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The Best

Frank Advice:
For The Art Of Relationship Management

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The E-BOOK VERSION
By Frank B. (Because-I-Have-To-Be) Kermit © Frank B Kermit 2007 © Frank Because-I-Have-To-Be Kermit 2007 www.FRANKTALKS.com

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What some people say about: FRANK B KERMIT
“Frank is one of the great trainers that comes from a place of heart, teaches you how to naturally get into the game. Frank teaches a great system to have sustained relationships. I look forward to hanging out with Frank again next time I'm in Toronto.” -Steve P (as named in “The Game”) www.forbiddensextips.com Frank touched my audience. His level of honesty was uncommon, and his ability to communicate the sorts of painful issues that most people are not honest with themselves about, was remarkable. His speech touched me deeply, and on-stage next to him I was brought close to tears for his uncommon honesty. It was a pleasure to have him contribute to my seminar, and I felt he added emotional depth. -Steve Toe-cutter Celeste (named Vision in The Game) www.smoothinteractions.com DVD Long recognized as a teacher of seduction principles, living up to his name, Frank shares his experiences and his wisdom. (He) is about having real "field vision" into a full life of ultimate success with women, all courtesy of one of the most genuine guys in the business. -Scot McKay, www.deservewhatyouwant.com

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Frank succeeded in becoming one of the most knowledgeable guys around when it comes to dealing with women. He has gained and learned from his hard life experiences and has been extremely generous in sharing his knowledge and advice. Some of these guys confided to me that the help Frank extended to them literally changed their lives, and they wouldn't know what they would be doing had he not come around. The wisdom you will find in Frank was hard earned. It's a real honor to be a part of Frank's world -Clifford, www.cliffslist.com (Frank is) One of the world’s greatest seducers. No matter how ugly your experiences with women may have been in your past, Frank is your role-model. Nobody has had it worse than him, nobody went down in flames more than he used to …and nobody pulled himself out of a deeper swamp than he did. Whatever your current situation may be … Frank has already been there and can help you out. So make sure you are all ears and listen to him! -Nick Shane www.becomeaplayboy.com If you are familiar with Frank and his material then you know the depth of his knowledge and his ability to personally relate it to his students through his seminars or books. If you have not read his books and are learning from Frank for the first time, be prepared to have your views on relationships shattered. -Marvi Arlik, www.marviarlik.com

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Legal Page This book is copyright protected. Whenever possible, the original authors and sources have been credited. In the event a reader acquires this book illegally, and wishes to offer a reasonable donation to say thank you for the information; you may make a Pay pal payment through my website at www.franktalks.com. Your donations ensure endeavors like this book will keep being written. They also go to support my efforts to make the world a better place, through private and public education. Those found blatantly infringing on copyright of this book without regard to the remedies specified here in; will be persecuted to the fullest extent of the law. Copyright 2007 by Frank B Kermit All Rights Reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise without written permission from Frank, Because I Have to Be, Kermit. Website: www.franktalks.com ISBN: 978-0-9783979-1-3

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Dedication Page
The E-BOOK version of this book is dedicated to:

NICK SHANE
He was one of the first to see the potential in me as an interview subject, and valued me as both a seducer and as a peer. Thank you for being one of the first to publicly supporting me. Visit Nick Shane at www.playboyskool.com

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Acknowledgements And may I say thank you to Firstly, I wish to thank www.dearcupid.org/. It is an online advice service to be aimed mainly at answering questions on relationships, dating and sex. Thanks to all the agony aunts and uncles, the question askers, and of course its founder Andrew. If you also fancy yourself an advice giver, check them out. To my wife Jade Kermit, Patrick Lee, David Dekel, Gregory, The Montreal Maverick, my Montreal brothers, and the people who purchased by first 3 books. My friends, students, and mentors in the www.torontolair.CA the best seduction lair in Ontario. To my many mentors, clients, colleagues, and bros for your encouragement of this book. This is also especially to all those people who have sought out my Frank Advice, and trusted in me to provide them with my best and most direct responses.

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Introduction by Steve The Dean Williams Hey Everyone, Get your crayons out! I would like to introduce to you Mr. Frank B Kermit one of the most respectable seduction gurus that I have had the pleasure to meet and interview. I am Steve "The Dean" Williams, 0f www.datingloveandsex.com and I have been in the game, both as a player and a teacher for YEARS, and I know game. I know when I am dealing with someone that is real, and when I am dealing with an impersonator. FBK is the real deal. I first heard about Frank by his website franktalks.com, and decided to contact him about being on his show. After a few email exchanges we starting talking on the phone. Based on our first conversations, I have to say that my impression of him is that this guy actually has game. He lives by what he teaches. He is not just some theory guy. His experience IS his classroom. What I get from Frank that is rare is he is a giver in an industry that is plagued by takers. He is not into trying to get one by the Dean to see what he can get out of me. Frank genuinely is interested in what he and I could do for each other. He gives as much value to you, and he expects you to give to him. Frank's Emotional Needs theories, and the story of his past of pain, is inspiring and I believe his work has merit because he does
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not lie to women to get with them. As he said on his most recent visit to my pod cast, he would rather be rejected for who he is, than to be accepted for who he isn’t. That’s class in the book of The Dean. I do not have a very good opinion about guys that are a part of the so called "seduction community", and make it a point not to deal with them regularly. Frank is different. Frank is NOT like those "community" guys. He appreciates other people, and has soul. Social robots that use people have no morals and no soul. Frank always makes sure to show thanks when thanks are due. With the amount of game Frank has, you’d think he would be like those community egoists. He is humble, and he has heart. Frank B Kermit was on my show (Dating4men.com), and the after-hours program too. I only do an after-hours program when I have something special that I KNOW my listener will love. During the show, even my co-host Flash had to comment on how impressed he was, as it was very rare to find a Caucasian male have his game as tights as Franks. After the show I put a picture of Frank, and a link to the show on a forum where only the best players and real live pimps hang out...they were skeptical about Frank when they saw his pictures, but after they heard him talk on the radio, their impression of him was all good for real. They had to admit that Frank had the goods.

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Frank helped me form connections with a number of new interview guests for my show and has been a great supporter. In fact, when his own radio equipment went down for a while, he STILL sent me guests to be interviewed, that he still hasn't interviewed himself for his show. Frank is a stand up guy who actually cares. This book you are about to read is his first Frank Advice book. It is a collection of questions he has received over the years, and some of Frank Advice people pay him big bucks to dish out. I hope to see more of these books come out. I am happy to offer a shout out to Frank and show support for his work. Respect. -Steve The Dean Williams, www.datingloveandsex.com

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Table of Contents Title Page What Some People Say About Frank Legal Page Dedication page Acknowledgements Introduction by Steve Dean Williams Table of Contents Frank Introduction The Questions:
1. She Loves A Man Who Is Immoral 2. We Are Married And Want To Try A Threesome 3. He Wanted An Open Relationship At First, But Now He Regrets It 4. Frank Is An *ssh*le Against Jesus! 5. After She Said Yes, He Refused Sex With Her 6. When The Girlfriend Just Wants To Vent 7. Two Conflicting Seduction Advice, That Both Claim To Work …Who’s Right? 8. The Biggest Misconception About Gaming Women 9. How He Can Show Interest For Connection, But Not Lose Attraction 10. When Turning A Female Friend, That Is Connected To Your Social Circles, Into A Lover 11. Have A Relationship, Or Just Have Fun, Or Both? 12. His Stripper Girlfriend Is Needy © Frank Because-I-Have-To-Be Kermit 2007 www.FRANKTALKS.com 18 19 21 23 24 28 29 31 33 34 38 39

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13. How To Have An Affair 14. Do You Go Out With Friends To Pick Up? 15. Best Pick Up Lines 16. Best Way Of Going For The Phone Number 17. Best Date Places 18. No, We Are NOT Going To Have Sex 19. This Is Not A Happy Virgin (Publicly posted on www.Youtube) 20. Roommates Turned Lovers 21. I Changed, Now My Old Friends Hate Me 22. When Can I Finally Drop My Guard 23. Are There Any Really NICE Guys Out There? Or Are They All Just Jerks? 24. How Do I Initiate The Date? 25. My Friend Is Hooked Into In A Bad Relationship 26. She Just Broke Off Our Engagement 27. My Ex, My Sex Buddy 28. Am I A Lesbian? 29. Almost 40, And I Want A Baby, But He Does Not 30. Opps, She Dated His Friend 31. He Is Trying To Manipulate Her 32. The Best Kind Of Lover is…Enthusiastic 33. His Insecurities Drives Women Away 34. 10 Emotional Needs of Women 35. He Only Wants To Orgasm In My Mouth 36. Wife Sleeps In A Separate Room 37. When Is Enough, Enough? 38. Am I Going Too Far As Her Father? 39. Should He Leave His Wife For Another Man? 40. We Don’t Have Sex Anymore 41. But She Has A Boyfriend 42. New Boyfriend Forced Her To End Her Friendship With Her Ex 43. He Gave Her An STD, But Still Expects Friendship 44. Should She Divorce Him? 45. She Cheated On Her Male Lover… With His Wife © Frank Because-I-Have-To-Be Kermit 2007 www.FRANKTALKS.com

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46. The FonzieTechnique 47. He’s Mad: His Girlfriend Threw A Surprise Party For Him 48. She Offered To Do My Laundry, And Then Got Pissy 49. Unfaithful Married Woman Scolds Boyfriend About The Immorality Of Swingers 50. What Do You Say When You Do Not Want To Say Anything At All 51. He Told Her No Commitment, Now She Makes Him Feel GUILTY 52. Virgin Fears Sex Will Hurt The Girl 53. Sex Buddy Wants To Be My Girlfriend 54. The Make–Out Freak Out 55. Homeless Stench Is A Reality Check 56. My Fiancé Had More Lovers Than Me 57. The Age Question 58. The Single Parent Dating Module 59. She Criticizes My Love Making 60. My Girl Is Always Cursing Her “Slut Friends” 61. She ALWAYS Leaves Something At My Place. WHY? 62. Thank You Frank! I Got A Keeper! 63. Quickie Here, Quickie There 64. Attracted To A Transvestite 65. Training My Girlfriend To Pick Up Women With Me 66. The Open Relationship Cheater 67. The Rape Fantasy 68. Married Woman Falling In Love With Her Female Lover 69. Non-Married Lover In Triad Wants Other Two To Get Divorced 70. On Secondary Relationship Boundaries 71. My Girlfriend Told Me That She Is Bi… Does That Mean I Must Be Bi As Well? 72. Living With A Partner For The First Time 73. Cheater Who Poses As A Poly 74. Is It Cheating If His Wife Knows? But She Does Not Like It? 75. Time Management For Multiple Partners 76. Is Neediness A Common Concept In Open Relationships? © Frank Because-I-Have-To-Be Kermit 2007 www.FRANKTALKS.com

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77. My Wife Has Taken On Another Lover… I Am Going Crazy 78. Best Relationship Structure 79. Equal Love For All Partners Is Not Possible- Intellectual Construct 80. Poly Doesn't Equal Living A Free For All 81. Is There A Value In Lying About Being Poly? 82. The Pre-Vacation Break Up Tactic 83. Do You Think That She Might Be Into Funky Stuff? 84. Why Do Guys Omit Certain Things When Women Ask? 85. Why Don’t Girls Like Smart Guys? 86. How Do You Act When You Meet A Girl Through Her Parents 87. Getting Past The Three Date Rule 88. Some People Have It, And Some People Don’t. 89. Male Lover In Triad Punched Holes In Condoms 90. Gaming A“10” 91. Why Can I Not Get A “10”? 92. Why And How Venue Changes Work 93. Gifts Are Great Opportunities And Traps 94. Dream Interpretation 95. How Guilt Makes Us Better 96. Your Source Of Inspirations During Trying Times 97. She Asked Me About Threesomes 98. Masturbation Makes Me Happier 99. When women Approach You 100. A Mom Keeps Her Son Helpless Against A School Bully DISCOUNT PAGE (For the paperback version only)

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Frank Introduction Hello Dear Reader, What you are about to read is the first of a series of books of my candid, and sometimes controversial Frank Advice. Although most of the emails I get are relationship related (monogamous, non-monogamous, group relations, straight, bi, and gay), I do also get questions regarding non-relationship issues, regarding social contexts and proper norms. At times, l get my share of hate mail, like any person does, who sets out to make the world a better place. Sometimes I just delete it, and other times I respond to it. I have tried to include a random sample from my collection of some of the best emails I have answered. I have omitted dates, real names, personal email accounts, and home addresses to protect the identity and privacy of those who have contacted me. I hope, that by writing this book I may be able to help even more people with the same problems and challenges as they people I have helped in the past have faced. In some cases I have re-worded the questions so that even the individuals closest associates cannot identify them. In other cases, these questions came up in on-on-one consultations, and I have reformatted them to appear in this medium. I have done everything in my power to ensure that my clients can feel safe, have their copyrights protected, and feel free to be as honest as possible about their

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situations, in order for me to offer them my best Frank Advice. “Question # 45 She Cheated On Her Male Lover…With His Wife.” Believe it or not, it was THIS story that convinced me that I had to write my Frank Advice series. Not because of the wildness of this tale, but because once I had gone through my development to the point where women just intuitively knew they could tell me anything, women told me EVERYTHING. This sort of story is so much more common than any man would ever believe. This book HAD to be written for the thousands, if not millions of people who have no one to talk to. The last time I heard this question, it was in fact about the 20th time I had encountered such a situation. So rather than repeat my Frank Advice another 20 times, I decided to write out this series of books, and give out the best of my Frank Advice once and for all. If you would like some Frank Advice, send me an email through my www.franktalks.com site. I try to answer as many as I can, but please note that I get a huge volume, and have no administration for this aspect. Every answer you get is really from me personally, and not another advisor writing under my name. On occasion I may ask someone more
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knowledgeable than I on a given question to give his or her advice, and on those occasions, I will credit the other source. For private and personal one on one telephone or in person consultation, contact me through www.franktalks.com Private consultations are priced by the hour and can be purchased in time allotments. Please note that discount coupons can be multi packed for a higher discount on consultations in certain circumstances only. All coupons found in my books must be verified through my administration first. I only give advice about what I know about. I do not answer questions regarding medicine, wealth, or other topics that are best suited for an expert in those areas. I do my best to make sure that my Frank Advice is always “franked”. I only hope that all of you, who ask for such Frank Advice from me, are as frank with me, as I am with you. -Frank B. Kermit

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Frank’s Telephone Consultations Are you finding that monogamous relationships do not work for you but you are still unsure as to what the answer is because you do not know where to go to next? Are you considering an alternative to monogamy, and desperately do not want to have to lie about your desires, and refuse to cheat on your partner? Then this telephone consultation is going to be for you. In this session, you will learn about monogamy, the swinger lifestyle, polyamorous, BDSM, being asexual or bisexual in relationships, having a harem of lovers, the single lifestyle, and what the various rules for each relationship management structure are. This session is open to men, women and couples.

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1. She Loves A Man Who Is Immoral Dear Frank, I am in love with a man but I am not too fond of what he does with his spare time. The thing is, what he does is against my personal morals, but I also know if he ever gave me the chance to be with him maybe, things would work out. But how do I know if he has feelings for me??? Do you think I should ask him? We are compatible in many things; he just doesn't want to admit something is stopping him. He is probably afraid of being hurt; that is my opinion... Anyway, thanks allot for your advice. I will continue listening to your show. I really enjoy it. -Asker1 Dear Asker1, Sorry to tell you this, but your love is not enough to make this relationship work. You both need to be on the same page if that is going to happen, and it doesn't sound like you are. If what he does in his spare time is against your morals that should signal something to you. Now either, he represents some forbidden temptation for you, and that is what is really attracting you to this guy, or your morals are not what you claim them to be, and you want to use the excuse of being with him so that you can be who you really are.
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Either way, it really sounds like you have this relationship with him all figured out in your head about how things "should" be, but the reality of it doesn't sound like it’s going to work. You don't even know if he returns your feelings. The only way it sounds like it could ever work is if one of you changes. Either you change your morals, or he changes his past times. Both seem unlikely. It is best to find someone that matches the life you want to build based on your morals, and most importantly, take some opportunities to learn about whom you really are, so that you don't need to live vicariously through what sounds like an unhealthy relationship in the making. Good Luck. -Frank, because I have to be 2. We Are Married And Want To Try A Threesome Dear Frank, My wife and I have been married for 15 years, and we have three great kids. Our sex life got, "ho-hum" if you know what I mean. We decided to spice things up a bit. We started with watching porno, playing with sex toys, and sharing our fantasies. It turned out that my fantasy is to have a threesome with another woman, and her
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fantasy is to be with another woman. She actually considers herself bisexual (even though she has never been with a woman before) and wasn't sure she could tell me until now. She has a friend she works with that she likes and she thinks may want to join us. I don't really find her friend that attractive. I would like to go to a swingers club, but she feels uncomfortable with that. Any advice? -Asker2 Dear Asker2, First of all, good for you and your wife for communicating. It is a good place to start. I would suggest that you and your wife do NOT have sex with someone she works with. Since she has not been with a woman yet, her first experience should not be with a friend, or a coworker. There is no way either of you can anticipate how you both are going to react once you get there. Fantasy is one thing, and Reality can be very different. I would suggest that you both try to find someone that you both like, and take your time in meeting that third person. If you are interested in swinging, do some reading on it. Good books on swinging are The Lifestyle by Terry Gould, and Swinging A Societal Phenomena by Jean Hamel. Most swingers clubs have an information session night. Check out your local clubs just for the information session. You have no
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obligation to join it. The first thing you two need to figure out before you introduce that third person into your mix, is what will be the limits and boundaries of your first encounters with a third partner, including what each of you can and can not do. You need to figure out if you would be interested in letting your wife explore her sexuality without you first, and then seek out a threesome. When in doubt, move slowly. Good luck. -Frank, because I have to be 3. He Wanted An Open Relationship At First, But Now He Regrets it Dear Frank, My boyfriend and I are in an open relationship. Until I met him, I was totally monogamous. Being in an open relationship where we both can see other people was totally his idea. Well, I wasn't sure at first, but since I have tried going out with other people, I now find I love the attention. I only went after other girls at first, because I thought that would make him happy, but I ended up having two threesomes without my boyfriend (with my female lovers and their husbands). He was really supportive at first, but lately he has really starting to act hurt when I tell him about my dates. I think he might ask me to be monogamous again. I have not had a threesome with him yet, and I know he wants one. Also, he has been so busy with
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work and school, and was sick lately, that I am the only person he is seeing. I think he is feeling lonely, and I don't want to lose him, but after the last 3 months I have had, I don't think I could ever be monogamous again. Last Saturday he wanted to spend time with me, but I had already made a date with another guy. He told me not to cancel it so I went out, but the next day he told me that he cried after I hung up the phone. Should I just break up with him, or should I try really hard to be monogamous again? -Asker3 Dear Asker3, Careful what you wish for eh? Most of the time, when a guy wants to be in an open relationship it is because he wants sexual variety, but he tends to underestimate how much opportunity women will have to be in more relationships than he will. Women are on the receiving end of approaches, and if your guy is shy, (or too pre-occupied) to regularly meet new people, then it can be quite a shock to the male ego to see his girl getting lots of attention, while he ends up alone on a Saturday night. If you want to stay with him, then no, don't break up. You say that you do not want a monogamous relationship again, and until you speak to him, do not spend time guessing what he is thinking. ASK HIM. I doubt he wants monogamy. He may be unsure about what he is feeling right now. Mainly, the first thing he
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needs is Reassurance. He needs to know that he is still your primary (assuming that is how you see him), and that you love him. The other thing is that maybe you both need to define some boundaries about the other people you are involved with. Open relationships do not always mean total free-for-all. There are different types and different rules. If your relationship with him is hurting, that is not good for either of you. I would suggest for starters, that you both designate one day/night a week, every week, where the two of you do something together. Quality time together on a regular basis could ease the tension between you. Also, he needs to go out and meet more people. It sounds like he is hoping that you will recruit women to fulfill his fantasies, and that is OK, but surely there must be more to your relationship with him than that. -Frank, because I have to be 4. Frank Is An *ssh*le Against Jesus! You *ssh*le! I just visited your site, and was appalled by the interview I downloaded. I listened to the whole thing hoping you would just say it is a practical joke or something. You, and the people you interview are sick sh*ts! You are all immoral and against Jesus! I hope you monsters burn with the devil, for the evil you are putting into
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the world, they way you encourage good decent folks to forsake God's will by saying it is OK that girls sleep with girls, and this f*cking nonsense. I hate all of you. -Asker4 Dear Asker4, You are entitled to your opinion, but I do not have to share it. What would all the "decent folks" you seem to know think about the nature of this email, or the fact that despite the disclaimer at the beginning of every show, you listened to the ENTIRE show? Yes, there is a joke here. It's you. Too bad all you can do is wish hatred on people. I hope you will continue to listen...just to see if there is a punch line at the end of the series. I feel sorry for you. You are at war within yourself, and perhaps one day you will finally come out of your shell. Until then, check out my Prayer for Peace. I doubt you'd get the message, but I am out to make the world a better place by promoting love, education and peace. -Frank, because I have to be. 5. After She Said Yes, He Refused Sex With Her Dear Frank, I met this guy. He liked me and I liked him. I wanted a relationship with him and he only
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wanted friends-with-benefits (if you know what I mean) and that it might lead to a relationship. I'm OK with friends-with-benefits for now. Well, when it finally came down to sex, he said “No” and left! I felt mad that he blew me off so I told him that it was awkward and that I didn't want to push him. Well now he won’t talk to me. We used to write to each other every day. What do you think happened? -Asker5 Dear Asker5, I think that he either has a problem with sex in general, or he was not interested in you. I figure he guessed that if he told you that he only wanted to be sex-buddies, then you would not have agreed. That is why when you told him you were fine with being a sex buddy, he freaked out. So either he is gay but cannot tell you, or he has a problem with sex, or he is not interested in you and did not want to hurt your feelings. -Frank, because I have to be

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I'm LOVING the Everything Out of Her Mouth is a Test book. I don't agree that EVERYTHING is a test, but I totally support the idea of multiple levels of emotional response and a guy being able to read and handle these. It's what is called "meta states" in NLP; that each state then generates a new state, which reflexively modifies the first state, and generates another. Recursive consciousness. In this book, Frank has devised a great and VERY accessible tool for men to learn to understand exactly what they have done right, and what they have done wrong in a sarge, and also gives suggestions as to
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what to do next based on his understanding of the multiple and recursive levels of womens' emotional needs. But don't be fooled-this is not an academic text. Frank gives multiple examples right from his own real-life seduction experience, showing how to use this knowledge, step by step, from concept to action. As I have taught for years; knowing what to notice and pay attention to is as important as knowing what to do and what to say. This book is a very valuable and easy to use tool set for knowing what to pay attention to and notice. I highly recommend it, even more so than Frank's other book. Strong recommendation, very well written, A+ on this one.
- Ross Jeffries, speedseduction.biz

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6. When The Girlfriend Just Wants To Vent Dear Frank, When you’re talking with your girlfriend, and she wants to vent, what is your role? With girls in general I know to listen, repeat back to them what they say so that they feel listened to etc. However, with a sexual girlfriend does that put you in the category of her "friend/mother" more so than a lover? -Asker6 Dear Asker6, There is a difference between being strong enough to handle her emotional range (venting) and being her therapist to solve her problems. If you become her therapist she will lose attraction for you. Do not try to solve her problems for her, unless they are lifethreatening situations such as violence at work. Usually it is nothing that serious, and all she wants to do is vent. Venting is emotional need # 2 of Emotional Range. She needs to complain because the feelings of complaining (rage, anger, sorrow, loss, etc.) is just part of her feeling alive through emotion. Listen, not to her words, but her emotions, and that is what you feed back to her. THEN, through conversation, you eventually take the lead of her emotional range, and take her from
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all her various emotions and lead her to one positive strong emotion that she will eventually associate with you. I like to use playfulness, connection to her inner child to achieve this. It addresses the emotional needs of Emotional Range AND addresses Catering to the Little Girl in Her. Do not give in to your instinct of problem solving. You are not there to solve her problems. Just listen to her, make her FEEL listened to, and then HAVE SEX WITH HER. The rules are as follows: In the first phase of dating, you do NOT listen to her problems. You cut her off, and change the mood of the conversation to something fun, positive and exciting. Once you get into a long-term relationship, and AFTER you have had sex with her, you need to learn how to handle her venting. It is part of relationship management Remember: before you have sex with her, do not listen to her problems. After you have sex with her, apply my rules of relationship management. -Frank, because I have to be 7. Two Conflicting Seduction Advice, That Both Claim To Work…Who’s Right? Dear Frank,

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I am studying seduction, and how to seduce women. One guru advocates using an aloof attitude towards women to turn up attraction, while another recommends showing genuine interest in the girl to form a connection. These two ideas seem contradictory; how do you reconcile the two? -Asker7 Dear Asker7, These are some things to consider: There are different schools of seduction. A beginner tries to learn all the different schools at the same time. This slows his progress. It is better to learn from one school of seduction, and once you have learned what you wanted from that school, you move on to the next lesson. In judging the schools, you first need to come to terms with who is the material for. Gurus teach what they themselves found to be most useful for them. For example, if one Guru was once too aloof when he started, he will teach students to show genuine interest, as that was the biggest lesson for himself. If the other Guru used to show too much interest right away, chances are he will now teach to act aloof to women, as that was what he learned to help him be better with women. They BOTH work.

