व्मक्ततत्व ववकास

द्वाया
आत्भववश्वास (कामयशारा)

B. A. AGATE
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Warm up

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―Let us learn to unlearn & unlearn to learn‖

Person शख्स, व्मक्तत
A person (from Latin: persona, meaning
―mask"भुखौटा) is most commonly defined as a
human being, or more formally as any entity
अक्ततत्व with attributes constituting personhood

Road map – Understanding Methodology
(ववषम को सभजने का तयीका)
1.

Why personality व्मक्ततत्व development?

2.

What personality is not?

3.

What personality is?

4.

Determinants ननधाययक of personality

5.

Nature – Nurture issue तवबाव - रारन - ऩारन

6.

Good Personality - Attributes

7.

Objective – Establish own Identity – How?

8.

Personality development – How?

9.

Clarity of goals रक्ष्म, भंक्जर and purpose of life

व्मक्ततत्व

10. Personality from inside and outside
11. Positive attitude – Why?
12. Requirement towards development of fine personality
13. Types of personality
14. Finally …Build your personality

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What do we understand! मे तमा है !

"Love and knowledge are two important things in
the world – when we share them their values
don't decrease, they always increase."
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KNOW YOUR PERSONALITY – ―Rethink‖ (Concept)

 Physical attributes of an individual as his/her

personality
 Fair complexion or chiseled features – marvelous

personality
 Height, good looks, complexion or physique of a

person

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Time to ―Rethink‖ what you think you know (Concept)

As per modern management concept―Personality (व्मक्ततत्व) is the brand image of an individual‖
 Character ………….(चरयत्र, शीर, तवबाव,ढं ग,ववशेषता)
 Behavioral Traits…(आचयण,सरक
ू ,फतायव,व्मवहाय,चार-

चरन),(ववशेषता, खाससमत)

 Attitude ……………… (यवैमा, रुख, भनोबाव, भनोदृक्टट)

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Time to ―Rethink‖ what you think you know - (Concept)

Physical
Intellectual

Emotional

―Personality (व्मक्ततत्व) is the sum
of an individual’s characteristics (ववसशटट गुण)
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Time to ―Rethink‖ what you think you know - (Scope of
Physical energy)
- What you are!
- What you will!
- What you aspire!

 Physical energy… Limited
 Mental energy … Unlimited
 Moral energy … Unlimited

 काबफसरमत
 इयादा

 भहत्वाकांऺा

 रारसा

You are at par with others in quantum of intelligence. You
are less or more in Intensity तीव्रता,गहनता

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Why Personality Development?

1. Ensure excellence (श्रेटठता, उत्कृटठता) in one’s

chosen field

2. Contribute to Individual and National Development
3. Your chances for success in any organization

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What personality is not?
 Persona ( Mask) "psychological clothing."

 Actor (Squint eye)
 Character as per mask
 Only what it appears to others
 Its not inherited; traits may come
 The persona is that which in reality one is not, but

which oneself as well as others think one is.
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What personality is?
 One way of thinking about yourself
 Tendency toward thinking, behaving and feeling in

consistent ways across different types of situations &
across time
 Dynamic Organization गनतशीर ढांचा मा व्मवतथा

(Individual)
 Organization of Physical & Psychological traits (प्राकृनतक

तथा भनोवैऻाननक, ववशेषता)

 Determine his/her characteristic, thought and behavior

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Personality from inside & outside
 From the inside: अंतभयन

This is the person you think you are

Defined by your hopes, dreams, aspirations, goals,
and intentions

 From the outside: फाह्म

This is your reputation

The person others think you are

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Attitude+

Open and explorative
(Physical, Mental, Emotional)

This is
Personality !!

Beliefs

Values

Behavior

Powerful core potential.
Success & satisfaction (life and career)
Interests, Motivational factors

Traits- Communication, Interpersonal
relationship, Character

Determinants of Personality
व्मक्ततभत्व के ननधाययक
 Heredity (Genes) आनव
ु ंसशक जनन - कोसशका भें यहने

वारा जीन नाभक तत्त्व

 Environment ( Family- Single parent; joint nuclear,

peer group, college edn. media)
 Order of birth
 Single child (pampered) राड प्माय

 Parents can not be friends

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Nature - Nurture Issue (भसरा, भद्द
ु ा)
 Nature – तवबाव

– traits, abilities, and capabilities inherited from one’s
parents

Nature ≈ Genetic आनव
ु ंसशक
 Nurture - ऩारन - ऩोषण, रारन - ऩारन

– environmental influences that shape behavior
Nurture ≈ Environment ऩरयवेश, वातावयण

