THINGS THAT DESTROY US

(BAD FRIENDS)
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FRIENDS HAVE ACCESS TO OUR EMOTIONS, FEELINGS AND THOUGHTS

WE TALK TO THEM (IN TIMES OF HAPPINESS OR TROUBLES) LAUGH WITH THEM SHARE BREAKING NEWS WITH THEM TAKE ADVICE FROM THEM WHEN MAKING DECISIONS (WE TEST OUR IDEAS AND PLANS ON FRIENDS). TALK ABOUT OUR DREAMS WITH THEM 5/20/12

WHO IS A FRIEND?

A PERSON ATTACHED TO ANOTHER BY FEELINGS OF AFFECTION OR PERSONAL REGARD. A PERSON WHO GIVES ASSISTANCE; PATRON, SUPPORTER. A PERSON YOU KNOW WELL AND REGARD WITH AFFECTION AND TRUST.
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JOHN 15:15
15Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I have heard of my Father I have made known unto you.

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1 CORINTHIANS 15:33
33 Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character.
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21ST CENTURY VERSION

DONT JOKE WITH IT, BAD FRIENDS WILL MESS YOU UP.
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REAL LIFE STORIES

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WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY ABOUT FRIENDS

INTRO: Webster defines a friend as: 1. one who is attached to another by affection, esteem, or respect. one who desires his company one who seeks and promotes his happiness and prosperity and one who is opposed to his foes or enemies. 2. It means to support or aid or favor. 3. But what does the Bible say? I. WHAT IS A FRIEND? THE BIBLE SAYS: PRO 17:17 PRO 27:6 JOB 6:14 PRO 27:4 ECCL 4:9-12 PRO 18:24 FROM THIS WE LEARN: 1. A friend is loyal in his support in both good and bad times. Pro 17:17 2. A friend is faithful even when he must disagree with our position. Pro 27:6 3. A friend is one who feels our pain and expresses pity during times of adversity. Job 6:14 4. A friend is one who lifts the heart and brings encouragement and hope. Pro 27:9 5. A friend is one who makes us stronger. Eccl 4:9-12 6. A friend overcomes our loneliness and always seems to be there when needed. Pro 18:24 II. HOW DO YOU FIND AND KEEP FRIENDS? THE BIBLE SAYS: PRO 18:24 PRO 19:6 AMOS 3:3 PRO 27:10 PRO 25:17; 27:14 PRO 6:1-3; 17:18 PRO 16:28 PRO 17:9 I COR 13:4-7 FROM THIS WE LEARN: 1. To make friends, we must do our part by being friendly. Pro 18:24 2. Generosity attracts people and provides the opportunity to develop friends. Pro 19:6 3. Friends are found with those who we agree with. Amos 3:3 4. We make and keep friends by not abandoning them when they need us. Pro 27:10 5. To keep friends, we must be considerate of their needs. Pro 25:17; 27:14

6. Though generosity is encouraged, over extending ones help can bring great damage to a friendship.

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7. Gossip can separate even the best of friends. Pro 16:28 8. Be careful who you listenespecially when it concerns your friends. Pro 17:9 9. Friends are not jealous, envious, or in competition with each other. I Cor 13:4-7 III. DOES THE BIBLE HAVE EXAMPLES OF GOOD FRIENDS? THE BIBLE SAYS: II CHRON 20:7; ISA 41:8 I SAM 20:30-33; 23:16-17 II SAM 1:26 ACTS 10:24 JN 15:14-15 FROM THIS WE LEARN: 1. Abraham was called the friend of God. II Chron 20:7; Isa 41:8 2. Jonathan was a friend of David. A. He interceded for his friend. I Sam 20:30-33 B. He strengthened David in his faith and assured David that he was with him. I Sam 23:16-17 C. His loyal support brought great inner peace to David. II Sam 1:26 3. Cornelius gathered his friends to hear the Gospel and to be saved. Acts 10:24 4. Jesus is our friend if we seek to live in harmony with Him. Jn 15:14-15 IV. WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY ABOUT THE WRONG KINDS OF FRIENDS? THE BIBLE SAYS: JOB 16:20 II SAM 13:3 PRO 2:10 PRO 22:24-25 AMOS 3:3 II COR 6:14-17 PRO 26:20 FROM THIS WE LEARN: 1. Those who continue to offer wrong council. Job 16:20 2. Those who get you to do wrong things. II Sam 13:3 3. Those who character is devoid of decent things. Pro 2:10 4. Those who are filled with anger and bitterness. Pro 22:24-25 5. Those who lifestyle, goals, and philosophy of life conflict with Christian teachings. Amos 3:3; II Cor 6:14-17 6. Those who seek to separate you from your loved ones. Pro 26:20

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WHO ARE BAD FRIENDS?

