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By Jon Sinn
Enjoy! Why go out solo? When it comes to going out to meet. Many of you are probably asking: “Why even go out by yourself?” First. I had a layover in Albuquerque a couple of years ago.Introduction Welcome to your free report. and they flake for whatever reason? Well. getting comfortable going out alone was one of the most important things I learned in this secret underground seduction community. The topic that received the most votes (276) was “Going out Solo”. I went out and met a couple girls and had a make out session. they just don’t do it. because you’ll be comfortable knowing what to do to make it a good experience. Maybe your friends are married or have girlfriends. attract and seduce women. In your hands is an awesome report that will teach you everything you need to know about going out alone. Becoming comfortable going out alone to bars and clubs is really powerful because it gives you complete control over your social life. I could just go sit in this shitty hotel room or I could go out into the town and have a fun night. How often have you made plans with some friends to go to some bar that you’re really excited about it. In fact. most guys are uncomfortable going out by themselves. Or maybe they just don’t have the interest in going out to hit on girls. Others may be a little bit older. Thanks to all the blog readers who voted for the topic they wanted. most of us who belong to the secret underground Internet seduction community don’t have a bunch of friends who want to go out and pick up girls. which really does nothing to improve their skills with women. It’s also great if you ever find yourself bored while in a different state or country. I didn’t 2 © Sinns of Attraction . Well. because it means that you never have to worry about having something to do. now you can still go out by yourself. Instead they stay home. I was by myself coming back from a boot camp and I got stuck overnight. In fact. In it I’m going to break down how what you need to do to effectively go out solo. because you’ll be able to go out and have a great time no matter what. most guys are so uncomfortable going out by themselves.
what you need to do is what my friend. get in the shower and get ready while listening to music. That stuff messes up my state. No matter what. Being comfortable going out solo really gives you the ultimate control of your social life. “The workday is winding down now. So you just tell yourself you’ll do it tomorrow. or are somewhere where you don’t know anyone in the entire country. then you take your at bat) it’s good to have a ritual or a way to make yourself get into the process. 3 © Sinns of Attraction . So what I do is turn on some music. If you really. even if no one else is going to go out with you. When going to a night club.” Getting Into the Batter’s Box Instead of worrying. In my experience. I suggest you first start trying with doing a day game. because to me (and maybe you can relate to this). That’s going to be a lot easier than going to a night club. I personally make the batter’s box the shower. just a couple more hours until I have to go out. you can still go out by yourself and have a good time. but it was much. the biggest problem guys have going out by themselves is actually getting out of the house. showering and getting dressed is kind of a lot of work. Whether your friends flake. you can go out and have fun. Some guys (and this may be you) even start to feel anxious. I don’t like to have any lag time. calls getting yourself into the batter’s box. They think. if I you can get yourself into the batter’s box (kind of like a baseball analogy – in baseball. If I can get myself into the shower. Ron. you have to get in the batter’s box and you warm up a little. as the day winds down and it becomes closer to the time to get ready to go out. Okay. it’s easy to come up with excuses on why to not to go. Then I’ll go straight out. really have problems going out by yourself. It’s not a ton of work. Many guys get nervous around 5:00 or 6:00 pm. but it’s enough that I don’t really want to do it if I’m sitting on my couch at 8:30 or 9:00 at night watching TV. much better than sitting at home by myself in a hotel room. before you go out to bat. I don’t like to sit around waiting while I’m ready. about five or six hours before they are planning to go out. But. This is much more difficult when guys decide to go out at night than during the daytime. For me. You can convince yourself you’re tired … or focus on why it’s going to be a bad night. and the experience of my students. Moving the process forward will help you to get mentally prepared.get laid or anything. then I can go out.
This way you can get in a few warm-up sets. Some people do jumping jacks. You can if you want. it takes about three warm-up sets to get comfortable. It’s not really about trying to make conversation. This is common mistake that a lot of guys who go out by themselves make. use those warm-ups as a chance to get your conversational muscles flowing. It’s essential that you start talking to people as soon as you can. but for me. basically (pushups. then by all means. Take it from a guy who went out by himself three to five nights a week for probably four years or close to it. A warm-up set is an approach that you don’t care about. or to the few couple hanging around. It’s physical movement. at 10:00 there’s probably only two or girls in the entire place and they may not be that attractive. You could just say one thing to a person. once I’m here. and no one was there. The difference between a great night and a bad night happens in the first 20-30 minutes.” or “I like your dress. Generally. Try not to get to the venue too early.” Common Mistakes Solo Guys Make When you’re out by yourself. that’s a cool hat. but trust me. because you can’t warm up if no one is there. etc. right as club starts letting people in.” or “You have a really great energy. I’ll say. “Hey. A point in your ritual where you say. one thing to keep in mind is that the night is often decided early on. Sometimes I’ll warm up just by complimenting people. But the real key about setting up your batter’s box is to establish a point of no return. as you’re getting ready to go out. Sure. it’s about breaking that barrier about taking to strangers. You can either warm up and start talking to people right away or you’ll end up standing around frozen not talking to anyone.). “Okay. then I’m committed to going out. Keeping a conversation going is easy for me. you can talk to the bartenders. I made this mistake several times in my life too. think of ways to warm yourself up and start doing some state stuff. dude. Got there at 10:00. so I just like to break the stranger barrier and walk away. Make sure you go a half-an-hour later than you’ve planned.If you have issues with state. 4 © Sinns of Attraction . It’s all good to do. But if you need to break the barrier on the conversation too.” Then I walk away.
