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Why is it that some people can attract wealth with seemingly little or no effort? Why is it that no matter how hard you work and how much you try to succeed, you feel like you're just spinning your wheels and not getting anywhere? The answer lies in the way you think about money and success. For most people, money is an emotionally charged topic, and those people have mental blocks that prevent them from bringing money into their lives. That's why it is so important to learn the mindset tweaks necessary to reach your financial goals. Without changing these beliefs about wealth, you will remain stuck making whatever amount of money you are comfortable with. Some people are only comfortable making $30,000 a yr. For others that number is higher or lower. Even though on a conscious level they may want more money, subconsciously that is the amount they feel worthy of having and are comfortable making. I'm about to show you some methods you can use to “tweak” your mindset about money, allowing you to finally be in complete control of your finances and make the money you deserve. No longer is the amount of money you can earn going to be at the whim of the economy...or anything else that may scare you now. Once you put these principles into practice, you'll have the mindset required to be able to write any size check you want at any time. You'll have the ability to create money out of thin air. With that will come respect and admiration from your family and peers when they see your success. You will become more confident with each success and when you look back at yourself in a few months, you'll be able to see how much you've grown and feel a huge sense of accomplishment, instead of seeing another few months of failure and struggle. How do I know this? Because after becoming aware of and hearing many success stories from others who had implemented some of these principles, I decided to try them for myself. And wow.....to say my life is different now would be the understatement of the century. Five years ago I was failing every single class in high school, doing drugs, drinking and always depressed. Three years and quite a few jobs I really disliked later, I decided working for other people wasn't my thing, and tried starting up a couple businesses on the internet.
The result? Dozens of failures, frustration, more depression and more procrastination. A little over 1 year ago, I was still miserable, broke, and very unhealthy (making less than $650/mo, always eating junk food because it's all I could afford, and constantly feeling fatigued). I hated life. Even though I was trying as hard as I could to succeed, I was simply spinning my wheels and going nowhere. All that failure was really starting to get to me too. My self esteem and motivation were pretty much non existent at that point. But then one day, I accidentally stumbled on some information that changed everything. And when I say accidentally, I mean it. I was on my computer “working” (i.e. wasting away the day surfing the web and justifying it as research), and came across some information about how the mindset you have about money has a drastic influence on whether or not you are financially successful. I was skeptical to say the least. I thought, ”There's no way my failure could be because of the way I think. I failed because....(and proceeded to come up with a bunch of excuses)” Well, I am VERY glad I decided to keep reading anyway. Because today, just 13 short months later, my income has grown to nearly $100,000 (off by a few thousand, I made $97,534 this year to be exact) – and my income is continuing to grow. And not only that, but every goal I set for myself 12 months ago has come true. My goals were to:
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Move out of my sister's basement where I was living Live in a luxurious home w/ tile/granite counters/cherry wood cabinets/etc. Work for myself from home, without having to commute Wake up whenever I want to (I don't like waking up early!) Make my own schedule Not have to worry about bills because I will always have enough to pay Own a luxury car Go out to nice restaurants/to the theater/ etc.
It still amazes me that all of my dreams could come true so quickly, when I had spent so many years not getting ANY closer to my dreams.
The reason I'm telling you all this is to prove a point. ALL it took for this to happen was a change in mindset and small daily habits. Your thoughts really do create your reality, and I, along with thousands – maybe even millions – of others, are living proof. I'm obviously not particularly intelligent or gifted in any way. In fact, I have struggled with ADD my entire life, and have always had trouble focusing and remembering things. Yet because of these mindset shifts you are about to learn, I am able to make more money than most of the population makes – and I expect to at least double my income this year. Everything I have done you can do for yourself, and most likely you will do even better! My hope is that you'll do even better than I have. You now understand that to make more money than you are now, you need to adjust your way of thinking. What I'm going to share with you now are 10 specific mindset tweaks, designed to program you to think and act in ways that financially successful people do. Along with each mindset tweak are step-by-step instructions showing you exactly what to do, so you don't get to the end and scratch your head, wondering what to do next. All that's left for you to do is follow the plan! Just think, in only a few months from now, you can accomplish more than you have in the last few years and be proud of everything you've achieved and how different your life is. The very first step is to identify and eliminate the mental roadblocks that prevent you from being able to make the correct choices and take the right actions that lead to financial success.
I. The Internal Conflict
Do you really want to be rich?
That may sound like a pretty weird question. Of course you want to be rich, right? Otherwise you wouldn't be reading this. However, the truth is, most people who think they want to be rich actually have a lot of internal conflict. One part of them wants to be rich, but another part has a fear of success. How does this effect you? This fear of success is a mental roadblock that stops a person from getting anywhere. What's worse, it's an invisible roadblock. Most people aren't aware of it, and how it causes them to self sabotage whenever they have an opportunity to succeed. It causes people to subconsciously make mistakes and poor decisions when trying to accomplish a goal. Even though consciously they are working themselves to the bone and doing everything they are supposed to do to succeed – somewhere along the line their internal negative attitudes about money cause them to screw up and fail. By changing this attitude, you are able to gain control over your finances and decide how much money you want to make – rather than having your bank account be subject to all the ups and downs of the economy and other situations. Why would a person fear success? Believe it or not, fearing success is real – and much more common than you may think. Some of this fear is logical, but some simply comes from negative and inaccurate programming we've been receiving throughout our lives. Let's start by tackling the part of that fear that is logical. It is fearing change, and the negative effects that change might have. As a result of your financial success, your life will change. And it is possible your finances will take you places where your current friends won't be able to go with you. (Actually, the truth is not that they aren't able, it's that they
didn't take action on their goals like you did to reach success.) You don't want to lose your friends, so you may sabotage your own success to prevent that from happening. Unlike some other people, I'm not going to lie and pretend it's not possible you may lose your friends when you achieve financial success. It might not happen, you may have really great friends who support you and want you to reach your goals. BUT, losing your friends is a possibility, if you have “crabs” as friends. That's a metaphor, of course. What I'm referring to is the “crab in the pot” story. You may have heard it before. If you put one crab in a crab pot, it'll climb out. It might take several tries, but since the pot is not it's normal environment, it wants to get out. However, if you put more than one crab in the pot and one of them tries to climb out, all the other crabs will latch onto it and pull it back in. When it comes to us humans, some people feel like they are stuck in a “pot”, so why should you get out? They don't want you to leave the pot without them, but they also don't want to try to get out. The solution is to simply stop spending so much time with those kinds of people, and spend the majority of your time with people who will support your goals. At first this may sound like you're being cruel and you don't want to do that. I can sympathize. I thought the same thing. The friends I used to spend all my time with had been my friends for my entire life. In fact, one of my previous friends had been my best friend since we were both 4 years old. But I knew I had to get away from the negative environment and negative people who surrounded me if I was going to get where I wanted to go. I took a pretty extreme choice when it came to getting out of my environment to facilitate change. I realized that by staying in my current environment, it would be too difficult to make changes in my life and avoid people I knew I shouldn't be spending time with. So what I did was pack up my stuff and start a whole new life 1200 miles away. Like I said, pretty extreme. But it was a growing experience and made it much easier to form new success habits in the new environment. What about the fear of success that is not logical? Other than being afraid of change, which is a logical and normal response, there is another piece to your fear of success that is not logical. This fear is the part that most negatively impacts your ability to make a lot of money.