Heredity x Environment = Personality development
आनुवंसशकता × ऩरयवेश = व्मक्ततत्व ववकास

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Good Personality – Attributes?
अच्छे व्मक्ततत्व के गण

Good physique (अच्छा शायीरयक गठन मा डीर-डौर)

Pleasing manners ( ददर ऩसंद,आनंददामक -सशटटाचाय )

Personal and Professional integrity (सत्मननटठा, ईभान, सभग्रता)

Trustworthiness and reliability (ववशवततता, बयोसेभद
ं /ववश्वसनीम)

Good control over body and mind (संमभ, शयीय, ध्मान दे ना)

Moral agreement & not a legal agreement
नैनतक अनफ
ु ंध ना, कक वैधाननक सभझौता

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Healthy Body तवतथ शयीय

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Healthy Body & healthy mind (भन)
1. Nutrition …No junk food
2. Personal Hygiene
3. Exercising
Traditional methods (Yoga, Pranayam etc.)
Modern methods (Gym, aerobics, etc.)

Walking and jogging
4. Disciplining of daily routines is a must!
Mind control is essential for a healthy body.
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सपरता के २ सयर ऩदहमे!

Skill (कौशर, प्रववणता) & will (इच्छा)

सपरता हाससर कयना

सपरता को कामभ यखना

सदबावना Goodwill

,

(I will give more than what I earn)

Ability
ऺभता

Willingness
इच्छा

Hired for skill, fired for behaviour

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सपरता के ४ वगय पर - १ आत्भववश्वास

Attitude

Skill

भनोदृटटी

कौशल्म

Knowledge

Habits

ऻान

आदते

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वगय पर - १

Attitude

(यवैमा, रुख , भनोबाव , भनोदृटटी)

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यवैमा, रुख, भनोबाव, भनोदृटटी

सपरता कक सम्बावनामे
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Why + attitude & + thinking?
Worry, Anger, Insecurity, Fear,
Suspicion, Hatred, Antagonism,,
Despair, Mourning, Self doubt etc.

Efforts
&

Love, Appreciation, Optimism, Security,
Cooperation, Compassion, Generosity,
Friendliness, Patience, Helpfulness,
Ambition

Actions

B.P. & Heart beats Stress chemical
released Health problems
संबावनाए फढ़ जाती है
+ Feeling yourself
contributes to health
Life ≠ always your control but

Mind is or should be!!

 Don’t find fault with others
 I can do instead of I can not
 I choose to do instead of I have to do or I need to do
 - ve causes Problems +ve causes Solutions

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Attitudinal Mantras
 Thinking… determines your attitudes!

 Asking… increases your information to do your karmas

well.
 Doing… gives you the feel of success and happiness.

 Improving… puts you on the road of self satisfaction.
 Excelling… if you aim for excellence, you will achieve it.
 Happiness & Stress…is the result of your actions only!

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वगय पर २

Skill

कौशल्म

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What is skill?

Practical ability

Hard Skills:- D.B., SQL Server, Oracle C++(PIE)
Soft Skills :- Leadership, Motivation, Team work, Personality
development, Public speaking, Resume writing, Interviewing &
Communication skill and many more…..

Soft skills

Technical

तंत्रऻानववषमक

skills

 Interpersonal
 Communication
 Presentation

 Negotiation
 Conflict resolution

 Technical skills and soft

skills are independent of
each other

 Teamwork
 Coaching / Mentoring
 Managerial skills

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Advantage of acquiring Soft skills
Soft skills help:

» Effective verbal and written Communication
» Communicate effectively in public as well as private
forums
» Work effectively in small group settings both as a
participant and leader
» Work effectively in one-on-one settings
» Understand and carry out instructions from leaders and
sponsors (ऩयु तकताय)
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How to Analyze Your Skills and Job Options
Collate
 The things you are good at
 With the things you enjoy

See
 Where that leads you

Think / See
 Your life

Analyse / Think /Choose

 Your future (like a tree)

 Your skills

 Where the branches lead to

 What you want to use

 What you still want to do

 Your job options

with Your life

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वगय पर ३

Habits
आदते
It is a routine of

behavior that
is repeated regularly and tends
to occur unconsciously

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Child Model
 Thoughts
 Emotion

Amalgamation, start developing during childhood.
Strengthened & moulded as per environment.

 Behavior Personality crystallizes at the age of 16.

Behavior can develop and evolve with time.

