Tucker Stacey PSYC 273: Human Adjustment Chapter 1: Adjusting to Modern Life There is nothing quite like turning your TV on after you get in from a long and busy day at work, and hearing a frumpy guy in an expensive suite telling a family that they are screwed up and needs help. So enough already! Each year thousand and millions of dollars are spent on self-help books and programming, feng shui, Chicken soup for the (fill it in) soul, and the plethora of other subject areas all designed to do one thing, make you better and “fix” your life. These therapeutic shows disregard the hundred years of psychological research and only give a quick fix for something that may be ingrained with in their self, using only generalities instead of treatment specialized for that individual. It is absurd to believe that one size fits all psychology works.

M. Tucker Stacey PSYC 273: Human Adjustment Chapter 2: Theories of Personality This Chapter we focused on different perspectives of personalities including Psychodynamics, Behavioral, Humanistic, and Biological. So far I think I identify most closely with the Freud’s psychodynamic theory of personality, however, I disagree mainly with his theory of stage progression. I do believe that personality is mainly developed from the events of your childhood and the events of your early adolescents, and that to completely understand someone you must first understand where they have been. I also feel that most of life’s problems come from conflicts of what we want versus what we can have or rather our Ego vs. our ID, and to deal with these conflicts we come up with mechanism that will shield us from the complete effect of the problem.

M. Tucker Stacey PSYC 273: Human Adjustment Chapter 3: Stress and its Effects In today’s world of constantly on the go, stress has become a constant problem. With new developments in technology work doesn’t end when you leave the office you can easily connect to your workstation via a cell phone, blackberry, laptop, iPod, and palm poilate, even on weekends and vacations does the rat race of the week continue. There are several studies that conclude that stress can cause grate problems physically, I happen to agree with those findings, and hypothesize that as the people connect more with the job that the heartdiease and other problems will increase, also causing family and social strain. Increasingly technology is a leading cause of divorce as more and more time is spent on the web than dining together or doing other activities as a group.

M. Tucker Stacey PSYC 273: Human Adjustment Chapter 4: Coping Processes We each deal with many crisis and problems each day though to different degrees, for some it could be something as simple as the hot water heater running out of hot water, for others it could be the loss of a loved one, or a car accident how these affects us is different to each person and how we deal with them are even more varied. There are both negative and positive coping techniques. Negative techniques include giving up, hurting someone (both emotionally and physically), blaming others, and making excuses. Positive techniques are constructive and are based on appraisal, which uses rational thinking to over come an obstacle. How a person chooses what type of technique they use Ellis says that it is dependent on their outlook on life, and how they describe their situation.

M. Tucker Stacey PSYC 273: Human Adjustment Chapter 5: The Self Self-concept, self-esteem, Self-perception, Self Regulation, and self-presentation are all aspects that form “The Self.” The self is an amazing form, which controls basically everything about us. However, problems occur when we develop discrepancies about who we think we are and who we see ourselves to be. When this is reconciled we attribute our shortcomings on different sources. Some blame the person this internal attribution causes them to see a problem within their selves and assuming that they had control over the situation, the opposite external blames the situation they are in and sees that they have no control over those conditions which created the problem. These self problems can build up until you explode and go off on a rampage.

M. Tucker Stacey PSYC 273: Human Adjustment Chapter 6: Social Thinking Many facets contribute to how we see another person, some are controlled but the vast majority are those that are automatic. These automatic assumptions leads to stereotypes that may not hold true to a particular person, to combat these prejudices several methods have been implemented but without success, the most successful is the jigsaw method which makes a person in groups rely on each other to accomplish a certain task. I found this very interesting and continued to do research even helping my girlfriend develop a lesson for her classroom around this theory and it worked at least for that part of the day. I am trying to figure out how to accomplish this in the realm of politics.

M. Tucker Stacey PSYC 273: Human Adjustment Chapter 7: Interpersonal Communication I always have thought of myself an easy person to open up to, however with the results from the Chapter 7 questionnaire I found that perhaps I’m not as easy to open up to as I thought. I feel that this is an important skill I need to work on however the book doesn’t really give any specific advise other than to listen. People open best when they know someone is listening and perhaps I need to work on my listening skills, this can be done just by eliminating distractions from around me and being better attuned to the people around me, and overcoming certain social fears I have.