Since birth, you have been picking up all sorts of beliefs from those around you. Beliefs about everything. The way you should act, what you should eat, what you should wear, how you should act when in public, what you should look like and so on. You are most influenced by:
● Your parents/family ● Authority figures (church leaders, teachers) ● The media
Unfortunately, most of us are taught negative things about money and success from an early age and throughout our entire lives. We're taught that it's fine to talk about our weaknesses and complain about what's going wrong in our lives, but not talk about our successes. For example, have you ever had someone tell you, “nobody likes a bragger”? We're taught the pursuit of money is not admirable. Have you ever heard any of the following?
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Filthy rich Obnoxiously wealthy Disgustingly wealthy / insanely wealthy You can't always get what you want Money doesn't grow on trees I may not have money, but at least I'm honest Rich people are greedy and selfish Rich people are obsessed with money Family is more important than money Money is the root of all evil (by the way, this is actually one of the most misquoted phrases of all time. The actual quote is “the love of money is the root of all evil”)
There are more, but those are some of the most common. I'm willing to bet you've heard at least one of those in your life, maybe many times. And maybe, you've even said or thought a few of those. Here's the problem. First of all, those beliefs are not true or logical. Let's take a closer look at the saying “family is more important than money”
Who says one has to be more important than the other? Where did this ultimatum come from? Family is certainly important, but that doesn't make money any less important. That's like saying your lungs are more important than your heart, but the truth is they are equally important and you need both to survive. As far as all the beliefs about rich people being selfish or greedy, those are untrue as well. If you’ve ever studied wealthy, successful people, you know the majority of them got that way by being good people.
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By NOT being lazy like 99% of the population. By NOT playing victim and trying to get a handout like so many people do. By NOT lying, cheating, stealing and being untrustworthy.
They worked hard, didn’t give up when things got hard, faced their fears, got out of their comfort zone, swallowed their pride . . . and so forth. Yes, that’s what it really takes to be successful. Sure, there are plenty of ways you can get rich without any of that. (Of course, staying rich is another matter, as those who get rich quick without changing who they are inside typically lose it all) As a general rule, people who get rich and stay that way - and are ALSO successful and balanced in other areas of their life. They got rich by growing and becoming a BETTER person - not the other way around. That's not to say there are no selfish people who have money. There are. Money simply makes you more of what you already are. If you're a jerk as a broke person, becoming rich will give you the ability to be an even bigger jerk and do even more harm. If you're a generous and caring person, money gives you the opportunity to be even more generous and caring. You'll be able to contribute in ways you never could when you were poor. You need to realize that money is simply a piece of paper. It has no meaning except for the meaning you give it. It has no emotion attached to it. There is no prerequisite attached to the money you receive saying you have to feel or act a certain way about it. YOU create that emotion, YOU create that meaning.
If you believe money will somehow make you a bad person, then you will constantly find ways to push money away from yourself. Your conscious will not allow you to become something you despise. Deep down you want to be a good person, and by believing that rich people are evil, you simply will not be able to become a rich person. Our parents usually pass these negative beliefs onto us without knowing the harm they cause. In most cases, they are not intentionally trying to give you a poor mindset about money. The reason they pass those beliefs onto you is because that's what they were raised believing. They don't even realize how those beliefs have harmed them, let alone how they've harmed you. The media is the worst culprit. There are stories in the news on a regular basis about the scammers, the liars, and all the bad rich people out there. The result is you believe all rich people are bad. Of course, the media rarely does a story on all the good things rich people are doing and everything they are contributing to society. Negative messages about success are particularly prominent in “feel good” movies, and movies made for children. Here is an example: I was at a family get-together the other day and happened to pass through the room where the kids were watching a movie. During the few minutes while I was in there, I noticed the “bad guy” was wearing an Armani suit, a giant gaudy diamond watch, and was standing next to a Ferrari. At the time, he was lying to the “good guy” about something, and then started to tell the good guy that if he would just go along with this plan he would make a fortune. Of course, the good guy wasn’t interested in any of that. Movies like this are big sellers because they’re written for the majority. The majority of the population is not successful. These movies are written with the intention of making non-successful people feel good about themselves. They’re designed to make successful people look either evil or crazy (or both), so people who aren’t successful can feel better about the fact they aren’t DOING anything about the dreams and goals they have. While it results in huge box office numbers (because misery loves company and people love to watch and read things that portray those who actually DO achieve their dreams in a bad light), it’s very harmful to those of us who want to succeed.
Let’s talk about the “feel good” movies that do this. You know the type. The star of the movie tries and tries and tries to get rich. Their family is SO sad. Their kids are always crying because they aren’t ever around. Somehow they have turned into a huge jerk on their quest to get rich. Sometimes - actually, make that most of the time - they finally succeed. They make a ton of money, they buy a big house and a nice car and everything is going great for about 5 minutes. Then out of the blue, one of two things happens: 1 - They suddenly realize what’s “really” important in life, and that chasing success all this time was just silly. They proceed to throw away everything they’ve worked for and live "happily ever after". 2 - Or, the new friends they acquired after becoming successful are selfish, evil jerks with bad intentions. One of them stabs the star of the show in the back in some way or another - and the star of the show has to choose whether to become a horrible miserable person like all of their successful new friends, or go back to being a good little poor person. Ok, now I realize not every single movie has that exact storyline. But you’ll agree most are pretty much spot on what I just said. The first scenario doesn’t make any sense at all. What kind of sane person would work their entire life to succeed at something and then the very moment they succeed, decide they no longer want it? (and then live happily ever after....yeah right) And this is a GOOD thing? We’re supposed to model these kinds of people? We're supposed to think this is a happy ending? The second scenario is just as bizarre as the first. Like I said before, people who are wealthy and successful in the real world – as opposed to the crazy stories film writers come up with, became that way by improving themselves and providing massive amounts of value. A person's bank account balance reflects the amount of value they've provided to society. Your bank account reflects how much value you've currently provided.
When you watch popular movies that portray success as a negative thing – such as the hit movie Titanic (where being rich was portrayed as being extremely dull, and the rich characters had absolutely no morals), it creates a stereotype in your mind that it's better to be poor. Your mind starts to believe that if you make a lot of money you will become a bad person, or other people will perceive you as a bad person and not like you anymore. It is true some people who have negative beliefs about money will probably not like you if you are successful, I'm not going to lie to you. It could happen. But those aren't the kind of people you want to be friends with anyway, are they? They will spend their entire lives dragging you back down to their level every time you begin to succeed, instead of doing something to improve their own situation. Ever heard the saying “misery loves company?” Well it's true. Another destructive belief poor people have is the attitude “it's just money, it's not really that important”. Money certainly IS important, and you know it is. Money is used to build churches, schools, roads and parks. You use money to provide yourself with shelter, food and clothing.