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Your first lesson is to know whom you are and what YOUR personal challenge is, in order to know if their advice would even apply to you. Get it? The idea is to pick out the parts that apply to you, and to use them in your own structure. That will come with time and practice. Consider your own perceived value. What value do women perceive you as? If they see you as high value, you need to show genuine interest. If they see you as lower value, you need to use a more aloof attitude when communicating with them. My book I’M a Man, That’s my Job has an entire section on exactly this topic of perceived value calibration. -Frank, because I have to be 8. The Biggest Misconception Gaming Women About

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Gaming women means lying to women. It comes from the marketing idea that learning to game women is easy. It is not. Lying to women is easy. Gaming women means YOU DO NOT GET TO LIE; it is about the best way to present your truthful self in order to get the best sex/relationship results you want. Being honest with whom you are, and still getting what you want is not as easy as some instructors like to claim. Mastering game really is not easy. Otherwise EVERYONE would be doing it already. It takes work. 2. At some point, a man must “get out of the game.” That is ludicrous in my mind. The only time a man stops gaming, is when he stops LEADING. That means he is either DEAD, or in a COMA. Otherwise, he has an obligation to lead his relationships and that means he must game. You NEVER get out of it. Period. -Frank, because I have to be 9. How He Can Show Interest Connection, But Not Lose Attraction Dear Frank, In my experience, it seems to me if you show genuine interest in a girl, it kills some of the attraction, even though it maintains a
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connection. How do you work this to achieve both, attraction AND connection? -Asker9 Dear Asker9, Ok, letting a girl know you like her CAN kill attraction...but not necessarily. It depends on two things: When you show it, AND how you show it. If you show interest from the beginning, you have to mix it in with a little suspicion. It is not the fact you are attracted to her, but the WHY are you attracted to her. If you show a woman too much interest too soon, without making her feel she EARNED your interests (address your suspicion of her), she worries you are just playing with her, and plan to abandon her right after sex. As for the connection…this is all about making her feel special (the best way to is address her emotional needs) and in making her feel special, finding ways that the two of you really do connect on (as minor as common hobbies, to as major as wanting the same future lifestyle), and exploring those interests. Finally, a lack of attraction does not translate to a lack of connection. If a woman has a connection to you, she will feel the connection, but it will not be enough for her to have sex with you. If she feels the attraction IN
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ADDITION to the connection, THEN she will be open to having sex with you. -Frank, because I have to be 10. When Turning A Female Friend, That Is Connected To Your Social Circles, Into A Lover Dear Frank, How do you handle and pursue sexual relationships with friends or just people who're plugged into your social circle, when reputation and discretion needs to be preserved? -Asker10 Dear Asker10, Social Circle dating is usually one of the easiest ways to meet people, as everyone in the group can vouch for someone in the group. What makes it tricky though is how to manage the break ups, because the consequences of a bad break up, or poor relationship could affect his and/or her standing in the group. Social Circle dating is all about planning ahead. The things to plan ahead for are: 1. Emotional Need # 1 Protection of Her Reputation

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First, when you do seduce a woman, it cannot be in front of others. It must be done in secret, away from prying eyes. This protects her reputation, in the event there is someone else in the circle that has his eye on her, and may publicly discredit her if she ends up with you out of his own jealousy. Also, when you do manage to seduce her into your lover, KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT about your sexual relationship, especially if you are just lovers, and not monogamous nor engaged. No one in the social circle needs to know whom you, or she, is sleeping with; at least not from you. If she is the one to talk about it to others, you have still fulfilled your duties as a man by not talking about it. This also means no sexually suggestive humor towards her in public, which would put her on the spot if she were uncomfortable with it, as it leads lesser people to spread rumors. The second thing is that you must properly manage the break up. Break ups are never easy. A General rule is that you should break up on the best of terms, so that there are only good feelings. The best part about no one knowing you slept together is no one knowing you broke up. -Frank, because I have to be

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Frank Telephone Consultations
This is a review of an hour-long phone call I had this evening with Frank B Kermit. He has been extremely professional and prompt in responding. The conversation began by him asking me what I wanted to talk about. I spoke about two general issues that are problematic in my life: one about being too negative in spite of being generally successful, and the other about not having enough (regular) sex or female company. I spoke about how I've stopped approaching because I although overcoming approach anxiety is good -- I didn't have much to begin with -- I don't approach because I know that I don't know what to say. Frank B Kermit kept focus very well in the conversation, keeping track of what I was saying and asking if I wanted to discuss the first issue or if I wanted to talk about something else, too. A big issue for me is that I am not very decisive. Frank B Kermit picked up on this very quickly and tried very hard to make me understand that my JOB AS A MAN is to BE DECISIVE. It's not to be always right -- that's impossible -- but it's to make decisions and make things happen. I've known this from other aspects of my life besides women. I was
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already aware of some of the exercises Frank B Kermit has had his students do, namely THE LISTS. I had been incapable of completing this in the past weeks despite sincere and repeated effort. Frank B Kermit made me realize I have a mental block. I am used to either be neutral or not have an opinion at all. For me, this is heavy s***. I think now, after our conversation, I will be able to complete the exercise and it will be a step in practicing the skill of decisiveness. Frank B Kermit repeated that I WAS BORN WITH BALLS. It's not a choice to use them, it's a responsibility and simply the way things are. I f***ing want to be a man and know what I want and make the f***ing decisions. Again, this is a big deal for me and quite a shift to make. I've seen this shift before but now it's very f****ing clear how important it is to make it and not look back. Bearing in mind that this was nearly the first time we spoke, Frank B Kermit was extremely perceptive and careful in judging how strong or weak I am before offering criticism. I did want to hear it all, but he made sure before he said anything. He has obviously worked with and met a lot of people in his life, he read me accurately and quickly. Some things I already knew, some things I sort of knew and some things were hammered home. My opinion is that Frank B Kermit is extremely qualified to help men be better with women by becoming better men, or at least help me be better with women by becoming a better man. - Nic S. in Montreal

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11. Have A Relationship, Or Just Have Fun, Or Both? Dear Frank, I am visiting Russia for just a few months. While I have been here I have really been working hard at learning to game women, and become great at it. I was always pretty good, but over the last few months, I have had sex with lots more women than ever before. My problem is one of the girls I’m involved with for 2 months now. We really like each other a lot and are both in our twenties. The issue for me is that I am leaving Russia in a month, and I find myself always thinking about her (I might be in love with her). I don’t know what to do. Should I just go out and lay as many more women as I can before my time here is up, or just be with the one girl here that I enjoy spending time with the most? What about the heart break at the end of my trip? Her coming back with me, or me staying here any longer, are just not options. I have zero interest in long distance relationships. -Asker11 Dear Asker11, I am going to ask you something: What do you need more experience in as part of your own development? Do you need to practice doing more street or club pickups? Do you need practice at open-relationship
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management? If you have an answer, then that is what I would suggest you focus on for your last month there. However, if you are already having sex with as many women as you say, that seems a moot discussion. The first thing I question is if you have a real connection with her, or if she is seducing you, into finding a way back to your country through you. Russian mail order brides are a big business. If it is not that, then if it were me, I would have the relationship with her. You have been with lots of chicks already, and if you found something special, see it through, it is about CREATING MEMORIES and getting some relationship experience in the meanwhile. You cannot be afraid of the heartbreak at the end of the month. Heartbreak is a part of ANY relationship, even ones that last. Train yourself to have love, and still be able to let go, and manage the pain. Get it? -Frank, because I have to be 12. His Stripper Girlfriend Is Needy Dear Frank My girlfriend is a stripper. I am 22 years old, and she is my first girlfriend. I got her using what I learned reading your book, Everything Out of Her Mouth is A Test. I have no problem dealing with the fact she strips for men to make money. In fact, I kind
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of like the idea that I am with the hot chick that all the other guys want. Here’s what’s bugging me: She gets SO NEEDY for my attention all the time! It is driving me crazy. She wants me to tell her all time that she is beautiful and that she is hot. When I have to sit down and study for school, she freaks out. It is like there is always a major crisis that happens when I have to study and spend time away from her. How can she be this needy for attention when she has guys drooling over her, and paying to see her all the time? Is this something all girls do, or just strippers? I understand that her need to hear that she is beautiful comes from what you call her Fear of Abandonment, but come on! She is a stripper for frigskakes! How could SHE ever fear abandonment from guys, when all she ever gets is guys paying her money to strip? -Asker12 Dear Asker12, First girlfriend is a stripper huh? Well, this is definitely a great learning experience for you. To answer your question, strippers are not the only girls that behave like this; other girls can act like this too…However the behavior you describe does tend to happen very frequently with women who work in the sex trade. For women who work in the sex trade, especially with women like strippers who witness their competition getting “their” clients,
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the emotional need of Fear of Abandonment is violated on a constant basis. As each woman is being passed up for prettier girls as soon as the new competition arrives, their insecurities skyrocket. These women do not focus on the hundreds of men that pay them. These women focus on the handful of men that they are unable to get to pay them. This explains the irony of why some strippers are the MOST insecure about their looks and need constant reassurance that they are beautiful Their greatest physical assets, fuels their greatest weakness. The fact is, most of the men paying to see her, are not the kind of men that she herself would be attracted too. She knows that she easily could have them, but she also knows that she would never be able to trust them. They ONLY want her for her beauty, and she feels any of those men would replace her as soon as they could afford to bribe an even hotter looking girl. (I happen to agree with strippers on this belief). Further to that, let’s also consider that strippers perform for many husbands and boyfriends of other women, and therefore, strippers know how often men would cheat if given the chance. Strippers usually ARE the other women in an affair, as about 50% of the strippers I know, also work privately as prostitutes, escorts and sometimes get into porno. Lastly, and the most potentially destructive behavior of dating a sex worker is that many of them try to SABOTAGE the potential success of their boyfriends. This is
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not done consciously. I personally think it comes from the fear that if you succeed in whatever endeavor you are doing you would leave her, and replace her with some other woman. In your case, getting a degree and finishing school to earn a better life for yourself could be causing her to worry that you would get a better job and/or lifestyle, and would then not want to be with a woman that either is/or was a stripper. Think of it this way: If she ever met a guy away from work that she really liked, she would tend NOT to tell him about her true profession out the fear he would not give her a chance to be a real girlfriend. When most women while away from work, admit to being a stripper, they get mixed reactions from both the men and women around them. The women act jealous or insulting to them, and the men usually just treat them like “inhuman suits only good for sex”, instead of treating her like a lady that has a job and earns her own money. This is part of the reason all strippers would rather be referred to as “dancers”. It gives them more respect on the outside. -Frank, because I have to be 13. How To Have An Affair Dear Frank, I am looking to have an affair. My husband doesn’t pay attention to me like he used to, and
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I am feeling neglected. There is a neighbor that has had his eye on me for a long time, and I think I am finally ready to give in to him. Don’t try to talk me out of it. I am going to do this with or without anyone’s support. It’s my time now. Do you have any tips for me? -Asker13 Dear Asker13, Before I get into any suggestions about how to do it right, the first thing I want to suggest is for you to try to talk to your husband. Whatever it is you seek sexually outside the marriage maybe the two of you could do it together. For example, if you are finding a lack of sexual excitement, try visiting a Swingers club with him, just for the experience. Just to let you know, when people cheat, it usually has very little to do with the person they are committed to. Sometimes the novelty of having an affair is more attractive than the person they are having it with. That being said, here are some basic rules for having an affair: 1.The most important thing to having a successful affair is in the pre-selection. Your focus is not on getting sex. You focus needs to be on WHOM you have sex with. Ideally, you want someone that has zero interest in hurting your primary relationship. If your neighbor wants to replace your husband, then find someone else. He will complicate your life in the future.
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2. Keep tabs on tangible things like bills, credit card payments, or any other traceable elements (like hickies, or moving the seat in your car to accommodate your lover). These are proof of your deception. If spending money, pay for everything in cash, and keep no receipts. 3.Never act like lovers in public, no matter how temping it is. 4. Be ready to break it off at any time. Affairs are time limited – ALWAYS. I hope you work things out with your husband first. If not, then be careful, use protection, and be choosy. -Frank, because I have to be 14. Do You Go Out With Friends To Pick Up? Dear Frank, When going out to meet women, do you hustle alone, with a wingman, or do you just chill and hang out with your buddies and attract women naturally? Do you drink? -Asker14 Dear Asker14,

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My rule is, when I go out with my friends, I am not out to pick up. Especially when the friends I am with are not into the pickup/seducer lifestyle. I am out to be with them, and if I see a woman I like, I would do a direct approach, introduce myself, give her my card, and then return to my friends. When I go out to meet girls, I got out like a peacock, so finely dressed I often get people on the street wanting to take pictures of me and with me. The girls test me more viciously. Passing the first couple of tests usually gets me into the group. It is easier in a café or restaurant after hours, except for the “audience” in the cafés. Mostly I have to be careful of the drunken guys that are not getting laid, as they tend to threaten and get vicious if I am alone… Jealousy sucks. I do not drink. I think anybody can get drunk and use it as a crutch. When I hit rock bottom, I wanted to learn to do this without a crutch, or it just meant nothing. Real game is played sober. -Frank, because I have to be 15. Best Pick Up Lines Dear Frank, Just curious. What are your 3 best lines to break the ice? -Asker15

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Dear Asker15, My best pick up lines are: 1-Have you found your soul mate yet? 2-I saw you from over there, and had to meet you. 3-I noticed your (item), what’s the story behind that? My seduction persona is also direct. I have tried indirect approaches, but they seldom worked for me. If you have seen pictures of me in my pickup clothes, my persona is such that if I want someone’s opinion on something, I will tell them what their opinion should be. My persona wouldn’t ask for another’s opinion, as I am only interested in my own thoughts. That being said, the only times that I went indirect with approaches was when I was introduced to a lady through a friend, and rather than come on to strong and scare her off, I would then let the seduction happen more slowly, over the course of a few hours. When I use direct approach, we get the whole pretense of the interaction over with. We both know why I approached. What she wants to see is if I can make her feel special. What I want to know is if she is worth being with me.

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Personalized Symbolic Peacocking Frank Telephone Consultations
This call with Frank B Kermit was once again mind-shattering. I gained more insight into how a woman’s mind works. Here are highlights of the meeting for me. List your symbols and Brainstorm on each symbol: how does each symbol connect to who I am? Derive possible peacocking accessories based on your brainstorming. Your stories should tell her details about who you are and these details should be sprinkled in indirectly. Everything in my life happens for a reason/purpose. If she becomes part of my reality, then that’s for a reason, and she will see it as meant to be. It’s never about looking for similarities based on facts. It’s always about looking for similarities based on emotions & feelings. Your goal as a seducer is to make people feel good. The most important thing is how she treats me. - L. Louis

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It was inspirational, thought provoking, and all those awesome words. Personally, I have studied lots of different seduction "artists", and different styles, FBK's overall beliefs incorporate lots of what's out there into a great seducer cocktail! Lots of ways he describes inner and outer-game tie in with lots of society debate about seduction. From reading his books I can vouch that making use of his concepts have been clearly working for me. Most of the session was spent talking about.... females...he refers to them as having 10 emotional needs, not too get into too much detail, but he stresses how its essential to fill of them. Now there may be 11, or actually 9 needs, but again, having adopted his
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philosophy in how to view women makes sense (to me and I'm sure others). One belief I had had for a long time growing up, is that men are women are equal and should be treated equally. Hence, the "nice guy". But what FBK stresses is that its the mans job to lead the interaction, to have the girl lost in emotions, to have the man responsible for sex. I have run this idea through TONS of girls, even the ones who appear like to dominate, and many are in total agreement. Recently, I went on a date with a girl I've been seeing here and there, I very much "took the lead", and she bluntly told me she found that very attractive... as we were participating in naughty activities. FBK has also come from an extremely low point, and THAT is what I think makes him a great teacher, his ability to relate, of not being a natural, and thus can really get into the mentally of guys who may be clueless to the idea of seduction/women. I vouch for his book, I have NO ties with FBK .I'm just giving a truly honest opinion. -P. T.

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16. Best Way Of Going For The Phone # Dear Frank How do you go about getting the telephone number? How important IS the number? -Asker16 Dear Asker16, In my opinion, the initial DATE or … transition from the conversation to setting up a date is much more important than actually GETTING her number or exchanging numbers. In terms of how to get the number there are two ways: Ask for it directly. Some women will give it, and some will give you a fake one just to avoid getting into further discussion with you on it, or to be polite and not hurt your feelings. Some will not give it out at all if you ask directly, and do not even want you to try again. (What has worked for me) Create a reason to contact each other again that has nothing to do with sex or dating. As long as the reason for the number is not sex, but to explore a similar interest, it is easier. One of the mistakes that are easy to make in direct approaches is to make the woman feel RESPONSIBLE for the sex in the relationship by having her contact you. In this respect you
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need to pursue more. If you framed it that it is YOUR fault that she is contacting you, or that you are contacting her, THEN you have a better shot. The only time a woman will be OK with contacting you is if you display VERY high value before giving her your number, she feels compelled to call you, or risk missing out on the greatest time of her life. To do this: Keep your perceived value in mind, and calibrate to higher or lower your value to make you high value YET attainable to her in her mind. 17. Best Date Places Dear Frank, Where would you take a girl on a first date and what do you do? What do you want to get from a date: a good time, a kiss, or do you want to rush through the game plan as quickly as possible and play a tight game? How do you make the transition from date to your house? How do you get her to relax and be in the mood for more once you are there? -Asker17 Dear Asker17, The places you take a girl for a date must meet one, or both, of the following criteria:
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First, it must be inexpensive and second is that there needs to be a place nearby where you can have sex. Your own place is best, or places NEAR your own place. You are not there to entertain her. NEVER. You are there to get to know her, and to find out what relationship she qualifies to have with you. Is she going to be a one-night-stand, sex-buddy, girlfriend, practice girl, etc…A place to talk is best. Never bring her to a place where her friends are. -Frank, because I have to be 18. No, We Are NOT Going To Have Sex Dear Frank, How do you deal with the famous “No, we’re not going to have sex”, right when you are making out on your couch? -Asker18 Dear Asker18, Firstly, you NEVER agree to it. When a woman says that, it is a test. The emotional needs could vary from protecting her reputation, to fear of abandonment, to fear that she will not be safe if she changes her mind later. My strategy is that I tell her to slow down, and that I would never let anything happen that she would not be comfortable with. This makes her
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feel safe. Otherwise I might say something like, “I would never do anything that would hurt your reputation, and will safe guard it”. See what I mean? Part of my game plan is to tell stories that address her emotional needs WAY BEFORE we get to this stage. If it comes from the fact you are too smooth, then you will be seen as a player. The need behind this is Fear of Abandonment, and the best way to combat this, is to mention through your time together how you should both check out other venues. In other words, if you are planning to see other venues with her in the future, you are unlikely planning to abandon her right after sex. In cases where you are already in a relationship with her and have had sex already, you can agree, and then let it happen “naturally”, but even then, best not to agree to it. -Frank, because I have to be 19. This Is Not A Happy Virgin (publicly posted on www.youtube.com) Dear Frank, Re: Your bulls**t description for your video: "The Adult Male Virgin Seminar Promo" on www.Youtube.com Specifically when you say that: "Being an adult male virgin in modern society sucks”.

