form of personal development? . 3. World-Class Beliefs/Personal Development 1.

even in corporate America.302 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Get the performer to believe he is 100% responsible for his results. Final Thought Be patient when coaching around personal development knowing that the masses. COACHING NOTES . haven’t picked up on the enormous potential of developing people from the inside out. and that means adopting an ongoing. Personal development could be your team’s ace in the hole and offer a substantial strategic advantage over the competition. never-ending personal development program.

Getting Started Ask the performer if she sees herself as a problem solver. Do you see your role in business as a problem solver? 3. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.303 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To make sure the performer understands all compensation is based on the level of complexity of problem solving and/or the number of people served. and if she believes that all compensation is based on solving problems. How does problem solving fit into what you do? 2. Do you believe solving more complex problems that serve more people will help you earn more money? .

3.304 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Problem Solving 1. My company/industry doesn’t reward problem solvers. Only a select few get paid to solve problems. The key to my future lies in becoming a better problem solver. How would your three closest colleagues rate your problem solving skills on a 1-7 scale. Do you spend more time complaining about problems or solving them? Sensitive Questions 1. What would you have to give up in order to become a better problem solver? 2. 3. 2. What’s the first step you’re willing to take to become a better problem solver? 3. How can I support you in your quest to become a better problem solver? . 3. Shocking Questions 1. Based on your results. 2. World-class problem solvers amass world-class wealth. Problem solving is the heart of business. The size of my paycheck is unrelated to the size of the problems I solve. World-Class Beliefs/Problem Solving 1. are you more of a middle or world-class problem solver? 2. 7 being best.

305 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Your job is to make sure the performer understands that society will gladly make her wealthy beyond her wildest dreams in exchange for developing world-class problem solving skills and applying them in business where they serve great numbers of people. patient and absolutely certain you get this point across before moving on to the next coaching piece. Final Thought Coaching around problem solving’s direct connection to compensation has the power to alter a performer’s financial future. Be diligent. COACHING NOTES .

306 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To make sure the performer’s mental energy is always focused on productivity and results. Is it possible to be too results focused in business? . What’s the difference between productivity and results? 3. Getting Started Discuss the difference between people who focus on activities versus results. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Does thinking about increased productivity and results lead to behaviors that create them? 2.

3. 2. 3.307 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Productivity/Results 1. I’m not in the results part of the business. Productivity and results take care of themselves. The better my results the more money I make. How often do you think about getting better results during the business day? 2. How much mental energy do you waste during the business day on activities unrelated to results? 2. How can I help you increase your productivity and get better results? . All business is about results. World-Class Beliefs/Productivity/Results 1. Constantly thinking of ways to increase productivity and results gives me an edge. What beliefs would you have to alter or adopt in order to get better results? 3. How results oriented are the five people you spend the most time with and is that helping or hurting you? Sensitive Questions 1. Shocking Questions 1. If you focused more on productivity and results would you be better at what you do? 3. 2. I don’t get paid based on results.

308 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Your job is to convince the performer that becoming more conscious of his productivity and results will help him move closer to his ultimate vision. COACHING NOTES . Final Thought Coaching around what a performer is most conscious of means training him to think like the great ones. you are teaching him to think about what he thinks about all day long. Cognitively speaking. Make sure he understands that performers who master this mindset are far more successful then those who don’t. and the impact of those thoughts.

Getting Started Have a conversation about what profit means to the performer. What do you believe is the downside of a profit driven company/businessperson? 3.309 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To get a sense of what the performer believes about profit in the free enterprise system. Is profit more of a good or bad thing in business? . Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What do you believe is the upside of a profit driven company/businessperson? 2.

Profit is the heart of the free enterprise system. What did you learn about profit in school? Was it positive or negative? 3. Are your beliefs around profit more middle or world class? 3. If you upgraded your beliefs around profit would it help you become more successful? . Are you profit driven enough to get where you want to go? Sensitive Questions 1. Profit driven people/companies are evil. Profit driven people/companies are crooks. Profit driven people/companies are highly motivated. Shocking Questions 1. Profit driven people/companies deliver superior service. 2. Profit driven people/companies are greedy. 3. Are your beliefs around profit helping or hurting you? 2. 2. World-Class Beliefs/Profit 1. 3.310 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Profit 1. What was your earliest belief about profit when you were growing up? 2.

311 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The key in coaching around profit is to dispel any negative or self limiting beliefs the performer has around it. Final Thought Coaching a performer to embrace a profit driven consciousness removes one of the most powerful mental obstacles that holds people back: the fear of success. You’re fighting an uphill battle as a coach because of the middle-class beliefs around what being driven by profit really means. COACHING NOTES .

why? If not. Most middle-class thinkers take credit for their successes while laying blame for their failures and setbacks. Is it critical that you train yourself to take full responsibility for your life? If so. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Is it possible to be fully responsible for your successes and failures? 2. Why do most people play the blame game when they fail? 3. Getting Started Have an in depth discussion about past successes and failures and get a feel for where the performer is in terms of assuming responsibility. why not? .312 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer recognize the first step on the road to worldclass success is taking full responsibility for her results.

You can’t take responsibility for things you can’t control. What would you have to change in order to assume greater personal responsibility for your life? 2. 3. If it is to be. I am responsible for everything in my life. Would you be more successful if you assumed a higher degree of personal responsibility? 2. World-Class Beliefs/Taking Responsibility 1. You can’t responsibility for results outside of your own. Shocking Questions 1. 3. 2. it’s up to me. What would you have to let go of to assume greater personal responsibility? . No one is coming to the rescue. How far has blaming others got you in the past? Sensitive Questions 1. What habits would you have to develop to assume greater personal responsibility? 3. You can only take responsibility for your own actions 2. Is it possible you are your greatest obstacle? 3.313 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Taking Responsibility 1.

class success. knowing it’s critical to the performer’s long term success and happiness. fulfillment and happiness requires this very rare level of thinking.314 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Keep in mind only a small percentage of people on the planet take full responsibility for their lives. COACHING NOTES . Your job as coach is to expand the performer’s awareness and let her know it’s mandatory for world. The secret is to never let up or back off of this idea. Final Thought Coaching the concept of taking 100% responsibility is about consistent. Ego based upper-class success may be achieved without it. and most of them had to recondition their minds to think this way. systematic suggestion from coach to student. but worldclass success.

.315 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective Help the performer understand risk taking is to be embraced rather than feared. Risk is scary. What are the up and downsides of taking risks? Middle-Class Beliefs/Risk Taking 1. Getting Started Have a conversation with the performer around what risk means to him to see where you’re starting from. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Risk is a threat to my security and peace of mind. Risk is dangerous. Has risk taking been more positive or negative for you? 3. 3. 2. What does risk taking mean to you? 2.

Where would your family. where do you rate as a risk taker? 2.316 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS World-Class Beliefs/Risk Taking 1. How can I support you in building your risk taking muscles? . 7 being biggest. Shocking Questions 1. What risks scare you the most? 2. 2. 3. How could you become a better risk taker? 3. Risk taking is fun. friends and business associates rate you on the same scale? 3. If you took more risks would you be more successful? Sensitive Questions 1. On a scale of 1-7. Risk taking is exciting. Embracing risk makes me more secure.

but once your charge has made the change. Like most deeply rooted beliefs and philosophies. COACHING NOTES . fun and full of adventure will be one of your greatest challenges as a coach. making even small increments of change is going to take time and patience. she will never be the same. Over time the performer will begin to see the benefits of risk taking and eventually realize that world-class success is impossible without it. and this play it safe philosophy is usually reinforced through adulthood.317 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Remember going into this coaching session that most people are taught from childhood to avoid risks. Embracing calculated risk taking is one the most important aspects of a million-dollar mindset. Final Thought Coaching people to believe risk taking is exciting.

How important is self respect to world-class success? 3. Where do you believe self respect comes from? 2. and behaviors. actions. Is there any relation between self respect and happiness? . Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.318 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer self respect is one of the pillars that supports and sustains world-class habits. Getting Started Ask the performer about her beliefs around self respect and exactly what this means to her.

319 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Self Respect 1. 3. Self respect is critical to world-class success. Self respect is critical to peace of mind and happiness. How much respect do the people you hang around most have for themselves? . how much self respect do you have? 2. High self respect equals conceit. High self respect equals a big ego. What action can you take to raise your level of respect for yourself? 3. 3. 2. High self respect turns people off. Shocking Questions 1. World-Class Beliefs/Self Respect 1. 2. On a scale of 1-7. 7 being highest. How much do you respect yourself? 2. Self respect is the reputation we have with ourselves. Why do you respect yourself? 3. What adds to and detracts from your self respect? Sensitive Questions 1.

Final Thought Coaching around self respect is more about facilitated introspection than traditional coaching. because most of the time the performer hasn’t given much thought to this and will most likely reveal his innermost feelings to you in the process of answering your questions. ask another question. Very few people have ever given it much thought. Ask questions and take notes. COACHING NOTES . You’re better off listening more and talking less on this one. That’s the core of coaching something as delicate as self respect. and as soon as the performer stops talking. Coaching this can be tricky.320 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Be careful and thoughtful as you walk your performer through the psychological maze of self respect.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What were you taught about revenge as a child? .321 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand that any form of revenge is rooted in ego based thinking. which is the downfall of the upper class. What’s the downside of seeking revenge? 3. Getting Started Start a dialogue with the performer around revenge and get a feel for his beliefs in this area. Do you see any long term value in seeking revenge? 2.

Revenge is a waste of energy. World-Class Beliefs/Revenge 1. How have you talked your way out of seeking revenge in the past? 2. 3. Is revenge the sign of a great competitor? . If I don’t retaliate after an injustice I’ve lost. Shocking Questions 1. 2. 3. 2. Do you believe it’s important to get even? 3. Revenge never satisfies the ego. When is revenge an intelligent strategy? 3. Revenge feels good. Talk about a time you sought revenge and how it impacted your thinking. because the ego cannot be satisfied. How has revenge served you in the past? Sensitive Questions 1. The only way to even the score is through revenge. 2. Revenge is low level thinking rooted in fear.322 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Revenge 1.

but also the other destructive thoughts that ego causes. COACHING NOTES . but don’t forget to discuss the cause. Make sure to talk about the role ego plays in revenge. Final Thought Remember revenge is the manifestation of a fear-based consciousness and an out of control ego. but also the fear and scarcity based mindset where it originates and incubates. Keep in mind you’re not only coaching around revenge in this session. Coach around the effect. and help the performer elevate her thinking to a higher level where she doesn’t need it.323 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Chances are most people you coach will see revenge as a negative strategy. What you’re looking to get across is the subtle things people do to get revenge.

This ultimately allows us to keep things in proper perspective in order to use them as a launch pad instead of an albatross.324 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer recognize the massive potential that exists in learning to alter his perceptions of people. places. How has keeping things in perspective helped you in the past? . How can gaining a more positive perspective move you closer to your ultimate vision? 3. How can keeping things in perspective help you get what you want? 2. events and circumstances. Getting Started Talk to the performer about keeping things in perspective and what that means to him. Explain that nothing we experience in life has any meaning until we assign our own perception of it. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.

2. Shocking Questions 1. How good are you compared to him or her? 3. 3.325 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Perspective 1. Gaining perspective can save your life. 7 being best. Perspective is unrelated to winning. 2. 3. On a scale of 1-7. Gaining perspective changes everything. Who is the best person you know at keeping things in perspective under pressure? 2. How would improving in this area impact your life? Sensitive Questions 1. World-Class Beliefs/Perspective 1. Gaining perspective manifests mental energy. how good are you at keeping things in perspective under pressure? 2. How would your closest friends and family members rate you in this area? . What thoughts would you have to change to improve in this area? 3. Perspective is unrelated to performance. Perspective is unrelated to pressure.

Final Thought Being coached in perspective makes the performer realize she is in control of her thoughts and emotions. and if a current perspective on something isn’t serving her best interests. Your job is to help them understand how the world class uses perspective as a high performance tool to move them closer to their dreams.326 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Remember that people are emotional creatures who justify their perspectives with logic. COACHING NOTES . Most people learn what value and perspective to place things in from well meaning middle-class thinkers during childhood. all she has to do is reframe it and change what it means to her.

new age idea. 2. Rate of vibration is just an ethereal. Do you believe it’s possible to raise your rate of vibration? 3. Rate of vibration cannot be raised or lowered. Getting Started Have a conversation with the performer about how she’s used her ROV in the past and the impact it’s had on her results. as well as how to raise it at will. Rate of vibration has no impact on others. 3. . Does a person’s rate of vibration really have an impact on other people? 2.327 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand the role their rate of vibration plays in influencing people. What techniques or strategies do you use to raise your rate of vibration? Middle-Class Beliefs/Rate of Vibration 1. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.

2. 2. Name three celebrities you believe have the highest ROV? 2. What are your three most effective ROV raising strategies? 3.328 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS World-Class Beliefs/Rate of Vibration 1. . If you had a higher ROV would you be more successful? . How could you build ROV raising practice into your daily routine? . Shocking Questions 1. how good are you at raising your ROV? 3. 7 being highest. Rate of vibration can move people to action. The higher the ROV the more attractive the presenter becomes. 3. On a scale of 1-7. What action steps could you take to become more proficient at raising your ROV? Sensitive Questions 1. The most powerful leaders have the highest ROV.

329 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Get the performer to understand the magnitude of impact learning to raise his rate of vibration could have on his life. COACHING NOTES . help him build ROV raising into his everyday activities until it becomes a habit and his belief around this technique is solid. This is one of the powerful mental toughness tools you will ever teach your students. Final Thought Coaching a performer in ROV means coaching him how to increase his charisma and use it as a tool of influence. Next.

Getting Started Have a conversation about the difference between focusing on results versus focusing on execution. Do you believe focusing on execution creates momentum? 2. Be sure to explain that while results are the primary objective. Since results are the bottom line. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. is it naive to focus on execution? . focusing on things outside of your control can drain your mental energy and even be demotivating.330 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand the value of execution based goal setting and focusing her efforts on what she can control. Do you believe it makes a difference in your performance by focusing on execution instead of results? 3.

