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Giving from the Heart: The heart of

Nonviolent Communication

“What I want in life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart.” - Marshall Rosenberg

What empowers us to stay connected to our compassionate nature even under the worst circumstances? .

 “ I am not easily frightened. for I know that pitiful young man like that are dangerous as soon as they let loose on mankind. I should have liked to start treating him there and then. and would have liked to ask. „Did you have a very unhappy childhood. and that I must try as hard as I can to understand everything that anyone ever does. rather than a real compassion.Etty Hellisum: A Diary .” . And that was the real import this morning: not that a disgruntled young gestapo officer yelled at me. sullen and weak. but that I felt no indignation. Not because I am brave but because I know that I am dealing with human beings. he looked harassed and driven. has your girlfriend let you down?‟ Yes.

Approach to communicatingspeaking and listening  Leads us to give from the heart. This approach is called Nonviolent Communication. connecting us with ourselves and with each other in a way that allows our natural compassion to flourish. .

.  NVC (Nonviolent or Compassionate Communication).  Known as Compassionate Communication. Refer to our natural state of compassion when violence has subsided from the heart.

.  Trains us to observe carefully.  Guides us in reframing how we express ourselves and hear others. and to be able to specify behaviours and conditions that are affecting us.  The intent is to remind us what we already know.NVC  Founded on language and communication skills that strengthens our ability to remain human. even under trying condition.

or attacking in the face of judgement and criticism. respect. Replaces our old patterns of defending. attentiveness. as well as our intentions and relationships.  Fosters  It . we come to perceive ourselves and others. in a new light. withdrawing. and engenders a mutual desire to give from the heart. is an ongoing reminder to keep our attention focused on a place where we are more likely to get what we are seeking. and empathy.

. which was referred to as “giving from the heart.” is expressed in the following lyrics by Ruth Bebermeyer‟s Given to. The quality of compassion.

 The . giver enhanced self-esteem that results when we see our efforts contributing to someone‟s well-being.  The receiver enjoys the gift without worrying about the consequences that accompany the gifts.Benefits of Giving from the Heart.

 The use of NVC does not require that the persons with whom we are communicating be literate in NVC or even motivated to relate to us compassionately. .

The NVC Process  The     four components of NVC: Observation Feeling Needs Request .

Two parts of NVC  Express ourselves through the four components. not in the actual words that are exchanged. receive these four components from others. .  Empathically *The essence of NVC is to be found in our consciousness of these four components.

we become grounded in our natural state of compassion. It is therefore an approach that can be effectively applied at all levels of communication and in diverse situation: Intimate relationship Families Schools Organization and institution Therapy and Counselling      .Applying NVC In Our Lives and World  When we use NVC in our interactions.

Thank you…:-D .