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Topics you talk about How you talk about them Questions you ask How you listen
Topics you talk about
Ideally, the topics you introduce should be interesting to your talk-partner(s). Such is not often the case. For example, it is common for conversers to talk about what interests them, not others. Thus, they develop very little common ground. One way to show interest in others is to talk about what concerns or interests them. Sports-oriented folks love to talk sports; business people, business; political wonks, politics; mothers, their children. But due to their passionate interest in their own topics, they often forget that many others are not similarly interested. Therefore, this simple step is to find topics of mutual interest and talk about those.
How you talk about them
Do you do so in a flat and ho-hum manner? Or do you express energy and true interest in these topics? A routine, even robotic manner evokes a similar manner in others and makes a conversation boring for lack of energy and involvement. Working on your skills to share anecdotes and tell stories will move you closer to excellence. Most people love stories when they are told well. Therefore, this simple step includes adding vitality and expressiveness to your talk.
Questions you ask
Many conversers tend mainly to ask closed questions, most of the "Yes or "No" type. For example, "Did you enjoy the movie?" A better question would be "What did you enjoy about the movie?" So that you provide your partner with many options, including "I didn't enjoy it at all. I thought the lead actor was unconvincing." Having at least a few question arrows in your quiver will help you to conversational excellence. These would include not only closed questions, but also open questions that you can think of as "What" and "How" questions. Examples: "What did you do then?" and "What happened?" or "How did you solve that problem?" And "How did you feel after you took the medicine?" "If" questions are also helpful to get a person thinking, such as "If you had it to do over again, what would you do differently?" and "If I gave you two days off work, would that help?" Indirect questions are another useful arrow in your quiver. Examples: "I wonder if you're still thinking about going back to school" and "I'm puzzled about how you manage to remember everybody's name." So, this simple step asks you to increase the variety of questions you employ, and to use them appropriately.
and the results will make the practice well worth your effort. ." Instances of this include not paying attention or giving only split attention. An effective listener is engaged with the talker and shows it. mental rehearsal of what you'll say next. An effective listener would be able to reproduce at least the gist of what the talk said. The talker is validated by feeling listened to. when listening. but it will cost you nothing. This simple step requires you to let go of your preoccupations and. to give your full attention to others. Doing so will take a little time. interrupting others.) Good listening must include both intention to understand and attention to what is said.How you listen The most frequent complaint I hear about conversation styles is "poor listening. and not being responsive (flat or deadpan expression.
How to Make Communication Effective in Business? .
involving several layers of management. fostering for smooth operations of management process. If the structure is complex. But in actual practice all massages are not effectively transmitted. It is very essential for the management to maintain an efficient flow of communication in all directions. hurdles. called barriers to communication distort the message and make communication ineffective. It is said to be the foremost problem of management in the way of making effective communication. . µEffective communication largely depends upon the effective organizational structure. Several impediments. ´ An organization cannot operate without proper flow of communication. a breakdown in communication can arise. or stoppages. blockades. It serves as the lubricant.
The same words and symbols carry different meanings to different people. A communication is a two way process. Difficulties in communication arise when the sender and receiver of the message use words in different senses. organizational. Semantic is the science of meaning. Personal factors like difference in judgment. semantic. personal. . Noise and environmental factors also block communication. distance between the sender and the receiver of the message is an important barrier to communication. emotional etc. inferiority complex. These barriers to communication lead to conflicts between men living in the same community. bias. attitude. social values. widen the psychological distance between the communicator and the communicatee. Credibility gap acts as a barrier in communication. These barriers may be physical. pressure of time etc. working on the same job and even person living in different parts of the world that even do not know each other.
