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SEPARATION

AND
DEPLOYMENT
Most Pre-deployment Briefs, you’ll learn
the ins and outs of Separation and
Deployment including:
DIFFERENT TYPES OF SEPARATIONS
READINESS
NORMAL CYCLE OF EMOTIONS
PERSONAL SECURITY
OPERATIONAL SECURITY
TIPS FOR STAYING CONNECTED
CHILDREN AND DEPLOYMENT
SURVIVING AND THRIVING
HOMECOMING
TRANSITION OR REINTEGRATION
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Deployment Emergency Phone List
Deployment Checklist
Normal Cycle of Emotions
Enhancing Personal Security
Operational Security (OPSEC)
Care Packages
Moto Mail
Thriving and Surviving List
Activities for Children
How to Create a Shared Sense of Purpose After Deployment
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STABILIZATION
RECOVERY AND
ANTICIPATION OF LOSS

NORMAL
CYCLE OF
EMOTIONS

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ANTICIPATION OF LOSS
•Ignore or Deny that deployment will
actually happen
•Fantasize that the ship will sink before the
Marine can get on it, or that something will
happen so the Marine does not have to
leave.
•Difficulty Accepting the reality of leaving
•Crying at unexpected things
•Increased Tensions that could cause
arguments
•Need to get all ‘Projects’ done
•Difficulty with Intimacy
•Feelings of Anger, Frustration, and
Emotional distance between couples
DETACHMENT AND
WITHDRAWAL
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•Sense of despair
•Feeling that the marriage is out of control
•Making decisions is difficult
•Withdrawal into self by not sharing emotions
EMOTIONAL
DISORGANIZATION
•Relief that the ‘goodbye’ part is over, but
feeling guilty for the relief
•New routines develop, but overwhelmed by
all the new responsibilities
•Sleeping is difficult due to loss of security
and the spouse
•Anger towards the Marine for not staying
and mad at the Marine Corps for making
him/her go
RECOVERY AND
STABALIZATION
•Comfortable and capable of all the new
roles
•Able to reach out for support
•Feeling of self confidence and
independence
•Going through the ‘my’ syndrome
ANTICIPATION OF
HOMECOMING
•Compile a list of things to do before the
Marine comes home
•Excitement and anticipation of the return
•Questions of “Does he/she still love me?”
•Changing the house to reflect the ‘our’
house feeling
•Start changing patterns back to the way
they were before the Marine left
RENOGITATION OF THE
MARRIAGE CONTRACT
•May feel a loss of independence
•Start being a ‘married’ spouse again
•Share roles, responsibilities and decisions
•A feeling of too much togetherness
•Hesitation towards intimate relations
•Falling in love again!
I WILL SURVIVE
(MILITARY SPOUSE VERSION)

Rewritten by: Donna Cartwright
Original song: I will survive
By: Gloria Gaynor
At first I was afraid
I was petrified
Kept thinking I could never live
without you by my side
But I spent so many nights
thinking how I COULD GET ALONG
and I grew strong
and I learned how to carry on
and I GOT YOUR BACK
WHILE YOU’RE AWAY
I’LL BE FINE WHILE YOU’RE THERE
DON’T HAVE that sad look upon your face
I should NOT have argued at the dock
I should have made you kiss me
If I had known for just one second
it’s a ‘normal cycle’ for me
Go on now go I LOVE YOU DEAR
DON’T TURN AROUND now
'cause I CAN DO THIS AND more
weren't you the one who tried to HELP ME TO
GET BY
you KNEW I WOULDN’T crumble
you KNEW I WOULDN’T lay down and die
Oh no, not I
I will survive
as long as I HAVE YOU to love
I know I’ll stay alive
I've got many who SUPPORT ME
and I've got many kids to feed
and I'll survive
I will survive HEY HEY
It took all the strength I had
not to fall apart
kept trying hard to mend
the pieces of my broken heart
and I spent oh so many nights
just feeling sorry for myself
I used to cry
but now I hold my head up high
and you see me
somebody new
I'm NOW A STRONGER PERSON
STILL IN LOVE WITH YOU
And NOW WE’RE HOME FROM HOMECOMIN’
AND I’M GLAD YOU DID YOUR DUTY
I’VE BEEN savin’ all my lovin’ for TODAY
I’M HAPPY!
Go on now go I LOVE YOU DEAR
DON’T TURN AROUND now
'cause I CAN DO THIS AND more
weren't you the one who tried to HELP ME TO
GET BY
you KNEW I WOULDN’T crumble
you KNEW I WOULDN’T GO down and die
Oh no, not I
I will survive
as long as I HAVE YOU to love
I know I’ll stay alive
I've got many who SUPPORT ME
and I've got many kids to feed
and I'll survive
I will survive HEY HEY
YOU WILL
SURVIVE!
OUR
DEPLOYMENT
EXPERIENCE
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