Building self confidence Introduction some people have naturally high levels of confidence but everybody can learn
to be more confident. Firstly, it’s important to get a clear idea of what self confidence really means, otherwise you won’t know when you’ve got it. In literary terms it can be defined as a State of being certain either that a hypothesis or prediction is correct or that a chosen course of action is the best or most effective. Selfconfidence is having confidence in oneself. Brian Tracy said “Whatever we expect with confidence becomes our own self-fulfilling prophecy.”Meaning of self fulfilling prophecy is hypothesis directly or indirectly turns itself to be true. Self-confidence is the knowledge that you can do something and do it well. Self-confidence comes from firsthand knowledge of the task at hand, knowing your strengths and weaknesses, applying your skills to any situation.Self-confidence are extremely important in almost every aspect of our lives.There are certain characteristics that ensure that particular person is confident. i.e 1) Being calm. For every situation in life you need to run on the appropriate level of emotion. Too much emotional ‘leakage’ into a experience can spoil the experience. You make great strides towards confidence when you begin to relax in a greater range of situations. 2) Being cool. The second part of self confidence is about being able to relax with uncertainty. To be ‘cool’ in a situation really means relaxing with not knowing how things will pan out. If you truly tolerate uncertainty, you can do pretty much anything. 3) Not being too concerned with what others think of you. You know when you imagine what some place is going to be like before you go there but when you get there it is totally different to your imagination? That’s how reliable your imagination is! Stop trusting your imagination so much. I’ve long since stopped bothering to imagine what others think of me because so often I’ve turned out to be wrong.
The blueprint for relaxation has been set firmly into your subconscious mind. If you powerfully imagine feeling confident and relaxed while in a relaxed hypnotic state it will be hard for your unconscious mind to do anything else. 6) Don’t ask your mind with negatives. 7) Use nature’s goal-setter: Now you understand how vital it is to set the right task for you brain.
. Where do you want confidence in your life? Think about the specific situations now and write them down. Instead of: ‘I don’t want to screw up’ (which sets the task of ‘screwing up’ for your brain). When a task has been set in your brain it will do everything it can do to bring about the completion of that task. You can use this natural mechanism to start feeling more confident. to ensure you set the right task for your subconscious mind. Good hypnosis will strongly ‘program’ the right blueprint in your mind through the use of your imagination. You are already confident that you can read these words or can switch a light on and off. The ‘trying to recall’ experience set the task or blueprint for your brain’s future subconscious behavior which eventually produced the name for you – when you weren’t thinking about it consciously. But. 5) Understanding that what you expect is what you get. And nature has given you a wonderful natural tool to set the right task blueprints with. Your brain is an organ that needs clear goals to work towards. To get what you want in life you have to establish exactly what you do want. So you don’t need more confidence everywhere. set the blueprint for what you do want! Your brain doesn’t work towards what to do by being told what not to do. If you’ve tried to recall someone’s name but can’t. you need to know how to do this reliably. the next point is vital.4) Being specific – where do you want confidence? ‘Confidence‘is meaningless until you tie it to something specific. You are beginning to steer your brain towards confidence. hours later you’ll often find their name pops into your head.
3) Close your eyes for as long as you like and think about how those words feel. Types of self confidence There are three types of confidence
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Low self confidence Optimal self confidence Over confidence
Low self confidence and overconfidence are extreme situations we should avoid both of them and strive for achieving optimal self confidence. Remember ‘confidence’ doesn’t mean anything until you attach it to something specific. Staying in your comfort zone.3 simple strategies to get you feeling confident quickly: 1) Think specifically of the time/place/situation you want to feel confident in. even if others mock or criticize you for it.
Governing your behavior based on what other people think. Then. fearing failure and so avoid taking risks.
. imagine the situation itself and rehearse it in your mind feeling confident and relaxed. Being willing to take risks and go the extra mile to achieve better things. 2) Focus on words in your mind right now that describe how you do want to be in that time and place.