Sure, you may be able to survive in the wilderness sleeping in a cave and eating berries and such(!), but for how long? And is that really the best way to live? (obviously not, since you are not living that way now) Money gives you the opportunity to be your best self. To have experiences you cannot have without money. To buy books, enroll in fun and exciting classes, travel the world, buy tools needed to pursue a hobby and receive training on that hobby, throw great parties for your friends and family, etc..
Whatever may be said in praise of poverty, the fact remains that it is not possible to live a really complete or successful life unless one is rich. No man can rise to his greatest possible height in talent or soul development unless he has plenty of money; for to unfold the soul and to develop talent he must have many things to use, and he cannot have these things unless he has money to buy them with. A man develops in mind, sould, and body by making use of things, and society is so organized that man must have money in order to become the possessor of things; therefore, the basis of all advancement for man must be the science of getting rich. - Wallace D. Wattles
Teaching you how to defeat this negative mindset about money is something I am very passionate about, because it's what made the most drastic difference in my own income – and I know it’ll make a difference in yours as well. After years of trying to succeed, all it took was 3 steps to finally break through the barrier and triple my income in less than one year. Here are those steps:
Step 1: Become aware what your view is about rich people and money.
I had a very negative view about rich people (I absolutely hated them, simply because I was jealous of what they had. Yet I wanted to be rich just like them. HUGE internal conflict there.)
Step 2: Change that belief.
Once I crushed that belief, somehow everything started to fall into place and making money became much easier. Not only did it become easier to make money, but the money became more enjoyable because there was no guilt about having it. If I had somehow figured out a way to get money before changing that
belief, I probably would have lost it all because I would believe I was a bad person since I thought rich people were bad.
Step 3: Believe it is possible for anyone to make money
(Part of the reason why I hated rich people so much is because I saw them as “lucky”. I didn't think it was fair they got everything they wanted while my life sucked. The reason I thought this way was because I had a victim mentality, and didn't realize I could control how much money I made. Having really bad ADD which made it very hard to learn, I figured I was too dumb to ever make money. It just "wasn't in the stars" for me. You'll learn more about how to overcome this belief later.)
If learning more about defeating negative money beliefs interests you, I recommend attending the Millionaire Mind seminar, which you can get complimentary tickets for when you buy the book 'Secrets of the Millionaire Mind'. That was where I personally had my big breakthrough. In the three months following the time I attended the seminar, my income nearly tripled. A friend of mine recommended it to me, and I almost didn't go because I “didn't feel like it” at the time. I know how different my life would be right now if I hadn't ever gone. I'd still be broke, miserable and struggling to get anywhere. A common mistake people make: spending too much time getting rid of negative beliefs but not taking action. Some of you who are reading this are not newbies to this idea of negative money beliefs. In fact, this may be the 5th or even 50th resource you've read about it. Every so often someone will say to me “I spend an hour a day meditating, I think good thoughts all day, I read lots of books, etc etc.....but I'm still not making any more money. What am I doing wrong?” What you're doing wrong is you're not actually doing anything! It's great you are learning this information and getting rid of your destructive beliefs, but doing that alone is not going to make you rich. It is simply a step toward getting there. Yes, it is a very large step. But you must take the next step, which is to get moving on
the action steps that are necessary to make money. You can have a great attitude about making money, but if you spend all day sitting on the couch doing absolutely nothing, you still won't have any of it!
1. Identify the negative beliefs that you have about making money. Do you think it is wrong to make a lot of money? Do you feel like you don't deserve to be wealthy? Do you think you aren't smart enough to succeed? 2. Erase those beliefs and replace them with a wealth mindset. See the resources provided at the end of this chapter. 3. If you aren't doing so already, take the actual action steps necessary to make more money. Sitting on the couch and thinking about how good money is and how much you deserve it isn't enough on it's own to make you rich. If you've been thinking about investing in real estate or starting your own business or contacting a prospect you need to contact, but haven't done it yet – take the very first step first thing tomorrow. No matter what it is. No matter what has been holding you back or what excuse you have been giving not to do it. Just find a good enough solution and get it done no matter what. Recommended Resources: Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: Master the inner game of wealth. Subliminal-Power: Reprogram your inner mind without any effort required on your part: erase negative beliefs about money and replace them with the mindset of the wealthy and successful
II. You're Driving, So Don't Blame The Passengers When You Crash!
Ready for the second mindset tweak? Here we go... Accept total responsibility for the results in your life. Do not allow yourself to have a victim mentality. What is a “victim mentality”? Good question. A victim mentality is when a person blames everyone and everything else for whatever happens in their life. Let's say you met someone who is more successful than you are, and rather than admiring them for their accomplishments, you see them as “lucky”. It's also a belief that the future only holds bad things for you. In other words, you failed a test because your teacher hates you (not because you didn't study and prepare for it) You're fat because of the food industry/the commercials/your boss/your friends/etc., not because you don't make the conscious effort to eat healthy and exercise daily. Everything that is going wrong in your life is because of someone or something else – you accept zero responsibility for anything. Unsuccessful people see themselves as “victims”. Nothing is ever their fault. They have an excuse for everything. Why is it important to overcome this victim mentality? The reason is because you can't change your circumstances until you accept the fact you DO have the ability to change your results – regardless of what is going on around you. You are where you are right now because of the choices you have made up until this point. By playing the victim, you are never in control. You think of life in terms of what will happen to you, leaving your success completely up to chance. And the odds don't look good that you'll ever reach financial success by leaving it up to luck. Where did this victim mentality come from?
Why does most of the population feel like they are helpless when it comes to reaching the goals they set for themselves? The media is a big contributor to this victim mentality. We're being programmed on a regular basis to think in ways that are not healthy for our success and happiness. A lot of the programming is very subtle too. For example, I was watching a show the other day and a commercial came on for some type of "healthy" diet smoothie. I don't remember specifically what it was, but what I do remember was the wording of the commercial – and how much it contributes to the victim mentality the majority of the population has. It basically said “with today's fast paced lifestyle, we're so busy that we CAN'T always eat healthy”. What?? That is completely ridiculous. First of all, it doesn't take any more time to grab an apple or other healthy snack out of your fridge than it does to take out this “healthy” smoothie. Second, the fact this is a television commercial means the target audience for this commercial are people who are watching TV. So....we're too busy to eat healthy, yet we have time to sit around and watch TV? What's worse, that wasn't the only commercial to send that same message. After hearing that, I began paying really close attention to the wording in the commercials, and in the period of that one hour show, 2 more commercials came on spouting the same CAN'T poison. One was for some heart burn medicine, stating that although you try to eat healthy,there are times when you CAN'T. (all while showing an image of a pizza.) Really? I don't know about you, but I've never been forced to eat pizza. Unless you are literally starving to death and there is no possible way for you to access something more healthy than pizza, there is no logical reason why you would “have to” eat pizza. It's completely ridiculous, and yet millions of people buy into this mentality and end up creating lame excuses for all of their failures – and allow themselves to fall for their own excuses! A symptom of the victim mentality that keeps you trapped: Chronic complaining. Complaining goes hand in hand with the victim mentality.
