Self awareness

Meaning- Knowing one¶s own Attitudes- opinion Feelings- emotion Motives- purpose Desires- needs

Self awareness
Why self awareness? To know our strengths and limitations To reinforce the strengths To challenge the limitations To grow

How to create self awareness?
‡ Seeking feedback from others ‡ Taking self scoring tests ‡ Reflecting on one¶s own feelings and behaviours

Self analysis
Think for a moment and identify
‡ the areas you normally excel ‡ the areas you normally face difficulties ‡ Kind of people, events, and things you like the most and those you dislike ‡ The people, events that bring you happiness/sadness ‡ The nature and extent of openness you have with others ‡ The people you want to control and want to be controlled ‡ The people you want to include and those you want to be included ‡ The people you consider as significant and those you want them to consider as significant

Self analysis
‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ Ask people who know you well about Your strengths Your limitations Your behaviours needing modifications The behaviours to be improved The behaviours to discontinued The behaviours to be learned.

Self Concept
‡ The totality of a complex, organized, and dynamic system of learned beliefs, attitudes and opinions that each person holds to be true about his or her personal existence"

Self concept
‡ It is my individual sense of how I perceive myself. ‡ Self concept is the basis for self awareness. ‡ This is the foundation to opt for change. ‡ Matching what I want to be and what I perceive myself creates positive self concept.

People with Strong and Weak self concept are characterized by
‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ Strong self concept Flexibility Courage Trust Initiative taking Confidence Positive thinking ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ Weak self concept Rigidity Fearfulness Suspicion Lack of initiative Lack of confidence Negative thinking

Components of self-concept
‡ Physical aspect of self-concept relates to that which is concrete: what we look like, our sex, height, weight, kind of our cloth, car, home, etc. ‡ Performance aspects of self concept, how we perform, accomplish, and grow. ‡ Social self-concept describes how we relate to other people ‡ Transpersonal self-concept describes how we relate to the supernatural or unknowns.

Coping with threats to self concept
‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ I hold my position rigidly Do not listen to people Misinterpret what other people say Stop talking and begin withholding Feel that no one understands me Don¶t want to negotiate Easily irritated Do not want to probe the causes

Defence mechanisms
‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ Denial- to avoid the feeling of inadequacy Projection- behaving myself as a victim Displacement ± blaming others and disowning Masochism- blaming the self to avoid others accusations ‡ Identification- help others to avoid dealing with own inadequacies ‡ Compensation- demand from others that you are OK

Self esteem
‡ It is the feeling I have about my self concept. ‡ A subjective appraisal of himself as intrinsically positive or negative to some degree ‡ Example: I perceive I am an introvert and I feel proud of it.

Self esteem is based on your attitudes like
‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ Your value as a person The job you do Your achievements How you think others see you Your purpose in life Your place in the world Your potential for success Your strengths and weaknesses Your social status and how you relate to others Your independence or ability to stand on your own feet

High and low self esteem
‡ High- feeling of worth, happy, good, confident, courage- results in motivation and drive to excel ‡ Low- feeling of helplessness, lack of motivation, depressed, fear, meaninglessness

How can we have high self esteem?
Some suggestions ± Forgive yourself for your mistakes. ± Celebrate your strengths and achievements. ± We are so used to negative feedback that we are more aware of our weaknesses. ± Set achievable targets and get regular feedback. ± Change the way you talk to yourself - stop putting yourself down. ± Be sure that you are not judging yourself against unreasonable standards. ± Beating yourself for your weaknesses is selfdefeating.

Realistic View of self esteem
‡ do not think of yourself more highly than you should (no superiority attitude). ‡ have a sober view of your strengths. ‡ do not exaggerate your weaknesses and look down on yourself. ‡ do not excuse or rationalise your weaknesses. ‡ Have a realistic view of both strengths and weaknesses

Student Assignments
‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ Locus of control Self efficacy Johari window Emotional intelligence FIRO-B MBTI Transaction analysis

JoHari Window
Known to self Not known to self

Known OPEN- Known to me and BLIND- Known to others but Not known to me to others known to others Not HIDDEN- Known to Me but not known to others known to others UNKNOWN- Neither
known to me nor known to others.

