10 Things You Should Never Say to Your Boss

By Alison Green | U.S.News & World Report LP – Mon 19 Mar, 2012 7:47 PM IST
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Saying the wrong thing to your boss can really damage your career. From refusing to work with a colleague to bragging about your irreplaceability, here are 10 things you never want to say to your manager: 1. "Can you write that down for me?" When you're talking about the details of a project, writing notes to consult later is great. But you need to take them yourself, not ask your boss to do it for you. 2. "I just booked plane tickets for next month." Never book time off without clearing it with your boss. There might be a major project due that week, or she might have approved others to have that time off and therefore need you around. Check with her first before you do anything irreversible. 3. "My bad." There's nothing more frustrating than an employee who has made a mistake and doesn't seem to think it's a big deal. When you make a mistake, take responsibility for it, figure out how you're going to fix it, and make it clear that you understand its seriousness. Responses like "my bad" sound cavalier and signal that you don't take work seriously. Don't use it for anything other than the most minor mistake (like spilling something in the kitchen, which you then promptly clean up). 4. "I can't work with Joe." Refusing to work with a colleague is an unusually extreme statement and may mark you as difficult. Instead, try something like, "I find it hard to work well with Joe because of X and Y. Do you have any advice on how I can make it go more smoothly?" 5. "I don't know what you'd do without me." No one is irreplaceable, even the head of your company. Statements like this mark you as a prima donna who feels entitled to special treatment ... and will make a lot of managers want to show you that you're wrong. 6. "Do this, or I quit." Whether you're asking for a raise or requesting a day off, don't threaten to quit if you don't get your way. If you don't get what you want, you can always think it over and decide to quit, but if you use it as a threat in the negotiation itself, you'll lose your manager's respect and poison the relationship.

hiring. Instead. Second. but it often ends badly. and employee development.7. say something like. firing.) You want to make yourself more valuable to your employer. (That's what "and other duties as assigned" means. where she oversaw day-to-day staff management. She's also the author of Managing to Change the World: The Nonprofit Leader's Guide to Getting Results and former chief of staff of a successful nonprofit organization. More From US News & World Report       The Best Jobs of 2012 10 Things Savvy Job-Seekers Always Leave Off Their Resume How to Handle a Bad Job Reference 10 Things Savvy Job-Seekers Always Leave Off Their Resume By MIRIAM SALPETER March 14. job search. not less. If you genuinely don't understand what the big deal is. Alison Green writes the popular Ask a Manager blog." Don't say that you can't do something your manager is asking of you. "What's the big deal?" Statements like this are dismissive and disrespectful. you need to be concerned about it too. 8. and most people end up doing work that doesn't fall squarely within that job description. where she dispenses advice on career. Job descriptions aren't comprehensive. negotiate it on your own merits. If you want a raise."That's not my job. First. 2012 RSS Feed Print    Miriam Salpeter . and management issues. they'll now assume you're looking to leave. if there's a conflict with another project. "I have another offer. you may be told to take the other offer. even if your employer does match the offer. explain the conflict and ask your manager which is more important. If your manager is concerned about something. 10. "I can't do X because I need to do Y. and you may be on the top of the lay-off list if the company needs to make cutbacks. "I want to understand where you're coming from so we're on the same page." Protesting that something isn't in your job description is a good way to lose the support of your boss. even if you don't really want it--and then you'll have to follow through. Can you match it?" Using another job offer as a bargaining chip to get your current employer to pay you more money may be tempting. Can you help me understand how you're seeing this?" 9.

Stock templates. if you apply for a sales position at a running shoe company. Another exception to the rule: If you want to head human resources at a yarn company and you love to knit. "May 2001 – July 2006. But unless you're applying for a job requiring graphic design skills and can create your own infographic resume without a template or tool. Everyone knows what it is. Don't put the word "Resume" or "CV" at the top. Don't rely on the templates that accompany your word processing software to create your resume. it is unlikely this visual depiction will help you land a job. Personal information and a photo." If you were employed for less than a year. Use headlines including the job title you want and key phrases pulled from the job description. These don't belong on your resume. or model). [In Pictures: 6 Creative Ways to Showcase Your Resume Online. (For example. It's unlikely a hiring manager or resume writer helped create the templates. or jargon in your descriptions that don't specifically relate to the employer's needs. A title. [See The Best Jobs of 2012. "Seeking growth opportunity with progressive company" or "Looking for a job with flexible organization where I can advance. employers don't care what you want—it's all about their needs. If you include information focused on another field or position. you'll need to include specific months. Unless you're applying for a job with a political campaign or with an organization you know shares your opinions. Typically. it may confuse the reader and make him think you would prefer a different job. Avoid words. If you use these stock designs. Job-seekers used to learn to include an objective describing what they wanted in a job. If you want to convince your targeted employer that you're a perfect fit. marital or family status.              Resume norms shift. social security number. [See How to Avoid Errors in Your Resume. delete language that the recruiter or employer might misinterpret. you don't need to include your age. You're taking a risk if you apply for a job using an infographic resume. television anchor. unless you can make a direct connection between the activity and the job. For example. These visually stimulating documents are all the rage online. Irrelevant content. 2. if you worked at a job at least a year.] Here are 10 other things you should never include: 1. it's best to eliminate references to memberships in highly charged political groups.) Descriptions about your physical characteristics are irrelevant unless you are applying for a job that relies on your appearance (such as an actor. and you can use that space to include keywords that connect your experience to the hiring manager's needs. There are even businesses popping up to make it easy for people who have no graphic design experience to create a visually focused explanation of their careers. 3. Months of employment. Potentially polarizing political views. 6. For example. .] 8. and you're an avid runner—you'd obviously include the hobby. In fact. 5. And one rule never changes: Don't include information that doesn't pertain to landing the job. phrases. 7. your resume will appear dated at best and out-of-touch at worst. If you're applying for a job in the United States. (The employer does not need to know your children's names and ages. Hobbies. An objective.") Today.] 4. 9. it would be perfectly acceptable to list your employment as "2001-2006. Your resume needs to be up-to-date if you want to appear highly qualified. it's not necessary to include the months you were employed. Infographics. most online application systems cannot digest or interpret a visual resume." For most positions.

Tags: careers. this phrase filled the gap. When you pay careful attention to every word you include and make sure you don't waste space with unnecessary content. author. "References upon request. and owner of Keppie Careers. Miriam Salpeter is a job search and social media consultant. She is author of Social Networking for Career Success. hiring ." This phrase is a throwback to a time when references were part of the resume. Miriam teaches job seekers and entrepreneurs how to incorporate social media tools along with traditional strategies to empower their success. Saying so just wastes precious space at the bottom of the resume. Focus on what makes you qualified for the job and fill your resume with those details. you will have a better chance of landing an interview. employment. It's clear you will provide references (otherwise you wouldn't apply for the job).       10. career coach. resume writer. speaker. When people started leaving them off years ago.

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