Ever known one of those people that never stops complaining? (perhaps it's the person you see in the mirror each day?) It seems like everything is always going wrong in their life. Bad things are always happening to them, and nothing is ever good enough. (no matter where they go they have something to complain about. It could be the food at a restaurant, the weather, etc.) When you complain, you trap yourself into a reality that constantly gives you more to complain about. You may say you complain because you have a lot of problems, but the reality is you have a lot of problems because you complain. Oprah said it perfectly. On the topic of complaining, she stated “I don't not complain because I'm Oprah, I am Oprah because I don't complain.” Every thought is an intention, and when you complain, you are consistently intending what you don't want. And by continuing to complain, things are just going to keep spiraling downward. The truth is, complaining is severely damaging to your health, financial success and your entire life. In fact, studies have shown people who complain frequently tend to have poor health, less satisfying and enduring relationships, and don’t do as well in their jobs or make as much money. The most common reasons why people complain (and why it can be so difficult to stop) is: - It’s a good conversation starter. It’s much easier to begin a conversation with someone and find a common ground by complaining. (Can you believe it’s going to rain AGAIN today?…). To get over this particular hurdle, rather than use a complaint to start talking to someone - complement them. It’s a much more positive way to start a conversation. - Complaining keeps people from taking action. This is the #1 reason most people complain. That way they can procrastinate and have plenty of excuses why they aren’t reaching their goals. There’s always a reason why it’s not possible to do what needs to be done. It’s much easier to complain about it than it is to find a solution. Not only that, but for some crazy reason, we’ve been taught that it’s okay to talk
negatively about yourself, but it’s not okay to “brag” about what’s going well! - It pre-excuses failure Another very common reason people complain is to pre excuse failure. For instance, walking to a meeting late while complaining about how bad the traffic was, how there was a huge line at the dry cleaner, etc. It's the classic victim mentality at work. It takes all the responsibility off of that person, so they no longer have to own up to the fact that they should have left earlier or been more prepared. The truth is, there will never be a lack of problems in your life. Even people who seem to have a "perfect" life still have problems that come up from time to time. The way they deal with those problems is what separates their life from yours. Instead of moping and complaining to everyone around them about their problems, they actively do something to fix the situation. Here is what to do: The key to getting what you want in life is focusing your energy and attention on what you do want, rather than what you don’t want. By complaining, the focus is always on what’s wrong. The first step to stop complaining is to become aware of it. Most people complain much more frequently than they think they do. Don’t believe me? For the next 24 hours, pay attention to how many people begin a conversation with you by whining about something that didn’t go the way they wanted it to. After you've become aware, replace that complaint about what you don’t like with what you do want to happen. The goal is not to pretend you are no longer bothered by anything, but to instead seek a solution rather than simply whining about it. Instead of playing the victim and complaining that nothing is going your way, think about what you DO want, and seek to create that. What can you personally do to create what you want? Don’t look for problems, look for solutions. Ask yourself the question “What can I do to improve this?” Take responsibility for what happens in your life, because you'll find that most things are actually in your control.
After reading this, some of you will feel very liberated, because you now realize you have control over many aspects of your life and can mold your future into exactly what you want it to be. Others will get upset or defensive when reading this, because you secretly want to play the victim and not actively do anything to change your circumstances. I sincerely hope you are the first person, because if you continue to play the victim your life will never turn out the way you want it to (and even though you'll never admit it, it will be your fault) I'm not trying to be insensitive here. For many people, it is very difficult to accept the fact their victim mentality is causing the problems in their life. After all, that would mean they're not really a victim – which is exactly what they want to be! I know this from experience. When I first heard it was actually my own fault my life sucked, and if I wanted it to be better I had to actively do something about it, I was angry. How dare someone tell me something like that! You see, people who see themselves as a victim will unconsciously create bad things in their life because they want people to feel sorry for them, and secretly they are longing for someone to come along and “save” them. They're looking for a hero. All of the control is handed over to someone else and they're just waiting around for that person to come along and make everything all better. This doesn't just have a negative effect on their finances either, relationships will suffer immensely as well because they'll always blame their partner for their emotions. If they're unhappy, it's because their partner isn't making them happy. If they're angry, it's because the other person is doing something to make them angry. Instead of controlling their own emotions, they allow others to control their feelings and actions. The relationship becomes a war zone, and in their mind, they are constantly being attacked. Once you realize the only person capable of saving you from your misery is yourself, it can feel overwhelming and scary. This means you can no longer avoid responsibility, you must embrace change. Realizing this may cause fear, which can lead to anger and denial. It's not your fault if you have a victim mentality – but deciding not to change and become a victor rather than a victim, is your choice and you must live with the consequences. How you react to any situation is your choice. No one forces you to think, feel or act the way you do. I remember how liberated I felt after finally accepting I could actually control the way my life was going. I used to feel so powerless, hopeless and out of control. Everything was happening to me. As I said, at first I didn't want to accept responsibility.
But it was such a great feeling when I tweaked my mindset and began actively changing the things in my life that weren't going the way I wanted. Because I felt so in control. It wasn't nearly as scary as I'd imagined it would be. If this is where you are, I encourage you to embrace the change. It may be the one factor that creates a whole new life for you.
1. Accept total responsibility for the results in your life. Stop blaming other people or situations when something doesn't turn out the way you wanted it to. 2. Focus your attention on what you want – NOT on what you don't want. 3. When something goes wrong, don't dwell on it or complain about it. Instead, find a solution and solve it. If you truly can't solve it, forget about it and focus your attention elsewhere on things you can solve. 4. Pay attention to your thoughts. Notice when you are playing the victim, and redirect your thinking to being the victor rather than the victim.
III. Fear Repels Money
For almost everyone who tries to get rich but struggles, it is not because they lack the know how. They know what to do, and are not necessarily too lazy to do the work either. It is fear that stops them. Fear can be paralyzing. It can prevent you from making decisions, from taking action and even from realizing what it is you really want out of life. Fear can hold you back and stop you from achieving success. If you let it, fear will destroy your entire life. The mind is a very powerful thing. It can influence the way you view reality. As a result, this includes the decisions you make and the way you act – which influences your results. The truth is, your imagination tends to exaggerate and create scenarios far worse than the reality. You may feel physical symptoms of fear such as heart pounding, palms sweating, shaking, and feeling scatterbrained, all because you need to call someone on the phone and make a request. (something that is not dangerous at all and should not activate your body's natural “fight or flight” response to danger) Even though the worst possible outcome is that they will simply say no, somehow it becomes this huge terrifying hurdle. The more time you spend thinking about it, the scarier it becomes until eventually you think of an excuse for not doing it and go turn on the TV. Here is an example: As a child I was completely terrified of calling "strangers" on the phone (even to order a pizza or something) I would actually feel physically terrified. My heart would race and my legs would shake. In reality, nothing bad could have come from me calling to order a pizza. Not even a rejection! (What are they going to say, “no you can't have a pizza...”?). Yet in my imagination it was like venturing into a haunted house all alone!