. Effective communication largely depends upon the effective organizational structure. a breakdown in communication can arise. appreciate. Barriers may also arise due to emotional attitude because when emotions are strong one cannot judge the predictability of human nature. The meaning intended by the sender may be different from the meaning followed by the receiver. Status in the hierarchy is the most fundamental barrier that obstructs free flow of information. If the structure is complex. A superior may only give selected information to subordinates so as to make status difference and subordinates tend to convey only those things. Moreover information traveling through formal structures introduces rigidity and causes delay because of long line of communication. involving several layers of management. which the superior would.
worthwhile. or marketing campaign? Why do you listen to certain politicians or business leaders. relevant. and compelling. When a piece of communication is to the point.How to Make Your Messages Memorable What makes a memorable TV commercial. and glaze over at the very mention of others? Why is it that you dread opening certain senders¶ emails. product design. . it moves you ² the listener or reader ² to action. but open others as soon as they land in your inbox? It¶s all about messaging.
political communication. and why. what isn¶t working. as well as business communication. from email and blogging to relationship talk. The 4Cs can assess marketing communication. and plain old everyday personto-person communication. entertainment. .The 4Cs Model of Effective Communication The 4Cs model is a useful tool for objectively evaluating the effectiveness of many forms of communication: what¶s working.
the point? What does the message instantly communicate? Can the audience play the message back? This confirms that they ³get it´ and the first C is working.The First C: Comprehension Does the audience get the message. Here are three tips for better comprehension: Make the message clear and sharp. and then tell them what you told them. .don¶t go too deep. Repetition helps. next. Keep it simple . the main idea. tell them. Tell them what you¶re going to tell them.
and usually triggers an irrational or emotional response: frustration. joy. When connection is there. passion. anger. happiness. excitement. . sadness.The Second C: Connection Making a connection with a communicated idea or message means not only that the audience ³gets it. has meaning and significance for them. it will spark new behaviors and actions.´ but that it resonates with them. and so on.
supervisor. Credibility is the critical C. they aren¶t buying it. any connection begins to break down . and even connect with it on an emotional level. then promptly turn around and say that coming from this particular source: company. because the audience may completely understand a communicator¶s message.immediately. and how it is being said. political candidate. .The Third C: Credibility The audience needs to believe who is saying it (the brand or messenger¶s voice). what is being said. whatever. Otherwise.
The Fourth C: Contagiousness In communications. contagiousness is a good thing. To be contagious. a message has to be energetic. and elicit a demonstrable reaction.´ run with it. That¶s contagiousness. and spread it around. motivate the target to do something. different. . It should also evoke a vivid emotional response. found yourself reenacting it. You want your audience to ³catch the message. and memorable. or repeated the slogan or catch phrase in conversations. Think of the last time you saw a TV ad that was so funny or clever that you discussed it with your friends. have ³talk´ potential. new.
.Effective Office Communication Communication is technically the process of the transfer of information between the communicating entities. It is the sharing of one¶s thoughts and feelings with the intension of being understood. But we know the meaning implied by communication is much more than mere transfer.
You need to express yourself clearly and completely. . discussions with clients or business negotiations has a direct effect on the company business. Let us see some forms of office communication and ways to make the communication effective. The bottom line is that it needs to be effective. An effective communication is the one that includes clarity in expression and exchange of ideas and emotions. Office communication could be verbal or a non-verbal one. It could be a telephone conversation or one using an electronic mode of communication. Office communication includes the communication between the employees as well as the business talks and communications with the clients of the company. The interactions between company employees determine the work environment and organization culture. The person on the other end should understand you. Communication involves in formal meetings.
It is important to convey to the receiver of your call who you are and the purpose behind your call. If you do not happen to get to the person on the phone. Do not end the call abruptly. give the person on the other end. The person who has been trying to call you might have been in need to communicate with you. In case. Clarity is again of prime importance. Remember that you are taking his precious time. you have not been able to answer your calls. It is important to give due consideration to the age and position of the person on the call. It could be urgent. . a chance to respond and end the call with a suitable greeting. as it does not involve a face-to-face communication. To make it easy for the person to reply. remember to start the conversation by introducing yourself. So it is better to reply to the unanswered calls. A telephone talk is quite impersonal. Keep your conversation brief and precise. respond to them. leave your phone number with the message. you might prefer leaving a message. Make your point without wasting time much time in coming to the actual topic.Office communication over a Telephone While conversing on phone. Make your point. Gestures and facial expressions do not exactly support communication because you are not visible to the person receiving your call.