M. Tucker Stacey PSYC 273: Human Adjustment Chapter 8: Friendship and Love Internet dating has revolutionized the process of dating…. Or has it lets take for instance history, most nobility married with only writing letters back and forth with their lovers and if it was someone important as a prince or king they would send after a portrait of their lover. This is the first Internet dating service. So has the Internet revolutionized dating yes but only in the sense that now this process is widely open to common people and they are even more easily to communicate with one another. The internet growth is at alarming speeds and modern society is still trying to catch up with it.

M. Tucker Stacey PSYC 273: Human Adjustment Chapter 9: Marriages and Intimate Relationships Gay marriage is one of the most talked about political topic in America. The religious right claims that if we were to allow same-sex marriage the fabric of society would break down. However, they have no supporting facts, in fact Spain, England, and Canada allow same-sex marriages and they are having no problems as well as our own states in the union, Massachusetts and New Jersey both allow same-sec unions, and I don’t see their worlds crashing down. These places have grown and flourished since the laws have gone into effect.

M. Tucker Stacey PSYC 273: Human Adjustment Chapter 10: Gender and Behavior My girlfriend and me has a very sorted story it alls begins a year ago when we first met I considered my self completely, no questions asked gay. However, as we got to know each other, we began to fall in love and started dating. I always knew that I was feminine, but I was shocked when I tool the Gender behavior test, I scored a very low Cross-gender score. I never looked at me that way, but it makes sense since my girlfriend is bi too and more manly than I am. It just adds to the weirdness of our relationship that I would be girlier than she. We just mesh well and I really do love her it just creates dynamic where I emotionally am connected to her but sexually I am attracted to guys. We are in therapy though and it seems to be working ,

M. Tucker Stacey PSYC 273: Human Adjustment Chapter 11: Development in Adolescence and Adulthood There are many things going on during our time of adolescence, hormones raging, tempers flaring, emotions rapidly, and minds changing, but this is nothing compared to what an adult faces while he is trying to get their feet on the ground. They are developing new roles and remodeling old ones, as the progress their attitude towards work changes as well. Entering into this phase I draw similarities with what the book is describing about being in college and transitioning into adulthood. It really helped me to understand what is going on and what will happen in the future. This my favorite chapter of the book.

M. Tucker Stacey PSYC 273: Human Adjustment Chapter 12: Careers and Work This chapter helped me to realize the energy it takes into making a career. Not to mention the details that needed to be addressed before even an career can be started, citing educational goals, as well as goals which can easily be met such as dressing professional , be organized, and having a positive outlook on what you can accomplish through your career. An Career objective is one which isn’t set in stone and can change at a moments notice, and as a human you need to be able to adjust to these changes, by having back up plans, skills, and education. As you progress work becomes more important to you and satisfying and you begin to enter into a phase of gaining to retirement.

M. Tucker Stacey PSYC 273: Human Adjustment Chapter 15: Psychological Disorders I have always been fascinated by psychological disorders, I have grew up around them my adoptive grandma was had major depression and my sisters biological father was schizophrenic. My current girlfriend suffers from bi-polar with somatization, I am slowly learning how to deal with her irregularities. This chapter has given me further insight to how her treatments and therapies work as well as what are some symptoms of the disorder she is experiencing. I have been hesitant to do research on her disorders because they are scary things to me but through this chapter I have gained the courage to do the research.

M. Tucker Stacey PSYC 273: Human Adjustment Chapter 16: Psychotherapy For the past 3 years I have seen a counselor, but we haven’t really accomplished anything as far as what the original problem was that brought me to him. When I began reading this chapter I realized that we hadn’t even accomplished 1/2 of what the book recommends for a good counselor. It’s been 3 years and still there hasn’t even been a clear plan set or even a goal in sight. Perhaps his particular type of therapy attributed to this waiting for me to find the way a Gestalt method if you will. However, I feel like I am getting nothing out of this arrangement. Should I change therapist and if I do What should I take in account in the new therapist?