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Thoughts and Environment
 Our thoughts influence our feelings and behaviors
 Self-talk—the internal dialogue I have with myself—

messages I give myself about who I am
 Positive thinking—how do we convey our world view to

ourselves—‖Is the glass half-full or half-empty?‖

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You Can Change Your Life - How?
By Changing – What happens?
 Thinking
 Beliefs
 Expectations
 Attitude
 Behavior

 Performance
 Life!
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Behavior (आचयण,वतयन)
स्वी
का

आक्राभक

रा
त्म

ननक्टक्रम

अप्रनतयोधी
दब्फू

yourself than others
yourself and others
others than yourself

• Natural style, direct, honest,
respectful self respect and
respect for other

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Behavior (आचयण,वतयन)
• Aggressive (आक्राभक)
• Superiority and disrespect,
violates rights of others.
• Passive & indirect; Inferiority

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Behavior (आचयण,वतयन)

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Objective -Establish own Identity; How?

Aims
Goals
Anticipated career
Life style
Role in the community

Curious
Energetic
Achieving
Unmindful
It can’t happen to me
syndrome (personal fable) कऩोरकल्ऩना

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A ―SMART‖ Objective
 Specific – Clear, concise, and focused
 Measurable – Objective / Observable
 Achievable – Possible / Manageable
 Realistic – Can be accomplished with some

effort and focus; makes ―business‖ sense
 Time-Bound – By the end of the day or

week

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Objective - Establish own Identity How?

100
80
60
40
20
0

Maturity

Energy
Experience
Maturity

Experience
Energy
Young

मव
ु ा

Old

ऩयु ाने

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Clarity of goals and purpose in life
Things will happen only if we make them happen
Action in thought
Starting Point

Action

Goal Achieved in
Reality

Sub goal
-Time scale
-Record
-Review

Goals can be achieved
Systematic, determined consistent efforts
with self control & accepting set backs without dejections

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Personality Development – How?
Is it just developing!
 Mere external appearance
 Speech
 Mannerism
 Behavior in accordance of

expectations of group
It is a struggle (संघषय) to march from lower mind (Does) to higher
mind (Thinks)

Is the greatest of all great struggles!!
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Personality Development – How?

Express your

Give up

1. Originality असरी

1. Artificiality सशल्ऩननसभयत

2. Creativity यचनात्भक

2. Imitation नकरी, कृबत्रभ

3. Deep thinking

3. Shallow & superficial

thinking सतही

Believe in innate (कुदयती) goodness. Put effort to manifest (व्मतत) it.
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वगय पर ४

Knowledge
ज्ञान

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Awareness - ―Consciousness‖

जागरूकता - सभझ

 It may be currently limited to certain aspects of our

self and whatever is going on in our life. This is
called the limits of our current consciousness.
 Over a period of time our level of awareness or

consciousness does change.

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Our current state of Awareness - ―Consciousness‖
determines (तम कयना) (आज कक जागरूकता – सभझ)
 Our ―quality‖ of life.
 The choices we make
 The decisions we take
 The actions we pursue कायय वाई, ऩीछा कयना

 Our current state of thinking
 Our current state of health and well being
 How we react to life situations,

 How much we accept
 The nature of our emotions
 Feelings about various things or events in our life

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Self Awareness
 Intelligence

अक़्रभंदी

 Aptitude

असबऺभता, मोग्मता

 Interest

ददरचतऩी, रुझान

 Personality

व्मक्ततत्व

4 Fundamental Characteristics

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Strengths,

Capabilities

skills, and

and

preferences

Identify & understand

applications

Self

awareness
Development

Areas for

activities, new

Development

strategies

or improvement
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Yes risk yes gains
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1. (फुवि, अतर)
2. (ऊजाय, शक्तत, फर, ताकत)
3. (सत्मननटठा, ईभानदायी, सभग्रता, प्रभाणणकता)

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What Is Self-Efficacy? Albert Bandura
 Self-efficacy is "the belief (ववश्वास-धायणा) in one’s

capabilities (साभर्थमय) to organize (संगदठत) and execute
(सरखना) the courses of action (अनम
ु ोजन) required to
manage (व्मवतथा कयना) prospective (संबाव्म)
situations." (ऩरयक्तथती)

 Self-efficacy is a person’s belief in his or her ability to

succeed in a particular situation. Bandura described
these beliefs as determinants (ननधाययक) of how people
think (सोचना), behave (आचयण-व्मवहाय), and feel
(संवेदना) (1994).
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Sources of Self-Efficacy - Albert Bandura
1. Mastery experiences – things you have succeeded in

the past
2. Vicarious experiences – seeing people who are similar

to you succeed
3. Social persuasion – hearing from others that you are

capable
4. Emotional status – staying +ve and managing stress

1.2.& 4.within your control

3. can not force the people say + ve about us.
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तवमं-आत्भ ववश्वास का ननभायण
कोई फात नहीं, इस वतत,जो बी भेया,तवमं-आत्भ ववश्वास का तथय है ,उस भें सुधाय कयना
भभ
ु ककन है . ऩयन्तु भझ
ु े अऩने आऩ ऩे बयोसा कयना है औय खद
ु के साभर्थमय को ऩहचानना
फशते,दस
ू या कोई भुझे फतामे.