Self-Confident Doing what you believe to be right. Remember your brain works on clear positive instructions.
yet so many people struggle to find it. solid achievement. these people have the so called ‘superiority complex.Admitting your Working hard to mistakes. and accelerating towards success. Self-confident people are generally more positive – they believe in themselves and their abilities. Steps to Build Self-Confidence So how do you build this sense of balanced self-confidence. just as long as you have the focus and determination to carry things through. You need to take stock of where you are. Generally. “Oh really worked hard that prospectus was on that prospectus. People who lack self confidence find it difficult to become successful. think about where you
. or 5-minute solution.” As you can see from these examples. and hoping that you can fix the problem before anyone notices. and it often manifests itself as negativity.
Accepting Dismissing compliments compliments graciously. Extolling your own virtues as often as possible to as many people as possible. Waiting for others to congratulate you on your accomplishments. founded on a firm appreciation of reality? The bad news is that there’s no quick fix. It makes you egoistic and irritating. I’m pleased you anyone could have recognize my done it. i.” efforts. egotistic and stubborn. setting out. Often we come across people who are overconfident. Self confidence is extremely important in almost every aspect of life.e. and cover up mistakes learning from them. “Thanks. low self-confidence can be selfdestructive. And what’s even better is that the things you’ll do to build self-confidence will also build success – after all. for which we’ll use the metaphor of a journey: preparing for your journey. Self – confident people inspire confidence in others. and they also believe in living life to the full. Step 1: Preparing for Your Journey The first step involves getting yourself ready for your journey to selfconfidence. I offhandedly. No-one can take this away from you! So here are our three steps to self-confidence. your confidence will come from real. The good news is that building self-confidence is readily achievable. nothing really. It is important to be confident but… not overconfident.
you need to start managing your mind. Setting and achieving goals is a key part of this. and what you want to achieve with your life. get yourself in the right mindset for your journey. And then spend a few minutes each week enjoying the success you’ve already had! Think about your strengths: Next. In preparing for your journey. Inform your goal setting with your SWOT Analysis. and that you will do all in your power to achieve it. Learn to pick up and defeat the negative self-talks which can destroy your confidence. A tip: Make sure it’s a very small step. that’s great. which you can look at often.If as you’re doing it. Set goals that exploit your strengths. use a technique like SWOT Analysis to take a look at who and where you are. think about the opportunities and threats you face. Goal setting is the process you use to set yourself targets. you find doubts starting to surface. minimize your weaknesses. did something that made a key difference in someone else’s life. do these five things: Look at what you've already achieved: Think about your life so far. and real self-confidence comes from this. If they dissolve under scrutiny. Use and create strong mental images of what you’ll feel and experience as you achieve your major goals – there’s something about doing this that makes even major goals seem achievable! And then commit yourself to success! The final part of preparing for the journey is to make a clear and unequivocal promise to yourself that you are absolutely committed to your journey. identify the first step in each." Perhaps you came top in an important test or exam. and where you want to go: Next. realize your opportunities. think about the things that are really important to you. Make sure that you enjoy a few minutes reflecting on your strengths! Think about what's important to you. and commit yourself to starting it and staying with it. played a key role in an important team. and list the ten best things you've achieved in an "Achievement Log. and reflecting on your recent life. and control the threats you face. produced the best sales figures in a period. perhaps taking no more than an hour to complete! Start managing your mind: At this stage. Looking at your Achievement Log. and measure your successful hitting of those targets. think about what your friends would consider to be your strengths and weaknesses. However if they are
. write them down and challenge them calmly and rationally. And having set the major goals in your life.want to go. or delivered a project that meant a lot for your business.Put these into a smartly formatted document. From these.