Here is what to do to overcome fear. The first is to identify the reality. Instead of keeping everything in your “wild” imagination, write down what is actually likely to happen as a result of what you are about to do. What is the worst possible thing that can happen? As I said earlier, our imaginations tend to create fear that is far beyond the scope of the actual negative outcome that could result. Almost always, you will find that the worst case scenario is really not that bad. Besides, the chances the worst case scenario is what will actually happen is slim. What if everything goes the way you want it to? The second solution to overcoming fear is to really, really want something. Have you ever heard the phrase “feel the fear and do it anyway”? It's something many self help "gurus" teach. And it is good advice, I'm not knocking it. But what's missing in that advice is you must have a good enough reason to "feel the fear and do it anyway". Otherwise guess what? You're going to feel the fear, stop dead in your tracks, think about “doing it anyway”, but in the end will turn around and run the other way. The solution is to desire something more than you fear the challenges on the way to attaining it.
Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear. - Ambrose Redmoon Think back to a time when you were afraid to do something, but did it anyway. The reason you did it anyway is because you desired whatever result came from it badly enough to face your fear. It could have been the first time you learned to ride a bike. You may have been scared, but that didn't stop you because you really wanted to be able to ride that bike. [insert pic of robber] Here's an extreme case that demonstrates this perfectly.
Robbers. Do you think robbers aren't afraid of the consequences they'll face if caught? They could end up in prison, or even killed. The reason they still do it is because their desire for whatever they're stealing is greater than the fear they feel. Their fear is not enough to stop them because their desire is stronger, so they "feel the fear and do it anyway". Sometimes it is not fear of a particular consequence that holds people back, it is fear of the unknown. It's been said that uncertainty causes fear. We don't like not knowing what's going to happen. Fear of the unknown has such a strong hold on us that it paralyzes any form of action. If we don't know how everything is going to work out from beginning to end, we won't even start. We want to know what will happen at Step 3 before even starting on Step 1. To overcome this, think of your life in terms of a video game. [insert pic of kid playing video games] When you are on level 1 of the game, you have no idea what level 2 is going to be like. Yet you play level 1 anyway and do your best to tackle the challenges that come up so you can advance to the next level. Even though you may experience setbacks, you still have a lot of fun just playing the game, and don't yet think about how you are going to pass level 4 or level 7. Something to keep in mind about fear is that tackling it is good for you. Not only will it increase the size of your wallet, but it also makes you feel alive. Even when things don't turn out the way you planned, you'll feel better and more alive when you do what you're afraid of. Every time you run away from a fear, your self esteem lowers, your fear actually gets stronger and more debilitating, and your brain operates on autopilot and continues doing the things it's comfortable doing. This leads to regret, which hurts much more than any negative result that may have come from not facing that fear. In the end, it is all the things you didn't do that you will regret – not what you did. Realize this: If you don't take action, you are trapping yourself in a life of mediocrity, and guaranteeing you will never achieve your dreams. I don't know what you think, but that is a much scarier thought to me!
1. Make the decision not to let fear rule your life anymore. If you are afraid to do something, use one of the following solutions to overcome it and do it anyway:
Identify the very worst possible outcome. Is it really that bad? How likely is it that the worst possible scenario will actually happen? Desire to obtain something more than you fear the process of obtaining it. If you don't want it bad enough, it will be more difficult for you to get past your fear. Picture your life as a video game. When you're on level 1, play level 1. Don't even think about level 6 or 7.
2. Do something you are afraid of on a regular basis. Stretch your comfort zone.
IV. Have a Gratitude Attitude
When you are grateful fear disappears and abundance appears” - Anthony Robbins “Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.” - Brian Tracy
Practicing gratitude will help you in so many ways. For one, it will make you much happier. Second, it will improve your relationships. Other people will want to spend more time around you. And third, it will attract more abundance to be grateful for. You might have already heard that gratitude is the key to attracting more abundance into your life. It is certainly true, however most people are approaching it the wrong way, and as a result never reap the benefits of practicing gratitude correctly. Instead of being truly grateful, they are simply “playing grateful”. When they're feeling bad about what they have, they are told to sit down and write down everything they are grateful to have. Gratitude lists usually contain items such as food to eat, a place to live, people who love them, having great friends, etc. To the “untrained” eye, it may seem like they're doing it the right way, so what is wrong with this method? Here's the problem; typically when they create these gratitude lists, they're doing it out of guilt and/or by comparison. Most people think they are truly grateful for what they have, but most of the time they're actually “playing gratitude” by comparing their life with something worse. Their gratitude is based on comparing what they have with people who have less, and they often wind up feeling “guilt gratitude”, where they actually feeling bad about wanting more because compared to some people they already have a lot. They give thanks for having a roof over their head because there are other people who
live on the street. They give thanks for the ability to see because there are some people living life blind. Making these comparisons make them realize how “blessed” they are. By creating a list of everything to be grateful for, one might feel a temporary spike of gratitude and joy, but it doesn't last long because it's not true gratitude. (That's why it's generally taught to create a gratitude list every single day, because the effect wears off quickly and soon you are back to complaining about life again) It is not a constant attitude of gratitude and does not have a significant impact when it comes to attracting more good into your life, because it isn't completely genuine. I'll explain this more in a moment. Many self improvement experts preach the habit of celebrating the small, seemingly insignificant things in life. For instance, they'll tell you to celebrate every penny that comes your way, even though an amount that small probably doesn't mean much to you. Now I can't say with certainty the exact reason they teach that, some may not even know for themselves why they teach it, they simply heard it from someone else. Personally, I think they teach it so you will develop a true attitude of gratitude, because THAT is the true secret to using gratitude as a tool for attracting more good into your life. An attitude of gratitude is very different than simply acknowledging that you have specific good things in your life, such as a car or food on the table. It's a mindset tweak where you begin to feel gratitude for every part of life. Your gratitude is not dependent on specific things that could disappear at any time. You could lose everything in your life you consider to be good, and yet still feel gratitude because you're thankful for everything you experience in life, good and bad. True gratitude requires awareness. It requires noticing and being thankful for the little things in life, such as the tangy sweetness of the orange you eat or the cool crisp air on your face as you walk out the front door. It's being fascinated and appreciative of the small and large wonders all around you. In a way, it is like getting in touch with your inner child. As a child, you were fascinated by life itself. That is the attitude you want to re-ignite. Most adults are living their lives on autopilot. Where they once were excited, they are now bored. What was once fascinating and fun, is now dull and routine. They're not paying attention to the small things that create their daily experiences. The good news is it takes a simple shift in perception to change this attitude, and yet it
will make a profound difference in every aspect of your life. The first step toward developing an attitude of gratitude is by simply becoming aware of everything around you. Feel the softness of the pillow you lie on, notice the radiant color of the sky, listen to the noises that surround you, take time to taste your food. True gratitude isn't about not wanting more. One of the things I dislike about many gratitude teachings is that they teach you to be happy with what you have instead of wanting more. Part of that previous sentence is true. You do need to be happy with what you have. But that does not necessarily mean you don't want more. It's silly to condemn the idea of wanting more of something you like. If you enjoy spending time with your kids, what's wrong with wanting to have more free time to spend with your kids? If you enjoy vacationing, why is it wrong to want to go on more vacations? If that is the way you think, then you are basing your gratitude on guilt because you have more than others, which actually inhibits you from enjoying what you have. Where most people go wrong is they are unhappy with what they have, and think having more will make them happy. But the opposite is true. Being happy with what you already have will bring you more.
