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The Phobia Self-Help Book
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Table of Contents
Click on any item in the table of contents to go instantly to that page Introduction ...........................................................................................................1 About This Book....................................................................................................4 What Is A Phobia? ................................................................................................6 Types of Phobias ..................................................................................................7 The Reticular Activating System and the Amygdala .............................................8 How Phobias Work In the Mind...........................................................................10 Stimulus/Response .........................................................................................10 The Subconscious Mind ..................................................................................10 Are We Consciously Aware Of Our Thoughts? ...............................................11 Subconscious, Automatic Thoughts ................................................................12 Who's the Boss? .............................................................................................12 Phobias Are Run By the Subconscious Mind ..................................................12 The Languages of the Subconscious..................................................................14 The Secret Code .............................................................................................14 Emotions & Imagination ..................................................................................14 What Works.....................................................................................................14 Fears Are Learned and Unlearned......................................................................16 One Trial Learning...........................................................................................16 How Does My Brain Know When It's Time to Have a Phobia? ...........................17 Reprocessing Initializing Events......................................................................17 How Phobias Work .............................................................................................18 The Same Treatment for Different Phobias? ......................................................19 Frequently Asked Questions ...............................................................................20 Case Histories.....................................................................................................31 Kristine ............................................................................................................31 Social Phobia, Agoraphobia, Fear of Doctors Hospitals, Death and Being Alone ...............................................................................................................33 Gerry - Fear of Public Speaking ......................................................................47 Tom .................................................................................................................48 Bill ...................................................................................................................49 Rachel .............................................................................................................50 Testimonials........................................................................................................54 NLP Techniques for Phobias ..............................................................................57 Overview: How to Use the NLP Phobia Cure Techniques...............................57 Fast Phobia Cure ............................................................................................58 Affect Bridge (Finding Root Causes) ...............................................................59 The Visual "Swish" Pattern..............................................................................60 Auditory "Swish" Pattern .................................................................................62 Anchoring ........................................................................................................64 Collapsing Anchors .........................................................................................65 Future Pacing (New Behavior Generator) .......................................................67
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...............................78 Emotional Freedom Technique (E.........84 My Recommendations ...83 Mental Suggestion..............................76 Hypnosis .............96 Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC...................................................................................83 Expectancy.................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................85 Confessions of a Social Anxiety Sufferer .......................................................................................................................................................................77 EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) ......................................................................................T..........70 Drugs......68 Cognitive-Behavioral Therapies ........................................................................................91 Conclusion ...68 Psychoanalysis......................79 Loren Parks .................Phobia Treatments..F............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................69 Virtual Reality ...83 Pattern Interrupt .................................................................................................................................................................87 A Phobia Sufferer Reveals Her Secrets...........Tapping) . All Rights Reserved ........................................84 Imagination vs....................... .............................................................. Conscious Understanding .....82 Factors for Successful Therapy ........................................................................................................................................................................................................................80 Palm Therapy .........................................71 NLP ...........83 Startle......
" Over the years I've come in contact with a LOT of phobics. I decided to focus my practice on phobias and helping people overcome them. Some patterns began to emerge. you can't believe everything somebody tells you! But I began to test it in real life. After all. I offered an unconditional money-back guarantee . The recommendations often include drug treatment in conjunction with therapy (I'm not totally opposed to this approach in certain cases. as a last resort). There is not any method for Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. Information about the effectiveness of phobia treatments was (and still is) difficult to come by. why didn't you see the NLP techniques in the psychology textbooks? I decided it must not be true. The standard party-line is that it takes weeks and weeks (if not years) of therapy to produce results. pg. I began to wonder.lose the phobia or don't pay. years earlier. Some of the Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) proponents were making some outrageous claims about phobias and how quickly they could be cured. my mind began to shift as I saw many examples of the NLP techniques being effective in a very short amount of time. However. I had taken some training in what is called NeuroLinguistic Programming. there are a tremendous number of people suffering from phobias around the world. I'm Keith Livingston and I work with phobias on a daily basis. You see. one source estimates that 12% of the world population will suffer from some fear-based disorder in the course of their lives That's close to a billion people! Many of these people are confused about what's happening to them and don't know where to turn or what treatments can help. First of all. It seems there are several quick and effective ways to treat phobias. All Rights Reserved. when I first got into this business I started looking around for information. Once again. It's my habit to talk to them about what worked and what didn't. I decided to write this book for a number of reasons. Try getting a doctor or psychiatrist to do that! Eventually. I started reading my wife's books (she's a Licensed Mental Health Counselor) about phobia treatment and they sounded pretty convinced about what treatment should be. my mind began to change. 1 . It seems that drugs do not cure phobias (since confirmed by several prestigious government organizations).Introduction Hello and welcome to The Phobia Self-Help Book. In fact. I became a crusader for NLP techniques and scoffed at any other treatment methods! Whenever I heard about some other form of treatment that might work I stuck my nose up in the air and proclaimed "nothing could be better or more effective than NLP. If it were true.
But there's no way that I personally could speak with enough people to make a significant difference in the millions who suffer. fears. through the multiplication of effort we could reach more people. Another idea kept popping up in my mind. pg. That way. You know. I worked hard and ended up with a book with lots of advice and plenty of tips to help you decide what to do. I wanted to warn people about some of the problems that can be encountered with traditional phobia treatments and how to avoid them. Wouldn't it be more empowering for people to be able to help themselves rather than to depend on a therapist or drug to "fix" them? A format where people could learn and help themselves .ANY condition that works for every person. many clients. Thus. There are stories of people who have overcome phobias and gone on to lead happier. What about helping folks to overcome their phobias? I began studying the most advanced and effective phobia treatments.but people keep on pushing them. This is a practical book. giving some advice on what methods work and what methods don't. more relaxed lives with a greater feeling of selfconfidence having overcome their fears..and what to avoid like the plague. I found methods that worked and have utilized them on many.. Good quality information is just the beginning however. My first thought was that I'd train therapists in the techniques I use.. I have taught these techniques to many via phone and have used that experience to make them as straight-forward and simple to follow as possible.. All Rights Reserved. "How do I reach the most people?" I began working by phone to reach a greater audience. It can help you to decide where to turn . The question became. techniques that people could use comfortably in their homes. 2 . of course. The techniques section contains step-by-step instructions for procedures that countless people have used to overcome their phobias. And there are many methods out there that rarely work . Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. But even if I train hundreds of therapists and they see dozens of clients it still barely makes a dent.com/phobia_training_programs. Another hard fact is that many people could not afford my personal session fee.phobiascured.htm). This is a book of hope. the techniques section of my book was born. (If you'd like more information on becoming trained in these techniques go to http://www. My book began to expand. panic and anxiety. The book contains information about phobias.and feel that much more in control of their lives. So I decided to write a book explaining phobias. Something that wouldn't cost them an arm and a leg.
pg. Some of the methods are easy enough to do yourself and they're quite safe. You can have access to the techniques I've taught to doctors. Sincerely. All Rights Reserved. counselors. I've shown you where to go to get information . panic and phobias.sometimes for free.PhobiasCured. Keith Livingston President: Advancing Ideas LLC http://www. salespeople. It’s my wish that you find this book useful and through the knowledge contained herein move forward into a more relaxed and satisfying life.com/ Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. 3 . It's my desire to increase the knowledge and power available to those suffering from anxiety. help you make a decision about where to turn and to read case histories to give you a sense of hope. stay at home moms.I've also included information about other techniques that have been found effective. executives hundreds of people just like you. real estate agents. You can use The Phobia Self-Help Book to discover more about phobias.
Finding Root Causes is actually quite simple when you know how.About This Book Here's what's in the book. Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy 3. Drug Therapy 5. people who react like we want to react.. NLP 6. EMDR 8. The fast phobia cure comes from NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming). 1. 4 . The Visual Swish helps get rid of disturbing images. Finding and resolving these root causes of phobias can reduce or eliminate a phobia. Collapsing Anchors allows us to put good feelings into situations that have felt bad in the past. Psychotherapy 2. • • • • • • • • Definitions of phobias The types of phobias How phobias work in the nervous system How phobias work in the mind Learn which therapies have produced results. pg. you get the following techniques. an extremely effective and fast form of cognitive-behavioral therapy. Get facts and opinions about treatment methods including. Use this simple technique to discover the root cause of your phobia. Hypnotherapy 7. EFT Frequently Asked Questions from email I receive Case histories from my files Some information about what I do to help people with phobias In addition.. Virtual Reality Therapy 4. Future Pacing Allows us to use role models. Many people don't know what experience "initialized" or caused their phobia. The Fast Phobia Cure is a technique for dealing with memories of past phobic experiences and imagined future situations... Often used in treating fear of public speaking (and other phobias). All Rights Reserved. as guides for our subconscious minds.. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC.. The Auditory Swish decreases or eliminates discomfort from our internal dialog or other sounds.
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dizziness." Some mental health professionals would add that a phobia is a fear that interferes in a person's life. If you experience some or all of these symptoms and the avoidance of the anxiety-producing situation is causing problems in your life you may have a phobia. excessive sweating. Some estimate that twelve percent of the population will experience a phobia at some point in their lives. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. 6 . So. if you have a fear of flying and it causes you to cancel trips or plan around your fear it would be considered a problem. All Rights Reserved. especially one that cannot be reasonably explained. abnormal. Various sufferers experience various combinations of these symptoms (and other symptoms). pg." Dictionary. "A persistent.What Is A Phobia? According to the Cambridge International Dictionary of English.com defines a phobia as. a phobias is "extreme fear of a particular thing or situation. redness in the face. heart palpitations. or irrational fear of a specific thing or situation that compels one to avoid the feared stimulus. nausea and an inability to speak or think clearly. Common symptoms include shortness of breath.
The insight by most phobics that their fears are not justified doesn't necessarily help. Some people who suffer from panic disorder go on to develop agoraphobia. The person having a panic attack may fear they are going to die or lose control.as well as panic disorder. There are no proven drug treatments for simple phobias. People with panic disorder can not predict when they will suddenly be struck by panic. People with social phobia often tell me that they are afraid of being the center of attention or "in the spotlight. and agoraphobia (with and without panic attacks) .simple phobia. This is why insight oriented therapy is not effective in the treatment of phobias. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. or speaking clearly when in a social situation. pg. Social Phobias Social phobics are often afraid of being judged. Panic disorder is diagnosed when patients experience repeated episodes of such panic attacks. Panic Disorder People suffering form panic disorder are subject to episodes of panic that are unexpected and seemingly without cause. social phobia. A fear of blushing often accompanies social phobia. All Rights Reserved.Types of Phobias There are three types of phobia . it is more frightening to speak in front of a group of Nobel prize winners than a kindergarten class." Agoraphobia is often thought of as fear of fear itself or fear of having a panic attack. 7 . In simple English. Simple Phobias The most common of the three phobias is simple phobia." The level of anxiety often corresponds with the perceived authority or importance of the social group. Agoraphobia Agoraphobia comes from a Greek word meaning "fear of the open marketplace. Fear of spiders. Agoraphobia may occur with or without panic disorder. a phobia of some object or situation. Social phobics may have difficulty thinking clearly. remembering facts. which may prevent sufferers from leaving their homes unless accompanied by someone they know and trust. heights and flying are examples of simple phobias.
The Reticular Activating System and the Amygdala
There is a brain structure called the Reticular Activation System (or RAS). One of the functions of this brain structure is to route sensory information to various places in the brain. When a person sees, feels, hears, smells or tastes something, a nerve impulse travels through the RAS. The RAS acts as a filter, deciding where to send this information. The RAS can categorize the sensory input as important enough to call to your attention. It may then send the sensory input to your thinking center where you'll notice it. The RAS can also send information to another, more primitive part of your brain. Let me give you an idea of how this works... Let's suppose you've just bought a shiny, new black convertible. Suddenly everywhere you go, there are black convertibles. You begin to notice them driving down the street, in parking lots etc. Your RAS has been set to detect these cars and attract your attention. The cars were always there, it's just that your filtering system hadn't been set to pick them up. The RAS also sends information with high emotional content to the Amygdala. The Amygdala is a structure of the brain and has to do with emotional learning. It is part of our older, more primitive brain. The Amygdala has projections into multiple brain systems involved in the production of fear and is one of the brain structures that helps control fear chemicals such as adrenaline (it connects to structures which can release stress hormones, suppress pain and produce the "deer in the headlights" effect). The Amygdala also has connections to various areas of the body; the heart, the intestines, sweat glands, breathing functions etc. These are the same areas in which phobics experience symptoms; shortness of breath, rapid heart beat, excessive sweating.... Basically, in a phobic situation the sensory input gets routed from the Reticular Activating System to the Amygdala. The Amygdala becomes excited and sends messages to release fear producing chemicals, speed up your breathing, increase sweating and your heartbeat. In simple terms, somewhere in the brain, there's a fork in the road. At the fork, a judgment call is made and things we see, hear, feel, smell or taste either get routed to the fear center or the thinking center. The decisions at this fork are usually based on past experiences. The problem with most drug, counseling or physiologically based phobia treatment methods is that they focus on what to do after the Amygdala gets tweaked. That seems to be too late in the process to do much good (As my
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grandmother would have said "That's like closing the barn door after the horse has escaped."). Most of the anti-anxiety drugs are believed to work by damping the fear response. So, you sense something, the RAS categorizes it as dangerous and routes it to the Amygdala, the Amygdala attempts to send fear chemicals and signals to the body but the drug attempts to prevent this from happening. As you can imagine when the drug is removed the phobia still exists (in children this may not be the case). It's my belief that the most effective treatments for phobias are focused on the RAS. If you can train the RAS to route the sensory input to the cognitive, thinking center of the brain and away from the emotional center then you'd be fine. You'd think about the situation rather than react to it.
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How Phobias Work In the Mind
Maybe you know about Pavlov's dogs. Ivan Pavlov was a scientist who wanted to study the digestion of dogs (lord knows why). He hooked up a tube to the dog's mouth's to measure their saliva output (let's just call it doggy drool - shall we)? After a while, he noticed that the dogs would begin to anticipate their feeding times. We all know that right? The instant the dog knows food is coming they get all excited. But what he noticed is that the dogs began to produce more drool, even before the food got there. Now the drool was meant to aid the dog's digestion. Pavlov began to experiment; he fed his dogs and rang a bell whenever dinner was served. Just ringing the bell would get the dogs to salivate - their bodies would act as if they were about to get fed - even in the absence of the thing that was originally linked to increased saliva output, namely food. A bell (stimulus) actually caused automatic biological and emotional responses! This is called a conditioned response Let that sink in for a moment... Even though it isn't logical to salivate at the sound of a bell in the absence of food, the dogs would do it. It's the dog's "thoughts" that are causing the reaction. We do the same thing. In fact, some of you are probably salivating just reading this. Although dogs are smarter than humans, phobias work the same way for us. Some biological response (fear for instance) has been tied to some "trigger" or stimulus (usually as a result of some emotionally charged incident). This stimulus can be just thinking about the situation. In other words, the way a person thinks about getting on an airplane can have profound affects on his biology. These thoughts can trigger a variety of feelings - including fear and panic.
The Subconscious Mind
We are different than dogs in some ways. Our minds are more complex. We are able to think rationally and logically. Shouldn't we be able to simply think our way out of a phobia? The human mind can be thought of as having two sections; the conscious mind and the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is responsible for all those things our mind controls but that we're not thinking about at the moment.
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The subconscious mind maintains currently held beliefs and the physiological and emotional responses to go along with them. You're very aware of the feelings they produce. If you ask most people with phobias.Your conscious mind is the analytical. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. Are We Consciously Aware Of Our Thoughts? Have you ever. beliefs. This treats the symptom but does not remove the cause. These out-of-consciousness thoughts are usually in the form of images or sounds. All Rights Reserved. I'll often ask people what color their car or house is .. physiological responses and learned behaviors as well as automatic body processes. pg. People are constantly experiencing thoughts that they're unaware of consciously.usually they'll tell me.. It's estimated that 88% of our thoughts fall into this category. When you have a phobic reaction. The subconscious uses those tools to act in accordance with beliefs. you are literally thinking thoughts that scare you. Because phobias happen automatically and below the level of conscious awareness. found yourself pushing on the floorboard as if there is a brake pedal located there? These are examples of thoughts and actions which are out-ofconsciousness. Once the subconscious mind accepts an idea it acts as if that idea is reality. 11 . logical mind. Found yourself in the middle of humming a tune and didn't remember starting it? While riding in the passenger side of a car. They are literally making an image in their "mind's eye". The subconscious mind controls habits. looking at the image and noticing the color of the car/house from that image. They'll say that the fear "just happens". conscious insight and talk therapy are often ineffective in eliminating this response. Most times they're not consciously aware of the image .they believe they just "know" the color. they'll tell you that they don't have any "thoughts" before they feel the fear. It takes some careful examination to find the thoughts that occur immediately before a phobia strikes. emotional responses. Often these thoughts are out-of-consciousness. The conscious mind questions things to find out if they fit with currently held beliefs. Drugs can be introduced into your system to dampen emotional responses or chemically interfere with the anxiety producing substances your body makes.
It's like complaining about a movie to the ticket taker.Subconscious. pg. it's just that our conscious mind can only pay attention to a few things at one time .but it won't cure it. Automatic Thoughts The subconscious mind takes over thoughts once we learn things well. Many therapies focus on our conscious mind. I'm going to tough it out. phobias are run by the subconscious mind. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. Often the goal of therapy is insight or understanding of our phobia." The reason this doesn't work is that they're not communicating with the part of the mind that controls the phobia. The message might get through to the powers that be. Trying to battle these automatic reactions is like trying not to breathe. It's job is to do those things we consider automatic. but I wouldn't bet on it. You might be able to do it for a little while but the subconscious is much more powerful and determined than the conscious mind... People with phobias usually have utilized all the conscious resources available to them to no avail. Our conscious mind is much too slow to do this effectively. It automatically moves us out of dangerous situations without conscious thought. All Rights Reserved. The thoughts we have in relation to phobias are often out of our conscious awareness." Would you have to consider pulling it off the hot stove or would it just happen automatically? The subconscious mind has powerful programming built in to protect us. or fear. Who's the Boss? If you put your hand on a hot stove how long could the power of your conscious mind keep it there? For most people the answer is "Not very long. That's why people with phobias can't just "get over it" by consciously deciding to overcome their phobia. Phobias Are Run By the Subconscious Mind Remember. A phobia is one of those automatic things. They've all told themselves "I'm not going to let it affect me this time. One of the ways it protects us is by associating fear to dangerous situations. To consciously gain insight or consciously understand the reason for our phobia is good . There's nothing mysterious about these thoughts.the subconscious takes care of the rest. When your subconscious mind recognizes a dangerous situation it automatically acts to protect us. 12 . The subconscious controls our feelings and can motivate us tremendously by creating pleasure.
