CHANGING ROLES OF

FILIPINO FAMILY

Introdu
The family is a solid unit whose
ction:
interests are primary to that of the

individuals composing it. Within the
neighborhood, it is the entire family, not its
individual members, which decides on the
resolution of important matters; thus it is
the honor of the family which is at stake
when an individual member of the unit
commits a mistake and not of the person
himself.

Introdu
The super ordination of the family over
ction:
individual interests has a far-reaching
significance. Emphasis on family loyalty
and support prevails which in turn
underlines the concept of family solidarity.
It is the family which provides the average
Filipino with a stable unit for socialization
and a reservoir of emotional security and
support.

Introdu
ction:
It is in the family that she acquires
her first orientation to group life,
learns and internalizes the values of
Filipino culture and finds guidance
throughout her life.

It was not until 1667 that the term was used specifically for the group of people . which came from another Latin term “ famulus” . It comes from the Latin word “ familia”.History of the word “Family” The word “family” first referred to the servants of a household and then to both the servants and the descendants of a common ancestor. or 'servant'. meaning 'household. household servants'.

and reside usually in the same dwelling place. . A basic unit of the social structure and it is almost universal in its occurrence.  All the members of a household under one roof. Two or more people who share goals and values. have long-term commitments to one another.What is Family? A fundamental social group in society typically consisting of one or two parents and their children.

The Family have certain characteristics: As a social group. It is the first social group to which an individual is exposed. disposition. It is a major agent in the transmission of culture which also affects &/or reflects the culture of the society. changes in the family (e. & basic motivations. from traditional structure to non-traditional structure ) are happening brought about by the changing economic climate & technological advancements but it has remained a basic institution in the society.” The family affects the individual’s social values. Family relationships last a long time & an “individual’s : earliest & longest experience in living takes place in a family setting. & outlook in life. The family is the source of the individual’s ideals. Nowadays.g. it is universal. It is a significant element in man’s social life. aspirations.” The family is said to be the link between an individual & the larger society. from the assertion above. In this way we can say that a person’s interaction &/or attitude inside the family unit affects or is a determinant in how that person interacts in the community that his family belongs. . Logically. the family is understood to provide continuity of social life.

respect. there is a love. attention. sanctified by the virtue of Christian marriage is cohesive in nature. In general.What is a Filipino Family? The Filipino family in general is still monogamous. care. protection. and engenders in him a sense of belongingness and security. democracy and above all there is . The Filipino family plays a unique role for the child as it gives him affection. in the home of Filipino family. The Filipino family is an institute of security which protects its members from exigencies of living. The Filipino family founded on love and affection. justice. cooperation.

ditional Filipino Fam And tended Filipino Fam .

The Wife and Mother – is the heart.What is a Traditional Family? The Husband and Father – leader or head of the family and his authority is respected. She holds the family together. .

Role of the The father is considered the head and the provider of the family while the Parents (Tradition) mother takes responsibility of the domestic needs and in-charge of the emotional growth and values formation of the children. . while they regard their fathers as strong and the most eminent figure in the family. Children see their mothers soft and calm. They both perform different tasks and being remarked separately by the children.

.Parent-child ● Children in a traditional Filipino family Relationship are trained not to answer back when parents are reprimanding them.

the religion of the Filipino parents becomes the religion of the children.Family Faith and Religion ● Traditionally. . No one is supposed to change faith as a respect to the parents.

Strong respect for elders. 2. Keep close connection with other relatives. These words are used to show respect to people of older level. Children are Filipino Family taught from birth how to say “po” and “opo” to teach them as early as possible how to properly respect their elders.Traditional 1. .

the traditional Filipino family were: ■ acknowledges the importance of both consanguineal (blood) and affinal (marriage) ties.Filipino Family According to Paz Policarpio Mendez and F. Landa Jocano (1974). ■ ritual kinship in terms of godparents is recognized as being special because it is embedded in the Filipino community .

This family is also called extended family which does not only covers up to your grandparents but may go the network of relatives that extends beyond the domestic conjugal family.consists of a parent and his or her children. and other people. .Traditional ■ Consanguineal or biological ties Filipino Family remain as the most important relations Consanguineal family .

