Women interrupt to show concern, but they think men disrupt the discussion by shifting the subject.

Men do try to control the conversation by disrupting it. They also believe a woman's supportive interjections (for example, "go on") are interruptions. Women spend more talking time with family and close friends, expressing support and discussing experiences. Men tend to talk more at work and in formal and social settings, and their goal is the exchange of information, even when conversing with a buddy. At home, women do talk more and become perturbed with less responsive partners. Women try to work on their relationships, while men see little need to speak unless there is a specific purpose -- a problem to solve, a decision to make. Women are typically in conversation mode; they are more likely to ask questions. Their goal is to get others to acquiesce through agreement. Men often interpret this approach as manipulation. They will make statements rather than suggestions. Their objective is to get their way directly and quickly. If that doesn't work, they'll exit the discussion; they may either be angry or simply less passionate about the subject. Men are resentful, believing women are trying to trick them. If men won't participate in back and forth negotiations, women feel slighted. This could easily turn into an argument. A dead car can lead to lively discussions between men and women. Their approaches to problem solving are likely to be different -- women want to examine the situation, but men might already be out the door to the dealership. Men and women approach an analytical discussion differently. Men tend to focus on facts and seek immediate resolutions; action is the conversational goal. Women desire more extensive talk about problems, sharing feelings and finding common experiences. Men don't understand why women don't want to solve problems, why they seem ungrateful for direct help. Women are hurt by the perceived disregard for emotions and frustrated when they believe they are being pushed to acquiesce too quickly. Compliments are a way of reaching out to one another, an offer of affirmation and inclusion. Men are more likely to volunteer evaluations instead of hand out compliments. Similarly, they will not seek out compliments because they want to avoid being critiqued themselves. If a woman asks a question with the hope of being praised or flattered, a man may well see it as a way to offer advice. Women use apologies to try to create or maintain connections. Men, on the other hand, are concerned with what an apology might do: It might lower them to a subordinate position, a place where they've never wanted to be since boyhood. If a man fears losing power and avoids apologizing, a woman might consider this insensitive behavior, becoming offended and annoyed. Women often use questions in an argument. It's how they present their opposition. Men are more likely to take the simple, direct approach. Women often try to get their point across by asking many types of questions: defiant, informational and rhetorical. The questions are

it's just different. However. They sit at angles to each other. On one side of the room. Men. Their camaraderie is not less profound. that sense of daring can prove fatal. the subjects were much more likely to try a riskier stunt and exhibit . In a study of male skateboarders. Women's actions focus on maintaining the relationship: providing attention and encouraging participation. He may become annoyed that she is rejecting his efforts. stretching and spreading out. focusing on activities rather than conversation. glancing at each other infrequently. If a man won't make eye contact or face his female conversational partner. there's a group of women. their eyes roam around the room.the goal of communication is to achieve something. Want to appear in charge? Use the body to control the discussion space. relating experiences. On the other side of the room. She's more discussion-oriented. One specific aspect of nonverbal communication is body orientation. This pattern leads women to become increasingly suspicious and wary. but don't count out a desire to impress a lovely lady. and they continually make eye contact. his relaxed body position is actually helping him concentrate. Sharing secrets. they do tend to be unreserved in sitting styles: sprawling. Faces are animated and hands are in motion. however. Males remain action-oriented -. he's all action. with women usually functioning at high intensity. They're so straightforward. keeping arms and legs close to their bodies. she (perceiving conversation as integral to relationships) may interpret this as a lack of interest. and they react by closing down emotionally. and other studies have shown that women are better able to determine another's emotion from the sound of a voice or from a picture. Nonverbal communication involves varying levels of body expression. deep in conversation. discussing emotions. Brain scans have revealed that men and women have different brain structures for experiencing and processing emotions. to him. depends upon the task. Men's contributions to arguments are often simple and direct.designed to present an opposition or gather data. The goal for men. in contrast to women's questions. The intensity level for women drops for the sitting position -. Girls' friendships focus on making connections -talk is essential to this process. Women communicate through dialogue. Their chairs are all turned toward each other. choices and problems. An excess of testosterone may be the culprit for men's death-defying stunts. interpreting them as censure. often touching others. Buddy groups tend to be larger. that men might not even realize that a conflict is occurring. Men are concerned with being right and less concerned about anyone else's feelings. This perceived lack of compassion upsets women. During much of their discussion. Men are more conservative in facial movement and body contact. there's a group of four men. Men dislike questions. In many cases. revealing problems and discussing options are essential during girls' development.they tend to draw in. are considered more likely to take risks than women are. according to many studies. Boys generally take another approach to friendship. Want to preserve calm and prevent emotional escalation? Keep the face quiet and impassive.

the woman might do well to give the man time to think about the issue. That part of the brain lights up when we hear or see something funny. While men have a desire to astound others by taking risks. a part of their brain associated with analytical thinking was much more active than men completing the same task. In the study. but he just needs more time to think about it. their reward centers lit up much more strongly than the men's did. For best problem-solving results. In one study. playing games or joining sports fantasy leagues. and in both men and women. Men are more likely than women to be colorblind. may see a Three Stooges episode and decide that anything those crazy guys do will be hilarious. reading a map. leading them not to take the risk. Men. As a result of this pessimism. They're much more likely to send out in-depth e-mails to friends and family.measurably higher levels of testosterone when women were watching than when other men were watching. Men rely on the Internet for recreational activities. but the process of getting it to light up is different in men and women. men and women watched cartoons and rated them according to how funny they were. and women outnumber men on social networking sites such as Facebook and MySpace. Gross-out humor and slapstick comedy are usually on the menu for a man's comedy marathon. enjoy the Internet as a tool to build relationships. the women performed 70 percent better than the men did at juggling the demands and completing the tasks. on the other hand. Researchers have used brain imaging studies to find the funny spot of the brain. When the women watched the cartoons. The researchers expected the men to perform better at these tasks because previous studies had shown that men excel at the spatial reasoning required by these problems. a 2010 study revealed that men aren't as skilled at dealing with more than one problem or task at a time as women are. while cerebral wit is more likely to appeal to a woman. Then when women decided a cartoon was funny. men may need more time without interruption than women do. It was beneficial for women to be able to see a wider variety of colors so that they could find and select the best foodstuffs for her family. it's the ventromedial prefrontal cortex. These sites allow women to build communities and provide an easy way to share photos and news. In this situation. Trying to find something funny on television can bring out the differences in a couple. including solving math problems. women are consummate multitaskers. Researchers suggest that one reason for the disparity is due to men's ancient roles as hunters and women's ancient roles as gatherers. and they don't necessarily believe it will be. However. When it comes to working out a problem. answering a phone call and explaining a strategy to find a lost key. when something strikes them as funny. The researchers decided that women think more about whether something will be funny. Women. . She may think she has a problem all figured out. such as listening to music. men and women were asked to complete several tasks in a short period of time. on the other hand. another study showed that women were more likely to believe that the worst possible outcome of a risk-taking stunt would occur to them. they get a greater reward out of it than men do.

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