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PICKUP IS *DEAD* The Alpha MANifesto ______________
Transform Yourself Into the Genuine, Confident, Successful Man Every Quality Woman Wants...
© 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions, LLC.
This ebook is LONG overdue. For the last 3 or 4 years, being a “pickup artist” has been all the rage. Interestingly enough, I’ve never considered myself a “pickup artist.” I don’t even have a clever call-sign to give me a false sense of importance or coolness.
Pickup is DEAD... Long Live the NEW Order of Men Who Know How to BE Attractive. Not just fake it.
Although, I seriously thought about using “McLovin.” Men everywhere had been searching for an effective way to attract women. Some guys knew how this Art of Attraction worked; some didn’t. But now we’ve reached a new time and a new understanding of what it takes to attract and keep a woman. (In every single seminar and bootcamp I’ve taught, over 90% of the guys wanted a single relationship with an attractive woman. NOT a revolving door of “one night stands.”)
Manifesto - Noun manifesto (plural manifestos or manifestoes) 1.A public declaration of principles, policies, or intentions
Famous Manifestoes: ! ! ! The United States Declaration of Independence (1776) The Cartagena Manifesto (1812), by Simón Bolívar The Hacker's Manifesto (1986), By The Mentor aka Loyd Blankenship
© 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions, LLC.
This report that you’re about to read is going to blow the lid off the “secret” society of pickup artists. Perhaps even more than my friend Neil Strauss’ book did. If you’ve been searching for a REAL answer to the question “How can I attract more women into my life?” then hold on, because this book will change the way you look at women, dating, practicing “pickup” and may even change the way you look at your life.
YOUR Reality. Define it however you want to. And GET REAL in the process.
If you’re scared of having your reality rocked, this isn’t the book you’re looking for. Just close the file and move on to some other clever list of “opening lines” or “routines.” But if you’re looking for more than drunk makeout sessions in a bar or club with a woman you can’t quite see through the smoke or hear through the noise, then you’re about to learn the R.E.A.L. Art of Attraction that most guys will never hear about, much less learn. The first 90% of this book is hardcore content and pure gold, and the rest is openhanded self-serving on my part. I want you to really GET this information in a way that few others have. And I’m willing to use some unconventional methods to do it - but I’ll always be 100% honorable and authentic with you in the process. Pardon my French, but this is no bullshit - and no hype. I don’t have time for that obnoxious sales stuff, and neither do you. I intend to only give you the Truth in this book - straight from my heart.
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This is important information you need to have. I stayed up over the course of several nights and poured my heart into this book. I feel like Tom Cruise’s character in Jerry Maguire... I’m even thinking of that famous line from the movie (no. 3 . and I want to help you before you fall victim to some incredibly addictive and enticing traps out there. the other line from that movie): “The things we think but do not say..... .. or NONE of them..CarlosXuma. The things I thought but could not say.. watching what was going on around him and having to finally scream ENOUGH! I pretty much did the same thing he did. Your friend.. until NOW. Well.com © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions.www.” It’s high time this was said.com I had a lot of guys write to me and tell me that they felt the information I’m giving away in this ebook would do one (or more) of several things: Infuriate the other pickup “gurus” out there.. http://www. too. I’m not really concerned about that. Make me out to be a crackpot loony with delusions of grandeur. or all of them. LLC. Put everyone in this field out of business when they discovered what I’m about to reveal..... In fact..CarlosXuma. maybe it will do one of those.
then email me or call me at the contact info I’m going to give you later in the report. not fantasy nonsense about women flocking to you like a rock star because you’re wearing a top hat and goggles. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions.com PS: I made this book as short as it would let me. Unlike Morpheus. it’s tough to stop me .CarlosXuma. 4 . Sometimes we don’t need a choice. If you think I have. Meaning that when I get started.especially when it’s a topic I know as well as I do this one.www. I’m here to tell you what you need to hear. LLC. I have no Blue Pill for you. So I’m not going to waste your time or insult your intelligence. Now let’s get your red pill so you can unplug from this NEW matrix called “pickup” and get plugged into a reality that YOU choose.
. I want you forget you saw this book. Please. really man. Get rid of it. LLC.. Just close this book and let this silly notion go. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. You’re not a quitter.CarlosXuma. I guess I’ll continue. really. No. 5 . Close this file and delete it. I’ll start by telling you something you think you already know. WHAT???!! You still haven’t heeded my warning. I’ll refund you the money. Let’s get this thing started. All right.www.. Close this book right now. Stop. Huh? You’re still here? Hmmm. It’s easier to not change. It’s easier to just stay the same old person and live your life in ignorant bliss. No one ever made a statue for or celebrated a quitter. Close this document and trash it.. but I really hope you’ll see the light and stay like everyone else. It’s far too risky for you to shake things up at this point. Please... Just throw it in your trash now and forget you even saw it. I don’t want to start a revolution.? EXCELLENT! You ARE the right kind of guy. Well. C’mon.com Wait.
com It’s Not Just About Getting Laid. It also wasn’t the “pickup artist” version of me that I used to attract women in bars in clubs just a few short years ago.www. and I’m laying next to my girlfriend in bed. (It will take you a LOT less time than it did me if you read this and heed my words. And it really didn’t take me 10 years to get HER. Not the “me” that I was many years ago. I did this by being a “Man. Not the “un-refined” me that I once used to repel women in the past. LLC. I didn’t do it by buying her expensive gifts or flaunting wealth. right? No. per se. I didn’t do it by acting like a cartoon character wimp from a sitcom on television. I don’t mean that I got her by appearing on her doorstep every week bringing her flowers and candies. and she fills my every need. Is It? It’s 4:00 AM. She’s a very beautiful Asian woman. 6 . I didn’t do it by sending her poems and desperate pleas to be my woman.” A REAL man with modern masculinity that is authentic and attractive to women.CarlosXuma. mind you.) © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. 10 years is better than NEVER. And it took me over ten years to get her. but it took that long for me to create the Alpha Lifestyle that would draw her in and make her mine. I did it by being me.
I want to show you a way that you can get the women. Or can’t sleep with her. As a result. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. LLC. I’ll come back to that in a while.. The important thing to come away with here is that going after women is not really about “getting laid. and the speed with which he can sleep with her.and the LIFESTYLE you desire. And almost all of these guys I talked to wanted a QUALITY woman. really. with no bootcamps and no top hats or “fake it ‘til you make it” mind games.. 7 . we all want sex .even women want it (and more than you can imagine) . And when you talk to them. they all agree that it’s not about getting laid.com And it’s my objective here to tell you more about how you can do this on your own. the sex. QUALITY is something most guys define by the size of her boobs. Now since “quality” is a subjective term. Over 90% of the guys in my bootcamps and seminars want a single lasting relationship with one woman. ONE woman. so hang on and let me tell you. Yeah. you’re going to read a lot of interesting things in these pages. the cuteness of her tush. I’ll warn you now.” Most guys know this. this book is as wild and diverse as my mind..www. the relationship . And you won’t have to wear ridiculous clothes and play head games to get it all.CarlosXuma.. yet we chase the “quick lay” promises because they appeal to our most primitive part of our mind.but in the end we’re all looking for a lasting relationship.
And then he found “the community.CarlosXuma. Yes.” Another clever way of saying he found this “secret society of pickup artists” and all the information there was to be had on the techniques and skills of the “seducer. and get a woman that will find us interesting and sexually appealing? Well. and he had it. He read my stuff.” He was a decent enough looking guy. If he wanted to take a break in the middle of the day to go rock climbing. Keith is a good friend of mine. LLC. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions.” He read Ross Jeffries’ stuff.. he could. He had a decent job that afforded him the flexibility to go after whatever he wanted to do. yes.. Isn’t that what we men want to validate our virility? The ability to just go out anywhere. Keith used to be something of a “pickup artist.www.) He wasn’t perfect. anytime. This is NOT Keith. 8 .com A Story You Might Relate To. You name it. Lance’s stuff. he even had a lot of issues in life growing up (as we all have. He read David D’s stuff.. and in his late twenties. He invested thousands of dollars and hours into the fascinating pursuit of the Holy Grail for the modern man: The ability to approach and attract women with the goal of getting sexually intimate with as many women as he could. Sorta.. Mystery’s stuff. Grant’s stuff.. He had a cool dog and a cool Subaru that could get him where he wanted to go..
.com Let me keep going with Keith’s story a bit longer. LLC.CarlosXuma. We were on a lift. Keith went to bootcamps and seminars. and he asked me: “So how do I put all this stuff I learned together into something I can use?” © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions.” These are the specific words you use to respond to a woman who is testing your confidence and masculinity by trying to “trick” you. He was even introduced to the concept of “Inner Game” along the way... Keith learned how to apply “kino” and manage his body language. He learned the routines and the “openers. 9 . and how to use it to build attraction. Kino is another way of saying “kinesthetics” meaning the science of touch between people. Inner game is the internal dialogue we’re having in our head.www. Keith got just about every bit of information he needed. But something was still missing.” “Openers” are the specific words that other pickup artists used to hook the interest of women. Do you ever feel like something is missing? Is there some kind of Da Vinci code for the Game? He learned the classic responses to a woman’s “shit tests. and is often directly connected to a man’s confidence.. He and I would talk over various philosophical elements when we would meet up and snowboard in Tahoe.