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No, it doesn't suck, you s**t-licking dumb***! I'm an adult male virgin and I’m content with my life. I don't require sex to be happy and neither do lots of guys. As for your comment: "Women resent it when they have to take the lead." No they don't. Women don't mind taking the lead as much as being led. -Asker19 Hi Asker19, If you were indeed a happy person like you claim, you would not have written such an offensive email. My seminar is for guys that DO have a problem with it, who seek me out. As for "No they don't. Women don't mind taking the lead." Well, you are obviously a virgin if you truly believe this. The woman next to me reading this states: "If that were true, he would not be a virgin." A person that is as "content" as you claim to be would not have been as offended as you are. I hope you find peace. Maybe you suffer from sexual frustration? Have I struck a cord with you? I have read your profile. You are 26 years old, and would rather listen to TV theme show songs, and watch old TV game shows instead of being with a girl and having sex...I did not come out and attack you for that. YOU SOUGHT ME OUT! Are you sure you are a happy virgin? -Frank, because I have to be

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20. Roommate Turned Lovers Dear Frank, After living together for 6 months, I started a relationship with my roommate. He used to do only open relationships, but since we have been together, he has been totally monogamous. We are in our twenties. We get up, go to work, come home, hang out together, have sex, go to sleep and repeat the cycle. This lasted for 3 months, and then he announced that he wanted to move out to a new place. I told him that I loved him and wanted him to stay, and he said agreed he would stay. He stayed for a year, until finding a new job out of town and we cooled things off. Since then, we have been seeing other people, but we still get together regularly for sex. He writes me almost everyday telling me he thinks of me, and is always happy to see me. I want him to make a commitment to me, and I think it is because of his age that he is just not ready. One of the last things he said to me was that he thinks we made a mistake by cooling things off. I miss him so much, and I wish I could convince him to get back together. I'm not sure if I should either cut off contact with him or just let things drift on like they are doing. If I continue to see him and sleep with him, will that make him realize that we should be together? -Asker20

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Hi Asker20, I do not think his age is the issue at all. I think he is perfectly happy with the open relationship set up...he also sounds a LOT like a little boy, seeking a mother more than a lover. I do think he has some feelings for you, but not enough to stay committed. I really feel that if this were meant to work, he would not have taken that promotion. Just because it is regular sex, does not mean that feelings will enter the picture for him. Do I think cooling things off will make him want you more? Yes. Do I think it will be enough to save this relationship? No. Men only want what they think they cannot have. What that means is, he might only want you back until he actually gets you, and then the cycle repeats itself. As long as he was living with you, you were able to dominate him, and he was fine with that. Once he moved out, he just went back to his old ways of dating other people. He will most likely end up abandoning you in the future. I think that you should focus on building something legit with someone else. He might end up wanting you...but that is only because someone else may get you, not because he is ready to make a commitment. -Frank, because I have to be

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I must say that to me, what I found most helpful was that Frank B Kermit remembers when he was a Loser. There's much more sympathy in him than what I see out of other gurus out there who have long since become naturals, and unable to understand why people simply can't "be like them." To me, Kermit can be summed up in one sentence: He respects you, and demands the same respect. Be it women, men, people beneath him, people above him, doesn't matter. He treats everybody with the same respect and dignity you wish you would receive from others. That is remarkably more charismatic, and what a remarkable way to conduct Game. To be a man; not a bully. You have definitely earned my respect. I look forward to hearing more from you. -Raymond H.

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No woman should ever find herself saying "there are no good men out there". But I hear it all the time. It's a grim reminder of what a sad state our culture is in. Of how movies, books and love songs have shown men the worst examples of how to behave with women. I want it to stop. That's where Frank B. Kermit comes in. He's not only saying we need to rethink what it means to be a man, but what it means to be a Seducer. We've let it become a dirty word. But ask yourself this: what woman doesn't want to be seduced? I'm not talking about a quick pick up from a sharp dressed smooth talker. There's a time and place for that, too, but this is about more. Much more. I'm talking about YOU becoming the kind of man who's capable of building and holding the deepest levels of attraction, rapport and passion she's ever experienced. A man who knows who he is and what he wants. A man
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who knows how to address her emotional needs. A man who knows how to lead. If you do that, she'll happily give you the best she has to offer. Not just for one night. For as long as you want. Sounds great, right? All you have to do is read the book and *PRESTO* you're fixed. Let me be really clear about this. There aren't any short cuts. Frank's stuff will confront and challenge your core values. Dude's gonna shake your foundations. But he's going to make you work for it. Change is not easy. But this book WILL put you on a clear path of self-discovery, transition, and growth. In my opinion, Frank's structured it to get you there as efficiently as possible. And he does it with straight, simple language. Now that I know I'm A Man, That's My Job, the world is opening up for me. The quality of all my relationships has improved dramatically. And the women in my life appreciate it more than I could ever have imagined. -Dragonkid T.O. PUA

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21. I Changed, Now My Old Friends Hate Me Dear Frank, Since learning to game women, and actually starting to have a real love life, my biggest problem is with some of my friends not accepting the change in me. I know you usually advise to drop them, but they are in my social circles, and I see them regularly at social gatherings. Any advice on how you deal with this? -Asker21

Dear Asker21, If dropping them is not yet an option, then you must understand that what they do not like is that you make them question their own identities, and because of this, you are a threat to them. When people change, others around them start to feel they need to question their own identities. You may be a symbol to them that they should change too. They see you differently now and need to get to know you all over again. Sometimes they are simply jealous because they are not able to change. In cases like this, there is little you can do about how they feel. The MOST you can do is just be the guy that makes people feel accepted for whatever level they are at. It is about maintaining the RESPECT, not about being
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liked. As for being a threat to them, you have to learn to make people feel good about themselves no matter what level they are at. Do not talk about seducing. Do not talk about women. Do not give them any advice, and always make them all feel that you will protect their reputations no matter what. I do not know what you are doing to them, BUT if your new found confidence includes making fun of them, and putting them down to make yourself feel good, then you are at fault. When I go out with my “normal” friends, I go to be with them, not to pick up. However, under no circumstance do I ever make someone feel bad, unless I am being attacked first. In the meanwhile, if you cannot drop these people, start looking to form new social groups where you can attend those gatherings without worrying about these so-called “friends”. -Frank, because I have to be

22. When Can I Finally Drop My Guard Dear Frank, When is the right time to actually drop your guard and let that person into your life? At the beginning of a relationship you have to be on the top of your game, but once you get into a long term relationship, at what point can your
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drop your guard, and still be seen by her as a man? -Asker22 Dear Asker22, I do not think there is ever a time to drop your guard. What I do believe is that if you know what you want out of life and your lifestyle, and you find someone that has similar goals (i.e. you both want to raise your kids the same way) THEN you actually have a shot of making it work. You will always have to lead the relationship, and leaders never get to drop their guard…they only get a day off now and then. -Frank, because I have to be

23. Are There Any Real NICE Guys Out There, Or Just Jerks? Dear Frank, Are there any nice guys out there left for a woman to date? I am tired of being hurt by every guy I go out with. It is always the same. Just once I would like to be with a good, honest, caring nice guy. Is that so much to ask for? -Asker23

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Dear Asker23, Sounds like you have been hurt enough. I would say it comes down to two things: 1. Unrealistic expectations I counsel men who are in the same pain you express, and the biggest reason is the unrealistic expectations that the next person they meet is going to be "perfect". People are human. Men and women are human. You cannot expect perfection. We all screw up, some more than others. When going into any relationship, there are some basic expectations such as, “I am not going to violate you, and I expect you not to violate me”. Then there are extra expectations such as: It is your job to make me happy, and NEVER let me down. This is just not realistic. Even your closets friends and family will hurt you at some point. That is part of what relationships are all about. 2. Choosing the right people. People tend to lead with their hearts, and sometimes how a person makes you feel is more important than how a person treats you. That is the case with many women that have been abused. Part of stopping yourself from getting hurt by every guy you date, is to CHOOSE men that treat you well even if they
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don't give you the emotion you seek at first. I spend my time teaching men to address ALL of a woman’s emotional needs. That is the part of the relationship that you get to build together, and grow together with, and I have helped create solid marriages on this principle. I am telling you that it is possible to find good guys out there, but you have to be willing to look at guys and date guys that you previously never considered. -Frank, because I have to be

24. How Do I Initiate The Date? Dear Frank I have known this girl who I have been going to college with for 2 years. We are always in the same classes, and graduation is coming up. I sit next to her in my classes, and we can talk about anything. I like her, and I think she likes me. How do I show her that I want to be more than just friends and how do I know if she likes me back? -Asker24 Dear Asker24, First, you NEVER directly ask a girl if she likes you and wants to go out with you, unless you are already 100% that she will say yes. (Which
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is not the case here). I would suggest that you arrange for you both to do something in a different venue. Being in school is difficult. Everyone is watching, and reputations are most important. Start off by getting her to talk about stuff she likes to do, and you do the same. When you come across something that you both like doing, suggest that you both should do it together. For example, if you both like walking through large book stores, then it is only natural you do it together. Keep it in public, inexpensive (never pay for more than a coffee) and make sure there will be a chance for the two of you to be alone enough at some point away from prying eyes to see what happens. -Frank, because I have to be

25. My Friend Is Hooked In A Bad Relationship Dear Frank, My best friend keeps getting sucked back into a bad relationship. She knows that she should not be with him, but she keeps returning to him and she is the one that re-initiates the relationship with him. I simply cannot understand why she is doing this. He is immature, controlling, and mean to her, but she just cannot control herself, and keeps running back to him. I wish she could be out of his life
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forever. She does this all the time. She gets addicted to a guy that’s no good, and the only way she can escape him is to move to a new location. And after she does, she just latches on to a new guy. But now, she is in therapy over it. Any advice? -Asker25 Dear Asker25, It sounds like your friend is addicted to the drama of this relationship. She has to get closure on the future she built up with him in her head. I wrote a book on women's emotional needs called Everything Out of Her Mouth is A Test A Man’s Guide to the Emotional Needs of Women. I think she should read it to help her understand her own actions, and why he affects her so much. Based on my work, I feel that his actions address her emotional needs, but in a bad way. That explains why INTELLECTUALLY she does not want to be with him, but EMOTIONALLY she keeps going back. I have a whole chapter on why women date jerks, and it is my conviction that he addresses her emotional needs indirectly. -Frank because I have to be

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Frank, it touched me very much too see that your ex-fiancé gave you feedback on this book. I remember being with you after that weekend of "redemption" and then losing her again. I remember being there for you. You see when I was dating you at the time, who I loved very much, I felt that you did not return the same kind of love I felt for you the way she did not return the love you had for her. I had a really hard time after we broke up because I truly loved you..I felt that I would never meet someone like you again. Frank, this book helped me get closure with you. Thank you. -Frank's Ex (#4 of 5 of his harem)

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I was genuinely intrigued when I opened Frank B. Kermit's book "From Loser to Seducer." You see, this was a take I hadn't seen in the PUA materials thus far - a blow-byblow (no pun intended) recounting of a change in mindset. As an advisor in this field, I find myself almost distancing myself from the awkward memories of what I once was to what I am now with women. Frank's courageous take on this gives an enlightening and original approach to understanding the trans-formative mindset. I especially like the way he marked time with a powerful metaphor of starting his age from the day he
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was 'reborn' into a new mindset and manner with women, choosing to reset the counter to zero and begin again. Frank succeeds in giving a very personal and intense recounting of his life experience and psychological state during perhaps the most painful parts of a man's life - at the moment of breaking away from the boy-man we can no longer be, and taking the leap of faith that I teach to men - to move on to the next level of life - to a powerful man's Alpha Manhood. Frank mixes in his "Frank" wisdom and insights along the path and gives the reader a genuine understanding of the pain ... and the pleasure of selfactualization.
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26. She Just Broke Off Their Engagement Dear Frank, I am 30 and my fiancé (29) of three years just ended our relationship. I am destroyed. We were totally in love. Then two weeks ago she went away with some of her girlfriends for a girl’s retreat. When she came back, she was really cold towards me. Now she does not want to get married anymore. I do not understand how she can go from talking about planning out life together, and then wanting to drop everything. She admitted that she is going to miss me, and might be making the biggest mistake of her life, but she still left. She even asked if we could stay friends. I tried contacting her since then, but now she is ignoring me altogether. Please help me; I want to marry her. -Asker26 Dear Asker26, Whoa, my heart goes out to you. My guess is that something happened on that trip with the girls. Perhaps she cheated on you, and rather than tell you, she just figured that she messed up, and would walk away. Assuming she was not very sexually experienced, maybe she wants to do some exploring before she settles down. If not that, then I am sure that something her friends did or said to her caused this.

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Are any of them divorced, or separated or in less than stellar relationships? If so, you can be sure they were out to make your fiancé as miserable as they are. Are any of the women there your ex lovers? Do any of them have a crush on you and want you for her? One of the biggest reasons that couples tend to stick to other couples is that single friends (especially women) tend to encourage single-girl behavior out of their coupled friends. I would assume that you are feeling abandoned right now. Mostly because she left, and there was nothing you could do to encourage her to stay. That sense of loss, and lack of control can be devastating to anyone man or woman. I would suggest that if you have any vacation time, take the time off, and go some place, and just re-group. You are not in control of what happens to you, but you are in control of how you handle the situation. Part of the process of closure is to get closure on the life you two built together in your mind. Without knowing WHY she abandoned you, you are not in a position to know either HOW to get her back, or IF you would even want her back. Bottom line is that she violated your trust. Even if you did get her back, you would probably never be able to feel you could trust her again. She would not have been a good mother to your children as her level of maturity is very low. -Frank, because I have to be
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27. My Ex, My Sex Buddy Dear Frank, I broke up with my girlfriend about three weeks ago. We were dating for 11 months on and off, and we really did have a connection. We just started good, neglected each other, broke up, got back, started good, and repeated the situation. We are still close, and we have been still sleeping with each other. We are the best of friends, and we really know what each other like sexually. I figured we would do the sexbuddy thing until I was ready to find someone else, but I want to try a relationship with her again. I think if I tell her that I want her back again, that either she will want to break it off completely, or she will be happy and want to be back with me too. How long should I wait before I bring it up? -Asker27 Dear Asker27, My advice is to say nothing. This is not something that you can logically bring up. At this point, either break it off completely, or just continue being sex-buddies and SEE OTHER PEOPLE. If you have not made it work with her before, it is not going to change now. One of the hardest things in being a sexbuddy is that emotions do come into play, within the physical stuff for some people. Do
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not let your emotions tied with sexual pleasures get mistaken for feelings of genuine love. You are a man, and you cannot afford that. I would suggest to continue with the sex, AND to start hanging out with new people. Do not see her more than once a week. Do you really want HER, or do you just want to be able to say you got her back for the drama. There is a difference. -Frank B Kermit 28. Am I A Lesbian? Dear Frank, I am confused! I have only dated men in my life, and I know that I am straight. Last year I dated a guy and he really wanted to have threesomes with another girl. I did not like him that much, and figured since I was not so attached to him I could handle it. So, we found a girl, and started to have threesomes together. At first I really didn’t do anything with the other girl. Over time, her and I started to “play” I guess you’d call it. I only dated him for 4 months, and have never been with a girl since. Last month, I was on holiday and I met a girl and I really started to feel attracted to her, as if I was attracted to a guy. We talked for a bit, and although nothing happened, I can’t help but think about her all the time. We are no
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longer in touch. Am I a lesbian even if I still am attracted to men? Is there something wrong with me? -Asker28 Dear Asker28, There is nothing wrong with you. You are a normal healthy woman and you are experimenting with the boundaries of your sexuality. You might very well be straight, and just experienced attraction for another woman. Sexual thoughts, fantasies, and exploration between women are a lot more common than most women think. I do not think you should be sharing this with too many people, as depending how close minded they are, could hurt your reputation. This type of boundary probing is perfectly normal for women. In time you might come to the conclusion that you are straight but can appreciate other women, or you may discover that you have emotional love with one gender, and only physical love with the other, or you might be bisexual, or even a lesbian...just slow down, and ease up on yourself. You are definitely normal. -Frank, because I have to be

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29. Almost 40, I want a baby, but He does not Dear Frank, My boyfriend (38) and I (39) have reached a wall. Things are good in the relationship except when I bring up the issues of marriage and having children. We have lived together for 12 years. When I bring up marriage, he freaks out, as he does not believe in the “piece of paper”. When I bring up having children he keeps telling me that he would love a family some day with up to 3 kids, but he is not ready yet, and when he is, he will let me know. Right now, I want to have a baby and start a family, but it's seems almost impossible because of my age. I told him he should move out, but he insists that he loves me. I think about leaving but I have already invested so much in this relationship and I do not think I could meet someone new in the next few years to start a family with. What do I do? -Asker29 Dear Asker29, Ouch. Look, I think you are wasting your time. Really. You really want children, and to get married, but he is not interested? Then why are you sticking around? First he may be telling the truth that he wants to have a family ONE day, but read between the lines…he knows your age, he knows your biological clock, so he is
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telling you that he wants kids, BUT NOT WITH YOU. You still have time (but it is running out) to find someone else that wants the same thing as you. I think it is sad that you stayed in a relationship for so long. If you really want kids and marriage, get rid of him and make room for someone in your life who wants the same things as you do. The Clock is ticking...you are wasting time. Your boyfriend is a jerk. He knew that he was not into you enough to marry you, but he was not man enough to let you go earlier. -Frank, because I have to be 30. Oops, She Dated His Friend! Dear Frank, I dated a guy for a few months, and he was really nice to be, and never gave me a reason to lash out at him…but I did anyways because I am just not used to being with a nice guy I guess. Eventually I totally dumped him and really hurt him. Now, I regret losing him so much. I can believe that I finally found a guy that treats me like a princess, and I went out of my way and ruined it. I tried to get him back, but he is so distant with me, and it hurts. I am so lonely without him. I have made a terrible mistake. While I am trying to get him to talk to me again, I have started to see one of his friends, but that is just sex, and it’s nothing
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serious. I know that he also has another girl as a sex-buddy, but I know they are not serious either. I want him back more than anything. I even call him on the phone from his friend’s house (the one I am seeing), and it’s like he won’t even take my call now. Is there any way I can make it up to him for the why I treated him? -Asker30 Dear Asker30, If you are really serious about mending things with him, then dating his friend (even if it is nothing serious) is not going to help prove your sincerity, given how badly you wrecked it for yourself. Drop the drama you are creating. You need it too much. Things were going too good, you had to create the drama. Instead, you needed to find ways for the two of you to experience different drama TOGETHER. That is why I think you did what you did. Stop dating his friends. I believe that you do care for him, but I think that you may be emotionally incapable of being with a guy that actually shows caring for you. Forget words…you need to prove it to him with actions. STOP seeing other people, and prove your loyalty to him once and for all, for as long as it takes. -Frank, because I have to be

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Telephone Consultations Thanks to Frank B Kermit my place is no longer your generic ugly tasteless apartment. The ideas and most importantly the theme that Frank B Kermit gets you to think in is truly transformational. I can see now what I was doing wrong when it comes to lifestyle in your space of living and why whatever I was doing was incongruent when it comes to conveying my persona to others. With the help of Frank B Kermit I was able to design my apartment in such a way that embodies my character in the world and when you invite people to your apartment it will easily reflect who you are without even uttering a word.

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And the most important, you'll automatically be able to understand yourself better through working with Frank B Kermit, naturally you'll be able to express yourself to others in a way that will get you the result you want from them easily. And when you blend into that the ability to Feel Good going through the process, and wrap all of that with a real sense of excitement because the faster you transform your living space the more successful you find the best "You" coming out to the surface, isn't that exciting?? To wrap up, working with Frank B Kermit will either change your lifestyle instantly or cause you to become your "best attractive self" automatically, and that's something you would like to experience wouldn't you? Thank you Kermit!! –E. Bling

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31. He Is Trying To Manipulate Her Dear Frank, I was a friend with a guy for months before we started dating. We finally starting going out as a couple, but I had to make the first move. Here’s the problem: When I initiate kissing or cuddling, he will not respond, and it is making me feel rejected. This isn’t the case of him not being in the mood; this is every time I want to get close he rejects me, and then a few minutes later he wants to be sexual. Then, whenever we go outside, he has started to talk about how cute all the other girls are. I think he is acting this way because he wants me to feel insecure around him. His last girlfriend burned him really bad, and I think he is just doing this to lower my self-esteem. He never acted this way when we were just friends. I am really confused. Is it better that he is honest with me about looking at other girls, or is it better that he should do it without me knowing? -Asker31 Dear Asker31, The guy sounds like a moron, and I believe that your interpretations of him trying to intimate you are right on correct. He does not realize how much throwing it in your face is working against making you feel unique to him. It is not that he is looking. We are men...we all look. BUT that does not mean to throw it in the
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faces of the women we care about. I am a seducer, and I would NEVER do that. As for he rejecting you sexually, this is a tactic designed to make him feel like the aggressor, and to keep you feeling needy towards him. It is good as a drama tool, but him doing it all the time is going to harm you emotionally. -Frank, because I have to be

32. The Best Kind Of Lover Is…Enthusiastic Dear Frank, I am in a relationship, and I want to make our sex life more fun. I am not into BDSM or stuff like that, but I want to know what you would suggest to make it more enjoyable. We are both somewhat inexperienced. -Asker32 Dear Asker32, I've had them all... want to know what is the real secret to being a great lover? It has nothing to do with technique, or size, or anything...it is all about ENTHUSIASM. As long as you are ENTHUSIASTIC about sex, you can be great. Don’t let inexperience stop either of you. Enthusiasm rules all. Behavior rewarded is behavior repeated. Keep it Interesting The Rule of Be the First: This means to be the first guy that she experiences certain things
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with. Find out specific stuff about her... not just sexually, but find out stuff that she has always wanted to do, but never done before. It could be having a guy using a vibrator in her (or various food items)... it could be an afternoon picnic with honey-wine in the park with a quickie in the bushes, it could be driving next to big trucks where she flashes to truck drivers. Make it memorable. Go to extremes. Either do long drawn out foreplay or a super fast quickie. During foreplay use massage, music, oils, and visualizations. To help, watch a sensual how-to massage video together and do what they do on the screen. Make her cum by focusing on her orgasm, not your own. Spend as much time doing what you need to do to make her cum first. By that time, you will have less pressure on you to perform. -Frank, because I have to be

33. His Insecurities Drives Women Away Dear Frank, My insecurities are killing every relationship I get into. My wife left me for another man, and since then I think I act needy with every new woman I date. I am on anti-depressants and have no confidence. I am coming across way too intense when I am on a date with women and it drives them away. One girl I really liked said that she really felt an initial connect with me, but that I was just too intense too soon, and that she is scared to date me again. When
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I date other girls, I am so hopeful that it will work out with them that I am constantly calling them on the phone, or waiting without patience for their next email. I am 34 but acting 14 and I hate this. Any suggestions? -Asker32 Dear Asker32, Been there, and got over it. You are assuming that each of these women will be the answer to your prayers. That is putting way to much pressure on them and you. Also, you give too much attention too soon, and the girls feel it is not earned. In a woman’s mind, attention given too easily will just as easily be taken away. And she is right. Your life needs to be full, in such a way that you want to share your life with a woman, but not make her your life. I changed my focus, and so can you. -Frank, because I have to be

34. 10 Emotional Needs of Women Dear Frank, Can you please send me the list of your ten emotional needs of women? Thanks. -Asker34

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Dear Asker34, Here you go, As featured in my book Everything Out of Her Mouth is a Test: A Mans Guide to the Emotional Needs of Women The 10 Emotional Needs of a Woman 1-The protection of her most valuable asset: Her Reputation 2-Women want to FEEL a range of emotions. Do not try to make her happy, give her a full range from fury to ecstasy. This is a.k.a. her Drama Cookie 3-Cater to the little girl in her. Know the difference between when to ignore her ramblings and when she needs you to give her a hug. Sometimes she just needs to be reassured like a little kid 4-Be dominant and take responsibility for leading the relationship. This includes making all the decisions, and taking 100% responsibility for the sex in the relationship. It all has to be the man’s “fault” 5-She fears abandonment. This is part biological programming, as in the event she is left with a child, she needs to be sure that she will not be abandoned and left alone to care for it. This covers her emotional need to feel secure. 6-Trust. The key here is if she can trust you to be honest with her; even if you know she will not like what you have to say. In a woman’s reality, she is used to people lying to her ALL THE TIME because of the way she looks, or they simply want something from her. If you

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are willing to piss her off with your honesty, you have demonstrated that she can trust you. 7-Her physical safety. A man must demonstrate that he is capable of protecting her physically from the threats of the outside world. This is to make her feel safe. 8-Women need to know you can handle her TRUE sexuality. She will only be as wanton with you as you demonstrate that you can handle it. She needs to explore her sexuality and let it be free with you as a natural woman 9-Prove that you have high quality sperm. The best way is by showing that other girls want to have sex (procreate) with you, and/or you are a “good catch” and the kids with you will have will also be a “good catch” enough to also attract a mate. 10-Prove that you are not a homosexual. She knows every homosexual male friend she has that is not out of the closet yet. Could you be one too? -Frank, because I have to be

35. He Only Wants To Orgasm In My Mouth Dear Frank, Why do some men want to orgasm in my mouth? I can understand a guy wanting to orgasm inside me, and even on my chest, but I just do not get the appeal of it exploding in my mouth, and then begging me to swallow it.