The subconscious mind is responsible for maintaining phobias.This is why some therapies that focus on conscious understanding of phobias take so long. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. All Rights Reserved. we must speak the language of the subconscious mind. If we want to get the job done quickly. pg. 13 .
emotion and/or the "secret code of the mind" to communicate quickly and effectively with the subconscious mind. for instance. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. What emotions we feel and how strongly we feel them is based on qualities of the images we see and the sounds we hear inside our minds." how do you think the dog would react? What would the dog base its reaction on? What if you were to say something nice in a very stern and forceful voice? Would the dog respond to the words or to the tonality? The dog would know what emotions to feel based on the tone of voice. Emotions & Imagination While the conscious mind is rational and logical. I've seen that therapies that work use imagination. Cognitive-behavioral therapy. "I'm thinking I'm going to suffocate. It not only generates out emotions for us but can be reprogrammed through emotion. the faster the therapy works. often has the phobic confront their thoughts logically. Well. As a general rule the less the conscious mind is involved. most friendly tone "Hello there doggie. I'm going to take away your food. Some methods don't use the conscious mind much at all. Many of these images and sounds are what we call "thoughts" and are often outside of our conscious awareness. If you were a claustrophobic. they might put you in a closet and ask you what you were thinking. 14 . make you eat cat food and talk bad about you to the other dogs. anything we imagine with enough vividness is real. These qualities are the "secret code of the mind" and may be different for each individual.The Languages of the Subconscious The Secret Code If you were to go up to a dog and say in your sweetest ." The therapist would then ask you to look around and logically calculate the chances of actually suffocating. All Rights Reserved. An example the ability to image to this degree is a phobia. the subconscious works based on emotion and imagination. You might reply. there's a part of your mind that works the same way. Emotions can be activated by imagination. To our subconscious mind. We all make images in our "mind's eye" and we all hear sounds and talk to ourselves internally. pg. What Works Over and over again.
15 . much stronger). this method works. All Rights Reserved. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC.Believe it or not. pg. It just takes a lot longer than necessary because you're trying to battle the subconscious mind with the conscious mind (the subconscious is much.
But you must know how to communicate with the part of the mind which runs the phobic behavior in order to do this. it's a great survival mechanism to recognize real or imagined dangerous situations without repeated exposure to them." By this. When you think about it." Even though you're not consciously aware of what's going on. It's a good thing too! Though people learn and unlearn fears naturally. Although it's often not this simple. It has made the association between "L" and that feeling. Phobias can be created in an instant." The brain is very good at associating feelings with situations. you can help it to make changes very quickly. Since people jump out of airplanes and go to rock concerts we can safely assume that even these built-in fears can be overcome. pg. These events are called "Initializing Events" or "Root Causes. what the brain can learn in one instant can be unlearned in another instant. All Rights Reserved. The brain can attach panic or anxiety to a situation in an instant. You should know that phobias do not necessarily have to come from an outside source. Fortunately. here's one way it can happen. whenever you see this letter your unconscious mind could refer back to that earlier situation and get that scared feeling back. They don't have to make sense (as you can see by the example above) nor do they have to be the result of a traumatic event. Let's say somebody snuck up behind you and said "boo" and you just happened to be looking at the letter "L. they can be created solely within our own minds. if you understand the language that the subconscious mind speaks. 16 . Phobias are simply a valuable natural ability which has been linked up to the wrong situation. Because we live in a changing environment the mind has made allowances to learn new fears and unlearn old fears that no longer apply. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. Now this is just an example. it makes sense. I mean that a Pavlovian conditioned response was learned in one incident.Fears Are Learned and Unlearned Studies have shown that the only two natural fears are fear of heights and fear of loud noises. One Trial Learning Most phobias are what could be called "One Trial Learning.
Reprocessing Initializing Events Using some phobia techniques. Our mind would create a folder called "bear attack." Whenever we thought of that event we would probably feel some small percentage of the negative feelings we had when being attacked.How Does My Brain Know When It's Time to Have a Phobia? The brain contextualizes. It is just aware that bad feelings are happening. You only have to feel a small portion of the anxiety and soon that will feel different. All Rights Reserved. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. it doesn't have to be something as traumatic as a bear attack to set up this chain of events. Here's an example. for others a picture of a bear might cause the feelings to arise. when you think of an initializing event (or other formerly uncomfortable memories) you'll feel neutral. pg. Now let's suppose we were attacked by a bear. You'll get to a point where. That way. Many times the mind is not consciously aware that it is going back to these earlier experiences. For each type of experience the brain creates something like a folder." Whenever we think about "Fred's Place" we may feel some of the wonderful feelings we felt earlier. you don't need to remember the initializing event you can use these techniques to make memories more comfortable. What I mean by this is that we think different ways about different situations. when something reminds you of the initializing event and you open the folder. For some people. The thing is. Although. This folder contains emotions and thoughts. it might be enough of a reminder to open the "bear attack" folder and get some of the old bad feelings. When something reminds us of that same type of situation. In fact if we saw a bear in a zoo. It can be something as simple as a momentary instant of panic when speaking in front of your high-school English class. Let's suppose we had a wonderful experience at a restaurant named "Fred's Place. you can discover and reprocess memories with special techniques designed to take the emotional sting from them. 17 . our brain opens the folder and gets the emotions. all that will be there is neutral feelings. just being outside would be enough of a reminder for the mind to open the "bear attack" folder and get the negative feelings. with most phobias. This process is actually enjoyable to most people. seeing another large animal my open the "bear attack" folder. For some unfortunate folks.
18 . here's how it works. At some point you are in a situation or imagine a situation. pg. We must now retrain the subconscious and use its ability to generate automatic thoughts and generate feelings automatically to help you feel more comfortable. A third plan of attack is to take the thoughts themselves and modify them permanently so they don't create the feelings anymore.How Phobias Work In a nutshell. This link is now automatic (a conditioned response). Each time you are about to get into the situation or imagine getting into a similar situation the subconscious automatically generates fear. It generates fear and links the fear to this situation. The subconscious mind perceives this situation is dangerous. All Rights Reserved. you can go back to those initializing events and take the sting out of them. Alternately. The way it knows to generate fear is based on some quality of the thoughts you are having. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. Using techniques you'll find out about in this book you can remove the linkage between your current situation and those old memories and feelings.
it doesn't seem so important? Well. Now. Well. your brain knows how to do that.permanently. Our thoughts are made up of our senses. I don't care if it's a picture of a spider. I don't care what's in the picture. it's not important what the memory is but how it feels. pg. The thoughts typically take one of two forms. When using most of the phobia treatment techniques that work quickly. snake. I don't do therapy.you compare it to an internal image. When a person has a phobia they are literally thinking thoughts that scare them.The Same Treatment for Different Phobias? People who contact me often want to tell me the history of their phobia. I'm going to teach them a technique to remove that picture and put another one in its place . What I do is teach people a set of methods so they can overcome their phobia. The images or sounds create the negative feelings. We're going to use a process people use naturally to change the way that memory feels. Have you ever been hurt by someone and been very upset about it but years later. That's why it doesn't matter what the phobia is. We all think in pictures and sounds. if you wanted to interrupt someone. 19 . you just have to apply the same techniques to the phobia. There are some techniques that use regression to get back to the root cause of a phobia. smells and feelings. sound or feeling. how severe the phobia is or how long it's been going on. Many effective phobia techniques use ultra-quick methods to permanently interrupt or replace those thoughts. treatment does not vary based on what type of phobia it is. internal imagery and/or internal (imagined) sounds. it is literally not important what the phobias is. Once again. That's how you wouldn't recognize your friend's voice when you hear it. would it matter what they were saying? When I work with a phobic and we discover they have an mental picture that creates a terrible sensation of fear. or your front door when you get home or the kiss of a loved one . For the treatment. I guess people are conditioned to think of therapy as all about digging through the past. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. All Rights Reserved. tastes. The phobic is usually not conscious of these thoughts. speaking in front of a group or their mother-inlaw.
The key is that your subconscious thinks the situation is dangerous. One of the mind's functions is to keep us away from dangerous situations.Frequently Asked Questions Here are some examples of typical emails I might receive asking about what I do. in fact. email. crazy. The more primitive parts of our minds are designed to keep us alive. the subconscious perceives a danger that is not real or blows the danger out of proportion. in a strange sort of way having a phobia proves that your brain is working. I try to overcome it but I go in to a panic just thinking about it. One source estimates that 12% of people will experience a phobic reaction in their lives. This is simply not true. with a phobia. 20 . I have an overwhelming fear of driving across bridges. order one of my videotapes or my book to find out how I can help you to educate your subconscious mind. Thanks for writing. So when your subconscious mind perceives a situation as dangerous. Most of these examples are combinations of several similar email inquiries. When you experience a phobia it is proof that your subconscious mind is working properly by creating fear in a situation it thinks is dangerous. I've changed the names. A very powerful way to do this is to create fear and link fear to dangerous situations. Many people who suffer from phobias begin to think that something is wrong with them or that they're crazy. details and edited to protect people's privacy and respect confidentiality. All Rights Reserved. Feel free to call. In fact. Your subconscious mind just misunderstands the level of safety in crossing a bridge. pg. Am I crazy? Hello. Keith Livingston Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. Millions of people all over the world are suffering from phobias. So you are not. it motivates you to get out of it by creating fear. The difference between a phobia and a "reasonable" fear is that.
I have a fear of snakes. flying. All Rights Reserved. 21 . One way of looking at Neurolinguistic Programming is as the study of how the subconscious mind communicates. in my opinion. frogs. butterflies.is it hypnosis? Can you explain it? I would like to get a clearer understanding of what it is and how it works specifically for my fear. Can you help me? Kim" Hello Kim. NLP has developed what they call a "fast phobia cure" which has been found as or more effective than standard lengthy desensitization or drug treatments. Thanks for writing. birds. the most powerful change technology in existence. and he hates his job more and more by the day because of this fear. Have you had special training in this? Thank you. To quote one study (this is a profound Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. heights. heights. needles. claustrophobia. Do you know of any classes in New York that he could take? thanks."I saw from your web site that you work with fear of spiders. Sincerely. Thanks for writing. The techniques are used with full conscious participation. Keith Livingston "Hello. doctors. snakes and most other phobias all work the same way. Bill" Hello Bill. Sincerely. He has a fear of flying. and has to fly for his job. I am curious about Neuro Linguistic Programming.. Fear of spiders. His fear is getting worse. I would be happy to help. No. pg. public speaking. Ellen" Dear Ellen. NLP's techniques are simply. I'm actually writing for my husband.. Keith Livingston "Hello. worms. bugs.
When I think I might be left alone I feel a panic attack coming on. 22 . If you are uncomfortable with that advice get a second opinion from a different qualified health professional. Keith Livingston Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC." Believe it or not. Keith Livingston "Hi my name is Erika & I've had phobias for years. from other treatment modalities that are useful in overcoming phobias. I received my initial Neurolinguistic Programming certification from the NLP Learning Center in 1993 and have done extensive training since (including my Master Practitioner certification with Bennett/Stellar University). Thanks. But if the medicine would help I'd want it or anything I want it. sometimes not. pg. Also I'm afraid to stay home by myself. Some of them are taken from NLP and some I've picked up from other places.understatement) . and I would have to to go in a building to get the medicine."Treatment outcome compared favorably with more conventional treatments. If you have any further questions please feel free to call or email. It seems to me that. Sincerely. I'm a Master Practitioner of Neurolinguistic Programming I have a private practice in Seattle. I can't make myself. Medicine has helped many folks deal with fear. Can you help me?. Thanks for writing. is rising & I feel like I'm going to catch on fire. As I mentioned. I have worked with folks in your situation before. Over time I've picked up other techniques. anxiety and phobias and is necessary for some people. I am not a doctor so I do not have any advice for you on whether or not you should go on medication. Good luck. But she wants to get me on medicine. sometimes with success. feel free to read it. since medicine can have sideeffects. I'm afraid to go into buildings. I've adapted many of them so that a person could perform them on his or her own. All Rights Reserved. it should be used as a last resort. NLP is done with full conscious participation and awareness. I'm tired of being like this & I want help! I am currently seeing a counselor that comes to my car to do an hour session. If you are receiving advice from a competent health professional please take that advice. this method is reasonably easy to learn. When I try to go into a building I feel like my body temp. My book may give you more information about my methods. Erika" Hello Erika.
I am convinced that many "specialists" overlook this fact. but I can't help it. I can help. for a consultation. 23 . Keith Livingston Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. Yes. The problems of anxieties/phobias can be approached from either a cognitive viewpoint or a biochemical one. Frank" Hello Frank."Can you really help with phobias? I have a major fear of doctors/needles/medical treatment that is keeping me from going to appointments. Sincerely. In fact I recently worked with a man who hadn't been to the doctor in 15 years because of his fear. in other cases. There are ample studies showing the effect of thoughts on biochemistry.thankfully he checked out fine. and/or anxiety disorder can be caused by a biochemical imbalance. We were able to get him through a doctor's appointment . Thanks for writing. You should know that a lot of people share your same situation. In my opinion biochemical imbalances are caused by certain types of thinking. scares me to the point of bursting into tears. I just thought I would share with you my opinion on this subject. Thanks for writing. Jenny" Hello Jenny. All Rights Reserved. I feel like an idiot. phobias (especially "agoraphobia"). pg. Just the thought of even going to a doctor and just TALKING to him. and read it. Feel free to download my book to learn about what I do or call or email for more information. Although. Many people disagree with me on this point. Keith "I just went to your website. Cognitive seems much less invasive to me. Sincerely. it's just my personal opinion. what you are saying is true in some cases.
"Hello..My name is Sherry...and I was recently checking out some websites on arachnophobia. I'll tell you a little about my phobia with spiders...It's to the point now that before i walk into a room...I have to turn the light on a look on the floor, ceilings, and walls and any articles that are in that room..I do this every time i go into a room weather i was just there or not..I am to the point now where my phobia runs my life...I cant feel safe going anywhere...I've been scared of these yucky things ever since i can remember...I've tried to confront it and the fear for me is just so overwhelming that I completely freak...If somehow it became close to me or if I were to run into just a web...sometimes I scream and 100% of the time my body clenches and im frozen and cant move my arms or legs or even talk sometimes...Please I definatly need some help... Thank you for your time, Sherry" Hello Sherry, Thanks for writing. You should know that a lot of people share your same situation. I have worked successfully with arachnophobia before. Many people are convinced that their phobia is too severe or too deep-rooted or too long-lived to cure by these methods. I have found no correlation between these factors and ease of treatment. Feel free to download my book to learn about what I do or call or email for more information. Keith
"Hi i have a friend who has had agoraphobia since 1979... She visits her doctor every six months and has a very difficult time leaving her home. she uses more anxiety medication so she can make the trip to the doctor. Shes told me that there is treatment for people now but it's too late for her. She says she even panics going near the door. I sent her this link but I am curious to know if there is a chance for her to rid herself of this problem so she can enjoy a normal life once again. thank you for your time. Jack" Hello Jack, Thanks for writing. Your friend only has a chance if SHE is interested in pursuing this treatment (or some other treatment that works). I have had less success with folks that were convinced by other people to come into treatment. If someone is convinced that they can't be helped, they don't put the effort that is required into the techniques. If she is interested feel free to have her give a call or email. Keith Livingston
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Hello, "I am a 26 year old female and I have emetophobia, or fear of vomiting. This has totally interfered with my life. I began starving myself 2 years ago, and I lost a total of 50 lbs. This is how intense this fear is. (I have since pretty much stabilized my weight--although I still fluctuate a little). With your "Phobias Cured" program, how long to the results last? Will they last a lifetime? Thank you, SG" Hello SG, I first must ask if you've seen a doctor about your weight loss. Starving yourself can have affects on your health. You must get checked out by a physician! To answer your question, typically the results do last a lifetime. In fact, you should feel fine just as consistently as you felt fear in the past. Keith Livingston
Hello Mr. Livingston, Thank you for the free information you sent me. I am a college student working on a paper for my class. I have some other things that I would want to know more about. Please send me all of the free information you have on symptoms, medications, holistic approaches, how phobias affect people, statistics, treatment methods, etiology and recidivism of the various treatment methods and causes. It would really be a great help for me. I need it as soon as possible. Thank you, Pete Hello Pete, Thanks for writing. I have taken countless hours writing and compiling my web site about phobias. Feel free to use any information you find there under the condition that you credit the information properly and that you send me a copy of your paper (along with permission to use it on my site).
