Comunicación y Gerencia

Refuse to be Offended
Oil Station - Discipleship School

2008 Curriculum

Our Purpose

Timothy 2:1-2 – You therefore, my son, be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus. And the things which you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses, these entrust to faithful men, who will be able to teach others also. (NASB)

Your Part

To take and apply these teachings in your life.

•Review the scripture on your own. Be a Berean, check it out yourself •Apply the teaching •Own the teaching •Teach it to others.

Main Text
(Luke 17:1-10) He said to His disciples, "It is inevitable that stumbling blocks (offense) come, but woe to him through whom they come! (2) "It would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck and he were thrown into the sea, than that he would cause one of these little ones to stumble. (3) "Be on your guard! If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. (4) "And if he sins against you seven times a day, and returns to you seven times, saying, 'I repent,' forgive him." (5) The apostles said to the Lord, "Increase our faith!" (6) And the Lord said, "If you had faith like a mustard seed, you would say to this mulberry tree, 'Be uprooted and be planted in the sea'; and it would obey you. (7) "Which of you, having a slave plowing or tending sheep, will say to him when he has come in from the field, 'Come immediately and sit down to eat'? (8) "But will he not say to him, 'Prepare something for me to eat, and properly clothe yourself and serve me while I eat and drink; and afterward you may eat and drink'? (9) "He does not thank the slave because he did the things

Introduction of Topic and Sub-topics

Text divides into 4 apparent sections
2. There will be offenses and don’t offend. (12) 3. Forgiving those who sin against you. (3-4) 4. Faith – What it can accomplish. (5-6) 5. Servants – what their expectations are (7-8)

What do these Topics have in Common?
7. Seemingly four separate topics 8. Can be stitched together into one theme.. How to handle and our attitude toward

Key Word
The word for “offenses” in vs. 1 and “offend” in vs. 2 3. Offenses
skandalon skan'-dal-on A “scandal”; probably from a derivative of G2578; a trap stick (bent sapling), that is, snare (figuratively cause of displeasure or sin): - occasion to fall (of stumbling), offence, thing that offends, stumbling-block. a) KJV, NKJV, YLT – Offense b) NASB, EVS – Stumble c) NIV = cause to sin

12. Offense
skandalizō skan-dal-id'-zo To “scandalize”; from G4625; to entrap, that is, trip up (figuratively stumble [transitively] or entice to sin, apostasy or displeasure): - (make to) offend. a) KJV, NKJV, YLT – Offend b) NASB, EVS – Stumble c) NIV = cause to sin 21. No issue with any of these. Same concepts apply. 22. An offense can be a stumbling block for some.

Foundation for the message
The Bible states that relationships are the most important part of the Christian life
(Matthew 22:37-40) And He said to him, " 'YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND.' (38) "This is the great and foremost commandment. (39) "The second is like it, 'YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.' (40) "On these two commandments depend the whole Law and the Prophets." 5. Love God is the primary 6. Love others is a close 2nd 7. Why did Jesus give the top two when only asked for one? Because they are closely tied together. (see 1John 4:20-21)

Foundation for the message (continued)
(1John 4:20-21) If someone says, "I love God," and hates his brother, he is a liar; for the one who does not love his brother whom he has seen, cannot love God whom he has not seen. (21) And this commandment we

have from Him, that the one who loves God should love his brother also.
This is further confirmed in 1 John 5:1-2 1John 5:1-2 Whoever believes that Jesus is the Christ is born of God, and whoever loves the Father loves the child born of Him. (2) By this we know that we love the children of God, when we love God and observe His commandments. If you love God, you will love his children. The two cannot be taken apart. It stands to reason.

Offenses
What do we find in common with all ruined relationships? What is at the heart of a ruined relationship? An example: Good Relationship Gone Bad.

The relationship was good. Now it’s bad. Why don’t we say that the sin was what caused the relationship to go bad? Because the relationship only suffers if the one who was wronged takes offense. If no offense is taken, the relationship is still in good standing.