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Isn’t a blowjob enough without going off on my tongue and then having to ingest it? -Asker35 Dear Asker35, For some guys it is just a question of sexual variety. He wants to try different things. He gets a thrill out of being able to witness his sexuality (something he can not see when it is inside of you) on your face, mouth, hands, etc. It is giving him his need for variety. When this becomes dull, he will get you to move on to other things. For other men, he might be trying to avoid getting you pregnant, but still keeps the feeling that he is “inside” you. Finally comes the male emotional need of “penis identity”. Some guys identify with their penis so much, that it is a test to see how much you accept of him and his sexuality, or how much you reject it. There is truth to the saying that the difference between like and love, is spit or swallow. I have often found that women that hate swallowing of one man will swallow another man they are in love with. Guys who have been with many women know this. -Frank, because I have to be

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I am reading Frank's book Everything Out of Her Mouth is a Test. I find myself nodding my head in agreement quite often with this one. I even did a small segment on it in my podcast show recently in helping one of my listeners with a female management problem.
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36. Wife Sleeps in Separate Room Dear Frank, About a year ago, my wife of 5-years, stopping wanting sex with me. She has now started to sleep in a separate bedroom. I do not snore, and I have never been vile to her. What is going on? -Asker36 Dear Asker36, Well, either she has some physical problem (inability to get wet) or something of that nature (or past sexual abuse that she never told you about), or maybe she recently found out she prefers women. Either way something is going on. The fact she is not sleeping with you...RED FLAG. Now is she sleeping away from you? Check with a lawyer just in case, and know your rights in the event of a divorce. This is not normal. Something big is coming, and you need to be ready. I do not think it is something as simple as her having an affair here and not wanting to be with you. -Frank, because I have to be 37. When Is Enough, Enough? Dear Frank,

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I was in a relationship with my girlfriend for three years. We took it slow and only started to have sex one year into it. 6 months ago, she went out with two girlfriends who both just broke up with their boyfriends. They went to a club to pick up guys for one-night-stands and asked my girlfriend along to be their driver. While she was there, they got her drunk, and she ended up going home with some guy. She told me the next day, and I was heartbroken. She keeps telling me that I am the one she wants, and that she so regrets that it happened, and that she still loves me. I could not get over it, so we broke up. After we broke up she started to date that other guy and they lasted about a month. They stopped seeing each other, and she came back to me and begged me to take her back. Apparently he treated her like garbage, and it made her realize that she would do anything to win me back. I held off, and I even sent some of my guy friends to test her, but she has given up on dating with anybody until I took her back. Two months ago, I took her back to try again, because after all of this, I still love her, but I can’t shake what happened. I can’t put it behind me, and just forget it. I am still so hurt by this, and I find myself treating her like garbage, calling her names, getting angry with her for small things. I keep trying to see if she will leave again, but until now she hasn’t. I feel dead on the inside when we are together, but at the same time, I never stopped loving her. I wish that things were like they were before. I feel like I try to go back to the way I was, I am scared she will cheat again. I have REALLY
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tried to get past this, but the pain is always there. Should I continue to try to work this out with her? -Asker37 Dear Asker37, What the HELL are you doing? If you really want to give it another go, then give her the opportunity to EARN your trust. This does not mean to treat her badly; it means to give her little tests. However, once the seal has been broken, usually it cannot be fixed. I suggest that you start to date other people, and only ever get exclusive with her again IF she EARNS your trust. I know you miss the way things were, but this is life, and in life, NOTHING stays the same. Best get used to that aspect. Given that she cheated on you.... at least those times you are now aware of, my guess is that it was not in reality what you figured it was in your mind. -Frank, because I have to be 38. Am I Going To Far As Her Father? Dear Frank, Am I a "way too over-involved" father of my 16-year-old daughter? She has been dating the same two boys for the past 3 years at the same time. Now using the Internet she goes to places like My Space, and puts up all of her
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private information including her class schedules and private details about her life, and pictures of our family. I do not think this is safe, and I am regularly monitoring her. Her relationships with her friends and boys tend to have way too much drama, even for a teenage girl. Am I wrong to be this involved? -Asker38 Dear Asker38, She is 16. She is a minor. She is putting private information on a public forum. You have every right to snoop to do what you must to keep her safe. If what you say is true about her behavior in relationships, then obviously she has not demonstrated good judgment. When she is an adult that is a different story. Do not keep her ignorant of the truth; just protect her from the violence. -Frank, because I have to be 39. Should He Leave Wife For Another Man? Dear Frank, I am a married man and I’m having an affair with another man. I have always suspected that I was bisexual, but I never dared try it until I got comfortable with my lover. We started out as just friends, and it just happened. I don’t know what to do now. Our relationship has been going on for 3 years, and with the new
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laws now allowing gay marriage, there is a chance of being with my boyfriend full time. Should I leave my wife? I have been married for 15 years and we have two children. I just do not feel the same way about her anymore. I know my life would be easier if I stayed, but my boyfriend makes me happy. When I go away on “business trips” with him I just do not want to come home. My boyfriend is single but he does have a child of his own. -Asker39 Dear Asker39, I doubt that leaving your wife is the answer. Although I am not sure that telling her about the affair is necessary, I do think you need to communicate with your wife and see if she understands your feelings. See if she is willing to go into counseling with you. 15 years is tough for any couple to keep the fire alive. You are feeling fulfilled with your lover right now, but part of that magic is the fact that it comes with drama, secrecy, and is part time. Chances are if you do get into a relationship there, you will fall into a similar routine. Your wife is not addressing your needs, but you are partly to blame if you have not tried to work things out with her. Temptation is fun, but reality is not. You have children to think about, you are the adult, and you have a responsibility to think about all the children you could be hurting with this, including his. -Frank, because I have to be

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40. We Don’t Have Sex Anymore Dear Frank, I am married to a much older man. We have been together for about 4 years. We do not have sex anymore. He never had this problem with his ex-wife, and he used to cheat on her all the time. Now, we hardly touch anymore, unless he is loaded with liquor and in a stupor. And he only drinks like that every couple of months. This is not enough for me. I do not feel beautiful anymore, and it this keeps going, I may start looking for a “stud-service” if you know what I mean. I would never leave him, and I am not expecting him to be superman, but I need affection. -Asker40 Dear Asker40, I have heard this before, but that is no indication of unfaithfulness. He may be struggling with homosexuality, and they only way to totally unwind is to drink himself into a stupor. If it is not that, then his diminished libido could simply be his age and ill health. Some men as they get older have a harder time getting it up, so they drink to completely eliminate any performance anxiety. If the issue is just a loss of interest in sex, maybe the monogamy is what is killing him, and then I would suggest going out to a Swingers club, and the two of you can be voyeurs without participating. The sexual energy in the air might give him a boost that he will associate with you, without you having to seek out sex from other men. -Frank, because I have to be
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The session was outstanding. I can't articulate my sense of gratitude. I've always been a social storyteller, but not one who was effective at seducing women through that method, and often when I am attempting I have a lot of issues as opposed to a group of friends, or in front of a large group where the context is less personal. Frank's exercises not only gave me an eye-opening structure to telling a story more effective and
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specifically for seduction, but identified key issues within my own 'social' way of storytelling. It's as if a great mystery was revealed to me about a million issues I have with my game, things I can now address and solve. Just recently I attempted my first 'new' story, one that I went home and wrote down as a start, and I noticed some strengths and weaknesses just with random girls at school, mainly in my delivery. Now that I can identify key strengths and weaknesses, though, I can really tailor my own material, build on it, and just totally steeped my overall learning curve. I hope to make this a fundamental aspect to my game. So overall, and invaluable experience. - S.A.

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41. But She Has A Boyfriend Dear Frank, I really like this girl, but she has a boyfriend. I know that she is attracted to me (she told me so) but she does not want to break up with him. I am torn. I believe that if I make a move I will get her, but I am struggling with this because I would not want some guy to do this to me. Fact is, I know her boyfriend, and he is a nice guy. I do not want to hurt him, but I am nuts about her. I feel like maybe I should wait to see how long they last on their own before I step in, but all I can think about is trying to kiss her once, just to see what happens next. I have to make a decision to either go for it, or forget about it, because I cannot stand staying like this. Any Frank Advice? -Asker41 Hi Asker41, You have to decide what is more important to you. Going for what you want OR not breaking up a relationship. That is it. Nothing more. It does not matter what her feelings for you are. You are the one that has to live with the consequences of this decision. Part of being a mature man is to know who you are, and what your beliefs are. You come across like a boy that needs other people’s permission to take action for your own life. That is not attractive to women at all. You may choose your actions,
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but not the consequences of those actions. What is more important to you? This is not a question anyone can answer for you except yourself. -Frank, because I have to be 42. New Boyfriend Forced Her To End Her Friendship With Her Ex Dear Frank, I was dating a girl for a while, and we were really close. I recently had to move with the rest of my family, and she stayed behind. We had a long distance relationship for a while, but I felt this was unfair to her, so I told her that we should be allowed to date other people and cool things with us for now. Within a week of that she had already found a guy that knew she has a long distance boyfriend, and he is already sleeping in her bed. I am heartbroken and devastated that she would have another man in her bed SO FAST. I take a long time to get over a relationship, and she just got into one so quickly. Now her new boyfriend wants her to stop contacting me as he thinks I am a threat to them. I told her that I was with her first, and that I should still get to be her friend. She decided that she should side with him on this. What did I do wrong? I now have lost her as a friend too. -Asker44

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Dear Asker44, First, what did you think was going to happen? You told her to see other people. Women are on the receiving end of approaches. Thus, of course she was going to have more opportunity. Her being with someone else so quickly is not a sign of her affection or lack of affections for you. It is the nature of the beast. If is OK to take your time getting over her, but that does NOT mean not seeing other people. Get out there, start approaching new people and date. Her new boyfriend is right. You still have feelings for her, and you are a threat to the relationship he is building with her. Get out there and date again. You are allowed to be in pain while doing it, but just do it. -Frank, because I have to be 43. He Gave Her An STD, But Still Expects Friendship Dear Frank, I gave my last girlfriend an STD. I did not mean too, but I sort of cheated on her a couple of times, and the girls I was with said they were clean and on the pill so I didn’t use protection. I know it was stupid, but s**t happens. I said that I was sorry, and the fact is I got the STD too. Now she is freaking out bad on me. I expected her to be mad for a while, but it has been 4 weeks now, and she still doesn’t even want to talk to me. I think she is over reacting,
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and I have told her as much. At least I would like to stay friends with her. Just because we were not good as a couple, does not mean we can’t be friends. When you respond, I am going to show your answer to her so she knows this sort of thing happens, and that we can still be friends. -Asker43 Dear Asker43, First, you might want to try taking responsibility for what you did. You gave her the STD, and did so through cheating on her. That being said, you also do not mention what type of STD it is. Is it something treatable and temporary, or life threatening? Assuming you gave her something permanent that she will have to live with for the rest of her life, and assuming it happened because you cheated on her, as opposed to you already had it and did not know until it was too late, then dude, you should be taking your lumps here. If you really want to prove your loyalty to her, then pledge your monogamy to her. If your post is any indication of the way you take responsibility for the pain you inflict on others (yes, giving someone an STD is such a form of pain and violation) then she has every right to blow up at you. I would suggest talking to all your former lovers, and get them tested. At least you can know which one may have given it to you. That would be your first move, and taking that action might indicate to her your sincerity. I
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was brought up to believe that birth control and everything related to sexual protection is MY responsibility as a man. It is up to me, and not my lovers. It is an unspoken rule in many cultures. You flunked as a man in this one. -Frank, because I have to be 44. Should She Divorce Him? Dear Frank, I stopped being in love with my husband years ago. I am a good wife, and take care of my family (I have 3 kids), but I am not even affectionate with my husband anymore. We have not touched in years. Over the years I have been having an affair with a married man who I adore with all my heart. He is my true soul mate. I hope that he one day leaves his wife, but I doubt that will ever happen. My husband knows the end if coming, and he keeps telling me he loves me, and that he wants to work on our marriage, but he is lazy, and refuses to do a thing towards reconciliation. When I talk about separation, he jumps up, and says he is going to make an appointment to see a marriage counselor with me, but then gets too busy to follow up. It is already over in my mind, and I am just staying for the kids’ sake, but I am so unhappy. What would you do? -Asker44

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Dear Asker44, Well, you do not mention any physical abuse so that is good. Are you financially secure enough if you got a divorce? That should be your first question. Asking a lawyer for a price quote for divorce proceedings would be the next step. Then, I would suggest that you forget about hooking up with your sideman affair. He is not interested in being with you full time. What makes your relationship special is that it is part time. If it ever became full time, he would likely cheat on you too. If you leave, leave for your own reasons. In this case, I would suggest an ultimatum, since he claims to want to work things out, but is lazy about it. I would tell him he has 3 months to make significant actions towards reconciliation of the marriage, or you will file for divorce. It worked for only one couple I know. They are not happy, but they are still working on it, and her trip to the lawyer sparked some active change on his part. -Frank, because I have to be

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45. She Cheated On Her Male Lover…With His Wife Dear Frank, I was seeing a married man for about 3 years. I always knew his wife, though we were not good friends or anything like that. She knew about the affair, and although we did have very civil discussions about how she was not happy about it, I continued to see him. At one point, my lover and his wife separated. During that time, while I was still seeing him, and they were occasionally sleeping together, her and I started to become friends. One day while he was away on a business trip, her and I ended up have sex together. I found myself cheating on my cheating lover, with his wife. She and I were only together once, and when I wanted to see her again, she totally blew me off. I have never told him. I do not think she has either. I could never have imaged something like this happening. When he came back from his trip, we continued to see each other for a time. Finally, he and his wife filed for divorce, and since then I simply do not find him attractive anymore, but he still wants to see me, and get more serious. What is happening with me? I cannot talk to anyone I know about this. This is too crazy for them to understand. Even I am bewildered. -Asker45

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Dear Asker45, Believe it or not, this sort of story is so much more common than any person would ever believe. This is the third time I have heard exactly this situation. First, the reason, or part thereof, you are no longer attracted to him is that he is now AVAILABLE. My guess is that you stayed with him for so long because his wife still wanted him (thus indicating he is a desirable male), and because you could not have him fully (giving you a sense of drama in your life, without having to commit yourself to a full time relationship). Now that his wife has booted him, and he wants to be with you full time, you are finding him slightly needy and not desired by other women. Secondly, his wife did not sleep with you because she was “into” you. She did it as a means of getting control over the situation. She wanted to “get you”, just to convince herself that she was just as good, if not better than her husband. Her being able to “nail” you (use you) was the confidence booster she needed to dump his ass. The real issue here that I think you need to focus on is your reluctance to be with men that are actually emotionally available. If you keep this up, you will end up alone, and lonely. -Frank, because I have to be

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Personalized Symbolic Peacocking Frank Telephone Consultations Here's the important part of what I got out of it. First and foremost, you have to choose symbols that have real meaning in your life. Don't just choose things that are hard to explain, or uninteresting. The first concept is the idea that if you and the woman are wearing the same type of jewelry, it gives you a reason to comment. For example if you have a necklace and she has a necklace,
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there's nothing out of place about the two of you having a conversation about how and where you each got your necklaces and what they mean to you. This is where the symbols come in. In my case, I chose the white tiger as one of my symbols, so if I girl asked me why I'm wearing a tiger tooth around my neck, I can tell her about the white tigers in Las Vegas, why I was there, and how I came to appreciate them. But the key here is how the symbol links to a personal story. The necklace has a REASON. It's more than just something that looks cool. Another important point is about how symbols can link to each other. One of the common themes we found in several of my symbols was time and clocks. Because of this, it will help me do context switches from one symbol to another. The idea is also that your symbols should help you tell stories and have conversations, and should point out how they made you feel. If you can trigger the emotion to the symbol, you'll get a very powerful response. - R. Twist

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46. The Fonzie Technique Dear Frank Thanks for your Telephone Consultation last weekend. Worth every cent. Lots of notes. I was wondering if you could email the story of your “Fanzine” technique. I loved listening to you tell it, and I am sorry that I did not write anything down. Can you share it again? Thanks. -Asker46 Dear Asker46, Sure, here it is. During the time I was managing my first full harem, I finally lived out a dream that I had since I was a child. I did a “Fonzie” technique to one of my girls, and it was f-n sweet!! The technique is as follows: From the Happy Days TV show: On the phone, girl says to Fonzie, "What makes you think you are so cool?" Fonzie responds, "What makes ME think I am so cool?” He pauses, and then hangs up. Waits 10 seconds. Phone rings, Fonzie picks it up and without missing a beat says, "That is why I think I am so cool.." then proceeds to talk to said girl. Well, I had been waiting 10 years to experience that one. One night, I was talking to
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# 3 of the harem. I had sent her away days before for her bad behavior stemming from her not being able to deal with me seeing other girls. In our conversation on the phone, she said something I didn't like. She referred to me as "Mr. Stupid" as in, "I still want to be with you Mr. Stupid". I said, “What?” She said, “What is the matter, you getting too deaf for me Mr. Stupid?” So I said, "Look, if you continue to disrespect me, you will be punished" She says, "Oh please, like what" I say, "You really want to know what I will do to you if you continue to disrespect me?" She says, "Yeah" I say "Ok." Listen closely. Are you listening closely?" She says, "yeah?" I hang up. About 20 seconds later, she calls back, I pick up the phone, and instead of saying hello, I say, "That is what happens when you disrespect me, so you'd better behave darling". She laughed, and made some remark about me bring proud of myself...funny thing though is that she then referred to me as Mr. Gorgeous. Better. -Frank, because I have to be 47. He’s Mad: Girlfriend Threw A Surprise Party For Him Dear Frank, My new girlfriend (just a week) threw a surprise birthday party for me. The problem is that she never met any of my friends or family, and she just took my cell phone without me knowing and called everybody in it (over 60 numbers),
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without even considering who it might be (exfriends, co-workers, and so on). Those people that came made for an uncomfortable time for me as I work really hard to keep my social circles separate. Some of the people there were girls I had only done one-night-stands with, and I even forget I still had their numbers. I know her intentions were in the right place, but how do I bring up the fact that I really wish she had not done this for me? -Asker47 Dear Asker47, Dude, you are being tested big time. Without your permission she called the numbers on your cell phone not knowing who they were? That is unacceptable. What if some of those numbers had been work related, and some potential employer had gotten a call from your chick? Weak. I don't care if she did it under the umbrella of a "nice thought". She crossed the line, and she did it to get control over you, and to inoculate other women that may have been interested in you. Question: How did she get your phone long enough to call 50+ numbers and have the time to talk to them? Do you want this behavior repeated? If not, you had better set some ground rules. She is starting to "take care of you" like a mommy and her “whittle” boy...She had no business throwing you a surprise birthday party. I think this is the perfect
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opportunity for you to make her feel badly that you can't trust her with your privacy and different social worlds. Somewhere, you lost power with her. I don't know if it was from making her your one and only last week, but Oops; she seems to have felt entitled to enter circles that you didn't invite her into. Just wait this is only the beginning. Next she will call up your family to learn more about you. Dude, bite this in the ass right now, or you will end up whipped, and then she will either dump you for giving her your power, or sex-up a guy like me on the side. It didn't occur to her that there might be people in your life off that cell phone list that you don't want mixing (nothing to do with sex, but perhaps personality conflicts, and the like). That should have been the first thing that occurred to her. It was not her place, even if she is your girlfriend. -Frank, because I have to be 48. She Offers To Do My Laundry, And Then Gets Pissy Dear Frank, I have been having some trouble with my lover lately. In the mornings after we have breakfast together and I get into the shower, she does things for me. Most recently she made my bed and swept up the kitchen. We almost got into an argument when she insisted on doing my laundry. (I said no of course). I simply do not
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like it that she wants to go through my stuff, and she keeps trying to do these things for me. All my single friends think I am off my rocker, but I am the only one that has girls coming back regularly. One woman told me that my insistence of not letting her be my maid was a major turn on. She told me this a year after she married some other guy, but when we dated we would always fight about it. Is that just her, or is that for all women that it is a turn on? -Asker48 Dear Asker48, You are right, your friends are wrong. Guys need to be very wary of any woman that wants to do stuff for them as it means that she has not been seduced like you may think she has. It is her way of trying to gain an ounce of control over the situation. If you tell her NOT to do your household chores, and she gets pissed, it’s OK. Don't worry about it. The LAST thing you should worry about is pissing off these women. Especially, if you piss them off with honesty; that is her Drama Cookie. A woman’s drama is just a test and part of their game of seduction of getting their way. In women, the instinct to mother, is stronger than the instincts for sex. When you stifle that mothering instinct she feels more turned on to be your lover by default. That is why it works for you, and all men who practice it. -Frank, because I have to be
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49. Unfaithful Married Woman Scolds Boyfriend About The Immorality Of Swingers Dear Frank, I am seeing a married woman who is cheating on her husband. I told her that my friend invited me to an orgy he was throwing with some of his married Swinger friends. I invited her along but she was appalled. She actually gave me a lecture about how married Swingers are the lowest form of people, and that if I dared go there, she would end our relationship. I got mad and yelled “Relationship? You mean how you come over here behind your husbands back?” I then told her hypocritical adulteress ass to shut up. I do not get it. Wouldn’t she of all people want to go to an orgy? -Asker49 Dear Asker49, I have been in this situation exactly. Usually that type of reaction comes from jealousy. She is jealous that she has to run around behind her husbands back instead of being able to do it with her husband knowing, like married Swingers do. The fact is, she did not want you to go to the orgy because in her mind, she did have a relationship with you, and you going there was a threat to that. Also, in her mind she is justified in having the affair with you because you are one person and she might see you as
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low risk for STDs that she could pass along to her husband. If you attend an orgy, she might catch something from you, and give it to her family. Finally, going to an orgy would make her cheating ways more public than might not be safe for her. Chances are she will come back, but if she does not, affairs are time limited anyways. -Frank, because I have to be 50. What Do You Say When You Do Not Want To Say Anything At All Dear Frank, I am dating two women who both know that I see the other, and I do not what to share the secrets of one girl with the other. One of the girls constantly inquires about the details of my relationship with the other one (including details about sex). The second one does not want to know any information about the first girl. I keep getting asked point blank by the first girl if I am having intercourse with the second. Until now I kept denying it, but it is getting the point where I will not be able to deny it for much longer. Should I keep denying it and continue to lie to her, or should I tell her the truth? -Asker50

