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-Herbert Fensterheim & Jean Baer
his PhD from NYU`He has been an analytically oriented therapist before becoming involved with behavior therapy. .Dr.Herbert Fensterheim-the senior author of the book received his MA is About the Authorsand psychology from Columbia Univ.
The Single Girl Goes To Town .About the Authors Jean Baer.Herbert has written extensively on contemporary problems -Her previous books are Follow Me!.co-author and wife of Dr.
Chapter how we Baer Personal -Talks about1-Jeanare so caught up in the need for being liked that we Experience sacrifice our own self respect -How a simple statement like conveying the disagreement about what someone has said will change the whole picture .
undeveloped relationships.Part 2-You Can Learn To be Normal –Not Neurotic -Inhibitory Personalities -Exhibitory Personalities Leads to lack of personal Growth&success.mental anguish. .
The Neurotic Spiral Inadequate actions Self doubts Disturbed feelings Self-doubts Disturbed feelings .
Chapter 2-Targeting Your Own Assertive Difficulties 1) 2) 3) 4) 5) 6) The Timid Soul The Person With Communication Difficulties The Split Assertive The person with behavioral deficits The person with specific blocks The person with interfering habits .
Chapter 3 -Assertion Lab -People who have trouble with assertion -Goal Program a) Long term Goals b) Set series of sub-goals c) Conjure idealized self-image d) Know your limitations. .
II. The satisfactory Social Network The unsatisfactory social network .Social Network I.Chapter 4.
Chapter 5 –The Close Relationship -Marriage therapy -Starts by helping each spouse to identify specific behaviors that need to be changed to better the marriage -Help the partner to change systematically. .
Chapter 6-The Active approach to Sex Basis for change -provide info about sex -to develop an active orientation towards sex .
Chapter 7 –Assertion Through Self-Control -Learn the skills of self change -Be active -Learn the concept of willpower .
Identify the habit you want to change. 3. Make a contract of intention that you want to change you behavior Examine the situation to perform harder or easier .Chapter 8-A Guide To Changing Habits 1. 2.
Chapter 9.Lack of Reinforces=Depression -No positive reinforces some people suffer from chronic depression. .
How to get thin and stay thin A five point program: 1) Point 1:Learn your own eating habits 2) Point 2:Control the stimuli 3) Point 3:Change you eating behavior 4) Point 4:Change you exercise behavior 5) Point 5:Set up a system positive reinforcements .Chapter 10.
fetishisms.Chapter 11 –The Problems of Sexual Variants Categories of sexual variants: 1)Homosexuals 2)Variants who direct their sexual interests primarily towards objects. transvestism .pedophilia.
.Chapter 12-Assertion on the Job Involves 5 basic skills: 1) An orientation: 2) Ability to do the job 3) Control of your anxieties and fears 4) Good interpersonal relations on the job 5) The art of negotiating the system.
Impact on me: It gives some very useful tips on how to be assertive in adverse situations .
Use in Counseling The authors' pioneering can be very useful Assertiveness Training Technique can help people with low self esteem and assertive problems gain recognition and promotion on the job. renew their marriage. deal with their children more effectively. and make new friends. .