What would you have to let go of in order to become more execution focused? 2. Focusing on execution puts the performer in control. Activity creates momentum and raises rate of vibration. What beliefs would you have to upgrade to become execution focused? . 2. Results are all that counts. very good. World-Class Beliefs/Execution 1. When it comes to getting results in business. very good. 3. When it comes to execution in business. and activity builds skill and belief. It doesn’t make any difference if you focus on execution or results. or great? Sensitive Questions 1. Focus creates activity. Shocking Questions 1. Explain the purpose of using units of mental energy on results you can’t control? 2. would you consider yourself good.331 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Execution 1. Focusing on execution deludes people into believing they’re closer to their goals then they actually are. Activities don’t matter. 2. What would you have to do more to become more execution focused? 3. would you consider yourself good. 3. or great? 3.

Final Thought Make the case for focusing on execution while monitoring results. The key learning is focusing on what you have 100% control of. COACHING NOTES .332 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Keep in mind when you’re coaching around execution that you’re up against an age old adage that say’s focusing on activities is a waste of time because activities don’t pay the bills. Chances are the performer has been conditioned by society to believe this.

What types of recognition are the most effective? . but you may have to coach around ways to use it more often. Does recognition enhance performance? 3. Do you believe recognition has positive long term effects? 2.333 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To remind the performer of the power of recognition. You probably won’t have to persuade the performer about the power of recognition. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Getting Started Have a brief discussion around recognition.

2. 3. Is it possible to recognize people to often? 2. What would you have to change in order to give more recognition to more people? . Recognition only goes down in an organization. Everyone wants and needs recognition. Have you ever given recognition to a superior? 2. On a scale of 1-7. Shocking Questions 1. Only the emotionally imbalanced need to be recognized. Recognition is insincere flattery. 2. how much recognition do you receive in your career? 3. not up. World-Class Beliefs/Recognition 1.334 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Recognition 1. When was the last time you recognized someone for great work? Sensitive Questions 1. 7 being most. Recognition brings out the best in people. Have you ever been recognized too often? 3. 3. Recognition affirms people to themselves.

COACHING NOTES . Coaching around it means getting the performer to use it in as many different capacities as possible. as often as possible. Final Thought Everyone knows recognition is a powerful tool.335 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade You want the performer to think about how recognition affects him and the people around him. The idea is to get him to think about the role recognition plays and how he can use it as a motivational tool with the most important people in his personal and professional life.

Can long held beliefs really be altered? . reprogramming. and the impact of beliefs. Do behaviors dictate results? 3. Do beliefs dictate behaviors? 2. before she was able to make the distinction between empowering and limiting beliefs. Getting Started Have a conversation about programming. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. if not all of her beliefs were programmed into her consciousness in childhood. Help her understand that any belief can be upgraded or changed through the reprogramming process.336 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer that most.

Beliefs have nothing to do with results. Would you be more successful if you were able to reprogram your thinking? Sensitive Questions 1. How can I assist you in the reprogramming process? 2. Shocking Questions 1. We are born with certain beliefs. We adopt most of our beliefs from influential people during our childhood. who would those people be? . 3. 2. What steps are you taking to reprogram your limiting beliefs? 3. Our entire belief system can be reprogrammed over time.337 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Programming 1. Beliefs cannot be changed. World-class beliefs create world-class results. How long do you believe it will take to reprogram your most limiting beliefs? 3. Could you enlist the help and support of other people. 2. 3. World-Class Beliefs/Programming 1. Is the programming you received as a child more middle or world class? 2. and if so.

COACHING NOTES .338 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade This is a major mental toughness tool that should be addressed on an ongoing basis. Your performer will need a lot of help. Final Thought If you can coach someone to reprogram their limiting beliefs you have given them the ultimate tool to change their life. support and encouragement along the way. Remember that the reprogramming process takes patience and time.

Does having a cheerful disposition contribute to your success? 2. Does having a cheerful disposition make you happier? . Getting Started Talk to the performer about his general disposition and philosophy of life as it relates to attitude. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Does having a cheerful disposition contribute to your feelings of fulfillment? 3.339 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer that being of good cheer always serves his best interests both personally and professionally.

Cheerfulness has nothing to do with getting results. World-Class Beliefs/Good Cheer 1. Cheerfulness has no impact on performance. 7 being most cheerful. Cheerfulness is for tree huggers. how cheerful are you on average? 3. 3. Cheerfulness has a positive impact on relationships. On a scale of 1-7. Cheerful people are happier. 3. Who has more courage: The pessimist who fears the worst or the optimist who expects the best? Sensitive Questions 1. 2.340 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Good Cheer 1. 2. Would your life be more fun if you were more cheerful? 2. Cheerfulness opens doors in business. Are you afraid to be more cheerful for fear of being seen as naïve? 3. Shocking Questions 1. What beliefs would you have to alter in order to adopt a more cheerful disposition? . If you were more cheerful in business would you be more successful? 2.

It’s a simple concept with wide reaching ramifications.341 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Coaching cheerfulness to optimists is like preaching to the choir. highly intelligent. Final Thought Never underestimate the significance of coaching someone to be more cheerful. A frightened performer who is in the habit of using fear as a protection mechanism will require more time and patience. Coaching pessimists is where your skills will be tested. Don’t skip it because it’s basic. while optimism is rooted in love. Many well educated. Being of good cheer is one the sleeper secrets of the world class that many amateur coaches overlook. Remember that pessimism is rooted deeply in fear. COACHING NOTES . successful people struggle with this simple concept and your coaching could catapult their happiness.

but only about five percent understand the power of education through selfdevelopment. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Getting Started Discuss this idea with the performer and get a feel for what she believes about continuing education.342 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To coach your charge around the idea that one of the hallmarks of world-class performers is their insatiable desire to keep learning and growing. What are your feelings about personal development as a success strategy? 2. What’s been more valuable to you: formal or self-education? . Drive home the point that this could give her a strategic advantage in the marketplace. Explain that many successful performers in corporate America believe in going back to school to attain advanced degrees. Do you see the value in having a coach in business? 3.

Self development helps you understand who you are and why you’re getting the results you’re getting. 3. Are you absolutely sure your beliefs about self development are accurate and are you aware of what it will cost you if you’re wrong? 3. Education ends when you graduate. How can I help you embrace self development? 3. What do you have to lose by becoming a learning machine for the next twelve months? Sensitive Questions 1. 2. Are your beliefs about self-development and learning more middle or world class? 2. Self development gives you an edge in business and life.343 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Learning Machines 1. 3. What beliefs would you have to let go of in order to embrace your own personal development program? 2. Self development is all the same. Could self development be the missing link you’ve been looking for? . World-Class Beliefs/Learning Machines 1. Self-development is for weak people. Shocking Questions 1. Formal education helps you make a living. Self development will make you wealthy. 2.

Terms such as “self-help” and “personal development” are often viewed by academia as pseudo education. Final Thought Coaching around learning means directing your charge toward building the habit of consistent. focused study in the areas that provide the largest sustainable benefit.344 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The middle-class has been conditioned to be skeptical of anything outside of linear learning. Be ready to tackle this objection. COACHING NOTES .

Do you believe that events or perceptions of events create emotions? 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. How would altering your perceptions help you manifest your vision? . Is it possible to alter your perceptions? 3. and that he can control his emotions by altering his perceptions.345 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer that events and circumstances don’t cause negative emotions. Getting Started Ask the performer how he feels about this concept and if he believes it’s possible to change his life by altering his perceptions.

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1. Its impossible to manipulate your emotions by altering your perceptions. 2. Changing my responses won’t make me happier. 3. Altering my perceptions won’t work unless they’re rooted in truth.

World-Class Beliefs/Changing Responses
1. My responses reflect my perceptions and my perceptions control my emotions. 2. My happiness is the direct result of how I interpret the events in my life. 3. The quality of my worldview dictates the quality of my life.

Shocking Questions
1. Are most of your emotional responses helping or hurting you? 2. Do extremely successful people respond to events the same way as you? 3. Is it possible there’s more to this process than you’re currently aware of?

Sensitive Questions
1. Have you ever successfully upgraded an emotional response that was hurting you in the middle of a challenging event? 2. On a scale of 1-7, 7 being best, how good are you at changing your emotional responses? 3. How can I support you in your efforts to upgrade your responses?

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As always, awareness is the first step in mental toughness coaching. Try to observe the performer in as many challenging situations as possible. Little by little, help the performer build the habit of world-class emotional responses.

Final Thought
Coaching around emotional responses has the power to catapult the performer’s results, so it needs to be an ongoing conversation in your coaching. Observe the performer in as many challenging situations as possible and offer immediate feedback.

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To help the performer develop a greater sense of urgency in the quest for her vision.

Getting Started
Discuss her sense of urgency and what role it plays in her day to day performance.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs
1. Do you believe having a greater sense of urgency will help you achieve your goals more rapidly? 2. Do you believe it’s possible to develop a greater sense of urgency? 3. Do you believe world-class performers have a greater sense of urgency than middle- class performers?

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1. Sense of urgency is unrelated to success. 2. Thinking about how many days I have left demotivates and depresses me. 3. I have plenty of time left.

World-Class Beliefs/Sense of Urgency
1. Time is my most precious asset, and I only own a piece of it called now. 2. The future is a promissory note. 3. Since death is imminent, urgency and risk are a necessity.

Shocking Questions
1. Since death is unavoidable and it’s arrival time unknown, what’s holding you back from fearlessly pursuing your dream? 2. Are you deluding yourself when it comes to facing your own mortality? 3. How much more successful could you be by increasing your sense of urgency?

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1. If you live to be the average age, how many days do you have left to live? 2. If your life ended today, what do you wish you would have done? 3. On as scale of 1-7, 7 being most urgent, how would you rate your sense of urgency in the pursuit of your ultimate vision?

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Keep in mind as you’re coaching around urgency that the thought of death freaks most middle-class thinkers out. Most people won’t even talk about it much less see it as a tool to help them perform at a higher level. Be patient and coach this in small doses until it’s more palatable to the performer.

Final Thought
Coaching sense of urgency at the world-class level requires the performer to come to terms with her mortality see it as a positive catalyst for creating results. This is the ultimate example of coaching the performer from delusional thinking to objective reality.

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To remind the performer that the heart of leadership is service.

Getting Started
Discuss his thoughts and philosophies around servant leadership.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs
1. Do you believe the greatest leaders are the greatest servants? 2. Is it possible to over-serve? 3. Do you believe servant leaders are rewarded?

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1. Leaders are dictators, not servants. 2. Leaders only serve themselves. 3. Leaders are too ego driven to serve.

World-Class Beliefs/Servant Leadership
1. The greatest leaders are the greatest servants 2. The more people you serve the more success you enjoy. 3. Servant leadership is a privilege.

Shocking Questions
1. If you provided more service would you be a better leader? 2. Are you too ego-driven to serve? 3. If you were more of a servant leader would you gain more respect?

Sensitive Questions
1. Who are the greatest servant leaders you know? 2. What three action steps could you take immediately to become more of a servant leader? 3. On a scale of 1-7, 7 being a world-class servant leader, how would the people you serve rate you?

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The biggest challenge you’ll most likely encounter when coaching servant leadership is the belief that people serve leaders, instead of leaders serving people. Your job is to correct this middle-class belief and get the performer on the path to world-class servant leadership.

Final Thought
Coaching servant leadership is simple and straightforward. The goal is to get the performer to stop thinking of the leadership role as it appears in the corporate hierarchy and start thinking about through the eyes of the world class.

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To help the performer develop the habit of breaking down seemingly complex problems to the elements they’re comprised of. To increase the clarity of her thinking by simplifying the most complex challenges.

Getting Started
Discuss the art of simplification and its benefits.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs
1. Is it possible to simplify everything? 2. What are the benefits of simplification? 3. Why aren’t more problems simplified by our teachers and leaders?

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1. Simplification only works with simple challenges. 2. Some things are impossible to simplify. 3. Simplification is the sign of a weak intellect.

World-Class Beliefs/Simplification
1. Not every problem is simple, but every problem can be simplified. 2. Simplification is the sign of superior intellect. 3. Simplification increases clarity and reduces intimidation.

Shocking Questions
1. If you simplified your current challenges would you experience less stress? 2. If you reduced problems to their essence would you be a better problem solver? 3. If you built the habit of making the complicated simple would you be more successful?

Sensitive Questions
1. Would practicing the art of simplification make you happier? 2. How could simplification help you make more money? 3. Would your closest friends and colleagues say you are more likely to complicate or simplify the challenges you encounter?

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Throw some sample challenges out to the performer and ask her to simplify them to begin building this habit.

Final Thought
Your job is to help the performer develop a “simplification consciousness.” This means actively discussing this concept on a regular basis until it becomes a habit.

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What does success mean to you? 2. Getting Started Have a conversation around how the masses define success as opposed to how the world class sees it. Is your current definition of success helping or hurting you? . How important is success? 3.357 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer establish a clear picture of what success means and doesn’t mean. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.

358 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Success 1. Chasing success is fun if you love what you do. If you were more successful would you be happier? Sensitive Questions 1. 3. Does your belief system help or hinder your success? . If your definition of success was more clearly defined would you be more successful? 3. Success means something different to everyone. Shocking Questions 1. 2. fulfillment and happiness? 2. Success equals money. What is the relationship between success. Success is complicated. How much have you bought into the masses definition of success? 2. World-Class Beliefs/Success 1. 3. Success is elusive. How successful are your five closest friends? 3. Success is simple. 2.

COACHING NOTES .359 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Success is one of the most misunderstood concepts in society today. because so many have so much to gain from defining it. Final Thought Coaching success is more of a process than an exercise. Your job is to help the performer build a healthy definition of success that empowers him. Remember to be patient knowing the performer’s current beliefs around success took decades to create. and probably won’t be changed in a few coaching sessions.

Is it possible to talk yourself into both positive and negative behaviors and habits? . Can some of your beliefs be upgraded? 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Getting Started Ask the performer to talk about his self image and how it’s evolved over the years.360 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer that reprogramming his belief system is not only possible. Does self-talk have the power to reconstruct your belief system? 3. but practical and simple through self-talk.

Positive self-talk is silly. 2.361 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Self-Talk 1. World-class self-talk builds world-class beliefs. Is your self-talk helping or hurting you? . Upgraded self-talk creates upgraded behavior. 2. Is it possible you’re underestimating the power of self-talk? 3. Self-talk is too simple to work. 3. If you upgraded your self talk would you be more successful? 2. Could upgrading your self talk be the missing link in your success? Sensitive Questions 1. The potential for change through self-talk is limitless. Shocking Questions 1. World-Class Beliefs/Self-Talk 1. I’m too busy to upgrade my self-talk. 3. What level of language do your closest friends and family members use with themselves and others? Is it more middle or world class ? 3. Would you be willing to experiment with world-class self-talk for the next thirty days to see how it works? 2.