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Dear Asker50, There are 3 ways to respond, but all do include the fact you must never admit it. 1) Is to turn it around. Don't answer the question, and ask her, "Do you want me to tell everybody about how you and me have sex and offer details? She will most likely say no, and then you can say, "so why are you asking me to tell you anything about anybody else? Hypocrite. If she says yes, see (2) or (3). 2) Cut her off with, "A gentleman doesn't discuss such things...." and get the point across that it’s none of her business. 3) Tell a story that gets the point across that you do not have loose lips. The bottom line is that it isn't her business and YOU ARE THE TYPE OF MAN THAT DOESN"T ANSWER STUPID QUESTIONS. In the future, it is best to try not to deny it, by just not answering that type of question. So whether the answer is YES or NO, the bottom line is that it is never ANY of her business about whom you've been with. She isn't your wife, nor does it sound like she even earned that type of intimate knowledge. Be the man, and remind her of that. -Frank, because I have to be

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Frank Telephone Consultations When I first emailed Frank B Kermit I was quite emotional since I never really talked about my situation with anyone. The next night I spoke with Frank B Kermit on the phone, and we had a very good conversation. He gave me some clear points to start working on. This was an opportunity to start to get this part of my life finally handled. Once things got started I really felt like I was in a safe place. Frank B Kermit shared many of his personal stories where he showed how he went from a place of pain to a place of success and happiness with women. This showed how Frank B Kermit could relate to where we were coming from. The topics were well thought out and presented in logical order. We grounded ourselves in
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the fundamentals of being men and what that means. He then integrated all these questions anonymously into the content of our discussions. This was great to hear the answers to their private questions without revealing their identity. One thing that you can rely on with Frank B Kermit is him showing you respect and complete confidentiality. If you have a situation that you don't feel like speaking openly, you should feel secure in writing or talking to Frank B Kermit personally. You can trust him to provide you with effective, real-word advice that is just between you and him. If you are a guy who is in pain over being a virgin, or even if you are a young virgin and just want a solid understanding of the fundamentals; you should know that Kermit and this seminar is a safe place to seek knowledge on your situation. - J.D. (age 31)

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51. He Told Her No Commitment, Now She Makes Him Feel GUILTY Dear Frank, I am 22 and I have been with this girl (21) for about 3 months. I tell her that we are both free to see other people, and that I do love her, but I am not going to commit to only her, or anyone at his stage in my life for that matter. She keeps threatening to break it off with me, and then calls me up to go see her. She has been really acting out lately and appears to be in “emotional distress”. Those were her words. I do not want to hurt her, and to hear her talk like this is really upsetting me. I cannot think straight during the day, and it is affecting me on the job. I do not want to lose her, but I have my own reasons for not wanting to get serious either. How do I manage this? -Asker51 Dear Asker51 There are two issues here that need to be resolved. The first is your reaction to her emotional distress and the second is your having to lead the situation. You are letting her emotional distress get to you way too much. It is a very good thing that you don't want to overtly hurt her. However, it is not a very NICE thing (read: Bad for you) that you are letting her emotional state affect you this much. All relationships involve risk. There is more of a risk in getting hurt than not
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getting hurt. It’s the nature of the beast. Also, women love the drama that comes with the territory. She gets to act like a 5-year-old throwing temper tantrums when she does not get her cookie (commitment). Do not act like an amateur parent. If you allow her temper tantrums to control you now, she will use this to manipulate you in the future. When she acts like this, simply talk to her calmly but sternly like you would a 5 year old. The fear of abandonment issues of 5-year-olds sometimes thrives in the modern woman, especially the twenty year olds. Now more than ever she needs you to be the strong one to lead this relationship. There are two ways you can do that. Decide exactly what you want from this situation. You must have a very clear picture in your mind, and stick to it. Do not compromise on your thought. Do not ever agree that your thought isn't the way things are supposed to be. Never get into a debate about the validity of your thought; it is right for you. When she breaks it off and calls for you to come running…do you go running? How about finding someone else to spend that time with, or simply not going to see her? I know you care for her, but if she cannot handle the open relationship, it may be best to let her go. -Frank, because I have to be

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52. Virgin Fears Sex Will Hurt The Girl Dear Frank, I am an adult aged virgin. I have been studying seduction based material specifically for having multiple lovers, but I am afraid of having sex with a girl if not in a committed relationship, not for myself, but because I do not want to hurt her emotionally with sex. How can I prevent this from happening? -Asker52 Dear Asker52, Bull. This is creative avoidance. I think that YOU are the one who is afraid of sex. By the way, why are you worried about having sex with girls? Isn’t that what you wanted: Sex without the long-term commitment? The limitation you describe is in your head, not because you discussed with any girl that sex automatically means being in a relationship. Get clear about what you want from this. As long as you do not promise to be monogamous, and as long as you do not lie to women by promising commitment when you offer none, you are doing your job as a man. I think you will be surprised to find out how many women would be thrilled to find a guy they can have sex with, without the strings of expectations attached. -Frank, because I have to be
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53. Sex Buddy Wants To Be My Girlfriend Dear Frank, What advice do you have for a guy that wants his sex-buddy back, but only as a sex-buddy? I have been seeing a girl for almost a year. We are sex-buddies. We only get together when neither of us is seeing anyone else seriously. Lately though when we get together, she has started to deny me sex. We hang out, do all the usually stuff including heavy make out sessions, but when it comes to sex she has started to hold off. This does not make sense to me, as there is nothing her and I have not done in the past. She tells me that she does not want to be with me for “just sex” anymore, yet wants to still hang out with me. Is this just a phase that I can break her out of? If I tell her directly that I will never be in a serious relationship with her, will I lose her entirely? -Asker53 Dear Asker53, The question is what do YOU see her as? Lets assume for a second that you felt this coming for a while. If so, you must understand that your responsibility as a player is to manage these things BEFORE they become a bigger issue. If you didn't see it coming, then lets move on... First of all, you cannot say with any ABSOLUTE certainty that there isn't a chance
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you will end up in a serious relationship with her DOWN THE ROAD. You have no real idea what is going to happen in your life. You cannot begin to imagine the amount of ways you are going to change in the next 10-20 years. Be honest with her...that you don't really know what the future holds for the both of you...NO ONE REALLY DOES...that is why you have to hope for the best and make excellent choices about how you spend your time now. Secondly, address her emotional needs and make her feel special to you by pointing out what is UNIQUE about her to you. Thirdly, Don't argue logic with women it does not work. Fourth, never let her become your mother. The most attractive thing you can do is to find someone else to replace her as a sex-buddy. -Frank, because I have to be 54. The Make–Out Freak Out Dear Frank, What do you say when you are making out with a girl on the first date, and she gets overwhelmed and backs off from you? I hate the uncomfortable vibe it creates. I do not know what to do. -Asker54

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Dear Asker54, Call her on the fact; she is just playing a game with you, you could tell her that it might be best to just be friends. This works but only if you have shown incredible value first to begin with. Otherwise, assume she just needs a breather, and give her some space. Then after a couple of minutes, go back in for it. If she STILL freaks out, then maybe you better just keep her as a friend, and find someone more your speed. -Frank, because I have to be

55. Homeless Stench Is A Reality Check Dear Frank, My wife and I have everything a couple could want. A house, two cars, great kids, great jobs…but we are always bickering about stupid things. All the big things are taken care of for us, but we fight like crazy over little things. Everything from which sides the toilet paper should hang down on, to how we brush our teeth. I mean it is crazy, but we get into the most heated screaming matches, you would not believe. Is there any way you can suggest that I can get my wife to see things my way because I am the man? -Asker55

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Dear Asker55, If this is a real question, it is a dozy. First of all, you both need a major reality check. She is in need of some major drama in her life, and you are falling for it. My guess is that you like it as much as she does. Your relationship drama is out of control, and it is easier than you think for a guy like me to take advantage of that and have an affair with your wife. You both need to keep things in perspective. So I am going to suggest that you do three things: The first is that you need to be proactive and take your wife on dates. Yes, dates. She is in need of some drama, so you better give it to her in a controlled setting before someone else does. Once a week, take her out and make her feel special. Two, I want both you and your wife to volunteer for a few nights at a local homeless shelter or soup kitchen. There is nothing more powerful than the stench of the homeless as a reality check to make you appreciate what you’ve got. Three, watch the movie Patch Adams, and do the Patch Adams exercise of going to children’s hospitals and entertaining the kids that are really sick. You both need a f-n wake up call. -Frank, because I have to be

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I learned recently that when Frank B Kermit was intensely studying seduction material during his early stages of development, the majority of products he studied were mine. Frank is living proof that ANYONE can master this part of his life if he only applies himself. He was an average guy that hit a rock bottom, and like many other of my students, he had reached the end of his rope, and needed to find a way to get a hold of this part of his life once and for all. In my work, I deal with many guys that are on the verge of suicide from the frustration of not being good with women, and to see one of them totally turn his life around and
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succeed reminds me of why I got into this business. I am proud of him for what he has accomplished in From Loser to Seducer. But as interesting as his personal story is, he raises a question at the end of the book that only someone who has had real success with women would think to ask: "Can a seducer still find true love, when he has the skills to find love with many women?"... Good thinking there by Frank, and I hope all of you readers get to the place where you have enough success to ask that question of yourself and find your own answer.

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56. My Fiancé Had More Lovers Than Me Dear Frank, I am 25 and my fiancé is 24. I have only been with 3 girls, including her, and only lost my virginity at 22. She lost her virginity at 17 and has been with over 30 guys (more than 10 times my number). At first I was OK with it, but the longer we are together, the more it is starting to really bug me. I am really struggling with her past, and I am not sure how I can move beyond it. We have a great relationship, and she reassures me that she is satisfied in our sex life, but I am feeling inadequate. How do I handle this? -Asker56 Dear Asker56 Look, for some guys this is a hang up, and in time they get over it. For other guys, they simply cannot deal with it. What you need to ask yourself is that if you had the opportunity to be with as many lovers as she did, would you have taken them? Honestly? If the answer is yes, then you cannot hold it against her. If the answer is no, then you and she have different values, and you need to come to terms with that, or end the relationship. Most men in your situation would just cheat and not say a word. This type of frustration can kill a relationship. They only thing I can tell you is that everything she went through is a part that made her who she is, and that is the woman you care for.
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I consult many adult male virgins in my business, and they do not realize the challenge it is to be in your situation, so they continue to wait. This may play a factor into your issue with her past. The question is WHY were you a virgin until you were 22? Answer that, and you may find the source of your pain. -Frank, because I have to be

57. The Age Question Dear Frank, I am 46, and my new fiancé is only 22. There is a 24-year age gap. All of our friends and family think that this is too much of a gap for it to work, and they have got me questioning it too. Do you think that 24 years will make it impossible for this relationship to work? -Asker57 Dear Asker57, I know guys in their 50s that date women in their 20s, so the age thing is not an issue for that. There are only three things you seriously need to discuss:

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1) Children. If you are planning to have any together, then factor in the age you are both going to be when these kids reach their teenage year and will need lots of energy and attention from you both. Will you both be capable? Charlie Chaplin fathered a child as a senior...but I do not know what kind of parent he made for that child beyond financial considerations. Basically, are you in shape enough both physically and financially? 2) It is not your commitment to the other person...it is your commitment to the relationship that matters. 3) Do you have children from a previous relationship? If so, you’d better make sure that they are ok with whatever arrangement the two of you create. Legally she can make trouble for them, and they for her. Do not get married until you write your will, and your kids have their say in this. The oldest age gaps I know of for long-term relationships, the produced children and are still on going include 10 years, 12 years, and 15 years. They struggle with the same issue of the older one fighting the urge to be the parent of the younger one, but they all make it work. Hope this inspires you. -Frank, because I have to be

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58. The Single Parent Dating Module Dear Frank, I am being set up on a blind date with a single mom. She has custody of her kids. I knew all of this before I agreed to meet her, even before we started to talk on the phone. I am cool with that part. My question is do you have any special tips for dating a single parent? -Asker58 Dear Asker58, Whenever I dated a single mom I would always chip in for the cost of a babysitter. Without knowing if or how much child support comes in, I would still chip in. Chances are the bottom line is she feels like she is trapped in a box. Most single moms feel that way, especially if they do not get to date much, and many of their relationships fizzle out quick when the topic of kids comes up. She may be a single mom, but she is still a woman and she wants the romantic fantasy of being taken away from it all just like every woman. Just be that adventurous leader. Her mothering instincts will be in overdrive, so you can expect LOTS of tests. Just address her emotional needs consistently and you will be fine. You do not get to meet the kids UNTIL you are sure you want something serious and long term with her. If you do get at all serious
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with her, you must know that the law might require for you to pay for child support, if you assume the role of step-father, even if only for a few short years. If you get separate or divorced after assuming the role, you may still be liable. -Frank, because I have to be

59. She Criticizes My Love Making Dear Frank, My lover is constantly criticizing my sex skills. She tells me about past lovers and relationships, criticizes my body at times and my love making tactics. She says that she cares about me and just wants me to improve so that the next girl doesn’t think I totally stink. At first I was appreciating it, but now I dread going over to see my lover. The thing is, I never had complaints like this before, and now I am too afraid to even try to be with someone new. Is it possible that I am that bad? -Asker59 Dear Asker59, This can be a blow to the ego. She is either trying to tell you to do something different but lacks tact or she is trying to destroy your selfimage and self worth so that she can control
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you. With the way you describe it, I think she is using a control tactic on you and it is working. The result is that you are faithful to her because you are too afraid to try to be with someone else. This is something I find very often with some women such as strippers, as they continually look for ways to undermine you and test your dominance. Also, if she is emotional damaged and seeks to turn your relationship into a violent or unhealthy one, this is a pattern of behavior she will repeat to incite the violence that she is used to from regularly dating jerks. -Frank, because I have to be

60. My Girl is Always Cursing her “Slut Friends” Dear Frank, My girlfriend is always cursing her friends for being sluts. To their faces, she is polite and friendly, but then when she talks to me, all she can do is talk about all the things her friends are doing that make them sluts, from the way they dress to whom they sleep with. Until now I have not given her any reaction to it, but it is starting to get on my nerves. The rest of our relationship is fine, but I have no idea what to make of it. Any tips? -Asker60
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Dear Asker60, The problem is that you never give a reaction. She is testing you. She wants to see how judgmental you are of women and sexuality. My guess is that she is jealous of her friends, and wants to BEHAVE LIKE THEM, but she feels she cannot with you. So, she curses her friends just to see how YOU will react. If you curse them as well, she knows she can’t be that way with you. If you slam her for cursing them, she knows she can be just as much of a slut with you, as her friends act with other men. My suggestion is to scold her for not being open-minded about her friend’s freedoms to be more sexual…but only do this if you want her to behave that way for you. -Frank, because I have to be

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Looking back I was once a natural with women. However, like you mentioned in your book I'm a Man, That's My Job, when a lived natural experiences some major difficulties in life, which he didn't expect and can't handle, he will hit groundzero. And that's what happened to me, as I was turning girls on to the point where I sometimes had to pause because they were becoming too clingy and I didn't know what I wanted; That was before I read your books and came to understand what was really going on. I appreciate your efforts in writing your books and I'm a Man, That's My Job is my favorite
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as I also believed men have been feminized in today's world. I consider you a mentor. I'm a Man, that's my job is exactly the book I needed at this period of time in my life. Every woman deserves to have a great relationship with a man, and we can only give them that if we know what it means to be a real man. This is the best inner game book for naturals that have found themselves struggling with women for the first time in their lives, and need some hardcore inner game work to get them back on track. -PQ, Amsterdam, The Netherlands

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61. She ALWAYS Leaves Something At My Place. WHY? Dear Frank, It never fails. Every time my girlfriend comes over to spend the night she leaves something behind in the morning. I have tried putting out little bowls for her to put her items in, or emptying out a drawer of my stuff so she could use it as her space, and I even try to get her to follow lists in the morning before she leaves, but somehow she always manages to leave something. Once in a while it is a big thing like her cell phone, or necklace with her name on it, and other times it is something small like hairpins, wristbands, or makeup. Is there any way to help my girlfriend be neater? -Asker61 Dear Asker61, She is not being disorganized, she is marking her territory In the event you are seeing another girl, when she gets to your place, she will find your girlfriend’s stuff and know another female has already been there. This is instinctual, and it will not change. The more girls you date at the same time, the more stuff they will each leave behind. Get used to it. -Frank, because I have to be

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62. Thank You Frank! I Got A Keeper! Dear Frank, THANK YOU! I used your stuff and met a girl. She's looking at me with such tender, loving joyful eyes. I am melting. I am literally shaking inside like a leaf. I can't believe something so wonderful can be happening to me like this. This is my reality now? No way!! God she's great! I cannot wait to sleep with her! I definitely see her as a keeper. Thanks Be To Kermit! -Asker62 Dear Asker62, This is the reality you have EARNED. It is not an accident nor luck. You made it happen. Be sure to pat yourself on the back. It is the result of hard work. Oh, by the way, she is NOT great, not yet. She still has yet to earn your attentions. YOU ARE GREAT. She may have some qualities that you like, but do not assign more value to her than she has earned yet. This will distract you from the final close. She gets to be "great" only AFTER you’ve had sex together a few times. Right now, the most she gets to be is a candidate for greatness. Right energy, but you have already assigned her as a keeper. She
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has not earned that value from you yet. You have not had sex yet. There is a way to show that you are interested "thus far", without making her feel that you put more of value on her than yourself. I do not know if that is what is going on, but I thought it would be something to consider. You are welcome by the way. -Frank, because I have to be 63. Quickie Here, Quickie There Dear Frank, I have a wonderful relationship with my wife. Things could not be better except for one thing. She simply does not have as strong a sexual libido as I do. I knew this before we got married, and we have been working through it. One of the things we do, is that when I am really in the mood, but my wife is not so much into it, my wife offers me quickies. At first I was OK with it, but lately I feel like I am raping her, because I worry that she is only doing it for me, and not into it at all. The last few times, I have refused the quickies telling her as much. We have been fighting ever since. I thought she would be happy that I respect her enough not to just use her for sex, but obviously I am not getting something. What am I missing? -Asker63

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Dear Asker63, OK, first things first. Next time your wife offers you a quickie, Take The Quickie Damn It! When a woman offers a man sex, and he refuses, especially a man as horny as you, you are violating all ten of her emotional needs. If anything, she isn’t going to feel “respected”. She is more likely going to feel like she is failing you as a wife. In addition to questioning your value as a man, she is probably testing you more now, as you made her question if she made the right choice in being with you. Stop trying to think for her. It is your guilt that is the issue here; do not make it her problem too. -Frank, because I have to be 64. Attracted to a Transvestite Dear Frank, I am 24 years old, and I was out with some friends, and we ended up at this club none of us had ever been to. When I looked around, the lighting was dark, but I could see some of the most beautiful female bodies I have ever seen. These women really put in the effort to look good for a night on the town. I eventually started to chat one up, and was really liking how things were going, UNTIL someone got on stage, and the lights came on, and it turns out we were at a club for transvestites /
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transsexuals. When I realized this, I looked at the woman I was chatting with, and that is when I realized it was a man (or used to be, I did not stick around to find out). I got out of there really fast. Am I gay? I mean, I really found some of those people attractive, but when I found out they were guys, I freaked. None of my friends have spoken about the incident since, and I do not know whom to tell this too. So, do you think I’m gay? -Asker64 Dear Asker64, I do NOT think you are gay. One of the things that trans-people specialize in is the skill to adopt the attractive features of the opposite gender. The male trans-people heavily accentuate FEMININE qualities, and my guess is that you, as a heterosexual male, were attracted to his/her heightened, and pronounced feminine qualities that he (she) works at. Like you pointed out, trans-people put in the effort to assume the attractive qualities of the opposite gender. Being attracted to feminine qualities of a person that you did not know was a man does not make you gay. What does make me wonder though is why a 24 year old would need confirmation from me, about his sexuality? If anything, THAT would give me reason to pause. If you are unable to
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find comfort in this letter, then please seek a professional sex therapist. Learn to love yourself, no matter what, and take the time you need to learn about who you are. -Frank, because I have to be

65. Training my girlfriend to pick up with me Dear Frank, Over the last two years I have been learning to pick up women, and after a rocky start I got very good at it. Lately I have met one girl that I have made my exclusive girlfriend. I want to train her to pick up other girls to bring home for us to enjoy together. Also, I want to show her how difficult it is to learn to pick up is. I figure I will send her in to a set to talk to another girl, and when she fails, I will come in, show her how it’s done. I will have the best of both worlds. I will look like a stud to my girl, and she will learn to pick up and bring me other women, and eventually I will not have to pick any up. Any tips for how to bring this up to her, so that she is cool with it? -Asker65

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Dear Asker65, The first thing I have noticed is that you are assuming that she is going to fail. Pick up between women is DIFFERENT from pick up between a guy and a girl. It is all because of the penis. The male runs the risk of impregnating her, or committing violence and another woman does not. You might find that she will have a lot less trouble picking up women, than you ever would. The issues that will arise will have more to do with picking up women that will also be willing to be with you, as not every woman who wants her, will want you too. There are bigger concerns for you though. The first concern is that your letter seems to indicate that you have not brought up this issue before with her. Do you even know if she is bi-sexual or that she would be willing to live your non-monogamous lifestyle? Also, my experience in polyamourous lifestyles taught me to be careful what you wish for…unless you constantly display your value as a male to her, she just might end up leaving you to be with one of those women she picked up. Are you sure you could handle that? If she is the only one picking up, and you stop demonstrating you can pick up, she WILL lose attraction to you. Trust me on that one. -Frank, because I have to be

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Just spent a few hours with Frank B Kermit...and it will have an impact for the rest of my life! You read correct, I met up with Frank B Kermit and it was a VERY eye opening experience for me. I was shocked at all the details that Frank B Kermit pointed out... stuff I would have never noticed the first time... or even the tenth time for that matter. As I said, it was a very short time we spent discussing, but it made me realize that I have a lot of work ahead of me... and to be honest I am actually quite excited. For a while I felt like I had plateau in my sex and love life, but now I feel like I have a new motivation...I look forward to meeting with Frank B Kermit again. --E. Bigelow

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66. Open Relationship Cheater Dear Frank, Does being in an open-relationship eliminate the possibility of cheating? I seem to only date guys that cheat on me, so I was wondering about getting into open relationships like one of my girlfriends did with her boyfriend, so that at least when he cheats, they know about it, and she sees other guys too, and everyone is honest. Would all guys stop cheating if all girls were ok with open relationships? -Asker66 Dear Asker66, It is not the relationship structure that will cause a person to lie and cheat. Even those people in the most open relationships may still lie and cheat. In my experience I have found it comes down to 2 things: 1. The cheated-on partner's actual ability to handle truth and honesty and what the cheater actually gets out of cheating.