Minimum openness- Ineffective personality
Open Blind



More openness- Effective personality
Open Blind



How to widen the OPEN corner
Seeking Feedback


Self Disclosure Practice New Behaviours



Self efficacy
‡ Advocated by Albert Bandura ‡ Meaning ‡ Belief in one¶s own capability for accomplishment ‡ It is a ³Can do´ attitude

What does Self Efficacy theory say? 
Individuals who believe they can cause an event Can have more active and selfdetermined life course. Are not threatened by environment Take adaptive action Withstand stress

Individuals with high and low self efficacy are
‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ High self efficacy Active Courageous Competent High self esteem Optimism High social integration High motivation More effort Longer persistence of goals Higher goals Great results ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ ‡ Low self efficacy Inactive Fearful Inefficient Low self-esteem Pessimism Isolation Low motivation Low effort Shorter persistence Lower goals Low results

Questions to think ??? 

Is your self efficacy domain specific? Or Is it a general self confidence

Test your self efficacy (on a scale of 1(low) to 5 (high)
1) I can always manage to solve difficult problems if I try hard enough. 2) If someone opposes me, I can find means and ways to get what I want. 3) It is easy for me to stick to my aims and accomplish my goals. 4) I am confident that I could deal efficiently with unexpected events. 5) Thanks to my resourcefulness, I know how to handle unforeseen situations. 6) I can solve most problems if I invest the necessary effort. 7) I can remain calm when facing difficulties because I can rely on my coping abilities. 8) When I am confronted with a problem, I can usually find several solutions. 9) If I am in trouble, I can usually think of something to do. 10) No matter what comes my way, I'm usually able to handle it.

Emotional intelligence
‡ Daniel Goleman

Emotional Intelligence
Knowing one's emotions ... is fundamental to emotional intelligence. People who know their feelings are better pilots of their lives. Managing emotions ... people who are effective in managing their emotions can cope better with life's adversities and can bounce back faster than those who are poor in managing their feelings. Motivating oneself ... people without emotional intelligence lack selfrestraint and would just do whatever their impulses suggest. In Goleman¶s words, they "suffer a moral deficiency". Emotional selfcontrol, delaying gratification and stifling impulsiveness underlies accomplishment of every sort. Recognizing emotions in others ... emotional self-awareness is the first step to empathic sensitivity. In other words, if we are in touch with our own feelings, then we can empathise with others and sense their needs. Handling relationships ... the art of relating to others includes the skill in managing emotions in others. For example, the ability to calm distressing emotions in others can help resolve many conflicts.

Test your emotional intelligence
Assess your emotional quotient using this form. Respond to all the statements given below.


Not at all

Little bit

To some extent

To a great extent

Awareness of self emotion

I am aware of my feelings

I am aware of the reasons for my feelings I am aware of my emotions

I am aware of the causes of my emotions Understandi ng others¶ emotions I understand the feelings of people with whom I interact I value the feelings of people with whom interact I understand the emotions of people with whom I interact I respond empathetically to the emotions of people with whom I interact

Locus of control Answer the following question
‡ The events in my life are the outcome of-- ± - - ------‡ (a) My own action/behaviour which can be controlled by me ‡ (b) Others¶ action, my fate, supernatural forces, or chance, which I cannot control ‡ Chose one of the two statements above as your answer

Locus of Control 
Julian Ratter (1916-)  the extent to which individuals believe  that they can control events that affect them.

Types of locus of control
‡ Internal locus of control ‡ External locus of control

Locus of Control
‡ Internals ‡ events or outcomes result primarily from their own behaviour and actions. ‡ Confident of their capabilities ‡ Work hard to get outcomes ‡ Externals ‡ Events/ outcomes result from powerful others, fate, or chance. ‡ Low self confidence ‡ Expect others to help them.

Role efficacy

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