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"I have suffered from claustrophobia most of my life and I am now 69 years of age. I have read dozens of books on the subject and have also seen a psychiatrist. I have searched the past for the start of it all and the only clue I have is that, according to my brother, when I was about 12 years of age I was stuck in a closet. The effects on my life have been varied. I cannot use an elevator nor get into an airplane so my opportunity for travel is limited. It is not the type of claustrophobia so many people talk about as the fear of being closed in but more the fear of a lack of control. At its worst when I was driving my car I would start to panic if I was stuck in a traffic jam. For over 15 years I could not travel by train. I would like to go on a cruise or even better travel to New York on a ship but cannot make it. With this history and background is it really possible to climb out of this restriction and get on with my life? I have adjusted my life accordingly but it would be nice to be free of it and travel at will . I search various sites from time to time it seems to me that the types of phobias which are curable are relatively mild and not the deeply ingrained variety which seems to affect me. There are some web sites that recommend saturation techniques in aircraft simulators where you experience all the feelings of flying and being in a plane for several hours. Is there really any hope? Roger" Hello Roger, The saturation techniques you speak of are usually called de-sensitization or flooding. They involve exposing the phobic person to the phobia for extended periods of time. They can work (although it's not the most pleasant experience). In fact, a few weeks ago I worked with a man who was afraid of driving. Previously he had attended a several day seminar costing several thousand dollars to rid himself of his fear of flying. It had worked very well for him. It took us a couple of sessions to take care of his fear of driving. There is hope, Keith Livingston
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Please help. I can't even tell them why. All I know is when I see a worm I find it very hard to breathe. email or download my book to learn more about how you can be helped. My fiance & I are marrying soon. Feel free to call. I can't remember a time when I wasn't afraid of them and as time goes on the fear is getting worse. It is wise of you to be concerned about how your son might react. Is there a drug you can recommend? I realize this is not a long term solution but he is not a believer in self-help etc and time is short. This fear is only getting worse and I do not want to transpose this fear on my son. Thank you. I very rarely go out at night because Once a couple of years ago before I had my son I came home late one night and I couldn't bring myself to get out of my car for fear I would step on a worm. Sincerely. pg. 27 . Please let me know what I can do. I think it's good to think about what kind of lesson he'd learn from you overcoming your fear. I spent the night in my car. Children of phobics are much more likely to have a phobia than the general population. The doctor prescribed diazepan which he just tried just to see the effects. Sally. He is terrified of flying." Hello Sally. While it has relaxed him a little. While some feel that this is because of genetic reasons I have not found this to be the case. Thanks. He is worried that he won't be able to get on the plane and is sure he will die on it."Hello my name is Sally and my fear is getting worse and interfering with my life. I knew I had to get help when my son was about to fall in the pool and I couldn't go get him because I would have had to walk in the grass and I didn't have shoes on. How can I be helped? My family makes fun of me because they don't see why I am so afraid. All Rights Reserved. I have a deep fear of worms. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. This will obviously spoil the wedding day if he has this on his mind. I couldn't jump in the pool because I did not check it for worms. My son is four and I'm finding I can't do certain things he wants to do because of this fear. Keith Livingston "Hello. he is more frightened than ever that it didn't work.
I look forward to hearing from you! Henrietta" Hello Henrietta.and of course most restaurants did not have glass on the windows so eating out was impossible. I am not a doctor and do not advocate drugs.Ms Akins" Dear Ms. I have tried (unsuccessfully) different types of therapy . All Rights Reserved. doctors . If you wish to pursue this avenue please consult with your physician. counselors.I could squish a spider with my bare hands if I had to or climb a ladder to the moon! Do you have any suggestions! I would love to cure this once and for all Thank you in advance. My mom picked it up and brought it inside. Keith Livingston "I have been extremely afraid of birds ALL MY LIFE! I can't walk down the street if I see one.I tried to imagine if that was my own child who was "pecked" at and what I would do. The main medical approaches to conditions are either drugs or surgery. get out of my car if they are around and I once left my daughter and ran across the street because a bird flew near me! I have to cure this. Thanks for writing.very sweaty and very agitated.and they aren't a Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC.they were everywhere . A few years back. Of course once the bird was inside. 28 .it just doesn't work! I know this fear is real . Good luck. This is my only fear . Most doctors don't have much in their toolbox as far as phobias go. I've tried imagining birds as cartoons . I believe this fear started when I was very small (2 or 3). Akins Congratulation on your upcoming marriage. it panicked and "flapped" around and kinda "pecked" at me. psychiatrists and several who have tried hypnotherapy. pg.hypnosis. For some people the drugs don't work .the screaming and chaos . A bird flew into our front window. I deal with many people who have tried doctors. I went on a holiday and had a rotten time because of the birds .it was horrible. I remember it thoroughly .I almost get sick when I see one .
You know what? People still thought I was a scam artist. Keith Livingston I have had my fear of spiders for forty years. Though I don't usually use hypnosis for phobias I'm a hypnotherapist myself and have used hypnotherapy to eradicate phobias. I know you are some kind of fraud. Just like any other profession you have highly skilled hypnotherapists and those who have limited tools in their toolbox. They'd ask me questions such as. Thanks for writing. There is no way you can get rid of it so simply. "Is this some sort of 976 toll number I'm calling?" On top of that. so I know it works." Most therapists are not familiar with the methods I use. It doesn't matter how many testimonials I put up on my site or what kind of guarantee I produce there are some people who just won't believe that it is possible.) Nothing has worked yet. 29 . Feel free to call me and we can talk about whether what I do would be appropriate in your case. I didn't even ask for a credit card number until they themselves admitted a complete and total cure. At one point I even offered to teach people the methods I use via phone and included a guarantee that they wouldn't have to pay unless their phobia was cured. Keith Livingston "I have social phobia I have over the past 20 years tried several different therapists. pg. some people who admitted that their phobia was gone wouldn't pay me! I Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. Feel free to call and discuss it. Sincerely. but it has all been a total waste. You are bilking people out of their hard-earned money. Hello Diane. (anxiety treatment drugs. I have been on different combinations of zoloft and effexor now.great long-term solution. Thankfully there are no treatments for phobias involving surgery (that I know about). I hope you can help. you should be ashamed of yourself. Diane. All Rights Reserved.
pg. All Rights Reserved. You might even find a treatment difficult and timeconsuming enough for your tastes. I encourage you to use my book to gather some information on other techniques .finally decided to quit spending my time arguing with people and start spending more time with people who were interested in actually using the methods I teach. Keith Livingston Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. I understand that you don't believe me or believe in what I do. What you have been doing for the past 40 years has not been working very well.perhaps you can find some help there. Good luck. Whatever you do I would suggest doing something different. 30 .
In the video. Kristine had suffered a 20 year phobia of snakes. 31 . Keith Livingston Kristine If you’ve seen my video.. She consented to having her session filmed. perseverance and the possibilities of the human imagination. This book is dedicated to them and written with the idea of providing hope to others who suffer similarly. The names and some identifying details of some of the case histories have been changed to protect the identities of these good people. They kept trying. pg. Since I was looking to film an actual phobia session I asked if she would be willing. I thank them for what they have taught me about bravery. As soon as she sees a snake move (from 20 feet away) she "freaks out" and begins backing rapidly out of the store. stomach sensations. Her fear interfered with things she enjoyed such as gardening and being outdoors. we went back to my office and started to work. I spoke with her for a few minutes and learned she suffered from a phobia of snakes. Many of the people who come to me for help have tried drug therapy and less often counseling and found it to not be effective in their particular case. sweaty palms) even before we get through the door.. I met Kristine at a seminar the weekend before I filmed her session (June 2001). She said she would like to overcome her fear. shortness of breath. I have found phobics to be intelligent folks who have often bravely fought down their fear in a phobic situation. After witnessing her initial reaction. She even felt some remorse at the fact she hated them. These folks were all treated successfully using NLP techniques found in this book. Kristine begins to feel symptoms (rapid heartbeat. All Rights Reserved.Case Histories These are stories of my interaction with real people who have had to deal with phobias. She is a kind person. one who likes living things and it was out of character for her to loathe one of God's creatures so thoroughly. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. A Single Session Phobia Cure you've met Kristine. It is rewarding work. Ever onward. you can see that Kristine is unable to approach an aquarium that contains some small snakes. On the video we visit a pet store.
pg. The second incident involved her parents telling her what to do in case she saw a snake. When she did see a snake. Kristine felt some relief. This image was helping her drive the fear. Kristine apparently had fear and a "yucky" feeling attached to snakes. I felt it would be useful to test how far we'd progressed. We then used the affect bridge technique to locate the source of that feeling. All Rights Reserved. related events lead to phobias. At one point she was in a swimming pool that had a lip on it. it's not safe to hold a poisonous snake. We made some distinctions about her personal safety. She said "It still feels 'yucky. Often. this image would come to mind. I had her get into the feeling and describe it to me in detail. Fear may not be the only negative emotion attached to something. Kristine remembered a couple of incidents from her youth that involved snakes.just to be in control of her mind enough to react with intelligence. she didn't want to hang out with poisonous snakes . She said basically that the fear was either gone or reduced but she'd been feeling this yucky feeling along with the fear. it seemed as if the snakes were circling her. Whenever she thought about or saw a snake. I asked Kristine to imagine she was holding a (non-poisonous) snake in her hands. The affect bridge is a Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. in her mind's eye. 32 . I could tell because her eyes kept going to the same spot whenever she talked about snakes. I felt like we had the "root causes" of Kristine's problem in those two memories. Her grandfather helped her get out of the pool.'" I thought that was an interesting choice of words.now it was more disgusting to her. At this point. Some snakes happened to be in the pool and were swimming in circles trying to escape (they were as afraid of her as she was of them). We took this image and used a visual swish pattern on it. This sometimes happens. Before this point she had been talking about her feelings in terms of fear . She was supposed to protect her younger sister. I don't know if this image was a "snapshot" from a memory she'd had or one she just created internally. ready to strike. I pointed this out and asked her if this was different than the fear she was feeling earlier. Kristine felt immediate relief. To her. Obviously. We took the memories and ran them through the NLP fast phobia procedure. she froze. Somewhere in the process I figured out that Kristine carried an image of a snake.As we talked. one or two emotionally charged.
but he kept at it. Ashok lives in India and his multiple phobias were ruining his life. how would you like to feel in the situation that caused your phobia? For Kristine the answer was awe. She did everything I asked of her whole-heartedly. Kristine was a nearly ideal client. OK.not everybody gets over their phobia in 15 minutes! Ashok is an example of what you can do on your own. This question usually gets me a blank stare.useful way to locate lost memories that are the root cause of feelings.she held and petted a baby python (or a boa constrictor . I think it's important to give people a true picture . I anchored those positive emotions and did an anchor collapse. Ashok (his name has been changed at his request) was one such person. they get the idea. There were lots of ups and downs. "Snakes freak me out!" After a few more explanations. 33 . She reported to me that she felt awe and calmness when she held the snake. I asked Kristine how she would like to feel when she was around snakes. Fear of Doctors Hospitals. Things did not go smoothly with Ashok. All Rights Reserved. "What do you mean." people ask. Death and Being Alone Every once in a while. even with the most severe and pervasive phobias. I would like to point out that there were many times when he could have quit and decided it wasn't working for him . Agoraphobia. She reports she's seen 3 or so snakes out in the garden. it's easy to see how that connected up with snakes. I spoke to Kristine toward the end of 2002.I never can remember). I had her feel the positive emotions while imagining holding the caterpillar until the old feelings shifted for her. if you keep working at it. pg. She even saved one that was injured! Social Phobia. The common thread was the undulating motion. He is very grateful to me but all I did Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. how would I like to feel. If you could wave a magic wand a feel however you wanted. calm and a few other positive emotions. At the end of the session we went back to the pet store . She's still fine with snakes. He had no credit card and no access to a bank account but he wanted help very badly. She remembered holding a caterpillar in her hands as a child and being disgusted and the way it moved (all squirmy). I spent about 40 minutes working with Kristine in my office. I run into someone who really needs my help and can't afford to pay me.
I am sure you are a great Spiritual person inside and want to genuinely want to help people. I stay in India and am eager to make use of your techniques but I dont have a credit card.. "Dear Keith. Ashok" It took us quite a while to get him his book and password..... For the most part. I think his emails tell the story better than I could.) I am exteremely happy ......Heaven knows.was write a book...... Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. The information you provided on the net and the part one of your e ... I will start applying the methods to all my fears ( I have many of them... 34 ... Is there any way you can bill me Please ! I am very very interested.being alone ...the list kept growing ..I guess I may have agoraphobia !. death.... All Rights Reserved.. I told Ashok to notice what thoughts immediately preceded the negative feelings and deal with those thoughts using one of the techniques in the book.Ashok.. I have included my responses and comments where they shed light on the situation. "Dear Keith.God Bless You.Thank you so much ! May I be in touch with you ? for any clearification if reqd ? I shall mail again only with your permission ! Thank you once again. Dont disappoint me by saysing no. Here's his first email to me... I am grateful to him for showing me that even people with multiple phobias could make great progress on their own.God Bless. pg.. here's what happened when we did. I admire you . I know there has to be a way I can get myself rid of Fear ! Do try and help. May God Shower his choicest Blessingson you ! Thank you so much for the password.book are really interesting.... Ashok did all the work.doctors hospitals. You're welcome Ashok. I ran home to read the book after I checked from my office that you sent me the password ! Keith .. I responded to each of his emails in basically the same way..
in real life situations.. I was on a drive alone and went shoping just for a few minutes..You may certainly email me if you need any clarification (I'll be out of town starting tomorrow for a couple of weeks). All Rights Reserved. I would use a lot of future pacing with agor. but try different things and find out what works best for you! There is no particular order though you might follow the suggestions in the overview section... I felt overjoyed . 35 .. Good luck! Keith Livingston Dear Keith.I am yet to test them out..The benefit though is that I have changed my attitudes towards life....... Thanks a Million ! I have tried the fast Phobia Cure on some of my phobias.. Treat your fear of being alone just the same as the other fears... Keith Dear Keith...then I feel weak and tired ... Maybe you could arrange to be alone for just a few minutes.How should I treat my fear of being alone ? I have had many sad/bad experiences when i was alone so i guess my mind/brain now associates being alone to Fear and I ( used to ) get full Panic Attacks.but it dint happen . When you are and get any anxiety about it... Use the visual or auditory swish on those images or sounds....I dont stay alone now so much so I am Safe but with a very Limiting life style ! I am happy there is way out and I will try the methods you have suggested but is there any particular order / method for agoraphobia ? Please reply only when you have time ! Thank you and God Bless You ! Ashok Hi Ashok. pg.I can see a great change in the days to come Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC... Find a safe way to test things out....and I did expect to panic and run away. I have often felt this way and then it all seems to be comming back ! I hope it just dosent recur ! I fear it will . explore what images or sounds coincide or precede the feelings...
.... Greetings ! and a Very happy Deepawali ! I am back from my trip with family . muscle tension.Ashok Hi Ashok.but I know one day I shall be FREE ! Ashok Dear Keith. 36 .... You will be shortly receiving a DD for 40 USD ( approx. Please accept this is as payment for the Book on Phobias... Congratulations on a job well done. Thanks for the update.. Good luck in the future! Keith Livingston Dear Keith.. pg..Thanks again and God Bless You and your family. In the meant time I am daring ( I hope not intruding ) to ask you a few questions that are bothering me … So Keith Please answer my questions…..panicky Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC.. Thank you Keith God Bless you I am doing better .. Namaste and Greetings to you from India …... His name is (edited out).. I trust you to give me good advice. head heaviness .......Thanks again.. Help the world and it will alll come back to you... If it does recur you now have some powerful tools to deal with it.. 1.. All Rights Reserved..I am out of station but i shall keep in touch ! Deep regards. Keith since I have been doing the techniquess taught in your book…my condition has gradually worsened !!! Surprisingly!!! I am going thru the same negative patterns ( sweting.. fast pulse. Please send me your bank account no and Bank name with address with your full name and mailing address so i can try to get the payment thru .often i fail . and I met my brother in (information deleted) with whose help I would like to pay for the book you were so kind to give me. ) from my brother in (edited out).
Good to hear from you again. it's about teaching and explaining to the subconscious. What do you think I should be doing now ? 2. I have never heard of these techniques worsening a phobia. All Rights Reserved. you're going to help it make better decisions about what is safe. Remember. sounds or feelings that come into your awareness.I am fighting every negative image with the SWISH patterns but kind of get nervous at times ….even in normal situations . I think I have sort of stirred a hornets nest in my subconscious mind…. Tell your subconscious mind that you're going to give it some information and it can decide whether or not to be afraid. do you think I could have reinforced the old patterns? Or. Just ask yourself "What is the reason for holding on to this fear. Looking at it objectively. On other words. pg. 3. What is it that you don't want to do that you would have to do if you didn't have the phobia? What do you do now that you wouldn't get to do if you got rid of the phobia? Sometimes the subconscious mind makes decisions based on ideas which are not logical to our conscious mind. Another thing to do is to ask yourself if there is any benefit from having the phobia. this is not about forcing your subconscious to behave a certain way or pushing feelings down. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. the object is not to force yourself through a tough situation but to get yourself comfortable in a situation. Ashok Hi Ashok. you'll have to deal with that issue too. Tell your subconscious mind that you're not going to do anything dramatic or unsafe. 37 . feelings like whats going to happen to me ??… At times the patterns seem to be in control…. arethey on their way out ? Please advice me." and pay attention to any images. On the whole I manage to smile and laugh (with effort) !!! Please answer my questions as soon as Possible God Bless You. No one would consciously choose to have a phobia but the subconscious mind may have its reasons.take a step backward from the situation and explore what your thoughts were immediately before you felt the fear. Whenever you feel some discomfort about facing your fear stop . If you find some subconscious reason for having the fear. Then take care of those thoughts via one of the techniques in the book.
pg. I am now increasingly doing Future Pacing (My question : when and how should it be done?) I must ask myself what it is I get from holding on to the phobia ( answer at first thought is : Security )( Could that mean I am afraid of independent responsibility? If yes could future pacing be used here?) I must work slowly and carefully… and that means that there is no failure – every Panic attack is an attempt at getting better. 38 . All Rights Reserved. Or if it’s a tough situations like death – feeling depressed paniky etc.It is unlikely that you have reinforced old patterns. Sincerely. Yet in front of audiences I shudder …. On the other hand. What I would suggest at this point is to work slowly and carefully. like getting upset on someone’s passing remarks or not talking to a person avoiding him if I feel I don’t like him.I never speak !!! I panic !!! – How is that inspite of being a confident speaker in (information deleted) of 35 to 40 Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. if your symptoms are not getting better then you haven't found the root cause of your problem yet. I must communicate with my subconscious in a respectful manner ( I have been actually tearing it apart ) When situation worsens I must NOT rough it out ( I do it all the time …and fail and end up depressed as a failure then have to take medication ) I must find the root cause…: The images that come to my mind are the ones I have done fast phobia cures on and the images and sound I have used the swish patterns…. Communicate with your subconscious mind an a respectful way. Question: My close associates tell me that I react to most situations in an emotional manner. Ashok. How should I become Unemotional or Logical? 3. I am really glad you replied. If you try something and feel worse as a result. 1. send me another email and explain exactly what happened. For some I am an ideal ironically. Question : I am a (occupation deleted) and for the last 3-4 years have been (personal information deleted) – They report that I am a very good (occupation deleted) and speak excellently (information deleted)…. 2. So I must Hasten Slowly. Keith Livingston Dear Keith. From your mail I learned the following… I cannot reinforce a phobia by the methods used. You mail have been really very educative.
