Pandora's Box:
The Men's Sexual Revolution
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By Booker T. Cox
Contents
Chapter 1: IntroductionChapter 2: The Big LieChapter 3: Time Bomb: Male Perpetual SinglehoodChapter 4: What Must Be DoneChapter 5: A Better FutureChapter 6: New Dark Age: Exhibit AChapter 7: New Dark Age: Exhibit BEpilogue: Share the Knowledge
Chapter 1: Introduction
I could charge money for this book, and people would buy it on shock value alone, but this isn't about money. I want this book to be freely shared. It is my sincere belief that there are some bitter truths out there that need to be openly acknowledged and addressed in society, otherwise relations between the genders is only going to get significantly worse in the near future. I also believe there are too many feel-good myths out there that really cause far more harm than good. Let me state first, that I am NOT a "misogynist", nor do I harbor any ill-will toward the female half of the human species. I am simply pointing out some harsh truths that many women already know in the deepest depths of their hearts, but feel VERY uncomfortable actually admitting - even to themselves, which works to their detriment, and ours.I don't favor any gender.
I'm an Equal Opportunity Irritant.
There's so much animosity, so many misconceptions, deceptive habits and other bullshit going on between the sexes. We can start fixing that by being brutally honest about what we REALLY WANT from each other, and then providing the means for us all to
meet those standards.
The dating game is broken. The institution of marriage is slowly dying in the western world. Women are increasingly unhappy and unfulfilled by the selection of men available to them. Many, if not
most
women, are constantly fighting that nagging feeling they lowered their standards with the man they are with. More and more women are choosing to remain single because there are so few men out there that are both attractive AND viable long-term mates. Men are collectively feeling frustrated by their increasing difficulties in finding a mate. Many guys have to deal with that creeping feeling of inadequacy that has to be constantly repressed lest he appear "insecure" or "weak". Sometimes his current partner behaves in ways that indicate she isn't all that into him, yet any questioning on his part gets him accused of being “insecure.” Dating for a typical man often feels like playing a morbid compensation game, because if you are truly attracted to someone, the basics are good enough. If a man makes only $35,000 a year, it's NOT an immediate dealbreaker to that many women if he is close to her age, and at least has healthy financial habits with the money he does make...
IF there is enough physical attraction there on her part.
The further a man deviates from her physical ideal, the more he is required to compensate in other ways.
The CLOSER a man is to her physical ideal, the LESS he his required to meet her other standards, even to a point she would NEVER tolerate otherwise.
The aim of this booklet is to shed light on some painful realities, and pose a valid, peaceful solution which both sides would enjoy. Also, the purpose will be to expose possible societal dangers looming on the horizon if the core issue isn't addressed, as well as the ways society could grow and advance if the issue IS addressed, therefore far offsetting the costs. It's time someone sounded the alarm and exposed the collective deception between men and women, before the confusion and anxiety on both sides further poisons relations between the sexes. Some of the ideas expressed in this book might seem controversial or worse when perceived through our current cultural and social filters. Then again, there's a good chance the
ideas are simply ahead of their time, just like mathematics predicted things in quantum physics many years before the weird ideas were confirmed. During that time, Albert Einstein favored the conventional reasoning of the day, arguing vehemently against the implications of those equations. As history turns out, Einstein was wrong in that area, as was the conventional thinking of the time. The idea that the earth was round was once thought a crazy idea. Galileo faced persecution when he put forth the idea that the earth revolved around the sun. The ideas of multiple universes, parallel realities and 10 spacial dimensions were seen as pure pseudoscience up until recently, but now those strange ideas seem to be gaining momentum.We are in a transition. We are moving away from the primitive systems of the past, where women basically had to prostitute themselves out to a husband or live alone in poverty. Love usually had nothing to do with it. It was all just business, and it was the only kind of male/female pair bonding she ever knew. The old system worked as far as maintaining a stable society. Though it had some rather nasty flaws, it allowed for the expanding of resources, creating new allies, and also ensured a large portion of men a certain degree of female companionship, which was vital for social stability. Now that the notion of romantic love has become firmly ingrained in our culture,
people are confused, frustrated and sometimes angry, because we still cling to traditional rules that are at odds with romantic love.
“Love marriages” have historically been the rare exception, not the norm. Up until around the 1800's, marrying for romance and love was considered a foolish idea. People did not expect to be in a love-based marriage. It was a duty – a tradition men and women were expected to follow and love had little to do with it. Your wife probably wasn't going to be particularly appealing, and you were expected to be OK with that, as well as vice-versa.
The institution of marriage likely lasted as long as it did throughout human history because the notion of “romantic love for everyone” never infected it on a large scale, raising expectations to near-unobtainable heights.
Over the last 50 years, we have been transitioning to a love-based relationship ideal – one which most everyone prefers, myself included. The problem is, when it comes to real feelings of love and romance, women typically are exclusively attracted to a very narrow subset of men. The notion that women vary widely in what they find attractive is grossly exaggerated.Much of the language in this book will sound hopeless on the surface, but I am merely pointing out some difficult realities we should be made aware of. Only if we are able to face reality for what it is, can we work to create a valid solution that doesn't involve outdated thinking and knee-jerk collective reactions. Certain painful truths becoming common knowledge can cause long term resentment and social instability which will not be helped by band-aid solutions. Pandora's Box has been opened and it cannot be shut. Certain unpopular ideas are becoming more and more common among men as the way women behave makes no sense to them. This book aims to show that animosity and hard feelings are NOT the answer, and neither is trying to cajole, shame, bribe (using flashy cars and high earnings), or game the system to manipulate women into relationships with men they aren't really all that attracted to. We now live in a society where romantic love is expected for everyone, and any actions we take in future society
will
be colored by the strong emotional attachment we had toward that concept. We are in a unique time in human history. The expectation of romantic pair bonds for everyone NEVER took a firm hold on society like it has today. Our society is
so emotionally invested in the concept,
that damning proof against the myths could lead to societal problems. We have the means nowadays to avoid those problem entirely, if we would just look beyond our current cultural filters.A society that cannot maintain long-term pair bonds will become unstable. Marriage in its various forms were always a VITAL pillar of civilization throughout human history. It is imperative that we preserve the dignity of human pair-bonds. The idea of “romantic love for everyone”, no matter how sweet it sounds, has a societal danger attached. Romantic love from a woman requires a condition few men meet, and more people these days are beginning to see that. It is imperative that we start being honest with each other and allow ourselves the tools necessary to make that standard attainable for the average man.
Chapter 2: The Big Lie
I recall a TV program that compared a man who was consistently rated very highly physically attractive – muscular, in his late twenties, tanned, sharp jawline, strong cheekbones – but was
unemployed
, with a man rated “average” in physical