Consanguineal Family / Extende .

when choosing friends and possible spouses. . carefully examined genealogies to assess virtues and shortcomings because they believed that a person's hereditary character shows.■ Some rural Filipinos.

They give each other much mutual affection and respect. . It follows that parents and children share an exceptionally strong and intimate bond. that a person can be judged on the basis of who her or his relatives are. Children are taught by their parents to be gentle and deferential to elders. and this is carried on after they get married.Traditional Belen Medina found that: Filipino Family ● Blood bonds are so important.

Family 116) classify the Filipino family as ♥ residentially nuclear but functionally extended.Traditional Gelia Castillo and Juanito Filipino Pua (1963." This means that the household tends to be nuclear in form. but the family is extended in so far as relationships among members of the wider kin group are concerned. . p.

Filipinos and the Value Placed in the Family Filipinos are generally family oriented. ang nagatanum ug kadautan. According to Timbreza (2003). Because of this many actions. Boholanos: “Ang familia nga nagatanum ug kaayohan nag-ani ug kapalaran. plans & goals in life of an individual are either affected or is centered upon the family. “family success is the measure of a successful life for the Filipinos. He lists some sayings of Filipino tribes that has something to do with how they view the Family. the one that sows evil reaps . nag-ani og lonlon kasakitan” (The family that sows goodness reaps fortune.

It is different from Buddhism. marhay pa ang payag na laog tao” (A house may be a palace. it will have either a positive or negative consequence in the future to him/her or his/her family. but if the owner is an owl.) . it has something to do however with reversion that whatever a person does or does not do in the family. better is a hut where the owner is a human being) Tagalogs: “Mabuti pa ang kubo na ang nakatira ay tao. Bicolanos: “An harong man palasyo kun an laog kuwago. kaysa isang bahay na bato na ang nakatira ay kuwago” (A hut where a person lives is better than a house of stone where an owl resides.Analysis: Here we can see the concept of “karma” among Filipinos.

This can be evident in today’s televised drama/shows as either centered upon the family or has something great to do with the family & family dynamics. . Ilocanos: “Ti timpuyog ti pamilia isu’t mangted ti kired ken pigsa” (Family harmony provides fortitude & strength). no la ket nauros ti pamiliam” (Even though you don’t have property as long as you have a harmonious family). Analysis: Here we can see how happiness in the family takes precedence above all among the Filipinos.Analysis: These sayings are somewhat the same as both reflect the value place upon the persons in the family rather than the economic influences as symbolize by the “house of stone” or the “palace”. “Uray awan ti kukuam.

Modern Filipino Fam .

The function attributed to families are:  economic consumption  socialization of the young. 2001) . One of the current definitions which encompass all types of families is: two or more persons who share resources share responsibility for decisions share values & goals. and have a commitment to each other over time. 1992 as cited by Medina.According to Medina (2001) : The definition of Filipino family is evolving as structures continue to change. and  affective dimensions (Davidso and Moore.

interaction in the family is changing. Parents who go abroad to find greener pastures so to speak leave behind their children to other relatives thus shifting the authority to them which also affects how the child interacts to the . There is a trend to nuclearization as families are being drawn to urbanized areas to work.Family Structures of Today Because of the economic situation & technological advancement.

“Female headship has become an urban phenomenon because it is in the urban center where employment opportunities for women are more available” (Medina.The decision maker which is traditionally held by the eldest male in the family is slowly fading as there is tendency for the breadwinner (most likely the working member or highest earner in the family) to assume this role though respect is still accorded to the eldest still.” . Urbanization not only changed family dynamics but also weakened family ties & also the ties “between the individual & the larger kin group. 2001).

palomar.denoting a custom in marriage whereby the husband goes to live with the wife's community. For example. .Family Structures of Today Residence is said to determine the quality & quantity of interaction with relatives for it has something to do with who is to live with whom which would logically affect the pattern of socialization among relatives &/or family members. Taken from http://anthro. a child who grows with his uncle because his parents are both working abroad will be more likely emotionally attached to his uncle than with his parents.htm here are the basic residence rules consistent with Medina (2001): One-parent family consist either : A matrilocal family .edu/marriage/marriage_5.

when descent is measured only from females to their offspring. This keeps women near their female relatives. Not surprisingly.• occurs when a newly married couple establishes their home near or in the bride's mother's house. this residence pattern is associated with matrilineal descent (that is. About 13% of the world's societies have matrilocal residence . as in the case of the green people below). Men leave their natal households when they marry.

