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Once upon a time, there were three little pigs. I know this story very well. Because when I was a kid, there were no Plants vs. Zombies and Angry Birds. We had no iPad or iPod or iPhoneso to occupy our time we had fairy tales. The three little pigs left their town in search of their fortunes. Before they left, they bid farewell from their respective mothers. And all three mothers said to their boys, calling them endearing names. One mother said, Little Lechon, always put a towel on your back when you perspire. The second mother said, LittleLiempo, always drink your vitamins. And the third mother said, Little Longganisa, always read your Bible. The three little pigs bought their plane tickets online, rode their budget airline, and when they landed, they texted their mothers, Landed. Mwah. They liked the town they were in and decided to build their respective homes there. The first little pig wanted things quickly and easily. He built his house made of straw. In no time, it was built, and he went inside, sat on a chair, and played Temple Run in his iPad. The second pig built his house made of sticks. It took him a little bit longer, but it was still easy and quick, and he too went inside his house to playScrabble online with his friends from Canada. The third pig took the longest time and the most effort, because he wanted something that would last for a long time. So he built his house made of stones. While the other two pigs were already snoring inside their homes, sleeping under their cozy blankets, the third pig was still sweating outside, working on his house night and day, carefully and slowly building his stone house, one brick at a time. Finally, when it was finished, the little pig went inside, knelt down to say his night prayer, and collapsed in bed to sleep.
But the wolves stomachs were so massive, they still had room for more. That was when they saw a stone house, and when they peeked through the window, they saw a little pig sleeping insideand they said, Longganisa! They knocked on the door of the stone house and said, Little pig, little pig, let us in! The pig answered, No, no, no, not by the Name of the King of kings! He then prayed Psalm 91 and Psalm 23. He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High and abides in the shade of the Almighty, says to the Lord, my refuge, my stronghold, my God in whom I trust. Though I walk through the valley of darkness, I fear no evil for God is with me. The wolves answered, Then well huff and well puff and blow your house down! And the wolves blew, and blew, and blewand after blowing for 20 minutes straightnothing happened. The stone house was like a rock, standing solid as ever. Suddenly, in their extreme exhaustion, the two wolves had an asthma attacktheir heart gave wayand both of them dropped dead on the spot. And the third pig stepped out of his stone house and sang, I can do all things through Christ, I can move the mountains if you are the strength of my life. And that day, the little pig had wolf steaks for dinner.
white dwarf star and finally into a black dwarf star. (Its creepy. I sometimes feel my kids are more intelligent than me now.) Everything comes to an end, except for one thing. The Bible says that anything built on Gods Word will last forever. But not just listening, or reading, or memorizing the Word but obeying the Word. Jesus said, But anyone who hears my teaching and doesnt obey it is foolish, like a person who builds a house on sand. When the rains and floods come and the winds beat against that house, it will collapse with a mighty crash. (Matthew 7:24-27) Today, Ill teach you how to build your relationships that will last forever (all the way to Heaven). Ill teach you how to build your relationships on rock. Imagine ALL your relationships (your marriage, or your parent-child relationship, or your sibling-to-sibling relationship, or your friendships) built on rock. That rock is none other than Jesus. Heres my big message for you today: Enduring relationships are built on enduring values. If you want your relationships to flourish, your relationships have to be built on timeless, eternal, old fashioned values. Just like in the story of the Three Little Pigs above, relationships are like houses. Some are weak and some are strong. Some collapse quickly and some stand forever. What kind of relationships do you have? There are three types of relationships. (More on this later.) But before that, let me first explain two wolves that can eat up your relationships. The two wolves are Temptation and Trial.
Bottomline, relationships are destroyed by sin. Sins such as selfishness, greed, temper, envy, jealousy, lying, stealing, hatred, unforgiveness, lust Think about it. Relationships flourish ONLY when its built on the enduring, eternal, timeless, and old-fashioned values such as trust, selflessness, patience, loyalty, humility, honesty, forgiveness When I was twenty-five years old, my father told me something Ill never forget. He said, In all my married life, Ive remained faithful to your mother. Once, there was this woman in the office who liked me a lot, and she told me that I could do whatever I wanted to do with her. But I turned her down. Today, Im so happy that Ive never cheated on your mother. When you get married, I want you to be faithful to your wife forever. His words are etched deeply in my heart. Not only his words, but his example. Before my father went to Heaven, Mom and Dad celebrated 62 years of happy marriage. Today, Im married and I have two boys. And I want to have the same personal integrity my father had. I too want to have the credibility to tell my sons, Ive always been faithful to your mother. In all my married life, Ive never cheated on her. And I want you to do the same And even if you have failed in the pastGod forgives you. Bring your sins to God. And youll be able to start afresh. Youll be able to rebuild your integrity. The Bible says that as far as the east is from the west, so far does God take your sins away from you. So dont let your past define your future. In the eyes of God, youre a new person now. Heres what I found helpful: When Im faced with sexual temptation, I imagine my two small boys standing behind me. (Yikes!) All of a sudden, the sexual temptation doesnt look very appealing anymore. Because in truth, my children are always watching me. They may not be there physically, but spiritually,
theyre watching. Whatever I do, no matter how secret, will affect them. The umbilical cord was cut at birth, but the spiritual cord between parent and child will never be cut. Have you noticed? Your kids wont do what you tell them to do. Your kids will do what they see you do. All relationships are built on trust. It doesnt matter if the relationship is a marriage or a parent-child relationship or a friendship or an entrepreneur-customer relationship. If youre not trustworthy, if you have no integrity, there can be NO relationship. Heres the second wolf
how much the electric bill the restaurant is paying you can be sure,theyre married. Why? Because of the wolf of trials. Its easy for unmarried couples to stay sweet. Theyre not yet burdened by the daily problems of monthly bills, demanding kids, and pesky in-laws.