you have to look completely comfortable. Just look natural and comfortable. I’m going to get drunk tonight. how’s your beer?” “Yeah. When you come back just say. See. So make sure you get to the venue by say 10:30. less high-value girls.” It could be just a few words and then “See you around. Ideally.It’s All About the Warm-up! The key to a great night is in the warm up! If you want to have a fun and comfortable night when you go out alone. “How’s your night going?” They don’t need to be friends or buddy-buddy. Wow there’s a lot of chicks out tonight” or “Wow there’s not that many chicks out tonight. that’s the thing about your warm-up sets. The whole idea is to get mentally flowing … to get your brain warmed up. You can even make friends with a couple guys. Set Up Your Base Another great strategy for going out alone is to establish a home base. And. and hang with those dudes. Just say a couple comments to a dude at the bar.” What you’ve done though is set it up for when you come back. They can just be anyone. this would be with a group of girls you’re not interested in. You don’t need to be attracted to them at all. and then do three warm-ups approaches so by 10:45 or 10:50 you’re really ready to rock. Making friends is an over-statement of what you’re actually doing here. “Hey. You have to smile … and not slump … not look around … not look like you’re looking for someone … not look ashamed that you’re there by yourself. You don’t even need to make friends. but who are likely to be nice to you – less attractive. You don’t need to warm up with girls you’re trying to have sex with. 5 © Sinns of Attraction . A home base is a place you’re going to hang out between approaches. warm up early. You have to stand tall and confident.” Hey. And. ready to start looking for the girls you’re really attracted to. if you are standing at the bar by yourself. It’s just so you’re not standing at the bar by yourself.
When I do this. “Where Are Your Friends?” It’s super rare to be asked “Where are your friends?” From 2008 to 2012. when I was going out three. That’s really the kiss of death. The first thing is you tell the girl you came by yourself. It’s okay to be desperate. five nights a week by myself. then you start to get on their radar – and not for the right reason. They start thinking. four.Fitting Right In Another good strategy if you’re out by yourself and you need to make a base and you haven’t talked to anyone yet is just to stand with your back to a group of people. I probably got asked where my friends were maybe ten times in hundreds of nights of going out. but maybe 50% of the way so it looks like maybe I’m part of this group. it’s not okay to sound desperate. “Oh. I’m just killing time waiting for a friend. why is that guy wandering around for? What’s he doing?” Even if you don’t make a base. I mention how I backpacked through Europe and it’s totally normal over there to go to a bar by yourself. I’ll just have my back turned to them. maybe I’m not. However. but if you can’t do that.” because that sounds desperate. but close enough that it looks like I might be a part of their group. Not all the way. 6 © Sinns of Attraction . Let’s say there are four people standing around the bar. try to stand in one spot rather than be moving all around. If people see you walk around two. four or five times in an hour. depending on how you feel about lying – even though you’re going to telling kind of lie either way. You have two options. you want to make friends with people. It’s really important that you don’t look like you’re ashamed or weirded out by being alone. I’ll stand not super close to them. “Oh. You don’t want to just be like. three. You want to look normal and natural. and I just really needed to get away from my roommate – or some other story that explains why I came out alone. it does occasionally happen so here’s what you should do if it does. I just came out by myself and I’m looking to get some pussy. because that’s too much of a creep factor. I’ll just be sipping my drink hanging out. Ideally. then you want to avoid walking around by yourself the whole night. You need to have an excuse.