They lack the audio component. But emails are best options for formal communication. Emails are useful in case of a time difference due to the varying time zones of different countries. Of course. as it lacks immediate feedback. . Some may find it difficult to express themselves through writing. Precision in expression and a thoughtful use of words are essential constituents of written communication. Think before you write! Forwarding options in e-mails should be used carefully. Electronic communication increases the turn around time. you need to be careful in writing because electronic communication puts your expression into black and white. A phone call can actually take less time than writing out the thoughts and mailing them.Effective Electronic Communication Emails help in case of language barriers and accent problems. Do not respond to emails without considering the effects of your response. They might prefer personalized calls. making them even more impersonal.
thus making these ways of communication. key players in business. Learning to effectively communicate is the need of the day. So. contracts are signed over the electronic media. . Effective office communication is the vital component of the corporate world. are you ready to make a new entry into this world? This time you will be equipped with the tips to effective office communication. Business deals happen over phone.
effective communication in particular is not something that people necessarily learn during the course of their lives.How To Build Effective Communication Skills? Having effective communication skills is considered to be one of the keys to leading a successful life. Generally. . However. people learn how to communicate during their early years and that learning gradually builds up with time and life experiences.
. Consider the following five important elements that are necessary to build effective communication skills. Hence it¶s imperative to continuously learn and build up your oral and written communication skills. get along well with others and lead satisfactory lives. get early promotions. who have good oral and written communication skills. It¶s generally observed that people. Those people normally tend to do better at work. tend to easily tackle challenges that life throws at them.
During communication. Improve your vocabulary and practice newly learned words by using them in your daily language.Improve language skills The more knowledge you have about the language that you use for communication. the better. . This may be difficult to do initially but with practice you¶ll get better. try to avoid saying long sentences. Try to make your sentences short and to the point.
Effective listening will allow you to reflect back on what the other person said and your response will be more relevant and to the point. . both fail to understand each other and the conversation does not go anywhere. It will also make the other person feel good and s/he will be more responsive to what you say. This will ensure that you have a good understanding of the other person¶s point of view before you speak. listen to the other person with concentration. Therefore. people tend to concentrate more on what they are going to say instead of listening to the other person with full attention.Listen with concentration If you are having a conversation with someone. Generally.
. Open your mind to other possibilities. If an objection is thrown at you. Always be mentally ready to face objection on whatever you say and don¶t become defensive right off the bat. look at it without prejudice and know that you could be wrong and always be willing to accept it.Learn to handle objections Never enforce your point of view on others and never think or assume that whatever you are saying is absolutely right and unobjectionable.
it is more than likely that the other person will do the same. . If you get defensive and angry at any point. don¶t get angry. Keep anger at a mile¶s length and always keep reminding yourself that you have the right to control your reaction. especially negative emotions. During a conversation. if something is not said according to your liking or in line with your point of view. In case of a conflict. try to reach a compromise by finding a solution that makes both people happy.Learn to control your emotions You should try to be in control of your emotions when you communicate.
your tone. So mastering your body language and synchronizing your gestures with your speech will help you achieve your objective to become an effective communicator. even more than your words. During a conversation. face expressions. hand gestures and other body movements make the most impact on the other person.Learn to master your body language People are more visual and they generally tend to make an opinion about what you say by observing how you say it. your volume. .
Barriers To Communications There are 7 top barriers. ± Physical barriers Perceptual barriers Emotional barriers Cultural barriers Language barriers Gender barriers Interpersonal barriers .
empires and fiefdoms into which strangers are not allowed closed office doors. Research shows that one of the most important factors in building cohesive teams is proximity. separate areas for people of different status large working areas or working in one unit that is physically separate from others. .Physical barriers Physical barriers in the workplace include: marked out territories. As long as people still have a personal space that they can call their own. nearness to others aids communication because it helps us get to know one another. barrier screens.