Final Thought Coaching self-talk to a successful person is like coaching a pro football player around blocking and tackling. COACHING NOTES . It’s the foundation of success. yet it appears too simple to be important.362 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The main obstacle in coaching self-talk is the belief that something so simple cannot be that powerful. Remember that every great coach hammers the basics because everything else is an extension of the core success principles. Your job is to convince the performer to give it a try and judge for himself. Thirty days of world-class selftalk rarely fails to make its case.

363 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer uncover her true beliefs and feelings on the art of selling. Is selling manipulative or service oriented by nature? . Do you believe selling is a noble and respected profession? 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Getting Started Have a discussion around the performer’s self-talk habits and what level of thinking they represent. What do successful salespeople do? 3.

2. Who is the best salesperson you’ve ever encountered and why? 2. 3. Do you harbor any beliefs that say selling is a manipulation and pressure process? 3. Salespeople only care about making the sale. World-Class Beliefs/Selling 1. Salespeople are pushy. Shocking Questions 1. Sales means helping people do what they love to do. 2. 3. If all of your beliefs about selling were world class would you be more successful? Sensitive Questions 1. and that’s buy products and services that improve the quality of their lives. What beliefs would you have to let go of in order to upgrade your thoughts about selling? . Selling means educating the buyer about the benefits of the product or service.364 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Selling 1. Selling is talking people into buying things. Who is the worst salesperson you’ve ever encountered and why? 3. Selling is transferring your belief in a product/service to the prospective customer. Could some of your deeply held middle-class beliefs about selling be holding you back? 2.

Selling touches every aspect of life. Your job as coach is to make sure it’s impact is positive. Final Thought Helping someone build world-class beliefs around selling is one of the greatest gifts you can offer. This is rarely true. and that creates conflict in the consciousness of the performer. whether they’re trying to sell someone on marrying them or a bank on loaning them money. All of us have experienced more lousy salespeople than good salespeople. Be sure to stress that identifying limiting beliefs and upgrading them is extremely valuable. The benefits will impact every area of the person’s life. Prospects and customers sense it when a salesperson has the slightest doubt about the product or service she’s representing. COACHING NOTES .365 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Coaching professional salespeople around their beliefs about selling is a difficult task because many of them believe they have no limiting beliefs.

Security in financial terms means having a job with a large company that’s unlikely to go out of business. 3. Security is the main goal in life. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Security in business equals limited financial success. Does security even exist? 3. Security means living life in first gear. World-Class Beliefs/Security 1. . How does the need for security affect your thinking. What does security mean to you? 2. 2. 3. 2. Security in most contexts does not exist. behavior and performance? Middle-Class Beliefs/Security 1. Security means playing it safe.366 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To move the performer into objective reality as it relates to her beliefs about security.

What beliefs would you have to upgrade in order to take more risks? Coaching the Upgrade Be reminded that beliefs about security. Are you trading opportunity for perceived security? 2. Is it possible that the more risks you take the more secure you actually are? Are you absolutely certain of your answer? Sensitive Questions 1. When you revisit it.367 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Shocking Questions 1. Is your perceived security real or imaginary? 3. Introduce this concept. . run very deep and are usually rooted in fear. Are you addicted to fostering feelings of security? 2. Be patient and remember that mental toughness is a process. and move on. Odds are the person you’re coaching has had decades of middle-class conditioning around the strategy of playing it safe. If you took more chances would you be more successful? 3. the performer will have evolved to a higher level of awareness which you can continue to build on. especially financial security. discuss it. Final Thought Coaching security usually means coaching people out of their feel-good delusional beliefs that are holding them back from taking the risks they need to take to get what they desire. not an exercise.

368 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer she is responsible for her own success. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What are your feelings around the philosophy of self-reliance? 2. Getting Started Have a discussion around the concept of self-reliance and what it means to her. Why do you think people expect outside circumstances to make them happy? . fulfillment and happiness. How has this philosophy served you in the past? 3.

I’m not happy unless I have the love and support of my family and friends. Fulfillment is an emotion that can be created internally by knowing how your mind works. My family and friends give me my feelings of fulfillment. I feel successful even when I’m failing. Shocking Questions 1. I feel happy when my habits.369 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Self-Reliance 1. 2. What beliefs would you have to upgrade in order to become more selfreliant? . When I get (fill in the blank) I will feel successful. How self-reliant are your closest friends and family members? 2. What would you have to let go of to become more self-reliant? Sensitive Questions 1. If you increased your self-reliance would you be more successful? 2. How self-reliant is the average person? 3. actions and behaviors are congruent with my value system. 3. World-Class Beliefs/Self-Reliance 1. Do you believe in the philosophy that says people are as happy as they make up their minds to be? 3. 2. 3.

Final Thought Coaching self-reliance is about helping another person build the belief that the quality of her life is ultimately controlled by the way she uses her own mind. This is another subtle tool that moves the performer toward the belief she is 100% responsible for her life.370 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Your primary role in coaching self-reliance is to bring this thought into the performer’s consciousness and motivate her to adopt a more sophisticated philosophy on success. fulfillment and happiness. and that her success. fulfillment and happiness is the direct result of strategic thought. COACHING NOTES .

Have you experienced highs and lows in your self-image? . or multiple self images in different areas of life? 3. Getting Started Talk to her about the impact of her beliefs around selling. How is a person’s self-image created? 2.371 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To convince the performer that his self image is the cornerstone of his consciousness. See if she believes they are helping or hurting her Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. and that it can be elevated to the world-class level through re-programming. Do people have one self-image.

positive self-images? . how strong is your self image in business? 3. 3. Self-image has no effect behavior. 3. How has your self-image affected your level of success? Sensitive Questions 1. Self-image is the result of random programming by ourselves and others.372 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Self-Image 1. success or a successful self-image? 2. Do your closest friends and family have healthy. How has your self-image hurt you in the past? 3. You’re born with your self-image. On a scale of 1-7. How has your self-image helped you in the past? 2. Self-image is forged primarily in childhood. Self-image can be completely upgraded through re-programming. 2. World-Class Beliefs/Self-Image 1. 2. Self-image cannot be altered. 7 being best. What comes first. Shocking Questions 1.

but now she is responsible for upgrading it. and those beliefs can be altered through self-talk. After that. Your job is to get the performer thinking about her self-image and the impact it’s having on every aspect of her life. Remember self-image is made up of a set of beliefs. COACHING NOTES . This is another mental toughness tool that moves the performer toward the “I am responsible” philosophy.373 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Working on their self-image is something most performers rarely think about. all you have to do is convince her that other people may have been responsible for creating her self-image as a child. Final Thought Coaching around self-image is tricky because many people don’t believe it can be changed. yet it’s one of the primary drivers of their behavior. visualization and life experience.

Do you believe clarity of thought creates mental power? 2.374 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer to create her life’s vision in written form. Getting Started Talk to the performer about the vision process and how it’s the emotional equivalent of a business plan. Which is more powerful when it comes to motivation: logic or emotion? . Do you believe specific details in thought help clarify a person’s focus? 3. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.

what are you thinking about? Sensitive Questions 1. Vision is the cornerstone of achievement. Vision keeps you going when logic tells you to stop. If writing a vision for your life isn’t worth the time. People just have goals. 2. If I create a vision I’ll be disappointed. why do so many world-class performers do it? 3. 3. Do you have a written vision for your life. World-Class Beliefs/Vision 1. and if not. Vision is only for leaders. Vision is the emotional driver behind every action. Only companies and organizations have visions.375 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Vision 1. Is your vision emotionally compelling enough to motivate you when everything looks hopeless? 2. what’s it costing you? 2. Shocking Questions 1. 2. Does your vision excite you when you read it? 3. If you’re not thinking about your vision most of the time. 3. How often do you think about your vision? .

this one can’t wait.376 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Get the performer to write her vision immediately and the experience will make a believer out of her. COACHING NOTES . Since all great performers are great visionaries. Final Thought Half of the process in coaching vision is the performer’s experience of writing and reading it every day. her behavior will begin to change and her level of awareness in this area will expand. Once she starts reading her vision every day.

Is perseverance something you’re born with or something you develop? . Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What role does attitude play? 3.377 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer to adopt a never say die attitude when it comes to manifesting his ultimate vision. Getting Started Have a conversation around the concept of persistence and the never say die philosophy to get an overall feel for what the performer believes. What role does persistence play in world-class success? 2.

Attitude is the result of your experience. 2. 3. Attitude has little to do with success. Shocking Questions 1. Having a positive attitude feels good but doesn’t impact your results. 2. 3. If you were more persistent would you be more successful? 2. World-Class Beliefs/Attitude & Persistence 1. Attitude is the framework of thought. Attitude creates feelings. Are your current results an indication of your level of persistence? 3. How much are you willing to suffer to make your dream a reality? 3.378 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Attitude & Persistence 1. Is your ultimate vision worth fighting for? 2. what stories of personal persistence would you tell? Sensitive Questions 1. If you had to prove your world-class persistence in order to save your life. Attitude affects everything. Are you emotionally prepared to never say die in the battle to achieve your ultimate vision when everyone around you is telling you to quit? .

Getting the performer to increase his tolerance for pain is not.379 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Your job is to help the performer recognize the power of attitude and persistence. COACHING NOTES . and convince him that great accomplishments are often achieved by the person who hangs tough the longest. Final Thought Coaching around attitude and persistence is simple. This should be an ongoing element of your coaching strategy.

380 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer evolve from an ego driven competitor to a sprit driven human being focused on self mastery. when do you feel the best about yourself? . Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Why does beating someone else mean so much to so many? 2. Getting Started Discuss the performer’s philosophy on competition and winning. How do you define winning? 3. In the course of competition.

Winning isn’t everything. Is defining winning as personal progress a naïve philosophy? . When are you most satisfied as a competitor? (besides when you win) 3. Personal progress is meaningless unless you win. Have you been following the upper-class consciousness which believes beating other people makes you more of a human being? 3. Winning means being happy with who you are. Winning is an inside job. Is your competitive philosophy more upper or world class? Sensitive Questions 1. 2. If you focus on personal progress you’ll have your share of competitive victories without turning competition into a war of egos. If you upgraded your beliefs on winning would you be a better competitor? 2.381 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Personal Progress 1. it’s the only thing. 2. World-Class Beliefs/Personal Progress 1. 3. 3. Shocking Questions 1. When did you develop your competitive philosophy? 2. Being a great competitor means beating everyone else.

Winning and competition isn’t the problem. Even many milliondollar athletes are confused about what winning really means and the how their philosophy impacts their performance on the playing field. The purpose of this coaching piece is to not to turn the performer into a tree hugger who shrivels during competition. but rather to teach him to think about winning and competing in a way that empowers him to become a great competitor. Train him to focus on personal progress all the while fueling his hunger to win. the way we think about winning and competition is. Final Thought You want to build a performer who competes fiercely.382 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Remember that almost everyone’s competitive philosophy was cast in stone in childhood and reinforced over decades. COACHING NOTES . fairly and without mental baggage telling him he’s less of a person if he loses the battle.

Getting Started Have a conversation about how body weight has impacted her personal and professional life. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.383 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To get the performer to think about the role body weight plays in her health. Does body weight impact thinking? 2. success. and life. Does body weight impact success? 3. Does body weight impact happiness? .

We should just accept our fate if we’re obese. which is more painful: sticking to your eating/ exercise regimen or being fat? . Being fat is ugly. Are you satisfied with your current body weight? 3.384 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Body Weight 1. 2. Body weight has nothing to do with success or happiness. How has your body weight impacted your relationships? 2. If your body was leaner would you be more successful? 2. Maintaining a thin and healthy physique has the most benefits. World-Class Beliefs/Body Weight 1. Does your body weight increase your energy or consume it? 3. 2. 3. Psychologically speaking. Shocking Questions 1. Big is beautiful. What beliefs would you have to alter in order to maintain a thin and healthy physique? Sensitive Questions 1. Being fat is painful. 3.

it’s going to cost the performer down the road. and soften the questions as needed due the sensitive nature of the subject matter. If you back away from this one out of fear. COACHING NOTES . That being said. Who else will have the guts (or expertise) to coach her around this if you don’t? Final Thought Coaching around maintaining a thin and healthy body gives your performer a non-linear competitive edge most people never consider.385 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade You may need a bodyguard when coaching this one! Always ask permission to proceed with your questions and commentary around body weight. don’t be naïve and believe the performer’s body weight is not having an impact on her thinking.

habits and philosophies of the great ones. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Do you believe the answers to world-class success. Do you believe there’s a success formula for life? 3. fulfillment and happiness have already been discovered? 2. why aren’t more people living the good life? .386 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To motivate the performer to tap the wisdom of the ages by studying the thought processes. If the answers to the good life have already been discovered. Getting Started Ask the performer about the benefits of learning from the failures and successes of the past.

What was the last non-fiction book or audio program you studied to help you move closer towards your ultimate vision? . All the answers to life and living have already been discovered. Is it possible to manifest your vision at a more rapid rate through other people’s experience? 3. What are some ways to learn from the experience of others that you haven’t tapped into? 3. did it help you? 2. 3. have you succeeded based on your past experiences or what you were taught? Sensitive Questions 1. The wisdom of the ages doesn’t apply to the modern world. 2. The fastest way to learn is through the successes and failures of others.387 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Wisdom 1. 2. Have you ever studied a quotation book? If so. In your greatest areas of achievement. The most intelligent strategy for quantum growth is copying genius. 3. No one knows the secret to success. Is your strategy to learn more from experience or wisdom? 2. The wisdom of the ages doesn’t apply to my life. Shocking Questions 1. fulfillment and happiness. World-Class Beliefs/Wisdom 1.

healthier human being.388 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Your job is to help the performer recognize that so many of the answers we seek have already been discovered. and all he has to do is seek the wisdom and experience of the great ones who came before. not to mention being a happier. Final Thought Coaching around the seeking of wisdom will help the performer ascend rapidly to the top of his chosen profession. COACHING NOTES .