That is, most people think they want total honesty but in fact they do not. Their actions (or reactions) show that they cannot handle truth. If you claim that you want others to be honest with you, you must first demonstrate that you can handle truth,
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even if you don't like what you hear. If you get all out of control when someone is honest with you, chances are, they will not be honest with you again. Make sure you are strong enough to handle truth before asking for it. If you act like you cannot handle the truth maturely, chances are higher that your boyfriends will cheat on you, even in an open relationship 2. Cheating is not just about sex. Some people crave the emotions that go along with it.

This can include the thrill of potentially getting caught, feeling like they are getting more than their fair share, feeling that they are doing something nasty and forbidden. In addition, the person they cheat with actually gives them something that their primary partner(s) do not fulfill. It could just be that the person needs to feel some sense of private secrecy to control in order to establish an individual identity. I am not condoning cheating, but I can understand it. Life is just not that cut and dry, and human beings are not perfect. They will make mistakes, and sometimes the ideal relationship is just an intellectual construct, so the lesser of two evils is just the easier path for them. Being honest takes more work than hiding a part of yourself. -Frank, because I have to be

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67. The Rape Fantasy Dear Frank, One of my lovers and I have a pact that we can ask each other to live out one fantasy. I told her my fantasy, and she did it with me. Now it’s my turn. I was shocked to hear that she wanted me to live out her fantasy of being raped. I AM NOT JOKING. She told me that sometimes she fantasies about being forced into sex, and raped. I do not know what to do. Should I live out this fantasy with her because of our pact, even though I really do not want too? I am worried about lots of things. What if I really hurt her? What if she will want to do it again? What if I don’t and she tells everybody about my fantasy that we did (I do not want anybody finding out about it. It really was nasty). Should I just do it? -Asker67 Dear Asker67, You are caught between a rock and a hard place. You did not mention what your fantasy was, so I will assume it must have been a real kicker. The first bit of advice is that you NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER call it "Rape" fantasy. NEVER. The fantasy is not about raped...it is about being TAKEN. There is a book entitled The Secret Garden, on the topic of women’s
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fantasies, and it talks about this one in particular. It is a good resource for you to look up. Stop talking about rape with women. You cannot believe the damage you are doing to yourself. If you ever live out such a "taken" fantasy, make sure you get signed consent forms from her, and video tape it to make sure she does not turn on you. I know people in the BDSM community who have lived this fantasy for some of their women, and the guys always have to protect against this sort of thing when they are the dominant doing the action. The whole point of such a fantasy is giving up the responsibility for the sex, but not control of being safe. Again, I repeat, it is about giving up responsibility of sexuality for the submissive, but the submissive is ALWAYS in control of what happens. My main advice is do not do it, and ask her to pick something else, and then complete your pact. In the future, set some parameters before you make such a bad agreement again. If she refuses and still demands it, walk away from the pact. I doubt she will bring your antics up in public, as you could just as well hurt her reputation too, BUT if it does get out (and it is more than likely it will no matter what you do for her) you might want to consider moving from where you live if is it really that lifeaffecting. Good luck. -Frank, because I have to be.
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68. Married Woman Falling In Love With Female Lover Dear Frank, I have been married to my husband for almost 15 years. I have started an affair with one of my co-workers two weeks ago, and it has gotten more intense over time. My co-worker is a woman. Things with my husband started to get rocky when he lost his last job, and had to take a new job making a lot less money. Our lifestyle had to change, and I am now making more money than him. I don’t mind so much, but it bugs him, and he has become impossible to relate to. The affair just started as a friendship, and she was there to console me, and the next thing I knew we got closer. I have never been with a woman before, but she had a few lesbian experiences when she was in college. When I go home, I am so miserable, but when I am with my lover, I feel so alive and happy, but I do feel incredible guilt about the whole thing. I have children with my husband, and I feel I should be supportive of him after the job lay off (no pun intended), but I do not think I can go on being with my lover with all this guilt. I do not know who I am anymore. Am I a married woman, a bisexual woman, or a lesbian? Should I leave my husband and be with her? Should I break it off with her, and work things out with my husband for the kids? Should I just break up with them both? -Asker68
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Dear Asker68, Giving up either one of these relationships may not yet be the answer; you are still learning about yourself, and learning about your sexual identity. You may have to choose one over the other at a later time, but I think it is still too early to tell. You may discover that both relationships will take the paths they were meant to, and this may include ending both of them. You are still in the “honeymoon” phase of your new female-female relationship, so it is unfair to judge it so soon. Your primary relationship is suffering right now, and I think you should put more effort into fixing it. You have children, and the relationship with your husband is the priority. Normally, I would simply tell a person in your situation to forget the lover, and focus on your marital relationship, but in this case, you are questioning your sexuality, and that is a bigger issue. What you need to come to terms with is who you are. Once you have that, you will be in a better position to figure out what you want. Personally, I think it is possible to work on your relationship with your husband, and structure it so that the two of you could explore your evolving sexuality together with other women in a more controlled setting. One thing for sure is that you need to put an end to the office romance, and find a new job if you want to make things work with your husband.

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Continuing to work there really is not an option long term. -Frank, because I have to be 69. Non-Married Lover In Triad Wants Other Two To Get Divorced Dear Frank, I am married to a wonderful man. A few years into our marriage, I wanted to explore my bisexuality, and he was very supportive. At first, he let me explore women on my own, and then we started having threesomes with other women. That was three years ago. Over that time, one woman has become important to us, and I do not know how this happened, but she and her kids have moved in with my husband and I and our kids. We are now what are called a “triad”. This was NOT what I ever wanted. I just wanted to explore sex, but I did not want this. We have all been living together for 8 months now, and things are really starting to strain on me. The three of us share a bedroom, and some of our children are not comfortable with this arrangement. What is worse is that my I do not want to be part of a “group” family, and I never did. My husband wants to maintain the triad saying he loves the other woman too, and will not give her or me up. Our lover keeps up appearances when my husband is around but in private she tells me that we should hang in
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until all the kids go to college and then she and I could leave my husband and have a private life together. How do I get out of this mess? -Asker69 Dear Asker69, WHOA!!!!! Read that AGAIN! She just moved in 8 months ago and is already planning for you to dump your husband and be with her after the kids are grown? Get a reality check now! You all want different, and extreme, lifestyles. I really don't see how it can work. You want a more private and committed relationship with your husband, while exploring your bisexuality. I think you need to make this intention of yours VERY CLEAR to both your partners. Tell me, do you think your husband would still be so in love with the other “mom” if he knew she was planning for you both to abandon him in a few years after he provided for her kids as well? Does she think he is that much of a moron? Do you? I suggest that you tell your husband exactly what she is planning, and if you can, tape her saying it to you on same recording device just for evidence sake, in case you end up in a divorce and need proof. You have children, and they are going to be more screwed up from all of this than you will. Get that woman out of the house, or be ready to take your kids with you as you leave them both. He is oblivious to what is going on, and she is not to be trusted. I think she is using the
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BOTH of you for her kids, and I doubt she would continue to be with you after the kids leave. My guess is she is telling your husband the same thing, that he should dump you once the kids are gone. I think you are all getting set up. Sorry for the harsh language, but she obviously does not respect, or really care for, him or you. I am not sure if do you either because you know she is not trustworthy, and are not yet doing anything to protect your first family (husband and children). -Frank, because I have to be 70. On Secondary Relationship Boundaries Dear Frank, My boyfriend and I are in an open relationship. We allow each other to have relationships with other people. The issue of having a secondary relationship has come up, in terms of what exactly is a secondary relationship. My boyfriend does not want either of us to have “relationships” with other people; he only wants us to have sex. I am not a one-night stand gal; I am more of a relationship person, and have only been with one other guy, and it is starting to turn into more of a relationship, if you know what I mean. This is SO CONFUSING. I hate that I ever suggested it to him. How do other open relationship couples handle this? What are the rules of having relationships outside of my
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boyfriend? Is my boyfriend right? Should we only be having sex? -Asker70 Dear Asker70 Here is something I can suggest. Define some boundaries, rules or parameters as to the nature of a secondary relationship. No polycouple have exactly the same rules when it comes to conduct with a secondary. There is a difference between having a physical connection with others (sex), and having an emotional connection (which is what you want). That is for you both to consider in the ABSENCE of any secondary. The focus should be on maintaining the primary relationship. If one must suffer, it would be the secondary. I would suggest that you BOTH cool it with all your secondary lovers until you figure out what your boundaries are. Next, the boundaries you both set together should govern BEHAVIOR, not emotions. By this I mean, a person cannot promise to not fall in love with someone else. A person can however promise that if such an emotion develops that they will curb their desire to take ACTION on it, until they talk about it with their primary. You both have to reach some sort of decision that will not rival your primary bond. If that is not possible, you will have to break up . -Frank, because I have to be

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Are you finding that monogamous relationships do not work for you but you are still unsure as to what the answer is because you do not know where to go to next? Are you considering an alternative to monogamy, and desperately do not want to have to lie about your desires, and refuse to cheat on your partner? Then this telephone consultation is going to be for you. In this session, you will learn about monogamy, the swinger lifestyle, polyamorous, BDSM, being asexual or bisexual in relationships, having a harem of lovers, the single lifestyle, and what the various rules for each relationship management structure are. This session is open to men, women and couples.

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71. My Girlfriend Told Me That She Is Bi…Does that mean I Must Be Bi As Well? Dear Frank, My girlfriend of two years told me yesterday that she thinks she might be bisexual. I am devastated. I do not know how to handle this. I do not think it makes her a bad person, but what does that mean for us? How does a straight guy date a bisexual girl? Can a bisexual be faithful? It does not seem logical. Lastly, if I am in love with a bisexual, does that mean that I have to become bisexual too? I just do not think I could ever do it. Is my relationship over now? -Asker71 Dear Asker71, Okay, you have lots of questions, mostly coming from the shock I think. For starters, No, you do not have to become bisexual to be in love with someone who is bisexual. It does not work that way. It would be like saying that a Caucasian would have to become an Asian if he fell in love with an Asian. Get it? In terms of fidelity, it is up to the person if she is going to be faithful or not. There are some bisexual people that do remain faithful to one gender, and forsake any actions with the other
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gender, if they are in a committed relationship. Personally, I think that if you need your girlfriend to never be with another woman while she is with you, then you probably should find someone else. I think that you should encourage her to explore her sexuality, and explore how to work it into your relationship with her. It could be a lot more fun for you than you anticipate. Lastly there are different ways of being bisexual. My understanding of it is that some people are attracted to both genders, but will only have emotional connections with one gender or the other, but not both. Others that are bisexual can have emotional connections with both genders. I don't know which your girlfriend relates too, but you and her need to be able to define those parameters for you to continue your relationship together. -Frank, because I have to be

72. Living With A Partner For The First Time Dear Frank, I am living with a woman for the first time in my life. My parents never fought, and I want to have the same kind of relationship with her. But, we have only been together a few days, and already there are tensions. I cannot stand it when we fight or do not get along. How do I

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make this an experience, so that I have a perfect relationship like my parents did? -Asker72 Dear Asker72, So your parents NEVER fought…Riiiiiiiiight… Maybe you never saw them fight, but my guess is that they fought, and they made it a point to keep it from you. Living together is just another challenge under the reality of relationships, and it will be an ongoing on. Each of you has certain “do’s” and “don’ts”. We all have them, so make sure that you know what your own are. Try to respect each other’s reasonable boundaries, and make efforts to accommodate those requests that take some effort. If of you have any unreasonable requests, you can very well expect it to be ignored, or it will become a point of tension that you will fight about again and again. Keep it in perspective daily that this challenge will not be the last one you and your partner face because such is life. Relationships go through rough patches. Family members die, work changes, health changes...one day you are on top of the world, and the next day someone loses a job, a body part, depression, kids with problems, etc....it’s a freakin’ roller coaster with no set answers, and people muddle through it all the best they can through infinite changes, trying to hold on
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to and maintain some sense of balance in their relationships. Now, if you are lucky enough to build the life you want with a solid partner for yourself, it makes the trip more interesting but not easier. A blissful happy live ever after is the stuff of fairy tales for children, but reality. One of the ways that I keep a cooler head is that I keep everything in that right perspective. It could be worse, you or someone else you love could be dying or dead. If you need more of an example, do the Patch Adams mission: Go to your local children's hospital and find out how you can entertain the sick kids there. Then you will see things that should really make you go out of your head. For example, I once met a woman that would dress up as a popular cartoon character who would visit kids dying of cancer, who's last wish was to meet their favorite TV character. Sharing the same living space with someone can feel like something has a ferocious grip on you, but don’t loose your head! Communication and compromise is key. Time is a constant that we are always running out of, and life is just too short to waste it. -Frank, because I have to be 73. Cheater Who Poses As A Poly Dear Frank,

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I am a married woman and I consider myself poly, as I believe in open relationships. I have a lover on the side. My husband does not know that I am poly, and I intend for it to stay like that, as our relationship just works best this way, without him knowing. I am writing to you to ask how I can dissuade my lover to not go to a swingers club next weekend. If my lover goes there, I will break up with him. I love him dearly, but I cannot accept that he would sully himself with those kinds of people (people without morals). How can I explain to him that what swingers do is wrong, and that he will lose me if he goes ahead with this? -Asker73 Dear Asker73, I could not make up this kind of irony. Do you see it Asker73? In your mind, you calling yourself poly to justify lying to your husband makes it ok for you to be having sex outside of your marriage, but swingers who engage in sexual activities outside their marriage WITH their marital partners in open view are considered by you to be immoral? Yeeesh! You are not being poly; you are just cheating on your husband. Who do you think you are kidding? Poly people and cheaters have only one thing in common. They both have multiple relationships at the same time. Just having
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multiple relationships at the same time does not automatically make a person “poly”. Poly is a mindset. People who cheat, and feel guilty about it will call themselves poly to feel better. With cheating, the elements of honesty and the degree of openness never make it into the fray. Then again, why would they? Someone who is cheating already has relationships based on illusions of monogamy, and devoid of communication regarding multiple partnering. I speak from experience. I have been on both sides of this. I have been the other man, and I have been in open relationships. Mostly what I learned is that I would rather have a relationship I can trust in, and for me is was better to be poly and give my lovers the freedom to enjoy life, than to have a life that I witnessed and was a part of, as the other man for that particular couple. Your lover is doing the right thing. He is seeking other more honest avenues for himself, and dropping you in the process. -Frank, because I have to be

74. Is It Cheating If His Wife Knows, But She Does Not Like It? Dear Frank, I am having an affair with a married man. He has made no promises to marry me later, or
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anything like that. All I know is that he says his wife knows, but is not happy about it. I didn’t believe him, but I really liked him, and continued to be with him anyways. After a few weeks, I actually met her. She was cold to me, and even told me she knew about me, but that he loved her more than me. The only thing I asked her was how long she knew about it, and she said she knew about it from the beginning and that I wasn’t the first. We left on those terms. Is it still cheating if she knows about us? -Asker74 Dear Asker74, His wife tolerating it does not make it any less of a cheat than if she did not know at all. “You” may not be cheating on his wife, as you never made a promise of fidelity to her. But I do think her husband might be cheating on her. I can not tell by this letter if she is also seeing other people under an open relationship, and she is just jealous of you, or if they are not in an open relationship, but she stays with him for her own reasons. You do not know what he told her about you exactly, and for all you know he threatens his wife by telling her, that you are madly in love with him. They might even be in an open marriage where he talks about you as something that will replace her one-day. Depending on how you and they define it, it
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may or may not be cheating. If you really feel that you are participating in a "cheating", then the only thing you can control is your own choices, your own behavior. If they (the couple) cannot come to a consensus (cheat vs. not cheating) the only thing you can control is your choices and behaviors. -Frank, because I have to be

75. Time Management For Multiple Partners Dear Frank, I have been poly (open relationships) for many years. Right now I have two serious relationships going, and one part time lover I see about once a month. I barely have time to go out and meet new people. I would like to make the time, but I have a full time job, and take a class each semester. I am curious as to how you suggest I deal with the issue of time management. -Asker75 Dear Asker75, For me it is a matter of setting priorities, and being clear with your partners about expectations. The schedules and time allotments change as each relationship evolves. That is better than trying to get the relationship to evolve by re-scheduling time.
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For example, you may organize your time in terms of importance and necessarily as follows: 1-Work 2-Self 3-Primary 4-Secondary 5-part time lover. If “self” means time to meet new people, you can work it in, assuming it is important enough to you. For every time you put in, you will have to take time away from something or someone else. You have to figure it out for yourself as to what is more important, as well as factoring in the needs of your partners, and making allowances for certain periods of the year (exam time, year end, etc...). The distribution of time is not ever going to feel fair to those people that want more of your time. Stop thinking "fair", and starting thinking about what your needs are, and what your partners needs are. Are they compatible? If your partners needs, and your needs are not compatible, it does not matter how much time you allot…it will not be enough to keep the relationships lasting. Figure out what you want first, and then, you can see if you and your partners can reach a level to connect on. -Frank, because I have to be

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I must say that to me, what I found most helpful was that Frank B Kermit remembers when he was a Loser. There's much more sympathy in him than what I see out of other gurus out there who have long since become naturals, and unable to understand why people simply can't "be like them." To me, Kermit can be summed up in one sentence: He respects you, and demands the same respect. Be it women, men, people beneath him, people above him, doesn't matter. He treats everybody with the same respect and dignity you wish you would receive from others. That is remarkably more charismatic, and what a remarkable way to conduct Game. To be a man; not a bully. You have definitely earned my respect. I look forward to hearing more from you. -Raymond H.

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Frank Telephone Consultations I would like to also extend my gratitude to Frank B Kermit for his intimate knowledge of the subject. I really couldn't believe the valuable insight I picked up during this lesson. It is one thing to read Frank B Kermit's writings and a whole other ballgame to actually be sitting in front of him and absorbing his extensive knowledge and his experience. Before the seminar we were asked to prepare a map of sorts, reflecting our personalities. (list of symbols that can be associated with you, favorite animal, color, fantasy's and vacation spots, hobbies, five different era's). Then we were shown photos of his former apartment. My personal favorite was the "wall of honor".
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I immediately set this up at home and my day-to-day self esteem has skyrocketed. This is a must for a balanced and happy life, Not just for pick-up. The photos really helped us take a virtual tour of his place. The whole "our world" concept was well demonstrated with his mountain of pillows on the futon, fantasy land living room, Karaoke machine and well placed mini-bar. I also learnt a few things about subtle cueing towards the bedroom and the main focus the bed should have in a room. The stars on the ceiling were great too. All in all the apt. was set up like a theme park for two or more with all sorts of interesting things to do and not at all tacky like some theme parks can be decor wise. Heck, if I was invited over I would've wanted to stay the whole weekend. Thanks for the opportunity. -P. Bloyo

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76. Is Neediness A Common Concept In Open Relationships? Dear Frank, I have been in monogamous relationships all my life, and I am curious to know if the concept of “neediness” happens in open relationships? -Asker76 Dear Asker76, Neediness is common in EVERY kind of relationship. It is a human trait that is not specific to relationships structures. A person can be needy in a monogamous relationship as well as a poly one. It stems from insecurities, and certain emotional needs not being met. Although is it EASIER not to be needy when you have more than one partner at the same time, it is harder for some people not to be needy when their partner has more partners than they do. It takes a secure person to be in open relationships, and make them work. Nothing challenges a person mental endurance like knowing that your lover is out with someone else that night and having a great time without you there. Meanwhile, you have not been able to attract a new partner for yourself to keep you occupied. The best way to avoid the neediness is to be honest in your communications with your partner about what you expect, and what you can offer. If the two of you have no real trust
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between you two, the point is moot, and the relationship is sure to end. -Frank, because I have to be 77. My Wife Has Taken On Another Lover…I Am Going Crazy Dear Frank, My wife and I have a different relationship. I love her will all my heart, but she is poly, and I am monogamous. I am not thrilled with this arrangement, but we have worked out a compromise where she is allowed to see other people but there are rules for her to follow when she does. For example, if she wants to go to a swingers club, I must be present when she does anything. If she dates a guy, I have to meet with him and approve of him before they have sex. Until this year, it worked for us. But now she has taken on a lover, and I am going crazy here! I am crying every day, and we are fighting all the time. The problem is that she broke the rules, and started sleeping with this guy, and had a relationship with him, and I never met him or approved of him. I have demanded that she bring him to me, but she says that *he* has no interest in meeting me, or making their “connection subject to my insecurities”. I think this is a load of BS, but my wife agrees with him!