Keith Livingston Dear Keith. Here is some Important Feedback that I thought Id give you. There's no need to become unemotional or logical. When you find the thoughts that are creating the emotion. Though Phobias are learnt in an instant ( I agree ) Agoraphobia is not just learnt in an instant. 39 . make sure your future paces include security. Do it as many times as it benefits you.I apologise that my mails are geeting longer … Its after long I met a person who can understand my problems. There is no hard and fast rule about when to do future pacing. If you are having an emotional response that you don't want simply explore the images and sounds in your mind immediately before you experience the negative emotion. Sincerely. simply swish them to thoughts that have you feeling more the way you want to feel. which you may find useful in helping others face their problem of agoraphobia: 1. In other words.people for so long my fears come back? ( I have not gone to (information deleted) for 15 days!) 4. pg. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. 2. Good Luck and God Bless… Ashok Ashok. All Rights Reserved. It is a series of instances and those who are in the process may not know that they are in the end going to end up as agoraphobics ( as in my case ). send a message to your subconscious that you will respect its wishes for security and when you future pace make sure you add the element of security into your scenarios. Hence for Agoraphobia may be the cure may not be dramatic but slowly and steadily after the constant application of the techs described one may actually be free. (number 4 deleted) Do please reply as soon as you get the time …. If security is an issue for you. Compare it to a sort of Incremental wave pattern and a drecremental wave pattern.
The combination of these tools that work best for one person may not be the same combination that works best for another. Increasingly the situations will seem to be less problematic. 40 . The Key is to understand that one is suffering and tackle the situation in the best manner possible.. Dear Keith Thank you so much. Until it gets ingrained in your subconscious mind.. Just like the sun rises and darkness is dispelled so also the more the techs are practiced the comfort level will rise ( you don’t have to push yourself!!! ) 6.. Don’t fight or get angry on the results just let go and stop evaluating and pitying yourself. however I feel sort of tightening muscles at the back of my neck and I feel faint. I am now able to go out of house with a relative and alone for some time.and fear feelings!! Does Swish Pattern work for feelings too ??? if so how ??? Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. e. even so much that I feel acidic at times. For Ashok. All Rights Reserved. In case the trigger is a sound the audio swish will help. give yourself time and be your own friend.and though it is still a problem I am much more fearless than before. God Bless You Ashok I thought it was important to include this feedback here. Question: Apart from images and sounds sometimes there are only feelings .. I have developed a sort of faith that I shall soon be OK. that was not the case. In my experience. pg. For a more balanced and healthy life in the future just do Future Pacing. you don't need to keep doing swish patterns over and over .no images no sound . i am completely off medications except mild antacids.. ( It will cause a dent !!! guaranteed ) b. 5.. it’s a task. Keep in mind that each person is a unique individual.a perfect blank state of mind . Don’t rush it up.3. If every normal event causes and root causes are not known do the Visual Swish ( do it frequently and on all images that came to mind ) c. ( but as before just keep doing it again and again) d.. Solving an Agoraphobia problem may be a bigger challenge as it requires more determination and continuous practice with techniques. My Pick: a. 4.a few times in enough. If you can identify a Trigger event ( a phobic situation ) do the Fast Phobia Cure.
whether they move or are stationary etc.. Start with the negative feeling and warm it up. But when I do get out of the house I can with some degree of freedom and within a limited reach. Then start with the negative feeling and move to the positive feeling again. shake that feeling off and think about a powerful positive feeling you'd like to have. moving feeling in your stomach and the positive feeling is a warm. pg. Step into a time when you've had that feeling and get as much information about that feeling as you can. The location of the feelings in your body. I want to tel the world that you speak the truth !!! Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. I even do swishes in my sleep on disturbing images. You can do what is called a kinesthetic swish. What you are doing is creating a strategy inside so that whenever you start to feel the bad feeling.. tense. Note the differences between the two sets of feelings. I feel much much better though I have lingering feelings of lack of Confidence. open solid feeling in your chest. Ashok Hello Ashok. It feels just great !!! I am better Thanks to you. It usually takes a few minutes the first time you do it then it gets faster as you practice it. All Rights Reserved. Then make it feel more open. You start off by becoming aware of as many of the qualities of the negative feelings as you can. I I now can see flashes of the swished image ( new ) on its own. Let's say that the negative feeling is a cold. I am aware of my thinking process. does it move etc. Hi. it automatically "swishes" to the more positive feeling. Sincerely. After you've changed the negative feeling to a positive one distract yourself for a moment (think about something else). Keith Livingston Dear Keith..Thanks and God Bless. the temperature. Then. Where do you feel it in your body. Then move it up to your chest. 41 . It sounds like you are doing well and are continuing to make progress. Then make it still.
" Use a swish pattern to get rid of it! I hope that helps. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. 42 . pg. Figure out what image or sound you are making inside your mind that drives the feeling of "will it happen again. A Grateful Friend. Ashok Hello Ashok. Thanks. Keith P. Keep up the good work! Keith Dear Keith. Yes you may use my mails as testimonials for sure only keep me anonymous ( I hope you understand !!!) Good Wishes and Luck. The feeling of "will it happen again" is driven by images or sounds (just like a fear).S.. How do I tackle them?? Thanks Keith God Bless You.Keith please advice me further ! How do I get rid of the feeling of " will it happen again " Often when I am strained or tired or not feeling well these feelings are greatest. May I use your email as a testimonial? Dear Keith. All Rights Reserved. Ashok Thanks Ashok. Of course I will keep you anonymous..
......and I have returned to a more or less normal life.do I need to do anything more ? Please find time to answer me. I often feel stressed out during the day and feel sick often even if it may be a sniffy cold or something . I can now stay out of the house at Safe places and often with safe people for hours.. ( I find the kinesthetic swish diff to do ) Also . Sincerely..... Keith Dear Keith. The techniques work differently for different people. I am however writing to you as I have some selected problems than I am unable to deal with effectively. I am happy to write to you as I am doing quite well now…much better than the time I called you the first time. All Rights Reserved. I have a question. Another alternative might be an auditory swish for internal dialog.not the panic run away sort of thing but just to rest.I have been doing only the image swish .. Some find that one technique works best and stay with it. Every physical discomfort puts me in the feeling of "I could be better at home resting" . pg." Thirdly you could use the affect bridge to follow those feelings back to their source and then use the fast phobia cure on the original incident. The way to judge whether or not you need to do anything more is by how you feel. 43 . God Bless You...... Ashok Good work! Try an anchor collapse with those feelings. Better and Better.. Greetings! and Joy for the year 2003. Especially if you are actually saying to yourself "I could be better at home resting.. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC...and I feel dizzy when stressed ( i still dont run away ) what should I do there are no images now. I'm glad to hear you are doing well.it works best .Hi again ! I am doing well.
I have done a root cause and found that once I had a panic attack when I was alone in a cab in Bombay and was suffering from a sever cold and since then I fear traveling alone. This fear probably goes something like this.. 44 . for a sound . I repeatedly went to Bombay alone each time my fear became stronger until now – I don’t go very far from home alone. pg. 2. On one such occasion in the past I had to go to hospital to see my uncle and he passed away with a heart attack – I got a Panic attack – Result I fear death and hospitals ! ( I always had a slight fear of doctors and hospitals and now it went worse ) I feel highly stressed when there is a medical emergency. Please reply as and when you feel comfortable. stuffed nose etc. do a visual swish.) 2) Have a thought about it (the thought is probably almost instantaneous and at this point. I often suffer from sinus problems/breathing difficulties etc ( since childhood ) but now whenever I have a cold my pulse rate speeds up and I get scared at times that I may repeat my panic history. I get tense on job if I am not well. Thanking you for your kind help. 1) Have a physical sensation (such as difficulty breathing.1. The memory is faint and I have done a Fast Phobia cure many times… But I simply cant reduce the level of anxiety I feel when I have a cold. hyperventilation and high anxiety level) my level of work stress also goes up. All these factors sort of compounded in to agor..an auditory swish. you're probably not aware of it) 3) Have the fear It is the thought that drives the fear and if you can slow your thinking down enough to discover what the thought is. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. you can do a swish pattern on it. (heavens!) What picture do I swish to ? I don’t have many strong fearless memories! Dear keith. If it's an image. Good to hear from you! In that case. God Bless you. with your help I am way better but I still feel more comfortable with a relative even when on job (the safety factor). Given the condition above ( racing pulse. you need to explore what thoughts are creating the fear. All Rights Reserved. Ashok Hi Ashok.
feel the feelings and pull some images from that experience. keep working at it. What do you swish to? It doesn't have to be a memory where you're not afraid in the face of danger. run the techniques you've learned on it. It could be a memory where you're relaxing wonderfully or when you found something funny. But that feeling of panic often remains at the back of my mind the whole day. Keith Dear Keith.Yes. 45 . Adrenaline. get your body ready for emergencies. pg. You can also use the future pacing technique to create an image that gives you good feelings. All these factors ARE agoraphobia. in times of stress things get worse. you will get better and better. Think of someone you admire acting in a way you would like to act.God Bless you. Then step into that image. Also my daughter is 5 yrs and she fears masked people at parties Can I teach her NLP at this age ? Thanks in advance…. I am always benefited by your replies and I even read and reread your mails to give me a better insight. There are times when stress in response to a medical emergency might be a good thing. Thanks a million for your advice. Ashok Hello Ashok. I am able to sometimes track the jerking thought at the source but it just does not make sense – they are strange and Bizzare dreams !!! So how should I tackle these? Do you have people getting such kind of problems? Please reply at your convenience. I often don’t know what it was. The fight or flight response is there for a reason. blood flow changes etc. If it's a situation where those things don't help.. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. I hope this helps Ashok. For Now I do NLP ( swish ) even in the night on waking up. Yes you are right the thoughts associated with physical sensations are too fast for me to stop them and analyse them. Future pace how you'd like to react in various mental situations. Also at times I jerk out of sleep with racing pulse and sweting as if jolted from an unknown subconscious situation. All Rights Reserved.
46 . It’s been long since I wrote to you. Also it’s always been a pleasure to receive your valuable words of advice and encouragement. The subconscious mind doesn't operate with the same logic and the conscious mind. pg. Now here is where I still have problems… I have a great fear of Death !!! I am unable to attend Death Ceremonies !!! ( sad ! _ I have done fast Phobia cure on all death experiences and the sting is out but I cant get my self to attend to a death ceremony of people I know coz of fear I will get a spin in my head !!! or I will run away!!! I don’t still travel alone….Yes. You can use the techniques on thoughts whether or not they make sense. I gave a thank you speech when me and my wife were awarded the (information deleted) Award for the year 2002-2003 in my daughters (information deleted) program. All Rights Reserved. Kids love it and have great imaginations. trace them back to the source using the affect bridge technique and run the fast phobia cure on that experience. Sincerely. It doesn't matter if the thoughts you are having make sense. I have problems going to the barber for a hair cut !!! I cant stand being imprisoned in the chair for 30 mins or lesser !!! ( Funny !!!) Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. First of all a list of my achievements in the last 2 to 3 months!!! I have not taken even a single tablet of alprazolam !!! I gave a short welcome speech in front of 500 students in the auditorium. I am more peaceful in waking life and sleep better at night. Keith Dear Keith. Hope all is well. I thought I’d just mail and let you know how I am doing.I always travel only very short distances alone …. when you have them.and long distances with my wife. As for the feelings of panic. your daughter can benefit from NLP at her age.
I was teaching a seminar in Arizona and someone mentioned to me that Gerry had this fear. He didn't want to come up but enough coaxing from the class got him out of his seat. It wasn't until he was on his way Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. In case you have some feedback to give me or the experience in NLP in similar cases do mail me. After I explained the fast phobia cure I asked for volunteers. 47 . I feel greatly relieved talking to you as I know you understand… Warm Regards. Hello Ashok. Become more aware of your thoughts and deal with those thoughts using one of the techniques in the book. Sorry it took me so long to reply.. Here's my reply. It's something you can do yourself. Congratulations on your successes. I never knew how many phobias I picked up in my life but I am grateful to you for having been my guide. I stared at Gerry. I am confident that even these things will soon be a matter of the past but I guess I am not doing something right or these too should have vanished !!! Residual anxiety traces etc are now my target…. You might try the whole lot of them on the residual anxiety you have. As to the things you haven't been able to take care of yet. very intelligent man who had a fear of public speaking.I don’t go to houses of people I don’t know as I feel I will feel uncomfortable!!! Dear Keith I have lots to thank you for…. Ashok could keep hammering away with the NLP techniques and may be able to take care of his remaining fears. my answers are almost always the same. let me know what kind of results you get. Keith Livingston Gerry . Sincerely. I'll just give you a link. All Rights Reserved. We'd got a lot accomplished and Ashok has a set of tools he can use to better his life in many ways. I'll give you another resource to go to as well. knowing he had this phobia.Fear of Public Speaking Gerry is a good natured. Rather than explain it. pg. I thought it was time to give him access to some new tools and techniques. Ashok You can see by his list of accomplishments that Ashok had made tremendous progress.
I turned him around and had him open his eyes and he felt a fairly strong tension. "You turned public speaking from a fear to a calm feeling inside them. he said that he would consider treatment effective if he could go into a certain building at his school and look out of the window without fear. His symptoms were typical.seanstephenson.com/ Tom Tom was a gentleman who was so afraid of heights that he once fainted just from standing out on a balcony. We stepped back and "looked at the Gerry standing there in front of the audience being uncomfortable" while I used the good feelings anchor I'd established earlier. rapid breathing.. shaking. And it was absolutely incredible to see.up that I realized I was just about to attempt to cure a fear of public speaking in front of a crowd! When Gerry neared the front of the room I asked him to face away from the audience. I asked him how he felt and he said he was OK facing away. My first phone session with Tom was not that easy.. Then using an NLP technique called anchoring I helped him get some good feelings in his body. I turned him away from the audience again. we had a language barrier and it took several tries before he sufficiently understood what I was saying. Visit Sean's inspirational web site. He even made a little impromptu speech! Sean Stephenson from Elevation Magazine was in the audience and interviewed me about my work.. Gerry felt fine in that position.htm to hear the rest of the interview. After we stepped him in to his role model he felt pretty good up in front of the group. http://www. have dinner in a revolving restaurant many stories high and feel comfortable on a cruise he was soon to take (those ships sit very high out of the water). rapid heartbeat etc." Sean Stephenson Connect to the internet and go to http://www. Here's part of what he had to say.com/audio. Then I asked him to close his eyes and face the audience .. shortness of breath.phobiascured. Here is what he reported after his first session. We talked.he was OK with that too. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. What he didn't realize at this point was that he was already in front of a crowd feeling OK! Just feeling OK isn't good enough for me so we used another technique designed to build a mental role model and create the same emotional and mental state that your role model has when speaking. pg. 48 . All Rights Reserved. sweating.
i feel that i am a least 50% cured i will call you at 3. escaped and made us chase him. I asked for volunteers from the audience who had a phobia. "hi . Tom went on the cruise and reported that he felt fine. and i just could not believe that i made it to the top. No snake was willing to cooperate however. Bill volunteered. wanting to prove to Bill that he was cured. every thing today was a breeze compaired to the last time. The snake. We found a couple of incidents in his life (using the affect bridge technique) related to snakes. Here is an email he sent after the second session. His most noticeable symptom (besides fear) was a tingling feeling in his hands. so i went to the bottom floor and i proceded to do it alover again and it felt a lot better .bye tom" Tom felt he needed some additional work He had misunderstood some of the instructions I'd given him but it seemed to work just the same! We worked on the residual fear and straightened out the instructions and went over some additional situations in his past that he felt might have played a role in the formation of his phobia. Much swearing ensued. so i went to this other lower balcony and i used the method of looking at my feet and that realy works great.but i looked out trough the window .again i just came back from the post graduate school and i went straight to the top but the balcony door was locked . when i left in my car tears started because i felt relieved because i made it to the top even with anciety and so grateful to you. Tingling or numbness in the hands or arms is a symptom I've run across many times when working with phobias but it is rarely mentioned in psychology textbooks. Bill's fear of snakes was long-standing but not severe. somebody with a snake phobia volunteers! Truthfully. The snake crawled behind an old soft-drink machine and made himself hard to reach. This particular conference was being held in a sort of hut with a sand floor. why did it have to be snakes?" When teaching a seminar in Belize. I was ready to test our work.a short one. i did feel some anciety. pg. Bill and I worked for about 1/2 hour in front of the group."hi keith i went to the post graduate school and went to the top balcony were i was before with almost no anciety .i climbed to the top balcony which is about 40 more feet up and i didnt open the door . Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. i will let you know how the cruise went. thanks again tom" We had a third session . "Snakes. I asked one of the staff at the resort to catch me a non-poisonous snake (thanks Gonzo)! Within a couple of days we had our test. 49 . It seems that whenever I film. Another one for the good guys! Bill Sometimes I feel like Indiana Jones from Raiders of the Lost Ark. Bill had a longtime phobia of snakes.30 on monday. We ran them through the NLP fast phobia cure. All Rights Reserved. I don't recall much about it.