gives you a certificate or qualification you can be proud of. it makes you stronger!” Step 3: Accelerating Towards Success
. get in the habit of setting them. if you get into the habit of treating mistakes as learning experiences. Accept that mistakes happen when you’re trying something new. you will take informed risks. And. And don’t reach for perfection – just enjoy doing simple things successfully and well. learn to handle failure. At the other end. Set small goals. keep celebrating and enjoying success. just-good-enough solution – look for a solution. Focus on the basics: When you’re starting. ideally. Step 2: Setting Out This is where you start. don’t try to do anything clever or elaborate. ever so slowly. You may also find that you’re so optimistic that you don’t try hard enough to truly succeed. stretch yourself (but not beyond your abilities) and try hard. we have people who may be over-confident. and you might not try at all. Don’t make goals particularly challenging at this stage. and starting with small. If you are under-confident. you’ll avoid taking risks and stretching yourself. Getting this right is a matter of having the right amount of confidence. And then look at how you can acquire these skills confidently and well. stretch yourself beyond your capabilities. Either way. little by little. And on the other side. start piling up the successes! Keep managing your mind: Stay on top of that positive thinking. Don’t just accept a sketchy. And if you’re over-confident. At one extreme. you’ll put yourself on the path to success – and start building the self-confidence that comes with this. moving towards your goal. there’s a lot to be said for the saying “if it doesn’t kill you. and celebrating that achievement. In fact. By doing the right things. and crash badly. a program or a course that fully equips you to achieve what you want to achieve and. make that promise! Tip: Balanced Self-Confidence Self-confidence is about balance. you can (almost) start to see them in a positive light. achieving them. After all. and keep those mental images strong. easy wins. make sure you set additional goals to manage these appropriately. founded in reality and on your true ability. With the right amount of self-confidence. identify the skills you’ll need to achieve them. and achieve them: Starting with the very small goals you identified in step 1. we have people with low self-confidence.based on genuine risks. just get into the habit of achieving them and celebrating them. you may take on too much risk. Build the knowledge you need to succeed: Looking at your goals.
buy half as much”. You’ll have completed some of the courses you started in step 2. And make sure you don’t start enjoying cleverness for its own sake… As long as you keep on stretching yourself enough. and being cognizant of the latest styles. This doesn’t mean you need to spend a lot on clothes. Increase the size of your commitment. but closely related arenas. One great rule to follow is “spend twice as much. they certainly affect the way he feels about himself. Although many of the factors affecting self confidence are beyond your control. you'll have earned your self-confidence – because you’ll have put in the hard graft necessary to be successful! 10 Ways to Instantly Build Self Confidence Self confidence is the difference between feeling unstoppable and feeling scared out of your wits. you'll find your self-confidence building apace. significant improvements can be made by bathing and shaving frequently. you’ll feel your self-confidence building. Your perception of yourself has an enormous impact on how others perceive you. buy half as many select. Perception is reality — the more self confidence you have. When you don’t look good. high quality items. 1. By using these 10 strategies you can get the mental edge you need to reach your potential. Dress Sharp Although clothes don’t make the man.By this stage. there are a number of things you can consciously do to build self confidence. No one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are. In most cases. And extend the skills you’ve proven into new. it changes the way you carry yourself and interact with other people. wearing clean clothes. but not too much. Use this to your advantage by taking care of your personal appearance. In long run this
. What's more. Tip: Keep yourself grounded – this is where people tend to get over-confident and over-stretch themselves. Make the goals a bit bigger and the challenges a bit tougher. Rather than buying a bunch of cheap clothes. and you’ll have plenty of success to celebrate!This is the time to start stretching yourself. the more likely it is you’ll succeed.
Recall your past successes. Good Posture Similarly. The best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude. They have places to go. you’ll automatically feel more confident. 4. keep your head up. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. You’ll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.decreases spending because expensive clothes wear out less easily and stay in style longer than cheap clothes. Write a 3060 second speech that highlights your strengths and goals. Even if you aren’t in a hurry. You can fill this need by creating a personal commercial. Set aside time each day to mentally list everything you have to be grateful for. Unfortunately. 3. Is it slow? tired? painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful? People with confidence walk quickly. Walking 25% faster will make to you look and feel more important. Personal Commercial One of the best ways to build confidence is listening to a motivational speech. 2. Walk Faster One of the easiest ways to tell how a person feels about herself is to examine her walk. People with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of self confidence. They aren’t enthusiastic about what they’re doing and they don’t consider themselves important. Stand up straight. and positive momentum. the way a person carries herself tells a story. Gratitude When you focus too much on what you want. loving relationships. Then recite it in front of the mirror aloud (or inside your head if you prefer) whenever you need a confidence boost. people to see. you can increase your self confidence by putting some pep in your step. and make eye contact. By practicing good posture. opportunities to listen to a great speaker are few and far between. Buying less also helps reduce the clutter in your closet. and important work to do. unique skills. 5. You’ll
. the mind creates reasons why you can’t have it.