389 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer realize that no matter who signs our paycheck. and that the only security we have is in our ability to perform. Is there a psychological advantage to seeing yourself as self-employed? 2. What empowers you more: being employed or self-employed? . How much control does a self employed person have over her life? 3. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. we are all self-employed. Getting Started Ask the performer what she thinks about the idea that we are all self-employed.

would you experience more or less stress? 2. 2. would you spend more time thinking about how to improve your job performance? 3. Would an employer prefer you see yourself as employed or self employed? 2. 3. If you believed you were self-employed. Self-employment means leasing your professional services to another person or organization. Self-employment is risky. If you believed you were self-employed. World-Class Beliefs/Self-Employment 1. If you believed you were self-employed. Shocking Questions 1. Self-employed people have no job security. We are all self-employed in one form or another. 3. What do you know about self employed people? 3. The self-employed are 100% responsible for their results. If you believed you were self-employed. would you work more or less? Sensitive Questions 1.390 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Self-Employment 1. Self-employment is for people without children and other responsibilities. 2. would you more or less concerned about life balance? .

Final Thought Coaching around a self-employment philosophy means helping the performer make a paradigm shift from hired gun to leader. COACHING NOTES . Everyone in the equation wins. People who adopt this philosophy see themselves as more responsible for their success and tend to work harder and smarter. It’s a subtle alteration in thought that has the power to catapult performance.391 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Your job is to make the performer think about the advantages of the self-employed mindset.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. and if he knows the price he’ll have to pay to achieve it. Do you believe it’s possible to succeed without sacrifice? 2. Getting Started Discuss what success means to the performer. Does suffering for success make you tougher? 3.392 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand that world-class success comes with a price tag. Does suffering for success make the victories sweeter? .

What do your activities of the last thirty days say about your commitment to succeed? 2. Is the sacrifice and suffering necessary to achieve your vision worth the price? . 3. Sacrifice and suffering creates self respect. Successful people take shortcuts. Are you absolutely certain your beliefs about sacrifice and suffering for success are facts and not truths? 2. 2.393 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Suffering 1. The struggle to succeed is the primary catalyst of mental toughness. World-Class Beliefs/Suffering 1. If massive success didn’t require sacrifice and suffering everyone would be rich. What would you be willing to sacrifice in order to move closer to your vision? 3. Is your current level of sacrifice sufficient enough to achieve your ultimate vision? Sensitive Questions 1. 2. Suffering is negative. You don’t have to suffer to succeed. 3. Is your approach to sacrifice and suffering helping or hurting you? 3. Shocking Questions 1. skinny and happy.

Take comfort in the fact that one day this coaching philosophy will be the thing saves them from giving up on their dream. You’ll be up against the middle-class belief that says successful people are lucky. You must persist until you succeed no matter how much the positive thinking purists fight you. Knock these down one by one until there’s nothing left but the stark realization that sacrifice and suffering must precede massive success. COACHING NOTES . but one that is necessary.394 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade This is about moving the performer into objective reality and away from delusional thinking. Your job is to make him understand that world-class performers only get there through sacrifice and suffering for their dream. gifted. or connected in some way to those who lifted them to greatness. Final Thought Coaching around sacrifice and suffering is a gritty job.

In what areas of your life have you utilized role models? 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. why don’t more people use them? . Do you believe role models can expedite your success? 3. If using role models is so effective. Getting Started Ask the performer if she’s used role models in the past and how it’s worked for her.395 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand the power role models have to expedite the path to their goal and dreams.

Who are your role models? 2. What would you have to do to find more role models for your life? 2. World-Class Beliefs/Role Models 1. How much time could you save by following the proper role model enroute to your vision? . How many role models helped you get where you are today? Sensitive Questions 1. Role models pave the way for success. How can I help you select a new role model? 3.396 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Role Models 1. Role models are for children to admire. Do you have role models in every area of your life? 3. 2. 3. Role models are fabulous teachers. 3. Role models take the guesswork out of success. 2. Role models are unapproachable. Role models are overrated. Shocking Questions 1.

Once they start consciously picking the right people to imitate. COACHING NOTES . Probe the performer for stories dating back to their childhood of the success they experienced by following role models. their vision will begin to unfold at a more rapid rate.397 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Keep in mind as you’re coaching this that most people don’t consciously select role models and follow their path. Final Thought Coaching around using role models is one of those success secrets that seem too simple to be so powerful. Your job is to get the performer to see this as a strategic advantage over his or her competitors.

I don’t have any hidden emotional motivators. The introspective process is to much like therapy. What percentage of your mind are you aware of? 3. 2. I know all there is to know about myself. Getting Started Ask the performer what role introspective thought plays in her life and the value she places on self-understanding. Are there emotional motivators and hot buttons buried in your subconscious mind? Middle-Class Beliefs/Self-Understanding 1. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. 3.398 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand the value of introspective thought and self-understanding. Are there things that lie in the deep recesses of your psyche that you are unaware of that could help move you closer to your vision? 2. .

Could there be limiting beliefs and philosophies left over from childhood buried deep in your mind that are sabotaging your success? Sensitive Questions 1. Is it possible your core beliefs around self-understanding are holding you back? 3. Self-understanding makes success easier. Have you ever done something and didn’t understand why? 3. If you had to explain the way your mind operates in a court of law would you be able to convince a jury you really understood yourself? . How well do you really know yourself? 2. Shocking Questions 1. The mind is like an ocean filled with emotional gold. Self understanding creates mental clarity and illuminates purpose. Would you be more successful if you understood yourself in greater depth? 2. 3.399 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS World-Class Beliefs/Self-Understanding 1. 2.

Think of the performer you’re coaching as a machine that must be understood to operate to its potential. Once the machine knows as much about itself as you do it will motivate itself.400 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The introspective process is arguably the most under used mental toughness tool. Final Thought Self-understanding leads to positive action. Convince the performer to give it a try and offer to facilitate the process by asking targeted questions designed to help the performer reveal herself to herself. COACHING NOTES .

Is it possible to be successful and fulfilled? 3.401 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer make the distinction between success and fulfillment. Which comes first. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. success or fulfillment? . Is it more important to be successful or be fulfilled? 2. Getting Started Ask the performer about his definition of success and how it relates to fulfillment.

Would massive success change your life? 2. 2. Shocking Questions 1. People who choose success are shallow and greedy. 3. 2. Success gives you options. Significance creates fulfillment. What would you have to do to become a more significant person? 3. How do your beliefs around success and significance impact your daily work performance? . People who are significant don’t care about success. You can be successful and significant.402 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Success to Significance 1. Would moving toward significance make you more successful? Sensitive Questions 1. 3. World-Class Beliefs/Success to Significance 1. Is it possible to achieve world-class success and significance? 2. Are you a significant person in someone’s life? 3. You must choose between success and significance.

If you can help them overcome the middle-class belief that says you have to choose. Your biggest obstacle coaching this concept will probably be the people who believe you have to choose one or the other.403 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Keep in mind people typically move toward significance only after they’ve become successful. COACHING NOTES . Final Thought Coaching around success and significance means making the performer realize it’s possible to have both. you will alter their destiny forever. Your job is to help them build the belief that it’s possible to achieve world-class success and significance.

Is there any connection between humor and world-class happiness? 3. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Getting Started Discuss the role humor has played in the performer’s success and if he sees it as a performance tool. Is there any connection between humor and world-class success? 2. Is there a place for humor in business? .404 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer to use humor as a performance strategy.

World-Class Beliefs/Humor 1. Could humor help reduce your everyday stress? 3. Humor creates connection with people in business. If you used humor more often would you be more successful? 3. There’s nothing humorous about the business world. 3. If you used humor more often would you be happier? Sensitive Questions 1. What would you have to let go of in order to use humor more often in business? . 3. 2. Shocking Questions 1. 2. Is it possible to overuse humor in business? 2. Humor reduces stress. Do you use humor as a performance strategy? 2. Humor makes you appear shallow and frivolous in the business world.405 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Humor 1. Humor has no place in business. Humor increases creativity.

and others are the people emailing you jokes every day. A performer having fun is a very dangerous competitor. Your job is to help the performer find the right balance of humor in the workplace. more well-adjusted person. COACHING NOTES . Final Thought Coaching the use of humor as a performance tool means building a happier. healthier.406 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Some middle-class thinkers believe there’s no place for humor in business.

Getting Started Have a conversation with the performer about her thoughts and beliefs around character. What’s the relationship between character and success? 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. How do you define character? . Do you believe successful people are character conscious? 3. fulfillment and happiness.407 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To show the performer the correlation between world-class thinking and character as well as its role in success.

Nothing is more important than character in business and in life. It’s easy to be character conscious when you’re rich. What could you do to shore up any flaws in your character? 2. 2. Only successful people can afford to be character conscious in business. What beliefs would you have to upgrade in order to elevate your character? 3. Would you label your character more middle or world class? 3. World-Class Beliefs/Character 1. I have bigger problems than being character conscious. The foundation of character is keeping your word. Shocking Questions 1. What percentage of the time do you keep your word? 2. What would your colleagues say about your character? Sensitive Questions 1. What could you do to improve how people perceive your character? . 3.408 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Character 1. 3. The world-class embraces only people they trust. 2.

It should be coached in a non-judgmental manner to allow the performer to reach his own conclusions. COACHING NOTES . Final Thought Coaching around character has the power to alter the way a performer thinks about his everyday actions and how they affect other people. This is more about building awareness than teaching a tool. Bring it up once a quarter to check in and see if their awareness has evolved and the impact it’s currently having.409 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Your goal is to get the performer thinking about how his character impacts his personal and professional life.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What role has the emotional support of others played in your life? . What role does support play in success? 2. Finish this sentence: building an emotional support team is a sign of __________. Getting Started Ask the performer if she has an active support system. 3.410 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To encourage the performer to build and use a support team to serve as a psychological oasis on her way to manifesting her vision.

2. What activity could you plan with your support team in the next 30 days that would help you recharge yourself? 3.411 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Support 1. how often do you utilize your emotional support team? . On a scale of 1-7. What limiting beliefs would you have to upgrade in order to embrace the support team concept? 3. I don’t need support to succeed. Your support team is your emotional pit stop. 3. World-Class Beliefs/Support 1. If you were using your support team more often would you be moving toward your vision at a more rapid pace? 2. Emotional support is for unstable people. Shocking Questions 1. Utilizing a support team gives you an emotional oasis. it’s a strategy. 3. Are you allowing yourself adequate time to recharge yourself emotionally? 2. How could you use your support team more effectively in the next 90 days? Sensitive Questions 1. Emotional support is for weak people. 7 being most. 2. Support isn’t a necessity.

Teach him to build rest. Final Thought Coaching around support means debunking the belief that tough people don’t need anyone. recovery and support into his business strategy. COACHING NOTES .412 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Remember that a performer under pressure who can’t see a break in the near future is going to begin pacing himself for psychological survival. This belief is rooted in fear and must be upgraded for behavior change to occur.

Have you ever worked less because you believed you wouldn’t be compensated for your additional efforts? 3. What does a world-class work ethic look like? . Do you believe it’s possible to work more than you’re compensated for? 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.413 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer that a world-class work ethic is the pathway to world-class success. Getting Started Ask the performer about his beliefs around work ethic and the role it’s played in his life.

Do you believe your personal life would suffer if you upgraded your work ethic? . 3. What would have to let go of in order to improve your work ethic? 2. On a scale from 1-7. how would you rate your work ethic? 3. You will always be compensated for world-class work. If you were more focused on your work would you be more successful? 2. How would your co-workers rate your work ethic? Sensitive Questions 1. Believing that extra effort at work will eventually be noticed is naive.414 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Work Ethic 1. No matter how hard you work. 3. 7 being best. Shocking Questions 1. 2. Is your work ethic more middle or world class ? 3. World-Class Beliefs/Work Ethic 1. 2. Work ethic separates the world class from the middle-class. A strong work ethic is the foundation of world-class success. employers and customers will always want more. Working more than you’re paid for is stupid.

COACHING NOTES . Just be reminded that without a world-class work ethic uncommon success is virtually impossible. One of the best tools you can use is to show them the work schedule of a world-class athlete. Most people have a middle-class work ethic yet expect world-class results. or entertainer and ask them to compare their efforts.415 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade What you’re up against with most performers is the delusion that their work ethic is much better than it really is. Final Thought Coaching work ethic usually means coaching objective reality over delusion. businessperson. Your job is to wake them up and help them bridge the gap.

416 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer to dream of the future while focusing on the present. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Getting Started Ask the performer if she focuses most of her mental energy on the past. Does thinking about the future help or hurt you? 2. present or future and how it impacts her results. Where do world-class performers focus their mental energy: the past. present or future? 3. Where are you focused when you’re performing at your best? .

The management of mental energy dictates behavior. present or future? Sensitive Questions 1. Why do middle-class thinkers spend so much time thinking about the past? 3. The focus of mental energy has nothing to do with success. The present is the only time you have control over. When are you operating at your best: when you think about the past. The secret is to dream of the future while focusing in the present. Would you be happier if you lived more in the present? . 3.417 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Living in the Present 1. World-Class Beliefs/Living in the Present 1. 3. Is it possible to be future oriented and present focused? 2. How could spending less mental energy in the past help your performance? 3. 2. 2. Living in the present is more about happiness than success. How could you use the idea of present centered thinking to improve your performance? 2. Shocking Questions 1. It doesn’t matter where you focus your thoughts.

COACHING NOTES .418 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Your goal is to get the performer to think about where she spends most of her mental energy and the impact of that focus. Final Thought Coaching present centered focus reminds the performer that this moment is the only period of time we can control. Guide the performer toward a healthy balance of present focus and future orientation. and that most of the thinking we do outside of it is wasted mental energy unless it inspires us to act in the moment.

2. Getting Started Have a discussion around the power of saying no and how the performer feels about this idea. Saying no is uncaring.419 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer learn to say no more often to time consuming activities that don’t yield results. Only self-centered people say no. What does it mean to say no to people when they ask for your time? 2. 3. Is it possible to be a good person and a world-class performer? 3. Its selfish to guard your time. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. . Does doing everything your asked make you a nice person? Middle-Class Beliefs/Saying No 1.

Guarding your time means guarding your life. Shocking Questions 1. What are two time consuming activities in your life you could eliminate immediately? 2. 3. How would saying no more often help you move closer to your ultimate vision? 3. When you say yes to people who waste your time is it out of generosity or addiction to their approval? 2. Who do you need to say no to more often? 3.420 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS World-Class Beliefs/Saying No 1. Saying no to time wasting activities is intelligent strategy. 2. What belief do you have to upgrade to help you feel good about saying no? Sensitive Questions 1. Saying no helps you control your time. Is it smarter to take care of your own needs first and than help others or vice versa? Is this philosophy helping or hurting you? .

