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spirituality - lesson 19: how to read a personlike a book
 it's funny, we see faces around us everyday, we deal with expressions and bodymovements more than we speak, and yet few of us could say that we have afinely tuned awareness of this non-verbal communication.
miscommunication
 most of the time we listen to someone with the intent to reply or impress rather than to understand. our minds do not have the capacity to do both, therefore thebest thing to do is forget about concocting clever remarks and instead justlistening properly. you will learn much more this way, and retain that knowledgefor longer.there is also an unfortunate natural ability for the brain to override subtle signalsfor meanings thatsuit preconceived judgements. a desired outcome will mask a real indicator distorting the perceptionof someone we are trying to communicate with.
the face
 easily the least controversial of all the areas of nonverbal communication is facialexpression, as it is the most readily observed group of gestures. we focus our eyes on the face more often than on other bodyparts and the expressions we seethere have widely accepted meanings. the face provides us with the opportunityto identify individuals before words have been spoken and a canvas to expressdifferent emotions every second. when in conversation with someone we arecontinually decoding the messages that are being transmitted subconsciously tous.
there are five basic smiles
 
the ‘how
-do-you-
do smile’; the ‘nonsense smile’ usually occurs when somebodyis by himself and happy; the ‘broad smile’... smiles
should not always be
associated with happy moments, there is the ‘lip
-
in smile’ (where the lower lip is
drawn in between the teeth.) it implies that the person feels in some way
subordinate to the person she is meeting. and beware of the ‘oblong smile’! a
smile that we use when we have to be polite. we girls use it also when we get toomuch attention from a drunk... no smile at all - any poker player clearly
understands what you mean when you say that he has ‘a poker face’.
 
 
the audience nobody wants. the speaker is leaning forward, actively trying to get his message across. crossed arms, clasped hands, crossed legs, only the listener on the right shows a little interest, indicated by his slightly tilted head. the speaker, aware of their indifference or hostility, clasps his hands apprehensively.
 
the bore and his victim. with hands clasped behind his head and legs crossedin an competitive position, the persn on the left is telling his unhappy companion what great things he has done or is about to do. on the other hand the person on the right is feeling that he has heard all of this before and would rather be somewhere else.
 
sitting around a conference table... these people are unhappy, angry and defensive. in what is this communicated to you? the cross-arm-gripping position,...
 
 
these people are contented, confident, smug 
 
both men are placed with their bodies silhouetted to each other. a peering glance over the rims of the eyeglasses and the hand thrust in the pocket suggest suspicion. the men on the left signals nervousness. he might be upset by what he 
has said and by the other man’s reaction
- he is putting a hand over his mouth and the other hand is feeling the material of his jacket in a reassurance gesture.remember linus and his blanket? in this kind of situation, woman usually want to feel if their necklace is still there...

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