है

फंडूया ससंिांत क्जसे "खुद का प्रबाव" से जाना जाता है . इस का प्रमोग भुझे कयना है .
इस ससंिांत के अनुसाय "खुद का प्रबाव" के चाय तत्रोत / साधन है .
१. प्रबुत्व अनुबव : भुझको, अतीत भें सभरी सपरतामे

२. ववकारयओस अनुबव : उन रोगो को दे खना, क्जन्हे सपरता सभरी, जो भेये जैसे है
३. साभक्जक प्रोत्साहन : दस
ू यों से सन
ु ना कक भेये भें काबफसरमत है
४. बावक
ु अवतथा : सकायात्भक यहना औय तनाव ऩय प्रफंधन
(१,२ औय ४ ) तत्रोत, भेये ननमंत्रण भें है , इससरए भुझे

फंडूया

इन्हे नजदीकी से दे खना है

मद्मवऩ, तत्रोत ३ के अनुसाय भै रोगो ऩय दफाव डारके तो नहीं कह सकता कक भेये फाये भें
अच्छा कहे , ऩयन्तु भझ
ु भें मदद अतऩटट आत्भववश्वास है तो सकायात्भक प्रनतकक्रमा सभरने
कक सम्बावनामे फढ़ जाती है

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What is the opposite of self confidence?

It is doubt! Doubt is actually a series of questions that we ask
ourselves and then reply with NO. The graphical presentation will
make this clearer.
(White areas –
weaknesses)

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आत्भववश्वास

सपरता

आत्भववश्वास

रारसा
भहत्वाकांऺा

चक्र
प्रेयणा

उच्चतभ
रक्ष्म

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Requirement towards the development of a fine personality &
in turn confidence
1.

Clarity of goals and purpose in life

2.

Doing beyond expectations

3.

Learning from failures

4.

Initiatives

5.

Enthusiasm

6.

Character and personality

7.

Self discipline

8.

Positive mental attitude

9.

Managing

10. Sound physical and mental health
11. Team work

12. Hard work

रक्ष्म,उद्देश्म

उम्भीद,अऩेऺा

नाकाभमाफी,असपरता
ऩहर, उऩक्रभ

जोश, उत्साह, उभंग

चरयत्र – तवबाव, व्मक्ततत्व

तवमं - अनश
ु ासन

ददभागी,भानससक –भनोदृक्टट,यवैमा
प्रफन्ध कयना

शायरयक तथा भानससक तवातथ
सक्म्भसरत काभ

कडी भेहनत

13. Growing in one’s knowledge and skills ऻान औय कौशल्म

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Types of personality …The..

Perfectionist
Helper
Romantic
Observer
Peacemaker
Asserter
Questioner
Achiever
Adventurer
& many more …
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Finally…Build up your personality
 Draw a picture of a successful person
 Cancel your -ve thoughts with +ve thought
 Identify your obstacle
 Do not copy others blindly
 Get a competent counselors to help you
 Practice the sentence, ―I can do it‖
 God is your creator. He is for you
 Make a true estimate of your ability
 Put y’self in God’s hand
 Remind y’self all the time that you have the

energy and power of God
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7 Secrets of success
I found the answer in my lecture hall…
1. Roof said: Aim high (Law of Potentiality)
2. Fan said : Be cool (Law of Giving)
3. Clock said : Every minute is precious (Law of Karma)

4. Mirror said : Reflect before you act (Law of Effort)
5. Widow said : See the world (Law of Intention and Desire)
6. Calendar said : Be up-to-date (Law of Detachment)

7. Door said : Push hard to achieve your goal (Law of Dharma)
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WALK 2014

CONFIDENCE

SKILL

KNOWLEDGE

SELF
AWARENESS

चरो सफ,
एक खेर खेरे !
ददभागी हथथमाय
तवमं-आत्भ ववश्वास का ननभायण

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धन्मवाद आऩ सफके
उऩक्तथनत,सहबाथगता तथा बागीदायी के सरए!

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Thank you for your
presence, participation & involvement
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