This makes sense in a society that follows patrilineal descent (that is. • occurs when a newly married couple establishes their home near or in the groom's father's house. as in the case of the red people in the diagram below). This is because it allows the groom to remain near his male relatives. Women do not remain in their natal household after marriage with this residence pattern. A patrilocal family . About 69% of the world's societies follow patrilocal residence.relating to a pattern of marriage in which the couple settles in the husband's home or community. . making it the most common. when descent is measured only from males to their offspring.

jobs. Having a woman's son live near her brother allows the older man to more easily teach his nephew what he needs to know in order to assume his matrilineally inherited role. It occurs when men obtain statuses. About 4% of the world's societies have avunculocal residence.occurs when a newly married couple establishes their home near or in the groom's maternal uncle's house. or prerogatives from their nearest elder matrilineal male relative. This is associated with matrilineal descent. .Avunculocal family .

especially for young newlyweds. Employment in large corporations or the military often calls for frequent relocations. making it nearly impossible for extended families to remain together.occurs when a newly married couple has the choice of living with or near the groom's or the bride's family. . Elsewhere. neolocal residence is found in societies in which kinship is minimized or economic considerations require moving residence periodically. The couple may also live for a while with one set of parents and then move to live with the other. Neolocal family .occurs when a newly married couple establishes their home independent of both sets of relatives. economic hardship at times makes neolocal residence a difficult goal to achieve. it is popular and common in urban North America today largely because it suits the cultural emphasis on independence. While only about 5% of the world's societies follow this pattern.Ambilocal family . However. About 9% of the world's societies have ambilocal residence.

 A same-sex couple family – consist of a couple of the same gender and may have adopted children. . separation or a death of a spouse. bringing children of the former family into the new family.describes families with mixed parents: one or both parents remarried. A step family or blended family . This type of family is an emerging trend now due to annulment.  Live-in partners family – consist of couple without getting married and have children .

Widow or widower & his/her offspring 2. The types are: 1. Unwed woman & her child/children 5. Single man/woman with adopted child/children 3. Mistress & her child/children by a married man .consist of a group in which they may have strong relations. Separated parent & his/her children 4. A family of bond or purpose .  Solo parents are also proliferating nowadays. or share same ideologies in which they would consider themselves a family.

a fraternity/sorority house. or a dormitory constitute a household but not a family. The residents of a boarding house. Residence is not a criterion as there are also people who lives under one roof but are not necessarily considered a family (referred to as households).Primary importance here is placed on the issues of commitment & affection. It defines above “as a group of persons living under one roof & sharing the same kitchen & housekeeping arrangements.” .

This however. there are 3 types of authority patterns: Patriarchal The oldest male.com/browse/authority). the wife is in charge with the money & the organization in the house & its affairs. authority has something to do with the power to determine… to command. usually goes with matrilocal residence or matrilineal descent. Matriarchal The mother has the authority.com ( http://dictionary. Equalitarian This is where most Filipino families are classified. .reference.Pattern of Authority According to Dictionary. Applied in the family. Although the husband is generally referred to as the head. usually the father has control over the other members.

Also. the equality of male & female when it comes in the family is exemplified by the nature of most Filipino family when it comes to authority (which is equalitarian in nature). The more someone is associated with another (because of location) the more the older person (here pertains in the family dynamics) will have authority on the younger one. Family terminologies that Medina (2001) saw as significant indicator of the equal .Realization Here we can see a connection between the system of residence & authority.

The topic of responsibility is thus an important area of the family to be discussed as it is a logical consequence of authority. manugang (childin-law). pamangkin (nephew or niece). bata (child). Here are some philosophical views among them: . kapatid (brother or sister/sibling). According to Timbreza (2003). It is then by putting na lalaki (male) or na babae (female) after these terms will gender be designated. pinsan (cousin). parental responsibility means pananagutang pangmagulang from pananagutan (responsibility or basically means “answer”) & magulang (parent) thus we can see that Filipino parents are answerable or responsible for the upbringing of their children to the extent that failure of a child in life means failure in the parents in upbringing. magulang (parent). & biyenan (parent-in-law). apo (grandchild). anak (son or daugther). The issue of discipline is thus important here with regards to authority.treatment of males & females (neutral) among Filipino families are: asawa (spouse).