Just being a clever guy with a quick story is not enough to keep a woman interested in you. Relaxed & Resourceful Effective & Energized Alpha & Authentic Lifestyle & Lasting “Dude. it’s ten times more important to balance your “pickup” / ”seduction” / dating skills with your social skills.” He looked a bit mystified. I’ll seem like I’m not really hearing them out. but you don’t even see it.. 10 . So after a dramatic. In fact. They learn a lot of “pickup” skills . Game is.the opening lines and the techniques. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. LLC.L. and if I come up with an answer too soon. but they don’t learn that they need to be integrating their skills into their daily lives. your answer is right in front of you. Keith was actually asking me the “Big Question” of this whole dating and seduction community. primarily because it’s a big question.A. thoughtful pause. he realizes that creating a relationship requires deeper inner game skills than he ever imagined.www.com I always hesitate here. “Huh?” “You’re sitting here on a ski lift with me. a lot of guys go through this. You see. Why? Because for every guy that gets the girl he wants..” He said. but we haven’t even been talking to the other people on the chair with us. It’s just as much about being a good SOCIAL guy as it is about being good at dating. I finally got around to answering him. but after a minute his eyes closed and he started nodding and smiling.CarlosXuma. R.E.
He got interested in his own life and what he was doing.www.. He got active in his outdoor sports.” One Word that can take you into the next level.) And I met her. And he was also using something else now.. And didn’t get her from using “pickup” skills (even though he had a more fundamental understanding of them. I’m glad he learned that lesson finally. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. I even visited his cabin again in Tahoe and found he had put one of my sayings up on the wall: “You’re not put here to discover yourself you’re here to CREATE yourself. Keith got her when he was most focused on driving up the quality and Alpha Power in his own lifestyle. and just enjoying his life for HIM.CarlosXuma. And I was flattered that he took something I said to heart and started using it.com Over the next four months. This one word transformed his game into the next level. She’s hot. Fast forward a few months and Kevin had found a good woman who made him happy. without even knowing it. LLC... Keith got himself fired up and started again with his own interests and hobbies. 11 . I’ll talk about that in the next part.
I’ve used that term many times in the past because it is highly charged. but no one had seemed to pull things together in a way that made sense.... and highly relevant.” There is a secret world of psychology beneath the one that we assume is rational. And the word was “Seduction. Back in the day. There was the word. Oooh. I went through just about every dating self-help book there was. * I respect Ross and his contributions to this field. and a few old books from the 70s and 80s.www. That’s awfully Politically IN-Correct.CarlosXuma. Back when I was searching for stuff to read on this topic.. or that a guy could use as a method to get women on a regular basis. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions.. But there wasn’t anything that told me how to attract women the way the real “players” did. I simply do not use his techniques. LLC. With every date that I went on that SUCKED. I have to confess.. There was a program using NLP techniques to “hypnotize” women by Ross Jeffries*. I got a little obsessed with finding the answer.com In the Beginning. I got frustrated. I became more and more convinced that there was some secret set of strategies that guys were using that I wasn’t aware of. there wasn’t much to choose from if you wanted to get this part of your life called “dating” taken care of. BIG TIME frustrated. 12 .
These small books took a slightly religious angle on the whole topic. Or sleeping with you. Simply put: Attraction is not LOGICAL. And you can never BORE a woman into being interested in you. don’t we? Oh. Or dating you... LLC..www. but they also pointed out something that I had never really figured out on my own before. Or being devoted and faithful to you. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. This whole concept of attraction being something that we don’t control with our conscious and rational minds made me stop dead in my tracks and really look at how I was approaching this whole thing. yeah... we do. But we guys like to think that we can talk women into this.” But I digress. I decided right then and there to stop thinking with my logical mind and start figuring out WHAT WORKS. somewhere in the mid-90s.com Then.. You can argue until you’re blue in the face. We hate to be sold.... It’s just like sales. but you’ll never be able to talk a woman into liking you.. but we LOVE to buy. It won’t happen. a set of books came on the scene called Love Tactics.” !We try it by “telling her our feelings. !We try it with bragging... We try to do it all the time.. !We try it with “romantic gestures...CarlosXuma. 13 ..
but it does work. I could enhance the attraction she felt from her fear of loss.. but it will never change the reality that RAIN GETS ME WET.. As soon as I can accept the rules (i... it’s Carlos. Reality has teeth. Got caught up with something. I went and read everything I could find. I can then get moving on how to beat the game. LLC..Uh. First. (But this was WAY before you could find any seduction advice online..CarlosXuma. Second.) So just like Keith.. and it will bite you on the ass if you ignore it. I was trying to change the plans up and be a wee bit unpredictable. See you then. reality). until maybe a half-hour later. “Hey.” Now what was I trying to do there? Well.”) So one night I was on my way over to my girlfriend’s place and I decided I’d try something out. This is how many women use “hard-to-get. I can cry about how I get wet when I go out in the rain. (It’s manipulative.com After all.. I’m not going to be able to make it to dinner tonight. I was trying to “scare her” a little with saying I wasn’t going to be able to make it.www. Then she’d feel relieved when she heard the next part that I was only going to be 30 minutes late. (And this goes for you..e. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. Here’s an example: I knew that if I pulled away from a woman that was already liking me. too. then pausing so she thought I wouldn’t be able to make it at all. 14 . I even got good at making up my own techniques along the way. I called her from my cell phone and said.) As I worked on the principles. two things.” (insert a slight pause here) “.
But I think at the time using these tactics wasn’t really about HER as much as it was about improving my attitude and giving me the ability to push away from a woman. in a funny way. What a man wants . And after I got moving on this quest.” and others with really cool sounding names. and then things inevitably faded out. Charming and Mr. It sounds funny coming from a guy.www. LLC. other guys appeared out there like “David D. I would turn on Mr. I would play hard-to-get. I’d be aloof.just as much as sex . But it got OLD really quick. I would tease women relentlessly. The women I met were fun. Eventually.” I had no idea they were out there because I was doing my own thing. (I was pretty needy at this time. I started developing my own techniques with women. but I got really tired of the women who were just looking for a good time.com This was all very artificial. Funny guy at will. as most relationships go. we broke up. like “Mystery” and “Style. 15 . Over the next few years I started figuring this out as I tried to improve my own skills by coming up with the whole mindset of this confident guy I saw out there having success with women. and in the end I don’t think it made ANY difference to our dating relationship. I knocked ‘em dead. As I was putting my stuff together. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions.is the thought of having a highquality woman at his side.. for a time..CarlosXuma. What I wanted was a quality woman that I could put effort into and really focus on building a relationship.) I was actually teaching my brain how to stop relying on women and start relying on myself.
CarlosXuma. too.. you realize that women are mostly wonderful..com That’s when I decided that I needed to figure out the next part of this skill set.with you in this book. And the worst thing you can do to yourself is to take a loose cannon like that and let her into your life. But now you need to know. dry board in a karate class. or break you faster than a thin. it should be mutual. You see.www.. The single most important decision you will make in your life is the woman that you decide to make your long-term companion. They can be a little crazy. But you will burn out very soon if you share too much time with people who have no real direction. It means that you help yourself first so that you can be healthy enough in spirit to give back to others in the world.. which is how to attract QUALITY women. when you get to a certain point. You can chase all the drunk.. They lack confidence. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. but they have a lot of inner game issues. They don’t have their lives together. I’m not advocating using other people just to add to your own existence here. LLC. After all. These people with no direction are simply waiting for you to LEAD them to something better. But there is a concept that I talk about called mutually beneficial selfishness.. I’m going to share more about this attitude .and how to find the power to lead with confidence . 16 . barely-20something bar chicks you like. She’ll either make you. The kind of woman I could keep around for a while. or who cannot add much value to your life. The single most important decision you will make in your life is the woman that you decide to make your long-term companion.
QUESTION FROM A READER: Carlos.www. and other times I can't seem to make conversation with a blabbermouth.CarlosXuma. Some good. 17 . Read on.. how do I stay confident . Their level of confidence goes up and down all the time. you have to recognize that there is the factor of © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions.no matter what? It seems like my mood and my skills are always up and down. LLC. Some nights I can walk up to any woman and say Hi. How do you stay confident. Atlanta. ______________________ CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS: Well. no matter what? Maybe both. GA. Have you ever had this experience? How do you keep your confidence up? .John C..com How Your Reality Is Being Messed With . I'm here to tell you that what you're talking about is something that a LOT of guys go through.or it might make you even more confused. First of all. and it can be hard to maintain consistency. This might help clarify a few things . I want to share with you a question that one of my students sent me. or maybe neither. John.BIG Time. But it will enlighten you. some bad. What I'm wondering is. I've had a lot of experiences walking up and talking with women.
