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TYPES OF BEHAVIOR

There are three basic types of behavior that are of interest here "passive",
"aggressive", and "assertive". What makes each type different from the
others lies in your feelings about yourself and your feelings about other
people.

It's important that you remember that there are times when either passive or
aggressive behavior may be the response to a particular situation confronting
you. Sometimes, it really is best to bite your tongue and say nothing - and
sometimes it is right to fight for your survival.

However, it's also important that you remember that if you are habitually
passive you will damage your self-esteem; if you are habitually aggressive
you will damage your physical health
AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR

Aggressive " behavior is typical of people who


feel superior to everyone else. Their self-
esteem is derived form putting down other
people, either actively by patronizing them or
using sarcasm, or simply in their mind
regarding others as being insignificant. They
tend to dominate, demand, and to take what
they want . Under pressure , they will attack
rather then negotiate . Their most typical
feeling is anger or irritation and any conflict is
seen as a win/lose equation.
PASSIVE BEHAVIOR
"Passive" behavior demonstrated by those people
whose view of themselves is that basically they are
inferior to others. They think of themselves as less
capable, less attractive to others. Passive people tend
towards feelings of fear, nervousness, tension, and
sadness. When they find themselves under pressure ,
their typical response is to give in, to retreat from the
perceived threat - "anything for a quiet life ". In groups,
passive people take seat, defer to other peoples
opinions and decisions, and fail to ask for what they
want. Their self-esteem is very dependent upon what
other people think of them.
ASSERTIVE BEHAVIOR

"Assertive" behavior is different : learned, not instinctive. It is based


upon thinking about yourself and others as being more or less the same in
terms of abilities and status: you can do some things that I can't and I can do
some things you can't. Assertive people know what they want and can ask
for it in a way that does not damage either their own self-esteem or the other
person's.

The assertive person does not see the things that he or she is not good at
doing as a cause for low self-esteem.

They are able to feel comfortable and self-confident with others and in
control of themselves and the situations they face. Assertive behavior is
thoughtful, not reactive. It is concerned with solving problems rather than
scoring points, getting even , or defeating the other person : win / win
solution are sought. It is also assertive behavior to be able to choose which
of the three kinds of behavior, passive, aggressive or assertive, is
appropriate at any particular moment in time.