“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” - Oprah Winfrey
If you don't appreciate the money you have now, having more money will not make you happy. If you live with an attitude of gratitude, you bring more things into your life on a vibratory (energy) level that you are grateful for. The opposite it also true. If you focus on what you don’t want, you will attract more negative things into your life. By not expressing gratitude, most people do not even notice how much they actually enjoy something. It's when you lose what you have, that you realize how much it meant to you. You never really were aware of how much you loved it until it is no longer there. Even
though you were using it regularly, your brain was operating on autopilot and not getting as much joy out of it as you could have. This attitude of gratitude is actually something I stumbled upon by accident in an attempt to become a positive thinker. In some ways, they are very similar. But being grateful and being positive are different. Neither of them, by the way, are pretending things are great or ignoring the fact that something is bothering you while putting on a fake smile. The key to using gratitude to attract more good into your life, is by being truly and honestly grateful for everything about life itself – not just the good stuff. My previous way of thinking, and the way most people think, is to only notice the things that aren't good. Like going to the movie theater and never noticing or taking the time to give thanks when your chairs are comfortable and your movie is great, but always complaining when your chair sucks and the movie is horrible. This new attitude where you are grateful for life itself, and not just certain things about life, causes you to be more successful at your endeavors because you are not so stuck and attached to having certain things happen. If your gratitude is based on having a wonderful girlfriend, and then your girlfriend leaves you, suddenly your gratitude is gone. With a genuine attitude of gratitude, you are able to bounce back more quickly and attract a new partner into your life, perhaps one even better suited for you. It also causes you to act in smarter ways because you are not desperate to hold onto that one girl. Your happiness in life is not dependent on you being with her. It's common for people to finally get something they want, such as money, and then lose it shortly after because they are just way too attached to it. They keep it clenched in their fists and spend so much time and energy focused on not losing it that the result is exactly that, they lose it. When you have true gratitude, you aren't attached to life being a certain way, which gives you the ability to overcome any challenges that come up and have a much more enjoyable life overall. To wrap up, the key to using gratitude as a tool for attracting what you want, is to develop an attitude where you feel gratitude for life and everything that comes with it. Let go of your attachment to a certain outcome. Simply "playing" grateful will not bring you the results you seek. To develop an attitude of gratitude, start by being grateful for small things you wouldn't normally pay attention to or be grateful for.
When you lie down to go to sleep, feel grateful for how warm and comfortable you are. Be grateful for the sunlight. Even express gratitude if your co-worker gets a promotion and becomes your boss, because now you have the opportunity to learn from them and see what skills and traits they have that you are lacking. Again, you don't have to pretend you are happy about them being promoted instead of you. But find something about the situation you can be grateful for.
1. Become aware of everything that is around you at all times. Live in the present. Stop thinking about the past, the future and the shirt you need to take to the dry cleaner and notice the little things in life, such as the tangy sweetness of the orange you eat or the cool crisp air on your face as you walk out the front door. 2. Be fascinated and appreciative of the small and large wonders all around you – even if you are not fascinated. Act like you are anyway. 3. Think about the things you are grateful for on a regular basis, but be sure they are actual thoughts of gratitude on not guilt-gratitude.
V. Nothing is too Small to Matter
The next mindset tweak is to adopt the mindset that every single thing matters – starting right now. Why? Because it will strengthen your self-discipline, making it easier for you to achieve large goals. What this means is..”sweat the small stuff”. Don't think of anything as unimportant or irrelevant. Every single thing you do is either moving you towards your goals or away from the. Whenever you “don't feel” like doing something, no matter what it is, make yourself do it anyway. Even the small stuff. Especially the small stuff. See, when you force yourself to follow through on small things, you automatically set yourself up to be more successful at bigger things. Your self-discipline is strengthened so when it comes to doing the difficult stuff, you will follow through on it. Practice on the small stuff, and it will pay off for you when it comes to the big stuff. Don't feel like taking out the garbage? Do it anyway. Don't wait until tomorrow. If you always let the little things slide by thinking they're not that important – you set yourself up to fail at bigger goals. Every single thing you do matters. Action step:
Do things you don't feel like doing on a regular basis. Sort through your junk mail. Call your sister. Schedule that appointment. Pull the weeds. Do those things you have been putting off.
The difference between people who are successful and people who aren't? Successful people do things others won't do.
VI. Become a Person who Provides Value
This is one of those things that is absolutely crucial to understand if you ever want to make significant amounts of money. When you truly “get” this, you will never again worry about making money. It is that important. Not only that, but it will help you in other areas of your life as well. Your relationships will improve. Other people will like you more and you certainly won't have trouble making or keeping friends. I screwed this one up big time when I first started trying to make a lot of money, which is why I stayed broke for so long. I had no concept of this whatsoever. Although I don't like to admit it, I was extremely selfish. It was all about me and what I wanted. That mindset kept me away from being able to get anything I wanted for years – including having healthy relationships with others. When I first starting trying to get rich, that's exactly the way I approached every opportunity that was presented to me. “How can I use this to get rich” was my thinking. The problem with that type of thinking is I paid no attention at all to what kind of value I was going to provide to get that money. My main focus was how I was going to GET money, not GIVE value. Money is value. When you acquire money, it is simply an exchange in value. Someone is giving you value in the form of money, and you are giving them value in the form of something else such as knowledge, a service (like fixing their car), and so on. When you understand this, you realize if you want to make $10,000/month, you must figure out how to provide at least $10,000 worth of value. If you want to make $80,000/month, you must find a way to provide at least $80,000 worth of value. That could be $1,000 worth of value to 80 people, $8,000 worth of value to 10 people, $100 worth of value to . . . wait, let me get out my calculator . . . :) ..800 people, etc. You get the point. By purchasing this guide, you have just participated in an exchange of value. You provided the value of money and exchanged it with the value of the knowledge gained from reading this. You've realized by gaining this knowledge, you can then use that knowledge to create even more value (in the form of money) than you originally gave. The mere fact you have committed to invest in yourself by not only exchanging your
money, but also your time to read this guide, tells me a lot about you and your chances at succeeding in life. Did you know that some people are not even willing to provide the tiny amount of value asked of them in exchange for the value in this guide? It's no wonder they are having such a hard time making any money, their focus is completely inward. Unlike you, they want to take take take as much as possible, without providing anything in exchange. Instead of participating in a fair exchange, they feel entitled to receiving something for nothing. This creates a value imbalance in their life which sooner or later will be evened out. Even though they'll find all sorts of ways to get things for free – complaining about food at a restaurant (even if it's not bad) to get a refund or free food, squeezing as much free advice as they can from consultants or other professionals, demanding discounts on everything they purchase . . . . the value debt they are digging themselves into by doing this will be repaid – and somehow they'll find themselves constantly broke. Chances are, they focus on taking in every area of their life, whether in their job, their business or in their relationships. They try to take as much as they can without giving back, and then wonder why they are having so many problems. These people tend to be projectors. What I mean by that is, someone who thinks all people are dishonest think that because they themselves are dishonest. They assume everyone else is the same as them (although consciously they don't actually notice they are the ones who are dishonest. They're naïve hypocrites.) Whenever I meet a person who consistently believes I'm lying to them about something, I wonder what they're lying about. People who tend to be trusting of others are (most of the time) trustworthy people themselves. There are people who say that all business owners are dishonest, or claim that everyone is scamming them. In reality, they are the ones who are dishonest. They scam companies by trying to extract as much as possible without having to pay for it. They have an entitlement mentality that everything should be given to them. They believe it's wrong for businesses to make a profit. Yet if a business doesn't make a profit, how are they supposed to feed their family? How is it fair for a person to demand a business owner spend their time, money and other resources creating something to give it away for free? Imagine this – an employee does as little work as possible to get by. Just the minimum that is required to fill his job duties, maybe even less than that if he can get away with it. His thought process is “Why so I work so hard just so our CEO can get even richer?” All they care about is themselves.