Can you tell me what the townspeople are like?" "Well." said the townsman. they were an irascible bunch. The following anecdote is a reminder of how our thoughts. "I am hoping to stay in the next town tonight. Over-charged me for what I got. Took me for a fool. "you'll find them pretty much the same here. If we didn't." he said.Perceptual barriers The problem with communicating with others is that we all see the world differently." "Well. then. Kept to themselves." . "Excuse me. "how did you find the people in the last town you visited?" "Oh. we would have no need to communicate: something like extrasensory perception would take its place. assumptions and perceptions shape our own realities: A traveller was walking down a road when he met a man from the next town. Gave me very poor service." said the townsman.
Emotional barriers One of the chief barriers to open and free communications is the emotional barrier. They feel vulnerable. "Children should be seen and not heard". mistrust and suspicion. excessive fear of what others might think of us can stunt our development as effective communicators and our ability to form meaningful relationships. As a result many people hold back from communicating their thoughts and feelings to others. The roots of our emotional mistrust of others lie in our childhood and infancy when we were taught to be careful what we said to others. While some caution may be wise in certain relationships. . "Mind your P's and Q's". It is comprised mainly of fear. "Don't speak until you're spoken to".
In groups which are happy to accept you. . These are the behaviours that the group accept as signs of belonging. approval and inclusion. there are barriers to your membership of a group. sooner or later we need to adopt the behaviour patterns of the group. however. and where you are happy to conform. Where. there is a mutuality of interest and a high level of win-win contact. a high level of game-playing replaces good communication. The group rewards such behaviour through acts of recognition.Cultural barriers When we join a group and wish to remain in it.
but the fear and suspicion that the West had of the Soviet Union that led to the more alarmist and sinister interpretation. buzz-words and jargon. It was not just the language. . In a global market place the greatest compliment we can pay another person is to talk in their language.Language barriers Language that describes what we want to say in our terms may present barriers to others who are not familiar with our expressions. When we couch our communication in such language. a more accurate reading of Khruschev's words would have been: "We will overtake you!" meaning economic superiority. One of the more chilling memories of the Cold War was the threat by the Soviet leader Nikita Khruschev saying to the Americans at the United Nations: "We will bury you!" This was taken to mean a threat of nuclear annihilation. it is a way of excluding others. However.
the speech is located in both hemispheres and in two specific locations. whereas a woman talks more freely mixing logic and emotion.000 and 25. features of left-brain thinking. When a man talks. A woman speaks between 22. In childhood. It also explains why women talk for much longer than men each day. When a woman talks. This means that a man talks in a linear. his speech is located in the left side of the brain but in no specific area. The reason for this lies in the wiring of a man's and woman's brains.Gender barriers There are distinct differences between the speech patterns in a man and those in a woman.000 words a day whereas a man speaks between 7. features of both sides of the brain. have a vocabulary twice that of boys. .000 and 10. logical and compartmentalised way.000. girls speak earlier than boys and at the age of three.
Games are subtle. Working activities are those tasks which follow the rules and procedures of contact but no more.Interpersonal barriers There are six levels at which people can distance themselves from one another: Withdrawal is an absence of interpersonal contact. . manipulative interactions which are about winning and losing. They include "rackets" and "stamps". It is both refusal to be in touch and time alone. Pastimes fill up time with others in social but superficial activities. repetitive routines devoid of real contact. Closeness is the aim of interpersonal contact where there is a high level of honesty and acceptance of yourself and others. Rituals are meaningless.
. The verbal component refers to the content of our message Ã the choice and arrangement of our words. The paraverbal component refers to how we say what we say . and paraverbal components. pacing and volume of our voices. nonverbal.Overcoming Communication Barriers The act of communicating involves verbal.the tone. The nonverbal component refers to the message we send through our body language.