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4 THINGS THEY DO TO YOU

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1. THEY INFLUENCE YOU WITH WRONG SUGGESTIONS.

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2. INTRODUCE YOU TO DESTRUCTIVE OR SELFDEFEATING HABITS

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YOU ARE WHERE YOU ARE TODAY BECAUSE OF THE FRIENDS YOU MAKE

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SMALL MINDS DISCUSS PEOPLE, AVERAGE MINDS DISCUSS EVENTS, GREAT MINDS DISCUSS IDEAS

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3. BAD FRIENDS ISOLATE YOU FROM SOURCES OF GOOD COUNSEL.

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4. THEY INFEST YOU WITH THEIR OWN WEAKNESSES

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IF A PERSON YOU KNOW STARTS TO DEVELOP A BAD HABIT, CHECK THE KIND OF PEOPLE HES EXPOSED TO.
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3 SPECIFIC BAD FRIENDS YOU MUST GET RID OF

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1. THE SCORNFUL
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WHAT IS SCORN?
TO TREAT OR REGARD WITH CONTEMPT, DISRESPECT OR DISDAIN. TO MOCK, RIDICULE OR MAKE FUN OF.

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PSALM 1:1
1 Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the

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CHARACTERISTICS OF THE SCORNFUL

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1. THEY MAKE FUN OF THE THINGS OF GOD

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2. THEY USE INTELLIGENCE AND HUMOUR TO DEFEND SIN

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3. THEY GLAMOURISE SIN WITHOUT ANY SHAME.

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4. THEY PRESSURISE YOU TO JOIN THEM IN SIN.

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2. THE ANGRY PERSON

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PROVERBS 22:24-25

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24 Do not make friends with a hottempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, 25 or you may learn their ways

CHARACTERISTICS OF AN ANGRY PERSON

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1. THEY HAVE A PROBLEM WITH EVERYONE

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2. THEY ARE ALWAYS BITTER, UNFORGIVING AND VENGEFUL.

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3. THEY CREATE A SIEGE MENTALITY WITHIN YOU.

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4. THEY CONTROL YOU THROUGH UNJUSTIFIED ANGER

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3. THE BACKSTABBE R
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12 If an enemy were insulting me, I could endure it; if a foe were rising against me, I could hide. 13 But it is you, a man like myself, my companion, my close friend, 14 with whom I once enjoyed sweet fellowship at the house of God, as we walked about among the worshipers. 15 5/20/12 Let death take my enemies by

PSALM 55:12-15

PSALM 55: 20-21

20 My companion attacks his friends; he violates his covenant. 21 His talk is smooth as butter, yet war is in his heart; his words are more soothing than oil, yet they are drawn swords.
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PSALM 35:1415

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14 I went about mourning as though for my friend or brother. I bowed my head in grief as though weeping for my mother. 15 But when I stumbled, they gathered in glee; assailants gathered against me without my

PSALM 41:7-9

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7 All my enemies whisper together against me; they imagine the worst for me, saying, 8 A vile disease has afflicted him; he will never get up from the place where he lies. 9 Even my close friend, someone I trusted, one who shared my

GOD, PROTECT ME FROM MY FRIENDS, AS FOR MY ENEMIES I CAN TAKE CARE OF THEM.

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CHARACTERISTICS OF A BACKSTABBER

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1. THEY OFFER FRIENDSHIP BUT PRACTISE HYPOCRISY

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2. THEY TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOUR LOVE AND GENEROSITY WITHOUT GIVING BACK ANYTHING

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3. THEY CANNOT STAND YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS IN LIFE.

