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PRESENTATION FOR PARENTS &

Bullying is…

intentional written, verbal or physical act, including b
not limited to one shown to be motivated by any
acteristic such as race, color, religion, ancestry, natio
origin, gender, sexual orientation, mental or physical
ability, or other distinguishing characteristics, when t
intentional act:

Physically harms a student or damages his/her proper

b) Substantially interferes with the student’s educatio

Is so severe, persistent or pervasive that it creates a
intimidating or threatening educational environment

Or substantially disrupts the orderly operation of a sch

Simply stated. bullying… Is intimidating or subjecting a person to hostility or ill treatment . Is repeated over time . Involves actions which cause another person to feel afraid. embarrassed. threatened or shamed. humiliated. Occurs in a relationship in which there is an imbalance of power.

vandalism.Bullying Happens in Five Ways: erbal: Teasing. jokes. hazing Sexual: Teasing. extortion. gossip. . sexual assault Property: Hiding belongings. ignoring/isolation. graffiti. emails. arson. threat hysical: Blocking someone’s path. slapping. theft. pictures. touching. physical restraint pushing/kicking. destruction nline: Cyberbullying is a type of bullying that happen online or through text messages or emails.

Bullying is NOT… A normal childhood activity A rite of passage The target’s fault .

Differentiating Bullying from Normal Peer Conflict/Mean Behavior: Normal conflict/mean behavior Equal power or are friends Happens occasionally Accidental Not serious Equal emotional reaction Not seeking power Remorse-will take responsibility Effort to solve the problem Bullying Imbalance of power Repeated negative actions Intentional Physical or emotional harm Unequal emotional reaction Seeking control/material things No remorse-blames target No effort to solve the problem .

bullying is a “loss” experien LOSS of safety LOSS of self-esteem LOSS of belonging LOSS of control over their own life .the target.

Effects of Bullying on the Target: Physical Effects Stomach aches Weight loss/gain Headaches Drop in grades Drug or alcohol use Sexual activity Physical aggression Suicidal Homicidal Emotional Effects Alienation Low self-esteem Insecurity FEAR Depression Withdrawn Aggression .

intimidat threatened. dominated or subdued Has a derogatory nickname egularly has bruises or injuries that can’t be explaine Has belongings taken or damaged Few or no close friends at school . taunted belittled. ridiculed.Warning Signs that your child may be the target of bullies: quently teased.

MORE Warning Signs: Frequently socially isolated Less assertive or lacks the skills to respond to others’ teasing or Harassment Appears weak or easily dominated Tries to stay close to a teacher or other adult at recess or breaks Talk with your child about bullying! .

they need to have a voice in the situation is handled. ntact police or school resource officer if the actions ar criminal (assault. Contact the school t up a meeting with your child’s teacher(s) or counsel nsider including the school resource officer if applicab elop a plan for keeping your child safe. recess). vandalism .What To Do if you suspect your child is being bullied: Talk with your child ur child is being bullied. theft. lunch. particularly du vulnerable times (class breaks. out what activities or counseling options are available your child. serious threats.

id bringing your child and the bully together to elicit apology or resolve the issue. do not ignore your child’s plea for he Don’t confront the parents or the other child directly.Recommendations if you suspect your child is being bullied: Don’t encourage your child to fight back— two wrongs don’t make a right! en to your child. .

. ullies are five times more likely to end up with a seriou criminal record by age 30.What about the bully? es show that children identified as bullies by age 8 ar times more likely to be convicted of a crime by age 24 of kids characterized as bullies in the 6th-9 th grade ha least one criminal conviction by age 24.

Contributing Factors Associated with Bullying Family Factors Lack of attention and warmth Modeling of aggressive behavior at home Poor supervision Individual Factors Active. impulsive personality Lack of empathy for others Craves attention and approval from others School School climate is perceived as uncaring or indifferent achers/staff unaware or unclear of bullying definitions how to respond .

llies believe their behavior is exciting and makes them more popular. They may be seeking attention. They need to make themselves feel more important.What motivates a bully? Bullies prey on an imbalance of power. ey need a particular reaction from the other members of the group. .