Communication Involves Three Components: Verbal Messages .our body language .the words we choose Paraverbal Messages .how we say the words Nonverbal Messages .
. Go ahead and file a complaint if you want to. name calling." 2. preaching. commanding. advising." "Iím going to write a letter of complaint to the superintendent and have this in your file if you donít stop humiliating my son in front of his classmates. "You Messages" (moralizing. I know my rights. diagnosing) "You donít seem to understand how important it is for your child to get this help. Donít you see that heís well on his way to becoming a sociopath?" "You obviously donít realize that if you were following the same steps we do at home you wouldnít be having this problem. Obviously if you did you would be using different strategies that wouldnít make her feel like sheís a bad person. refusing to speak. shaming) "If you were doing your job and supervising Susie in the lunch line we probably wouldnít be in this situation. would we?" "Have you followed through with the counseling we asked you to do? Have you gotten Ben to the doctorís for his medical checkup? Did you call and arrange for a Big Brother? Have you found out if youíre eligible for food stamps?" "From what I can see. You donít seem to care about whatís going on in this childís life outside of school. criticizing. directing) "If you donít voluntarily agree to this evaluation we can take you to due process. blaming. Other Verbal Barriers: shouting." 3. Showing Power (ordering.Verbal Communication Barriers 1. Attacking (interrogating. you donít have the training to teach a child with ADHD." 4. threatening.
hunching over Poor personal care Doodling Staring at people or avoiding eye contact Excessive fidgeting with materials .Nonverbal Communication Barriers Flashing or rolling eyes Quick or slow movements Arms crossed. legs crossed Gestures made with exasperation Slouching.
In a work environment. teammates can use word jargons to be able to understand each other using simple words or acronyms.Ways to Overcome Interpersonal Communication Barriers Use Simple Words to Convey the Message. the use of specialized acronyms will create a special bond that only the team will be able to understand. To have an effective process of interpersonal communication. Everyone hates to decipher spoken words. keep it simple and easy to understand. Say simple structure sentences that will be easy to understand. you have to simplify language. Aside from this. . reserve the deciphering to the writing and when speaking.
we mean to hear and understand. A person will always try to get his opinions across first before listening to the other person¶s point of view. Listen Proactively . To master the art of listening. an effective process of interpersonal communication will require the use of asking questions while the other person is speaking.Listening does not mean hearing what the other person has to say. Listen Attentively . b.Â Learn the Art of Listening . asking questions will keep the conversation in the right direction. We say art because not everyone can do this. But if he learns that the receiver was able to understand what he has just conveyed.Listening is actually a two-way [tag]communication[/tag] and not one way as others believe or perceive to be. Hearing is not the same as listening. This will make the conversation richer and more interesting. try these tips: a. then the process of interpersonal communication is a success. Also. The speaker will know if the person he is speaking to is listening or not by randomly asking indirect questions about what he just said. When we say listen. The process of interpersonal communication requires one to learn the [tag]art of listening[/tag]. When two persons are communicating with each other.
however. Showing emotions will let the other person know that you have sympathy and compassion towards him and definitely are signs of genuine interest. showing some emotions can be helpful to build rapport to the one you are talking to. When you are in a casual conversation. . Keeping Composure While Communicating The process of interpersonal communication is more effective if emotions are kept at bay. Keeping your composure while talking or negotiating with a business partner will maintain a mysterious air while at the same time keep you on the right track towards your goal.