Now, seriously ponder the two scenarios below: 1 – A position opens up that is higher in the company, and the employer goes looking for people within the company to fill it. Who do you think the employer will choose to be promoted? The person who contributes the most to the company and always goes above and beyond? Or the person who barely does enough to fulfill their responsibilities but never contributes much of anything else? Who would you choose? 2 – Suddenly the company needs to downsize. Things are not going well. They need to only keep the best people around to ensure they bounce back and don't keep going down. Will they keep the employees who contribute the most value to the company – or the least? You're smart enough to know the answer to that! Or, for those of you who are business owners rather than employees, consider this scenario. Imagine the difference it would make if, after a customer purchased something from you, you just beyond their expectations and gave them a surprise bonus that was never advertised. Most companies barely deliver what was promised in the first place, let alone OVER deliver. They would be thrilled and anxious to do business with you again!
1. Identify the areas in your life where you haven't been contributing as much value as you could be. 2. Begin to contribute just 1% more than you are expected to. That's it. Whenever you are asked to do something – do just a tiny bit more than they expect you to do. Go just 1% above and beyond.
VII. Improve Your Strengths – NOT Your Weaknesses
We live in a world where we are continually taught to improve our weaknesses. When a child is doing poorly in a particular subject in school, teachers and parents decide the child should spend the majority of their time and energy improving in that class. We're taught to be “well-rounded”. But there is a major problem with that. By being average at everything, you are exactly that. Average. You are never great at anything. Inspirational movies tend to give us the message that we can succeed at anything we want, no matter how unlikely our chances are. Here's how these movies usually go: the main character is someone who is least likely to succeed at their particular goal, they're the underdog. However, after years of dedication, studying and practicing religiously, they finally have some success. Now I'm not criticizing these movies entirely. There's nothing I enjoy more than a good inspirational movie that displays the power of persistence and never giving up. But the harmful message that comes from these type of movies is they never point out the fact that if person had been working toward something they had a natural talent for instead of working against all the odds, their persistent and dedication would have taken them to much greater success, in less time and with less effort. Because of this false way of thinking, some people spend their entire lives trying to become something they just cannot become, never knowing they could have become amazingly successful at something else. Michael Jordan may have become who he is from hours of practicing daily for years, and from persistence, dedication and refusing to give up after numerous failures – BUT he was born with certain talents and abilities that enabled him to become the greatest. A person with no talent in that area can follow in his footsteps exactly, practice the same amount, and have the same dedication, but not even come close to his skill level. The truth is, a person born with a natural talent for math who dedicates 10 years to becoming a great mathematician, will always have a huge advantage over the person who is horrible at math but dedicates the same 10 years (or more) trying to achieve the same thing. Earlier I talked about how teachers and parents focus on the areas children are doing poorly at and have them spend time on improving those weaknesses. What would be most beneficial is to focus just enough attention on that weakness so it is not debilitating and they aren't completely failing, but then have them spend the majority of their time becoming better at what they're already excelling in.
When you focus on your natural talents and use them to your advantage, you seem to have an almost magic ability to quickly build your skills and become great at something, often passing people who have been doing it for years. A perfect example of this involves my own father. While he was an amazing mathematician and even worked for NASA, he could not play the piano no matter how hard he tried. Nearly all of his kids, one by one, including myself, passed him up in skill level. Yet he spent more time practicing over the years than all of us combined! I started playing piano at age 7 and passed him up in 1 year. His brain was just not wired that way. Although brilliant at math and science, he struggled to play songs on the piano. Sure, after years of practice he could play some songs well, but for my siblings and I who had that talent, we could play much more difficult songs with less practice. When you focus turning your talents into strengths (by developing more knowledge and building your skills), you become unstoppable. Not only do you succeed more quickly and easily, you also enjoy your work and are happier. Here is what to do...
1. Find out what your natural talents are so you can use them to your advantage. I recommend using the StrengthsFinder 2.0, which you can purchase online by clicking here. (Make sure you buy a new copy, not a used one, otherwise the key code needed to take the test will not be functional)
That is what I used, and found it to be spot on accurate. The test is designed to practically force you to answer with your natural instincts, making it much more accurate than other tests.
2. After you know what your talents are, you can focus your time and energy on turning those talents into strengths. When you do this, you will be unstoppable! Your skill levels will rapidly increase because you'll be tapping in to natural talent.
VIII. WWH: WHAT, WHY and HOW
To succeed at anything, you need to know three things:
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EXACTLY what you want WHY you want it HOW you are going to get it
A common mistake people make when trying to get rich is they set a goal to “make a lot of money”. The problem with that is, they never specific how much “a lot” is. There is nothing to solidify their goal and get them moving toward the destination. You see, once you make a decision to go for something specific, you actually program your subconscious to work on getting you there. Your mind will take on a power of it's own and feed you ideas and motivation for reaching your destination. You'll feel more in control and confident about achieving your goal. If you don't know where you're going, you'll never get there. Imagine if you tried to go on a vacation, but didn't know exactly where you wanted to go. You packed up your stuff, got in the car and began driving, but the only thing you knew about where you were trying to go is that you wanted it to be “somewhere fun”. What do you think your chances are at arriving at the destination you are hoping for? Pretty slim. To get where you want to go, you have to know exactly where you want to go first, and have a plan for getting there. Do the first step right now. The first step is knowing where you want to go. Write down the exact amount you want to make, and give yourself a deadline for when you want to make it.