Your personality is so appealing, thats why I like being with you I like hanging out with you because I feel alive when Im with you I love you because you complete me
In other words, I like you because youre so likable. The straw house in the story above symbolizes relationships that are based on charm. Theyre based on attraction. But from experience, these relationships wont last. Three reasons
This is the same as having fans. People ask me all the time, Do you get affected by all the attention you get? Youre like a celebrity! Youre got thousands of fans. My answer: Id rather have one friend than a thousand fans. Fans are fickle. They come and they go. Because fans dont love me. They love an image of me in their minds. Once I do something that doesnt agree with that image, they leave. Heres the second type of relationship
Next time someone tells you, I love you, ask why. If he says because youre lovable youll feel flattered. Same thing if you hear these words, I love you because youre so kind, so generous I love you because youre such a wonderful person But heres a fact of life: You wont be lovable and wonderful 24 hours a day. Will that person still love you during your off days? Its not very flattering, but Id rather hear these words I love you because Im a loving person. Thats just who I am. I will always love you no matter what happens. Friend, thats Gods message to you. God loves you not based on charm, or on convenience, but on His character. Gods Love is an eternal love. Its not based on what you did or what you do. If it was, wed be in big trouble.
The Cross
I read a beautiful article by Jenn Giroux. She said that in the small town of Siroki-Brijeg in Croatia (Population: 13,000 people), not one single divorce has been recorded. Why? Personally, I believe its because the old fashioned values are still part of their life and culture. And a powerful expression of these old fashioned values is a beautiful twist in their wedding ritual. (If youre wedding is near, read carefully. You may want to include this for your wedding rites.) In our present wedding ceremony, the priest says at the end of the rites, You may kiss the bride. But in the town of SirokiBrijeg, the priest says, You may kiss the cross. And both of them kiss Jesus in a crucifix. Let me backtrack a bit to the start of the ceremony.
When the bride and groom enter the church, they already carry a crucifix. The first thing the priest does is to bless it. And as the man and the woman say their vows, they are holding on the crosswith the priests stole draped on top of their hands (Note: the stole is the long piece of cloth around the priests neck) After the vows are said, they wont kiss each other. They will kiss the cross. The newly wed couple will then bring home the crucifix and set it on the family altar. Around it, they will establish daily family prayer. That daily family prayer says that Jesus is the center of their family life. When they are blessed, they sing their gratitude around Jesus. When they are in trouble, they kneel at the foot of the cross. When they are fighting, they look at His kindness, His forgiveness, and His selflessness as an example of what they should do. When you marry someone, youre not looking for an ideal partner. Youre looking for a cross. Yes, my wife is my cross. Because loving her isnt convenient. If I wanted to remain comfortable, I should have remained single. But I dont want to remain comfortable. I want to remain committed. Yes, my wife is my cross. My beautiful, lovely, glorious cross. Because she has brought me closer to God and enlarged my capacity to love.
Eternal Love
I heard a preacher share this important insight Imagine if you went to a fortune teller. (Obviously, I dont approve of this, but ride along with my imagination.) After reading your palm, the fortune-teller said, Tsk, tsk, tsk. 24 years from now, when your spouse is 63 years old, he would do something terrible against you
So you go home very angry. Imagine your husband coming home at the end of his workday. He enters the house in a good mood and says, Hi Sweetheart! And you say, I hate you. Get out of my house, you creep! Hes taken aback. Whats gotten into you? What have I done? You tell him, 24 years from now, youll do something terrible! What? How do you know? A fortune teller told me! Heres my point. If we knew that people would do bad things against us tomorrow, wed treat them in a different way today. Flash News: God knows the future like the back of His hand. He knows every sin youll commit for the rest of your life. But He still loves you today! God doesnt tell you, Thirty-eight years from now, when you hit 68, youll blow it. Youll fail me. Get out of here! God isnt like that. He knows the failures youll be doing in the futurebut He has decided to love you. I thank God that His love doesnt depend on what we do, past, present, or future. His love doesnt depend on your character but on His character. Because God IS Love. Hes decided to love you. Hes committed. His love for you will never change.