Offenses (Continued)
Some seem to thrive on offense. No forgiveness leads to bitterness of heart. This leads to bitterness and strife with all relationships. Heb 12:15 See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled; The Good News about offenses

Offenses (Continued)

Jesus tells us

"It is inevitable that stumbling blocks (offense) come,”
Where are they going to come from? Many ways we can be offered an opportunity to take offense. We however, are not obligated to take offense. In fact, we will see that there’s alot a reasons not to take offense. •It’s not necessary •It’s unwise •We are called as Christians to not take offense

Offenses (Continued)
Proverbs 19:11 A man's discretion makes him slow to anger, And it is his glory to overlook a transgression. Discretion is also translated wisdom or knowledge. The word glory can also be translated as honor. A man’s wisdom makes him slow to anger. It is honorable for him when he overlooks a transgression. This wise man, is slow to anger, and he is willing to overlook a transgression.

Offenses (Continued)
(Proverbs 16:32) He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, And he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city. This verse is an example of poetic parallels. The man who is slow to anger is better than the mighty man. This same man who rules his spirit, is better than the mighty man who captures a city. So the man who is slow to anger, and rules his spirit is that man who is mightier than

Offenses (Continued)
We will do well to remember that being slow to anger is one of the Divine Attributes of God (Exodus 34:6-7) Then the LORD passed by in front of him and proclaimed, "The LORD, the LORD God, compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in lovingkindness and truth; (7) who keeps lovingkindness for thousands, who forgives iniquity, transgression and sin; yet He will by no means leave the guilty unpunished, visiting the iniquity of fathers on the children and on the grandchildren to the third and fourth generations."

Offenses (Continued)
The contrast with this wise man who controls his Spirit to a man who does not control his Spirit is also found in Proverbs Pro 25:28 Like a city that is broken into and without walls Is a man who has no control over his spirit. What is a city that has no walls like? The man who has no control over his spirit is in this same situation.

Offenses (Continued)
Ruling your spirit in the Old Testament is referred to as self control in the New Testament. It is one of the fruits of the Spirit we should all have.
Gal 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, (23) gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.

Conversely, not being slow to anger is described as a deed of the flesh.
Gal 5:19-21 Now the deeds of the flesh are evident, which are: immorality, impurity, sensuality, (20) idolatry, sorcery, enmities, strife, jealousy, outbursts of anger, disputes, dissensions, factions, (21) envying, drunkenness, carousing, and things like these, of which I forewarn you, just as I have forewarned you, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

Offenses (Continued)
What should we consider when an offense has been offered to us? Was it unintentional or intentional? Unintentional? What should we do?

Intentional? What should we do? There is no other choice.

Offenses (Continued)

Unintentional
Very small minded of us to take offense under any circumstances if it was unintentional. Even unbelievers would see this as small minded. If it’s unintentional – Don’t get offended. Simple!!!

Offenses (Continued)

Intentional Offense
What if the offense was intended? Intended to harm to you in some way. Desired to hurt you, make you feel badly, discredit you, the list goes on and one. They purposely determined to cause you harm.

Offenses (Continued)
Intentional Offense (continued)

Pro 25:28 Like a city that is broken into and without walls Is a man who has no control over his spirit. Are you going to let that person have control of your spirit? Are you going to allow this person to get your goat? Will Rogers said rightly – “I am at the mercy of any man who can make me lose my temper”

Offenses (Continued)
Self Control is one of many characteristics that will prevent us from being useless in the knowledge of Jesus.
(2Peter 1:5-7) Now for this very reason also, applying all diligence, in your faith supply moral excellence, and in your moral excellence, knowledge, (6) and in your knowledge, self-control, and in your self-control, perseverance, and in your perseverance, godliness, (7) and in your godliness, brotherly kindness, and in your brotherly kindness, love.

Verse 8 tells us the result of being diligent about these things.
(2Peter 1:8) For if these qualities are yours and are increasing, they render you neither useless nor unfruitful in the true knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Being here tonight is a good indication that we desire to be fruitful, not unfruitful.

Offenses (Continued)
In either case, we should not be offended, whether intentional or unintentional •Unintentional – because there is no cause to, it would be small minded of us. •Intentional – Because based on scripture it would be very unwise of us, and would cost us in our pursuit to be usable by God. Note: Not being offended is not the same as being apathetic toward offense. Apathy means a lack of caring. We as

Offenses (Continued)
Our purpose for not being offended? Simply stated – Love We are to obey what Jesus commanded on the Sermon on the Mount. Matthew 5:43-44 "You have heard that it was said, 'YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR and hate your enemy.' (44) "But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, We are even to love our enemies. It is love for us to not take offense. Love your enemies. It is this Love that calls us to not take offense. Love requires us to not take offense, if we take offense; we fall short of Jesus’ call to love.