.. You can see the results on my tape The Phobia Cure Video but I'll let you in on a secret. 1) Stand about 1 foot from a bare wall. I found out that only 9 of the 54 varieties of snakes in Belize are dangerous. All Rights Reserved. 50 . Many phobias include this element. So what happens if you concentrate on all the things that could start to go wrong? I think you get the point. Bill was able to hold the snake and felt perfectly fine. If you can concentrate on this idea strongly enough. My breathing sped up and I started to sweat as my inner dialog descended into a swirling cacophony of "what ifs?" I knew I had to do something to change my state of mind. When I was training for this work nobody warned me about having to deal with snake poop! Later on. facing away from it. and is proof that it does not take 10 to 20 weeks to see a significant improvement in phobia treatment. 3) Close you eyes and begin concentrating on the thought of falling over backward. How would it appear if a phobia expert was nervous? One of the most common mistakes people make is to focus on what might go wrong. I began to think about all the people watching and about what could go wrong. pg.. Most of the folks attending paid several thousand dollars to be there. Make images in your mind's eye of falling backward and silently repeat "I'm falling backward" over and over. Believe it or not. this fear of Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. As I was sitting in my dressing room waiting to go on I started to get nervous. Rachel Recently (December of 2002) I was asked to appear on a national television show (with over 2 million viewers). I brought him out to see how Bill would react. you'll find yourself beginning to fall backward! You see. so I reached behind the machine and grabbed him behind the head. the mind begins to carry out the things you imagine. when you're about to do something it's best to focus on what you want to happen.. I had been asked to appear as an expert on phobias.Gonzo had told me that the snake was not poisonous. While there are times when it's good to consider possible roadblocks and dangers. You can learn the same techniques I used to help Bill in this book. Do this little experiment to find out how important it is. The Phobia Cure Video is of me teaching the phobia cure techniques to therapists and others. Imagine the sensations of falling over backward. the snake then relieved himself on us. 2) Put your feet together and tilt your head back until you are looking straight up at the ceiling.
confident and effective. All Rights Reserved. pg.having the fear. wonderfully confident. Then I mentally "stepped in" to that image and took on the posture.) The American Psychiatric Association says you can expect "noticeable improvement in 10 to 20 weeks and a tremendous improvement within one year" in the treatment of phobias. The most daunting task was them giving me 10 minutes to work with a woman (Rachel) who had a phobia of snakes so severe that she couldn't even watch TV for fear that she would see a snake by accident. confident and effective. It was as if I was watching myself from a distance.not what might go wrong. It's a good thing I had decided to prepare myself because I was thrown several curve balls during the show. I also began to visualize what I looked like when I was calm. I wanted to use a powerful technique to make that focus and concentration even more powerful. I knew that 10 minutes wasn't enough (even the NLP fast phobia cure takes about 15 minutes." Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. often imagine themselves outside of their comfort zone. I wanted to focus my mind on what I wanted to happen . wonderfully confident. 51 . felt and sounded when in those modes. I then started repeating my "mantra" over and over to myself. Then I imagined myself going through the show feeling those positive sensations.) Since I've used this technique (a form of Future Pacing from this book) a number of times and am quite familiar with the steps I went through it very quickly. wonderfully confident. breathing and internal sensations. for instance. I noticed how I looked. "wonderfully calm. The phrase "wonderfully calm. Agoraphobics. Each time I ran in to a potential problem my voice came back to me. wonderfully effective. I was ready to go! Within a couple of minutes I was sitting down in front of the cameras ready to roll. wonderfully effective" and focusing on the task at hand. Even before I started the technique my state began to improve (I had already begun focusing on what I wanted. Since I only had a few minutes I knew it had to be quick! I began to think about what mental and emotional states would help me be my best in this situation. I knew that more than 2 million people were waiting to see what I could do. confident and effective. I noticed my posture and breathing when calm. wonderfully effective" sprang to mind. I was making the same mistake. I had 10 minutes. The nervousness I had felt transformed to excitement. She couldn't eat pasta because it was shaped like a snake! As we headed backstage to do the work my mind was focused on the task at hand. having a panic attack. At first I "saw myself" being calm. But inside I was saying "wonderfully calm.
That's about the average person's reaction to snakes and a far cry from her reaction ten minutes earlier." She would hear the word. People's eyes move around when they are talking. I asked her what was going on and she said that she had felt immediate relief "like a big weight came off my shoulders. We then did what is called a "rubber-band" visual swish pattern (You'll learn the visual swish pattern in the NLP techniques section of the book). As Rachel and I headed backstage.But enough about me. I started to do an anchor collapse (another NLP technique in this book) when one of the show's producers knocked on the door and told us we were due back onstage. I commented that we only had a few minutes so we'd have to move fast. I introduced myself and apologized for not having the time to get to know her. As the show went to break the host announced that I would go backstage to work with Rachel. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. images or feelings stored in the memory or imagination. 52 . she would feel fear. her eyes would shift to a particular location just before she would shudder with fear. I could hear her relay the information back to the stage through her headset. pg. In other words. All Rights Reserved. I could see her react when he mentioned the word "snakes. I guessed she had an image of a snake in her mind's eye and that she was looking at it. One of the reasons the eyes move is to access different sounds. Let's talk about Rachel. I was reasonably confident she had an image of a snake there. As I watched Rachel talk to the host of the show. This type of image is usually outside of conscious awareness. don't you?" She started to get tears in her eyes and said "yes. I told the producer we needed another 30 seconds. Rachel's eyes started to water even more. I said "you have an image of a snake there. Since Rachel was consistently looking in the same place each time before she shuddered. Rachel would not be aware she was making the image unless I called her attention to it." It was a lucky break for me! I had guessed accurately. Whenever she looked at it. Within about 20 seconds we had done the anchor collapse (Rachel was an ideal client) and her relief was obvious." We did a bit more work with the disturbing image as it was not completely gone. This may sound kind of odd but we all do it. I pointed to the direction that she had been looking in just before she shuddered. We went back to my dressing room and I sat her down. Rachel didn't want to touch it but was comfortable being a few feet away from it. listening or thinking. We went back out under the cameras and a live snake was brought out.
Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC.I interviewed Rachel after the show." Pretty good for ten minutes. All Rights Reserved. 53 . pg. in her words her phobia was "98% better.
The talks (2of them) went smashingly. where you turned public speaking from a fear to a calm feeling inside them. The techniques are well-presented and a lot of thought has gone into modifying them Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. pg.. we only had one 40 minute phone session together yesterday---but something sure clicked. Thanks so very much.Testimonials These are all comments from people who have experienced or seen NLP phobia relief methods in action." From A Single Session Phobia Cure: Available on video.com/single-session.htm "This book is a comprehensive resource for those seeking help for phobias. in once of your sessions. All Rights Reserved. Phttp://www.phobiascured.com Keith: "Is there anything you have to say to people who have suffered from phobias for 20 years." Kristine: "It's easier than you could ever imagine to get over it." Sean Stephenson Elevation Magazine http://www. I got rave comments and felt totally calm and in control at every moment. "Dear Keith.seanstephenson. Walt" "I saw an individual once. I was a bit dubious that something so easy and simple could really work that fast---after all. And it was absolutely incredible to see. Always Here. 54 ..
If you have a phobia and want a fast. All Rights Reserved.org "I had the pleasure of witnessing Keith Livingston cure a colleague of his phobia of public speaking in less than 20 minutes. You can use the techniques he provides you with not only to get rid of phobias but to reach goals and remove roadblocks. I have seen for myself what these techniques can do. MNLP. BSBA Director and President Rowan Peackock. so i went to Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC.Ht. and even enjoyable time getting rid of it forever. pg.all in front of a live audience!!! Keith Livingston weaves his skill." Michael Bennett President Bennett/Stellar University http://www..com http://www. You could spend thousands of dollars and years getting that information yourself ." Rowan Peacock C. Prepare to be amazed . and i just could not believe that i made it to the top. i did feel some anciety.experience this book for yourself.so that people can empower themselves for change rather than depending on some therapist somewhere.i climbed to the top balcony which is about 40 more feet up and i didnt open the door .but i looked out trough the window .or you could buy his book. Get this book to achieve Lasting Change. 55 . I have worked with Keith extensively and have personally seen him do away with phobias over and over again . painless.rowanpeacock.imagineit. humor and talent into magical interventions.at a speed that traditional psychology would have you believe is not possible. see Keith" Ben Goldfarb Director and Founder Paradigm Communications International "hi keith i went to the post graduate school and went to the top balcony were i was before with almost no anciety . I would recommend this book to someone I love. This writing is the culmination of years of study and hundreds of hours of working with phobics.com "What Keith has put together in this book is no less than a compilation of the most powerful and dynamic techniques for personal change in existence.
i feel that i am a least 50% cured i will call you at 3. i will let you know how the cruise went. 56 .bye tom" "hi .thanks again tom" Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. All Rights Reserved. so i went to this other lower balcony and i used the method of looking at my feet and that realy works great .30 on monday. pg.the bottom floor and i proceded to do it alover again and it felt a lot better .again i just came back from the post graduate school and i went straight to the top but the balcony door was locked . when i left in my car tears started because i felt relieved because i made it to the top even with anciety and so grateful to you.every thing today was a breeze compaired to the last time.
" but to feel comfortable in a situation where previously that had not been possible. the images and sounds that are going on inside your mind when you enter your phobic situation. In general. if any. Your best bet is to use all of the techniques until you find one that works for you. here is the best order in which to use these techniques.do it. If you have an easy and safe way to test your work . Some people get better results with the fast phobia cure. Then use the Fast Phobia Cure on each of the memories you uncover. begin to become more aware of your internal thoughts. First. Click Here. you may benefit from using the Finding Root Causes technique to locate events which may have led to creating the phobia. in the past you. If this doesn't take care of it. others with the swish patterns or collapsing anchors. All Rights Reserved. imagine yourself in some future situation where. Future Pacing is then used to teach your subconscious mind how you want it to act. would have had a phobic reaction. Many people have told me that they are now bored in the situation that was formerly a serious problem.NLP Techniques for Phobias Overview: How to Use the NLP Phobia Cure Techniques If you have had or suspect extreme trauma or sexual abuse in your past. when you make those images or sounds inside your mind. 57 . The object is not for you to "tough it out. you should be reasonably comfortable. use the Auditory Swish or the Visual Swish patterns to deal with those thoughts. If you’d like to hear a demonstration of me using the Fast Phobia cure. If you are not yet comfortable. you feel anxiety. If you are still not comfortable. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. when they use these techniques experience a profound shift in their feelings. The Collapsing Anchors can be used on residual anxiety. If. Click Here. start again with the Fast Phobia Cure technique. Use the Fast Phobia Cure on this imagined situation. If you’d like to hear a demonstration of me using the Fast Phobia Cure. I'm not talking about a 10% improvement but a radical improvement or obliteration of the old phobic response. Keeping in mind that there will be some natural excitement and anticipation. Different people respond to these techniques differently. Make sure you test your former phobia in a safe way. use these techniques only with a trained mental-health professional. pg. Move out of your phobic situation and then mentally recreate those same images and sounds. Most people.
If you are still not comfortable watching the movie from a distance. and rewind even more quickly (2 seconds or less). Run your experience from before the you on the screen is uncomfortable until after you are OK again. associate in. Now. Associate into the situation (put yourself there mentally). rate your feelings on a scale of 1 . starting again with the still image at the end of the film. silly music). make the scene silly (clown noses and floppy shoes on everyone. Blank out your "mental screen. See yourself on the screen as well as any others present in the event. All Rights Reserved. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. 4. Associate into that image (put yourself in that image mentally). 6. One you is in the movie.10. 2. 8. Rate your level of discomfort on a scale of 1 . Now dissociate and see the experience from a distance on a small black & white screen.let's help that part of the mind understand more fully so it can help protect you more effectively. pg. you can imagine yourself watching yourself.Fast Phobia Cure When to use this technique: Use this technique on any memory or imagined event that is causing anxiety. 1. 5. Quickly rewind (it's important to do this part at high speed and to go all the way backwards until you get to a point before the incident). 11. 10. Change various aspects of the movie to make it more and more silly (I often add beanie hats to people). watching the movie. Think about the situation again. In other words. Make sure you have read the book and understand how phobias work before you use this technique. another you is watching the movie. you may benefit from dissociating one more level. Think of a situation where you would normally experience a phobic reaction. Watch it all the way through many people learn something of value when watching from a distance. Remember these two important facts: • • The phobia was learned in an instant and can be unlearned just as quickly. 7. Repeat steps 5-7 several times. At the end of the scene (when the you on the screen is feeling OK again) make it a still image. 3. You are that third you and are separated from the action on the screen.10 Repeat the entire process until you're comfortable thinking about the situation. 58 . A part of the mind has been protecting you from something it perceives as dangerous . It's as if there are three of you. (Optional) Watch it again. the third you is watching the you that's watching the movie." 9.
Though it's usually not necessary to uncover these events. sometimes we don't remember where or when they started. Repeat the process several times finding different memories each time." People often find that when these events are uncovered and resolved their phobia is drastically reduced or is gone completely. 5.Affect Bridge (Finding Root Causes) This is a technique designed to uncover any forgotten memories that may have played a part in creating your phobia. These initializing events could seem unrelated to the phobia so allow your mind to be open about what you remember. if you've done the Fast Phobia Cure and still aren't feeling comfortable it may be helpful to remember and reprocess these "initializing events. put yourself in it mentally). Only a small percentage of hypnotherapists know this technique and few of them are aware it is just as effective in the waking state. Repeat the process once again. except in step 2 say "Go to the earliest time I felt these sensations." 6. 1. inside your mind) "Go to an earlier time when I had these same sensations. Notice everything you can about the sensations. Deal with the root cause and each of the memories you found using one of the other processes until they are comfortable to think about. 4. 59 . 2. Phobias can be created in an instant. Notice what memories you get. This technique comes from hypnotherapy. All Rights Reserved. the root cause of these feelings. Continue feeling the sensations in your body and say to yourself (silently. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. pg. Get the anxious feelings (think of a situation that produces the anxiety." 3.
1. if you feel some anxiety you've discovered an important component of your phobia. I want to know what it is they are creating in their "mind's eye" or "mind's ear" when they are in their phobic situation. Start with the anxiety producing image big and bright and your relaxing image as a small dark dot in one corner of the anxiety image. 60 . I was consulting with a client a few days ago .notice what internal imagery and sounds are going on when you feel anxiety. She replied that she thought she might drive over the edge or that the bridge might collapse. feeling the way you want to feel. When she looked at those pictures (even when she wasn't on or near a bridge) she felt fear. Put yourself mentally into your phobic situation . if you're afraid of speaking in public. 2. Make the image in your mind. Her subconscious mind was using those images to create her fear. rather than "be yourself." 4. For internal sounds you hear use the auditory swish. Think of an image that helps you feel strong positive emotions (usually a dissociated picture of yourself accomplishing your goal just the way you want to) then blank your "mental screen. If you take care of those images you can substantially reduce or eliminate the fear.The Visual "Swish" Pattern When working with phobias I often ask people to mentally put themselves in a situation in which they felt that fear. The visual swish is for any internal images you might discover that lead to lessthan-resourceful feelings. Many NLP experts recommend that you use a dissociated image of yourself accomplishing what it is you want to accomplish. Blank your "mental screen. feeling calm and confident. pg. for images you discover go to the next step. All Rights Reserved. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. When she thought about it she realized that she was "imagining it. use an image of yourself speaking in public. I asked her if she had images in her mind of those things happening. In other words. It leads you from fear producing images to images that lead to positive feelings.she had a fear of driving over bridges. I asked her what she imagined might happen if she did drive over a bridge." If you can't do that then use any image that helps you feel strong positive emotions." literally making pictures in her mind's eye. I ask them to pay attention to any internal images or sounds that come into awareness. For this exercise you'll need a mental image that gives you strong positive emotions. Dissociated means you "see yourself" in the image (as if you're looking from the vantage point of a movie camera)." 3.
This is the "swish" part. Repeat steps 4. 5 and 6 until you feel comfortable when you try to think of the old image. 6. All Rights Reserved. Blank out your mental screen 7. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. Quickly expand and brighten the relaxing image while simultaneously shrinking and darkening the old anxiety image (it's important to do this quickly). pg. It's important to do these processes forward. people report that they cannot get the old image back. Always "swish" from the bad to the good! Typically. Never "swish" from the good image or sound to the bad image or sound.5. comfortable image or that the old image has changed in some way to make them more comfortable. 61 . or it automatically goes to the new.
Run the sound/phrase backwards at high speed a few times. Say the phrase to yourself (silently in your mind) in a distressed tone of voice. 9. Do this until it's automatic ( you start with the old voice and the new voice comes in automatically). 6. Repeat the entire process until you're comfortable This next process is for other internal sounds you might discover that leads to less-than-resourceful feelings. rating your feelings on a scale of 1 . 3.10. It's important to do these processes forward. 7. Rate your level of discomfort on a scale of 1 . Typically they are saying "calm down" or "everything is going to be fine" or "breathe deeply" or some other useful phrase. Many people use cartoon characters' voices. Start the phrase in your distressed tone of voice and very quickly switch it to your resource voice. I ask them to pay attention to any internal sounds or sounds that come into awareness. Put yourself mentally into your phobic situation . With fear of public speaking I routinely discover that people have internal dialog going on inside their heads. This is the "swish" part. On to the next step. The problem is that their internal tone of voice is often very stressed out! To the subconscious mind tonality may be more important than the words themselves. For images use the visual swish. for sounds that are not words go here. Recreate the sound in your mind.Auditory "Swish" Pattern When working with phobias I often ask people to mentally put themselves in a situation in which they felt that fear. Say the phrase again and notice how you feel. a voice that's very funny or silly. 62 . 4. Think of a "resource voice". 8. Repeat the last step several times. I want to know what it is they are creating in their "mind's eye" or "mind's ear" when they are in their phobic situation. pg. All Rights Reserved. Always "swish" from the bad to the good! Auditory Swish for Internal Dialog 1. if you feel anxiety just hearing the sound then you've discovered an important component of your fear. for internal dialog go to the next step. coming in with the resource voice more quickly each time. 5. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. 2. This next process is for those internal dialog you might discover that leads to less-than-resourceful feelings. Never "swish" from the good image or sound to the bad image or sound.notice what internal imagery and sounds are going on when you feel anxiety.10.
5 and 6 until you feel comfortable when you try to think of the old sounds. for sounds that are internal dialog go here.Auditory Swish for other sounds 1. All Rights Reserved. Typically. Put yourself mentally into your phobic situation . for sounds that are not words go to the next step. This is the "swish" part.notice what internal imagery and sounds are going on when you feel anxiety. 7. Repeat steps 4. Start with the anxiety producing sound loud and close to your ears and your relaxing sound distant and quiet. comfortable sound or that the old sound has changed in some way to make them more comfortable. pg. 2. It's important to do this fast. or it automatically goes to the new. Distract yourself. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. Quickly send the anxiety producing sound away (it gets quieter) as the relaxing sound grows closer and louder. Think of a sound that relaxes you. 6. For internal images you see. Make the sound in your mind. if you feel some anxiety you've discovered an important component of your phobia. 5. 63 . Distract yourself for a moment to get rid of the feeling. use the visual swish. people report that they cannot get the old sound back. 4. then distract yourself again. 3.
