RAISING GENDER HEALTHY CHILDREN

By Dr.M.Anthony David MD
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• Men are from Mars, women are from Venus, they met on Planet Earth… • Yes, they are different. • Why? • They are created different.
– John Gray

ARE BOYS DIFFERENT FROM GIRLS?

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B.O.Y.S.

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B.O.Y.S.
• SELF WORTH = ACHIEVMENT • SELF RELIANT • DON’T ASK HELP • LINEAR THINKING • FOCUS ON GOAL • COMPETITIVE
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B.O.Y.S.
• ACTIONORIENTED • BEST WORK IN A TEAM, SHOULDER TO SHOULDER • GET PHYSICAL WHEN THEY LOSE THEIR TEMPER
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G.I.R.L.S.

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G.I.R.L.S
• SELF WORTH =RELATIONSHIPS • LOVE TO GET HELP FROM PEOPLE • MULTI-TASKERS • FOCUS ON PROCESS • CO-OPERATIVE
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G.I.R.L.S.
• BEST WORK IN TEAMS FACE TO FACE • ‘WORD’ ORIENTED • LASH WITH THEIR TONGUES WHEN THEY LOSE THEIR TEMPER.
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HOW DO WE RAISE GENDER HEALTHY CHILDREN?
• UNDERSTAND GENDER DIFFERENCES:
– Be aware of them – Accept them

• REMEMBER GOD MADE BOTH THE GENDERS:
– Gen 1:27b
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HOW DO WE RAISE GENDER HEALTHY CHILDREN?
• CREATE PROPER INCLINATIONS OF GENDER IN THE CHILDREN

– By following God’s rules for marriage and family. – Prevent perverted sexual behaviors such as homosexuality. – Can be done if parents follow God’s rules.

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GOD’S RULES FOR MARRIAGE/FAMILY
• In marriage, husband and wife have clearly defined roles. • These are not interchangeable roles. • The Husband or the Father is the Leader of the family.
– He has a vision/mission for the family – He shares the vision with the family – He leads the way for the family.

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GOD’S RULES FOR MARRIAGE/FAMILY
• The Wife/Mother loves all the members of the family. • She nurtures them physically, mentally & spiritually • However she does not attempt to ‘control’ them.

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GOD’S RULES FOR MARRIAGE/FAMILY
• The Father loves the mother.
– This gives security, significance and self worth to the children.

• The mother respects the Father.
– This enables the children to follow the pattern and grow

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FIVE STEPS TO RAISE CHILDREN GENDER HEALTHY…
• • • RELATE TO YOUR CHILDREN WELL CHERISH & SUPPORT THEIR RESPECTIVE GENDERS CORRECT INAPPROPRIATE GENDER BEHAVIOUR AFFIRM THE CHILDREN’S GENDER LOOK OUT FOR ATYPICAL GIRLS OR BOYS.


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1.RELATE WELL
• • • • • Warmth Affection Respect Commendation more than Criticism Compassionate & Consistent communication

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2.SUPPORT HIS/HER GENDER
• Parents need to cherish & support their little girls and boys. • “Why am I a girl Daddy? Why not a boy?” • “Girls get all the gifts? I should have been a girl!”

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3. INAPPROPRIATE GENDER BEHAVIOUR
• Be aware of such behaviour. • Alert the child and let them know. • Attempt to gently lead them out of the same. • Remember there may be gentle boys and tomboy girls too! • Define borders.
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4.AFFIRM THEIR GENDERS
• “I am so glad you are a boy, son” • “We like your being a girl my dear” • Let them know that he or she is valued as a gift from God.
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5. WATCH FOR ATYPICAL GIRLS & BOYS
• Children not fitting in with their peers. • Boys not close to their Dads. • Boys who are “too good to be true” • Children with poor peer relationships • Children being constantly bullied & insulted by peers.
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P.A.R.E.N.T.S
• P: PRAY FERVENTLY FOR YOUR CHILDREN • A: AFFIRM THEIR GENDERS • R: RESPECT THE DIFFERENCES • E: EMPATHIZE WITH THEM • N: NOTE ATYPICAL BEHAVIOURS • T: TREAT THEM WITH LOVE, CARE & RESPECT. • S: SUBMIT THEM TO THE LOVING CARE OF OUR HEAVENLY FATHER!
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FEEL FREE TO INTERACT
Dr.M.Anthony David MD Mobile: 98482 49763 Email: antdavsku@gmail.com

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