Expect many instances requiring constructive criticism as part of your job function. Both the sender and receiver of communications may use feedback for effective interpersonal communication. you must hone your skill in providing constructive criticism. especially for team leaders wherein they have to be mindful of the development of their team members. Feedback is perhaps the best sign that you are communicating with the other person on a more personal level. it will be in the form of a question such as ³Did you understand what I have just said?´ While when used by the receiver. a constructive criticism for you can be misconstrued as a negative feedback. ³What a wonderful speech!´ When making a constructive criticism. To excel in the process of interpersonal communication. be sure to say it only within the earshot of your subject. it can be in the form of a remark or a statement such as. Remember. Constructive Criticism is Important . If used by the sender.
or by reacting only superficially to all messages. and make necessary information easily available. Some information isn't necessary. by responding inaccurately to certain messages. by answering only parts of some messages.Overcoming Communication Barriers in Organizations The following communication barriers in organizations and ways to overcome them- Information Overload. Too much information is as bad as too little because it reduces the audiences ability to concentrate effectively on the most important messages. To overcome information overload. by taking less time with each message. by delaying responses to messages they deem unimportant. and set priorities for dealing with the information flow. realize that some information is not necessary. People facing information overload sometimes try to cope by ignoring some of the messages. Give information meaning rather than just passing it on. .
Thus you must adjust your own ideas and style so that they are acceptable to your employer. . you communicate both as an individual and as representative of an organization. Now you have to write a letter turning down the candidate: You must communicate your firms message. Be sure to ask for feedback so that you can clarify and improve your message. In fact. guide readers by telling them what to expect. keep them clear and easy to understand.Message Complexity. You've interviewed a job candidate you believe would make an excellent employee. but others in the firm have rejected this applicant. Suppose you work as a recruiter for your firm. To overcome the barriers of complex messages. use concrete and specific language. ± When formulating business messages. Use strong organization. a task some communicators find difficult. and stick to the point. regardless of your personal feelings. you may be asked occasionally to write or say something that you disagree with personally.
If you're talking on the phone while scanning a report.Message Competition Communicators are often faced with messages that compete for attention. your messages rarely have the benefit on the receivers undivided attention. both messages are apt to get short shrift. Even your own messages may have to compete with a variety of interruptions: The phone rings every five minutes. be sure to set aside enough time for important messages that you receive. avoid making demands on a receiver who doesn't have the time to pay careful attention to your message. To overcome competition barriers. and try to deliver them when your receiver has time to read them. Business messages rarely have the benefit of the audiences full and undivided attention. Also. Oral messages are most effective when you can speak directly to your receiver (rather than to intermediaries or answering machines). . In short. and crises arise. meetings are called. Make written messages visually appealing and easy to understand. people intrude.
When you have information that you're afraid you boss might not like. and expectations of people who belong to other departments or who are responsible for other tasks. belonging to a particular department or being responsible for a particular task can narrow your point of view so that it differs from the attitudes. To overcome status barriers. higher-status people may distort messages by refusing to discuss anything that would tend to undermine their authority in the organization. Encourage lower-status employees to keep you informed by being fair-minded and respectful of their opinions.Differing Status Employees of low status may be overly cautious when sending messages to managers and may talk only about subjects they think the manager is interested in. Status barriers can be overcome by a willingness to give and receive bad news. Moreover. . values. be brave and convey it anyway. keep managers and colleagues well informed. Similarly.
Other organization members don't know whether you'll respond in a supportive or responsible way. Share key information with colleagues and employees. so trusting can be risky. free and open communication is effectively blocked. however. organizations must create an atmosphere of fairness and trust. Just being clear in your communication is not enough.Lack of Trust Building trust is a difficult problem. be visible and accessible. communicate honestly. To overcome trust barriers. Without trust. and include employees in decision making. . Don't insulate yourself behind assistants or secretaries. threatening the organization's stability. For communication to be successful.
reduce communication capacity. Designing too few formal channels blocks effective communication. and they decrease the tendency to communicate horizontally thus limiting the ability to coordinate activities and decisions. Tall organizations tend to provide too many vertical communication links. Strongly centralized organizations. . so messages become distorted as they move through the organization's levels.Inadequate Communication Structures Organizational communication is effected by formal restrictions on who may communicate with whom and who is authorized to make decisions. especially those with a high degree of formalization.
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