When you are able to feel some percentage of your phobia touch your index fingers together.the state that you'd like to feel in your phobic situation. Re-live that memory. Change your body position. Touch your thumbs together again. This connection between a stimulus (in this case. You have now established an anchor for those negative feelings. Think of a time when you had that positive emotional state. You should begin to feel some off the positive feelings. Now think about something else for a moment. Now mentally put yourself into you or phobic situation. One way to do this is to think of a time when the feelings were particularly strong. If you do. 1. The first part of this process is establishing anchors for a strong positive feeling and for the phobia. 2. Change your body position. 6. 8. Notice the sensations that the positive feelings produce. You have now established an anchor for those positive feelings. All Rights Reserved. Now think about something else for a moment. When you have those feelings as intense as you can get them.Anchoring Anchoring is simply a process of attaching a response to certain stimulus. shake the feelings off. Ivan Pavlov rang a bell at the same time as he fed his dogs. 4. 3. shake it off think about something else. the dogs would begin to salivate whenever Pavlov rang the bell. Get those feelings up and running in your body. if your fear is spiders maybe you'd like to feel calm or peaceful or alert or relaxed. First. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. the sound of a bell) and a response (in this case salivation) is what NLP calls an anchor. to alter the negative emotional reaction of a phobia. pg. you begin to feel the positive feelings. We use anchors to help people access positive emotional states and to shift out of negative emotional states. 7. 64 . shake the feeling off. find some positive emotional state . Do this until touching your index fingers together gives you the feeling of anxiety. shake the feeling off. Each time you touch your thumbs together you'll get those feelings. Collapsing anchors uses a positive anchor and a negative anchor. 5. In other words. Eventually. Touch your index fingers together again and notice if you begin to feel anxiety. touch your thumbs together. Where are they located in your body? Allow those feelings to grow more intense. Now think about something else for moment. Get the feelings up and running in your body. and its corresponding positive emotional state. We use the positive anchor. begin to feel anxiety again and touch your index fingers together again. If you don't. If not. experience the feelings. go back and repeat the exercise until when you touch your thumbs together. Change your body position.
you want to feel really good doing this. Eventually you will be able to have both your thumbs and your index fingers touching while still feeling fine. 65 . pg. Go to a neutral emotional state by distracting yourself then test the anchor. When you are able to do this hold that position for 30 seconds or so you are done! At first you may feel some combination of the states. Occasionally move your index fingers apart. Make sure the positive feelings are more intense by emphasizing the positive anchor. Test by thinking of a related situation that would have bothered you in the past If you can't get the anchors established Usually people have 2 main ways of remembering or thinking about things associated or dissociated. use first the positive anchor and then bring in the negative anchor. with your thumbs still touching. Continue to build those positive feelings by keeping your thumbs touching. Make sure you get them nice and intense. touch your index fingers together. Shake the feelings off once again. If you are dissociated you are remembering as if the event happened to someone else.9. 4. • • • • • • • Establish a positive anchor. Collapsing Anchors 1. Notice how you feel. We have now established our positive anchor (the thumbs) and an anchor for the phobia (the index fingers). Just for moment. Keep doing this until you can hold both anchors and feel just fine. 2. 3. People dissociate by "seeing themselves" Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. Now. All Rights Reserved. and re-establish the full intensity of the positive feelings. When you have the anchors firmly established. Now touch you or thumbs together and get those good positive feelings up and running in your body. Always make sure that the positive feelings are stronger than the not so positive feelings. without touching your thumbs or index fingers together think about your formerly phobic situation. Go to a neutral emotional state by distracting yourself then test the negative anchor. Establish an anchor for the phobia. Eventually you'll feel fairly normal. Here's the process described in another way.
" If you are having a difficult time getting either the positive or negative feelings make sure you are associated into the memory. All Rights Reserved. pg. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. looking out of your own eyes and hearing through your own ears. Be "in" the memory. 66 .rather than "being themselves. Using the positive resource anchor during the Fast Phobia Cure You can establish a positive resource state by anchoring and then using the anchor to help in the NLP Fast Phobia Cure. Develop a strong positive anchor and use it in the Fast Phobia Cure step where you watch the scene dissociated.
see yourself acting just as your role model did. In other words. the tone of their voice (if applicable). 2.Future Pacing (New Behavior Generator) When reduce or eliminate a phobia the subconscious mind now has instructions on how NOT to act. the same breathing. 3. become the person on the screen. step into that image. Think of someone who reacts like you want to react in your formerly phobic situation. tonality. the same quality of moment movements and the same expression on your face. Anchor a resourceful feeling. We use a role model. the expression on their face and other details. 1.) Note: Though it's not necessary. watching yourself and stepping into yourself. what your role model's posture is. see your role model on the movie screen in the situation that bothered you. Future pacing is a process in which we teach our subconscious minds just how to react. Notice how your role model breathes. notice certain things about the role model and then take on those attributes. Repeat from step 2 several times with variations (if you were afraid of bridges. if you had fear of public speaking think about someone who's calm and relaxed just the way you want to be when you speak. Imagine that you have a movie screen in front of you. But do we know HOW to act? Future pacing makes sure we do. Make sure that you (up on the screen) keep the same posture. 6. pg. the quality of your role model's movements. 5. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. Use that anchor when you are watching your role model. Now. 4. In other words. 67 . use several different bridges. the same quality of movements and the same expression on your face. All Rights Reserved. Make sure you keep the same posture. If there are any adjustments to make go ahead make them to get it just the way you want it. you can use the skill you developed in the collapsing anchors exercise to enhance this process. a feeling you would like to have in your formerly phobic situation. In other words. 7. performing just the way you want to. if it was fear of flying use several different flights etc. Use future pacing after you have reduced or eliminated your phobia using the other techniques. the same breathing. When you have it just the way you want it. adjust it so that your role model is acting just how you want to. gradually change the image of the role model into you. If that's not exactly the way you want to act.
some of the most common and recommended phobia treatments are not backed up by evidence! Some of these ineffective phobia treatments are mainstream. Freud himself acknowledged the limitations of pure psychoanalysis in treating phobias. decreasing general anxiety. The effectiveness of these traditional forms of therapy based on psychodynamic or interpersonal theories of anxiety lack empirical support. psychoanalysis and related forms of psychotherapy prove disappointing in the treatment of phobias. I’ll tell you about those too. Many of them don't work. Psychoanalysis According to the Surgeon General of the United States there are no empirical studies to support psychodynamic theories of phobic symptoms as an expression of underlying conflicts. Here is what the Department of Social and Human Services says about psychoanalysis for the treatment of phobias. pg. There. I give you my opinions on how I would approach a phobia. The knowledge you will posses. after completely reading and digesting this book. here's where we take on the big boys. more traditional therapies are generally de-emphasized in evidence-based treatment guidelines for anxiety disorders. for years. to help them "work on their phobia. There are also some whacky treatments out there. As a result.Phobia Treatments OK." This makes me mad! Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. Some of them even work. counselor or psychiatrist. accepted and likely to be used by your doctor. "Unfortunately. All Rights Reserved. will surpass most of the experts you meet. But the phobic symptoms themselves often remain. 68 ." In spite of the growing evidence. and identifying and modifying feelings and thoughts associated with panic attacks and phobic avoidance. Psychoanalysis is based on these theories. Surprisingly. Don't let the degrees up on the wall fool you. Patients usually find the therapy helpful in resolving conflict. you can still find lots of psychoanalysts willing to charge people $125/hour or more. There are a lot of phobia treatments out there. The last part of this chapter is a "My Recommendations" section.
perceptions and behaviors. There is now extensive evidence that cognitive-behavioral therapies are useful treatments for a majority of patients with anxiety disorders. but desensitization is not as effective as flooding for agoraphobia. These theories have some empirical evidence to support them. this therapeutic method does not utilize the methods of subconscious communication but tries to Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC.if you "carefully follow the outlined treatment plan. The cognitive-behavioral therapies (CBT) look at the apparent cause and effect relationships between thoughts. Exposure therapy often calls for repeated. desensitization and flooding are all forms of cognitivebehavioral therapy. When this process is carried out over a period of months. Exposure therapy.Translation: If you go to get counseling for your anxiety or phobia .do not go to someone who uses psychodynamic or interpersonal theories. All Rights Reserved. According to a pamphlet from the American Psychiatric Association here's what you can expect from a qualified therapist . These therapies are usually cognitive-behavioral in nature. The typical number of cognitivebehavioral sessions in this study was 6. pg. it is called "flooding. it is known as "progressive desensitization. There is no proof that they work. A tremendous improvement within one year." Noticeable improvement in 10 to 20 weeks. CBT makes a some big mistakes. 69 ." When the exposure to the fear is continued and intensified over a single protracted length of time. Although this information is in a pamphlet of theirs. The Bottom Line: Don't go to a psychoanalyst for phobia treatment. They have found that the two forms of treatment are about equally effective: Both reduce phobic anxiety and behavior in people with simple phobias. neither method appears to be very effective for social phobics. For one. and give relatively straightforward strategies to lessen symptoms. Although not well studied." Exposure therapy de-links your fear from it stimulus by exposing you to your fear for so long that your body and mind grow tired of reproducing the fear. feelings. painful exposure to the fear. In another study (source APA) cognitive behavioral approaches were found more effective than non cognitive-behavioral approaches. in my opinion. This therapy increases exposure to the phobia. A number of researchers have compared desensitization and flooding. Cognitive-Behavioral Therapies According to the Surgeon General there has been increasing enthusiasm for more efficient therapies that address ways of coping with anxiety symptoms more directly. often a period of several hours or more. some cognitive-behavioral practitioners can get results more quickly.
Most people can get their phobic feelings going without and airplane or a spider present. Because this has been such an important treatment method. My Take: Cognitive-behavioral methods are probably the most studied and well-proven methods for the treatment of phobias.get to the subconscious mind through the conscious mind. Most people can get their fears up and running by thinking about going into their phobic situation (those who can't. The Bottom Line: Cognitive-behavioral approaches are effective for simple phobias. CBT is a good choice. I have some tips for you later on). Thirdly. The methods were found to be equally effective and the study participants expressed equal satisfaction with both treatments. Make no mistake. Sometimes I wonder. it is a totally unnecessary type of treatment.. for instance). After Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC.. lengthy. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy makes some crucial mistakes . If you want to go with the most proven method. it is not needed. many forms of CBT use the phobic situation itself to get emotions running. At the bottom of the article I'll comment on some things mentioned in the article so you'll understand more fully. What is needed. painful exposure to the phobic situation is not needed. For those who can not get their emotions going by thinking about their phobia. Virtual Reality According to the American Psychological Association. Various studies show that using imagination works as well as being in the actual phobic situation for many people. this would be it. if you know how to communicate with the subconscious is a brief feeling of a small portion of the fear. CBT works. Treatment may range from 6 to 12 sessions or considerably longer. Using a virtual reality flight simulator for 8 sessions over a 6 week period they tested virtual reality fear of flying treatment against standard exposure therapy. I've included an article about CBT and Social Anxiety. 70 . Why would you need a computer mock-up of an airplane when just thinking about getting on an airplane gives a fear of flying sufferer the heebiejeebies? Though it can work. virtual reality treatments can be as effective as exposure based treatments. All Rights Reserved. This is very inefficient and time consuming. Treatment involves exposure to or confrontation of the phobia. Also. pg.that's why it takes longer than some other methods. This is not practical for lots of phobias (fear of flying requires a plane. Secondly.
71 . The treatment window is long and the equipment is quite expensive. The Bottom Line: This method has limited applications and is impractical for most people. This treatment was thought up by people who really. Withdrawal symptoms for these drugs can be severe. Start with. RUN. Department of Health and Human Services I am not a doctor. Furthermore. The second case for drugs would be if every other treatment alternative had been explored and hadn't worked! There are way too many options that have some chance of working for drugs to be a first line of defense. Xanax. All Rights Reserved. Research has proven that drugs do not cure phobias (except in some cases with children). we have the most advanced virtual reality simulator in the universe between our ears. for most phobias. The idea is to have the drug be a temporary measure to help them out of that short-term situation. pg. My take: From early evidence virtual reality seems an effective method. Paxil and other addictive drugs are sometimes prescribed for phobic. most treatment alternatives don't have advertising and lobbying budgets in the hundreds of millions of dollars like the pharmaceutical companies . anxiety and panic situations. but certain medications may help reduce symptoms of anxiety before one faces a phobic situation. drugs have not even been proven effective as a treatment. really don't understand how the mind works." That is.S. Source: U. I'm not a doctor but it doesn't take a genius to say "Be careful". let alone a cure. Due to extremely limited availability you probably won't be able to find a solution for your phobia in virtual reality therapy. don't walk. What this means is that if a doctor prescribes drugs for your phobia you need to ask some hard questions. "How long will I have to be on this medication?" If the doctor has no plans for evaluating your condition and getting you off the drug. Unfortunately. nor do I believe in chemical intervention as a first response unless absolutely necessary. they have an important flight or they are depressed to the point of suicide. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. One is when the drug is to help someone "get over the hump. Drugs Quick fact: There is no proven drug treatment for specific phobias.all. There are two cases when I can see drugs being prescribed for phobias. to another doctor.
lorazepam. both Paxil and Xanax are addictive (according to DrugInfo. pharmacokinetics (i.I've run across many people who's physician prescribed Paxil. If you wish to get off these drugs. Nancy Snyderman pointed out on a 20/20 expose' that it may take patients up to a year to get off this drug safely. Side effects and withdrawal symptoms of anti-anxiety drugs are often similar to the symptoms of phobias! In my opinion drug therapies introduce needless risk . Benzodiazepines differ in terms of potency.. The benzodiazepines are thought to exert their therapeutic effects by enhancing the inhibitory neurotransmitter systems utilizing GABA. Benzodiazepines bind to a site on the GABA receptor and act as receptor agonists (Perry et al. and lipid solubility.net. elimination half-life).e. and the novel compound buspirone (Lydiard et al.. All Rights Reserved. Watch out for drug interactions such as the seretonin syndrome which has proven fatal on rare occasions.e.. The four benzodiazepines currently widely prescribed for treatment of anxiety disorders are diazepam. get relief for your phobia/anxiety first. These drugs have been the savior of many lives and may be necessary for some. 72 . if you are on these drugs and under the care of a physician. are removed from the body more quickly—while diazepam and clonazepam have a long period of action (i.and they only suppress the symptom! Pharmacotherapy The medications typically used to treat patients with anxiety disorders are benzodiazepines. and alprazolam. which increase the risk of “carryover” effects such as sedation and Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. In light of increasing awareness of numerous neurochemical alterations in anxiety disorders. expressly targeting CRH and other neuroactive agents (Nemeroff. clonazepam. pg. Each is now available in generic formulations (Davidson. many new classes of drugs are likely to be developed. One caveat. 1996). Among these agents. Irrespective of other side effects.) Consult with your medical professional carefully before considering taking either of these drugs. alprazolam and lorazepam have shorter elimination half-lives—that is. Most of the doctors did not warn them about the risks of withdrawal and the difficulty of getting off these drugs. 1997). 1998). please do not stop taking them on my account. Diazepam also has multiple active metabolites. then go off the drugs under the supervision of your healthcare professional. 1998). Dr.. up to 24 hours). antidepressants. Benzodiazepines The benzodiazepines are a large class of relatively safe and widely prescribed medications that have rapid and profound antianxiety and sedative-hypnotic effects.
1998).” Benzodiazepines that undergo conjugation appear to have longer elimination time in women. there are patients who respond to the TCAs after failing to respond to one or more of the newer agents. Clomipramine.e. Similarly. 1997). and anxiolytic effects (Sheehan et al. but not eliminating symptoms). they may require lower doses to achieve the same blood concentrations as Caucasians (Lin et al. Ballenger et al. 1998). 1980. 1995). subsequently. 1997). it became clear that all of the SSRIs have antiobsessional effects (Greist et al.. All Rights Reserved. Current practice guidelines rank the TCAs below the SSRIs for treatment of anxiety disorders because of the SSRIs’ more favorable tolerability and safety profiles (March et al. When effective. physiological or behavioral symptoms after discontinuation of use). Moreover. The observation that the tricyclic antidepressant imipramine had a different anxiolytic profile than diazepam helped to differentiate panic disorder from generalized anxiety disorder and. Many clinicians favor a combined treatment approach for panic disorder and generalized anxiety disorder. Since Asians are more likely to metabolize diazepam more slowly.. Rather. relieving. Antidepressants Most antidepressant medications have substantial antianxiety and antipanic effects in addition to their antidepressant action (Kent et al. pg. 1995. 1998.. antipanic. Benzodiazepines have the potential for producing drug dependence (i. 73 . although relatively rarely used.. By the late 1990s. 1998). 1998). the monoamine oxidate inhibitors (MAOIs) have significant antiobsessional. Kent et al. a large number of antidepressants have antiobsessional effects (Perry et al. Shorter acting compounds have somewhat greater liability because of more rapid and abrupt onset of withdrawal symptoms... their use in obsessive-compulsive disorder and post-traumatic stress disorder is generally viewed as palliative (i...“hangover. obsessive-compulsive disorder and post-traumatic stress disorder are more effectively treated by antidepressants. American Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. The benzodiazepines are subsequently tapered as the antidepressant’s therapeutic effects begin to emerge (American Psychiatric Association. social phobia. The importance of this effect on 5-HT was highlighted when the SSRIs became available.. in which benzodiazepines are used acutely in tandem with an antidepressant. benzodiazepines should be tapered after several months of use.. American Psychiatric Association. and oral contraceptive can decrease clearance (Dawlans. especially the SSRIs (as discussed below). although there is a substantial risk of relapse. Nevertheless. Because the benzodiazepines do not have strong antiobsessional effects. subsequently was found to be the only TCA to have specific antiobsessional effects (March et al. 1997).e. a tricyclic antidepressant (TCA) with relatively potent reuptake inhibitory effects on serotonin (5-HT) neurons. 1997..