CarlosXuma. Whatever that event was where you felt this confidence.” But what really is "confidence"? Something I've come to figure out over the years is that confidence doesn't REALLY exist. You were just DOING it.com moods. That's life. The other variable in this is something we call "confidence.. What many guys think of as "confidence" is really not a FEELING at all." Hang on for a second and allow me to explain a bit first. I know this may throw a lot of guys for a loop. if you really let yourself go back in time in your head. Maybe it was going up on a mountain and snowboarding. you'll realize that you weren't really FEELING anything at all. NEWSFLASH: There is no such thing as “confidence.. That's right.. What we think of as "confidence" is really just the ABSENCE of our usual self-doubts. We all know it. and other times you can't seem to get it together. Maybe it was going up and talking to a woman. There's actually no such thing as "confidence.. and anxiety that we feel when we do © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions.www. fear." It seems like sometimes you've got what you need. You can't predict a bad mood. Think back to the last time you did something and remember feeling confident about it. 18 ." Now. I can hear you yelling at your computer: "What the #&$% is he talking about? Of course there's confidence. Maybe it was running a marathon. and you can't avoid them. LLC. and you think about what kind of experience you were going through right then. Sometimes you just won't feel top-shelf.
all that negative self-talk creates a lot of doubt and uncertainty in your head.. I remember back when I first started snowboarding that I was a complete train wreck..." "You're going to look dumb. How could we have missed this? "It's going to be difficult. they'll just tell you that they just get out there and DO IT. even though they look so darn confident doing what it is they do.www.com something unfamiliar.not thinking about how confident they are. if you ask any top performer what they're feeling when they perform.. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. They're too busy experiencing it . the less we tell ourselves these negative messages... Let's say you're a snowboarder.. LLC." "You're going to spend the day sliding down on your ass. when you haven't been snowboarding much. 19 . I really didn't get confident as much as I got rid of all that crap in my head." Forget your fears and you instantly become confident. But I kept going back and getting better and better.. "You're going to fall on your face.. you'd feel CONFIDENT.." The more we DO that thing.CarlosXuma. But in the early part of learning something new. Early on. and the feeling of hesitation and doubt eventually disappeared. your head is full of all the static and chatter of your internal doubts.. and the MORE we just forget that we ever had any doubts. And you know deep inside that if you could just get rid of that feeling. In fact..
The LACK of uncertainty. But if you just go in and DO it. For most guys who are out there trying to work up the "confidence" to approach women and talk to women.. You see. You just believe it will help you because of the last guy who used it successfully. You'll think you're more confident.www.CarlosXuma. So when you ask me about how to get more consistent with your game. And when you stop being intimately "in your own skin. because women can smell how much you really believe what you're saying. Your confidence comes to you when you stop listening to all the chatter that tries to undermine your will and positive attitude. One step you can do right now to improve is to get in touch with your physical presence as a way of "grounding" your mind in the here and now. hesitation. but you're really just not indulging in old destructive thought patterns. This can be both good and bad. a lot of guys live a very active mental life. and worry that we push into our head." you start to exhibit some strange body language.. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. and you lack that feeling of being THERE. 20 . LLC.. That's why I teach you how to win the inner game of confidence first. Pickup techniques and lines are simply BORROWED confidence.. and the "static" will disappear. fear. you'll find that you will leave more and more of those negative thoughts and feelings behind. I want you to remember that you might not always be able to bring your A-game when it comes to talking with women. Pickup techniques and lines don't really boost your confidence. it's very very BAD.com And THAT is what "confidence" actually is. doubt. (So they said). The reason is that they are so up in their heads and caught in their own thoughts that they literally disconnect from their bodies.
but first.. keeping your mind as calm and blank as possible. I’m going to share more secrets about confidence with you in a bit. but from NOT thinking your way. then you need to read the next section on. With each breath.. Remember. 6 seconds to exhale. 3 seconds to inhale.. if this makes any sense to you. 21 . © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions.CarlosXuma. focus on being aware of your own body.com It sounds a bit new-agey. Find a ritual for yourself that starts your day YOUR way. and then you can work your way to longer time periods. LLC.. Here's a simple one you can do: Just sit in a chair with your hands in your lap. Work your way up and down your entire body. but it's actually very practical. you should start off with a short meditation and a ritual of some kind. Breathe in and out. confidence comes not from thinking your way into it. This exercise can be as short as just a minute or so. Every day. with each limb. Your goal is to really feel yourself in the here-and-now rather than lose yourself in the "what ifs" that your anxious mind will throw you into.www.
It would make my job so much easier just to go “in the field” and record myself meeting and talking with women.www. There is nothing in the world like really being in the shoes of the guy who is talking to a woman and interacting on a very deep level of rapport.com 5 HUGE Mistakes Guys Make When Learning Attraction Skills There are actually probably MANY more than just five mistakes. but it won’t help your game at all. LLC. 22 . The reason I’m telling you about them now is so that you can beware of the negative impact and avoid wasting time and money on lowyield methods... They make a lot of interesting viewing. this can actually be downright devastating to your game... but I chose to focus on the five that are probably hurting your dating and social skills the most. MISTAKE NUMBER 1: Watching pickup videos and thinking this will help your game.. There are a lot of “secret” videos and hyped up hidden camera videos you can find out there. In fact. Why? I mean.CarlosXuma. Let’s start with. sort of like the television shows they’ve been putting on lately about pickup artists and “Keys to the VIP.. I really wish these videos did work. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. It can take your current competence and confidence and flush it down the toilet. What I mean by this is that you can watch secret hidden undercover videos of guys in bars all you like. There is nothing like the real event.” But here’s something to remember.
and then show it to my students in the classroom. That looks easy. They got a huge confidence boost not because they learned anything.www. I used to do this a lot.CarlosXuma. And they aren’t even remotely alike. You ever watch a professional athlete of some kind like a skier or a snowboarder. so watching the video doesn’t help you tactically. they all complained of the exact same things: • They realized that when you watch someone interact with a woman that way you actually make it hard to focus. The more you think about what you are doing.com In fact. When they saw me on camera doing the approach. but because they were just seeing someone who didn’t have all the static in his head to pull them down. No two interactions really ever go the same.. but when you are IN that experience. You can watch ANYONE do something and think it’s easy.. LLC. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. the less you seem like you’re actually THERE doing what you need to do. “I could do that. 23 .. and you think. “Oh. I recorded the audio and/or video of me interacting with women on hidden camera. THAT’S how you do it.. living it in real-time. it’s completely different.. They were all impressed and many of them even said. • • • Watching pickup videos doesn’t work for the simple reason that watching someone do something that requires fine-tuned attention and presence is nowhere near the same thing as being in that person’s shoes...” But when they got out in the bars that night. they realized that they were really excited only because they were feeding on MY confidence.” Then you get to the top of a mountain on your board or your skis and peer over the edge at the slope below you. because now you are trying to remember a mental image of another completely different person doing what you’re trying to do. and your heart falls into your stomach. Everything changes..
it’s just putting food together. MISTAKE NUMBER 2: Learning and rehearsing material that is not true or authentic to YOU.www.. and they’ll call you on it.) Like walking up to a woman and asking for her opinion on something. like. and as you carve into your first turn. LLC. They’ll say: “Are you trying some of that pickup stuff on us?” or © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. it just doesn’t taste quite right. Women do not respond favorably to the term. My friend thinks his girlfriend might be cheating on him. But when you try the SAME recipe. Or you watch a cooking show. The problem is that women everywhere know how this works.” But beware: The word “pickup” has a lot of negative baggage on it. and you see the chef do something that doesn’t require any physical expertise . I gotta be ME.CarlosXuma. As they say in NLP. There’s a little concept I call the “Gap. And you gotta be YOU.. you realize this is NOTHING like how the guy on the video looked. I need a woman’s perspective on this. the map is not the same as the terrain. “Hey.com You start sliding down. 24 .” and it goes like this: A lot of guys learn about techniques they can use to “pickup” on women. How would he be able to find out for sure?” That gets you into a conversation under the pretense of just wanting her opinion. (Pickup is really just the masculine version of the word “flirt.
and you feel kind of hollow. This gap is something that a lot of guys discover. Let me be very clear here: Ever been caught using a line? If you do not make your dating and attraction skills a part of your LIFE and lifestyle. and clever banter you’ve memorized. An impostor.CarlosXuma.com “Are you some kind of pickup artist or something?” If you’ve ever had it happen to you. When something unexpected comes up in the conversation. then you know what a socially awkward moment this can be . LLC. you also sense that you just aren’t all that prepared. you will always feel the Gap. And you feel the gap between who you REALLY are and your clever pickup persona that you made up. Like a sham. it will catch up to you. A fake.and how completely embarrassing it is.www. And even if you have enough “game” or routines or stories to use. and they realize that they need to bring their real personalities closer to this “persona” they created so they can walk up and talk to women. 25 . © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. and you will always feel a little fake inside. the time comes in the conversation when you realize that you’re about to run dry. Eventually.
I used to play the hell out of “Quake” and “Unreal” and a bunch of other great games that have evolved and had sequels over the years.. Jack of all trades. I was in heaven. I was in heaven for a few weeks. You see. and not getting good at anything. and they’re like a kid in the candy store with all these techniques and things to learn.CarlosXuma. Well. and it’s interesting to talk to guys who have been at different points along this journey of getting better with women. I was a hardcore gamer. master of. and then I realized that I had a few problems with this “blank check” of free games. It’s like they just woke up in the best gadget store in the world with a blank check. way back in the early days. MISTAKE NUMBER 3: Trying to do too much. NOTHING.www. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. when there were no good game consoles out there and PCs were the way to go. the harder it gets. The longer you wait. But that’s part of the problem. wouldn’t you? Nope..com I have coached many guys that have been in denial into their 40s and 50s as to what was true to them. 26 . Set the right foundation NOW. Some have just begun. In my field. It was addicting. I talk to a LOT of guys about this area of selfdevelopment.. LLC. You’d think that by a certain age we would have this thing figured out. (Anybody remember “Duke Nukem”?) I even designed levels for them and released them on the Internet in the 90s. I also had a job at a software store where I got all the latest games to try out for free. and damn fun..
