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FRIENDSHIP IN ISLAM

“Close friends, that Day will be
enemies to each other, except for
the righteous.” (Quran 43;67)

“And the day the wrongdoer will bite
on his hands (in regret) he will say,
“Oh, I wish I had taken with the
Messenger a way.” (Quran 25:27)

Oh, woe to me! I wish I had not
taken that one as a friend. He led me
away from the remembrance after it
had come to me. And ever is Satan to
man a deserter.”(Quran:25;28,29)

THE 2 MAIN REGRETS ON THE DAY OF JUDGMENT • Not following the Prophet (s.w) on the path of guidance • Befriending a person who diverted one from the truth .a.

. our personality can never be complete. Without loving and being loved . Friendship is every person’s need.

ALL FRIENDSHIPS that..HOWEVER. • Lead you away from the remembrance of Allah • Make you deviate from the straight path • Affect your ability to differentiate between halaal and haraam • Overpower your mind to the exclusion of all else • Make you neglect your obligations ARE FORBIDDEN IN ISLAM They are unreal and transitory .

a.”(Bukhari) “Keep company with a believer only and let your food be eaten only be the righteous.”(Abu Dawud ) “ Everyone will be with those he loves. HADITH The Prophet (s. so each one should consider whom he makes his friend.w) said: “A man follows the religion of his friend.” (Abu Dawud & Tirmidhi) .

there is : .Common love for Allah .Urging each other to do good deeds and - stopping each other from sinning .Increase in emaan in each other’s company .Discouragement of aimless talk. energy.No wastage of each other’s time. wealth or abilities .Drawing towards Allah and not towards each other .Increase in Taqwa. Allah-consciousness . sinful or senseless speech or bad behavior .In A Good Friendship.

. • Pose a danger to your eeman • Draw you to herself and not towards Allah • Distract you from Allah’s remembrance • Draw you into sinful activities and make them feel enjoyable • Waste your time and energy • Justify your mistakes and faults rather than focusing on improvement • Be possessive and resent the time you spend elsewhere Contd.. .WHEREAS A WRONG FRIEND will.

. •Flatter you even when you don’t deserve praise •Make you a slave of whims and fancies •Make never ending demands on you and expect them to be met •Not be happy when you say ‘No” •Abandon you in your troubled times •Be selfish and seek to fulfill her own agenda •Forget you when you are out of sight .. A WRONG FRIEND will. Contd.

SUCH A FRIENDSHIP IS NOTHING BUT A DECEPTION! • There are Satans amongst both Jinn and humans • Beware of the enemy in the garb of a friend! .

w) said: “The example of a good pious companion and an evil one is that of a person carrying musk and another blowing a pair of bellows.a. but the one who is blowing a pair of bellows will either burn your clothes or you will get a bad smell from him. or you will buy some from him. The one who is carrying musk will either give you some perfume as a present. or you will get a good smell from him. Hadith The Prophet (s.” (Bukhari) .

w) or other people? • What do your do together? Obey Allah’s commands or your own desires? • Do you help each other in righteousness and piety and and stop each other from sin and aggression? • When you spend money on each other. the Prophet (s.ASSESS YOUR FRIENDSHIP..a. is it to please Allah or to impress each other or other people? . • What do you talk about when you are together? Is it about Allah.

• Do you waste each other’s time and energy? • Do you point out each other’s faults in a sincere and wise manner and accept the criticism constructively ? • Does your friendship advance you spiritually? • When you look at your friend..ASSESS YOUR FRIENDSHIP. does it bring Allah to mind? • Most Importantly…Do you love each other for the sake of Allah? .

They are from various peoples and tribes who have no ties of relationship between them. On the Day of Resurrection. They love each other purely for the sake of Allah. but they will not be scared. Their faces will be light and their clothes will be light. Allah will present them pulpits of light for them to sit on. The people will be scared on the Day of Resurrection. listen and understand.”(Ahmad) . but both the prophets and martyrs envy them for their closeness to Allah. They are the friends of Allah who will not have any fear upon them nor will they grieve. Allah has slaves who are neither prophets nor martyrs. HADITH The Prophet (saw) said: “O people.

” (Muslim) . Allah the Most High will announce.a.w) said: “On the Day of Judgment. HADITH The Prophet (s. “Where are those persons who love each other for the sake of My Pleasure? This day I am going to shelter them in the shade provided by Me. Today there is no shade except My shade.

visit one another for My sake and spend for each other for My sake.w) said. HADITH The Prophet (s. Allah has decided: It is incumbent upon Me to bestow My love on those who love one another for My sake. meet one another for My sake .a. (Malik) .

HADITH The Prophet (s.” (Baihaiqi) .w) said: In Paradise there are pillars of rubies on which there are rooms of emeralds with open doors shining like sparkling planets.a.a.” He (s.w) was asked who would occupy them and he replied: “Those who love one another for Allah’s sake and those who visit one another for Allah’s sake.

” (Quran 5.. VALUABLE ADVICE. •Be moderate in your friendship •Keep reasonable expectations from each other “And cooperate in righteousness and piety. but do not cooperate in sin and aggression.2) .

and finally. those that are like medicine and are beneficial. so you need them sometimes. Those that are necessary like nourishment and you cannot live without them. There are 3 types of ‘friends’. those that are like a sickness and you do not need them at all! ..

Ameen . DU‘A Allahumma innee as’aluka hubbaka wa hubba main yuhibbuka wal ‘amal ladhi yuballighunee hubbak O Allah ! I ask of You Your love and the love of whoever loves You and the love of of the deed which will draw me in attaining Your love.