421 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The fundamental issue most people have is the middle-class belief that only the self-absorbed say no. including the people wasting their time. Final Thought Training a person to say no when they’ve been brainwashed by society to always say yes is a process. not a coaching technique. Guide him one step at a time until he transcends the middle-class belief that this strategy makes him a bad person. COACHING NOTES . You’re coaching someone whose been programmed for years to give freely of their time no matter how much others abuse it. Your job is to help them realize this belief serves no one.

Is calling this an addiction exaggerating its hold on people? . educated group of people from realizing their potential. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. On a scale of 1-7.422 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To make the performer aware of the addiction of the masses and how it keeps this generally smart. Getting Started Ask the performer how she feels about the concept of approval addiction and if she believes she suffers from it. how important is the approval of others to you? 2. Why are most people addicted to the approval of others? 3. 7 being highest.

3. What is one area of your life in which you have tailored your actions to ensure the approval of others? 3. Would lessening this addiction make you a happier person? Sensitive Questions 1. Be true to yourself. go along. It’s important to comply with other people. If you shifted your addiction approval to preference approval would you take more risks? 3. Society rewards people who conform. In what ways could expanding your awareness of approval addiction make you more successful? 2. 2. World-Class Beliefs/Addiction Approval 1. 3. Addiction to anything is limiting. would you be able to produce enough evidence? 2.423 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Addiction Approval 1. To get along. In what areas of your life would you have been more successful in the past if you were not seeking approval? . I prefer acceptance. Shocking Questions 1. but I’m not addicted to it. 2. If you had to prove you were not addicted to the approval of others to save your life.

It’s simply a matter of getting the performer to recognize the addiction for what it is and then learn to let it go. coaches. clergy. that almost everyone has it to one degree or another because it worked so well for us as children. Coach it until the performer wakes up. Final Thought Coaching around addiction approval is one the greatest gifts you can give as a coach. it limits us in what we can accomplish and who we can become. etc. Don’t ever let up on this one. teachers.) is a solid strategy for getting what you want. COACHING NOTES . Pleasing people in power (parents.424 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Remember when you’re coaching approval addiction. and once that happens. teach him to grow up and think for himself regardless of what the world thinks. As adults.

When it comes to success.425 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To remind the performer that the liberty to do what she’s doing doesn’t exist everywhere and it wasn’t free. Getting Started Have a brief conversation around the meaning of liberty and the responsibilities that go with it. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What value do you place on the freedom you enjoy in this country? 2. what does having the right to create your own future mean to you? . Do the sacrifices of your countrymen inspire you to take advantage of the liberty they protect? 3. and that people are dying every day to preserve our right to create our own destiny.

Are you taking full advantage of the free enterprise system so many people died to create and protect? 3. and how do you feel about that? . What behavior would you have to change in order to use more of your freedom? Sensitive Questions 1. I have tremendous opportunity but it’s smarter to play it safe. I owe it to the people who died for my freedom to take full advantage of it. 2. World-Class Beliefs/Liberty 1. Freedom is the foundation of success. 3. I was born in a free country and liberty is my birthright. Having so much freedom scares me. 2. 3. Shocking Questions 1. Are you aggressively pursuing your dreams or playing it safe. What does maximizing your potential look like? 3. Without freedom we would all be slaves. Are you using the gratitude you feel for your freedom to inspire you on a daily basis? 2. Do you feel like you owe it to the people who sacrificed their lives for freedom to become successful? 2.426 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Liberty 1.

427 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade What you’re attempting to do is create an additional source of motivation and inspiration for the performer. COACHING NOTES . Your job is to make sure the performer is in objective reality in this area and is fully aware people with guns have to be on guard 24/7 in order for him to continue to pursue his vision. Many people take the liberty they enjoy for granted. Final Thought Coaching around liberty means reminding people of what they already know but may not be using as a tool for success. as if it was something guaranteed at birth.

Do you believe solitude enhances your brains ability to think? 2. Why does quieting the mind work so well? 3. and that periods of solitude allow it to work at its full capacity. Getting Started Talk to the performer about the role solitude plays in her life.428 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer recognize that her brain is the most valuable success tool she owns. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Why don’t more people use solitude as a performance strategy? .

What would you have let go of to use solitude more effectively? 3. Is it possible your mind has the ability to solve some of your more complex problems? Sensitive Questions 1. 2. 2. I don’t have time for solitude. If you sought solitude more often would you be more successful? 2. Are you using your creative mind to its potential? 3. 3. Solitude is a nonlinear performance strategy. Solitude sharpens the mind.429 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Solitude 1. Solitude helps me escape excessive cognition and frees my mind for creative thought. 3. Seeking solitude is new age nonsense that has no impact on thinking. Are you sure you fully understand the benefits of solitude? . Spending time in solitude doesn’t pay the bills. How could you begin to use solitude as a performance strategy? 2. Shocking Questions 1. World-Class Beliefs/Solitude 1.

and solitude for high performance is a non-linear concept.430 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The belief you’re up against here is that periods of solitude are unproductive and a waste of time. COACHING NOTES . Remember that most people have been taught to think in linear terms. Final Thought The secret to coaching around solitude is to get the performer to experience it.

psychologists. Is it possible to be happily dissatisfied? 2. How do you believe the average person would describe his level of happiness? . and other health care experts in an attempt to save people from emotional distress. They feel good about themselves yet know they are capable of more. How would describe your own level of happiness? 3. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. This self-limiting strategy is perpetuated by media.431 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To show your student that world-class performers are happily discontent. Getting Started Talk to the performer about the middle-class philosophy that says don’t expect much and you won’t be disappointed. This is the same emotional distress they must experience to develop world-class mental toughness.

while being dissatisfied drives you to take action for the future. You can’t be happy and discontent at the same time. Why do so many psychologists advise people not to expect too much? Sensitive Questions 1. Has dissatisfaction ever driven you to world-class results? 3. Being happy with where you are allows you to enjoy the present. If you were more dissatisfied would you be more driven to succeed? 2. Healthy dissatisfaction is the foundation of progress. Why do you think it’s important to be happy while you’re dissatisfied? . Are you satisfied because you’re really satisfied. 2. Do you see dissatisfaction as being negative or positive? 3. 3. Being in happy state of mind attracts the people you’ll need to help you resolve your dissatisfaction for the future Shocking Questions 1.432 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Happily Discontent 1. World-Class Beliefs/Happily Discontent 1. 3. Just be happy with what you have and don’t ask for more. 2. It’s greedy to want more when so many have so little. or are you satisfied because you don’t know how to move to a higher level? 2.

One of your biggest hurdles will be overcoming the belief that dissatisfaction is something to be avoided. Final Thought Coaching a performer to be happily dissatisfied is one of the greatest gifts you can give another person. but a process. Another one is that happiness without satisfaction is impossible. Keep in mind that mental toughness coaching is not an event. so be prepared to coach around multiple limiting beliefs. Be patient and remember that you’re coaching around deeply rooted beliefs that were programmed decades ago.433 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade You’re going toe to toe with middle-class society on this one. COACHING NOTES . It spurs their ambition while simultaneously helping them enjoy every minute of the battle.

Getting Started Have a brief conversation about how the performer manages his time and talk about strategies to waste less and leverage more. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.434 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer use the scarcity of time to take action now towards his ultimate vision. What are your best time management strategies? 3. Do you believe it’s possible to use scarcity of time as a motivator? . Is it possible to manage time? 2.

how good are you at managing your time? 2. 3. Shocking Questions 1. What belief do you have that keeps you from managing your time more effectively? 2. What percentage of time during the work day do you waste? 3. Is it possible to manage your time as well during the workweek as you do the day before you go on vacation? 3. 3. If you could choose a time management mentor who would it be and why? . Time management is a waste of time. 7 being best. World-Class Beliefs/Time Management 1. 2. I’m grateful for the time I have. My time is managed by other people. Managing activities helps you get the most out of the time you have.435 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Time Management 1. Time at work doesn’t go fast enough and time on the weekends goes too fast. On a scale of 1-7. 2. What can you do to improve your time management skills? Sensitive Questions 1. I love my time at work and my time at home.

COACHING NOTES . Final Thought Coaching time management is more about increasing awareness than strategy. Make this a part of every coaching session to help the performer build a time sensitive consciousness.436 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Once you make the performer more aware of her time management skills she will automatically begin to upgrade them.

437 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer the secret to better results in any area of life begins with re-programming his belief system. and talk about how behavior is the effect while belief is the cause. Success has nothing to do with happiness. People don’t change. Is it possible to change a person’s core belief system? 3. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Success and happiness is the same thing. 2. 3. . What do you believe controls and dictates people’s behavior in life? 2. How do you think belief change happens? Middle-Class Beliefs/Results Matrix 1. Getting Started Have a discussion around cause and effect.

_______________ Class SUCCESS and FULFILLMENT creates _______________ Class HAPPINESS. ACTIONS and BEHAVIORS. (The ulimate prize) . I am in control of my own success and happiness. 2. Shocking Questions 1. Is the future you see in your mind more middle or world class? 3. I can change and manipulate my thoughts and habits at will. _______________ Class BELIFS create _______________ Class CONSCIOUSNESS. _______________ Class HABITS. 3. _______________ Class CONSCIOUSNESS creates _______________ Class HABITS. ACTIONS and BEHAVIORS create _______________ CLASS SUCCESS and FULFILLMENT. _______________ Class PROGRAMMING creates _______________ Class BELIEFS. World-class results begin with world-class thinking.438 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS World-Class Beliefs/Results Matrix 1. Do your results prove your understanding of the Results Matrix? RESULTS MATRIX _______________ Class LANGUAGE and VISUALIZATION creates _______________ Class Programming. Does your current use of the language sound more middle or world class? 2.

What’s the difference between success and fulfillment? 2. Stay persistent and keep the conversation going knowing this mental toughness secret has the power to alter his destiny. On a scale of 1-7. Final Thought Coaching The Results Matrix creates mental clarity.439 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Sensitive Questions 1. how happy are you? 3. Does fulfillment have an impact on success? Coaching the Upgrade Make the Results Matrix an ongoing part of your coaching sessions and the performer will eventually begin to see the connection between programming and success. 7 being happiest. Remember that as linear as the Matrix might seem to you. . it appears completely non-linear to people who haven’t been exposed to it. what you’re doing is teaching the performer how their mind operates and how to start controlling it instead of accepting its current level of operation. In essence.

Getting Started Ask the performer what role delusion has played in her life and the lives of her friends. How does delusional thinking hold people back? . Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. How has delusional thinking affected your personal life? 3. family and colleagues.440 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To make the performer aware of the disastrous effect self delusion has on performance. How has delusional thinking affected your career? 2.

Are you capable of looking at your core business skills objectively and evaluating them? 3.441 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Delusion 1. What percentage of the time are you deluding yourself in business? 2. 3. 3. 2. Delusion is a trap anyone can fall into. If you were less delusional would you be more successful? 3. World-Class Beliefs/Delusion 1. Delusion has nothing to do with my career or life. Why do people delude themselves in business? Sensitive Questions 1. Staying in objective reality is one of the cornerstones of world-class success. Who is the most delusional person you’ve ever known? 2. What are your three greatest strengths and weaknesses? What percentage of delusional thinking is in your answer to this question? . 2. Shocking Questions 1. I always think in terms of objective reality. Only the mentally ill delude themselves. Self-delusion can creep in at any time.

it’s somebody else’s problem. In the mind of the middle-class thinker. Like many of the mental toughness secrets. the change process moves rapidly and all you have to do is serve as her guide. Be patient and remember it’s a process Final Thought Coaching around delusional thinking is mostly about convincing the performer that a percentage of her thoughts are delusional. this one has to be coached over time. Once she’s able to recognize it in her own life. which is part of their delusional thinking.442 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The middle-class mindset believes it’s always operating in objective reality. COACHING NOTES . so you will most likely get a blank stare when you begin speaking about delusion.

and talk about the impact this single daily exercise will have on his thinking. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What effect would reading your vision every day have on your thinking? 2. What impact would starving your fear have on your every day life? 3. Getting Started Ask the performer how often he’s reading his written vision.443 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To convince the performer to inundate his consciousness with the magnificent vision he’s created for himself while simultaneously redirecting any fear-based thoughts that enter his mind. Do you believe it’s possible to eliminate fear-based thoughts? .

3.444 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Feeding Vision/Starving Fear 1. 3. Inundating my consciousness with my vision reduces thoughts of fear by default since two thoughts cannot co-exist in the mind at the exact same time. What impact does thinking about your vision have on your performance? 3. 2. It’s impossible to eliminate fear-based thoughts. Feeding my vision and starving my fear is a world-class mental habit. Does thinking about your vision create or consume your mental energy? 2. Shocking Questions 1. What can you do to reduce or eliminate your fear-based thoughts? 3. I don’t have time to read my vision every day. Once I’ve written my vision I don’t need to read it again. If you could double the amount of time you spend reading or thinking about your vision over the next 90 days. The more I think about my vision the more likely I will be to take action towards its attainment. 2. how does that affect your performance at work? Sensitive Questions 1. How many minutes of the day do you spend thinking about your vision? 2. what do you think would happen? . World-Class Beliefs/Feeding Vision/Starving Fear 1. When you’re thinking fear-based thoughts.

Get him to read his vision every day for a week and then ask him if he’s thinking more about it on a daily basis. and the next question you ask is. do you think this is helping you move closer toward it? Don’t let up until the light bulb goes off. Since there are only so many mental energy units available during our conscious hours. Final Thought Remember that coaching mental toughness means coaching around the management of a performer’s mental energy.445 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Your job is to help the performer understand the impact that immersing himself in his vision will have on his results. The answer will almost always be yes. management must be taken very seriously. What better investment could be made than thinking about your vision? COACHING NOTES .

446 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer that the most important business skills of the 21st century is powerful public speaking. Does speaking in public make you nervous? 2. Getting Started Discuss how public speaking could move her towards her ultimate vision more rapidly. What effect does public speaking have on confidence? . Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Does public speaking have anything to do with leadership? 3.

Would becoming a proficient public speaker build your self-confidence? Sensitive Questions 1. 2. On scale of 1-7. Public speaking catapults self confidence. Public speaking has no effect on the way people see me or the way I see myself. World-Class Beliefs/Public Speaking 1. 3. how strong of a speaker are you? . What do you think the masses believe about public speaking that frightens them so much? 2. Speaking in public establishes you as a leader. Would speaking in public help establish you as a thought leader? 3. Do you think speaking in public would help you become more successful? 2. 7 being highest. Public speaking is scary. Are your beliefs about public speaking more middle or world class ? 3.447 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Public Speaking 1. Shocking Questions 1. All leaders are speakers. Public speaking is painful. 3. 2.

