Professional Documents
Culture Documents
Adapted from: Egan, G. (1998). The Skilled Helper: A Problem-Management Approach to Helping. Pacific Grove, California: Brooks/Cole Publishing Company.
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Understanding
Self-Limiting Beliefs
Being liked and loved Being a victim Avoiding oppression of the past Passivity Being competent Having ones way Being hurt Being in danger Being problem free
Good Listening
Safe Environment Discerning nonverbal and verbal cues Non judgemental yet knowledgeable Connecting and remembering themes
ROLES
Relaxed conveys confidence Open posture conveys non-defensiveness Lean conveys attentiveness Eye contact conveys interest Squarely conveys availability Relaxed = inner peace Open posture = arms + legs uncrossed Lean = towards client Eye contact = without staring Squarely=feet & shoulders aligned with
Verbal Communication
Experiences: what happened to him? Behavior: what she does or refrains from doing? Affect: feelings and emotions that result from his/her experiences and behaviours
"Empathy is the counselor's ability to sense the client's world the way the client does and to convey that understanding." Frank A. Nugent "Empathy is the skill of reflecting back to another person the emotions he or she is expressing so that he or she feels heard and understood." opendoors.Com Empathy involves listening to clients, understanding them . .. ... and communicating this understanding to them so that they might understand themselves more fully and act of their understanding. Eagan (1994)
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The ability to communicate your understanding
1. Reading Assignment: Counselors, How To Show Empathy: 3 Steps & 1 Formula 2. What are the Skills Involved In Communicating Empathy?
here indicate the correct experiences and behaviours that shaped the feelings
Empathic Responses
You feel worried because if anyone found out your supervisor touched you, your family would be shamed. You feel betrayed because your friend told someone else about your situation.
Questioning Strategies
Open-ended questions Less likely to receive a yes or no answer. Can you tell me more about _____? Please tell me more about _____? Closed-ended questions Directive question
Obtain specific information Few answering options
Questioning Strategies Leading Questions How do you think your parents are going to feel when they find out you are your boyfriend is a foreigner (or different religion?) Choice Questions
When your client does not respond, denies knowing answer, or is in shock.
Hypothetical Questions
It seems that you are afraid your filing Sexual Harassment charges will hurt your family.
Silence Allows your client to think or cry Reassure her that you are ready to listen Confrontation Face issue in direct but respectful way I understand you want to protect your familys reputation. But I wonder who is protecting you? Clarification Get details Pt I feel so bad about myself Helper: You say you feel bad. What is it that you feel bad about?
Interpretation Make statement about behaviour or thinking of which client may be unaware Listen to underlying themes It seems that because no one realized you experienced a traumatic event, you are being blamed for not being able to finish your work like you used to do.
Summation Name the pattern or theme that is emerging It seems like you have had a lot of betrayal in your life. First, by your father when he molested you, and then, by your mother when she did not believe you. Explanation Explain intervention in understandable language After the interview, the doctor is going to examine you to find out if you have any problems that need medical attention. Are there any questions about the medical examination that you would like to ask me?
Transition Shift to another topic Youve told me a great deal about your family. Id also like to hear about you. Self-revelation Limited, discreet, self-disclosure I understand how torn you feel, because I felt the same way when my sister asked me to promise not to tell what happened to her.
Positive reinforcement Allows your client to feel comfortable sharing his secrets. You showed a lot of courage when you tried to stop the fight. Reassurance Leads to trust and compliance Empathic response I cant promise the medical exam wont hurt, but I can promise to stay with you the wholetime.
Remember
When to Summarize
Summarizing what was said in the last meeting may prevent repetition and provide a springboard to start the present meeting. At our last meeting, you talked about the death of your parents. Can you say more about becoming homeless? In a session that is going no where,a summary statement may help your client focus and examine the implications of what s/he said. I cant help noticing the similarity between your reactions toward the police and your father.
When your colleague gets stuck, pulling together jumbled thoughts may help behaviour patterns become clear. Even though the situations are different, the way you recently resolved the problem of your boyfriend pressuring you to have unprotected sex and the way you handled your past problem at work seem similar.
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