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I am so angry with the two of them that I cannot think straight. I cannot focus on work, I cannot sleep, and I cannot eat. Am I being unreasonable? Are they right? -Asker77 Dear Asker77, Ok, here is advice that is not going to be celebrated. I think you need to see a lawyer. Not because of what your wife has done. You obviously still love her (or you wouldn't be so hurt), but because you are in an angry emotional state. Seeing a lawyer should be for the strict purposes of knowing what your rights are if you decide to seek a divorce, and the lawyer will also advise you on how to behave in the meanwhile. You are dealing with emotions and trust issues here. Whatever you do, never let that turn to violence. Conduct yourself in an appropriate manner at all times just in case. Finally, you were being more than reasonable, and they are NOT right. The rules were set, and she broke them. She should have dropped him, when he would not RESPECT your rules as a couple. I do not think your wife is just screwing around anymore. It sounds to me like she is looking to replace you (she could have followed the rules, and she did not). But I think there is a deeper issue here. You are so “in love” with your wife,
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that you forgot the fifth rule of relationships for men: How She Treats You Is The Most Important Thing. It is not how you feel about her, nor how she makes you feel. Why would you marry a woman that does not make you the number one man of her life? You are also at fault for tolerating a relationship that you yourself claimed you were “not thrilled with”. Protect yourself, know your rights, and then proceed with a clear head. If you divorce and marry again, exercise better judgment in a life partner. Find someone that wants the same thing as you. She never did, and in your heart you knew it. -Frank, because I have to be 78. Best Relationship Structure Dear Frank, I just got out of a long-term relationship, and I am not sure if I ever want to be monogamous again…I have met swingers and poly people, and they seem to be happier to me, but who knows what goes on behind closed doors? My fiancé and I looked picture perfect to the rest of our friends and families, but they did not see how miserable she made me. I have heard about your story from a friend of mine, and he told me you tried all the different relationship types out there. In your experience, can you please tell me who has the best relationship structure? -Asker78
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Dear Asker78, I have explored various forms of different lifestyles (some in theory, some in experience) and the only conclusion that I have firmly come to is that NOBODY has it altogether. NOBODY has it all figured out. We all do the best that we can, with the best we know how, at that time...sometimes it is enough, and other times it isn't. Most of what people are meant to learn in relationships is what they learn about themselves. Self-discovery is probably the great adventure of them all. Poly relationships will teach you an incredible amount about yourself, if you are open to learning, but monogamous relationships will too. -Frank, because I have to be

79. Is Equal Love For All Partners Possible? Dear Frank, For the first time in my life I am dating two different girls at the same time, and not choosing one over the other. The girls are not too happy about it, but I addressed their emotional needs like you said in your book, and it’s working. I am managing relationships now. I love my life. Thanks Frank.

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My question is how do I make it equal for each girl to have equal time from me, and to feel equal love from me? I want to make things as fair as I can, and I do not want one girl to become the queen and the other girl to become the princess if you know what I mean. I do not want either girl to feel left out. -Asker79

Dear Asker79, You are welcome. When dating more than one person generally a hierarchy will form. It is not the hierarchy that makes people feels left out. It is how the structure is administered, and what people’s true expectations from it are. Depending on your criteria for your partners, it is inevitable that you will gravitate to one person more than another, and want to spend most of your time with that primary person. For example, you find key criteria you want in one partner (raising kids together) that is not present in the other partner, and that affects the amount of time you spend with that second person. Thus, it makes her your secondary. Or, you might keep them both as equal secondary lovers, and not have a primary because neither has the criteria you seek.

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Keep in mind your secondary will have different expectations about what they will get from you. Make sure you communicate your intent properly while addressing their emotional needs. Also factor in what women say they expect, and what they may really hope for (i.e. you changing yourself) this creates a level of pain too. Then, there are those women who think they know what they want but they in fact have no idea what they really want. Welcome to your new level of development dear student. This is not a perfect process, and people are human, and will make mistakes, and you (and them) will get hurt, even with the best of intentions for all sides. -Frank, because I have to be

80. Poly Doesn't Equal Living a Free For All Dear Frank, What exactly does it mean to be “poly”? I heard some student at my university talk about how one of their professors was in a poly relationship. Does that mean, like it’s a free for all, and he or his wife can do anything with anybody? I am intrigued by this idea, but can it actually work? Isn’t being in a committed relationship better? -Asker80
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Dear Asker80, Being poly in its simplest form means being non-monogamous. No, this does not necessarily mean it is a free for all with no rules, although some poly people do have “no rules” relationships. It just means that they have chosen to allow the people in the relationship to experience relationships with other people. Sometimes it is sex only, and other times it is emotional. Poly people can be just as “committed” as monogamous people in a relationship. Fidelity does not equal commitment. Being sexually faithful does not indicate a person would be a good partner. Being poly does not indicate the person would be a less loving partner. In all relationships there are comprises and rule setting. Setting up the rules to accommodate your partner is perfectly acceptable, provided it is something that you want to. (For example, a limit on the number of partners, meeting a partner before sex, getting a veto...) Most important is to know yourself well, to know what rules are most important to you. Honesty about expectations is the place to start. It is easier said than done though. The terms to define the relationship are not as important as the expectations associated with it. -Frank, because I have to be
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I have always had problems telling stories to women, my audience would either be distracted by something else or interrupt me. So, when I heard about the story telling session. I knew I HAD to attend it. The most important thing I learned: Storytelling is a key component in attracting and establishing an emotional bond with women. Through every story you share, the women finds out qualities about yourself that you convey through your stories. If you have problems telling good stories, get this part of your life handled now! Thank You Frank for taking the time to share your wisdom with me. - Chris

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Personalized Symbolic Peacocking Frank Telephone Consultations
Frank B Kermit, there is always something new to learn from being around you. What did I learn today? What symbols symbolize my personality? Examples: Geometric shape, Your initials... Being able to find the answers to all the above statements, linking each one to the others, coming up with stories to express and amplify woman's emotions, make her feel connected, or makes you more desirable to her; and why each piece of your peacocking has a special meaning for you, says a lot about your qualities, thus this makes the woman wants to be connected to you, because if she gets so, that makes her also special to you, as well to her own. When you get alone with her, she'll feel special, because she knows that you picked her up from all the other girls, this saves you time, and pain. All the best to you and Thanks FBK! -M. S.

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81. Is There A Value In Lying About Being Poly? Dear Frank, Yesterday I was on a date, and I told the girl that I was into open relationships. This was our second date. Until that moment, everything between us was fantastic. But this morning I got an email from her saying that she simply could not deal with dating a poly guy. I do not want to lie to the women I date, nor do I want to lead them on. Poly is who I am, but at the same time, this is not the first potential partner I have lost due to being honest about my beliefs. However this IS the first time in a long time that I have felt so strongly for another person. Everything I have ever read about being poly says that I need to be honest and upfront about it, yet I can't help but wonder if I had kept my big mouth shut, that we would have continued to build a relationship, and then maybe, after we both felt secure about it, brought it up gradually and who knows? Maybe she'd have discovered that poly was for her too at that point. I hate the idea of lying about it or cheating on a partner (I haven't crossed that line ever). In fact, I know people who encourage adultery as an accepted way of life, but when I talk to them about being poly instead, they look at me like I am an idiot. Is it OK to omit telling the truth, at least at first? -Asker81

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Dear Asker81, Ok first off, the only time you can be directly open about being poly is when you are dating women that they themselves are openly poly. That is to whom the literature you have read applies to. If you date a swinger or a poly girl, you will have to talk about what is going to happen, out of respect for all your other partners. If you are dating a girl that comes from a mainly monogamous background, then telling her in the first few dates, before you even have sex with her will send her running. The ONLY time a woman has not run from me when I told her was when SHE WAS ALREADY into me. At that point, I could have claimed I believed in passing gas as a religion, and she would not have cared. Pick up a copy of my book From Loser To Seducer, and check out my rules for Harem Management. It covers in some detail how to be honest about being poly, without messing up your chances and scaring her off before she gives it a chance. In my experience, it is best to develop the connection first, and worry about the relationship structure later. If she feels a connection to you strongly enough, she will follow whatever relationship structure you then set. I believe that women are more flexible than men, and can change their core, or their programming more easily than men, which is why men must lead the relationship. I also think this is the underlying reason why women
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think that men will change for them out of acts of love…they are projecting what they (the women) would do themselves for the person they love. -Frank, because I have to be 82. The Pre-Vacation Break Up Tactic Dear Frank, I have been seeing this girl for a few months now. She calls herself my girlfriend, but I have explained to her that I see other girls, and although I do give her permission to see other guys, I told her it would bug me. What I have also told her is that I only see other girls for sex, but I have an emotional connection with her only. This is not playing her. I really feel it with her. She has been cool with this so far, and to my knowledge has not seen any other guys, although she knows I pick up a club chick now and then. Next week, I am leaving the country for 2 months, and she is FREAKING out. She says that while I am away, I am going to be out banging, and that I am going to find someone else, and so on. While we were in the same town, this wasn’t as much as an issue with her. But now that I am leaving on a business trip, she is completely off her nut, threatening that if I go on this trip, she is going to break up with me. What can I do to reassure her that I am not looking to replace her, even if I have the same kind of fun out there, that I had while I was here? -Asker82
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Dear Asker82, I think this is nothing more than the old PreVacation Break Up Tactic. My analysis is that this woman really has it bad for you. She sees you as such a high value male, that she is not willing to risk seeing other men, as it may cause you to dump her. Until now, you were in town, so when she wanted sex, she could come to you. Now you are not going to be there for 2 months. My bet is that she does not think she can be faithful to you in that time, so she plans to break up with you while you leave on the trip, and on the break up have sex with all her “backup guys”, and then when you come back, she will get back together with you. This will create lots of drama and sex for her, and since you two were broken up, she is not cheating, and she can still say that she was never with another guy when the two of you were together. Technically it would be true. In her mind, this makes her more special to you, than any other girl you date, and it is a way for her to feel she has some control over your logical ability to justify abandoning her. This whole tactic is for her to give herself permission to cheat, even though you told her she could. Take it as a compliment. Women only pull this stuff for high value males (that makes cheating a potential criteria for break ups…as you did say it would bug you.) Low value males just never get told when she cheats on him. To maintain control over the situation, continue to reassure her that she is
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UNIQUE to you in certain fashions that no other woman could match, and every time she tries to break it off, respond with “We Will Talk About This When I Get Back!” This leaves the conversation open-ended, unfinished and unresolved. You already set a great frame. So even if she does have sex, you can let it bug you, but you do not have to dump her, and can maintain leadership of the relationship. -Frank, because I have to be 83. Think She Might Be Into Funky Stuff? Dear Frank, I am into BDSM but it is hard to find women who are already into it and single. At the same time, I date “vanilla” women a lot, but I am afraid to even bring the idea of experimenting with BDSM stuff to their attention. How do you screen a girl to see if she would be interested in flogging or being flogged without scaring her? -Asker83 Dear Asker83 Use humour to find out if she would be open to it. During the course of conversation, make a joke about how you intend to spank her if she continues to be a “bad girl”, and gage her reaction to it. If she freaks out about that, it
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means that she is not into it, at least not with you. If you are already sleeping with her, try things like pulling her hair, and spanking her rear-end. Again gage her response. Sometimes the issue is not BDSM, but how much trust and comfort she has with you as a man. All women love exploring their own sexuality. If you present yourself as a man they can feel safe with, their willingness to try new things increases. I will give you an example from my own life: One woman I was seeing once never experimented with S&M. All she knew about it was horror stories. When I told her I liked to dabble, she freaked out and made me promise never to include her in that aspect of it. I agreed. 4 months later, she told me that she felt so safe and comfortable with me, that she would try anything. I suggested S&M, and she went for it. She let me tie her up, blind fold her, and use a variety of whips, crops and floggers on her. To her own surprise, she couldn't get enough of it. Today when we talk about it, its fun to compare how her attitude changed from the time we first met. This is an example of how people can change in relationships, and how boundaries change as well. -Frank, because I have to be

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84. Why Do Guys Omit Certain Things When Women Ask? Dear Frank, Why do guys try to omit things when girls ask them questions to get to know them better? Are they just trying to be mysterious, or do they really have nothing going one, and are trying to hide it. I wish guys would just talk to me, more like my girlfriends. -Asker84 Dear Asker84, Oh no you don’t! Any guy that would talk to you they way your female friends talk to you would be the biggest turn off for you. He might make a good friend, or you might even use him as your therapist, but you would never be attracted to him for any sort of sex, nor a relationship. The difference between guys and girls is that guys look for reason they should be having sex with a girl (as they want to have as much sex, with as many girls as possible) and girls, who are on the receiving end of tonnes of male attention and approaches, look for reasons to disqualify a guy. That is why my mother vs. lover theory works. As long as he addresses her emotional needs, he becomes her lover via default. Guys that are good with women know that the less he talks the better, as she will always just assume whatever she needs to
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assume in order to move the connection process along. It is what women do. A little mystery never hurts either, but the dumbest thing a guy can do is talk his way out of sex. The less he talks, the more she talks, and the more she talks, the more special she feels, and the more special she feels, the more she will want to have sex with him. -Frank, because I have to be

85. Why Don’t Girls Like Smart Guys? Dear Frank, I am a smart guy. I was taught growing up that I should learn to be smart, go to school, get a good job, and then find a girl. Well, I went to school, became really smart (I have a high IQ), got an amazing job, but I never get past 3 dates with anyone I am seeing. On dates, I show them how smart I am, telling them about my academic awards and my jobs, but the only girls that show any interest are those girls that only want really rich guys. Why don’t girls like smart guys? -Asker85 Dear Asker85, Girl do like smart guys…it is just that being smart is not the same thing as being attractive. If all you have got going for you is being smart
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that means you can confirm things in life she already knows, or basis facts. Please take this to heart: Confirming reality is BORING. Showing how smart you are with facts is BORING. It sounds like to me that you offer No drama in interactions, no emotional range to make her feel alive. The old model of being a good provider (sounds like that is what your parents taught you) is not enough anymore. As I once told an up and coming Guru, If you continue to follow down this path, you will only be able to get a woman that just wants to settle down, and use you for financial means, she will cheat on you, and will eventually leave you. I suggest that you focus on learning to tell interesting stories on topics that women are interested in like energy, spirituality, and/or how to have adventure everyday of your life. Your degrees and your job really do not seem to be doing it. Instead of asking why women do not like smart guys, maybe you should challenge that brain of yours and ask why you don’t like women enough to change the way you communicate with them so you can connect with the women of your dreams, since the test results of what you have already been doing confirms that your methods DO NOT WORK? Now THAT’S going to take some smarts to answer…that, and some brutal honesty. -Frank, because I have to be

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I immediately felt humbled by the angle from which Frank is coming from. Not many men that are gifted with Women are humble.. He feels the need to help his fellow man. Franks approach is linear, straightforward and honest. He comes from the worst end and takes you on the journey from where he was and where he is. It's direct and honest, with actions that you can absorb and implement immediately. Just being aware of where you are can start you on the path. I must say, I find Frank very respectful towards everyone. He doesn't put on a deal of fluff, but is respectful in telling you the way it is. I highly recommend Frank to any of the guys who haven't yet checked it out. -S. Pice

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I hate reviews... you never know if they are placed here by the authors friends or if they are REAL! Well.. I'm real... and I think this book is awesome! Accepting responsibility and being a man is TRUE inner work... not sitting down and wishing things would get better. Getting up off your butt and making it better! There are many items that you will work with... I learned so much about death and facing it like a man... my walk looking at tombstones slapped me out of a 10 year funk. Life is my job... so I bought an extra book for my 16 year old son! I'll be using this the rest of my days... what a great investment I made. -Will P.

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FBK's seminars pull no punches and gives you Frank advice. I've read both his books and this seminar reinforced my impression that all his ideas and concepts are grounded in personal experience. This make's it easier for him to explain his theories (i.e. The Ten Different Emotional Needs of Women) since he uses his real life experience to get his point across. FBK’s material is quite a bit different from any of the other material you might have come across in the seduction studies. His seminar was well organized but he still took the time to answer everyone's question in turn. When answering questions and giving advice he cuts straight to the core of your issue and he seems to be able to "diagnose" problems that you weren't even aware of. I definitely plan to attend his future seminars and get a hold of his new books when they come out. -Dan D.

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86. How Do You Act When You Meet A Girl Through Her Parents Dear Frank, I have been shopping at a particular clothing store for years now. A very nice married couple runs it, and I am one of their best customers, and subsequently get some of the best deals. Professionally, I work in the field of computers. They once asked me if I could get their daughter a computer for a good price. They have been so good to me that I figured they were due a favour, so I agreed, and they set up for me to meet their daughter. When I saw their daughter, I thought she was nice looking, and I would totally go out with her if I had met her under different circumstances (we are close to the same age). In addition, I got the vibe that her parents would probably really like for me to take her out. Here is my problem: I am not really looking for a relationship; I just want to have fun at this stage in my life, and if I take out their daughter, I might end up losing the deals I get on my clothes, and have to shop elsewhere. I was going to let it drop, but now her parents have asked me to take her out. Now, what do I do? -Asker86

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Dear Asker86 Go out with the daughter. It will keep you in good terms with these people that you at least tried to date their daughter, even if nothing comes of it. In fact, you could use their guilt about trying to set you up as a means of getting even better deals in the future. When you are on the date, make it seem that you love meeting new people all the time, and figured it would be fun to meet with her. You must reframe how you met so that she does not assume the only way you get laid is to get parents to push their daughters on to you. Also on the date, you have to act as if you are “almost” doing her and her parents a favour by taking her out. My guess is that this is not the first time they have tried to “marry her off”, and the guys she dated either acted way too eager, or not interested enough. Over the course of the date, make her feel that she EARNED your attentions for things OTHER than her looks. Continue to see her, and go into harem management mode after you start sleeping with her. From the moment they tried to set you up, they already threatened to violate your business relationship with them. At the very least, you may as well have a relationship with their daughter, since you will eventually lose the business relationship no matter how it turns out. -Frank, because I have to be
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87. Getting Past The Three Date Rule Dear Frank, I am dating a woman that goes by the threedate rule. She says she will not sleep with a guy until after the third date, but I do not want to wait that long, as I know for a fact she has had sex with some guys after only one or two dates. Our first date is this weekend. Any tips? -Asker87 Dear Asker87, Firstly NEVER AGREE TO THOSE TERMS. When a woman tries to put those kinds of restrictions for sex on a date, do NOT agree to it. Challenge it by telling her that you both will let things happen as they happen, and you both will only do things, as they naturally will occur. Period. Then CHANGE THE SUBJECT. Step two is to go to three different venues on your first date. Each venue needs to be distinct enough from the previous venue so that her sub-conscious mind thinks of it as three separate dates, instead of one date at three venues. This will make her more willing to have sex before her three-date rule. -Frank, because I have to be

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88. Some People Have Got It, and Some People Don’t Dear Frank, Why bother studying this seduction and pick-up stuff, if people are getting laid without it? -Asker88 Dear Asker88, If you were already getting laid without it, why would you be asking me this question? If you are already getting laid, then no, you do not need to study it. If you are NOT already getting laid, then whatever it is you are doing does not work, and the seduction/pick up material does, so studying it can be an option. Some people already know what to do to get laid. They already have the right instincts. Some people do not know what works to get them sex and relationships, so they need to reprogram their instincts and studying seduction/pickup can do that. -Frank, because I have to be 89. Male Lover In Triad Punched Holes In Condoms Dear Frank, My wife and I have just ended a four-year relationship with our male lover. Over the last few weeks, the condoms he was using kept breaking. At one point when I went to check his condoms, I found he had punched holes in
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all of them. I told my wife, and she was in disbelief that he would do such a thing. We confronted him, and finally he admitted to wanting his own kids, but not wanting to raise them. He said that he figured we would be good parents, so he was trying to get my wife pregnant and pass if off as our child. I got so enraged, that I ended our sexual relationship with him, and have cut all ties. He has tried to apologizes and see us again, but I forbid it. He was a part of our lives for the last 4 years. We all went on vacation together, and shared so much together, and now, I feel like he betrayed us. My wife still thinks it was kind of flattering in a way and she is upset too, but not as angry as I am, although she does agree we should not see him again. Around the house there are a few mementos of his involvement in our life, and I want to get rid of them all, but my wife would like to keep a couple of them out. I do not know what to make of it. -Asker89 Dear Asker89 There are two things that make me angry reading this. The first is that idiot put you and your wife at major risk for a variety of diseases. The second is that you wife does not seem to be as angry as she should be. I assume he was not only sleeping with the two of you. That means he put you both at risk for things other than just a pregnancy. I would suggest that you
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both refrain from threesomes with anybody for 8 months, then get tested for all forms of STDs to make sure you are both clean. After that, you both need to figure out some new rules and guidelines if you re-enter the lifestyle. Your wife may have had some feelings for this man, which explains why she is not so quick to dump his stuff. In the end, I think it would be best to DUMP IT ALL, and keep an eye on your wife for the next little while. What he did was dangerous. Go to your local police precinct and find out what you would need for a restraining order against him. Do the information gathering as a pre-cautionary measure, just in case he turns into a stalker. As for the mementos and such, keep them out of visual range for a while. Include all the mementos in one stored box. Do not throw it out in the event he wants it back as a form of his property, or if you need it as evidence in a future court case. If he was crazy enough to pull this stunt, there is no telling what else he would do. No matter what his excuse is, under no circumstances should either of you consider rekindling anything with him. If your wife tries to see him behind your back, ask for a divorce. -Frank, because I have to be 90. Gaming a “10” Dear Frank,

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I want to date a “10”. I can consistently get 7s, 8s, and even 9s, but the 10s are elusive. What I want to know is what is the single best tactic to use to get a “10”? -Asker90 Dear Asker90, Firstly, you have not defined what you mean by a “7”, “8”, “9”, or a “10”. The easy answer would be to identify a “10”, and to see her as a “9”, but without any parameters to understand what you mean by a ten, I cannot say it would work for sure. The two tactics that seems to work BEST when gaming a “10” (at least for the women that *I* consider a “10”) is the constant action of calling her on ALL her bad behavior. Whenever she acts out negatively, however subtle or slight it may be, call on her on IMMEDIATELY. You when call her out on it, you have two choices: 1-Use humour 2-Scold her like a little girl. If you are a screamer, you will attract many damaged women that will seek to push you until you strike her in violence. She is so used to having relationships like that, she will push you until you break, or otherwise she will leave you. Younger girls with little relationship experience will tolerate the screaming, but having them be faithful is another story.
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The second tactic that works is to constantly undermine her with your own subtle bad behaviors, especially with remarks to remind her that she is replaceable at any time by making her feel that as much of a “10” as she is in the minds of others, you actually value her as less than a “10”. This is done to turn her own game against her, and because it matches how she thinks, she develops a stronger trust and bond to you. Most tens have ironic amounts of self-esteem issues, and the man that grazes these insecurities is the man that will best lead the relationship with her. BEWARE: The amount of drama that a “10” needs in order to feel alive is ENORMOUS, and if you do not have the interest to manage that kind of drama, be done with them quick. Sex with a “10” is never as good as sex with a woman that sees herself as much less than a “10”, and offers better sex to compensate for the way she perceives herself however right or wrong her perception may be. Make sure you are ready to deal with her drama, as a “10”s drama can be quite destructive to a comfortable existence, and there is, in my experience, no such thing as a drama-free “10”. Good luck. You will need it. -Frank, because I have to be

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Frank’s Telephone Consultations Are you finding that monogamous relationships do not work for you but you are still unsure as to what the answer is because you do not know where to go to next? Are you considering an alternative to monogamy, and desperately do not want to have to lie about your desires, and refuse to cheat on your partner? Then this telephone consultation is going to be for you. In this session, you will learn about monogamy, the swinger lifestyle, polyamorous, BDSM, being asexual or bisexual in relationships, having a harem of lovers, the single lifestyle, and what the various rules for each relationship management structure are. This session is open to men, women and couples.