448 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The bigger the vision. COACHING NOTES . send them to the Bill Gove Speech Workshop to help them learn the most advanced platform skills and strategies. If they’re terrified to speak. Your job is to make the performer realize this may be the single most important skill in business today. If they’re already good speakers. His confidence will soar and his profits will follow. mainly because it allows you to share your goals and dreams with large groups of business leaders that can help you. send them to a local Toastmasters club until they overcome their fear. Final Thought Convincing your charge to become an effective communicator in front of groups is like handing him a bar of gold. the more important it is for the performer to master the art of presenting.

and that developing her emotional intelligence is one the fastest ways to succeed. Do people make most of their key decisions logically or emotionally? 2. Getting Started Have a conversation about the difference between logic and emotion and get a feel for what role the performer believes they play in dealing with people.449 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand that human beings are emotionally driven creatures. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Are love and fear feelings of logic or emotion? . Is it easier to motivate people through logic or emotion? 3. The two most powerful forces in human nature are love and fear.

3. What are you doing to increase your level of emotional intelligence? 3. There’s no place for emotion in business. Emotional intelligence is the most important skill for developing worldclass relationships. People make most of their decisions with logic. 3. Emotion is for motivation. People make decisions emotionally and justify them with logic. how emotionally intelligent are you? 2. If you were more emotionally intelligent would you enjoy healthier relationships? 2. Shocking Questions 1. World-Class Beliefs/Emotional Intelligence 1. How can you utilize your emotional intelligence skills more often both personally and professionally? . Logic is for strategy. 7 being best. Logic drives business.450 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Emotional Intelligence 1. 2. How would your three closest friends rate you in this area? 3. 2. On a scale of 1-7. If you were more emotionally intelligent would you be more successful? Sensitive Questions 1.

451 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The biggest obstacle you’ll have to overcome with middle-class thinkers is the belief that there’s no place in business for emotion. Final Thought Once you teach the performer to make the distinction between logical and emotional thinking and the benefits of each she will be motivated to become more emotionally intelligent. COACHING NOTES . it’s the key to world-class motivation. Explain that while emotion doesn’t work well in creating business strategy.

Getting Started Ask the performer what role his mentors and other people of influence have played in his success up to this point. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Do you believe you have to succeed without the assistance of others? 2. Do you subscribe to the self-made man/woman theory? 3. Were you taught that relying on others is weak? .452 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer to utilize the intelligence and experience of other people in their quest to fulfill their ultimate vision.

not individuals. 3. Have you tapped the wisdom and experience of your boss or leader? 3. or the ones who leverage the collective wisdom of others? . 2. Brain trusts are an intelligent strategy for success.453 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Brain Trusts 1. Brain trusts are for big companies. Collective brain power beats individual brain power every time. Successful people love to talk about their success. Successful people wouldn’t be willing to help me. World-Class Beliefs/Brain Trusts 1. 3. Are the smartest people the ones with the highest IQ scores and most advanced degrees. Shocking Questions 1. Who were the last three people you asked for advice? 3. Would assembling a personal board of advisors move you closer to your vision? 2. 2. When was the last time you asked someone for help in business? Sensitive Questions 1. A man has to succeed on his own. How many advisors do you consult before making any major business decision? 2.

the logic of asking people for help. COACHING NOTES . Once you move the performer past this middle-class belief. Final Thought Remember when you’re coaching around brain trusts that most of us have been taught to rely on our own intelligence and experience and not seek the advice of others for fear of appearing weak willed and feeble minded. The concept is simple. but getting around the ego based thinking that denies its power can be a challenge. guidance and support will make complete sense.454 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Coaching around building brain trusts means helping the performer get out of his own way.

455 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer of the importance of constantly seeking strategic advantages in business. Getting Started Ask the performer about how she’s used strategic advantages in the past to become more successful. Is it possible to develop more strategic advantages in your business? 3. Do strategic advantages really work or is a just a cute buzz term? 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What are some of the best strategic advantages you’ve ever seen? .

2. Thinking about strategic advantages is an ongoing process in business. There are no strategic advantages left in business today. What would your boss say about your use of strategic advantages? 2. World-class thinking is the ultimate strategic advantage. Strategic advantages are just gimmicks that don’t work long term. 3. What is the best strategic advantage you’ve ever used in business? 2. World-Class Beliefs/Strategic Advantages 1. If you invested more time thinking about strategic advantages. Is it possible you’re one strategic advantage away from financial independence? Sensitive Questions 1. 3. not individuals. 2. Strategic advantages work for big corporations. would you be able to leverage your time more effectively? . Strategic advantages are the ticket to differentiating your product or service. If you invested more time thinking about strategic advantages.456 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Strategic Advantages 1. What is your current strategic advantage? 3. Shocking Questions 1. would you be more successful? 3.

Be persistent knowing once this occurs your work will be done. COACHING NOTES .457 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Your role in this process is simple: get the performer to start thinking about strategic advantages as a regular part of his daily routine. Once he hits on one that works. you won’t ever have to mention it again. Final Thought Coaching someone to think strategically and always be searching for new angles often falls on deaf ears until they experience uncommon success with this concept.

Getting Started Ask the performer about a negative event that occurred in his life that he still thinks about every day.458 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To teach the performer how to alter his perception of past events that drain his mental energy. Is it possible to change the way you feel about painful events of the past? 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What’s the advantage of reframing past events? 3. Why don’t more people reframe painful past events? .

It’s best to forget about the past. 2. Are you angry about a past event you could reframe to create positive energy? Sensitive Questions 1. Where would you direct this new found mental energy? 2. 3. 2. You can’t change the way you feel about the past. 3. Reframing promotes feelings of emotional health and well being. I can’t help the way I feel. How often do painful events of the past surface in your thinking? 2. World-Class Beliefs/Reframing Past Events 1. How many painful past events do you revisit every day? 3. fulfilled and happier if you became a master at reframing? . Painful past events can create positive feelings through reinterpretation. Shocking Questions 1. Would you be more successful. Are the painful events of the past creating or consuming your mental energy? 3.459 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Reframing Past Events 1. Any feeling can be changed through thought.

and once you alter the thought you alter the feeling that follows it. Start with one painful past event and stick with it until the performer understands and believes in the process. Feelings are created from thoughts. COACHING NOTES . and that’s the main challenge of coaching this secret. Final Thought Coaching someone to reframe past events gives them the power to control their own level of happiness.460 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Many people have a hard time believing they have the power to control and manipulate their feelings and emotions.

How does the brain protect the mind and body? 2. Can the brain’s interpretation of events and circumstances be altered? 3. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What are the benefits and drawbacks of the brain’s role in self-preservation? .461 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand the way the human brain operates at the most fundamental level. and how to use this information to control it. Getting Started Explain that the brain’s primary purpose is preservation of the mind and body.

you change the behavior it commands the mind and body to follow. If you were on trial to prove you have vast knowledge of how your brain operates. Have you ever had an experience that appeared negative yet had a positive impact on your life? 3. Shocking Questions 1. Do you have a thorough enough understanding of how the brain works in order to manipulate it for your own benefit? 2. World-Class Beliefs/Brain’s Primary Purpose 1. The brain’s primary purpose is thinking. 2. Give an example of a time you were able to alter the meaning of an event in order to change your brain’s response to it. Interpreting events is how the brain makes sense of the world. 2. 3. would there be enough evidence to convict you? 3. How often are you able to alter the meaning of a seemingly negative event to something that empowers you? Sensitive Questions 1. 3. If you alter the brain’s interpretations.462 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Brain’s Primary Purpose 1. If you alter the brain’s perception of reality. 2. Is there an event that’s currently happening in your life that you can change the meaning of in order to alter your brain’s response to it? . The brain’s function cannot be altered or manipulated. you alter it’s perception of reality. The brain’s primary purpose is to keep the body alive.

COACHING NOTES .463 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade As you’re coaching around this. It breeds self-confidence and success. The positive feeling is the end result. Final Thought Coaching around how the brain operates helps the performer gain a sense of control over his own bio-computer. remember that changing the brain’s thinking eventually changes the way the performer feels about the event.

Is it possible to connect your deepest emotional desires to your success at work? . besides collecting a paycheck. Do you believe emotion motivates better than logic? 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. How does emotion fit into business? 3.464 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand that logic drives strategy and emotion drives motivation. Getting Started Ask the performer why she is doing what she is doing in business.

What values would you be willing to fight for? To die for? 3. The why is often more difficult than the how. It’s not the why that matters.465 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/The Why 1. if you were able to pull it off. would make your business life complete? . Based on your past results. like you could accomplish anything? 2. The why is more important than the how. 3. Have you invested the time and effort to uncover your hidden emotional motivators? 3. 3. it’s the how. would he be motivated enough to give you a loan? 2. Emotion fuels motivation. are more of a visionary or a daydreamer? Sensitive Questions 1. Shocking Questions 1. What accomplishment. Bring your head to work and leave your heart at home. If you explained your vision to a banker like you were explaining a business plan. 2. What was the time in your life when you felt most empowered. 2. Primary World-Class Beliefs/The Why 1. Logic steers strategy. There’s no place for emotion in business.

In world-class circles. and your job is to find the story behind the story. The secret to this begins with reading her vision and crafting questions designed to unveil deeper and deeper emotions. COACHING NOTES .466 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade One of your most important roles as a coach of this process is to help the performer uncover her deepest emotional motivators. When the performer begins to answer your questions in terms of how she feels instead of how she thinks. Everyone has a story. and then show the performer how to use that raw emotional power to manifest her vision. you know you’re on the right track. Final Thought Helping someone uncover their deepest emotional power gives them a level of mental strength even science doesn’t fully understand. it’s known as tapping the human spirit.

and how that’s impacting his performance at work.467 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer make the distinction between the five levels of thinking. known as critical thinking. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What are your thoughts about positive thinking? 3. Getting Started Ask the performer what level of thinking he uses most often. At what level does the average person think? 2. and adopt the highest level. Does negative thinking have any value? .

How can you use critical thinking more often? . World-Class Beliefs/Critical Thinking 1. Critical thinking forces you to base your decisions on more stringent criteria. Shocking Questions 1. 2. 2. Critical thinking is the same as positive thinking. Critical thinking reduces poor decision making. Critical thinking means being negative. 3. How is critical thinking different than positive thinking? 3. What percentage of your business decisions are made from critical thinking? 2. Is critical thinking more middle or world class? 3. Critical thinking eliminates emotionally clouded judgment. Why do positive thinking purists despise critical thinking? Sensitive Questions 1. How do you know if you’re using critical thinking? 2. 3.468 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Critical Thinking 1. Critical thinking doesn’t feel as good as positive thinking.

Final Thought Creating a critical thinker means creating a performer who makes decisions based on facts instead of feelings. The key factors of using critical thinking are eliminating emotion and establishing as much criteria as possible in decision making. This should be an ongoing coaching conversation until he builds it into a habit. COACHING NOTES . Your job is to teach him to use evidence-based logic to steer and feelings-based emotion to motivate. they are lousy strategists. While emotion and feelings are powerful motivators.469 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Coaching critical thinking begins with heightening the performer’s awareness of how it works and how often he’s using it.

yet immensely powerful law of attraction.470 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer of the ethereal. Do you believe we attract what we think about? 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Getting Started Explain the law of attraction and ask the performer if she’s ever experienced it personally. Do you believe we attract what we are? 3. Is the law of attraction a spiritual or secular principle? .

The law of attraction cannot be scientifically quantified so it doesn’t really exist. The law of attraction is neither positive or negative. The law of attraction is neither secular nor spiritual. Is it possible you don’t fully understand the magnitude of impact the law of attraction could have on your life? . 2. it just is. 3. 2. What impact would using the law of attraction more often have on your career? 3. How often do you think about your vision during the course of the day? 2. The law of attraction defies logic. 3.471 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Law of Attraction 1. The law of attraction is new age nonsense. Shocking Questions 1. If you were able to harness the law of attraction would you be more successful? 3. Have you had any experience with the law of attraction? 2. The law of attraction is a powerful force. World-Class Beliefs/Law of Attraction 1. How could you use the law of attraction to manifest your ultimate vision? Sensitive Questions 1.

at which time her belief will become solidified. COACHING NOTES . and eventually. Be persistent and patient.472 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Have the performer watch the hit movie. Keep in mind that it’s not necessary for the performer to believe in this law 100% immediately. Final Thought Remember when coaching this law that most people are operating out of a fear-based consciousness which severely hampers their ability to open their minds to higher levels of thought. The Secret. All you want to do is ask her to keep an open mind knowing there are always higher levels of awareness than any of us are currently experiencing. Like many ethereal concepts. coaching them successfully usually means exposing the performer to their existence and then waiting for her to have a positive experience. the light bulb will illuminate. and then have another discussion around this.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Why don’t more people use mentors? 3. What is the downside of using mentors? .473 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To convince the performer to build a mentor team of advisors. Do you believe building a mentor team would help you manifest your vision? 2. Getting Started Have a conversation around the power of using mentors to expedite the timeline to accomplishing her vision.

Shocking Questions 1. There are no shortcuts to success.474 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Mentors 1. why not? Sensitive Questions 1. 3. Mentors shorten the time it takes to achieve your dreams. Are you following your mentor’s advice to the letter? If not. I already know what to do. 3. I just have to do it. Using mentors is the most intelligent way to get what you want. Mentors will only tell me what I already know. what percentage of your mentor’s advice have you followed? 3. World-Class Beliefs/Mentors 1. Mentors make you aware of things you never thought of. 2. In the past 12 months. Have you outgrown your mentors? 2. Do you have mentors who are experts in the specific areas of your life where you wish to excel? 3. Are you using the full potential of your mentor relationships? 2. What belief would you have to let go of in order to use your mentors more successfully? . 2.

Final Thought Coaching around mentors is a linear process. Another obstacle is the performer’s lack of clarity that makes it difficult to select appropriate mentors. as long as the performer has a crystal clear vision of what he wants for his life.475 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The most common obstacles you’ll encounter with performers who don’t use mentors is the belief that it won’t make significant difference in their lives. Your job is to help the performer decide what he wants. Make sure his vision is in place before taking the next step towards mentor team construction. COACHING NOTES . and build a mentor team of experts to help him get it.