unattractive. If you’re out of shape. 6. and accomplish something positive. In fact most people are dealing with the exact same fears. Most people prefer the back because they’re afraid of being noticed. more confident in your own thoughts.
. people constantly strive to sit at the back of the room. Having the discipline to work out not only makes you feel better. In the process. and recognized as a leader by your peers. 9. you indirectly bring out the best in yourself. By looking for the best in others. it creates positive momentum that you can build on the rest of the day. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. you can get over this irrational fear and build your self confidence. This reflects a lack of self confidence. we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. you’ll become a better public speaker. Sit in the front row In schools. Work out Along the same lines as personal appearance. offices. and less energetic. and public assemblies around the world. Speak up During group discussions many people never speak up because they’re afraid that people will judge them for saying something stupid.be amazed how much you have going for you and motivated to take that next step towards success. Compliment other people When we think negatively about ourselves. This fear isn’t really justified. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion. By working out. energize yourself. physical fitness has a huge effect on self confidence. get in the habit of praising other people. By deciding to sit in the front row. 7. you’ll feel insecure. you’ll become well liked and build self confidence. Generally. To break this cycle of negativity. 8. You’ll also be more visible to the important people talking from the front of the room. you improve your physical appearance. people are much more accepting than we imagine.
have partners to stand with us. Make mistakes but do correct them. Action plan for boosting self-confidence: Here presents some quick plan to boost up confidence. This will increase self confidence and allow you to contribute with maximum efficiency. The more you contribute to the world the more you’ll be rewarded with personal success and recognition. feel positive and act positive. And the last one is to spend time with more confident people. we have eyes to see this beautiful world. it will not only help you to enjoy your life but it also be fruitful for the people around you. It will help you to accomplish tasks confidently. Start your day with a smile. Everyone should love and accept itself. So do mistakes but learn from experiences and correct them. they will help you in boosting up your confidence. Say yes to what is offered to you. what is challenging for you. Remember we are not angels so we are not perfect. you won’t worry as much about you own flaws. Be what you are! Have a “can-do” attitude. The most important thing is to think positive. what seems to be impossible. We focus too much on ourselves and not enough on the needs of other people. If you stop thinking about yourself and concentrate on the contribution you’re making to the rest of the world. As life goes on so we should also move on! Count your blessings. Give a pat on your back. hands to feel the warmth of our loved ones.10. have friends to laugh with. To find this some questions were asked these questions include: Do you fear or fail to mistake? Do you compare yourself with others? Do you feel yourself inferior then others? etc and if answers of above questions were “yes” than respondents would have low self confidence. ears to hear the birds chirping.
. SELF TEST: Self test has been taken in the class to judge how many of them has low confidence.it is the most easiest way to make your life beautiful. we have family to share our burdens. Focus on contribution Too often we get caught up in our own desires. in short we have countless blessings around us just we have to realize them.
At the end i would like to say the winner is not the one who never fails. So. Once a gentleman invented a machine but no one was acknowledging him and that gentleman was ALEXANDER GRAHAM BELL. But the one who never give up. there are two different people in this world. and that child was ALBERT EINSTEIN who measured the speed of light and became a star on this earth.
.AND AFTER THESE IF SOME ONE IS STILL FEELING IT CAN’T GET GOING IN ITS LIFE THEN REMEMBER: Once a child was said that he would not become anybody in his life. Remember one thing. one that says “ i wish i had” and the one that says“ i am glad i did’. you can have anything in this world if you just believe in yourself. just because of him this world is a global village now.