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9, 2002 Volume 7 , Number 11
If only being in love was enough to fulfill and carry an entire relationship. Unfortunately, it is not that easy. Julie Fricker and Susan Moore created a study to determine which attachment and love styles can create sexual satisfaction. As humans we often mistake the feelings that attract us to another person as love. A relationship cannot solely survive on this feeling though. Based on Fricker and Moore’s study the three attachment styles of secure, avoidant, and anxious/resistant along with the six love styles of Eros, Ludus, Storge, Mania, Pragma and Agape are actually the basis of all relationships. While studying the relationships of 111 individuals they found that Eros love style had the most positive results and Ludus has the most negative. Attachment styles can start as early as infancy. Infants that are exposed to stressful situations or detachment can develop relationship issues in adulthood. They will find themselves with feelings of abandonment and disconnect carried from their childhood into their adult partnerships. In adults that did not experience any attachment traumas as an infant, it was found that they were secure in their relationships. Another great difference between the two groups was the amount of comfort they felt in the relationships. In the group with no infancy trauma’s they were comfortable with intimacy whereas the traumatized group developed severe anxiety when in a close relationship. In the most well received love style, Eros, the pair in the relationship are bound by a strong and intense attraction to one another. Whereas, in Ludas, individuals are not deeply committed to one another. They keep the relationship loosely based with each other and there is no resentment for a lack of commitment. Mania is able to combine both Ludas and Eros into its relationship style. Although, this polar opposite combination can show signs of obsession along with anxiety. Storge and Ludas combined create a positive and longevity placed relationship
style called Pragma. This combination is based on partners who have sought out another with the same ideals. Opposites Eros and Storge create Agape. This style tends to create relations ships that are both friendly and intense. The perfect relationship seems to need both an attachment and love style. By combining both styles each individuals needs are being met. One who is anxious and avoidant can be balanced by one is joyful and caring. This gives them able working room for love and sex needs to be met. Both individuals will be contributing to the relationship and creating a perfect balance. Longevity can be found in the grouping due to the lasting monogamy, sexual attraction and satisfaction. Now that Fickler and Moore have discovered the recipe for the perfect relationship will they be able to calculate a flawless pairing? In a study involving forty six men, sixty four women, and one unstated sex, they were able to create The Global Measure of relationship Satisfaction. Each person received a questionnaire and were asked series of questions. Most importantly, they were asked to rate their current sexual relationship. As they had already predicted those who fell into the Eros category were secure and happy in their relationship. In the next stage of study they sought to determine which lovestyle and style produced the most sexually satisfied partners. Again Eros, was found to be the most highly ranked style. Where Eros seems to develop mature and love filled affiliations. Other styles seem to rely on one another to create a lucrative bond. The weakness that is found in each style causes an overlap that in turn creates functioning alliance. The study furthermore proves that sexual satisfaction and love variables create a higher level of satisfaction. Agape and Eros love styles
were correlated to relationship satisfaction while Ludas and avoidant attachment were counteractive. Atavism was also a result of Eros, Agape, Ludus and avoidant were able to influence one another in an association. In all realms sex plays the major role in any pairing. Where the Eros lover seemed to be the most well received, the avoidant style appeared to be the most overall sexually active. In all relationships, sex plays an integral role in relationship closeness and growth. Love and lust are natural reactions for humans. This study shows though that a sexual companionship cannot thrive on one basis alone though. It takes multiple contributions to see a relationship stay unwavering. A relationship cannot survive on love alone. The Eros lovestyle had a direct effect on the positive forces of relationship satisfaction. While Ludus demonstrated the negative effects on relationship satisfaction.