Is there a relationship between what someone believes and the actions they take? 2.476 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand the critical role congruency plays in world-class success. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. actions and behaviors as they relate to making his vision a reality. Getting Started Talk about the performer’s habits. What percentage of the population’s behavior is congruent with what they profess to want? . How do a person’s philosophies impact his level of success? 3.

3. actions and behaviors congruent with the size and scope of your vision? 2. Being congruent is simple but not easy.477 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Congruency 1. Shocking Questions 1. Does your current level of congruency make you more of a visionary or a daydreamer? 2. 2. Is it impossible to be congruent or just impossible for you? 3. 2. How often do allow thoughts of self-delusion to creep into your self-evaluation? 3. At what percentage of your behavioral capacity have you been performing at in the last 90 days? . 3. Is your vision clear enough to know what actions to be congruent with? Sensitive Questions 1. Congruency must be monitored every day. Doing the best you can is enough to succeed. World-Class Beliefs/Congruency 1. Are your habits. It’s impossible to be congruent. Being congruent is easy. Congruency is impossible without clarity.

Once the performer’s vision is crystal clear. Keep pounding away at this week after week and let the performer’s actions be the ultimate litmus test of his congruency.478 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Congruency should be an ongoing discussion in all of your coaching sessions. COACHING NOTES . his daily habits. He’s either congruent or not. Final Thought Coaching around congruency is serious business. It’s this in your face objectivity that makes this tool so powerful. actions and behaviors determine his congruency. Your job is to build a congruency consciousness in all of your performers until they become their own best success monitoring guide. There’s no room for subjective analysis.

and that seeking fulfillment before success is one of the little known strategies of the world class. What is your formal definition of fulfillment? 3. fulfillment and happiness are related? . Getting Started Ask the performer about what success and fulfillment mean to her and the difference between the two. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. fulfillment and happiness. Do you believe success.479 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To make sure the performer understands the difference between success. What is your formal definition of success? 2.

World-Class Beliefs/Fulfillment 1. Shocking Questions 1. Fulfillment comes from success. Fulfillment and happiness are one and the same. On a scale of 1-7. 2. how would you rate yourself? 2. that if you had to you would do it for free? If not. Success. Which are you chasing harder: success or fulfillment? What are the immediate and long term consequences or your focus? 3. If you felt more fulfilled at work would you be more successful? 2. how much do you love your career? 3. logical goal. is that lack of love limiting you as a performer? Sensitive Questions 1. Success is usually a linear. 7 being most fulfilled. 2. Fulfillment is unrelated to success. 7 being totally in-love. On scale of 1-7. 3.480 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Fulfillment 1. Do you love what you do so much. What percentage of your feelings of fulfillment come from your professional life? . fulfillment and happiness are related but can exist on their own. 3. Fulfillment and happiness are emotions that can occur naturally or be artificially manufactured in the mind.

the less mental energy she will waste on thoughts that fail to move her closer to her ultimate vision. fulfillment and happiness she’ll be able devote time to each one individually and prioritize them in accordance with her belief system. COACHING NOTES . Final Thought Coaching around this concept is another exercise in creating mental clarity.481 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Once the performer is able to make a clear distinction between success. The more clarity you help the performer create.

482 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer understand the benefit to creating space between his thoughts for optimal thinking. Getting Started Ask the performer what he thinks about this concept and what steps. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What do you believe are the most effective tools for reversing cognitive overload? . Do you believe clarity and depth of thought are compromised when excessive cognition occurs? 2. he has taken to escape cognitive overload. Do you believe the brain has a limited capacity for thought? 3. if any.

Cognitive overload has no adverse affects on thinking and decision making. 2. 3. Are you using psychological rest and recovery as a reward or a performance strategy? 2. What mental recovery strategies have you used in the past and how did they work for you? . 3. If you built more mental rest and recovery into your daily schedule would you be more successful? 3. 2. Shocking Questions 1. I don’t have time to escape excessive cognition.483 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Excessive Cognition 1. Psychological rest is a catalyst for creativity. Escaping excessive cognition will boost your physical energy and mental energy. World-Class Beliefs/Excessive Cognition 1. You can overcome excessive cognition if you’re mentally tough enough. Psychological rest and recovery are as important as physical rest and recovery.

cognitive and physical overload? Coaching the Upgrade The biggest obstacle most coaches face in this area is the belief that this is an excuse for laziness. How do you make the distinction between emotional. COACHING NOTES . In the age of the mind. If you’re coaching the latter. If you’re coaching the former. more intelligent strategy creates exponential results.484 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Sensitive Questions 1. or is it a legitimate performance strategy? 2. Final Thought Coaching around escaping excessive cognition for high performers can be challenging due to an old middle-class belief that says working harder is the only way to get ahead. The second biggest obstacle is coaching people who are lazy and not intellectually overloaded and need to be more engaged. eliminate this strategy for now. work on upgrading this limiting belief. Is it possible you are underestimating the magnitude of impact escaping excessive cognition can have on your ability to think? 3. and linear strategy kept you alive. Do you believe mental recovery is an excuse for goofing off. This worn out belief was passed down from generations where physical labor ruled the day.

If keeping your word in business is so important why don’t most people do it? 2. What makes follow up so critical to success? 3. How does someone go about improving their follow up skills? .485 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To remind the performer of the critical nature of honoring you promises. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Getting Started Talk with the performer about her follow up habits and get a feel for how she sees this component of world-class success.

Keeping your word is the best marketing strategy you can employ. 3. Follow up is only important when the prospect wants to buy. 3. Shocking Questions 1. 2. Who is the best follow up person you know and what makes him or her so good? Sensitive Questions 1. World-Class Beliefs/Follow Up 1. Are your follow up skills moving you closer to your vision. Following up is common sense and doesn’t need to be focused on. If you had better follow up skills would you be more successful? 3. or do they need to be improved? . Follow up is only critical on the big deals. How often do you keep your word about the little details in your personal and professional life? 3. Follow up tells your customers how you think about service. What habit would you have to change in order to build world-class follow up skills? 2. Follow up tells the prospect more about you than anything you say. 2. Are your follow-up skills more middle or world class? 2.486 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Follow Up 1.

What you should be coaching around is how following up on the little details of seemingly unimportant deals or events affects her habits in this area. Following up on the big things is easy to coach. COACHING NOTES . most people are lousy at following up. This should be an ongoing conversation to make sure the performer is constantly evaluating her habits in this area. no matter how simple. The fact is. Final Thought Never allow the performer to get lazy or complacent when it comes to follow up skills and keeping her word.487 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The typical challenge with coaching around follow up and keeping your word is the performer’s dismissal of the concept due to its simplicity.

How often do leaders do what’s right in business? 2. Getting Started Have a conversation about how this simple philosophy relates to his life both personally and professionally. How often do political leaders do what’s right? 3. . Why don’t people do what’s right more often? Middle-Class Beliefs/Doing What’s Right 1. Gather the information and then do what’s right. You can’t always afford to do what’s right. 3. You can only do what’s right when it’s not going to hurt anyone. 2. Successful people rarely do what’s right unless it benefits them.488 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To remind the performer of something he learned as a child. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. but doesn’t always follow as an adult.

Doing what’s right helps develop extraordinary relationships. 7 being every time. Doing what’s right feels right. what are they afraid of? 2. Doing what’s right is the best strategy you can employ for success.489 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS World-Class Beliefs/Doing What’s Right 1. Is your habit of doing what’s right congruent with your value system? 3. how often do you do what’s right? Sensitive Questions 1. 3. How does doing what’s right affect your self-esteem? 3. When people elect not to do the right thing. On a scale of 1-7. Shocking Questions 1. Are you satisfied with how often you choose to do what’s right? . 2. What percentage of the time do you do what’s right in business? 2.

Persuade him to build this idea into his everyday decision making until it becomes a habit. Final Thought Coaching someone to build the habit of doing what’s right creates the opportunity to increase not only his professional success. COACHING NOTES . but his peace of mind and personal happiness.490 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade This is another simple but powerful concept that should be discussed on a regular basis if the performer wants to become world-class.

Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What impact does thinking big have in most people’s lives? 3. or is it possible to think big in your personal life? . Is thinking big limited to business life. What does thinking big mean to you? 2.491 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer that world-class results stem from big thinking. and that thinking big is a habit that can be nurtured and developed. Getting Started Spend some time discussing the impact of thinking big and the excitement it offers.

Thinking big is pie in the sky. 2. 2. If you thought bigger would you be getting bigger results? 3. 3. 7 being biggest. World-Class Beliefs/Thinking Big 1. 3. Do you consider yourself a big thinker? If so. How can you use big thinking in your personal life? Sensitive Questions 1. compared to whom? 2. Thinking big is a habit anyone can develop. Thinking big isn’t part of the real world. Thinking big always precedes world-class results. Thinking big is for rich people. Shocking Questions 1. how would your three closest friends rate your level of thinking? 2. What beliefs would you have to build in order to double the size of your thinking? .492 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Thinking Big 1. Thinking big means transcending the fear of failure. On a scale of 1-7. What results do you have to show for your big thinking? 3.

COACHING NOTES . Many people’s big thinking means living a middle-class existence and being comfortable. Final Thought Coaching the art of thinking big means coaching around the performer’s expectations and what he believes in possible. The goldfish never outgrows the bowl. and people rarely succeed beyond their own expectations.493 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Remember that thinking big is a relative concept. Your job is to help the performer recognize that the size of his thinking determines the level of success he will achieve.

habits and philosophies become ours? . If the people we associate with is so critical to our success. Getting Started Ask the performer about how her associations have affected her life. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. why do most of us select people at our same level of success? 3. Do you believe consciousness is contagious? 2. How do other peoples beliefs.494 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To remind the performer we become like the people we hang around.

2. World-Class Beliefs/Building Cocoons 1. Purposely avoiding people because of their middle-class consciousness is snobby and uncaring. Cocooning is easy. Do most of the people you associate with think like you? 2. Are the people you associate with most expanding your thinking? Sensitive Questions 1. 3. What steps would you have to take immediately in order to build a worldclass cocoon in the next 90 days? . Do the people you associate with the most have about the same net worth as you? 3. What belief would you have to let go of in order to utilize the cocooning concept more often? 3. 2. Shocking Questions 1. Associating with people to elevate your thinking is cold and calculated. If you isolated yourself from middle-class thinkers more often would you be more successful? 2. Cocooning your consciousness is only for great athletes and millionaires. Cocooning is the fastest way to elevate your thinking. 3. Cocooning is one of the most intelligent strategies you can employ.495 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Building Cocoons 1.

or any less of a human being than a world-class thinker. thinking has levels of expertise. COACHING NOTES . Final Thought Just like smoking.496 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The biggest hurdle you’ll encounter when coaching around cocooning is the belief that you have to give up spending time with family and friends because they’re not world-class thinkers. Let the performer know up front that cocooning means being more conscious of the time you’re spending with these people and the impact it’s having on your thinking. Coach them to associate with people at the highest levels and imitate their level. Remember to coach around the idea that just because people are middle-class thinkers doesn’t make them middle-class people. exposure to middle-class thinking must be moderated for those aspiring to world-class results. Middle-class thinking is habit of thought that leads to mediocrity. but you probably wouldn’t cut them out of your life. Just like golf or any other skill. eating junk food or any other vice. If you were an alcoholic you would certainly attempt to spend less time with people who get drunk all the time. drinking. No more than a lousy golfer makes someone a lousy person. and it’s easy to fall back into it if you are overexposed to its addictive philosophy.

What effect does apologizing to people for your mistakes have on their thinking? . What impact does taking the blame for mistakes have on other people? 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What’s the main difference between ego and spirit based thinking? 3.497 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To reinforce the concept of taking full responsibility for everything that happens in our lives. Getting Started Talk to the performer about her beliefs around taking responsibility. spirit-based thinking. repentance and ego vs. and to repent for the mistakes we’ve made in the past.

If you built the habit of apologizing when you’re wrong would it make you more successful? 2. 3. What percentage of the time are you in a spirit based consciousness as opposed to an ego-based consciousness? . Do you have any thoughts of victim mentality in any area of your life that you’re still hanging on to? Sensitive Questions 1. Repenting robs me of my victim status. 2. 3. 2. When was the last time you apologized to someone for your behavior? 3. Shocking Questions 1. World-Class Beliefs/Repentance 1. To repent is weak. Repenting makes me look stupid. Repenting highlights my emotional maturity. Repenting is a sign of strength and self-assurance. If you built the habit of apologizing when you are wrong would it make you happier? 3. Do you believe it’s possible to take full responsibility for everything that happens in your life? What are the advantages of adopting this philosophy? 2.498 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Repentance 1. Repenting frees up the mental energy I would waste on thinking about the situation I’m repenting for.

ego-driven society takes real skill.499 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Remember the foundation of repentance is a spirit based consciousness and the belief of full responsibility. repentance will take care of itself. If you coach around those ideas. Final Thought Coaching repentance in a competitive. The key is to guide the performer to a higher level of thought and teach him how to tap his spirit. COACHING NOTES .

Is it possible to upgrade adolescent fears and emotions to adult thinking? . Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. and rejection. Be sure to give real world examples of adults operating under adolescent fears such as the fear of crowds.500 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer to dissect his fears and emotions and categorize them as adolescent or adult. public speaking. Have you carried any of your adolescent fears or emotions into your adult life? 2. Getting Started Have a discussion about the difference in thinking between children and adults. Why don’t some fears and emotions ever evolve past adolescence? 3.

If you made your emotional evolution a part of your daily personal development would it help you manifest your vision? 2. Growing up emotionally can’t be forced. 3. Growing up emotionally allows you to see the world more objectively. World-Class Beliefs/Growing Up 1. Growing up emotionally is a decision. Would evolving emotionally make you happier? 3. how emotionally grown up are you? . Can you think of an example of a time you forced yourself to grow up emotionally? Did it help or hurt you? Sensitive Questions 1. Does the concept of growing up emotionally offend you? If so. 7 being most evolved. All adolescent fears and emotions automatically dissolve when we become adults. Growing up emotionally begins with awareness. Shocking Questions 1. 3. On a scale of 1-7.501 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Growing Up 1. Are their areas in your life where you need to evolve emotionally? 2. Growing up emotionally happens with age. 2. what do you believe that says about your thinking? 3. 2.