But if you’ve done it more than twice. you don’t want to be satisfied just getting out. Or like I said. Generally. don’t be afraid to switch venues.The second thing you could do is point to a group of girls on the dance floor or across the bar or club and say. That way you’ll keep in the state. I’d bounce venues. 7 © Sinns of Attraction . Keep Your Focus! A lot of times guys will go out and just be happy they made it out on their own.J. “Oh yeah. I have never had girls call me out on it or want to meet them. if I go out by myself.” Finally figured out it was because I didn’t warm-up again. which I don’t do as much anymore (maybe only a couple times a month) I’ll just point to people on the dance floor and say. blow off some steam. or you’re out to just have some drinks. I don’t like to dance (which is also true). make sure to warm up again. out to stay away from your roommate – whatever that is. They’re being boring right now. my friends are over there. right?” is not a good reason. just point to a group and say those are your friends. You don’t’ want them to think you’re out by yourself approaching chicks. so it doesn’t seem like you’re just out to get pussy – especially since you’re talking to chicks.” That’s usually what I do. It’s normal. if you do end up going someplace else. You need to have an explanation for why you’re alone. But. and then I’d be like. You need to keep your eyes on the prize by setting a specific amount of approaches you need to do in order to maximize you time. Warm up each venue you go to. though. This is okay in the beginning if you’ve never gone out solo. My night just went to shit when I changed venues. “Fuck. at this point.” The whole idea is to have a reason why you’re there. In this case. It doesn’t work like that. Just saying. that’s a good reason. I was expecting to carry over the kind of good social energy I had from the first place to the second place. Switching Venues Sometimes you’ll go out by yourself and the place will be dead as hell. That used to drive me crazy. “I just go out by myself. If you’re out to see the D. “They’re over there on the dance floor.
shot girls. That’s really important. Don’t eat while you’re out by yourself. you’re probably not in the night club scene. You’re going to have a hard time differentiating what’s real and what’s not. which is fucking lame. plus I want to do six approaches. which is pretty frequent. Plus. You don’t want to do that either. which nobody is e-mailing you. I want to do my warm-ups. But I want to try to get to those six approaches. I’ll get way too drunk when I’m out by myself. You don’t need a break. 8 © Sinns of Attraction . approaching is where the fun is going to come from. If one of my approaches hits before 6:00. I’ll just get something to eat. If you just learning to go out solo. And try to minimize your time in between approaches. Don’t deal with the bartenders and waitresses. bartenders. You don’t need to get another drink. “Oh. Number one. And forget about eating! Some guys go to bars/restaurants and they’re like.For me. If you’re not approaching. Deal with the girls who are actually in the bar and club to be approached. all those girls are in the night club scene.” Or they’ll go next door to a kabob shop or something. Instead I end up having a lot of fun with girls and drinking too much. Your cell phone is your worst fucking enemy when you’re out by yourself because it’s really easy to just play on your cell phone all night and check your e-mail at 12:00 at night. You don’t need time to cool down. Bad Habits to Avoid You also want to stay away from other distractions like cell phones. Chatting with waitresses is another thing guys do when they go out by themselves. then I’ll hang in there if the girl is hot enough. You don’t need to go to the bathroom. they’re going to be difficult to pick up. They convince themselves that they’re gaming when they’re talking to people who are paid to be nice to them – waitresses. Drinking too much is sometimes one of the problems I’ll have. You want to spend most of your time in set. You need to keep approaching. because the place will be dead or my sets won’t be going great. This means that those girls are not really in your world and you’re probably not going to get along that well with them. When you’re out by yourself. You don’t need time to relax. I’m so hungry. you’re probably just standing around at a bar or club.
or if your approaches are just not going well. go out to places that are hipster. because the next day you’ll be like.When to Call it Early Lastly. you’re now more than ready to head out by yourself. Try to make it fun for yourself somehow. you’re building the muscle of going out by yourself. and you are forcing yourself to approach. If you like live music. If you like that see and be seen bullshit vapid scene that happens in Hollywood. You’ve got to find a way to make it fun for yourself. Some nights you just don’t have it. 9 © Sinns of Attraction .” So keep it fun. go out to place that have live music. “Fuck. Why did I do this? I’m never doing this ever again” call it early! If it’s been a couple hours. That’s the real secret to going out by yourself: do it in a way that you enjoy it. You’re building the muscle of being more social. Don’t be afraid to call it early. It happens to me. Vegas. It happens to any pick-up dating guru you can name. or you’re not into it and it’s starting to become painful. go to that. New York and Miami. You’re building the muscle of getting out there solo. So. We talked about the mindset and preparation … Ways to get out of the batter’s box … Specific tactics for not looking like you’re alone … How and where to set up a base… How to respond to a girl if they ask you where your friends are… And. get out of there! Remember. I’m never doing that again. You don’t have to force yourself to be out the entire night just to prove something to yourself. It’s better to just call it if you’re not making it work that night. This happens to all to us. don’t be afraid to call it an early night. If you like hipsters. otherwise going out alone is never going to be something you do consistently. Report Recap… This report contains everything you need to know about going out solo. “That was horrible. when to call it early. You don’t want to associate going out solo with bad experiences. If you’re like.
Get out there and do that this week and you’re going to have a lot more success and build a valuable life skill. That’s your mission should you choose to accept it. But I want you to go out and approach at least six women. Thanks! Talk to you soon. and you may find it’s actually kind of fun. You could go to the mall on a Saturday by yourself … or go to the bar by yourself on a weekend night or during the week it doesn’t matter. Jon Sinn 10 © Sinns of Attraction . That’s your exercise. You’ll find it’s not as hard as you think it is.An Exercise To Get You Started: I want you to go out solo one day (or night) this week and approach at least six women.
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