I would never finish. your free time is usually spent thinking about all the things you still don’t have. Ask any “guru” out there (or just listen to my interview program where they tell you straight from the source) and he’ll tell you that the one thing they realized was that after they got good with women.. “That would never be ME. You are desperately seeking the right CHALLENGE for your life. This is the source of the saying: “Idle hands are the devil’s playground. even if you had MASSIVE skills with women. 3) I was getting more and more bored with the games I got. you’d still have your own life to deal with.. man. 2) The games I liked and spent my time on.. After all. I’d have fun and I’d do this.” but the reality is that if you won the lottery tomorrow.www. that’s about the truth of it.CarlosXuma. Once your basic needs are taken care of. chances are you’d be broke in just a few years. 27 .. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. first of all.. they still had all the problems and challenges of their lives to deal with.” What has this got to do with dating skills? Well. you might say. but not having any time to play all of them. and I’d do that. And if you weren’t broke.com 1) I was getting a lot of cool games.. LLC. you’d be just as bored and unfulfilled. Why? Because we need to be CHALLENGED. because none of them had any value to me. So when you see a movie where the guy gets all his wishes. and he’s still bored and unhappy. when I was bored with it. Yeah. I got addicted to the novelty. there was something new to try. or ran into a challenging obstacle. We need something in our lives that drives us to a higher purpose. and I never finished anything I started.
CarlosXuma..” They could be saying that about YOU. Yet another problem I’ve seen with guys is that they learn about this field of dating advice/seduction/attraction skills and they channel all their energy into conquering it.) Be the guy with the huge balls of steel that just goes out there and gets better by DOING it. LLC. (I get guys who field their questions to me and multiple others in the hopes of finding some contradiction or God knows what.com Your life doesn’t miraculously change from getting this one area handled.’ It’s the “who you become to get good with women” that makes you an Alpha Man.www.” as we say. and you wouldn’t be ANY better with women. “That dude’s got BALLS. writing up questions for every guru to answer. and waiting for the “perfect opportunity” to jump in the game.” Don’t be the guy sitting at home all night. 28 . It’s not the “getting good with women” that’s the goal in this ‘game. LIVE and “In-the-field.. master of nothing. studying plays. It’s the only way. MISTAKE NUMBER 4: Going after the wrong goal. build the character... and cultivate the skills you need. My second point about this is that you could read every ebook and listen to every CD and watch every DVD on this topic. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. Don’t wind up being a “jack of all trades. Until you go out and use the information to improve yourself. man. We all know who’s playing the game and who is just sitting on the sidelines.
Let’s face facts: Human beings are sexual beings. No one makes you feel anything you don’t want to. the genuine goal that we’re after here is to become a fully actualized MAN. If you are still unclear on this fact of our nature. sometimes when I wake up in the morning and try not to jump out of bed to get working. you’re setting yourself up for the biggest disappointment in the world. When you chase a woman as your goal.and had to learn from the mistake.CarlosXuma. MISTAKE NUMBER 5: Not paying attention to the BIG picture.com Well.www. repressive. Your goal is the lifestyle that makes you happy. LLC.some beliefs are faulty. I have to pinch myself to realize that I actually teach guys the complete game plan and system for creating this lifestyle. the one you can’t see too clearly because that bright light emanating from her crotch is blinding you. And the biggest ecstasy you can experience (in contrast to the previous disappointment) is when you’ve forged your own lifestyle and your own Alpha Power into a force to be reckoned with. or you are still uncomfortable with it due to the programming you might have received as a kid. and do not serve you. People don’t make us happy. but your goal is not a WOMAN. 29 . Especially when you realize that no human being can live up to the ideals we set in our mind. and pulls women into it. Don’t believe me? Ask any guy who has chosen a sub-standard woman for his girlfriend . I don’t want to stomp on your beliefs. then you may need to seek a little professional assistance to clear that out of your head. but let’s face facts here . I have to admit. It’s your job to get © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions.or wife . I am truly blessed. We make ourselves happy. that’s nice and all. You are responsible for your own mental state. like a tornado. The REAL prize.
and deserve . but it really is true.com rid of these bad beliefs because they will determine the outcome of your life. beliefs are beliefs because they are NOT facts. “I choose to believe in the things that make life WORK for me. But beliefs are called beliefs because they are not set in stone. Yes. and some people have a really bad prescription. and every person has a different set. don’t we? I’ve found that a great many of those beliefs try to hide as guilt and other kinds of disabling emotions that were programmed into you by certain institutions to make you conform and not pose a threat to others.. Facts are clear cut and established. I just want you to understand just how everyone is looking out through a set of filters and lenses . And we all treat our beliefs as if they are set in stone. But I’m not here to go off on a political rant. And there’s nothing at all wrong with wanting and getting that sex.” 30 . What I’m driving at here is that you are a sexual being. I realize that this sounds a bit paranoid and conspiracy-theory. You are a man. Remember.www.. Most of the structure of society and the world is this way to establish a pecking order. Let me say that again: Your faulty beliefs will hold you back from the success you desire . LLC. There’s no debate.from life. You like sex.CarlosXuma. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions.
first .. You’ve got a destiny ahead of you.. perhaps you should read another ebook about fluffy animals and happy rainbows..do no harm. it’s not the something that offended them. but it’s not the same as a man’s. 31 . I’m here to shoot straight and tell you what you need to hear. You see I believe that every man has a mission to accomplish here on this earth. Sorry to be crude about this. We men MUST create a legacy for ourselves. and I feel obligated to do the same for others.. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions.) The problem comes when your sex drive is not channeled correctly.CarlosXuma. As the Hypocratic oath goes. when someone is offended at something. Yes. And remember. It’s what my dad did for me.com (As long as you harm no one else in the process. we die a little inside every day we ignore that need... Do you know what it is? Are you even looking for it? Pussy. Many guys just chase women their whole lives and realize all too late that they should have been channeling this unbelievable force of the male sex drive into something more creative so that they could live out their own destiny. and if that offended you. You see a lot of guys go through life chasing one thing. LLC. there are women who have this same drive. They offended themselves. So back to what I was saying. If we don’t.www. It’s a guy thing.
CarlosXuma. you’ll end up with a life that is wildly out of balance.” you know that your hidden treasure is right there inside you right now. In fact. It doesn’t mean you quit your job.com And. you can’t have the kind of relationship or give the kind of life you could give to a woman if you don’t pursue this destiny. 32 . but he never found his talent? What a waste that would be. (I give every one of my students a copy of this essay as part of your Advanced Coaching program. And the only way to find it is to keep trying things and find out what clicks. Just get on a path to start investigating the possibilities. If you chase your goals with the same fervor and energy. That’s it. Zan Perrinon. But if you chase women to the exclusion of all else. or you go sailing around the world on some merchant steamer to seek your fortune. It’s required reading for any Alpha Man. A good friend of mine. if you’ve ever read the classic essay “Acres of Diamonds.www. please email me. ironically. and we all die without finding it?” I believe that this is true.) If you don’t know what your mission or your destiny is in life. If you didn’t get yours. and learn how to creatively channel your sexual energy for this as well. LLC. I think we all DO have some hidden talent in us that we have only to discover. What if every guy out there was a genius. said to me at a conference: “What if every single guy out there has this hidden genius in him like a Mozart or an Einstein? What if EVERYONE has this. you’ll achieve success that is uncommon in most people’s lives. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. then your only job is to START SEARCHING.
your own destiny. 33 . your own goals.CarlosXuma. and that’s what I teach men how to do. And the funny (or not so funny) part of this is that if you pursue your own dreams. LLC. women will want to come along for the ride. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions.com That’s what I do. There is NOTHING more sexy to a woman than a man with ambition and drive..www..
and you did NOT hear them say: “No problem. but not this one: “Yes.CarlosXuma.” And then 5 minutes later they show up with the person you wanted. Whatever it was. Be right back. but they couldn’t seem to just take the task and RUN with it? Maybe you asked them to go get a coworker of yours to join you in a meeting.www. who do you want me to find?” “Where should I go?” “What if they don’t want to come?” “How do you spell his name?” “Do you really need me to do it now?” You probably would get a million and one variations. and it seemed pretty straightforward to you.” Nor did they just go out and DO IT. Be right back. or go buy something for you from the store.. you asked them. LLC. you got this: “Uh.com The THINK Barrier There’s a little-known concept that I want to acquaint you with. No initiative. In almost every single seminar where a guy has come up to me and asked me what to say to a woman in a particular situation. Have you ever given someone a task to do. 34 . It’s called the Think Barrier. and no ability to act on their own. no problem.. maybe a co-worker or friend. JUST DO IT © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. Instead. I will always test them by asking them: “Given what you know about how It’s the most tired cliche´ but you need to.
LLC. or did everything for them when they were kids. you say I have to be a better MAN.? “I have to deserve what I want? “That’s too hard! Just give me a pickup line instead. Their future is being set right before my eyes. I realized that these latter guys are also the men who have never really been challenged or pushed to think deeply into anything their whole lives. The guys that are willing to pull out a piece of paper and THINK through their response inevitably are the guys who excel and improve their skills MASSIVELY. I see parents at the Martial Arts studio I teach at do this all the time. Probably one or both of their parents was overcontrolling. The guys who go into a severe state of mental constipation and just beg me to tell them what to say almost NEVER get it..www. As a result. 35 .com attraction works..CarlosXuma. This concept is what I call the “Think Barrier. Their moms even take off their shoes for them. what do YOU think you should say?” There’s a long uncomfortable moment there where the person often realizes that what I’m asking them is just to THINK for themselves and really burn some brain fuel..” How far will you go to avoid the nasty work of thinking? You’d be AMAZED at how much work people do just to avoid thinking for themselves. Let me tell you something: “But Carlos. and DVDs.” © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. and all the examples I give you in my ebooks.. They tell their kids what to say and what to do. they never learned the process of really pushing their brain into a higher gear. I know that these kids will never be challenged to really perform for themselves. CDs.
