Welcome

Transforming
Aggression into Compassion

Objectives
What is meant by an Aggression?
Cause & Categories of Aggression
What is meant by a Compassion?
Steps to transform aggression into compassion
Compassion towards aggression
Famous Quotes
Conclusion

An aggressive society
These days, our senses are bombarded with aggression.
We are constantly confronted with global images of unending,
escalating war and violence
In our personal lives, we encounter angry people cursing into cell
phones, watch TV talk shows where guests and audiences intimidate
each other verbally and sometimes physically, or attend public
meetings that disintegrate into shouting matches.
Parents scream from the sidelines of their children's sports events:
"Get aggressive!" Employees are rewarded for aggressive timelines
and plans.

Aggression in a team
The aggression in a team leads to:
Aggression destroys relationships
Increases distrust
People retreat into self-defense and isolation
People believe that in order to survive, they must combat the opposition.
Fear and anger destroy hope for healthy communities, workgroups,
families and organizations.

Meaning of an Aggression
In psychology, as well as other social & behavioral sciences, it refers to
behavior between members of the same species or of a competing
species that is intended to cause humiliation, pain or harm due to anger,
since their needs are not achieved like we have in a team.
At times team members try to see their own personal interests and affect
the team working.
Ferguson and Beaver defined aggressive behavior as:
Behavior which is intended to increase the social dominance of
the organism relative to the dominance position of other organisms.

Cause of Aggression
It is the establishment of a dominance hierarchy.
In humans, cause of aggression are different such as culture, morals
and social situations.
Animals may use aggression to gain and secure territories, as well as
other resources including food, water and mating opportunities.
Situational factors:
Alcohol
Pain & discomfort
Frustration
Gender (males are aggressive than females) etc.

Categories of Aggression
There are two broad categories of aggression namely:
1. Hostile, affective or retaliatory aggression and
1. Instrumental, predatory, or goal-oriented aggression.
Affective aggression: impulsive, unplanned, overt or uncontrolled
Predatory aggression: goal-oriented, planned, hidden or controlled.

Meaning of Compassion
It is a virtue in which the emotional capacities of empathy and
sympathy are regarded as a part of love itself, and a cornerstone of
greater social interconnection and humanism.
In a team person should be happy with others succeeding , help
others in whatever way they can.
For the team members the gateway to compassion and loving-kindness is
to be able to feel their own pain and the pain theyd be having of others.

Aggression into Compassion

Step 1: Think of anger as a red light on your dashboard
Step 2: Look clearly what happened
Step 3: Get clear about what you feel
Step 4: Take responsibility for how you feel
Step 5: Determine your need

Aggression into Compassion

Step 6: Find the do behind the dont
Step 7: Think of a clear action request
Step 8: Decide who is in real need
Step 9: Name the required feelings and needs
Step 10: Act accordingly

Compassion towards aggression

Yes, it sounds tough but always compassion is stronger than
aggression.
Dont try to beat aggression with aggression its like using petrol to
douse a fire.
Always bring in compassion, humor and lightness to any situation
that may appear negative, its the best way to solve a conflict.

Compassion towards aggression

In your own mind be compassionate towards the person who is being
rude to you, its the best perspective to hold.
Always remember that if someone is being rude to you, it could well be
that he/she is having a bad day or is going through a tough situation in
life.
When you hold them in a compassionate image in your mind, you will
find that their attitude towards you will change automatically.

Famous Quotes
Aggression unopposed becomes a contagious disease Jimmy
Carter
The most important distinction between aggression and assertion is its
intent. During assertion, we move ourselves toward another; during
aggression, we move ourselves against another Georgia Lanoil

Breathe in the suffering as darkness and breathe out lovingkindness as the healing white light Buddha

Conclusion
This is the era of many messes.
We act as if humans are motivated by selfishness, greed and fear.
Periodically to step back & try to see the big picture.
This is difficult to do when were stressed by so many pressures.
But if we do, its easier to calculate our value to this humanism.
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