THE CHALLENGE

of
CHILD UPBRINGING
in

OUR SOCIETY
TODAY

1Sam 3:11-14 (GNB)
► (11)

The LORD said to him, "Some day I am
going to do something to the people of Israel
that is so terrible that everyone who hears
about it will be stunned.
► (12) On that day I will carry out all my threats
against Eli's family, from beginning to end.
► (13) I have already told him that I am going to
punish his family forever because his sons have
spoken evil things against me. Eli knew they
were doing this, but he did not stop them.
► (14) So I solemnly declare to the family of Eli
that no sacrifice or offering will ever be able to
remove the consequences of this terrible sin."

Aspects of Child
Development
Luk 2:40
Luk 2:52
►And the child
►And Jesus
grew and
advanced in
waxed strong in
wisdom and
spirit , filled
with wisdom,
stature, and
and God's grace
in favour with
was upon him.
(Darby)

God and men.
(Darby)

Aspects of Child
Development
Body , Knowledge, Behaviour, Skill, Faith.
Luke 2:40, 52.
(Fitness , Acumen, Attitude, Agility, Spirituality)


Physical Growth & Health.
Psychological Development:
 Cognitive & Intellectual
 Socio-emotional & Personality
 (Language & Communication)
 Psychomotor Skills (Fine & Gross)
Spiritual Regeneration & Growth

Child Development 511yrs
► Emotional/Social

Changes
 • More independence from parents
and family.
 • Stronger sense of right and wrong.
 • Beginning awareness of the future.
 • Growing understanding about one’s
place in the world.
 • More attention to friendships and
teamwork.
 • Growing desire to be liked and
accepted by friends.

Child Development 511yrs
►Mental/Cognitive

Changes
 • Rapid development of
mental skills.
 • Mentally ready for formal
school education.
 • Greater ability to describe
experiences and talk about
thoughts and feelings.
 • Less focus on one’s self
and more concern for others.

Puberty Changes 11-14yrs
►Body

Size
►Hormones
►Body Shape: Muscles/Curves
►Body Hair (Armpit, Pubis, Face)
►Oily Skin and Breast Changes
►Baritone Voice and Big Bosoms
►Emissions and Menstruation

Puberty Development 1114yrs
Emotional/Social Changes
► More concern about body image, looks, and
clothes.
► Focus on self, going back and forth between
high expectations and lack of confidence.
► Moodiness.
► More interest in and influence by peer
group.
► Less affection shown toward parents.
► Anxiety from more challenging school work.
► Eating problems sometimes start at this
age.

Puberty Development 1114yrs
Mental/Cognitive Changes
►More ability for complex thought.
►Better able to express feelings
through talking.
►A stronger sense of right and
wrong.
►Many teens sometimes feel sad or
depressed. Depression can lead to
poor grades at school, alcohol or
drug use, sexual indulgence, and
other problems.

2Tim 3:1-5
(1) You must realize, however, that in the last days
difficult times will come.
► (2) People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of
money, boastful, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to
their parents, ungrateful, unholy,
► (3) unfeeling, uncooperative, slanderous, degenerate,
brutal, hateful of what is good,
► (4) traitors, reckless, conceited, and lovers of pleasure
rather than lovers of God.
► (5) They will hold to an outward form of
godliness but deny its power. Stay away from such
people.
Tit 1:16
► (16) They claim to know God, but they deny him
by their actions. They are detestable, disobedient,
and disqualified to do anything good.

Negative Societal
Influence 1
Violence

Diabolism

►Aggression

►Occultism

►Rape

►Demon

►Robbery
►Gangsterism
►Rebellion
►Murderousness

Consultation
►Superstitions
►Cultism

Negative Societal
Influence 2
Home
► Family

Breakdown
► Hostile Homes
► Neglect
► Abandonment
► Over-pampering
► Bad Example
► Demonised
► Christless

Corrupting Pressures
► Social trends
► Peer Pressure
► Bad Company
► Fashion/Trends
► TV/Internet/Media/IT
► Corrupt Demands
(School/Office)
► Lying & Deceit

Negative Societal
Influence 3
Insensitivity
► Shamelessness
► Godlessness
► Conscienceless
Stress
► From Work/Business
► From School
► From Home
► From Multimedia

Indulgences
► Sexual Promiscuity
► Drug abuse &
addiction
► Smoking &
Drinking
► Greed
► Pleasure & Revelry
► Laziness

Negative Societal
Influence 4
Church
►Unbiblical Faith
►Worldliness
►Exploitation
►Innovations
►Human Agenda
►Revisionism

Worldview
►Postmodernis

m

►Relativism
►Individualis

m
►Antiauthorit

Godly Parenting
“O parent,
HELP your offspring out of the turbulent TIDES OF
TRENDS,
And GUIDE them into the plane PATH OF PURPOSE.
O child,
Rejoice at the PRIVILEGE of parental PEDAGOGY.”
– Anonymous Author.