No one will be there to give you the authenticity to respond correctly when a woman asks you a question you weren’t prepared for. It will have to come from YOU. No one will be there for you when you have to think of something to say to a woman on a date. YOU will have to find your words and use them.
Mommy and daddy are not going to help you anymore. The world belongs to the man that helps himself.
No one will be there to talk you up or pump you up when it comes time to approach a woman that you’re dying to meet. YOU will have to find your own motivation and overcome your own fears. Mommy and Daddy are not going to be there to tie your shoelaces on this one. Hell, even *I* can’t be there for you, as much as I’d like to be. Now you know why I show guys how to create their own openers, their own stories, their own confidence, their own motivation, and their own excitement for life. Some guys will give you a fish (a technique), where I teach you HOW to fish (the Alpha Attitude) so that you never need to be hungry again. This path is personal, genuine, and REAL for you. You can’t learn how to be a powerfully attractive YOU when you’re focused on learning someone else’s scripted conversation. And when you learn how to use the strategies for building attraction, they have devastating and powerful impact on the women you will meet. And when you learn how to use these techniques on everyone to motivate yourself toward an Alpha Lifestyle, you’ll learn just what you’re capable of in every facet of your life.
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Signs That Pickup Really is Dead
Sign #1) Women already know what the game is, and all about the clever tricks. Remember at the start of this document when I talked about Neil Strauss’ book, The Game?
The times, they are achanging.
It’s a fun read, and a lot of guys got into this area of selfdevelopment purely because they read that one book. Sure, it’s about 20% techniques, and about 80% drama, but it’s a nice read. But now the time of the pickup artist is coming to a close. Women everywhere have read this same book, and they know what the “Game” is all about. They know how to smell a pickup “game” even before you have time to ask “Ladies, who do you think lies more, men or women?” They can see anything you use before you use it. Except one thing - and it’s what they desperately need to see. And it’s the one thing you need to know about. I’ll tell you in a couple pages... Yes, you can blame the media or Neil’s book, but the reality is that women know what you’re up to. The only man that stands a CHANCE of getting past a woman’s defensive shields is the one that knows how to fly under her radar. You’re not doing this to trick her, either. That’s a big difference between using “seduction” skills and what I call “Alpha Attraction” skills. Seduction is for the chump who is trying to get without giving.
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here’s the REAL secret to attracting women. Sign #3: All the other Gurus are suddenly talking about being more “3-dimensional”.CarlosXuma. he has to eventually settle on his own style. And they’re talking about it. When something is broadcast on television. you can bet that every woman will know about it within a week or two. Women know about them all . It’s funny. Okay. In order for a man to really come into his own and be all he can be. but a lot of the other teachers out there in the “pickup community” are now starting to realize what I’ve been saying all along: You can’t live on pickup lines alone. my friend.and this is GOOD because it will make it easier for you to separate yourself from the clones. Imagine the life where women call you back. and I’m not just trying to pat myself on the back here. There are several shows on television that are capitalizing on the whole “pickup” scene.www.. Where your woman isn’t a one-hit wonder. LLC.com Alpha Attraction is about creating a win-win situation for both of you. and the games that are played. Sign #2: Television has ruined “pickup” even more for you. every woman in the United States (and probably the world) knows about it. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. “You gotta see this!” In a matter of just a few weeks. One of her friends catches “The Pickup Artist” on television. his own genuine attraction strengths. and then maximize them. and the next second she’s on the phone talking to 10 of her girlfriends.... 39 .
I’d have this whole dating thing figured out. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. You know when someone’s trying to sell you something. Hey.CarlosXuma.” They’re telling you to be a potent POWERHOUSE version of you that is not looking for a woman’s approval. and the possibility that I can help you grow and achieve your goals as a man. most timid version of yourself. In sales. one of the most powerful concepts is to tell the customer the Truth. “Be all the parts of you that are not very attractive to women on the surface. 40 ..” Nor are they saying... today we’re all much better educated consumers. It’s all in how you frame this Truth.” “If I could just act like I’m sincere. That’s what they REALLY mean when they say “just be yourself. The simple fact is that a woman needs a man who doesn’t NEED her. The hidden element that guys miss is this.” They’re not saying.com If I could sum up what women want in one quick sentence. We’re much more sophisticated after being bombarded with constant ads and commercials.. Remember when I told you that Keith had found something that took his game to the next level? Well here it is.I’m trying to sell you on a new point of view. and only this: SINCERITY It can’t be faked. You see. LLC. And it can only make you look and feel more authentic and genuine. “Just be the weakest. it’s that they want you to be YOU better than anybody else could be YOU. even if it might be a little embarrassing.www. I’ll admit it right now .
A lot like attractive women get hit with the same “You’re so beautiful” crap from guys. (Sorry if that sounds a bit cold. If you really like quality home audio. and you hear that pause before someone in a way-too-cheery voice says. That’s it.. it’s someone trying to sell us something with a blatant. we’re walking into the KFC when a woman walks up to us. I’m not going to bore you with a stupid sales pitch here. this woman said: © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. I’m expecting the usual homeless pitch. used-car-salesman sales pitch.com And if there’s one thing that we HATE. can you spare some change?”..) Anyway.” I’m probably going to think a little more about this offer than the guy that tries to be clever and slip me a flyer as I’m walking by. my girlfriend and I decided to indulge in a little Kentucky Fried Chicken.CarlosXuma. LLC. But if someone walks up to us and says. I just want to tell you that I’ve got some really nice speakers at a good discount at my store because I was dumb and ordered way too many. So-and-so? I want to tell you about a fantastic bargain we’re having over here at ---” It’s all just like sales. Now in this area of town. Have you ever gotten a phone call. I love that original recipe. “You know what.) Instead of saying. “Mr. You start to tune out a bit. The Best Homeless Sales-person I Ever Met: One night after coming home from a speaking engagement. except not like the sales you and I hate. you might want to come and give ‘em a listen. stupid. but that’s what happens when you’re hit with the same thing over and over. and you answer it.www. (I confess to being a total chicken-skin addict. CLICK. somewhere around dinner time. 41 . “Hey. Sorry to interrupt you.
say. But when I get to the counter at Trader Joe’s. I have no way of knowing this for sure. Normally. and I think that they will not abuse the information. Now. I’m living in the park over there. “Sure. Do you trust anyone? Can they trust you? She reached me with a level of trust that I could appreciate.CarlosXuma. It’s one of those organic food places that keeps things healthy and cheaper because you’re not paying for expensive brand advertising. What’s my point here? © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions.” I stopped for a second and nodded to her. LLC. I don’t think I need to reveal any more to the corporations out there looking to peer into my private life. Trader Joe’s Trust: I shop at a place called Trader Joe’s for my groceries. they inevitably ask me for my zip code as I’m checking out. 42 . Why? Because I TRUST them.www. obviously this is so they can gather a little demographic data about their customers. and I’m not going to ask you for any money. When I get to the register. I know that their intentions are much more honorable. I give it to them. We’ll get you something. but I feel more trusting telling Trader Joe’s my zip code than. Would you mind just getting me some food? I’d really appreciate it.” She came in with us and I bought her a meal. I am very hungry. Safeway or some other big supermarket chain. I refuse to disclose this information.com “I’m sorry to bother you.
..www.com When you hear the saying: “Honesty is the best policy.” what they really mean is be sincere and straightforward. When a woman feels that she’s with someone who’s sincere and trustable.. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. She will feel something that she rarely does from guys in top hats with painted nails. Try it. too. This approach works wonders with women. she will open up and lower her defenses. SINCERITY. sincerity. LLC. TRUST One of the things I like to say (and you’ll hear about in my programs) when I walk up and talk to a woman is this: “Hey.” That one never fails to get a woman to open up and talk to me. If you say it from the heart. It’s all about the sincerity. My name is Carlos.. One pickup line that works without fail. I just wanted to meet you.. 43 . I don’t have a clever pickup line. Just be on the level.CarlosXuma.. women will listen and open up to you. Don’t blast someone with awkward and socially mis-calibrated information. Sincerity.
In fact.www. 44 . your goals.com 4 Questions to Ask Yourself About The Quality Of Your Dating Advice I’m going to save you a lot of pain and wasted time and money. it will be really tough. or routines and techniques with no depth? If you are trying to improve your skills with women. If you just grab any random piece and start trying to build the puzzle. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. LLC. (Most guys go to bars because they assume this is the only place where women WANT to be picked up on. They give you a much bigger context with which to build the Big Picture. QUESTION #1) Is it realistic advice. Most “routines” are also only made for the bar and club environment. techniques are a very small piece of the big picture. Instead. you start with one of the edge or corner pieces and you work your way in.” what I’m really talking about are things you can do RIGHT NOW to improve the overall quality of your attitude.CarlosXuma. Solid inner game skills and lifestyle techniques are just like those edge pieces in a puzzle. your relationships. And you need better skills for the REAL world. Play the odds. and your LIFE.) It’s just like starting a jigsaw puzzle. I’m going to point out all the things you should watch for when you’re deciding on jumping into a program to develop your dating and attraction skills with women. I’ve never met a girl I wanted to date in a bar or club. not the longshot. When I say “Lifestyle Techniques. it’s the exception for most men. Bars & Clubs are a tiny slice of the social world in which to meet women.
