A caring response to common hearing difficulties at Quaker Gatherings
ACKGROUND
noises and less-than-ideal acoustics are often encountered in settings, such as college campuses where Quaker gatherings are held, making it difficult for many Friends to hear well in group discussions. Also, many Friends with varying degrees of hearing impairment come to these gatherings; they represent part of our collective wisdom, and we need to include them as much as possible. a)
Please be mindful of the need to speak loudly and clearly enough to be heard by everyone on the group. This is a basic courtesy, like legible handwriting. b)
Be willing to repeat or rephrase as needed without showing exasperation. Project an attitude that is positive, relaxed, and respectful. c)
Keep hands away from your face when speaking. d)
Speak slowly and distinctly, with extra stress on key words. Pause between sentences. This often comes naturally when you are conscious of wanting to be understood and not just focused on expressing your thoughts. e)
Speak at a volume appropriate for the person who is seated farthest away from you. (If you have to be reminded repeatedly that you aren’t being heard, imagine that you are talking to someone out in the hallway.) f)
Look at the entire group while speaking, but particularly at those identified earlier as hearing challenged. g)
Use facial expressions to mirror not only the meanings of your words but how you feel about them. h)
Look for signs that people are having difficulty (hands cupped behind ears, quizzical looks, passiveness, etc.) and adjust your speaking accordingly.
Additional responsibilities for group facilitators
Leaders of workshops and informal gatherings have additional responsibility for dealing with potential hearing problems in the meetings they facilitate: 1)
If possible, visit the assigned room well before the meeting is to take place and assess the background noises; make plans to mitigate those problems. Turn down blowers, close doors or windows where noise is entering, etc. If the situation is severe, ask to be moved to a better location. (Moving outdoors may be worse.) 2)
In groups larger than a dozen or so people, consider arranging chairs in concentric circles rather than one big circle, to reduce the distances between main speaker and listeners. 3)
When breaking up into small groups, avoid locating circles of chairs in the same space, where each group will begin speaking louder and louder to be heard over the other. Find other rooms nearby if possible. 4)
At the beginning of a meeting, ask people who already know they are soft-spoken or hearing-challenged to identify themselves, and rearrange seating as needed to accommodate them. Place people who tend to be soft-spoken next to the wall or chalkboard so their voices will gain some bounce from the hard surface. Place hearing-impaired persons where they can see the faces of those who are soft spoken. 5)
After introductions, lead a review of tips for better oral communication, including those listed in a) through h) above.
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