I recommend making the deadline one year or less and also setting small goals along the way. For example, one year ago I set a goal to earn $100,000 in the next 12 months. However, I also set many short term goals along the way. The first month my goal was to make $1000. The next month my goal was to make $1500, and so on. Take that number from Step #1 and put it somewhere you will see it every day. You could write it on a post it note that you stick on the fridge or bathroom mirror, or create an image of it on your computer and use it as your desktop wallpaper. Doesn't really matter where you put it, as long as you will see it on a daily basis. Then measure your progress toward it daily. This will keep you continually focused on that goal. Each day, subtract how much you made that day from your total number for the month/year. Being able to see the progress you are making on a daily basis will help you immensely. It gives you a sense of accomplishment and builds momentum. Figure out your “why”. You must, MUST have a reason “why” you want to achieve your financial goals. Without sufficient motivation, you will have a very hard time reaching success. Without enough motivation, you won't do any of the things you learned in this guide. You'll want to at first, and maybe even for a few days you will. But without a really GOOD reason why you're doing what you are doing, it will wear off fast. You need to figure out the real reason why you want to make more money than you are now. Then, you need to keep that reason why in your mind as much as possible. You can do this by putting up post it notes around the house, putting up pictures of your goal (this works best). Put up reminders where you will see it daily so you are thinking about it often. A lot of times people lose motivation because they stop thinking about their reason why. They are too focused on everything else that is going on, and even though that reason why is always in the back of their mind – they aren't putting in the front of their mind enough and consciously thinking about why they are doing what they're doing. Decide HOW you will achieve it.
Once you figure out WHAT you want, and WHY you want it, you must decide HOW you are going to achieve it. Are you going to get a promotion? If so, how? Will you study books on management, attend seminars, work longer hours? Are you going to start a business? Invest in real estate? You can decide your goal is to make $500,000 this year, but without any plan for how to make that $500,000, you aren't going to reach your goal. What do you need to do to start implementing your plan today? Figure out what you have to do to start putting your plan into action immediately, and then do it. Plenty of people want to be millionaires, but either don't know how to become one, or don't decide which opportunity to pursue. (There are so many options available, they get overwhelmed and never choose one.) I can think of 5 opportunities you can start right now to easily make a 6-figure per year income from (and potentially a million dollars per year or more), and I give out free information about all of them at http://www.supersonicsuccess.com/passive_income.html 1. Invest in real estate 2. Start an online businesses 3. Become a joint venture broker 4. Become an affiliate marketer 5. License ideas to companies for a share of the profits BONUS tip: Once you've decided HOW you will achieve your goal, find someone who is good at doing that and learn everything you can from them. Follow in their footsteps and do what they do.
1. Figure out your WWH (WHAT, WHY and HOW) 1. Exactly what you want 2. Why you want it (what's your motivation? Needs to be enough to get you to take action) 3. How will you achieve it? 2. When you have your income goal, write it down and put it somewhere you will see it every day. 3. Do the same thing with your why. If your reason for the goal is you want to
travel the world, find a picture of the one place you have the most desire to visit, and put that picture somewhere you will see it on a daily basis.”
Decide how you will achieve your income goal – then learn as much as possible about making money through that method and take action. Here are 5 ways you can earn a 6-figure income per year or more: 1. Invest in real estate 2. Start an online business 3. Become a joint venture broker 4. Become an online affiliate marketer 5. License ideas to companies for a share of the profits
IX. Don't Give Up – BUT, Do Not Persevere at a Failing Project
If you've read any kind of motivational or success literature before, you've probably heard the famous “don't give up” speech. That's good advice. Obviously if you give up before you reach your goal, you're doomed to failure. And most people actually give up when they're only inches away from the finish line. However, there is a flaw with that type of attitude that most people do not address. If you continue following a plan that is doomed to failure from the start, it doesn't matter how much you persevere, you are not going to succeed. So you must start with a solid strategy in the first place, and also continue to tweak your path along the way to continually do the things that are working and avoid what isn't. Think about it like this: Imagine a man goes into the doctor because there is an infection on his foot, but instead of giving him foot cream, the doctor prescribes medicine for his eye. Well obviously, it doesn't matter how dedicated he is at using the medicine regularly, and is doesn't matter if he never gives up at using the medicine – he is never going to get what he wants, which is to heal his foot. I'll give you an example of how this has effected my own life. For more than three years, I attempted to start a successful Internet business. I worked like crazy on my business, doing everything I thought I was supposed to be doing. I worked late into the night – every night – and I had the attitude that if I just kept at it and never gave up, eventually I was going to see success. Well, eventually I DID succeed, and like I said previously, was able come within a couple of thousand dollars of a 6-figure income. But, it wasn't JUST because I never gave up. It's also because I took a step back, and identified that what I was doing was not working, and I needed to adjust my plan. That's why I now believe it's best to get professional advice from someone who knows what they are doing rather than try to figure things out on your own. Too many times, people rely on trying to guess what to do, or are so focused on getting advice for free, they end up following bad advice that leads them nowhere or worsens their situation. Because I had a scarcity mindset, I didn't want to pay an expert to teach me what to do, instead I took free advice from people who I later realized had no clue what they were talking about. Talk about a waste of money! I would have saved myself years of
struggle and been making money a lot sooner if I hadn't done that.
1. If you're working on reaching a goal, but not getting there, take a step back and look at your process. 2. Ask yourself, “Am I 100% sure that what I'm doing is the most effective way to reach my goal?” 3. Get a 2nd opinion on your process. Find someone who has already done what you want to do, and get advice from them.
Trying to lose 40 lbs? Find someone who has lost a significant amount of weight and find out how they did it. Then do the same thing. Want to own a successful business? Find someone who has a successful business in the industry you want to go into business in, and find out how they did it. Then follow the same action steps.
Correct knowledge + Action + Perseverance = Success
X. Develop Successful Habits
Now that you know the attitudes you need to succeed, you need to develop new habits. Unfortunately, improving your mindset is not something you just do once, and it also does not happen instantly. Just as Zig Ziglar said about motivation: “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing - that’s why we recommend it daily.” The same is true of the habits I just shared with you. Here's why. You are used to thinking and acting a certain way right now, and that is why you have the results you currently have. To change your results, you must change your daily thoughts and habits. You have to start thinking and acting differently on a regular basis. Here is what to do for best results: Change just one habit at a time. Even though I shared several mindset tweaks with you today, do not try to implement all of them at once. I didn't. I started with just one (changing my money mindset). Begin by practicing just one of these mindset tweaks for 21 days in a row (that is the amount of time research has shown it takes to develop a habit). Once you feel you are not struggling so much with that mindset tweak and it has become a normal part of your thinking, move on to the next mindset tweak. Fact is, it will only take one of these tweaks to make significant changes to your life, so don't feel like you have to do all of them at once to see any results. You will be much better off mastering one before moving on to the next. Say you implement one every twenty-one days. It will take you approximately six months to master all of them. Six months total! That's a very short time to master the wealth mindset. Think how quickly your financial situation is going to change when in less than two months you've already created a habit out of two of the mindset tweaks and are on the third one.
1. Implement just one of the mindset tweaks you learned today. 2. Program that habit into your mind by working on it every single day for 21 days in a row. Make sure not to skip ANY days.
3. Move on to the next mindset tweak. 4. Keep your eye on the goal, and don't give up!
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