maybe. you’ll also come across the same way as using weak words. Well. And that’s where a woman will make her decision.. It’s the best long-term strategy to success there is. If you’re not aligned with what you’re saying. You can take just about any opener and use it to start a conversation with a woman or group of women fairly easily.Is this material true to YOUR Personality? Get 100% behind yourself.. They get a book of routines or some clever “cocky and funny” lines. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. Here’s a big one that most guys overlook. I just kinda think you should sorta think about being a bit more confident with ladies. so you immediately distrust it. Choose a technique or style that matches your personality. it feels weird to other people.com Just like outer game techniques.” And if you don’t feel 100% behind the words you’re using. It would be like me talking with a real wishy-washy tone right now. QUESTION #2) Authenticity . but they would feel really weird if you said them.www. and your core values. such as my REAL Game™. Instead of regurgitating someone else’s material. inner game techniques like those I teach have the added benefit of improving you as a complete man instead of just addressing one small detail. you need a style that you can adapt and adopt to your individual style. Stay close to your identity and you won’t fall into the Gap. but it’s what comes after that opener that will make or break you. I guess. LLC. You see what I mean? It doesn’t match the tone of what I’m saying. 45 . like you don’t match your message. and they sound great if you were imagining someone else delivering them. This is called “incongruence.CarlosXuma.
from someone who has a solid core of character and integrity. LLC. and who are doing it with good in their heart.” I really believe that there’s a certain level of peace and balance that guys want to acquire in their lives. QUESTION #4) Are you learning a complete Lifestyle? Or are you just going to learn a very small skill set? The fact of the matter is that dating and attraction skills are a META-skill.CarlosXuma.. Those are OPTIONS . why the hell would you listen to them? My old sales mentor used to say.www.and the man with the most options tends to be the one to come out ahead in every situation. Or that you have the relationship and communication skills to make it work if you want..com QUESTION #3) Is the teacher or “guru” someone you can respect and trust? I really believe that you can learn from anyone. The peace of knowing that you’re not going to have problems finding another girlfriend if this relationship doesn’t work out. Those are the people I listen to. and the one thing that has always been true is that if that person isn’t living the life you want to lead. Learn only from the man doing what it is you want to do.and the fastest . too. with the character and virtues of a man you wish to become. I’ve met a lot of teachers and mentors in my time. but you’ll also learn the most . “Why would I take financial advice from a caffeine-addicted stockbroker that’s flat broke? I learn how to make money from the guys with a big PILE of it. What does this mean? © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. 46 .
© 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. etc. Billions and billions of volts and amperes of electricity ready to be unleashed. It’s like the difference between an electric car and one that’s powered by a 12-cylinder engine. Things like your family relationships. You ever stand near a power plant and hear the buzzing of the power in the transformers and power lines? You can practically feel the hairs on your arms prickle from the sheer energy at work. LLC. but MANY different skills that add up to an overall VIBE of attraction that makes a woman stand up and pay attention to you. Guess what? That’s what a woman feels around a guy who’s got the whole picture. your self-development. your career path. your social network.CarlosXuma.www. When you add all these areas up. they converge to create a man with a powerful Alpha Lifestyle.. these are all the power sources for a healthy man. 47 .com It means that your ability to attract women is not just one skill. your financial success.
” A 3-dimensional picture is more realistic.. LLC.www.. You want to blow all the other guys away? Leave them in the dust? Add on a dimension of reality and authenticity to yourself that sings to a woman’s SOUL. I call it a Life Compass. Wouldn’t it be great if you could just stop at any time and pull out a little compass that would point you to your next destination? Well. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. This is the man with just veneer and “game. Which one do you think gets the girl? ______________________ So now you’re ready for a new piece of equipment on this grand journey. interacting on a whole new level. 48 .CarlosXuma.com A 2-dimensional picture is a cartoon. This is a man with skills AND the authenticity. Like a Pixar movie that feels like it’s got depth. Like a Bugs Bunny show. And an Alpha Man with the added fourth dimension of Alpha Lifestyle powering his game is like being in a simulator or on a holo-deck of the Enterprise... I’ve got something close.
you only have the “bandwidth” to do a certain number of things well in your life at one time.” Or .www. I’m going to share with you four critical points on your Life Compass.. the stronger a foundation you will need to support it all. . .. but these will get your life on the best track to success in this quest.. Well let me help get you started on the most important part of the house that is your life: The foundation.com 4 Ways to Get Your Life On Track So you’ve tried the road of the “pickup artist” or the “seducer. The early part of construction is to dig a hole down REALLY deep. there are many more around the dial. 49 .. Life is full of choices. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. you’ll notice something very interesting.. LLC. the deeper the foundation it needs to support it. In order for you to reach the peak of your abilities and the destiny you were put here for. Go higher by going d e e p e r . We live in a world of plenty. maybe you haven’t. Really and metaphorically speaking. Why do they do this? Because the higher they are going to build the building.CarlosXuma. You have to realize that you cannot “do it all. but somehow there are still plenty of people at this banquet that are starving to death. The same thing is true of your life. LIFE COMPASS POINT 1) Recognize Opportunity Cost.. Of course.” No matter what the media and television shows try to make you believe (most of which is not even remotely accurate to a balanced and healthy life). If you’ve ever seen where a new skyscraper is being built. but you’re still looking for an answer.
We think that if tech has a lot of bandwidth then we do. And the more you try to “multi-task” in life.CarlosXuma. continuous partial attention has been a way of life to cope and keep up with responsibilities and relationships. I wanted to play guitar in a band. We've been working to maximize opportunities and contacts in our life. compose music. Now we're over-stimulated. 50 . With continuous partial attention we keep the top level item in focus and scan the periphery in case something more important emerges. So much social networking. Continuous partial attention is motivated by a desire not to miss opportunities. For almost two decades. read a lot of books. meet women and party several nights a week. To be busy and to be connected is to be alive. the more likely you are to totally screw up your life. I fought this for years. have a career. too.www. agility. over-wound. we feel alive when we're connected. We've stretched our attention bandwidth to upper limits. you can get a lot accomplished in a well planned lifestyle. so little time. FOCUS intently on the things that are important to you. Speed. Marketers humming that tune for two decades now. Now. you must be willing to NOT do another. LLC. Read this transcription from Linda Stone’s speech on this topic of “continuous partial attention:” In 1997 I coined the phrase "continuous partial attention". etc. but you can’t do everything. and connectivity at top of mind.com To do one. trying to do everything that I wanted to in life. We want to ensure our place as a live node on the network. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. unfulfilled.
com More and more people feel this way. It will explain this mindset and how to start thinking from abundance rather than scarcity. There’s a saying that those who are hungry never get enough. For example: Guys who are in relationships get hit on by women more than guys who are single for some reason...www. things come to the people who don't expect them or need them but in order to give of that vibe you truly must be in that "zone" truthfully.. LIFE COMPASS POINT 2) Think from abundance. What if someone could show you a way to find the right things to pay attention to so that you don’t wind up at the end of your life regretting all the things you didn’t do.. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. while those who are full get plenty. I am being mindful when I approach women and get numbers to be cool laid back relaxed. It’s become the norm for many of us. Get busy.. unfortunately.. But.. ______________________ QUESTION FROM A READER: I totally believe in the concepts and basic principles you have put forth but it boils down to this: Yes. the problem is as we all know women have built in radars that can detect things in men.CarlosXuma. in control like any Alpha Man would. We’re drowning in mediocrity. Read this question from a reader.. We try to do too many things and wind up getting none of them done very well. It’s time to stop starving.? You live in a world of plenty. LLC. 51 . There’s a lot of truth to that. I have not dated or gotten laid in the past seven years.. There are over 41 MILLION unmarried women under the age of 45.
because it speaks to the heart of what I teach.com So how can I be in the zone of not being hungry when I truly am starving? My approach doesn't come as needy but there must be a "X" factor or something that maybe women are sensing? Because I call them once and never hear from them again." But just because you’re hungry doesn’t mean you can only have ONE kind of food.” “Oh. Sorry. Women DO sense this and they WILL avoid men with that rabid scent of "gotta get laid" just as much as men avoid the women with that rabid scent of "gotta get married. have some of my chicken sandwich.. not the actual disease. Wouldn’t it be nuts to hear this interaction: “I’m starving to death! I haven’t had a bite to eat in 3 days!” “Well. Mistaking it for the real problem is what distracts most guys. but at the time them are giving me the initial indicators of interest and attraction. here. not even a first date at all.www. neediness drives women away.CarlosXuma. LLC. You’ll never stop being who you truly are. but how do you mask it or control it and appear not hungry when in reality you are truly truly famished? ______________________ CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS: This is a great question. How do you control your hunger when in reality you haven't had a girlfriend or gotten laid in over seven years .or ever? Yes.. 52 . remember that the problem is not that you've not gotten laid in seven years. Do you have any pizza? I gotta have some pizza!” © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. I only eat Pizza. The secret is really to NOT pretend that you’re not hungry. That's a symptom. We all know that’s impossible. First of all.
© 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions.CarlosXuma.www. If you’re starving for sex. or his Alpha Manhood. The answer is completing your life so that when you’re standing there talking with a woman. You can “feed” this hunger by using your sex drive to push you into new experiences in life. you’re not really looking at the big picture. You see. she’ll know he’s stable and trustworthy. But if he’s learned the secret of finding his nutrition in many areas.) Saying that you can only get fulfillment by getting a woman in your life is narrow focused. A man's sex drive is one of the most powerful forces in the universe.and we all have been at some point .the answer isn’t in chasing after women as the only path to your satisfaction. Feed yourself by giving yourself a chance to taste every part of your life. every woman knows that behind a man starving for sex is a guy who hasn’t found his calling. trying a new way to meet women (such as the “multiple streams of female income” that I teach guys to leverage. LLC. You’ve just become a slave to your own genitals.com That would seem ridiculous. such as widening your social circle. right? But the same thing applies to women. women will realize that your hunger is not going to consume THEM. Channeling that drive into other areas of your life will absolutely help you get rid of that "hungry vibe. And she will not be able to trust him. If you find the things in life that REALLY fulfill you. you could have a dozen things you could be doing at that moment that are just as cool as talking to her." If you’re a Hungry Guy . 53 .