Tagalogs: “Ang kahoy na liko’t baluktot. dala hanggang sa pagtanda” (One’s ways during childhood are borne until old age). hutukin mo hanggang malambot. When the child is small he/she should be moulded already for as he/she ages so will also his/her character becomes cemented hence the difficult formation later. Ilocanos: “Dagiti annak tis arming dagiti nagannak” (Children are the frelection of the parents). so are the children). mahirap na ang paghutok” (A curved & crooked tree should be straightened while it’s still soft. Illonggos: “Ang guinicanan amo ang sentro sang responsibilidad” (Parents are the focal point of responsibility). Boholanos: “Unsa ang mga guinicanan ma-o opod ang ilang caliwat” (Whoever the parents are. . kung malaki na’t tumayog. once it grows big & tall. it will be difficult to stretch it). “Ang gawa sa pagkabata. Analysis: We can see that Filipinos already have a good grasp as to when is it a good time to discipline a child.

Children will do what their parents do. According to this theory. behaviour is said to be the result of interaction among an individual. this is called reciprocal determinism (Refer to picture next page). This is not only true with Filipinos or some nationalities but is supported by research as with the Theory of Albert Bandura 3 namely the Social Learning Theory. Change is anyone of these 3 means change in all.Analysis: This is an echoing of what have been stated earlier about the extent of parents’ responsibility in the formation of their children. the environment (physical or social) & the behaviour itself. there is conveying of the attitudes of children as a reflection of their parents’. . Furthermore.

It is here that the question of self-efficacy surfaces. If the individual finally sees & weighs the importance of the outcome as very important (has higher incentives) for himself then he is likely to adapt the behaviour previously observed. Adoption of a certain behaviour depends upon the personal evaluation of a person whether he thinks he can do it himself. If he sees that people around his house. Second. the information gathered upon the environment based on personal evaluation will then be levelled by the perceived or expected value of the outcome when the behaviour is thought to be adopted. or at school disapprove the behaviour it could be a determining factor not to adapt the behaviour he previously observed. Realization The attitude of the Filipino child therefore is justifiably seen as the sum of what he experiences/observes at home. Last but not the least. the individual.To elaborate further. the environment which encompasses the physical & social spheres could affect the decision of the individual to adapt certain behaviour. . upon witnessing other people perform certain behaviours to achieve certain goals can either copy or not the behaviour.

This establishes the family in the society. . To add.Kin Group Size The kinship system among Filipinos is an important concern & is somehow related to the natural tendencies of Filipinos toward extended family. By this standard we can see that family size is thus very large among Filipinos. this system does not limit to the blood relatives including: kinship created by binyag (Baptism) & marriage (as with the compadrazgo system or commonly known as the comadre-compadre system).

Modern Filipino Family ► Social relationships become more impersonal and businesslike ► less religiously oriented .

in most urban centers of the Philippines two-income families are quite common. The mother still takes care of the household chores but with the help of the helper and a nanny who takes care of the baby at home.Role of the Parents Today. . with both parents having full-time jobs.

it creates tension and conflicts in their relationships. As a result. ● . Most Filipino parents still consider it disrespectful for their children to answer back or reason with them.Parent-child Relationship Filipino children today are learning to reason with their parents just like what they see on Western movies and television programs.

Family Faith and Religion American freedom of religion influenced the younger generation to choose what to believe and help the parents to be more open-minded when it comes to their children's choice of faith ● .

To this. The environment is continually changing prompting people to change their interaction with it & one another also.is not immune to it.do these promote better relationships & worthwhile companionship among family members & among families in the society? Everything has a consequence. .the family. we are challenged as Filipinos to see if the changes we welcome in our homes are actually working to our advantages. It is composed of human beings & human beings naturally adapt to the environment to survive.Conclusion Change is constant & the basic unit of society.

we can still observe concern during times of illness or celebration during times of triumph among Filipino families. it has still for the most part remained as it is among Filipinos. Bayanihan (helping each other in the community like in the transferring of homes) although is slowly fading in general.Although many forces outside the family are affecting it.the most important area to be successful. . Ties or solidarity with each other are very much seen during calamities & problems.