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BS(CS) 3rd Semester
Week 8
Scope of This Week
o Definitions
o Importance of Emotions
o Components of Emotions
o Expression of Emotions
o Emotions and Health
o Handling Emotions/ Emotional
o Anger Management
Derivation & Definitions

Has been derived from Latin word
“Emovere” that means “to stir”

“Stirred up state of an organism”

“A response of the whole organism involving
physiological arousal, expressive behaviors
and conscious experience”
David G. Myers
Importance of Emotions
o Energy in Motion
o Instinctive; Hence important for survival
o All essential; not necessarily negative or positive but the
expressions make them so!
o Important to know who we are
o Identify our Important Needs
o Help in Grieving and to Heal from our losses
o Allows Intimacy & Close Relationships
o The way one feels ‘inside’ is important to deal better with
the ‘outside’
o Repression causes Stress, Distant Relationships, Lack of
Confidence & Physical & Mental Illnesses
o Self Disclosure builds bond between relations & breaks
o Distinguish Humans from Machines
Components Of Emotions
The Physiological Component:
o Involves active changes in the body physically
o E.G. Accelerated hear beat, increased blood pressure, pupil
dilation etc.

The Cognitive Component:
o Is the interpretation of certain situations or stimulations
o This determines which emotion our body will feel
o Emphasizes the importance of thoughts, beliefs and
expectations in determining the type and intensity of
emotional response
o Expressions that follow appropriate cognitive appraisal improve
mental and physical health
o E.G. Sitting alone in the dark, watching a scary movie, &
hearing a loud noise might elicit scary thoughts
The Behavioral Component:
o Called the outward expression of our emotions 
o Body Gestures, Posture, Facial Expressions & Tone
Of Voice display feelings
o Most expressions are universal & not related to

The Subjective Experience:
o Includes the elements of pleasure or displeasure,
intensity of feeling, etc.
o What one individual experiences as pleasurable may
be boring for another one
o Intuition…know it cant explain it…but its there!!
Expression of Emotion
o Feel the ‘Feeling’
o What you ‘Resist’ will ‘Persist’
o Verbal and Non-Verbal
o With or Without Self-Awareness
o Deliberate Efforts are Made to Mask/Show Emotions
o Critical for Interpersonal Communication
o Gender, Morality & Socialization Specific
o Expectation Regulated (Self & Others)
o Suppressing others emotions is to control them
o If not expressed are stored in Memory Unresolved
o Other events elicit inappropriate response
o Assertive Behavior is ideal to express difficult emotions
Feelings & Their Gifts
Feelings Gifts from our Feelings
o Happy
o Love ___________________________________
o Anger ___________________________________
o Sad ___________________________________
o Fear ___________________________________
o Hurt ___________________________________
o Lonely ___________________________________
o Guilt ___________________________________
o Shame
o Feelings most
difficult to express
Emotion & Health
• Emotions have a Direct Effect on
Mental & Physical Health
• Our body produces different • Dry mouth
Hormones that have varied • Extreme tiredness
effects on our health • General aches and pains
• The biggest factor that causes • Headaches
adult health related issues & • High blood pressure
Psychosomatic Disorders • Lightheadedness
• Some Signs: • Palpitations (the feeling that
• Back pain your heart is racing)
• Change in appetite • Shortness of breath
• Chest pain • Stiff neck
• Constipation or diarrhea • Sweating
• Upset stomach
• Weight gain or loss
• Insomnia (trouble sleeping)
Handling Emotions… Intelligently
Components of Emotional Intelligence
• Self-Awareness And Self-Expression & Self-Care
• To accurately perceive, understand and accept oneself
Emotional Self-Awareness:
• To be aware of, and understand one’s emotions
• To effectively and constructively express one’s emotions
and oneself
• To be self-reliant and free of emotional dependency on
• To strive to achieve personal goals and actualize one’s
Lets Check Our Style…

o I Express My Anger Indirectly By…..

o I Internalize My Anger By…..

o If I Express My Anger Directly I Fear…..

o I Feel Angry When Others….

o Anger For Me Is ….
About Anger
o A Feeling; Real, Healthy & Normal
o Our Socialization effects our expression
o Starts With Irritation, Goes Up to Enraged
o Anger Not Expressed….Goes Against Ourselves
o Fighting One Way to Express…The Other??
o Physical Adjustment necessary for relief
o Anger Carries Energy
o Anger and Hurt are intertwined
o If unresolved may hurt within
Learning To Handle Anger
o Admit, Accept & Acknowledge
o Identify The Source
o Check Your Perception
o Gauge Your Anger…
o Bring It Down
o Pay Attention & Not Ignore
o Not Internalize
o Decide How & When
o Have A Grip Over It... Rather than anger over you
o Know The Reasons & Deal With Them
o Express Assertively Whenever Possible
o Role Model Healthy Ways Of Expression
Some Constructive
o Talk To The Person Directly Involved
o Use ‘I’ Statements
o Take Responsibility Of Your Own Feelings
o Do Not Blame Others
o Listen To The Others Point Of View
o Get In Touch With Your Expectations & Intentions
o Do Not Judge The Other Person’s Intensions
o Be Congruent; Words, Voice & Facial Expressions
o Express Your Anger Directly
o Identify The Source Of Your Anger…What is the real
reason that You are Angry??
o Make Direct Requests For Change
o To End Up In A ‘Win-Win’ Situation
Do you Remember???

The Last Time When You Were Really Angry?

1. To Whom And Towards What Behavior/Action Was
Your Anger Directed?
2. What Did You Actually Do Or Say?
3. What Did You Want To Do Or Say?
4. What Were Your Fears Behind Concealing What
You Wanted To Do Or Say?