Godly Parenting 1
Care – Spiritual
► Lead in Devotion
► Lead to Faith
► Initiate/Dedicate
► Verify Vows,
► Intercede
► Bless

Care – Social
►Love
►Provide
►Nourish
►Protect
►Not Perplex

Godly Parenting 2
Coach – Training
► Command
► Instruct
► Teach
► Demonstrate
► Motivate
► Delegate
► Evaluate

Censor –
Discipline
►Correct
►Punish
►Reward
►Restrain
►Rebuke

Healthy Parenting –
Provide
► Healthy

Parenting – Trust, Protection, Provision,
Exemplary Moral/Spiritual Guidance, Informal and
Formal Education, Good Healthcare.
► Immunization – Ensure regular immunization has
been completed against Tuberculosis (BCG), Polio,
Diphtheria, Pertussis (Whooping cough), Tetanus,
Measles.
► Also vaccinate against Meningitis, Typhoid, Mumps,
Rubella, Hepatitis, Yellow fever, Pneumonia & Use
Mosquito nets
► Healthcare Provision – Provide safe and healthy
environment for your child to grow up in.
► Ensure ready access to Primary, Secondary and
Tertiary Healthcare at Home and at School.

Healthy Parenting – Guide
► Sex

Education – Sexuality, Promiscuity,
Premarital Pregnancy, STDs, PIDs.
► Health Education – Personal Hygiene, Malaria,
Contagious Diseases (Mumps, RTIs, Worms, G.E.
CSM), HIV/AIDS, Substance Abuse, Diet, Safety.
► Guard against Risky (Unhealthy)
Behaviour – Smoking & Drinking, Drug Abuse,
Overeating, Sexual Promiscuity, Poor Hygiene,
Injurious Exposure (Danger, Violence,
Gangsterism, Fighting, Criminality)
“All they that take the sword shall perish with the sword” Matt
26:52

Positive Parenting –
Protect
►•

Protect your child properly in the car.
All children younger than 12 years of age
should ride in the back seat with a
seatbelt properly fastened
► • Teach your child to watch traffic and
how to be safe when walking to school,
riding a bike, and playing outside.
► • Make sure your child understands
water safety, and always supervise her
when she’s swimming or playing near
water.

Positive Parenting –
Protect
►•

Supervise your child when he’s engaged
in risky activities, such as climbing.
► • Talk with your child about how to ask for
help when she needs it.
► • Keep potentially harmful household
products, tools, equipment, and firearms
out of your child’s reach
► Many children get home from school
before their parents get home from work.
It is important to have clear rules and
plans for your child when she is home
alone

Positive Parenting – Care





• Show affection for your child. Recognize her
accomplishments.
• Help your child develop a sense of
responsibility—ask him to help with household
tasks, such as setting the table, clean-ups.
• Talk with your child about school, friends, and
things she looks forward to in the future.
• Talk with your child about respecting others.
Encourage him to help people in need.
• Help your child set her own achievable goals—
she’ll learn to take pride in herself and rely less
on approval or reward from others.
• Make clear rules and stick to them, such as
what or how long your child can watch TV or
when he has to go to bed. Be clear about what
behavior is okay and what is not okay.

Positive Parenting – Care




• Help your child learn patience by letting others go
first or by finishing a task before going out to play.
Encourage him to think about possible consequences
before acting.
• Do fun things together as a family, such as playing
games, reading, and going to events in your
community.
• Get involved with your child’s school. Meet the
teachers and staff to understand the learning goals
and how you and the school can work together to help
your child do well.
• Continue reading to your child. As your child learns
to read, take turns reading to each other.
• Use discipline to guide and protect your child, rather
than punishment to make her feel badly about herself.
• Support your child in taking on new challenges.
Encourage him to solve problems, such as a
disagreement with another child, on his own.

Positive Parenting - Safety
Motor vehicle crashes are the leading cause of death among 12 to 19
year olds. Injuries from sports and other activities are also
common.
► Make sure your teenager knows about the importance of wearing
seatbelts.
► Encourage your teenager to wear a helmet when riding a bike,
motorcycle, or all-terrain vehicle.
► Talk with your teenager about the dangers of drugs, drinking,
smoking, and risky sexual activity. Listen to and answer questions
honestly and directly.
► Talk about the importance of having good friends who are
interested in positive activities. Encourage him to avoid peers who
pressure him to make unhealthy choices.
► Know where your teenager is and whether an adult is present.
Make plans with her for when she will call you, where you can find
her, and what time you expect her home.
► Set clear rules for your teenager when he is home alone. Talk about
such issues as having friends at the house; how to handle unsafe
situations (emergencies, fire, drugs, sex, internet) and homework
or household tasks to complete.

Positive Parenting - Trust
Trust is important for teenagers. Even as she develops
independence, she will need to know she has your support. At the
same time, she will need you to respect her needs for privacy.
► Honest and direct talk about sensitive subjects such as drugs,
drinking, smoking, sex, marriage and religion.
► Encourage exercise and keep active: team or individual sport,
household tasks such as mowing the lawn, house cleaning,
cooking or washing the car.
► Eating meals together: promotes healthy choice of foods and
weight, and gives your family time to talk to each other.
► Meet and get to know your teenager’s friends.
► Show an interest in your teenager’s school life.
► Help your teenager make healthy choices while encouraging him
to make his own decisions and develop solutions to problems or
conflicts.
► Listen to and Respect your teenager’s opinions and take into
account her thoughts and feelings.
► Compliment your teenager and celebrate her efforts and
accomplishments.

JESUS
IS
LORD

May God
be with
You All

I’m
Venerable Dr I. U. Ibeme
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