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IV.

How to Motivate

the opposite sex

Prepared by:
Lydia Canini
12 October 2015

Men are from Mars, Women are from
Venus –John Gray, Ph.D.

When are
men's
motivated?

Men are from Mars, Women are from
Venus –John Gray, Ph.D.

When are
Women's
motivated?

Men are from Mars, Women are from
Venus –John Gray, Ph.D.

D. Ph. .Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed… Women are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished. Men are from Mars. Women are from Venus –John Gray.

When a MAN LOVES A WOMEN? Men are from Mars. Ph.D. Women are from Venus –John Gray. .

and I don’t care if you lose. his body lit on fire. Womenrelationship are from successful is for partners to win. As he watched the Venusians for the first time of his life he began to care someone other than himself.) But this attitudes becomes harmful in adult relationship.D.A man falling In love with a women is similar to what took place when the first Martian discovered the Venusians. From just one glimpse his life had new meaning. Ph. have a win/lose philosophy. . Venus –John both Gray. Martians.(I want to win. Men The secret of forming a are from Mars. When he had discovered the Venusians.

” “Instead of blaming his female partner. he expresses his best self.” “Given the opportunity to prove his potential. trusted and accepted.” “As a man experiences limits.Love motivates the motivates “When a man is in love Love he is motivated to bethe the best he can be in order to Martians serve others.” “To become motivated again he needs to be appreciated. Not to be needed is a slow death for a man. he is motivated to give more. a man can be compassionate and offer his support even if she doesn’t ask for it.” .

“Given the opportunity to prove his potential. Women are from selfish ways…” Venus –John Gray.D. Ph. a man expresses his best self… Only when he feels he cannot succeed does he regress back to his old Men are from Mars. .

D. Women are from Venus –John Gray.When a WOMEN LOVES A MAN? Men are from Mars. . Ph.

. Men are from Mars. Ph. Women are from Venus –John Gray.The woman falling in love w/ a man is similar to what took place when the first Venusian believe that the Martians were coming. She dreamed that a fleet of spaceships from the heavens would land and a race of strong and caring Martians would emerge.D.

overwhelmed.. …... confused. ….. …. or hopeless what she need is a companionship. She needs to feel she is not alone. And she needs to feel loved and Cherished.Most men have little awareness of how important to a women to feel supported by someone who cares. Women are happy when they believe their needs will be met. …. . exhausted. When a woman is upset.

How Deal s with their depression? Men are from Mars. Ph.D. . Women are from Venus –John Gray.

Venusians were busy by sharing their feelings and talking about their problems.(I lose so that you can win) Men are from Mars.. Women are from Venus –John Gray. They live by a lose/ win philosophy. …. They are tired when they are too much giving. .D. Ph.. ….

Women today are also tired of giving. Time to explore being themselves. …. They want time off.. At this point Martian learning to give while the Venusians were now ready to learn how to receive. Time to care about of themselves first. THIS SAME CHANGE COMMONLY TAKES PLACE IN MEN AND WOMEN AS THEY .

She feels injustice of giving more than she has receive. Women are from Venus –John Gray. Men are from Mars.D.Giving Up Blame When a women realizes she has been giving too much. Ph. . She tends to be blame her partner for their unhappiness.

Giving Up Blame Instead of blaming your partner give them your understanding.D. acceptance. and support. Men are from Mars. compassion. Women are from Venus –John Gray. trust. a women can accept and forgive her partner’s imperfections. Instead of blaming a man of giving less. Ph. .

SETTING & RESPECTING LIMITS Step 1: Motivation Step 2: Responsibility Step 3: Practice Men are from Mars.D. Women are from Venus –John Gray. Ph. .

She is commonly afraid of needing too much and then being rejected.D. abandoned. judgment etc… are the most painful because deep inside her unconscious she holds the incorrect belief that is Men are from Mars.of Ph.Learning to Receive Setting and receiving are very scary for a woman. Women are she from receiving Venusunworthy –John Gray. .

) Men are from but Mars.D. she unknowingly pushes away the support she needs. Ph. (Rem: Men need to be trusted and primarily motivated by being needed turned off by are neediness. . then he feels immediately rejected and is turned off. Women from Venus –John Gray.Learning to Receive • Because of her afraid of not being supported. •When a man receives that message that she doesn’t trust him to fulfill her needs.

HOW VENUSIANS LEARNED TO FEEL WORTHY? .

• For centuries the Venusians compensated for this fundamental fear of unworthiness by being attentive and responsive to the needs of others. Ph. Men are from Mars.D. Women are from Venus –John Gray. . • They give & give but deep inside they did not feel worthy of receiving.

they realized that they worthy of receiving love and support. Women are from Venus –John Gray. Ph. Men are from Mars.D. .• After Centuries of giving. And they looked back and realized that they had always been worthy of support.

Learning To Give .

Women afraid of receiving. …. Women are from Venus –John Gray.D. Men are from Mars. .A man’s deepest fear is that he is not good enough or that he is incompetent. Men are afraid of Giving. Ph..

Men are from Mars.. When a man really cares a lot. . Ph. Women are from Venus –John Gray.He wants to give but is afraid he will fail.. so he doesn’t try… …. ….D. To avoid failure he stops giving to the people he wants to give to the most. his fear of failure increase and he give less.

When a man is insecure and not caring about by anybody except himself. Women are from Venus –John Gray. .D. Ph. What is he most automatic defensive response? Men are from Mars.

Do you know that when Martian made mistake it thought them a very important lesson necessary to achieve their goals.D. And then they realized that they had been good enough…. Men are from Mars. . Women are from Venus –John Gray. Ph.

Women are from Venus –John Gray. Ph. .D.It is Ok to make Mistakes The first step for a man in learning how to give more is to realize that its Ok to make mistakes and it is ok to fail and that he doesn’t have to have all the answer… Men are from Mars.

Men are from Mars. . Her unhappiness confirms his deepest fear: he is just not good enough. Ph.she is unhappy or disappointed because he feels like a failure… ….. Women are from Because Martians needs Venus –John Gray..D. ….

God Bless Us… .