1998). As all of the SSRIs are currently protected by patents.Psychiatric Association. Ballenger et al. unlike the benzodiazepines. 1996). Treatment of panic disorder often requires lower initial doses and slower upward titration. When effective in treating anxiety. fluvoxamine. then tapered slowly to avoid discontinuation-emergent activation of anxiety symptoms (March et al. there are no generic forms yet available. including venlafaxine. Nefazodone. and cost likely will abate when these agents begin to lose patent protection in a few years.. sertraline. 1998. 1997). pg. 60 or 80 mg/day of fluoxetine or 200 mg per day of sertraline) and longer durations to achieve desired outcomes (March et al. TCAs. a problem that complicates longer term treatment with SSRIs. This adds to the direct costs of treatment. however. buspirone is not habit forming and has no abuse potential. 1998). by virtue of need for fewer treatment visits and fewer concomitant medications. 1996. However. Other newer antidepressants. By contrast. Buspirone This azopyrine compound is a relatively selective 5.. which also is being studied in post-traumatic stress disorder. paroxetine. All Rights Reserved. it is likely that many patients with anxiety disorders may warrant longer term. antidepressants should be maintained for at least 4 to 6 months. 1997. and MAOIs (Baldwin & Birtwistle. treatment for obsessive-compulsive disorder ultimately may entail higher doses (for example. Cost may be offset indirectly. for which clinical trials are under way (March et al. 1998). and citalopram—have emerged as the preferred type of antidepressant for treatment of anxiety disorders (Westenberg. 1998). and mirtazapine. and it is significantly better tolerated than the TCAs. Kent et al. 1997. and mirtazapine may possess lower levels of sexual side effects. Kent et al. and sertraline is being developed for post-traumatic stress disorder. 1998). 1998. tranylcypromine. Buspirone does not block panic attacks. 1998).. The five drugs within the SSRI class—fluoxetine. and isocarboxazid (which has not been consistently marketed this decade) are seldom used unless simpler medication strategies have failed (American Psychiatric Association.. It was approved by the FDA in the mid-1980s as an anxiolytic. indefinite treatment to prevent relapse or chronicity. Buspirone also has a safety profile comparable to the SSRIs. the MAOIs phenelzine. 1998). also may have significant antianxiety effects. there is convincing and growing evidence of antipanic and broader anxiolytic effects (American Psychiatric Association. venlafaxine. American Psychiatric Association.HT1A partial agonist (Stahl. Although less extensively researched than depression... and it is not efficacious as a primary Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. Paroxetine has been approved by the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) for social phobia. nefazodone. In addition to well-established efficacy in obsessive-compulsive disorder. American Psychiatric Association. In the United States. 74 .
and it has little value for patients when taken on an “as needed” basis. studies have shown that when an adult goes off the drugs the phobia returns (that can differ in children). please do not stop taking them without consulting with your physician. 75 . In cases where drugs can reduce a phobia." Withdrawal symptoms for these drugs can be severe. Paxil and other addictive drugs are sometimes prescribed for phobic. but certain medications may help reduce symptoms of anxiety before one faces a phobic situation. have withdrawal symptoms and/or side-effects. If you are on these drugs and under the care of a physician. The Bottom Line: Drugs have been extremely helpful to many and may be necessary for some. If you wish to get off these drugs. I'm not a doctor but it doesn't take a genius to say "be careful. All Rights Reserved. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. 1996). then go off the drugs under the supervision of your healthcare professional. Buspirone is most useful for treatment of generalized anxiety disorder. Very rare cases of death have been reported from withdrawal from some drugs prescribed for phobias. and it is now frequently used as an adjunct to SSRIs (Lydiard et al. anxiety and panic situations. Drugs are usually not a permanent solution for phobias.. If your doctor does not agree with your viewpoint on whether or not to take drugs you have a choice. use drugs as a last resort. Xanax. get relief for your phobia/anxiety first. You might then ask yourself how long you would have to take the drug. Drugs may be addictive. For these reasons I personally can not understand why drugs are the first line of defense against phobias in this country. Disclaimer: I am not a doctor. like antidepressants. pg. 1996). My take on drugs: Social Anxiety has been shown to be susceptible to drugs. All drugs have side-effects. Unless you have an emergency situation. after you have tried less invasive treatments. Buspirone takes 4 to 6 weeks to exert therapeutic effects. There is no proof that drugs cure specific phobias although they can help make you comfortable before you face the phobic situation. Drugs dampen the phobic response so in essence. I have dealt with many people who's doctors had prescribed an anti-anxiety drug which did not help once they had to confront their phobia. Only your medical professional can suggest you take drugs or not take drugs or which drugs to take. The effects of drug treatment may or may not be felt quickly.treatment of obsessive-compulsive disorder or post-traumatic stress disorder (Stahl. There is no proven drug treatment for specific phobias. your mind isn't as effective at producing your phobia. In my opinion the best choice is to find a doctor who agrees with you.
hearing. All Rights Reserved. the sensory information goes straight to the emotional centers of the brain and bypasses the thinking centers. smelling or tasting something." The reason cognitive-behavioral therapies often take numerous sessions is that it takes some time to coax the horse back into the barn. I've even done it on national TV. pg." Well. it's not. Although it usually takes longer. "Treatment outcome compared favorably with more conventional treatments." (Emphasis mine) These methods can be incredibly fast. the sensory input goes straight to the thinking centers of the brain and we can react based on our logical. At some point the nervous system decides whether to send the sensory information to the emotional centers of the brain or to the thinking centers of the brain. I know you're probably saying "yeah. the information comes to a fork in the road in our nervous system. Cognitive-behavioral therapies typically work too late in the process. The methods I use work with the nervous system before that sensory input gets to the fork in the road. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. rational thought processes. When successful. when our senses pick up information by seeing. after the sensory input has "taken the wrong fork" and the emotional centers of the brain have been activated. 76 . That's why I wrote this book. I have personally cured phobias in less than 10 minutes. discomfort and the intensity of a wide range of symptoms. This is what my grandmother would have called "closing the barn doors after the horse has done gone. The main techniques that I use can be learned quite easily. "The NLP treatment was demonstrated to be effective in reducing phobic behavior and subjective distress. Though NLP is considered a subset of cognitive-behavioral therapy the NLP treatment for phobias differs from that of typical cognitive-behavioral models in several ways. Simply put. Cognitive-behavioral therapy makes a basic error (in my opinion). With the phobic reaction. feeling. but my situation is different. Here is a quote from a study of the effectiveness of these methods (Source: The NLP Research Data Base). and was superior to the control condition in improving approach behavior and in reducing fear.NLP The methods I personally use are based largely on Neuro-linguistic Programming or NLP.
All Rights Reserved.My take on NLP: NLP works. The Bottom Line: NLP is very quick and not chemical or invasive in nature. 77 . If they know NLP. Hypnotherapy is an effective modality for treating phobias. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. You can find a qualified NLP Practitioner in your area or you can learn these methods and try them out yourself very inexpensively. they can take you back to the initializing experience much more comfortably and still get the positive results. The most common hypnotherapeutic treatment for phobias involves going back to the original event which caused a phobia and re-living it. in his book Clinical and Experimental Hypnosis in Medicine. This book or one of my videotapes costs much less than either multiple sessions with a cognitive-behavioral therapist. With the Dave Elman regression you must "relive" the experience. pg. Both Dave Elman in his book Hypnotherapy and William S.D. If you decide to work with a hypnotherapist in resolving your phobia make sure you find one who is experienced in regression therapy and the methods of Dave Elman. Even better is to find a hypnotherapist who is well versed in both Dave Elman style regression and NLP. Kroger M. Through re-living old experiences we reprocess them and allow ourselves to have adult knowledge and perspective on these old events. They work for many people and have none of the risks that drug therapies entail. which can be pretty uncomfortable. Hypnosis Hypnosis was approved in the late 1950s as a valid therapeutic modality by both the American Medical Association and the British Medical Association. a session or two with an NLP Practitioner. Dentistry and Psychology detail working successfully with phobias.
My take on hypnosis: Though there are numerous studies showing the effectiveness of hypnosis in treating phobias. Other therapeutic elements may be introduced throughout the therapy.In Seattle. In an EMDR session. Suzanne Hurst and Natasha Milkewicz from the Virginia Consortium for Professional Psychology. EMDR was equally effective on all the types of trauma studied. In studying PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) patients were divided into treatment groups of imaginal exposure. Don't let ignorance stop you. EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a form of therapy that combines the use of rapid eye movement or other rhythmic stimulation with elements of other therapeutic approaches in order to heal emotional problems. This process continues for various aspects of the problem. and EMDR. Eighty participants suffering from a variety of trauma. Just this week I successfully treated a phobia using a combination of hypnotherapy and NLP. but some report EMDR has fewer negative side effects. Other research has found EMDR to be about equal to flooding. The Bottom Line: Hypnosis. in the hands of a qualified professional is safe. many people shy away from it because they don't understand hypnosis. the clinician asks the client to bring to mind all the negative information regarding the problem. conclude that many of the studies available regarding EMDR are positive. a comprehensive study was completed by Wilson. In 1995. All Rights Reserved. after carefully defining the problem. All three groups improved but no treatment was proven more effective than any other. quick and effective in relieving phobias. 78 . I am hypnotherapist in private practice. Here are some viewpoints on this treatment. go find yourself a good hypnotherapist and get rid of that phobia. pg. Becker and Tinker. Those who received three 90-minute EMDR sessions showed decreases in their presenting complaints and in anxiety and increases in positive thoughts. The clinician then moves his or her fingers in front of the client's face and the client follows the movements of the fingers. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. Even many physicians are unaware that their own organization approves of hypnosis for therapeutic reasons. applied muscle relaxation.
Several studies attempting to reproduce earlier findings of EMDR’s apparent efficacy failed to do so.emofree. My take: So far. All Rights Reserved. Emotional Freedom Technique (E. Rosen.htm Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. In almost every case. PhD and Jeffrey Lohr. the evidence for EMDR is inconclusive. The scientific data supporting this particular aspect of NLP is sketchy.pdf I'd suggest you check in with their "Message to Newcomers" here too..T. . The Bottom Line: EMDR is fairly quick and is not invasive or chemical in nature. pg. EFT treatment for phobias involves thinking about your phobia and tapping with the fingertips to stimulate to stimulate "meridian points" (similar to acupuncture points). "Both treatments produced significant improvements in phobic reactions. http://www.com/EFTmanl.Tapping) In simplest terms. http://www." You can download a very complete "how-to" manual and be utilizing the techniques on yourself within a few hours.. Gerald M. 79 . The existing theory is that the phobia is a disruption of the body's energy system and that tapping somehow clears out this disruption. with the EFT group showing significantly greater improvement than the DB group.F. PhD undermine the theoretical underpinnings of EMDR when they write about the fact that several researchers have assigned patients to EMDR or standard imagery treatment (without eye movements). solutions may be found that were not apparent before and because of this the stimulus response aspect of the phobia is broken up. I believe that EMDR shares some commonalities with the NLP treatments I use. The theory is that by bringing different parts of the mind to bear on a situation. Here's an excerpt from a study comparing EFT to Diaphragmatic Breathing for specific phobias.emofree. In NLP we use movements of the eyes under the theory that moving the eyes to different places forces the brain to use different processing centers.com/newcomer. eye movements have not been proven to add to the effectiveness of the treatment.
My take: The theories behind these techniques are not scientifically validated . Park's methods are based on Pavlovian conditioning. then techniques used to extinguish conditioned responses should be helpful. What he said (that many phobias could be easily removed in just a few minutes) didn't make any sense to me. Sometimes they just don't work .but that doesn't mean they don't work! They could be completely wrong about how it works. in the early '90s I started training as a hypnotherapist and an NLP (neurolinguistic programming) Practitioner.) I would occasionally think back on what I had read and wonder about it. Remember. he has a web site and what I had read many years ago now made perfect sense in light of what I had learned. Loren Parks There's an interesting man named Loren Parks who lives in Aloha." If phobias are a conditioned response. Tapping either on or off the meridian points decreased anxiety significantly in both groups. I began to see rapid results and people making permanent positive change for all kinds of things that were "supposed" to be drawn-out and painful. Oregon. I heard about Mr. As a result of my training and increased awareness of how the mind works I began to change my views. 80 . My personal theory is that EFT works quite differently than they think it does. Sure enough. One study (of limited size) even found that tapping on meridian points was less effective than tapping on random. pg. Mr. Everybody knows that with a fear that strong you have to be in therapy for years! Then. Pavlov fed his dogs and rang a bell whenever dinner was served and linked a bell (stimulus) to a response (salivation). Pattern interrupts and anchor collapses are both techniques designed to break apart an old stimulus/response link and may work by the same mechanism as tapping. Parks many years ago when stumbled across some things he'd written. I saw enough evidence to challenge what I had learned growing up about the nature and speed of change. The response included automatic biological and Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. typing his name into a search engine. non meridian points of the body. I believe that at least part of the effect of EFT is due what we call in NLP a "pattern interrupt" or an "anchor collapse. All Rights Reserved. The name "Loren Parks" had stuck in my head and one day I found my self at the computer. I have seen conflicting studies about the efficacy of tapping on meridian points. The Bottom Line: EFT is very quick (1 to 3 sessions) and is not invasive or chemical in nature. (I don't mean to imply that NLP and hypnosis are the be-all and end-all for everything.nothing I know of works 100% of the time.
Some of the techniques that actually work with phobias may not seem logical to you. Phobias are the same. the subconscious mind can be reprogrammed in an instant. Fight fire with fire. They are not logical in nature and battling them with the conscious mind is simply not effective.emotional responses. This technique has the added benefit of interrupting the old trigger/fear connection. all we have to do is separate that connection between the stimulus (whatever triggers the phobia) and the response (the phobia). you can try this for yourself for free! Loren Parks has a number you can call and play a recorded message to get rid of your phobia. Remember too. if the person is afraid of public speaking. That's because they're not dealing with the logical part of the mind. In other words. the phobic is told to imagine themselves in the phobic situation. (he usually uses the word "disconnect") they will be disconnected from all the causes of fear they are feeling. the suggestion is made that on a particular cue. pg. Then he claps his hands together sharply and says "disconnect. he gives you instructions on how to do the process with a friend." He repeats the clap and the word twice more in about the space of 5 seconds. Then he phobic is asked to imagine themselves in the situation again and check to see if the fear is gone. give a slight startle and then forcefully generate a command to disconnect the emotion." In order to eliminate a phobia. 81 . have them imagine they are in front of a group. All Rights Reserved. Overview of Loren Parks' Process Loren Parks' process goes like this (it takes two people). This is accomplished through what NLP calls a "pattern interrupt" combined with expectancy. that it's not "logical" for a bell to cause salivation. You do that until the phobia is gone. see the Factors for Successful Therapy page. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. There's a lot going on in those 5 seconds! The best part is. warning. Loren Parks puts it this way. When they feel the fear.. threat or whatever that at one time elicited an emotional response from you.. a slight startle and mental suggestion. To learn more about these ideas. Fear has been tied to some trigger or stimulus as a result of some emotionally charged incident. When you fix the mind on the idea that the emotions will disconnect (expectancy). If one of his messages doesn't fit your particular situation. He says that with a phobia "You are pulling up from the subconscious the emotions of a previous experience. First.
Hmmmm.com/ On this page you can see the results of his therapy with a little girl who was afraid of dogs. I'm not so much concerned with why he thinks it works as IF it works.psychresearch. Phobia Cure" Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. It definitely does work for many people.. pg.palmtherapy.. certain areas of the hand are stimulated for a few minutes while the therapist talks to you. See my Factors for Successful Therapy section for more information on expectancy and pattern interrupt.. My personal opinion is that this works more on the principles of expectancy and pattern interrupt. Moshe Zwang came up with this one.com/ Click on the link that says "--30 Sec." During palm therapy.html There is a protocol for phobias. You can find out more here. 82 . There actually IS some evidence that stimulating parts of the hand can stimulate certain emotional centers of the brain. http://www. http://www.com/video...What have you got to lose? Here's the URL for more information.. All Rights Reserved.html Palm Therapy Dr.. His theory is that "the hand represents some brain activities which relate to the personality and emotions and therefore we can affect the mind through a stimulation on specific lines and areas on the hands which are related to specific personality traits and emotions.com/phobias..hypnosisfederation. http://www. http://www. based on his work here.palmtherapy.
when timed and delivered properly can reach the subconscious mind and become ingrained in us as a habitual thought pattern or action .even before they'd made a conscious decision to do so. NLP uses anchoring to interrupt an old. Almost any technique introduces the idea that by going through the process you're going to feel differently. Hypnosis is good for dissolving old patterns. it's that darn tapping while you're thinking about your problem. Expectancy Expectancy is the fact that our mind tends to carry out ideas that have been introduced to it. slightly slower pattern interrupt. even before they make their move? The idea of changing lanes was introduced and their body started to carry it out . (he usually uses the word Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. With EFT. The pattern we want to interrupt is the connection between the trigger and the phobia. the suggestion is made that on a particular cue. Many of the effective treatments include this element. Have you ever noticed that people who are about to change lanes on the freeway tend to drift a little bit toward that lane. An example is pulling your hand away when someone reaches out to shake it.Factors for Successful Therapy I've taken a long look at the various phobia treatments. With Loren Parks' methods. pg. CBT uses a slow and unnecessarily painful form of pattern interrupt. namely.good or bad. All Rights Reserved. putting you in your phobic situation and trying to get you to think about it differently. the pattern interrupt is the sharp command "disconnect" while you are thinking of your phobia situation. Loren Parks methods use metal suggestion. Pattern Interrupt A pattern interrupt is simply interfering with some habitual pattern that our mind runs. "stuck" pattern. It's a gentle. "When they feel the fear. those that work and those that don't. Mental Suggestion Mental suggestion. 83 . I've come up with a set of commonalities that seem to run through the most effective methods and are lacking in those methods that are ineffective.
" Startle When a person is startled. having a phobia is proof you have a very powerful imagination! NLP is the king here. Well.'disconnect') they will be disconnected from all the causes of fear they are feeling. pg. Once again. Conscious Understanding Getting your imagination involved is key to reaching your subconscious mind. the conscious mind briefly loses it's orientation and the subconscious mind takes over. At this point the subconscious is very open to ideas (this is how your phobia got started in the first place). Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. 84 . All Rights Reserved. the methods use your imagination powerfully and in a highly targeted way. Imagination vs. Some people think they don't have good imaginations. Loren Parks' methods use this technique.