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4. THEY BETRAY YOU FOR PERSONAL ADVANTAGES

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HOW TO CHOOSE GOOD FRIENDS

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PROVERBS 12:26
26 The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.
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PROTOCOL FOR FRIENDSHIP

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SELECT YOUR FRIENDS. Only after passing the matriculation of experience and the examination of fortune will they be graduates not alone in affection but in discernment. Though this is the most important thing in life, it is the one least cared for. Intelligence brings friends to some, chance to most. Yet a man is judged by his friends, for there was never agreement between wise men and fools. At the same time, to find pleasure in a man's society is no proof of near friendship : it may come from the pleasantness of his company more than from trust in his capacity. There are some friendships legitimate, others illicit ; the latter for pleasure, the former for their fecundity of ideas and motives. Few are the friends of a man's self, most those of his circumstances. The insight of a true friend is more useful than the goodwill of others : therefore gain them by choice, not by chance. A wise friend wards off worries, a foolish one brings them about. BALTASAR GRACIAN 5/20/12

LEVELS OF FRIENDSHIP
NEIGHBOUR ACQUAINTANCE MATE/COLLEAGUE FRIEND CLOSE FRIEND MARRIAGE

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Jesus feeds the 5000.- Luke 9:10-17

FOLLOW THE EXAMPLE OF OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST

Jesus sends out the 72 apostles.-Luke 10:1-24 Jesus chooses the 12 disciples.- Luke 6:12-16 Jesus sends 3 disciples (Peter, James and John) to the mountain to pray.Matthew 17:1-13
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Jesus favourite disciple was John.-John

DO NOT MAKE MISTAKES ABOUT CHARACTER.

That is the worst and yet easiest error. Better be cheated in the price than in the quality of goods. In dealing with men, more than with other things, it is necessary to look within. To know men is different from knowing things. It is profound philosophy to sound the depths of feeling and distinguish traits of character. Men must be studied 5/20/12 as

5 THINGS TO ASK YOURSELF BEFORE MAKING A FRIEND

ARE THEY COMMITED TO A GODLY LIFE? DO YOU ADMIRE AND RESPECT EACH OTHER? DO YOU HELP EACH OTHER TO BECOME BETTER? ARE YOU THERE FOR EACH OTHER IN TIMES OF DIFFICULTIES? DO YOU CELEBRATE EACH OTHERS ACHIEVEMENTS?

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PROVERBS 17:17
17 A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

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PROVERBS 18:24
24A man of many companions may come to ruin, but(A)there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

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MAKE USE OF YOUR FRIENDS. This requires all the art of discretion. Some are good afar off, some when near. Many are no good at conversation but excellent as correspondents, for distance removes some failings which are unbearable in close proximity to them. Friends are for use even more than for pleasure, for they have the three qualities of the Good, or, as some say, of Being in general : unity, goodness, and truth. For a friend is all in all. Few are worthy to be good friends, and even these become fewer because men do not know how to pick them out. To keep is more important than to make friends. Select those that will wear well ; if they are new at first, it is some consolation they will become old. Absolutely the best are those well salted, though they may require soaking in the testing. There is no desert like living without friends. Friendship multiplies the good of life and divides the evil. Tis the sole remedy against misfortune, the very ventilation of the soul. 5/20/12

MATTHEW 26:6-12

JESUS ANOINTED AT BETHANY

6 While Jesus was in Bethany in the home of Simon the Leper, 7 a woman came to him with an alabaster jar of very expensive perfume, which she poured on his head as he was reclining at the table. 8 When the disciples saw this, they were indignant. Why this waste? they asked. 9 This perfume could have been sold at a high price and the money given to the poor. 10 Aware of this, Jesus said to them, Why are you bothering this woman? She has done a beautiful thing to me. 11 The poor you will always have with you,[a] but you will not always have me. 12 When she poured this perfume on my body, she did it to prepare me for burial. 13 Truly I tell you, wherever this gospel is preached throughout the world, what she has done will also be told, in memory of her.

JUDAS AGREES TO BETRAY JESUS

14 Then one of the Twelvethe one called Judas Iscariot went to the chief priests 15 and asked, What are you willing to give me if I deliver him over to you? So they 5/20/12 counted out for him thirty pieces of silver. 16 From then

THE FARMER AND THE STORK (YOU'LL BE TREATED ACCORDING TO THE COMPANY YOU KEEP) A farmer set traps to catch cranes, which were pests and were eating his crops. Inspecting the traps he found a number of cranes, and also a stork, which pleaded to be let go, because storks are not pests and do not take the crops. But the farmer refused, saying, "I don't care who you are - you're with the cranes who ruin my crops and so you'll suffer 5/20/12

IF SOMEONE DOES NOT FIT TO BE YOUR FRIEND START THE PROCESS OF DISENGAGEMENT.

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DONT JOKE WITH IT, BAD FRIENDS WILL MESS YOU UP!!!.
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PRAYER TOPICS
PRAY TO GOD TO HELP YOU BE A GOOD FRIEND. vPRAY TO GOD TO HELP YOU MAKE GOOD FRIENDS.
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