. They may have an active and impulsive temperament. They may be victims of bullying/abuse. hey may see violence modeled at home or elsewhere i their lives. They may have low self-esteem.What motivates a bully? They may be coping with a loss.

easily takes offense Frequent misbehavior at school .Warning Signs that your child may be bullying others: Frequent name-calling Regular bragging A need to always get his/her own way Spending more time with younger or less powerful kid A lack of empathy for others A defiant or hostile attitude.

speak up and tell your child tha the behavior they are engaging in is considered bullying. Review consequences of bullying behavior Both discipline consequences and relationship consequences Reinforce respectful behaviors at home Help your child deal with feelings in positive ways Contact the school for help Set up a meeting with your child’s teacher(s) or counselor. to cho their own friends and to feel safe at school. Encourage empathy for others nd your child that everyone has a right to be themselves. Develop a plan for change. .What To Do if you suspect your child may be bullying others: Talk with your child ever condone bullying behavior.

during. school psychologists. or after school detention. counselors. or school resource officers . Diversity Training during school or before.School Interventions/Consequences for Bullying: Warning Verbal and written Permanently documented Coaching/Intervention Anger Management. teachers. May be provided by administrators. Conflict Resolution/ Communication/ Problem Solving Skills.

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What is Cyber bullying? Cyber bullying. harass. . humiliate. embarrass.a means of using online resources to tease. Remember just because it happens on the Internet does not diminish the destructive impact it has on children. and intimidate people on the Internet. Cyber bullying is a serious social problem that needs to be addressed by parents.

Posting derogatory videos and pictures online . or video to others. nasty Instant Messages Repeated notes sent to the cell phone A website set up to mock others “Borrowing” someone’s screen name and pretending to be them while posting a message Forwarding supposedly private messages.Few examples of Cyber Bullying: A threatening e-mail . pictures.

revenge or entertainment. . anger. funny and that they will never get caught.Why do kids cyber bully each other? Cyber bullying is often motivated by frustration. Many students do not think about the consequences of their actions. Many kids mistakenly believe that because the communication is online that is harmless. Most kids who cyber bully don’t think it is a big deal because it occurs online.

They get the feeling that their life is ruined. that their reputation is destroyed forever and that they will have to live with the defamation for the rest of their lives. .Possible consequences of cyber bullying: The impact on a child’s psyche can be enormous.

lack of appetite. dress or habits Unexplained broken personal possessions. the bullying behavior as a problem your child has to live with. The bullying beha the responsibility of the bully. not the child being bullied . loss of money Stories that don't seem to make sense Acting out aggression at home your child to communicate. throwing up Fear of going to out of the house Crying for no apparent reason Lack of interest at social events that include other students Complains of illness before school or community events often Change in attitude. If an adult or a child someone is being cyber bullied.How do you know if someone is being cyberbullied? Here are some signs to look out for: Long hours on the computer Is secretive about Internet activities Behavioral changes Won't say who they are talking to May find unexplained pictures on computer Trouble sleeping Stomach and headaches.

Inform police if threatened with harm. Save all messages for evidence.What should you as a parent do if your child is cyberbullied? : Inform the school principal or teacher if the bullying is school related. Stress to your kids that what is written on the Internet is on there permanently!! .

Monitor your child’s computer use. . Teach your child to be an advocate for him/herself. Look for any changes in behavior. Know your kids passwords.What can parents do to help their child? Be an advocate for your child.

times and locations of incidents At the meeting: Ask to have the incident investigated. The school’s anti-bullying policy should state who your first point of contact should be. counseling or supervised mediation between the parties if appropriate. e. Names of children involved and of witnesses.g.How to approach the school: Every school should have a very specific policy on dealing with bullying. What action will be taken to protect your child from . Have your facts prepared. Ask what support the school can offer your son/daughter. Telephone the school and request an appointment with the appropriate person or the Principal. Your son/daughter may not be the only one being bullied The nature of the incident/s Dates.

stopbullying.bullyhelp.cyberbullyhelp.org .Think2xTwice.Thank you for your attention.webs. Visit these additional websites for Bully Resources: Think2xTwice.gov Cyber bullying info= www.org If someone you know is being bullied or is bullying others= www.stopbullyingnow.nowaytobullying.com Bully policies and report by state= www. Together we can win the fight against bullying. Please visit the website www.kidpower.org sponsored site: http://www.bullypolice.com/ Resources to keep your kids safe= www.com Someone you know is being bullied or is bullying others www.org Help in a bullying situation= www.org for more info about workshops or to make a donation towards our efforts.