Your environment is STILL impacting who you are to this day. your upbringing. LLC. etc.or completely ignore. Because what you’re feeling is not really "hunger.. and it’s up to us to determine which one we will be a part of. your friends. Those who would discourage you from your dreams are the ones that have already given up on their own. The part that most people don’t understand is that we can choose our environment in life when we become adults. If we were to go back in time and change a few of these elements. Get away from the people who do not help you become who you want to be. You are a product of your environment. you'll get emotionally constipated. Let your energy out and push you toward feeding your desires with other achievements than women. there’s a high probability that you wouldn’t be ANYTHING like who you are right now. which is part of that "X factor" you mentioned in your letter. And I can guarantee you that the women will want to come along for that ride.com THAT is when women will really take notice of you. All the life experiences you absorbed from your family. 54 . LIFE COMPASS 3) Change Your Environment Here’s a little-known reality that most people forget . Unfocused light is useless. created who you are today.. your schooling.. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. When you hold this energy in." It's ENERGY that you have not tapped into in the right ways to move you forward in the other areas of your life that you've been neglecting.CarlosXuma. But focus that light into one coherent beam and you have a laser capable of cutting steel.www.
Change your environment and you change your life.. Non-winning sucks. If you want to change and grow and get better with women and life . Be careful of associating pain with the possibility of learning a new and better way of living. Avoid it at all costs. winning IS everything. LLC. or to not change.the Alpha Lifestyle . But it’s this same exposure to positive influences that will put you on a winning track toward the things in life that will make you a winner. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. your spiritual life. Winning so that others can win with you. or just generally do not challenge you to grow.not hold you back. 55 . This is a big problem for a lot of people who don’t like the discomfort of being around people who are achieving more and are living a higher quality of life.com If you’re hanging around with friends who hold you back. Remember. or enable your tendency to be lazy.you must surround yourself with the environment that will enable you .. In order to become the Alpha Man you are capable of creating.. Winning in your personal life. your career. you must be exposed to people who challenge you and who are everything you want to become.CarlosXuma. your financial life. you are going to stagnate and wither.. because that is a dated concept. your family life.www. Not winning at the expense of others.
The most successful people have strong social skills. but it usually isn’t. Unfortunately. People play games with us. I mean that in a realistic way. I wish it were. And error. 56 . You learn sometimes from feeling the pain.. And error. No one can short-cut you past all of them. your success will not be determined by your degree or how smart you are. It’s something I devoted a whole program to so that guys could learn all the social skills for managing other people in your life manipulate you with games. I could see what was going on. Because. LLC.com LIFE COMPASS 4) Build your Social Skills... And your final compass point. but I had no tools or techniques to help me get through weird or difficult social situations. some social skills MUST be learned through making the mistakes. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. I learned the same way most people did: Trial and error. It’s a fact.CarlosXuma. And a lot more error. I grew up severely socially retarded. Social awareness is not always “natural” or automatic. The problem is that we learned our social responses and skills from people with certain agendas and goals that were not always wellmeaning.www. unfortunately..
We have more free time and more opportunities than any other generation has ever had in history. yet we’re still bored. You need to really believe in yourself.You must have the fuel to get your lifestyle into high gear and get to your goals. LLC.You must have an ability to relate to people.You must have inner confidence and the state of mind to come from a relaxed frame of mind. Stick with me and I’ll help you find it. we’ve been doing the excavation for your skyscraper in this book. Well that’s only because you haven’t tapped into your mission. What is this foundation made of? Well. Every man is motivated. even when he’s sitting on the couch watching TV.CarlosXuma. The trick is to find your reason for doing something and light a fire under your own ass to go after it. I’ll list some of them for you here: Rock-solid Inner Game . We’ve been digging deep into the earth of your beliefs and attitudes to create a big hole that we can now start to lay some serious foundation in.com LIFE COMPASS POINT 5) Get started building your foundation. And as we know. no man is an island unto himself. And it’s not all that hard to do. they’re primarily the various meta-skills I’ve been discussing along the way. This doesn’t mean you have to change into a complete social butterfly overnight. 57 . Power Social Skills . It just means that you have to venture out of your self-imposed comfort bubble to acquire a new skill that will reap you rewards unimaginable to the solitary man. I think in a lot of ways.www. your life. Motivation . © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. and your goals.
Techniques are still necessary. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. the reason you probably got started on this path was to satisfy your natural need for sexual companionship. but even more than the techniques is learning and modeling the person who’s using them to achieve our own “Holy SHIT!” moment where it all clicks into place. but they didn’t teach us the stuff that mattered.I always wondered why they didn’t teach things like how to balance your checkbook or how to manage your money or start a savings plan when we were in school. They taught us how to be a good little employee. LLC.. Call me silly. Instead we were learning facts and dates that almost none of us ever use after we leave high school. and every man deserves to get what he wants. and suddenly you know how the REAL game works. Lifestyle Skills: Learning the Things They Don’t Teach You in School . 58 .. Every man has it.com Strong Dating and Attraction Skills .Not learning how long it will take Train A going 60 miles an hour to collide with Train B going 30 miles an hour. I guess I’m different in that I believe that every man needs to round out his lifestyle with the skills that will really matter in the long run . and go work for a big shiny corporation.www.Hey.CarlosXuma.
but it’s the concept of what women want from men that is most important in this story. Just had to let you know about my story last week where I got introduced to a girl by a friend. not just the super-suave guy who is looking to do some bar and club action. If not now. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. her.www.com LAST WORDS.. WHEN? This guy’s experience is applicable to you.CarlosXuma. at the laundromat . ______________________ QUESTION FROM A STUDENT: Hello Carlos. and my friend. I think she is usually very shy and not very talkative by nature so I kept talking just to ease the situation and to make her comfortable... I tried to get closer to her to see her reaction and eventually we started making out.. Hope you doing great. It all happened on a night where we were in a small social gathering with only me. 59 . The sooner you get started. In fact. the sooner you will achieve all the things you want in life. There’s another important word I want you to learn about that makes the difference between getting the woman you want . We had been talking for a while when I realized it was quite late but she was still here. I wanted to share a letter with you as a way to explain what it REALLY takes to get a woman. Read this question from one of my students to find out what this word is. this works ten times better on women you meet every day. LLC. It might seem a bit out of place to talk about his “one night stand” when we’ve been talking so much about authenticity and so forth.WHEREVER you may be. on the street. in the grocery store.and winding up as just another friend. After half an hour my friend went to sleep and there was only the two of us.
and I used [your] palm reading trick as an excuse to get closer to her and this is where it started. sense of humor. It's her bargaining chip.www.com Of course your advice did help a lot. took a few seconds break and tried again till she accepted. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. Would she have said that only to test my reaction? (2) If a girl is supposed to sleep with a guy if she trusts him (most importantly) then why did she do it on the first night she met me . and it's not really to test you. LLC. in the UK ______________________ CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS: This is a common situation with guys that seems illogical up front. My questions are: (1) She seemed to be very into me that night but was regularly saying that she would not be having sex with me." Women are culturally and societally programmed to protect their sexuality as their "secret value" to the world.and after only a few hours? Can that really be enough for a girl to trust a guy? Keep rocking dude!! R. I was even trying to make her laugh successfully (I guess our sense of humor was similar). 60 . So [your] three 'S's worked perfectly here: Self-confidence.CarlosXuma. and self-control. I took it easy. First off. Oh. For example I acted confident and seemed to be sure of what I was doing. a woman says that sort of thing ("I'm not sleeping with you") for one reason primarily. It's actually her way of establishing in her mind that she is remaining "innocent. but is actually very obvious underneath.
" it lowered her sexual value." she would have been turned off in a big way. 61 ." And her way of maintaining this image to you is to make you believe that she "never does this sort of thing. telling herself that this or that sexual encounter "doesn't count." Now.www." And she even denies it to herself. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions." Game over. If a man thought she was a "loose woman. if you did react badly or impatiently to her saying "not tonight. Relax and let her feel that she could connect with you. So she will proclaim until the end of the world that she's a "Good Girl. in the last few years we've been able to destroy that myth (of the chaste woman who does not cheat) with the discovery that about 10% of all kids are not from the father they think they are. how would he be able to be sure that his children were really HIS if she was the kind of girl who messed around? Well. You would have proven yourself to be just another guy who only wants "one thing. and that you were a confident and patient chap. It was her “unique selling proposal” for men that she had to guard. LLC. Think about what the worst insult is to a woman: Slut. But it's VITALLY important to a woman's social appearance to her peers and to men that she look innocent. But you did the right thing which was to hold back and chill.CarlosXuma. After all.com The one thing a woman used in days-gone-by to assure her survival was her sexuality.