If that doesn't cut it. it's free! If you have a problem getting some percentage of your phobia at will (you need to do this to do this technique properly) check out the NLP section on anchoring to learn how to "associate. With EFT. Palm therapy or most other alternative methods: The things about most "alternative" methods for dealing with phobias is that they are easy to try out and you can tell pretty quickly if they work for you. They are highly effective and there's an assortment of tools.My Recommendations First. Hypnosis is safe and stress lowering in itself. EMDR. Make sure you find someone who is well versed in either NLP (many hypnotherapists have NLP training) or regression methods (preferably Dave Elman-style regression). you can use the tools both as a technique to eliminate your phobia and as a calming mechanism in an anxiety producing situation." This will help. Here's my philosophy. EFT: It takes a couple of hours to learn the EFT protocol to do on yourself. 1. It's a worthwhile investment of time. 5. Start with the safest. NLP: The NLP techniques are not quite as easy to use as Loren Parks' methods but most people can understand them well enough to do them on their own. 2.. 3. Mr. giving you a variety of ways to solve your problem. You should see results either immediately or within three or so sessions. Parks says his methods don't work as well with agoraphobia. I encourage you to read this book thoroughly. Hypnosis: For phobias. Best of all. Loren Parks: Unless you've got agoraphobia. quickest. 4. easiest to use therapy that has a good chance of working. Read the Social Anxiety article and my comments on it. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. pg. His method is perfectly safe and you can do it by phone or have a friend help you with it. Once you understand the contents of the book you can make an informed decision as to what to do about your phobia. All Rights Reserved. start with the methods of Loren Parks. even if you don't have social anxiety. 85 .. work your way down the scale using the same criteria (safest. I would recommend going to a professional as opposed to self-hypnosis. If a hypnotherapist tells you that you need a large number of session (especially for a specific phobia) decline and move on to someone else. you'll enjoy it. quickest and easiest).
6. Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy: It works. drugs are an option. If that is absolutely necessary. 86 . Since I've seen and participated in numerous complete phobia cures that took a couple hours or less. Otherwise. I can't recommend something that takes weeks of sessions as a first alternative. go ahead (on the advice of a healthcare professional. All Rights Reserved. If nothing else works and your life is terrible because of your phobia. of course). Psychoanalysis: There is no reason I can think of to ever go to a psychoanalyst for a phobia. Drugs: Drugs can be used to temporarily lower your general anxiety level while your working on your phobia. by all means go with CBT. 8. pg. The reason it isn't higher up the list is that it takes so long. stay away. 7. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. If you try the quick and free stuff and it doesn't work for you.
She was willing to be interviewed but wished to remain anonymous. "It was fantastic to have a label". "I'm not sure if I am ugly. "and no one ever gave me the chance to get to know them. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. All Rights Reserved. without hesitation she said "people!". I can feel their eyes pushing my eyes towards the ground.Confessions of a Social Anxiety Sufferer By: Alex Kocan Social Anxiety Disorder is an overall fear of social situations. They may think I smell or judge me in some other negative way". "Maybe they took my quietness for arrogance or they thought I was extremely ugly". CBT for short. When I asked her what was her biggest fear. apparently it's common for people with SA to think they are". says Jenny. Jenny was in her early twenties when she finally plucked up the courage to go to the doctors for assessment by a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist. Because paranoid negative thoughts are intrusive the person often finds it difficult to interact with people. as I thought". From my own personal experience I was told my feelings of embarrassment and isolation were simply due to my shyness. For these purposes let's call her Jenny. Jenny laughed out of recognition with her self when I recollected my situation. "People always told me that my feelings were normal for someone my age but by the age of 17 they hadn't gone away so I figured they were here to stay". especially of yourself being the centre of attention. After a moment she expanded on this rather vague statement by explaining what situations in particular worried her. pg. Quite often when there are people on the same side of the street I cross over because I'm scared of walking past them. she replied. "I'm scared to walk down the street" [on her own] "especially if someone is walking towards or behind me. Jenny was sixteen when she realised that she had a problem with social interaction. "At least I wasn't insane. but. "Everyone seemed to hate me". I arranged to interview a member a Social Anxiety web site about her experience of suffering from SA. It was as if they took an instant dislike to me". When asked why she thought this Jenny continued. I am very grateful to her their contributions. This is very frustrating as sufferers want to make new friends but their fears of being judged and being disliked hinder their ability to do so. When asked what she felt to finally know why she had the feelings she had. but had never felt comfortable with it. 87 .
They have fewer inhibitions and may start telling me the horrible things they really think about me. I respect Jenny's fears about taking medication but millions of sufferers of Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. I have heard of people fearing eating in public and of blushing because of SA but other symptoms are common too. But for many years I've been terrified to talk to them. 88 . "I was offered some but was told that the side effects would make me feel more anxious than I already did. There is one family who lives across the road from me who I particularly find intimidating. It's only the past eight weeks or so that I've been going out at night. All Rights Reserved. They probably. When I sat at the front of the class at school I could feel all these eyes boring into my flesh. not so much because of whom they are. so I didn't really want to put myself through that. I'm also worried that I'll start to shake and that everyone is thinking I'm really weird. actually pointed out the fact that my chair was always wet with sweat after I'd been sitting there. "I suffer a lot from nervous sweating. "Why is she sweating in February? It's freezing cold!". Often medical practitioners suggest a medication and therapy combination to help improve SA sufferers' negative thoughts. The medication actually suppresses the negative thoughts.In Jenny's case she has a considerable fear of her neighbours. until recently. We have already touched on what Jenny thinks people think of her but what does she think when she walks into a crowded room? "Everyone is watching me and I am scared that I will do something really stupid like faint. which made me. When asked if she took any medication Jenny said "Nope!". that's one of the reasons I don't drink". and enjoying it". I used to be best friends with the families daughter while I was at school. pg. "I have never. "Living on my street has become a total nightmare. Also I didn't want to be one of those people who can't cope with life without relying on drugs. My anxiety wasn't helped by the fact that someone who should have been considerate. but because they are another thing for her to worry about. At least once a day I come within inches of them and have been to scared to even look them in the eye. This led to a fear of this happening every time I sat down". my second cousin. The reason for that was because I'm scared how people act when they are drunk. sweat more. especially at night. and why should they. Quite often after walking down the street I have to change my clothes as they are soaking wet. voluntary gone out of the house. think twice about me. The other day I bumped into the mother in town but she wouldn't look at me and I was to scared to say anything to her. Jenny peeked at my questions before I got to them and started replying. while the Cognitive Behavioural Therapy retrains your brain to think in a more rational manner. But I'm now too scared to even look out of my bedroom window in case one of them is there". That makes my anxiety even worse because I will be thinking that others will be saying. Jenny said the only reason she could do this now was because of treatment she received from her Cognitive Behavioural Therapist.
just my situation. "ladies and gentlemen please welcome the star of the show" "and everyone laughs at me". Jenny is making small steps towards improvement. It never lasted long as I didn't give any reaction to their behaviour. It's that old adage that the eyes are the window into the soul. It was as if she was scared even at the thought of it. "But I do hate the coming through the shower bit when you go into the pool. They normally last about 10 at the most. My lack of reaction was mostly out of fear of being ridiculed further. She bluntly said "none of my friends know about my SA!". "Yes!". She doesn't seem to be interested in me. as a person. They'd just say you're a little shy and I need to meet more people. "I have a big problem with eye contact. They don't want to understand something that they don't already know about". You're higher up than everyone in the water.depression and phobias are helped increasingly by the combination mentioned above. "When I go swimming the thoughts of people judging me seem to not affect me so much". which is very positive. "I can't look people in the eyes. My sessions are supposed to last 50 minutes. I always imagine a voice over the tannoy saying. "They wouldn't know what it was and so would ridicule it. I asked if there were to be a highly publicised national campaign about the condition would they be more responsive. Often they'd make fun of my voice or they'd push me around in Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. For people who have had these troubles all there lives school was an extremely traumatic experience. But if you could do that then there wouldn't be a problem would they?". as it was full over overly confident people who seemed to have no reason to be so. I'm scared if people look directly into mine they'll see I'm really the horrible person I think I am". All Rights Reserved. she replied. "When I can't do what she tells me she says "well there's no point you coming here telling me you knew what to do but didn't! Is there? That's a waste of my time and yours. 89 . Even though she feels observed while walking normally down the street Jenny can use a public swimming pool where in comparison to her normal attire she is naked. as she fears what her extended family and friends reactions to her condition will be. It feels as if I'm on stage and they are all down in the audience. pg. She just gives out orders which are physically and emotionally impossible to follow and my failure to do so makes me feel worse". Basically she" [the therapist] "told me to do things I was scared of. But I am getting better because of CBT". "I hated school. Like many SA sufferers Jenny suffers in silence. and me. "Definitely! Then they wouldn't think it was a made up problem". Cognitive Behavioural Therapy was just mentioned above but what did it make Jenny feel? "Even though it's helped me a little with eye contact it hasn't really helped with my other thoughts. Often when I happened to walk into the path of a bully they took the rip out of my slouched posture and on occasion decided to pick on me for a few days.
"As a result of this I feel a lot more confident talking on the phone or the Internet". There is no need to suffer in silence. Alex Kocan 300 Bennett Street Long Eaton Nottingham NG10 4JD United Kingdom E-mail Address:. The Beatles and local history. which was extremely painful. "I've never had a boy friend. "I've been told on many occasions that I have an extremely good sense of humour and am really funny. "Yes most definitely". But that doesn't come out in real life. The first hurdle to tackle is to visit your doctor to be assessed. "It feels as if the other person is thinking badly of me". A few of these include Social Anxiety Disorder.COM Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. I'm not sure if that's because of my confidence. pg.lessons. On a few occasions a bully would punch me as hard as they could. All Rights Reserved. If it hadn't been for me not reacting I think I could have been an open target for bullies. as there are more ways in which relationships can damage you than friendships.AJKOCAN@AOL. 90 . Many Social Anxiety sufferers think in similar ways to Jenny. From then on you are not alone. But there is help available. Obviously within a normal conversation there will be silent moments. concluded Jenny. as I'm not relaxed enough". Written By: Alex Kocan Alex is currently gaining journalism experience by writing on various topics. Because I didn't even ask them to stop they go bored quickly and left me alone. The interview ended with the question as to whether SA had effected her emotional and social development in any way. but I take that to be because I'm repulsive". but Jenny describes my feelings exactly. The reason for this is that there is nothing to say [as an SA sufferer myself I know this deep down]. The thought scares me.
A Phobia Sufferer Reveals Her Secrets If you haven't read the article about "Jenny" the Social Anxiety sufferer. how cognitive-behavioral therapy works. then do so now. They may not be strong feelings (unless you have strong feelings about your door). When I write about Jenny "creating" her phobia. inside her mind that creates these negative feelings? When I say. "I'm scared to walk down the street. What is Jenny doing. Phobias other than Social Anxiety work the same way. for a moment that you're approaching your front door. The article is called Confessions of a Social Anxiety Sufferer. pg. You may even have sounds and feelings attached to your scenario. Quite often when there are people on the same side of the street I cross over because I'm scared of walking past them. "Imagine. you'll also gain tremendous insight into how phobias are generated.. its advantages and drawbacks. Even though I've never met or spoken with Jenny. when those thoughts are dealt with the fear goes away. especially if someone is walking towards or behind me. If you follow along carefully. I'm talking about thoughts that she has that she doesn't know how to control creating the phobia.. I'd like to thank her for being brave enough to talk about her situation. 91 . Jenny says. They may think I smell or judge me in some other negative way". the phobia disappears. Thoughts drive the fear. I'm not talking about deliberately bringing a phobia about. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. All Rights Reserved. Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is one such set of tools. It's because people like Jenny have come forward that we understand much more about phobias than we did in the past. I can feel their eyes pushing my eyes towards the ground. This page comments on that article and shows you specifically how Jenny's mind creates the phobia and what particular thoughts are driving it." you probably make a mental image of what it's like to approach your front door. When you use techniques that help you gain control over the thoughts.
we might imagine what it's like to be them. it probably seems like you "just know. That makes my anxiety even worse because I will be thinking that others will be saying. Since being nervous makes her sweat more. Think about it for a few moments. The phobic is making a picture (or less often an internal sound) that scares them. She's stepping into her idea of what someone might be thinking and imagining their internal dialog (the voice in their head). pg. experiencing that situations fully.Most people are not very aware of the mental imagery and sounds that go on in their minds at all times." She is mentally stepping into the other person and imagining that they are thinking bad things about her. we're making it up. If I were to ask you what color your best friend's hair is. For Jenny. Now. not as a spectator. All phobias work the same way.. Imagine you're there. taking second position means that she imagines the other person thinking bad things about her. you'll discover that you are making images. She is making a picture of someone judging her and thinking she smells. What we are doing is taking second position. for example. quite naturally.. to answer. As an added bonus. these thoughts create even more sweating. 92 . Understand that what's happening is a vicious cycle for Jenny.. we do it all the time. To you." If you slow your thoughts down a little bit. leads to negative feelings. In case this sounds weird. When we see someone we'd like to emulate. This. mentally stepping into their lives. Essentially.. in your mind's eye. Quite often after walking down the street I have to change my clothes as they are soaking wet. really get into it. Jenny says. we feel the emotions attached to them! Take your most pleasant memory. Jenny says. Feels pretty good doesn't it? Jenny is doing something similar but with quite different results. you would have to make an image of them. Now we can only guess at what their lives are really like. but actually in your own body. All Rights Reserved. when we make internal images and sounds that have strong emotional content. "I suffer a lot from nervous sweating. and become more aware. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. "Why is she sweating in February? It's freezing cold!". Jenny is probably doing something called "taking second position.
"It's only the past eight weeks or so that I've been going out at night.. This led to a fear of this happening every time I sat down. My anxiety wasn't helped by the fact that someone who should have been considerate. my second cousin. which made me. until recently." So. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. I'm also worried that I'll start to shake and that everyone is thinking I'm really weird... It's these thoughts that create the negative feelings.."I have never. What does Jenny think when she walks into a crowded room? "Everyone is watching me and I am scared that I will do something really stupid like faint." If Jenny even thinks about going out of the house. voluntary gone out of the house. pg. Issues of self-esteem may also be involved. When I sat at the front of the class at school I could feel all these eyes boring into my flesh. she's picturing people telling her "what they really think about her. actually pointed out the fact that my chair was always wet with sweat after I'd been sitting there." Here Jenny not only imagines possible negative consequences but runs past negative events to create negative feelings. especially at night. Jenny has seen some positive results from her CBT treatment! It does work. this is the scenario she imagines. Jenny says. 93 . They have fewer inhibitions and may start telling me the horrible things they really think about me." Jenny comments that she can do this because of the treatment she received. The reason for that was because I'm scared how people act when they are drunk.. "I'm scared if people look directly into mine they'll see I'm really the horrible person I think I am". she's also imagined that they think badly of her. and enjoying it. All Rights Reserved. sweat more. Not to belabor the point but once again Jenny is imagining a future event that has negative emotions attached to it. In Jenny's imagination.
She doesn't seem to be interested in me. we could associate her into swimming (when she didn't feel people were judging her) and anchor that emotional state. Working with the subconscious is not that difficult. Basically she" [the therapist] "told me to do things I was scared of. pg. Unfortunately. as a person. But I do hate the coming through the shower bit when you go into the pool. If you've read the section on anchoring. 'ladies and gentlemen please welcome the star of the show." Now this is interesting. As you can see. We have seen that it's her own internal thoughts that are causing the phobia. just my situation. 94 . Were I working with her. But if you could do that then there wouldn't be a problem would they?". If she could overcome them that way. My sessions are supposed to last 50 minutes. "When I can't do what she tells me she says "well there's no point you coming here telling me you knew what to do but didn't! Is there? That's a waste of my time and yours. Methods that speak the language of the subconscious mind (rather than logically. these thoughts Jenny has are difficult to control by conscious effort or willpower. I always imagine a voice over the tannoy saying. we would use those instances as resource states. It feels as if I'm on stage and they are all down in the audience. All Rights Reserved. this form of therapy has it's drawbacks for Jenny.' and everyone laughs at me. You're higher up than everyone in the water. How about when she swims??? "When I go swimming the thoughts of people judging me seem to not affect me so much. conscious confronting of your thoughts) work much more quickly (and a lot less uncomfortably).How effective is her CBT? "Even though it's helped me a little with eye contact it hasn't really helped with my other thoughts. She just gives out orders which are physically and emotionally impossible to follow and my failure to do so makes me feel worse". Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC. she would simply will her way out of the phobia. There are times when Jenny is in the public eye and her feelings of other people judging her are not so bad. Then we could maintain that anchor and mentally put her into a situation that would typically be uncomfortable. They normally last about 10 at the most. The way cognitivebehavioral therapy works is by putting the person in the anxiety producing situation and having them confront their fear and challenge their thoughts.
agoraphobia and fear of public speaking come to mind) usually have a significant internal sound component. This is the subconscious mind's way of protecting us by saying "remember what happened when we saw that snake when we were seven. emotional mind pays more attention to the tone of voice than the words. Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC." Unfortunately they say it to themselves in a very stressed voice! The subconscious. All Rights Reserved. Other phobias are similar in that it is internal imagery and sounds which create the negative feelings. pg. Some phobias are very quick and are very much in the moment while others can cause anxiety for days. 95 . "It feels as if the other person is thinking badly of me". everything is going to be OK." The most common thing I've found people with fear of public speaking say to themselves is something like "calm down... Often the sounds are internal dialog ."talking to yourself.Jenny says. A person with a fear of snakes usually flashes a quick picture of a snake in their mind to get the fear. I think you see the pattern by now. They are most likely unaware of this image (it's very fast)." People with slower and longer duration phobias (social anxiety.
Keith Livingston President: Advancing Ideas LLC http://www.com/ keith@phobiascured. 96 .8751 Copyright 2005 Advancing Ideas LLC.721. All Rights Reserved. You now have a potent set of tools to use to work with your phobia as well as a wealth of knowledge about phobias. pg. It’s my hope that you’ll use these techniques and your newfound knowledge to better your life and the lives of those around you.com 206. what treatments work and specific techniques for specific situations.phobiascured. Sincerely.Conclusion Thanks for staying with me on this journey.
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