Offenses (Continued)
What is Love? (1Corinthians 13:4-7) Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, (5) does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, (6) does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; (7) bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Direct connections between love’s definition and our teaching on offenses Patient (long Suffering) - slow to anger, willingness to accept hurt. Is not provoked - slow to anger, willingness to accept hurt. Does not take into account a wrong – willingness to accept hurt, forgiving bears all things – willingness to accept hurt, forgiving, Endures all things – continually being forgiving,

Offenses (Continued)
Loving your brother gives no cause to stumble or offense
(1John 2:10-11) The one who loves his brother abides in the Light and there is no cause for stumbling in him. (11) But the one who hates his brother is in the darkness and walks in the darkness, and does not know where he is going because the darkness has blinded his eyes.

As we abide and walk in the light, we see where we are going and can see the things that can make us stumble or be offended. When we are in the dark, we don’t see that which causes us to stumble or offend or be offended. So loving our brother is abiding in the Light, and we know the Light is capitalized because the Light is Jesus. Love your

Offenses (Continued)
Now, back to Luke
What does Jesus say about offenses in Luke 17:1-4 (Luke 17:1-4) He said to His disciples, "It is inevitable that stumbling blocks come, but woe to him through whom they come! (2) "It would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck and he were thrown into the sea, than that he would cause one of these little ones to stumble. (3) "Be on your guard! If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. (4) "And if he sins against you seven times a day, and returns to you seven times, saying, 'I repent,' forgive him." The first two verses are about offense, the second two verses are about forgiveness. Although they seem like two separate topics, they are not. They are about relationships and love.

Offenses (Continued)
Jesus tells us in verse one that offenses will come.
Someone will sin against you. Someone will either intentionally or unintentionally cause you harm. You will be offered an occasion to be offended. But you don’t have to take offense as we have noted before. Make sure you are not that one offering the occasion. If you do, you get a millstone necklace and get tossed into the sea. Note: This isn’t to say you wont rightly offend someone. The Gospel is an offense to some. This is

Forgiveness
Luke 17:3 "Be on your guard! If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. Rebuke him! This seems a little harsh, but is that what is meant by it? Rebuke can also be translated as admonish. Either way we know Jesus doesn’t condone harshness toward a brother. Paul taught us how to bring a brother back into fellowship. Gal 6:1 Brethren, even if anyone is caught in any trespass, you who are spiritual, restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness; each one looking to yourself, so that you too will not be tempted.

Forgiveness(Continued)
What is our motivation for restoring (rebuking) a brother? Love
We want him to be restored. We want him to repent. Because we love him. We desire him to repent because Jesus has already told us the outcome of causing offense and not repenting. If he does not repent, he wins the millstone award and a short walk on a short pier. And if he refuses to repent, the process of removing him from fellowship is to begin We are to be motivated by love for our brothers well being. Oh, and by the way, if he repents, forgive and keep on forgiving.

Forgiveness(Continued)
We also know we are to forgive even if rebuke or repentance isn’t sought. Jesus gives us this example in Mark Mar 11:25-26 "Whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father who is in heaven will also forgive you your transgressions. (26) ["But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father who is in heaven forgive your transgressions."] There is no call for repentance in this situation. One time we are told to rebuke, the other there is no mention of it. What’s the difference?

Forgiveness(Continued)
What is the difference? Relationship Mark 11 is concerned about the condition of our heart. Jesus is telling us to make sure our heart is right before approaching our Father in prayer. In Luke 17 Jesus is concerned about forgiveness and about restoring the relationship via the rebuke. What about those who are not our brothers? Non believers? We are to forgive our enemies also. Jesus and Steven are our examples. Luke 23:34 But Jesus was saying, "Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing." Act 7:60 "Lord, do not hold this sin against them!"