502 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The challenge in coaching around growing up emotionally is the belief that says since I’m physically grown up. Every emotion has a season. Your job is to help them see the areas that never evolved past adolescence and help them make the adjustment. Final Thought Coaching someone to grow up emotionally means getting them to take a microscope to their fears and emotions. The fact is many people are afraid of the same things at age sixtyfive that they were at five. and the secret is to keep the emotions of our childhood back where they belong. and then helping them realize that while this philosophy may have helped them as a child. COACHING NOTES . it’s time to let it go. I must be emotionally grown up.

Why do the masses discriminate against people from diverse background and beliefs? . Getting Started Have a conversation about the power of looking at the same problem from a completely different point of view. Do you believe diversity could be a strategic advantage in business? 2.503 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer see diversity as a strategic advantage since people from different backgrounds and beliefs have their own unique way of making sense of the world. Why do you believe diversity has been overlooked by the masses as a strategic advantage? 3. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.

3. What action steps could you take immediately to begin using diversity as a competitive advantage? 3. 3. What would you have to let go of in order to embrace diversity? 2. 2. 2. What seemingly complex problem you’re struggling with could you use as a test to the power of tapping into the mind of someone from a different background or belief system? . Embracing diversity is about doing the right thing. Embracing diversity is about intelligent business strategy. Embracing diversity is about political correctness. Shocking Questions 1. If you were to embrace diversity at a higher level would you be more successful? 2. What beliefs would you have to upgrade in order to embrace diversity at a higher level? Sensitive Questions 1. World-Class Beliefs/Diversity 1. Embracing diversity is about tapping the potential of people from different backgrounds and experiences. Could diversity be the competitive advantage you’ve been looking for? 3.504 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Diversity 1. Embracing diversity is an exercise in strategic thinking. Embracing diversity is an exercise in tolerance.

COACHING NOTES . The real benefit is the strategic advantage diversity offers. Final Thought The essence of coaching around embracing diversity is the problem solving potential represented when different people approach the same problem and view it through a different set of psychological filters.505 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The most common obstacle you’ll face coaching around diversity is the belief that embracing it is politically correct.

How does language affect a person’s behavior? 2. Getting Started Ask the performer what level of thinking his everyday language most reflects: middle or world class? Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Does language have the power to program or reprogram your belief system? . How does language affect a person’s results? 3.506 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer that the way they use the language forms the foundation of their belief system.

You can’t determine how someone thinks just by listening to how they use the language. 2. why not? 2. Different uses of language are just semantics. Shocking Questions 1. What is your current level of self-talk? 2. World-Class Beliefs/World-Class Language 1. World-class self-talk leads to world-class beliefs. Do you believe it’s possible to upgrade your language to world class in the next 90 days? If so. 3. The way you use the language has nothing to do with your results. What level of language have you had the most exposure to? Sensitive Questions 1.507 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/World-Class Language 1. 3. What we say to ourselves shapes our belief system. What belief or beliefs would you have to let go of in order to upgrade your level of language to world class ? . How is your level of language affecting your current behaviors? 3. how? If not. Exposure to language creates our beliefs. How would you categorize your self-talk over the course of your life? 3. 2.

Be patient and persistent. all you have to do is teach them the language of the world class and help them implant it into their daily life until it becomes a habit. Once they identify their level.508 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Remember the first step in this process is helping the performer become more acutely aware of their level of self-talk and use of language in every day conversation. Final Thought Coaching the use of language has the power to change a person’s entire belief structure over time. Always remember that odds are you are the one person in her life who will coach her in this area. COACHING NOTES . which has the power to make or break her vision.

Why do you believe most people focus on the effect rather then the cause? 3. Getting Started Ask the performer to make the distinction between cause and effect and how he knows the difference. Do you believe fixing the cause solves the problem? . What’s the advantage of identifying the cause of a problem? 2.509 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To train the performer to focus on the cause rather than the effect. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.

Shocking Questions 1. What role has your philosophy on cause and effect played in your success. World-Class Beliefs/Cause and Effect 1. If you were being tried in a court of law for focusing on causes in problem solving would there be enough evidence to convict you? 2. 2. fulfillment and happiness? 2. 3. What percentage of the time do you attempt to solve the cause rather than the effect? 3.510 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Cause and Effect 1. Identifying the cause and solving it requires critical thinking. Cause and effect are the same thing. What are you doing on a daily basis to upgrade your level of thinking? . Thinking is a cause and behavior is an effect. 3. Fixing the effect and hoping for the best is positive thinking. What could you do in the next 90 days to increase your level of awareness as it relates to cause and effect? 3. 2. What middle-class belief drives the masses to focus on effects rather than causes? Sensitive Questions 1. It’s easier to fix the effect than the cause. The difference between cause and effect is semantics.

Final Thought Increasing a performer’s awareness around cause and effect is one of the easiest ways to move him toward his vision. COACHING NOTES . This should be a part of every coaching session.511 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Continue to remind the performer of cause and effect and you’ll see how fast this mental toughness secret works.

Getting Started Ask the performer if she has ever tapped into a higher source of thought through meditation. Do you believe most people tap into infinite intelligence out of love or fear? 3.512 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer tap into a higher frequency of thinking within the parameters of her belief system. Why are most people afraid to talk about their spiritual beliefs? . prayer. solitude or any other catalyst. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Do you believe in a higher level of intelligence? 2.

The universe is conspiring to help you get exactly what you want. Would you be more successful if you were able to tap into higher levels of your own thinking a daily basis? . Is it possible you’re beliefs in this area are holding you back? 2. 3. You have to be able to meditate to tap into infinite intelligence. 2. 3. abundance and gratitude are examples of higher frequency thinking. Tapping your source of higher thinking means changing the vibrational frequency of your thoughts to the same frequency as the source. Is it possible your beliefs in this area are making your success tougher to achieve? 3.513 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Infinite Intelligence 1. Answers from a higher source of thinking are waiting for your discovery. Shocking Questions 1. You have to be religious to call on infinite intelligence. You have to be spiritual to tap into higher levels of thinking. Thoughts of love. 2. World-Class Beliefs/Infinite Intelligence 1.

regardless of their religious or spiritual beliefs. COACHING NOTES . Remember that this is not a religious or spiritual strategy. Get around this by focusing on tapping into the source instead of where the source originates. it’s a thinking strategy. Final Thought Coaching around infinite intelligence as a tool for problem solving is a classic non-linear performance strategy that can be used by anyone.514 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The biggest challenge in coaching around this idea is the emotional baggage many people carry about their religious beliefs.

Can additional energy be created through thinking? 3.515 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer differentiate between thoughts that create energy and thoughts that consume it. Getting Started Have a discussion around the impact of thoughts on energy and get the performer to start thinking about whether his dominant thoughts are helping or hurting him. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Why don’t most people think thoughts that create energy? . Do you believe your thoughts have an impact on your energy levels? 2.

Energy is unrelated to attitude. 2. 3. What thoughts will you have to decrease or completely eliminate in order to create more energy? . Positive thinking creates energy. Thoughts of optimism create energy. 3. How can you begin using this idea in the next 10 days? 3. What percentage of your thoughts create energy? 2. 2. Fear-based thoughts consume energy. Shocking Questions 1. Energy is consumed through physical work. If you had more energy would you be more successful? 3. Could elevating your awareness of how your thinking is affecting your energy become a strategic advantage for you? 2. not thought. Energy cannot be created through thought. How often do you monitor your thinking for energy-creating or energy consuming thoughts? Sensitive Questions 1.516 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Energy 1. World-Class Beliefs/Energy 1.

With increased energy comes new ideas. Your job is to make this an ongoing part of your coaching sessions until the strategy becomes a habit. Belief change or upgrade in this area can happen very quickly as the performer experiences more energy with each new thought of hope and optimism. COACHING NOTES . Final Thought Coaching a performer on how to create energy with his mind could be the strategic advantage that moves him into the world class.517 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Coaching around how thoughts affect energy is mostly a matter of awareness. a greater sense of well being. and more action towards the vision.

why don’t they teach it in school? 3. Is non-linear thinking a skill you develop or something you’re born with? . Getting Started Get a feel for the performer’s beliefs around nonlinear thinking and ask her for examples of how she’s used it in her own life. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. What is the central difference between linear and nonlinear thinking? 2.518 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer to embrace nonlinear thinking when attempting to solve complex problems. If nonlinear thinking is so powerful.

519 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Nonlinear Thinking 1. World-Class Beliefs/Nonlinear Thinking 1. Linear and nonlinear thinking are the same thing. would it reduce the level of stress you feel on a daily basis? Sensitive Questions 1. If you implemented nonlinear thinking more aggressively. 2. Is it possible you haven’t fully tapped your nonlinear thinking capabilities? If so. If a problem can’t be solved nonlinear thinking won’t make any difference. How advanced are your nonlinear thinking skills? 2. 2. What would you have to let go of in order to become a better nonlinear thinker? 3. Nonlinear thinking can solve almost any problem. Nonlinear thinking helps people build vast reserves of wealth. Shocking Questions 1. 3. Could the biggest challenge you’re currently facing be eliminated through a nonlinear strategy? 2. I don’t have time for nonlinear thinking. what is the potential impact on your vision? . what steps can you take to change this? 3. 3. If you train yourself to become a better nonlinear thinker. Nonlinear thinking allows you to earn more and work less.

COACHING NOTES . It makes almost any problem solvable and any dream possible. Final Thought Coaching nonlinear thinking is like handing over the keys to the castle.520 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade Keep in mind that nonlinear thinking is like a building a muscle: The more you exercise it the stronger it gets. Continue pushing in this area and you’ll begin to see quantum leaps of success in your students.

Do you believe your ability to think is your greatest asset? 2. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Is it possible to become a better thinker. Why is thinking the highest paid work? 3. or is it something you’re born with? . and how he’s using his mind to get what he wants. Getting Started Talk to the performer about the evolution of success from physical labor to creative problem solving.521 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer realize that his greatest asset in business and life is creative thought.

Shocking Questions 1. If you were a better thinker. Could more creative thought make your life easier? 3. What new beliefs would you have to adopt in order to invest more time in creative thought? . Creative problem solving is the hardest work of all. How much time do you spend in solitude thinking? Sensitive Questions 1. World-Class Beliefs/Getting Paid To Think 1. Is it possible your biggest source of stress could be eliminated through better thinking? 2. 3. What are three things you could implement immediately to become a better thinker? 3. Solving problems creates wealth. Thinking isn’t real work. 3. Great thinkers are society’s most valuable citizens. No one really gets paid to think. Getting paid to think is unfair to people who have to work for a living. 2. would you be making more money? 2. 2.522 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Getting Paid to Think 1.

COACHING NOTES . and the more he uses it the stronger it gets. Your job is to persuade the performer that his mind is a billion dollar computer just waiting to be tapped. so be aware of this as you’re coaching it. one day it could be the only muscle he needs to earn a substantial living.523 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The concept of getting paid to think violates most middle-class beliefs about work. Final Thought Keep in mind what’s at stake for the performer as you’re coaching around the power of thinking. If you can convince him to build his mental muscle.

524 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To help the performer realize that only a series of subtleties separate the world class from the middle-class. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1. Are more world-class performers born or made? 3. Getting Started Start a dialogue with the performer about what small changes she would have to make in order to become a world-class performer. how come more people don’t become great performers? . Is the idea that only a series of subtleties separate the good from the great just a positive thinking platitude? 2. If the middle class and world class are only separated by a razor’s edge.

World-class thinking is built one day at a time. World-class performers are made. 2.525 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/Razor’s Edge 1. how long would it take you to be ranked among the top five percent? . The difference between a life of mediocrity and a life of achievement lives in the details of a hundred different areas. In what areas of your performance are you a razors edge away from world-class skill? 2. Most world-class performers are born with world-class talent. 2. How can you close the gap between where you are and where you want to go? 3. Shocking Questions 1. 3. Great performers are smarter. not born. 3. If you focused on the subtle differences between your skills and the skills of the best performers in your industry. World-Class Beliefs/Razor’s Edge 1. It takes more than subtle changes to be great. more educated and luckier than average performers.

COACHING NOTES . and the payoff for the performer will be life changing. In what areas do you need to improve on in order to join the ranks of the world class? Coaching the Upgrade This is about coaching around the belief that world-class success is closer than most of us think. What are three things that the best performers in your industry do that you don’t do? 3.526 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Sensitive Questions 1. What beliefs would you have to abandon or upgrade in order to adopt this razors edge philosophy? 2. Help the performer identify the areas that need improvement and you will reduce the intimidation they feel when comparing themselves to the best in the world. Just remember that any belief can be altered or upgraded over time. Final Thought Coaching around beliefs is a process that requires patience and takes time.

why does only five percent of the population take advantage of it? . If self-education and personal development are so powerful. both formal and self-education. Questions To Uncover Beliefs 1.527 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Objective To persuade the performer that continuing education. Do you believe in learning more from your own experience or the experience of others? 2. is one of the key factors in the extraordinary success of the world class. Getting Started Talk to the performer about the role self-education plays on the street and in the real world. What forms of self education do you believe in and what forms do you feel are a waste of time? 3.

If the average person reads one business book per year what would happen if you read ten books per year? 3. Shocking Questions 1.528 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Middle-Class Beliefs/School’s Never Out 1. 2. Formal education is the only way to succeed. 3. If you were involved in self education would you feel happier? 2. 2. 3. Personal development and self help is for naïve. uneducated people. World-Class Beliefs/School’s Never Out 1. When you stop learning you stop growing. Personal development is for everyone. If you invested more time educating yourself on a daily basis would you be more successful? 2. The more degrees you have the more money you’ll make. Why does 95% percent of the population ignore the power of personal development? Sensitive Questions 1. If you had to prove to a jury you believed in personal development what evidence could you present? 3. What beliefs would you have to let go of in order to increase the intensity of your personal development program? . Learning and growing is the key to success.

If you’ll reinforce this at every coaching session until the performer begins to take action. Final Thought Coaching around ongoing formal and self education has the power to give someone control over their level of success. Once the performer learns to coach himself. Keep coaching around taking responsibility and working as hard on yourself as you do on your business. COACHING NOTES .529 COACHING 177 M E N TA L T O U G H N E S S S E C R E T S OF THE WORLD CLASS Coaching the Upgrade The premise behind this concept is simple: If you build a better machine. you’ll eventually fulfill your coaching obligation by eliminating the performer’s need for your help. you will get better results. you can move on to someone new and start over again.

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