Be A Mentor, Inc.

Orientation to Mentoring
1260 B Street, Suite 375 Hayward, CA 94541 (510) 795-6488

Training Guidelines        Maintain Confidentiality Be here now-No cell phones Speak from the heart Listen from the heart Respect differences Refer back to training guide HAVE FUN!!! .

Training Objectives    To better understand the issues and environmental factors facing our youth today. To understand the role and COMMITMENT of the mentor. To understand and demonstrate practices of effective mentors: .

How Youth Enter Program    Receive Orientation Complete Application Parents/Guardian Complete:   Questionnaire Authorization Form  Youth is Interviewed .

What is the Project Manager’s Job? Recruit/interview Mentee  Interview Mentors  Complete Paperwork  Hold Match Meeting  Monitor the quality of match  .


Why Youth Need Mentors         Peer Pressure Substance Abuse Sexuality Social Skills Child Abuse Family Violence Anger Management Absenteeism       Depression/ Suicide Nutrition & Health Pressure At Home Goal Setting Part-time Work Failing Grades .

From The Kid’s Eyes! Forget about what YOU think a young person needs.   Why would a young person want to be friends with you? What does a mentee think a mentor is? .

Youth Say a Mentor Is…          Easy to talk to Someone to look up to a friend One who shows us new things Not a parent One who does not judge us Understanding FUN! knowledgeable          One who doesn’t get mad A role model One who encourages us One who listens to us Open-minded Empathetic Trustworthy One who gives guidance One who respects us .

Role of the Mentor      Academic Help Goal Setting Career Exploration Assistance Emotional Support Exposure to new things .

Practices of an Effective Mentor Respects Youth Viewpoints Allows Youth to Make Mistakes Involves Youth in Decisions Is Committed Separate Goals Keeps Relationships Alive Focus on the positive Builds a friendship An Effective Mentor Confirms Appointments Has Fun .

Pitfalls of Mentoring      Imposes Values Sporadic Meetings Authority Figure/Transform Youth Demand Equal Participation Not Seeking Support of Project Manager .

Stages in Relationship .

Guidelines for Difficult Situations         Discuss the problem. Think beforehand about what you want to accomplish. Bring things up early in visit. Discuss sensitive issues in a private place. Consider relating something personal. . Separate the behavior from the person. Reinforce something positive about your mentee. Stay serious but supportive.

Culture is a set of mental rules for survival and success that a particular group of people has developed. .Culture    Our youth are extremely ethnically diverse. Cultures include customs and values.

aging.Culture    Cultures are multifaceted:  Family structure. Parenting practices. not about skin color. & death Goal of mentoring is to create inclusion.  You feel valued and respected by me. Concept of growth. Spirituality. Art. but about which neighborhood your from.  I feel valued and respected by you. . Gang activity. Language.

. Ask “High Quality Questions” Be Careful not to use yes and no Questions. should start a conversation not kill it.Conversation Starters/Practices     Come to your mentoring time. prepared! Any type of game. book or activity you use.

Login Hours and Activities          Login Email address Password Activity Form Select a mentee Activity Date Time Comments .beamentor.

Mentor Commitment       4-6 hours each month Weekly telephone contact Document activities/hours Keeps contact with parents Attend quarterly wisdom circles Attend mentor event’s .

Confidentiality   When can I break it? How do I break it? .

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