Faith
Luk3 17:5-6 The apostles said to the Lord, "Increase our faith!" (6) And the Lord said, "If you had faith like a mustard seed, you would say to this mulberry tree, 'Be uprooted and be planted in the sea'; and it would obey you. Faith can be defined several ways. Boil them all down and what you get is… A very high opinion of God. Hebrews 11:11 By faith even Sarah herself received ability to conceive, even beyond the proper time of life, since she

considered Him faithful

who had promised.
Faith in God, is having a high opinion of Him. He is faithful to do all that he has promised. To not have faith in God is to have a low opinion of God. As Christian, we have to believe God to be truthful and that he will keep his promises to us. We have deemed Him worthy and therefore have a very high opinion of Him.

Servants
Luke 17:7-10 "Which of you, having a slave plowing or tending sheep, will say to him when he has come in from the field, 'Come immediately and sit down to eat'? (8) "But will he not say to him, 'Prepare something for me to eat, and properly clothe yourself and serve me while I eat and drink; and afterward you may eat and drink'? (9) "He does not thank the slave because he did the things which were commanded, does he? (10) "So you too, when you do all the things which are commanded you, say, 'We are unworthy slaves; we have done only that which we ought to have done.'" Not a teaching about how to treat your servants. Slaves or servants have not been treated very well in history. Rome US

Servants (continued)
Passage is about what a slave is supposed to do. His attitude toward his master and what expectations he should have. Slave does his job and doesn’t expect special recognition for doing what is expected of him. This is a teaching on what our attitude should be toward doing what we have been commanded to do by our master. Love God, Love our brothers. When we have done all we have been commanded to do, we say, 'We are unworthy slaves; we have done only that which we ought to have done.'“ We are not to look for reward for simply doing what is expected. After all, as Christians, we know what we really deserve. Hell

Not taking Offense
What do we deserve? Three ways to be treated. You were treated just the way you deserved. You were treated in a way that was worse than we deserve. You were treated in a way that is better than you deserve. The only time offense is taken, is when we are treated in a way less than we deserve. What do we deserve?

Not taking Offense (cont)
Example:
Joseph Sold into slavery by his brothers Lied about by Potiphar’s wife and thrown into prison Broken promise by fellow cell mate. How did he respond to his brothers? Genesis 50:20 "As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good in order to bring about this present result, to preserve many people alive. This was God’s work. God’s sovereignty was at work. It is always at work. Someone easily offended has too high an opinion of himself, and not a high enough opinion of God

Not taking Offense (cont)
How can we take offense believing that God is Sovereign? No one can touch us unless permitted by God. (Job) If we truly believe in God’s sovereignty, we cannot take offense. This requires a high opinion of God, and a low opinion of ourselves.

When is it ok to take offense?
There are times when we should take offense. Jesus was offended by the money changers in the temple. Why? Not because they were doing anything to him. They were offending God by desecrating the temple. What’s the difference? Jesus was standing up for someone else who was being wronged. Another time of Jesus being offended and angry occurred. Mar 3:4-5 And He *said to them, "Is it lawful to do good or to do harm on the Sabbath, to save a life or to kill?" But they kept silent. (5) After looking around at them with anger, grieved at their hardness of heart, He *said to the man, "Stretch out your hand." And he stretched it out, and his hand was restored.

When is it ok to take offense?
When they were hurting Jesus, he did not take offense. When they were hurting others, he took offense. Paul forgave his brothers who deserted him. 2Ti 4:16 At my first defense no one supported me, but all deserted me; may it not be counted against them. But not Alexander the coppersmith. 2Ti 4:14 Alexander the coppersmith did me much harm; the Lord will repay him according to his deeds. Alexander was hurting the cause of Christ. He was against Paul’s teachings. Paul's words are “Lord repay him…”

When is it ok to take offense?
Paul's words are “Lord repay him…” Paul didn't say, I’m going to get him. He said Lord get him.

Rom 12:19 Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, "VENGEANCE IS MINE, I WILL REPAY," says the Lord.

Closing If we as Christians would refuse to be offended, we would revolutionize the church. Marriages would be revolutionized. Parent/child relationships would be revolutionized. All relationships in the Church would be revolutionized. And the world would know us as Christians,

By our love

Welcome to the most exciting journey you will ever take!

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