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trauma. Please proceed with caution.


1 in 3 teens know a friend who has been
punched, kicked, slapped or choked.
Nearly 1 in 5 teenage girls who have been in a
relationship said a boyfriend had threatened
violence or self-harm when faced with a break-
up.
1 in 6 women have experienced an attempted or
completed rape in their lifetime.
1 in 33 men have experienced an attempted or
completed rape by the age of 18.
Girls ages 16-19 are 4 times more likely to be
victims of sexual assault or rape.
1.5 million people are abused per year. (40% are
never reported!)
Physical
Verbal
Emotional
Sexual
Financial
Hitting, kicking, pushing, tripping, biting,
pinching, hair pulling, burning, choking
(strangling), slapping, dragging, arm or neck
pulling,
Name calling, humiliating, teasing, spreading
rumors, telling secrets, put downs, cussing,
Damaging your property (destroying pictures,
letters, mementos, clothes, car) , isolating
you from friends, always checking your cell
phone and computer to see who youve
talked to, taking your things, spying on you,
going through your things without your
permission,
Unwanted sexual touching, treating someone
like a sex object (ie, grabbing a girls breast
or buttocks), forced sex, continued sexual
advances after being told no, pantsing
someone in front of others,
Using emotions for financial gain,
making/tricking your partner into paying for
all the dates, taking partners money,
Healthy Relationship= One feels safe,
respected and listened to

Unhealthy Relationship= One feels


pressured to do things they dont want to
do, partner controls who you spend time
with or how you act by using violence,
threats or insults

Dating and Sexual Violence DO NOT


DISCRIMINATE= They occur in same sex
as well as opposite sex couples and either
gender can be abusive
The cause of violence is
not anger, but the need
for power and control
over someone else.

Rape is never about sex.


Its always about power
and control.
Extreme jealousy
Isolates you from
friends/family
Controls what you wear, what
you do and who you see
Is abusive towards others,
especially family members
Blames others for own
misbehavior or failures
Expects you to meet all of
their needs and be the
perfect partner
Acts hurt when they dont get
their way
Has been cruel to animals
Has ever hit a partner in the past
Has ever threatened violence,
even if it wasnt serious
Calls you names, puts you down or curses you
Switches from being very nice to being angry quickly
If male, believes women are inferior to men
and should obey them
Is intimidating, using threatening body language,
punching walls or breaking objects
Holds you against your will to keep you from
walking away or leaving the room
Assess your own values about how women and men are
supposed to act
Decide what standard of conduct you will hold your child
to in a relationship
Be truthful dating has ups and downs but violence is
NEVER acceptable in any way
Help them set what their boundaries will be in a
relationship practice setting them
Teach them how to be assertive they have the right to
say no yet respect others rights as well
Teach them anger control how to recognize it, calm
down and/or walk away
Teach them how to problem solve for each solution ask
Is it safe?, Is it fair?, Will it work? and How might
people feel?
Explain that some secrets are not good and which ones
these are, eg. suicide threat
Be the positive role model respect yourself, your partner
and others
Stay open dont overreact
Actively listen and believe them
get on their level, make friendly
eye contact, lovingly touch and
give undivided attention
Use examples they can relate to
(popular movies)
Talk to your child often ask
questions about their life
If you dont know the answer, say
so and help them find the answer
If you are concerned, you may
have to bring it up but dont push
to have the conversation
Let them know you are always
there to talk
What do you think a healthy
relationship looks like?
Who do you think has a healthy
relationship? Why?
What do you think an unhealthy
relationship looks like?
Who do you think has an unhealthy
relationship? Why?
Do you think arguing is healthy?
How can you stand up for yourself?
Are any of your friends dating?
What are their relationships like?
What do you want in a partner?
Have you ever witnessed teen dating violence?
How did you feel? Scared?
Have you ever heard of someone being sexually
assaulted?
What would you do if you ever witnessed or
experienced teen dating violence?
Has anyone you know ever posted something bad
about a friend online? What happened afterwards?
Would it be weird if someone you were dating
texted you all day to ask what you are doing?
Tell them you are worried for their safety and what
is happening is not normal
Provide non-judgmental support and understanding
be sure to tell them it is NOT their fault
Believe them and take them very seriously
Do not put down their partner
Consult with your local domestic violence or sexual
violence agencies to determine if a report and
safety plan need to be made
Support them in the process if a report is made
Give them resources: websites, phone numbers,
injunctions, counselors,
Remember that ultimately it will be your childs
decision to leave or not
Excessive texting or e-mails
Change in mood to depressed
and/or anxious
Stops extracurricular activities or
other interests
Partner is extremely jealous or
possessive
Begins to dress promiscuously or
over modestly
Mood swings
Stops spending time with friends
and/or family
Has unexplained marks or bruises
Their partner abuses other people or
animals
Comes on very strong, extremely
charming and an overly smooth talker
Abuses drugs or alcohol
Was or is abused by a parent
Witnessed domestic violence growing
up
Quick involvement, saying I love
you early on in the relationship
Love and hope
Loyalty
Make light of the abuse
Abuse=Love

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Hopelessness
Embarrassment and shame
Blame self
Lack of support
Fear
Not wanting to be alone
Wanting to fix them
TELL SOMEONE YOUR PLAN
(WHEN, WHERE & HOW)

NEVER DO IT BY ALWAYS HAVE A


YOURSELF IN A SAFETY PLAN
SECLUDED AREA! READY!

WAYS TO SAFELY END IT


Over the phone On social media
Texting send a direct
E-mail message
Go with a group of
Letter
friends
Avoid being alone
Tell a trusted adult
Keep a journal
Tell the police and/or seek injunction
Change your routines
Tell family and friends where you are
at all times
Tell the school resource officer
and/or school administrator
Dont go where you think they may
be
Talk with your local agencies for
assistance
Check with your teen before allowing
visitors in the home