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Frank's insight into the male/female dynamic is extremely impressive. In a short time he is able to assess and give positive criticism and advice on how you could improve your skill set FAST. He also provides you with a keen understanding of the way women operate on a deeper level. Truly, he is a gifted teacher who cares and wants to see you grow. I was fortunate enough to call him and thanks to his suggestions and advice, I get calls from women all the time, even when some have boyfriends! -U.D.R.

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91. Why Can I Not Get A “10”? Dear Frank, Why can’t I get laid with a “10”? -Asker91 Dear Asker91, Since you gave me no additional information on your personal situation, I will give you the top four reasons I have encountered amongst the clients, students and mentors I have seen and/or helped. These reasons factor into guys not being able to find their own version of a “10”. 1. Lack of Definition- The guys themselves do not even define what a “10” is for them. In fact, they leave it up to others to call a girl a “10”, but find that these girls are not “10”s to them. Self-Sabotage- Often it is issues of creative avoidance, punishing themselves, or issue of deservedness. A number of guys who have come to me to figure out their inner game, will often recount how when they had the chance to go for being with a “10”, they ruined it somehow. Often it comes from the guy seeing her as a “10”, but seeing himself as less than a “10”.

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Fear of Intimacy- A fear of sex with women, or sexual intimacy. These are the guys that seduction cannot help. Avoidance of “10” Women- There are guys that choose to stay away from a “10”. These guys know the work it takes to manage a relationship with a “10”, and the drama that comes with gaming a “10”. For some guys, it just is not worth it. This applies to guys that have game, but who really do not care what other guys think of their choice of women.

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92. Why And How Venue Changes Work Dear Frank, Can you please explain the idea of the venue change, and how and why it works? Thanks. -Asker92

Dear Asker92, Each venue needs to be distinct enough from the previous venue so that her sub-conscious mind thinks of it as three separate dates, instead of one date at three venues. This will
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make her more willing to have sex before her three-date rule. Venue changes make it feel like multiple dates. For example: I once met a girl through speed dating in a club venue, and then had our first date (but second venue) days later at an ice cream shop, and after ice cream took her to a movie theatre to watch professional wrestling (first date, third venue). The make out session was so hot and heavy in there; I could not believe how intense it was. It wasn’t until I understood how changing venues are interpreted by the sub-conscious that I figured out what happened. I also later found out she was normally quite the prude too! -Frank, because I have to be

93. Gifts are Great Opportunities And Traps Dear Frank, I just started to see this girl. It has only been a few dates over 3 weeks. Her birthday is coming up, and she invited me to celebrate it with her family and friends. I am OK with meeting her friends, and a little nervous about her family, but my question is what I should get her? I mean, we have only dated 3 weeks, but I do not want to come off as cheap. At the

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same time, if I go and get something really expensive, would I be leading her on at all? -Asker93

Dear Asker93, What traps gift-giving can be. Here are some tips: First, spend as LITTLE as possible. Over the first few interactions with any new lover, if you start to spend $$$$ on her for gifts, you are putting yourself into the provider category of her brain, which means no sex for you. The cheaper the gift, the better, otherwise she will expect you to keep paying out lots more money for her in the future. Second, the best gifts have to represent the kind of LIFESTYLE you live. A card is boring, and a trinket is hit and miss. My suggestion is to take her on a little adventure. Go for a private picnic in the park, with a cheap bottle of honey-wine or a drive in the country. TIME with you IS the gift. For gift ideas, write down everything you know about her. Everything. Your gift idea will be in there. Think favorite color, drink, animal, etc. Whatever it is, make it come with a story about your time together, that you can use to further the seduction. If the gift is a story, and it is short enough like a poem, print it, and put it in a 1$ frame. Keep it cheap and thoughtful. By
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the way, do not get her any LINGERIE OR SEX TOYS YET. Think reputation especially if the gift is to be given in front of family. No clothes. No jewelry. No gift certificate. With a girt certificate, it could be something the two of you could enjoy together, but she will then focus on how much you spent. Not good The bottom line is that a gift should reflect whether she has ALREADY had sex with you or not. If she has not yet had sex with you, she has not yet earned more than the types of gifts suggested here. -Frank, because I have to be

94. Dream Interpretation Dear Frank, I read your book From Loser to Seducer, and I am a seducer-in-training just like you were. In that book you mentioned that you even started to dream that you were seducing women as a sign that you were changing. I am interested in dream interpretation. Since getting into my development, my dreams have been all over the place, and I wanted to know if you have any resources about how to interpret my dreams. Thanks. -Asker94

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Dear Asker94, Bear in mind that I am not an expect in dream interpretation. What I learned I learned as a means of my own particular interests and in the use of seducing women. Based on what I know about dream interpretation here are some tips: 1. Everyone in your dream is really you, or a part of you. It could represent a body part, an emotion, or a younger or older self, a past self, a future self, etc. When it comes to interpretation of symbols, you have to know the difference between actual symbol, and images that are commonplace to your situated knowledge. (For example, if you gamble and you see a lottery machine in your dream, it may mean something totally different than for someone else who does not regularly gamble) Dream interpretation is something you have to plan ahead on. Thus, read any dream interpretation book, but chose only ONE source. That will train your mind to use particular symbols when communicating. By doing this when you dream, your mind will use those learned symbols in your dreams, and you will be able to interpret them better.

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95. Guilt Makes Us Better Because It Keeps Us From Making Similar Mistakes Dear Frank, I have come to the conclusion that what is holding me back in getting better with women is GUILT. I have been thinking about this and I have decided that the emotion of GUILT is utterly useless. Guilt is very destructive and causes low self-esteem. I have to stop punishing myself for things that went wrong, so getting rid of ever feeling guilty is the best way to do it. Have I stumbled on to something here? What do you think? -Asker95

Dear Asker95, This is a wonderfully convenient intellectual construct, but reality won't support it. This type of thinking (if you are going extreme with it which I am assuming, and I hope that I am wrong) is a path to self-destruction. Try this: An EXCESS of guilt is utterly useless. Guilt, like any emotion, is not inherently good or bad. It can be useful or not. The harm is not the emotion itself but the excess of any emotion. Too much of anything is unhealthy, just as too little of anything is unhealthy. I have
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seen this kind of thinking before. I can tell you that in the short term, it seems to give you what you want, but in the long term, it will cost you more than you might be willing to pay. Why? Well at first, it feels great because you have absolved yourself of all negative guilt and shame, but with that goes a sense of responsibility to people around you. That is dangerous. A person (born healthy) is designed to feel a range of emotions. If you cut out one of them, in order for there to be a perceived balance, something else will go to excess amounts to compensate. Guilt helps keep us sharp, and can help make us better. Think of those situations where the mistakes cause serve damage to a person. For example, you drive drunk and kill someone who never did anything to you. Are you saying that being devoid of guilt in that situation is a good thing? Guilt is pain. Under the painpleasure principle, the avoidance of pain is a more powerful motivator than the pursuit of pleasure. Pain is a learning tool to keep you on track not to make certain mistakes again, and a motivator to seek out personal redemption. -Frank, because I have to be

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I personally learned a lot the "infini" knowledge of Frank B Kermit on the topic; it really impressed me. On the more practical note, there is always a few key things in a meeting that stays in your head and you know you have learned forever. For me, these could be summed as: Girls are not interested in "informational" content but in "emotional content" so you always need to shift the conversation to the emotions behind the information. This explains why sometimes a girl would be bored and (I didn't know at the time) would be re-interested in the conversation because I had (unconsciously) reached the emotion level. Now, I know how to do it consciously and be aware of this in the chat with girls. Frank B Kermit, I personally think you have a particular talent in teaching and conveying key information in a very limited period of time. - C. Oogar

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Frank B. Kermit's book I'm A Man, That's My Job is without a doubt the best book available on inner game. I should know because I have read the others. Inner Game is more than just repeating a mantra, standing a certain way or developing a phony 'persona' to overcome your insecurities. Frank leads you step-by-step on a journey to find out who you really are, what you want and what you have to do to get there. Don't expect Frank to give you a collection of tips and tricks to meet women. This book is really about you and how to become your ideal self. This approach leads to success in all areas of life especially with women. I have benefited from reading Frank's book and I am confident that others will find it extremely helpful. -KL, USA

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96. When The Going Gets Tough, Where Do You Get Your Source Of Inspiration? Dear Frank, I have a question for you. When the going gets tough, where do you get your source of inspiration? I know of this one lady who did not believe in God, and for her, she had her two daughters that kept her going. What is your source of inspiration that kept you going from Loser to Seducer, as well as facing your challenges today? -Asker96

Dear Asker96, At different times in my life, the things that kept me going were varied. Sometimes, it was just to see if I could survive till the end of month, and other times it was the ability to learn as much as possible. Other motivations for me have been "to be remembered", or specific goals such as "to be in a parade". Through my cathartic period and redemption I learned that I had a desire to make the world a better place. I know this may sound stupid, but for me, that is what it has come down to. Rather than try to change the world, I change myself, and simply hope that I influence others to modify their behaviour for the better and make their world better.
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Day to day motivation is based on the idea that I like to teach, and everything I go through, good and bad, work or seduction related, will make me a better teacher. In regards to "God", I am not certain that I believe God exists in the way that Christians have been taught. I believe that if there is a God, then, whatever God is, it is probably beyond our understanding, and either way, we will find out when we die (maybe). It does not really affect the reality of our existence, but it can influence the way we live. To learn more about my base life philosophies including how I figure out the meaning of life for myself, and how I draw strength from them, check out my book on inner game entitled, I’M A Man, That’s My Job. -Frank, because I have to be

97. She Asked Me About Threesomes Dear Frank, My girlfriend brings up the possibility of us doing a threesome with another girl every now and then. Sometimes I know she is joking, and sometimes, I think she is serious. I always respond with lots of enthusiasm saying, “Sure, whenever you want!” But then, the topic gets dropped, and when I try to bring it up later she says no way, that she was just joking. When I
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point out how serious she is at times, she responds with “Never!” Any idea what the f*ck is going on? -Asker97 Dear Asker97, First, I personally think she would be willing to do it, but your answer to her indicates you want her to make all the arrangements. Basically, you are making her feel like your mother. Since she brings it up so much, she probably really wants to experiment with girls (assuming she hasn’t already), and is testing the waters with you, but you are failing her test by not addressing her emotional needs. Everything Out of Her Mouth is A Test. Treat it as a test. Maybe she is interested, or maybe she just wants to see how you handle the question but could never go through the threesome. So, don't assume just because she brings it up that she wants it for sure. (Personally though, I think that she is curious enough). Usually women will tease men with threesomes in three cases: She is bisexual or bi-curious, and is craving another woman, AND/OR you have demonstrated such high value that she is just trying to please you, AND/OR she is just testing you to see if you can address her emotional needs. In your case I think it is the third one. You are the man. You must lead the frame. It is not up
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to her to be with women whenever she wants…it is up to YOU to take charge of making it happen. For example, you need to decide who is the focus? Are the girls sharing you? Is this to live out her fantasy, making her the focus? Are you and her going to focus on dominating the guest? You are the man. Calibrate the needs of the situation, and lead. The most important thing about your guest is to make sure that whomever you get for the “other girl”, it is someone that will NOT tarnish your mutual reputations. It cannot be someone that could affect either of your lives outside of the sex. So, no co-workers, teachers, best friends, etc…that usually is the rule, especially for the first time. You must take precautions to address her emotional needs. Your girl must be reassured that you are not looking to replace her. That is her emotional need. She fears being abandoned, and therefore that she is not special. Get it? The next area to focus on is her sexuality. Can you handle her sexuality? Are you sure you would really be happy to see her get off with a woman? Is your ego capable of handling it? Are you capable of having the stamina to satisfy two women at the same time? If this is something you want, stock up on things like vitamins, supplements for erections, do not masturbate, and make sure there are some clean sex toys available. Remember when you need a break, you can sit back and watch them play with vibrators~that keeps everyone happy!

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There are other things that she could be trying to do such as: Is she looking to replace you with another woman? Is she experienced with it, and just wants to include you? Is she cheating on you with a girl, and is trying to have her cake and eat it too? Focus on yourself as well. What is it YOU want? Consider if this is this something that is a short-term fantasy, or long-term lifestyle? Finally, the test: Could she just be testing you to see if you'd judge her. Maybe she did have experience with women in the past, but is too scared that you would judge her for it. Maybe she got left for the other girl from a past threesome, and is too scared to date another guy who wants them? Maybe a lesbian came on to her, and she is questioning her sexuality and is looking to you for answers. Figure out who you are, and how you feel about threesomes. And focus on the truth now, not just some porno fantasy. How would you feel, really, watching her be with another woman? If you can explore these questions honestly and find the answers to be positive for a threesome, then it is a matter of you leading the frame. I think you would have had your threesome by now, if you had addressed her emotional needs. -Frank, because I have to be

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98. Masturbation Makes Me Happier Dear Frank, I am an adult aged virgin (age 28). I take issue with your Adult Male Virgin Seminar. I do not believe in sex before marriage, and I can alleviate my sexual frustration through masturbation. I am not religious; this is just a personal choice. Having sex will not make you any happier than masturbating. Masturbating is enough to satisfy me, and I do not need sex to feel balanced, so I can wait for the right one to come along. When she does, I will know, and she will not resent me for making her wait too. -Asker98

Dear Asker98, It never ceases to amaze me how much VIRGINS consider themselves experts on the effects of having sex. Well, I have to disagree on the masturbation issue. I spent 5 years jerking off too. And you know what? That didn't improve my happiness at all. Juggling 5 women I was sexual with however, was a great boost to my mental state. I can only speak from my experience, but you cannot even do that. How the heck would you know how a person would feel after sex? Masturbation can hurt you. If all you do is masturbate, you are training your body to only respond to your own touch. At the age of 28,
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my guess is that if you ever were with a woman, you would not function properly, as you have over-conditioned your body to respond to the sensation of your own hand and not a real woman. As for the “one” girl you are waiting for: She may appreciate you waiting, or she may not. She may resent that she will have to take the lead during sex to make up for your lack of experience. The real question is will you really be able to handle it if she is NOT a virgin. You might think you can, but wait until you get a serious girlfriend that has enjoyed her sex life before you came along, and you might feel differently. I think you already know that you are going to have a problem dealing with that kind of pressure on you, and I am sure it is going to contribute to you waiting even LONGER before finally having sex. I will give you one bit of free advice. Never masturbate in the morning, because you do not know what is going to happen that day, and you just might meet that “one”, and she is not going to make YOU wait. -Frank, because I have to be

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99. When Women Approach You Dear Frank, Ever since I lost a lot of weight and now dress better, women have been approaching me to talk. They do not directly come out and ask me out; they just ask for the time, or just start a conversation. The problem is I am not used to all this attention, and I have no idea how to act with them when they come up to me. I try to be nice to them, but after we talk for a while, I never even get their phone numbers when I ask for it. What am I doing wrong? -Asker99 Dear Asker99, I think you are being too nice too soon. Basically you’re being nice, is being interpreted by the girls as you being DESPERATE. No woman can feel special about herself if she is with a desperate guy. My guess is that you attract them on your looks, but fail to keep them by violating their emotional needs. One thing you can do that will directly improve your game from right where you are now is to show them a little SUSPICION when they approach you. Use this UNTIL you development a lack of neediness with new experiences. I have a belief that there are only two reasons any woman will open a man:

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1. 2.

She is attracted (in which case she will test him) She wants something (money, free stuff, info, etc).

Women get approached all the time. So if they are coming up to you, take it as a sign that she is interested in you, and make her feel she has earned your interest in return by showing her at first that you are suspicious. As the conversation progresses, you show her that you have become less suspicious until finally, she feels she has proven herself to you, such that she feels compelled to date you in the future. Why does this work? It communicates to her that you will not be taken for a ride. Acting like a man means understanding this, and making her feel that she has earned your attention shows her you are valued enough for women to try and game you, but that you are too high value to fall for it. -Frank, because I have to be

100. Mom Keeping Son Helpless Against School Bully Dear Frank, I am a single mom raising my only son alone. Bullies at school pick on my son. I have told my son to try and talk to these boys, and to try to
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be friends with them, but no matter what he says to them, they still hit him, and he comes home with bruises and sometimes he is bleeding. I am firmly against him fighting, and I do not want him getting violent with these boys. I have tried calling the school on these boys, but the school says that the fights happen off school grounds, so it is out of their justification. Is there anything that you can recommend I try next, that does not involve my son getting into fights? In the meanwhile, summer is almost here, and I hope to give my son some time away from these ruffians. -Asker100

Dear Asker100, At the end of the school year, forget about the summer “break” and enroll your son into a 5-7 day a week muscle building exercise and self defense program, and make sure you find a man that can teach him how to fight. You must be mentally incompetent if you think that stopping your son from learning to defend himself is going to make OTHER PEOPLE be less violent to him. You are training him to be a victim, and when he gets old enough to understand the dynamics of what is going on, he will know to blame and abandon you. -Frank because I have to be

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Frank Telephone Consultations Being a male virgin post-adolescence can be one of the most stigmatizing in today’s society. With society inundating you the image of the virile male sexually conquering all women before him you feel a failure in the eyes of the mass culture around you. You feel alienated from your male friends who all talk about their sexual conquests and must hide this shameful secret lest they use it against you. Women, in their typical hypocrisy, who pretend to be soft, gentle, caring victims who want the nice guy will turn around, pour shame on you admitting your sexual inexperience. And as if all the above weren’t bad enough there’s the very personal pain, anguish and despair that cannot be described by words that haunts you every moment of your life.
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For the first time in your life you will have your problem seriously addressed in a frank (forgive the pun!) and honest manner. No holding back from you and no coddling from Frank B Kermit either. You won’t be told inane hypocritical, bull like “it’s ok, everyone has different times when they’re ready” or “don’t worry there’s nothing wrong with being a virgin at 21, 24, 30, 40, etc.” or any of the other insulting and degrading nonsense you get from family that even they don’t believe in. It’s the real deal and not only will you be able to talk openly about the very thing that slowly corrodes your life with others in a safe environment but you will told and given the right attitude to have to remedy the problem. You’ll given the right mentality to have, the right resources to look up, and the vitally important information on the most crucial aspect of losing your virginity: women. In short you won’t be coddled here, you’ll have the truth smacked right into your face that you’re a man, it’s your problem and you have to deal with it, no one else will do it for you, certainly not some girl. Not only will you learn how to solve your problem of virginity but a door will be opened where you’ll learn how to deal with other problems
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with your life as well. A light will go off in your head and the simple mantra of “you’re a man, it’s your job, your responsibility, deal with it” will invigorate you in many others areas of life. The only downside to the seminar is that while it does give you a good kick in the ass the possibility remains that you’ll end up stuck in the same rut a few days later. Other than that, I highly recommend Frank B Kermit’s Virgin seminar. To the hapless virgin without a clue in the world this seminar will be like a godsend. It will help you with the confidence and reassurance you need to deal with this most troubling of problems. For perhaps the first time in your life you will have the chance to open up fully and honestly about the very thing you and your family and friends try to deny but is still the most damning, painful thing on your mind 24/7. You owe it to yourself. And you deserve nothing less. - Cédéric P. (age 29)

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Guys, there is a book that you must get your hands on! It will forever change the way you view dating and relationships. It's called Everything Out of Her Mouth is a Test. Have you ever been with a woman where you're alone and it's just you and her, maybe you've had an otherwise beautiful time together, your emotional needs seem to be addressed, you're in a good mood and things seem comfortable and going in your favor, but suddenly, out of the blue, she says something that leaves you thinking "how could she possibly say that to me?" There is only one thought that flashes in your mind; "DON'T SCREW THIS UP!" Ok, so now you're in a panic! Your heart is racing! You're thinking "Did I do
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something wrong? What did I do? what did I say? Should I just apologize? What can I say or do to make her calm down? How can I possibly change the subject and get this off her mind? Why can't she just calm down and act the way ME AND THE BOYS do when we're hanging out? Is there something wrong with her? What if she rejects me?" You're going through all the cheesy lines in you can think of. But what if you can just wait this out!..you close your eyes and tap your heels and wait a few seconds and look at her again...she's STILL waiting on you to reply! Think fast! Ok, so now not only are you not thinking fast, you're also frozen stiff! In fact, you're scared to say anything! This is about the time when, to your surprise, SHE STARTS TELLING YOU WHAT YOU SHOULD SAY! AND NOT ONLY IS SHE TELLING YOU WHAT TO SAY, SHE'S ALSO TELLING YOU WHAT TO DO!!! Why can't she just love you for the MAN that you are and stop acting like your mother? BECAUSE SHE'S TESTING YOU! AND YOU'VE JUST FAILED!!! To learn exactly why EVERY THING OUT OF HER MOUTH IS A TEST and what you can do about
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it, just read this book. But guys, let's be clear on something; you can make excuses all day long, but It's not her fault, it's yours! You are a MAN - and this is precisely why SHE MUST TEST YOU; so you can PROVE that you are a trustworthy mate, a great leader amongst your tribe, and can build a bigger better fire and stronger hut than any other potential mate! SAY WHAT????? You see guys, I've discovered a startling secret from Frank when it comes to women; they have this little thing called biological programming. It's been going on for millions of years, and it's all about instinct. A woman's biological programming gives her strong emotional needs that you must first address before she will become your lover. If you do not address her emotional needs and prove to her that you are a worthy lover, her motherly instincts will kick in and she will start mothering you! That's right, you heard me; SHE WILL START TREATING YOU LIKE A LITTLE BOY! She'll tell you what to wear, what to eat, what to do, what not to do, what to say, what not to say,
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when to go to bed...and it won't be a pretty sight! So if you don't start acting like a MAN, you won't get treated like a MAN. "Ok", you may be asking, "I know this may seem obvious, but how can I start acting like a man?" You can start by studying the lessons in the book! "Ok," you may still be asking, "What if I just want to go out and have a good time without having to worry about all this complicated stuff?" Well, that's precisely why you should BE A MAN ABOUT IT and learn the secrets of what you need to know to attract women and YOU'LL NEVER EVER NEED TO WORRY ABOUT THIS STUFF AGAIN!!!" Remember, you don't need to be the best in the world with this stuff to have success with women, you just need to be better than all the other average frustrated guys out there that are just the way you used to be before now! -Your friend Robbie of Toronto

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FRANK B KERMIT APPEARANCES
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