www. Nope. Women are just better at keeping it hidden than men are.CarlosXuma. MYTH . MYTH . As I told you above. It’s really all about CONNECTION So to answer your question. Nope. she does.Women are not as interested in sex as men. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. In order to understand women. 62 . She needs to feel CONNECTION. LLC. but they're not: MYTH .that's all she needs in order to feel comfortable enough to indulge her sexuality and have fun with you. and it will make all the difference to you with women. There's another ingredient that is more important than trust. you have to really understand the huge part of reality that is actually a complete LIE. but not as much as you might think. Nope. she only needs to feel a connection with you to allow herself to be sexual with you. Here are some facts about women that most men accept as the Truth. Women are actually MORE sexual than men.A woman needs to be your one and only girlfriend before she will sleep with you.com You also bring up an equally valid and important point about "trust." Isn't a woman supposed to trust a man before she sleeps with him? Yes. YES .Women don't cheat as much as men.
it’s all about connection. ______________________ That’s right. Almost without exception. is it? After all. LLC.but sometimes we can’t see those best interests until it’s too late. But as they say. To really supercharge her feminine identity. a lot of what you have just read in this ebook is going to seem like common sense to you.CarlosXuma. Seems pretty simple.com So the real riddle that guys need to solve is HOW to get a woman to feel that connection with you. it’s usually a question of discipline and motivation. 63 . It’s RARE to find a guy who will postpone his gratification to achieve his long-term goals. and touch her soul in a way that most men will NEVER understand. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. and live higher quality life? Well. doesn’t it? Eat right and exercise. common sense ain’t so common. Now. In fact. To feel that she is actually felt and UNDERSTOOD on a deep level. Common sense isn’t all that common. So why don’t people do it if they know that they will live longer. I’d worry if you hadn’t read at least a small portion of this somewhere else before. Which is something you cannot achieve when you’re trying to be something you don’t feel comfortable or congruent with..www. we all know that exercising and eating right will make you healthier. We try to do what’s in our best interests .. have more energy.
As humans. Have you ever heard the saying that the success or failure that you experience can often be traced back to a few key decisions you make at critical times during your life? If you have heard this. wouldn’t you like to know in advance what those decisions are? Unfortunately. The caption underneath read: “If smoking did to you on the outside what it does on the inside. most guys have already made these decisions for themselves . LLC. have you ever given any thought as to what those decisions might actually be? Wouldn’t you agree that maybe it makes sense to give them a little thought? If you knew that there are only a few key decisions that you can make that are going to have an enormous impact on your quality of life and the women you will meet and be with in your life.” It was pretty effective on a shock-value level. you’d never start.CarlosXuma.and usually they make the WRONG ONE. and gooey.www. And they don’t even realize that they’ve made this mistake. but you might have to. and usually that determination only appears when we’ve finally hit rock bottom.. Don’t get to that point if you can avoid it. It’s hard to do what’s right for us if it involves the discomfort of changing. I’ve been able to identify them .. How do I know this? Because after talking with thousands of guys and experiencing the obstacles that they run into. 64 .. blackened.. we have only a limited amount of “push through the pain” determination.com There was a really disgusting poster in the waiting room of my doctor’s office that showed a woman that looked all burned. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions.and it’s especially evident when you see how many guys are not getting the Where you are right now is the sum total of all the decisions you have made throughout your life.
.and CONNECT with massive rapport. The parent who is really able to SEE through the eyes and experience of their teenager . This one realization has made all the difference in the success I’ve had in my personal life and my professional life.CarlosXuma. The salesperson who is willing to really SEE the world through his prospect’s eyes is going to experience a radical difference in their ability to sell. The man who looks through the eyes of the woman he’s talking to will have unbelievable success in his ability to get her hooked on him .remembering what it was like and not fall back on just commanding and lazy parenting . PERIOD. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. Well.com kind of Top Gun success that a small percentage of the guys are getting out there. The hostage negotiator who is willing to really SEE the situation through the other person’s eyes is going to be able to defuse the situation . I used to think that the quality of your life experience would be in direct proportion to the level of your self-esteem.and safely.. Remember when I told you about the “Think Barrier”? That’s directly related to this.. Can you look out through another person’s eyes and experience? 65 . I still think that. LLC.www. It’s this ability to leave behind our own ego and selfish needs that will define the level of success you will experience in your life.. for the most part..is going to be able to make a difference in their child’s life. But now I understand that a huge part of your experience in life amounts to your willingness to look at things through other people’s perspective..
www. LLC. and how it all ties together? TRIVIA: The Chinese characters for “kung-fu” symbolize “time” and “energy. How much energy did you put in? And over how much time? The only thing you have to spend in this life is your time. if you choose. but your time is fixed. 66 . That’s why I made damn sure that I put as much time-energy into this book as I could for you.CarlosXuma. Do you ever feel lost? Do you ever feel like you’re searching for an answer of how all this stuff works.. This is my kung-fu. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. “I know Kung-fu.Neo. You’ll never have them again. The last 30 or 40 minutes or so that you spent reading this book are gone for good. in “The Matrix. You can have martial arts kung-fu.” ..” 功夫 Because those two elements are really all that your life will amount to in the end. or even dating kung-fu.” That’s all that “kung-fu” really is . Money will come and go. And precious. or cooking kung-fu.the application of energy over time.com And this is the depth of information you will find in my programs as well.
like one of those flashbulb memories where someone asks you where you were when this or that happened. because I fell asleep soon after. LLC. I was 5 years old. and this wouldn’t happen for many many years. Her little boy was talking about something she probably had never really considered. Someday. all of this would be over. I told her what I was thinking about dying and afraid of it.no one knows for sure how long) to do our work.www.I can attribute to this great realization. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. I started crying. We are not permanent fixtures here on this planet.CarlosXuma. I realized that one day. and I was laying in bed. This happened for me at a very early age. too. telling me that it would be all right. 67 . All of a sudden I was smothered in despair.com Are You Finally a Man? You may have heard a saying that a boy becomes a man when he realizes he is going to die someday. I remember it clearly. I think that one experience shaped a lot of my life. and I was laying there thinking about my life and thinking out into the future. I found a secret well spring of energy in my life after that point that . I would not live forever. I can imagine how difficult that was for her to handle. this will all be over. and I called my mom in. and she did the warm and nurturing mother things. We are TEMPORARY here.looking back now . I imagine this was a big freak-out for my mom. I don’t really even remember dwelling on that thought again for many years. She must have calmed me down. We only get a good 70 or 80 years (sometimes much less .
www. If you do nothing after you read this. or becoming a better man. You see. you can learn something new from anyone.CarlosXuma. and a few years from now you hear something that reminds you of a concept I’ve talked about. anywhere. As for YOUR Kung-fu. and that was enormously exciting and attractive to them. it was worth it. We gotta get going. almost all of them say it was my burning drive to accomplish something here. it was worth it.even dating and attracting women. and move with a purpose. When I talked to my girlfriends in the past and asked them what it was that made them choose me. And skills can be learned. What then? If all I’ve done in this book is give you ONE new idea that sparks your awareness or increases your energy and motivation. as some singer might say. 68 . EVERYTHING is just a skill waiting to be learned. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. and you’re not just trying to judge the world. after this book is closed and your computer is turned off. Everything you want to do in life is just a skill . if you want to maximize your time-energy over the next who-knows-how-many-years. LLC. you need skills.IF you have the right goggles of awareness on.com And then we’re gone. Just a flicker of a candle in the wind. So now the real question is what happens next. it was worth it. anytime . and you make a different decision that moves you towards your goal. They could sense I was on my way somewhere. If all I’ve done is give you the understanding of ONE concept that could turn your life in a new direction.
LLC. Again. because they are a tool.www. Really. growth. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions.. I’m only going to pass along the best and most effective techniques for change. without having to pay $2000 (or much more) for an overhyped bootcamp with some guru. and attraction. You only need to raise your excitement and energy up a few notches to draw women into your vibe. and all the way to realizing that there’s a big picture that guys want that goes way beyond just pickup and the romantic exploits. then I can help you find that path.but not nearly as much as it’s necessary for you to learn an honorable and incredibly POWERFUL method of attracting women with your authentic self. how hard could it be to get into a conversation with a drunk girl who’s just barely out of high school? The “pickup” skills are necessary. I’ve been through the entire learning cycle of a guy who SUCKED with women all the way to having great success with my dating and attraction. If you would like to create that for yourself. Think about this whole “pickup” thing for a minute.com I am here to teach you the best of the best when it comes to attraction skills. and having any tool to realize a way to improve yourself is usually better than no tools. or having to go beat up your inner child. confidence-building. these techniques are necessary . 69 . I say again..CarlosXuma. I’m not going to waste your time with a lot of useless lines and fluff that will only misguide you into a place where you feel like you have to be another person to attract women.
LLC. or retirement home. close your eyes for a bit and just imagine yourself in that old folks home. Outer Game. and Motivation. Look away from the screen. I’m attaching a little roadmap for you on the next few pages. © 2008 DD Publications/Morpheus Productions. 70 . I hope you’ll take the next step and start living your Alpha Lifestyle. or the paper.www. and you don’t want to walk over fire or spend umpteen thousand dollars in seminars and retreats. Take a few minutes right now. And if I can’t help you. I’d be happy to help you find your path..com If you would like to find your own unique path and purpose in this life while you become the man you were meant to be. I’m just giving you a quick idea of what is possible for you to learn on this path to becoming the Alpha Man. What would your story be? Would you have done the things you wanted to do? Or will you be regretting all the things you never got to do? Inner Game. and not look back in regret at what you failed to do. I want you to maximize these few years you get here on this planet. and you’re talking to everyone about the life you led.CarlosXuma. ENERGIZE your life. You will be a force to be reckoned with. With these three elements in place. I’ll point you to someone who can.. you are unstoppable. This is the “Triple-Threat” of the Alpha Lifestyle.
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